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DIFFICULT SITUATION
My brother was in a domestically violent marriage for eight years. We begged him to leave but he refused. We were so scared he might lose his life in that marriage. The marriage ended without a child.
One day he messaged me saying a girl was pregnant for him, but there was a problem. This same girl had slept with one of my other brothers before. He met her during a rough phase in his life. She was there for him and one thing led to another and they started having sex. Stella shame catch me… what a Sodom and Gomorrah affair.
I thought the girl would abort the pregnancy but she said the doctor warned her against abortion because of her previous ones. My brother who had always wanted a child accepted the pregnancy.
My other brother who had slept with the girl before was angry. How could his own brother sleep with a woman he had been with. Now a child is involved.
She later gave birth to a very cute baby but the baby looks exactly like my other brother and not the father. The baby mama is behaving as if she did not commit any crime but their dirty behavior irritates me.
My two brothers are no longer on speaking terms.
The two shameless people who committed this abomination have been begging for forgiveness but he refuses to answer them. Our parents raised us well but my brother chose to be foolish. My dad is quiet about the matter. He is disappointed in his son.
Stella and BVs we cannot even tell anybody because it is very shameful.
I want to ask blog visitors for advice.
Stella and BVs we cannot even tell anybody because it is very shameful.
I want to ask blog visitors for advice.
WHAT IS EXACTLY THE PROBLEM????? Please give your brother breathing space!!!....So because one brother slept with her, she cannot be with another brother? well for some, this doesnt mean anything......She has given your brother a child to carry on his name and i dont see anything wrong with that....
It has happened and nothing can be changed........It is now the way forward..
The first gbensher has to forgive and accept her and not let his eyes r mind remember the gbenshing...
The new gbensher should go ahead and be with her if he wants......
You people should let them be if they have found love with each other...
If she is not a community kpekus hen accpet her.....
That baby belongs to your family.
ReplyDeleteAll you have to do is carry out a DNA to know which of your brothers exactly is the father of the child.
Y'all make sure none of your brothers marry her.
Let them do a DNA test. To be sure who the father is.
ReplyDeleteEveryone should move on after that.
And the father should take responsibility for the child.
Your writeup didn't state that they were in a relationship or In love. Just knacking sessions.
So I guess marriage is not in the question.
I think at this point a DNA is needed to ascertain who the child belongs to.
ReplyDeleteDid brother B, know that she was with his other brother? Brother B, ask for forgiveness and move on. That girl should not be in the family, not by marriage Accept the child, but have a DNA done.
This is why we say premarital sex doesn't pay. One gets into all kinds of trouble. Imagine this..
I hope you are able to sort this out.
The girl is the ex to your other brother.And if this your brother and the girl love each other,There is nothing wrong with them being together.
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry but thunder fire this poster.. very judgmental and irritating. Your other brother that first slept with the baby mama too is stupid. If some people were God en.. you thought she will abort the pregnancy.. are you kidding me?
ReplyDeleteYou are a big goat
DeleteUse your hand and give yourself a knock.
Ogun kill you.
Arm robber like you
No wonder your brothers wife was mad at him and all the chaos in the marriage. How will there be child when she's not happy with how irresponsible he is. Not all childlessness happen because of lack of peace but your brother was an irresponsible man who broke her heart because of his secret affairs and all... She knows what she saw in that marriage that made her to start behaving the way she was. Even the kindest woman can go raving mad when married to certain men. See him sleeping with someone that his brother has had something to do with.
ReplyDeleteProbably, he must have begged her to marry him, promising to make her happy, but when she came in she saw that she has made the worst mistake of her life allowing him into her life. You never can tell, maybe* she's mad but still staying because your brother must have infected her with a disease and if she leaves who will easily marry her when they discover that she has some disease?
Just saying
That your other angry brother no get sense at all. The fact sey e don gbensh the lady before no matter. it's your brother's choice to have a child with the lady. Except f the lady na community toilet.
ReplyDeleteShe is a runs babe
DeleteLike her life style is messy
My other brother suggest for him to do a DNA test so that my brother will not be raising another man’s child.
Hmm. DNA to the rescue. Ad for the unforgiving brother, tell him an anonymous BV said the vessel that carries unforgiveness is the one who gets hurt.
ReplyDeleteyour family should carry out a DNA to be sure the person she said is responsible for the child is the real father, this one the baby looks like the first man. Hope the first man is not the owner of this child/ that baby mama may be sleeping with both brothers when she was pregnant oh. She may say the baby is for the second man since he desperately want a child plus his marriage have ended with his wife. She may be wishing to become his wife now that she have a baby for him.
ReplyDeleteIf adults decide to misbehave, no need to say anything. Just let them be, you should face your front and never get yourself involved in the whole drama. If your second brother is willing to wife her or be with her, you people should let them be. Let both brothers discuss and agree on who should let go. Hope the lady is not a community sharer?
What is there to tell
ReplyDeleteWhy must yall tell people brother slept with her
He slept with her didn’t marry her and now she a child with your brother
Who outside is asking you guys if she slept with the other brother. That’s inside info you keep to yourselves
My niece looks more like my sister than my brother who is her father
So that happens
If they want to be sure, your brother can do DNA. They are not twins so dna can resolve