Hmmmmm.........
ADVICE NEEDED
I live with my boyfriend and our son lives with us.
I am so upset that he told his sister in confidence to avoid getting close to me as that will put him under pressure to marry me. Please advise.
You still want him to marry you? how? you already live with him and behave like a wife and already has a child for him....He will not marry you at all....Do you people abroad? Cos that the behaviour abroad......
Please move out and find your own accommodation..Stop giving him wife services free of charge.
Imagine the nonsense he told his sister.....ARE YOU DESPERATE TO MARRY?......My bad advice is that you stay and continue enjoying the nacking,after all nothing dey for streets abi? or move out!!
Advise as how na? The fact you have a kid together does not mean he should (or will) marry you. I mean you heard what he told his sister, and you still wan chook head.
ReplyDeleteWhat silly advice again,he just told you and his family,he won't marry you, leave naw,Na by force..
DeleteYou can't trap men with pregnancy.
DeletePerson dey try let you know say he no want marry you, probably because he has someone else he wants to marry and you dont want to understand. Sis, he only wants you as his baby mama. Kindly move on but don't move on empty handed o. The remaining days you have in that relationship use it and cash out
ReplyDeleteHe necessarily may not have someone else to marry.. no be everybody wan marry for this life o.. if I had the opportunity to come again, I no go marry o.. it’s too stressful and selfish
DeleteYou are cohabiting with a boyfriend who is not yet ready for commitment and you are still there, are you ready for the possible consequences? It looks like you might be experiencing some of the anticipated outcomes already. The see finish just dey start o. Perhaps it's best to explore alternative living arrangements until he is willing to formalize your relationship.
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ReplyDeleteIt doesn't seem like you are in his plans or maybe he will drag things for as long as he wants.
ReplyDeleteMove out, please. Don't let anyone waste your time and your youth. You deserve better. Who knows? This might make him do the needful or your eyes will finally open to see things clearly.
The hand writing is on the wall, he won't marry you. Let him go. It won't be easy but it's what it's.
ReplyDeleteThe hand writing is on the wall, he won't marry you. Let him go. It won't be easy but it's what it's.
ReplyDelete“Forget his sister, your boyfriend is the problem. A man who warns people not to get close to you so he won’t feel ‘pressure’ to marry you has already decided you’re not wife material to him. He’s comfortable playing house with you and your child, but not man enough to commit.
ReplyDeleteThe real issue is you staying and hoping he’ll change. He won’t. "You’re convenient, not a priority", simple!.
If marriage matters to you, stop acting like a placeholder. Set your standard and be ready to walk if he can’t meet it, otherwise, you’re just helping him waste your time.”
He will not marry you!! Una no dey hear word!! Shame no dey catch you??
ReplyDeleteMy younger bro was cohabiting with one girl, their relationship have been on and off for more than 5 years, I called and asked him if he will marry her, he said no , I told him to stop him stringing her along and wasting her time, he no hear!! I have been to his house a couple of times but I don't meet her, I wanted to advice her myself to dump him and give someone else a chance cuz he didn't want o marry her, the last time I went there they had broken up, I got her number from my younger, if I hear that they back together, I will call her and tell her everything he told me so she can keep it moving!!!
It is very obvious he's not into you. Just move out and start your life afresh. Although it might be difficult at first but you'll surely sail through the hurdles. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteSee as Man wey dem born for dey do rubbish now.If woman do her own now una go say she wicked...as if it is only men have have monopoly of wickedness.
ReplyDeleteI think the man believes that since he is already enjoying all the privileges of marriage free of charge; he doesn't need to waste his money and energy to plan for a marriage again. Maybe he has asked himself what new thing would marriage bring to me sef? People are probably already addressing you both as husband and wife.
ReplyDeletePlease leave his place. Give him some space, so that he would miss you and come and marry you properly if he really wants you to stay with him.
Best wishes.
The fact that he told the aunt of the child not to get close to you is very disheartening. The child deserves the love and connection of his family, which tells me he doesn’t value any of you even his child that his own body helped to create.
ReplyDeleteIf living together is economically beneficial at this time then continue to do so. Save as much as you can, create your nest egg cause he is a man with a plan for his future and right now it doesn’t seem as though you or your child will be part of his future. Do not get caught off guard. Stock and pile. Whatever you do please do not get pregnant again, insist on condoms and you also use a backup like spermicide with the condoms or some other method. Times are too hard to have multiple children with a man who doesn’t have a plan for you in his future. Pray and seek wisdom.
Poster if you can don't waste a day longer. LEAVE! Do everything to leave. Don't wait for anything just GO! You will cry, feel depressed etc but continue living and work on yourself. All will be well. It is better to be with someone who appreciates you and sees your value. It is better to be alone than in such a mess. Please value yourself and your kid.
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