STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THIEFING FAMILY
Dear Stella,
I am confused, angered, and honestly embarrassed to even write this.
Dear Stella,
I am confused, angered, and honestly embarrassed to even write this.
My boyfriend and his sister visited me recently and we ate, laughed, talked, and everything felt normal.
After they left, I noticed that one of my gold jewellery pieces was missing and it was a piece I never ever misplace and that was why i noticed it immediately
I have searched everywhere. I turned my house upside down. Nothing.
Now I am stuck with a painful thought that i might be dating someone who steals… or dating someone whose sibling steals.
I have searched everywhere. I turned my house upside down. Nothing.
Now I am stuck with a painful thought that i might be dating someone who steals… or dating someone whose sibling steals.
I don’t know which one hurts more.
The worst part is that I don’t know how to ask them.
The worst part is that I don’t know how to ask them.
How do i confront people who acted warm and friendly in my home, yet something valuable disappeared right after they walked out? Haaa, this one pains!
How do i raise the issue without sounding accusatory?… or without confirming my worst fear?
I am thinking if he brought his sister to cause distraction or the sister did it alone or with his knowledge?
I am angry, and I am confused. I don’t know if I should speak up, or stay quiet, or quietly walk away from this relationship before I start losing more than jewellry.
I am thinking if he brought his sister to cause distraction or the sister did it alone or with his knowledge?
I am angry, and I am confused. I don’t know if I should speak up, or stay quiet, or quietly walk away from this relationship before I start losing more than jewellry.
Hmmmm!!! why should you keep quiet when your item is missing? Gold for the matter (That is if it is real gold oh)
Here is waht you should do....Invite both of them over again keep another one where it will be stolen and see if it goes missing again.....
While they are there, please talk about the missing jewellry and how you are planning to send thunder to the person......swear a lot and watch their reaction...He may even break up with you in a cunning way after that..
Na dem thief am!!!

Don’t ask them
ReplyDeleteThere is no way to come back from accusing someone of theft and asking them is an accusation
Someone tried the rubbish did you see my this. That is an accusation cause why are you asking if I saw it
Take your time and look for it. If they stole it they won’t admit it and if they didn’t, the connection is OVER
Don’t tell yourself they will understand you’re just asking, they will not
As humans we are always so sure of what we know but we are sometimes wrong
Wisdom
DeleteIf you are 100% percent sure you haven't had any visitors before and after them, then so as Stella says ,invite them take proper inventory of the ones remaining, then watch if another one will go missing. Good luck
ReplyDeleteInvite them like Stella suggested and put a camera to record them. Or you leave it for God and ghost them.
ReplyDeleteGbamsolutely, follow Stella's advice and watch their reactions,but please don't use pure gold to tempt them again just use gold plated jewelry mk you you no go loose your gold for the second time😅incase if it's them that stole it 🙄
ReplyDeleteI honestly wouldn’t tell them that the jewellery went missing after their visit, that immediately puts suspicion on them. Search again carefully, and if you still can’t find it, simply ask your boyfriend if he happened to notice or come across the piece while they visited. Keep it neutral and see how the conversation goes.
ReplyDeleteDon’t accuse anyone without proof, but don’t ignore the situation either. If it truly was taken, you may learn more from how they respond than from making an accusation.
After all this, they may not even be the culprits. Something like this once happened to me. As a young girl i always spent my holidays in my father’s best frnd’s house. On one particular occasion, after the holidays had finished and i had returned home, his wife who was like a mother to all of us, couldn’t find her gold ring. Though they didn’t accuse or even ask me, my frnd in the house told me when we met. That they couldn’t find her ring. Till today after over 20yrs i still feel somehow when i think of it. And to God, i didn’t take her ring, and i was the only outsider to stay in their house during the hols, everyother person was a child of the family.
ReplyDeleteSo pls if u ask, so far u did’t see them taking it, u cnt be fully sure it was them, pls let this go. Accusing someone of theft is not a small thing.
NB: if u are familiar wt gold, u would know that gold has a way of disappearing on its own without any trace. It has happened to me before, and iv heard several others say it too.
Gold doesn’t stay with me although I do love gold. You may be right with that last paragraph. There is an energy to gold, maybe it seeks to go back into the earth from whence it came.
DeleteWhy are you anon? I was reading and was like "correct" then the last paragraph "NB" got me cos it has happened to me not ones way back and some peeps do say gold is kinda spiritual..e go shock u wen u see am for where u put am gangan wey u no remember ..let it go and watch if sh*t like that happen again..
DeleteYou are so right about gold disappearing and appearing. Why is that? My gold disappears all the time and I have decided not to buy gold again. I now wear Gbam Gbam! Sometimes I will wear it out and it will fall down on the floor and I would look around the same floor and it would not be anywhere to be found.
DeleteWow!!!
DeleteGold disappears?? No wonder!!!
I wouldn’t confront them. But do not host them again.
ReplyDeleteI hope you are very sure of this heavy accusation?
ReplyDeleteThings like this is the reason i don't normally visit friends except my family members and those living close to me.
I will advise you also check very well, and be sure you didn't have early visitor who might have made away with the jewellery.
Thou am not exonerating your guy and her Sis, but please be sure.
DOZZYBEST.
End the relationship. Ghost them and move on if not, na premium tears and regret go be your food.
ReplyDeletePoster you took me down memory lane. When I had my baby the first in my family, my own sister out of joy gifted my baby with a gold necklace with a pendant. I was so happy and my baby always wear this necklace except during bath time. So a close family friend came to visit and carried my baby after the visit we noticed that necklace was nowhere to be found we turned the house up side down to no avail. My sister even accused me of selling it off, It was so painful i cried and cried. That family friend stopped coming to us. Long story short my sister met him again after a long while behold he was wearing the necklace! My sister could not say anything she came back home and apologised to me and that was the end of the friendship with this person. They are the ones that took it either your boyfriend or his sister. CUT OFF FROM THEM THEY ARE THIEVES!
ReplyDeleteOne day, my wallet was taken by a friend in the church while we were playing and joking. Immediately he gave it back to me, I searched and some dollars were missing. I felt like asking him, but I knew the implication of asking such a question from an innocent person, that would have been the end of our cherished relationship.
ReplyDeleteI took my time and asked my wife and children if them too money from my wallet. My children denied immediately, but as a Christian, we have the Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit convinced me that the youngest of my kids took it.
Long story short, he later confessed that he took it because if the pressure from his friends that he should by something for them in school.
I would have destroyed an important relationship if I was not careful and patient.
Yes do what Stella suggested. Call your boyfriend that you really enjoyed their visit, they should come over again. Keep another cheap quality gold plated watch near there. Place a camera to capture again if it was really them. Don’t confront them alone oh! Just tell them /him/her to respecté themselves ni, return both and any other item taken.prior without your observation. All the best!
ReplyDeleteWhile there is a strong point to accuse them of wrongs, it is safer not to mention your suspicions to them.
ReplyDeleteRather, set trap and see if the same thing can repeat itself again