she said:
"Dear men, why do some men ghost women? I am genuinely asking. I'm not talking about situations where you've been on one or two dates and you realized this thing is not gonna work.
"Dear men, why do some men ghost women? I am genuinely asking. I'm not talking about situations where you've been on one or two dates and you realized this thing is not gonna work.
I am talking about situations where you've been speaking consistently, going out on dates, talking every day, probably even been intimate once, twice or more and then one day, nothing. No explanations, no conversations, then you stop picking her calls, stop responding to her messages and that is silence for the longest."
When the man realizes the woman is only offering your coochy in the relationship and nothing more.. most men with money and stability don’t even want to be stuck with one woman in the first place then they find out the only thing you’re offering is what’s between your legs? They can get that shii everywhere and ones even better than the one you’re offering. I would ghost too
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DeleteProfound......
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Deletesometimes i wonder if girls tell themselves the truth like:
Delete“omo babe you for calm down o. too many boys don dey knack you o”
Koromoto lawyer welcome o
Delete👎 👎 No!
DeleteSome doors close quietly. And they don’t reopen. As a man, if everything you offered wasn’t enough, offer your absence. Yes, the game may be brutal, but it’s fair.
ReplyDeleteReflective thinking is a game-changer, and not all men are embedded with it.
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As a boy…
DeleteMumu man
DeleteHe realised childbirth is what you consider would be your value in the marriage
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, as a man that I am, this happens sometimes when the emotional demand on the relationship becomes too heavy.
ReplyDeleteLet me explain, I have a friend now whom we are quite close, not intimate, because I do not want to be, we have come close to being but I’ve been the one to push back. We speak almost daily and I do enjoy the conversations, but there are times when I just don’t have the emotional strength to hold those conversations for 30-40mins, just speaking of ‘soft’ things. I just want to have a little bit of gap so that we can catch up maybe weekly and have more substantial things to talk about, but when we don’t speak for 2 days, she starts complaining that I’m ghosting her. When that happens, I feel like I’m compelled to call her daily, and it takes a toll on my emotional energy. With my male friends, I can stay weeks without speaking, and when I call them, we just gist what’s important and get on with life; but when I call this lady friend, she just wants us to be on the phone forever. I’ll listen to her entire day, what she did and didn’t do, and how she feels etc. It can get really ‘soft’ and tiring.
Right now, she can’t really cry out cos we have not been intimate, but I’m certain if we had been, she may accuse me of ghosting cos I’ve got what I want.
Now to the subject, - Ladies, it’s not always the guy’s intention to be intimate so before you give yourself to a guy, be sure what you want from the relationship. If you want to sleep with him, do so with your full chest and count it as your achievement, not necessarily his. If he starts ghosting you, take your achievement and maintain, or change your interaction level with him, maybe change the conversations, change the meeting places, ‘read the room’ and then decide how to proceed with the relationship. Don’t just go about crying you have been ghosted. Some ladies ‘choke’ with relationship and run out our emotional tanks.
Sorry for the long write up.
Cheers/ ThiiisMan
16:47...oil dey ya head
DeleteYour 2nd paragraph is actually my experience with most men. Yes I am a lady and I can tell you men can be clingy too, especially the ones you are not attracted to romantically. I currently have a friend who wants me to talk to him everyday. Like how? I don't mind talking to you but not everyday and I don't like conversations that lack depth.
DeleteIn conclusion, you just don't like the lady like that, because we all avoid those constant calls until it comes from those we truly like.
Very correct @ 19.19. It does go both ways. I have a guy friend that wants the same thing and any day I do not call, I start hearing you've abandoned me. Or if we're on a call and I get another call and ask to give me time to take that call, I don't hear the end of it. Most important thing is like 16.47 said, read the room and adjust. I for one cannot be chasing after anybody.
DeleteYou are just not interested. I've had this experience with men and it was because I just wasn't interested. When I met my ex, I loved speaking to him everyday.
DeleteRemove premarital sex from relationships. Premarital sex is the reason people say love is blind. I agree.
ReplyDelete@Anon 15:44...spot on...
ReplyDeleteAh ah? There are various reasons why people ghost who they ghosted. If you are discerning you would know why a certain person ghosted you.
ReplyDeletePeople come to you for reasons best known to them and if after coming close to you or allowing you into their lives and you don't meet their expectations, they may ghost you.
Here are few reasons anybody can ghost you:
1. You don't match their energy
2. You are below their mental capacity
3 . You are capable of constituting nuisance.
4. You like to beg for financial aid all the time and they are not ready to take that responsibility or burden from you.
5. You are a gossip
6. You are not sincere
7.Your annoying attitudes
8. You don't know how to maintain boundaries
9.they feel that you have a high tendency of taxing them in future.
10 . They discovered that you are not as financially stable as they thought.
Etc
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DeleteIts almost like u r describing one of our own point&k**l celebbv
Let me flip the script, based on my experience. Men would ghost because:
Delete1. You are not easy to manipulate and you saw through them.
2. You ask real questions and not "go with the flow".
3. You do not release coochie.
4. They did not finesse you for money. They tried though.
5. You told them that you would not discuss passport and immigration wahala.
6. Your beauty intimidates them and they want to humble you by leaving to see if you would beg.
7. You raised your standrards snd they do not want to meet it because they are not in that phase for commitment.
8. They realised you are not from a rich home where they spoilt you and you worked hard for your money, so you do not play with your opportunities. They know you are more likley to succeed than they are - ego bruise.
Ladies: IT IS NOT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU. SOMETIMES, IT IS THE MEN YOU CHOSE TO GIVE YOUR TIME.
Sometimes all they want is sex and when you stand on your values they take themselves out. 😊
ReplyDeleteIt hurts but it’s a blessing.
What if that's what's only on the table and nothing more??
DeleteKelvin Dat Edo Boi...
What if that's what's only on the table?
ReplyDeleteKevin Dat Edo Boi.
Blom blom, is that the only thing you have to offer?
DeleteMost men who ghost after weeks or months of dating do so because they want to avoid an uncomfortable conversation. They may have lost interest, met someone else, realized they weren't ready for a serious relationship, or simply lacked the maturity to communicate honestly.
ReplyDeleteWhile personal issues can sometimes cause someone to withdraw, completely disappearing without an explanation is usually more about their inability to communicate than anything the other person did wrong.
In short, ghosting often reflects the ghoster's character and communication skills, not the worth of the person being ghosted.
The men that ghost women are possessed with evil spirits. Bye Felicia. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
ReplyDeleteNo campaign after election. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteAnyone who ghosts u, has a communication problem.... simple!!!!!
ReplyDeleteHummmm.....dis takes me back memory lane,I once had a friend,pls note we are both married but we became close becos he wit pray wit me concerning a challenge I had at the time,becos of his strong Christian values I was really comfortable around him,then one day notin,days turned to weeks,weeks turned to months,at first I was sad,then I became angry then I let it go wit the excuse that maybe since we were both married he wasn't comfy wit me anymore until one day some years later I met him at a wedding,immediately I saw him I just turned round and walked out only for him to catch up with me and immediately I asked him why,and he told me he was beginning to develop feelings for me and he knew it was wrong,he dint want to harm his marriage or mine so he simply took himself out of the mix to deal wit the situation,at first I was confused but after much tot I realised wat he did was best for both of us,even though we still don't talk till today,I really respect him for taking that bold step and saving us both...we are cool weneva we see,we say hi and move on....so sometimes the ghosting is a way of saving you or themselves from a complex situation
ReplyDeleteHummmm.....dis takes me back memory lane,I once had a friend,pls note we are both married but we became close becos he wit pray wit me concerning a challenge I had at the time,becos of his strong Christian values I was really comfortable around him,then one day notin,days turned to weeks,weeks turned to months,at first I was sad,then I became angry then I let it go wit the excuse that maybe since we were both married he wasn't comfy wit me anymore until one day some years later I met him at a wedding,immediately I saw him I just turned round and walked out only for him to catch up with me and immediately I asked him why,and he told me he was beginning to develop feelings for me and he knew it was wrong,he dint want to harm his marriage or mine so he simply took himself out of the mix to deal wit the situation,at first I was confused but after much tot I realised wat he did was best for both of us,even though we still don't talk till today,I really respect him for taking that bold step and saving us both...we are cool weneva we see,we say hi and move on....so sometimes the ghosting is a way of saving you or themselves from a complex situation
ReplyDeleteEveryone has made a good contribution to this subject and given true reasons for this immaturity. The irony is that we often want a single reason for ghosting, but ghosting happens for many different reasons. Some reasons are selfish, some are avoidant, and some are simply signs of emotional immaturity.
ReplyDeleteBut as one of the comments stated, ghosting usually reflects the ghoster's communication skills more than the worth of the person being ghosted. Sometimes, we genuinely contributed to the breakdown of the relationship. Sometimes we ignored red flags. Sometimes we sense or know that we are incompatible for friendship, talk more of a relationship or just companionship.
But regardless of the reason, a mature person would always say it as it is. A person who disappears after weeks, months, or even years of connection is often avoiding accountability, discomfort, or honesty - provided they are not dealing with health issues they want to keep to themselves.
The reason for ghosting may vary. But the method usually points to the same thing: an inability or unwillingness to communicate directly because silence feels easier than explaining a difficult truth.
Hmmm with all the wahala in the world, its who is ghosting who that's the gist. If you ghost, we move, if you don't ghost we move. No time for unnecessary nonsense. Money needs to be made, families need to be made and ultimate happiness needs to be achieved. We muuuvvvveee
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 0058, help me tell them o, me sef just tire. The "ghoster" and the "ghostee should move on biko
DeleteLol 😂
ReplyDeleteCorrect!