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GIRLFRIEND WHO SOWS EVERYTHING TO THE CHURCH
She's heavily into church things to my discomfort, she's into all these pastor -daughter relationship.
I've been noticing it but this recent one put me off....
She sowed her laptop to the Church one time and came back to tell me to help her to use mine to complete her task.
This is a secretary for that matter o. And she constantly needs that laptop to meet up with work deadlines.
I asked what happened to the laptop, and she said everyone was sowing a seed and she had nothing to give except the laptop.
Omo, I first shock.
This is the same person that is paying tithe o even more than the normal 10%. Almost half of her salary is even given to the church every month. I have complained and gotten tired with no results.
It is still after my usual complaints she sowed her laptop.
I just got transferred to a new location and as I relocate from here, I plan to end the relationship from there.
Make one woman no go use my house sow seed before I return home. I'm just tired or any other ways out?
Some people can overdo this Church thing sometimes......
If you no longer feel comfortable with the relationship cos of what you outlined then move on.....My bad advice to you is that there is No need to even tell her anything sef, just go and send her whatsapp message that you cannot cope with how fanatical she is.......
Both of you are unequally yoked. Una two don turn unbelievers even if both of you are christians. If sex isn't what is tying both of you together, I wonder what you guys are doing. The relationship is long over due for a break up. Both of you are not on the same plane spiritually. Doctrinal compatibility is such a thing aside deep voice and big bum bum.
ReplyDeleteYou ended up saying nothing. Tueh. Bitter person
DeleteBitter person ke? Don't worry. If love is blind, marriage will open your eyes. All the signs are clear that both of them are not compatible but you still want them to go on because your head is just for carrying load. Like I said, Don't worry.
DeleteNa now I read your comment. It isn't about being fanatical. Both of them are worlds apart. Deeper life and christ embassy sort of. While one believes in speaking in tongues, the other sees wearing trouser as a sin. Na wetin dey play out here.
ReplyDeleteYou wrote your comment before reading the chronicle, hiaaaaa. Nothing way aboki no go see for gate.
Delete🤣🤣🤣 ikegwuru 😅😅
DeleteNawao. So it is everything we have to explain? Did you not check that the time frame between my first comment and this you are responding to is 4 minutes? Why are you suprised? I read the chronicle (what the guy sent in); then place a comment first before reading the red pen. I do this every time even on Facebook or IG. I will place my comment before seeing what anyone else has to say. I nor dey do copy and paste.
DeleteAre you sure this your reply is for this particular chronicle, because it has nothing to do with the write up
DeleteLet her know how you feel once again before you finally do what you want. Hnmmm
ReplyDeleteThese thing dey happen and it's not jazz. My brother's wife kept giving her all in all to her pastor until one day the pastor suspended her over a minor misunderstanding. She left the church and joined another church only to continue from where she stopped. She gave and gave and gave ... One time she bought a pregnant goat that she wanted to rear, only to wake up one day and untie her goat to go and give guest pastor in her church, who had come from Abuja🤦🏻♀️. She kept saying that for the man to buy that size of goat in Abuja would be too expensive, but here in our town goats are cheap blah blah blah. She changed her children's school and that was how the children saw the "guest pastor" in a house near their school and when they asked, people said guest pastor is the owner of the house. Mumu people. My brother run for ya life abeg
ReplyDeleteNo, not mumu. Some ppl are vulnerable to suggestions and religion intensifies this. They become obsessive and irrational, but it is because of their inner wiring and far too often the religious leaders exploit this instead of calling the person to order. This is why Jesus hated religion as an industry and balked against it, he saw how it entrapped folks and cause them to worship falsely.
DeleteHehehe, Mammi Stella take am easy nah you even give him strategies to follow 😅
ReplyDeleteOya brother poster follow the red pen,after all you have tried your best but it's not enough🙄
Mammi stella …how does it sound to you?
DeleteNa ya name i called,jee zuoo ike biko Amebo 🙂
DeleteThat your girl is fuxking those pastors.
ReplyDeleteDon't even tell her you are breaking up from her. Just disappear and ghost her. Block her from reaching you.
Her type never change.
This is just sign. You will see wonders if you marry her.
Pls don't say what you don't know. The Bible says do not bear false witness. You haven't seen so don't say that.
DeleteAlot of church people think they can buy God with their giving. It doesn't work like that. And some pastors too because of ignorance make their members give with a wrong motive.
While some pastors deliberately manipulate their members to give and sow endlessly.
You have to know God for yourself and know when to give.
This giving is foolish and from a manipulation. Your babe will have to sit down and talk to herself. There must a reason why you sow seed and the motive or intension has to be right not because you want to twist the hand of the Lord.
Giving her laptop was wrong if I may say, but what do I know. You need to talk and make her know why you are breaking up with her. You are helping her by doing that. Whether she knows or not. You would have done your part.
Mental reset is what she needs. Tell her to change her church to a church where they concerns mostly on teachings instead of miracle because this is what happens to those who attended miracle center churches. If the pastor doesn't perform miracles or see vision she will never be moved to sow in this height.
ReplyDelete*where they consentrate mostly on teachings...*
DeleteBetter run..
ReplyDeleteThis is not even funny at all..
She's not serious at all
She will sow their house rent mad people
ReplyDeletePoster follow your heart because she will not stop. She is set in her ways.
ReplyDeleteI honestly believe that the sowing of seed thing is a mind control strategy. The only seed a person needs to sow is to believe and live uprightly. Religion does cause a small percentage of ppl to develop mental health problems and irrational behaviour, and this is across every religion. We also cannot forget that most cult leaders started out in legitimate religious denominations. Balance is required in all things and everyone has to test their state of mind from time to time no matter what they believe. If you care for her, then it is wise to speak with her first about your concerns and see where her mind is at. Love does not up and die because a challenge comes up in life. Do speak with her about your concerns because sometimes folks realize too late that they are no longer mentally stable in their beliefs, do this from a place of love not judgment. Organized religion is NOT for everyone depending on how their brain is wired, and if they must be a part of it, then moderation is key.
ReplyDeleteAs a believer in living in the Christ consciousness, I take periodic breaks from the church environment, not God, from the environment. Christ did this as well. While I appreciate the community, I also know that I do not want to worship religion or the leaders, so for me breaks work well.
This one choke, I hate religion fanatics, but wait, all these pastors that are always shouting sow a seed, do they know that some people sow their last thing and penny as a seed and it might later affect them?
ReplyDeleteOga, I support your motion, please leave her and don't ever look back, she has been brainwashed and will never change, don't ever marry her.
God forbid, your enemy might be in a hospital and need life threatening surgery, she can carry the money intended for the surgery to sow a seed, then she will be waiting on miracle for your enemy to be healed, and worst thing is that if the pastor later learn about it, he will never release the money, he too will be fasting and praying for miracles to happen.
Pentecostal churches be ruining lives since 1800.
ReplyDeleteWhy will she use her source of livelihood to sow sead? Now you're planning to relocate, how can she finish her task?
ReplyDeleteKindly drop that woman like a hot pot of oil. She'll ruin you and both of you would end up with nothing. She's gonna definitely send you to the village
ReplyDeleteMy brother, run without looking back. I don't like talking about people like her but you see, she can't/ won't change till she 'jam agbako' in her dealings with the charlatans she's sowing seeds to. You don't want to be in that mix i tell you.
ReplyDeleteNa signs be this. Wonders dey wait you for front.
ReplyDeleteSeriously speaking though, i suggest you have a long talk with her. Tell her you may end the relationship if she continues with her ways. If she does continue, then you will know you have not offended anyone when you choose to do your mind.
Tell her she’s not being submissive
ReplyDeleteUse scripture to get her to change if you like her
People like her can only be stopped if they believe it’s not Gods will
So tell her a submissive wife will not go against her husband and as you’re planninh to marry her is this how she will be disobeying you
Some people are naturally wired to give more than others. So in some cases, it’s not really about church; it’s just that certain teachings can amplify an already generous nature.
ReplyDeleteMy wife, for example, is like that. She gives freely, even when she has little or nothing left. Over time, I have come to see that this is simply who she is. I have had several conversations with her about it, but it has now gotten to the point where she sometimes gives in secret, and I end up carrying the financial burden.
I am also a giving person, but I believe in doing so with caution and wisdom.
At the end of the day, this comes down to compatibility. If one partner is naturally inclined to give freely and the other is more measured, it can create tension in a relationship. Without alignment, it may lead to ongoing conflict. In such cases, it’s worth seriously considering whether both people are truly compatible long-term, as differences like this can significantly affect a marriage.
Broh your gf can never change.. relocate and end it.
ReplyDeleteInform her of why you are ending the relationship. Don't use WhatsApp message that is unfair and cruel.
ReplyDeleteYou can ghost her or inform her of your break up with her. Let her marry one of her seed receivers.
ReplyDeleteGood luck to whatever decision you take.
That was how a younger brother of an acquaintance sow the only vehicle their late dad left behind to all this daddy GO churches. The mum cried bitterly.
I didn't even bother to find out the outcome because the girl in question is also a fanatic .
She's a fanatic. Let her go
ReplyDeletePastors are quick to cite the widow of zarephath as example .
ReplyDeleteGrowing up, money was tight. But we had food. I grew up watching my mom show the delicious food we had her pastor almost every Saturday while we scrap the bottom pots and drink plenty water so that our bellies will be full.
As a growing child, I watched with holy anger how the pastors children were blooming like morning flowers and fattening like new brides. While we were as thin as Ukazi stick.
I swore...never again!!
Now when pastors jam me, they say I'm too stingy. In my mind , I'm like but I've paid offering naa.
Religious Manipulations shall not rise again!
I bet your mother was an amazing cook too. If they know the food is good they will always show up.
DeleteHello Poster,
ReplyDeleteYou’re not just reacting to her giving; you’re reacting to what it represents in the overall picture of your relationship - poor judgement, blurred priorities, and a future you don’t trust.
It helps to separate things. Faith itself isn’t the issue. The problem lies in how it’s accepted and practised and who shapes it. In that space, persuasion is subtle and powerful, especially in spaces of vulnerability where people are dealing with instability, pressure, unseen enemies, and limited safety nets. It can push belief ahead of basic responsibility.
Your girlfriend isn’t being careless in her mind. Or acting impulsively. She believes sacrifice brings favour. That belief is strong enough to override practical needs, even her work. Where you see risk, she sees submission and obedience.
Your error is avoidance. You’ve complained, but you haven’t drawn a firm line. Be clear. Tell her exactly what this means for you - that her choices undermine the future stability you want for a home and you can’t build on that with her. Ask where she sets limits.
Then decide from her answer. If you leave, do it directly. Silence is the easiest way to avoid conflict, but it doesn’t show character - healthy communication does.
Ebony, where have you been? I hope whatever mission took you away was fruitful.
DeleteShow this post to her or send her the link.
ReplyDeleteMaybe after reading through the comments her brain would reset.