INDECISIVE ABOUT NEW MAN
Guys abeg
One doctor I rejected his advance is coming back
He wants us to be just friends
I remember this now because kissing was a problem I couldn’t kiss him and I couldn’t have anything other than platonic with him
He is been on my case for 4-5 years
Advise me
He is coming next week
I’m still not attracted to him but he extends structure my way
Not money like that because I run three businesses and I’m not in lack but he brings that masculine draft into my non masculine life
I’m separated though
He wants to be around till old age ( Upeh)
I have no interest in any relationship that’s sxxual for any reason
Married right off school married for 21 years two kids met him at 18
For the first time I have freedom
I don’t want any inhibitions
Is it possible I’m missing a good man or should I ignore and focus on my life
I want to travel and have fun.
Ladies please step forward and guide your girl
Because if I put hand inside this thing
This man go wan hold person down
Guys you fit put mouth but abeg no bash me
I never Gbensh since, I no bi bad person, I no Dey do anything bad
I just wan peace...
He wants us to be just friends
I remember this now because kissing was a problem I couldn’t kiss him and I couldn’t have anything other than platonic with him
He is been on my case for 4-5 years
Advise me
He is coming next week
I’m still not attracted to him but he extends structure my way
Not money like that because I run three businesses and I’m not in lack but he brings that masculine draft into my non masculine life
I’m separated though
He wants to be around till old age ( Upeh)
I have no interest in any relationship that’s sxxual for any reason
Married right off school married for 21 years two kids met him at 18
For the first time I have freedom
I don’t want any inhibitions
Is it possible I’m missing a good man or should I ignore and focus on my life
I want to travel and have fun.
Ladies please step forward and guide your girl
Because if I put hand inside this thing
This man go wan hold person down
Guys you fit put mouth but abeg no bash me
I never Gbensh since, I no bi bad person, I no Dey do anything bad
I just wan peace...
If you start what you cant finish or dont want, it might not be good....If you are not interested, please dont start cause he will definitely tie you down and you want to be free and travel according to you....
Make i give you bad advice?LMAO!!!.............Since you never gbensh since, test the waters naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa *WINK*
Stay on your lane. You've been there done that.
ReplyDeleteSo let's see what we have here.
ReplyDeleteFirst marriage didn't really work out and the poster wants to enjoy her freedom and doesn't want anything complicated for now. With grown kids, that's a commendable decision.
Since the doctor provides some form of "structure", whatever the poster means by that, I think she can entertain the doctors advances while at the same time letting him know she doesn't want to rush anything for now. I think that's only fair.
Don't listen to the second part of Stella's red pen. Sxx will blind and affect your judgement. But if you want to have a fling, why not?
You have peace and stability in your life already. What will getting into a relationship or marriage add to you that you do not already have? If companionship, spiritual connectedness, financial stability, and joy are things you already feel within your being then marriage may not be beneficial to you, it may even slow you down, as you will now have to conform your life to someone else’s. Perhaps these are the things you need to let him know, so he doesn’t waste another 4-5 years of his life knocking on a locked door. May God guide you in wisdom.
ReplyDeleteYou can keep him as a friend and see how far it goes. Since you mentioned you like the masculine presence.
ReplyDeleteBut let him know your thoughts. So that he will know you ain't offering more than friendship .
Btw opposite genders can be good friends without strings attached
Poster no. I was in a situation like this and ended up agreeing, but right now it's the biggest mistake of my life.
ReplyDeleteYou are not greedy, but it appears so. You know that type of greed - You forbid a type of meat but you use your teeth to divide it for your two best friends because you like the soup the meat was cooked in. Then you lick your lips.
ReplyDeleteThere is a way you tell a man No. And he stops. There is away you tell a man No. And he pursues harder especially when you use his structure and man presence for whatever you are using it for. It is your use of the man that makes it appear you are a GREEDY and USER woman. I am not saying so oOO!
Please do not bring chronicles that he ... without consent or ran after he ...with consent.
no bad feelings if you decide to keep him as a friend for the main time, friends no emotions attach and make sure you let him know that you both are just friends and nothing more. Since you want freedom, the freedom you have and still asking for stress, stay your lane and mind your business if you don't want stress.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you need a man for?
ReplyDeleteBefore you know it those 3 businesses of yours will crumble.
Nigerian man no dey like see woman wey successful that he cannot control.
He will find one way to diminish you.
If he can't diminish you, he will run to podcast and dribble snot while painting you in a light that is really nobody's business.
You will need to stay on your toes feeding his ego, you done feed your own ego belle full first?
You are are not 24 and desperate. You should be about 40+.
This is the time for rest and relaxation not chaos and calamity.
Better face your life before you use your hand destroy it.