MENTAL HEALTH SITUATION
Dear Blog Visitors…
I need advice today.
Two years ago,i married a woman who doesn’t trust me. I didn’t see it clearly at first or maybe I refused to see it. I kept telling myself that love would fix everything, and that patience would calm her fears, that marriage would finally give her the security she kept searching for when we were dating
But nothing changed.
If my phone rings, she wants to know who is calling. If I stepped outside, she wants to know where I was going. If I smiled at someone, she wants to know why. Every normal action becomes a question, and every question becomes suspicion, and every suspicion becomes an argument waiting to happen and when it happens, everyone hears about how untrust worthy my wife finds me because she is very loud about not trusting me..........Really loud!
Dear Blog Visitors…
I need advice today.
Two years ago,i married a woman who doesn’t trust me. I didn’t see it clearly at first or maybe I refused to see it. I kept telling myself that love would fix everything, and that patience would calm her fears, that marriage would finally give her the security she kept searching for when we were dating
But nothing changed.
If my phone rings, she wants to know who is calling. If I stepped outside, she wants to know where I was going. If I smiled at someone, she wants to know why. Every normal action becomes a question, and every question becomes suspicion, and every suspicion becomes an argument waiting to happen and when it happens, everyone hears about how untrust worthy my wife finds me because she is very loud about not trusting me..........Really loud!
It is so emabarrassing that i am even beginning to suspect myself.
my man confidence is at a zero and nothing feels right being with her anymore..
I have tried to explain and reassure her and even proved my worth over and over again and as i am writing this now, i have nothing left to prove and 100 percent tired of being married
Now I wake up beside her, but feel alone...I am in a marriage where lack of trust has changed the taste of love and leaving is the only solution for my mental health
I used to think i was the problem and tried to fix myself but it suddenly hit me that she is the problem and needs to be alone to fix herself...She has been saying i will soon leave her for someone else, so i honestly dont even know how i will tell her that i need to be alone ...
People will be so disappointed in me if i leave but i am willing to risk that than go crazy and no one will know what caused it..
First off....Why dont you sent in a really badly worded Chronicle and it took me days to try and fill in some spaces what you might have meant.....work on your English please.
First off....Why dont you sent in a really badly worded Chronicle and it took me days to try and fill in some spaces what you might have meant.....work on your English please.
So now lets come to the situation at hand.....from the photgraph you included, her insecurity may be out of her physical appearance and yours....You are very good looking and she is the opposite...
I understand her from this and i also understand why you are broken and need to leave but i dont think you will go back to her if you leave,
why dont you have one last talk with her?
I dont know what else to say at this point.
I dont know what else to say at this point.
Per Stella’s comment about being privileged to see una picture, na complex dey worry your wife! You don’t have to keep proving your worth to someone who doesn’t trust you. If you’ve genuinely tried to communicate and reassure her, it’s understandable to need some space. However, before making a permanent decision, consider counseling and setting clear boundaries. Don’t stay solely because you’re afraid of disappointing other people, your well-being matters too.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, Your wife has trust issues, yes maybe because of how she looks, but it also maybe that she is traumatized about an event that happened. Or she Hass had many failed relationships that failed. So she projects what happened into this one.
ReplyDeleteShe needs therapy. Again, I think you should temporary stay apart so she will know you are serious about your complaints.
Suggest therapy for her and if she cooperates fine. Otherwise it won't get better.
Poster sorry that you are going through such an ordeal, even when you are innocent.
ReplyDeleteI suggest that you send the link to this your chronicle to your wife, so that she can read it and see how you really feel and how she is hurting you. It will also enable her hear what other people have to say about her behavior towards you.
Madam, in case you read this, I think you should calm down as your actions are causing more harm than good. It is well with your home.🙏