Why don’t you want him
You sound so sweet tho

If you know you don't want anything to do with him, you had better not go with him. Better to be mindful of where you follow him to unless you truly know him and knows what he is capable of doing

I don't understand this post. You have nothing to do with him yet you are contemplating travelling with him to rest????? as per what now??? a friend, acquaintance. Rest where? In a hotel, his house? I support Stella. I think you are just deceiving yourself. The next chronicle will be that you were used and dumped , you don't know how it happened, you are pregnant... what should you do.

So, you think you'll go on that trip with him and there won't be intimacy. Na so your sense reach?
You want, you don't want. Why giving him mixed signals?
If he forces himself on you, you'll say he took advantage of you.
Madam, stay in your house!!
Dey come ask yeye question.

Some of you women are truly funny. He's been talking about marriage and you're not ever going to date him, let alone marry him. So what's the point are you traveling with him? Or why are you accepting gifts from him? You see why I won't stop saying that most of you women know exactly what you're doing. Tomorrow you will boldly remind him that you didn't force him to spend on you, blah blah blah.

Well, I wouldn't blame you but the young man who lacks sense. When a woman turns you down or repeatedly shows she doesn't like you, if you force yourself to let her string you along, you'll surely pay for your foolishness. You'll learn the hard way. As a man, you don't force a woman to love you or accept your proposal if your intentions and priorities are right. There are women who will genuinely love and want you.

This is how some women's transition into prostitution starts, not in a day, but as a gradual process. At their prime, you see them getting so much attention from men, but they wouldn't want to settle down. Just like one told me, she wants to enjoy the attention of men very well before settling down, asking me why should one man just carry her inside the house like that.

Funny thing is, with this plethora of options, an entitlement mentality begins to set in for women like this. They believe there's always a willing man out there to indulge them. When a woman now equates dating to a transactional relationship, that's how full-blown prostitution starts. To these women, they see themselves as classy, but the truth remains they are often seen as satisfying commodities to the men who patronize them. In fact, cheap, and no one will want to keep such a person as a wife, but to pass around.

Eventually, when she's over 40, she starts insulting men and saying all sorts. That's the irony of life for so many of them today.


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You want to go, you know that deep down. You are just looking for who will ginger you, and it is not me.

My advice is, don't go. Not because you would necessarily be cheating with him, but because this man has expressed interest in marrying you, and you don't know whether he has genuinely let go of those feelings. Put yourself in the other woman's shoes: would you be comfortable knowing your prospective husband was travelling with a woman he had previously pursued for marriage? If you wouldn't want to be in her position, don't put yourself in it. Protect your peace and avoid unnecessary drama.

Na u sabi with ur confusing post… after him don chop ur toto tire.. ur eye go open wella… shiorr

If you want to go, just go and enjoy your self.No need of bringing it here.

Deep down, you know his intentions. If you are 💯 convinced that the friendship is platonic from his end, ask him to fund the trip and travel alone. Otherwise leave him alone before his woman catch you.

In your heart you know the right thing to do, but the cares of this life's goods and the deceitful of his gifts has blinded you to the extent that you brought this up to seek validation to your lust that it is OK to keep riding with a man who is seriously looking for a life partner knowing in your heart that you don't love him.
You reap what you sow.

I am honestly surprised that you are even asking this question. Why are you comfortable eating the money of a man who isn’t yours? If you go on this trip to relax, who is paying for it? Is it coming out of your own pocket? Since you both are just friends when you go on trips do your female friends pay for you?

Let’s be real and stop acting oblivious. You are a grown woman, and you know exactly what is happening here. This man is still hopeful and is intently looking for ways to cajole you into being his woman. When a man asks us out, gets turned down, and then says let’s just be friends,we as women know exactly what that means.

So why are you letting him hover around you under the guise of a fake friendship? What are you keeping him around for?
You will keep taking advantage of his so called generosity that has an underlying motive by the way, while he starts thinking he stands a chance with you. While you will continue to act clueless like you don't have an idea of what's going on.

A man who wants to marry you, is generous, despite you turning him down and continues to sponsor you does not view you as a platonic buddy. He is playing the long game. He is keeping you close, building obligation, and keeping his foot in your door.
Yet you are here acting all innocent talking about you have told him you won't date him but your actions are saying otherwise. If you don't want him just cut him loose!!!

Why are you even complaining to a man you claim you don't want about being stressed? That is an indirect signal that you want to be pampered. He is not your boyfriend. If you want a real platonic friendship with a man, you don't accept luxury travel, you don't spend his money and you don't interact with him in ways you would with your own man.