There is this young man in his early forties, let us call him Mr W, whose wife has a shop opposite my house. He happens to be a friend to Mr Z who is someone I know very well....
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Mr Z is always helping Mr W out since he has no job at the moment.
Z sometimes gives him money, takes him out to joints to drink mortuary standard beer and eat a plate of cow tail pepper soup.
Recently, Mr Z called me and asked if I was less busy. I said yes and told him to come see me at my new shop location.
I now use a container.
He came to me and asked what to do about his friend W. He said the man has said a lot of bad things about him, and the worst now is that he keeps telling people that Z is sleeping with his wife.
I opened my mouth because that allegation is not something to joke with at all.
I asked Z if he was truly having an affair with the wife or not, because all I needed was the truth.
He is my friend and I needed to speak to him like one.
I made him understand that a jobless man who is passing through challenges and you trying to help out because you are close to him and his wife might think such a thing, and maybe he has been suspecting your moves recently. I said this so I could hear from him.
He used everything in this life to swear over the issue. Then I asked if the person who gave him that information could say it in Mr W’s presence and he said yes. I asked him to look for a way to call for a bar discussion with his friend and the person who gave him the information. Then put across whatever question he wants to ask, and from there they can settle their differences.
He used everything in this life to swear over the issue. Then I asked if the person who gave him that information could say it in Mr W’s presence and he said yes. I asked him to look for a way to call for a bar discussion with his friend and the person who gave him the information. Then put across whatever question he wants to ask, and from there they can settle their differences.
He said he was even planning to call the friend’s wife to tell her what her husband said, but I told him that the idea would make things worse. This is a man to man issue and must be tackled strategically. I also told him to let go of the friendship after he has corrected his friend’s notion.
Why?
Such a person is dangerous and can harm him in the nearest future. If you can ever think your friend is having an affair with your wife, though some friends are bad and can do such .....
Accusing someone of sleeping with your wife is beyond gossip because it breaks families, destroys friendships and can lead to violent action. I have asked him to cut the cord after the settlement if he wants to live long.
For those of you who love to have fun with your friend’s wife or girlfriend, what do you gain in it? You betray your friend because of puna and also put yourself in a tight corner. I remember as an undergraduate student, I had some friends who were always having fun with one lady. Once one of them started dating any lady, all of them would sleep with that lady. I do not know how they did it. Very dirty thing to do. Mitchew.
For those of you who love to have fun with your friend’s wife or girlfriend, what do you gain in it? You betray your friend because of puna and also put yourself in a tight corner. I remember as an undergraduate student, I had some friends who were always having fun with one lady. Once one of them started dating any lady, all of them would sleep with that lady. I do not know how they did it. Very dirty thing to do. Mitchew.
You should have told us the outcome of the confrontation nau...mscheeeew!
If this happens to me, that will be the end of the friendship
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What happened at the end
Pinky you gave him a good advice but also, how did the confrontation go?
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