LOBATAN!
LOBATAN!!
LOBATAN!!!
Hi, Stella,
I chose this medium because you may recognize my mail add. I have a situation that I need your advise. I married my beautiful wife in 2006 and we have a lovely daughter together.
Our problem started after my daughter was born. My wife became sexually distant. Infact If we were to have sex, she would face down and ask me to penetrate from the rear (Not anal).
Then she would lie there non-responsive. After a while, we stopped having sex altogether. I love my wife very much and I fear God seriously. Since, 2009, we have not had sex and I have not cheated on her for a single day, not even to masturbate. I am very successful in my business and was brought up to believe that the Body is Gods temple. My wife on her own part seems to have found respite lately in using sex toys. she hides it from me since we don't share the same room but I found them. Don't get me wrong, I am 10.5 inches long. A few times, I have been tempted to have sex with other women but I found out I couldn't.
What do i do?how do i handle this situation?I am just confused and need advice.
xoxoxoxox
*Hmmm I may recognise your email means i know you personally?..so sorry about your situation,please sit down with her and talk about the way forward,ask her what she likes in bed,maybe you are too big and she hurts.......could be a million reasons why she prefers a sex toy to you.don't get angry,just try to revive your sex life,and please be gentle and romantic.might help....good luck*
Thursday, July 18, 2013
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It may be medical. Some women lose libido after child birth. Since 2009 and you havent spoken to her? Come on. Communicate. Explore. Maybe u dont spend enough time on foreplay for her
ReplyDeleteCommunicate. Pray. See how some women force their men to run into the arms of other women. How old are both of you that you don't share a room together? Therein lies an issue.
ReplyDeletemy dear is not by 10.5inche long o0o0o0 is how u use it dat matter, 4 me i ave been dating a guy 4 d past 3years now, ever since i started dating him all i do is masturbate i recently got myself a sex toy......i love dis guy more dan any living thing on earth but he dnt spend up to 1 sec on me he no sabi romance he no sabi fuck nothing he knws how to do on bed,,,,he always ask me wat am i still doing with him, dat am d only gurl dat has stay dis long with him. sometimes he feels am cheeting on him but believe me i only cheet on him with sextoy das all.....all my frnds think he his d best on bed cos dey knw i love gud sex . i still keep asking myself if dis could b love... so mydear she is ur wife sit her up and talk some romatic thing into her head if she really love u she will give u reasons.
ReplyDelete10.5 inches.... Wowza.... Such a tool been wasting since 2009. Oh my gosh..... Pls bring it over lemme limpopo on it & end it with alingo. Ouchhhhhhhhhh
ReplyDeleteLmafoooooooooo. #dead
DeleteHahahaha! Very funny pple on here. Lol!!
DeleteAs 4 d dude wit AK 10.5 inch shooter, u ar obviously hurting wifey wit ur weapon of mass destruction & dat xplains y she opts 4 behind. I had dat kinda xperience. Coming from d front means a full reception of d 10.5 yl he saws it hard like he's gon cut down d evil tree. Buh from behind yl she lays down means an insertion of 5.5 inch shooter.
So go easy on her dude!!
Mnyl, from ur tale, I can tell u lack d tools 2 take on dat r/ship. No sex/communication since 1960? Makes me think u ar ungodly too godly. Wich also makes me imagine wot happns in ur bedroom(obviously d only place) no romantic words, no foreplay, no exploration of d anatomy or space. Nada!!!
Stil feels like a sex toy wit u, just dat Urs hurts & she myt not control d pressure.
Hope u get my point?
Stella i know its Lucabree dats sent u dz mail cos he has being crying dat u shod rid his mail. Dear lucabree, i think your wife is HIV positive and dosnt wat 2 infect u wit d disease dats y....
ReplyDeleteu re very mad 4 insulting d great luca!may ayelala strike u!.....yinkus
DeleteUna no go kill person 4 dis blog!
DeleteWhat does 'lobatan' mean, by the way? N what language is that?
ReplyDeleteLobatan means e don finish & na Yoruba lang
DeleteDats how big Kcee's rod is and i left him
ReplyDeleteEbube nwagbo
Lmao..u r crazy
DeleteLmao..u r crazy
DeleteSorry sir i fik ur wife is not A wife material. U can call me on 08063972185 so i can find A solution 4 u
ReplyDeleteHaha! World people! Husband snatcher! Winch!
DeleteI fik nairaland.com is d best blog in nigerian. 2 hell wit nigeriafilms.com
ReplyDeleteMumu ode did u loose ur way en route nairaland? N wat has ur comment got to do wt d post here?
DeleteSince 2009, you are just speaking out now. Na wa for you oh.
ReplyDeleteLobatan...
ReplyDeleteSorry man...Chics sef...mtscheww.Try find out d problems Sha,talk talk talk...if nothing else...dis one reach to divorce o cos even bible says a man owns d woman's body for his sexual pleasures...how then is procreation possible if no show ????
Na u knw were u read dat one IDIOT
DeleteSabrina
I don't believe you told us the whole truth, i will advice you based on what you told us. 1, sit down with your wife and have a honest discussion because i believe she is seeing some one else , 2, your tool may be too big for her and you don't know how to use it, size is good but when you don't know how to use it it become's wahala for your partner. Finally a good talk is important because for how long can the two of you live like that? That will amount to living a lie. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like she feels disconnected to him. And it also depends on his approach. She's using a toy so she's not frigid. He needs to be gentle and join in.
DeleteU r 10inches Long? Lair
ReplyDeleteHmmM life, Faithful huzzy @ 10.5 inches Jesu gbami, pls find out from ur wife dere s something she s not telling you , it s not just about d size of ur d*** u guys realy nEed to talk ASAP if possible Vacation N to a place where it s just both of you. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteTalking about it will surely help. Once you are both willing to talk about it without holding back anything, you guys will get to the bottom of the problem. As they say, a problem known is half solved. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteI'm flabbergasted!!! Just try & have a serious one on one with her...pour out your heart to her, I'm sure she'll open up to you too. I feel your pain dear * big hug*
ReplyDeleteLucinda
1st time this lucinda silly mouth with talk sense *smh*
Delete@ Anon 12:15am first time you no read well before posting your comment.
DeletePls u pple shuld leav lucinda,she has right to talk anytin she wants.anyway tanks 4 makn her a celeb in sdk blog..lucinda I need ur autograph
DeleteWow...this is serious, but like stella said sit down and have a heart to heart with her.
ReplyDeleteRomance meets life have posted about how to spice up your sex life many times na, for both men and women. Chech out her blog.
ReplyDeleteNa *check* jare
Delete10.5 inches long chineke , whats wong with ur wife now. just kidding , pls sit down and have a heart to heart talk with her as stella said , don't worry you will get your grove back I must commend you for not cheat on her , .I leave you with the 10.5 inches on my head . lol
ReplyDeletegrove or groove? Where BBC?
DeleteOlodo I too know the mistake us called typo error .pls post your English waec result .anyway choose one .grove or groove.
DeleteWake ur wife by 4am and discuss d issue wiv her..she will open up.der is nuttn like earliest mornin discussion
ReplyDeleteI need your personal email SDK, nd miss ur column in Ecominum, op no p?
ReplyDeleteSimple :
ReplyDeleteBuy her lil gifts like Jimmy Choo shoes,sexy lingerie,Prada,jewelries,everything. Do things u don't do for her b4. Take her to salon,market,supermaarket if time permits. Above all,improve on your personal hygiene and pls STOP ASKING HER FOR SEX. Improve on ur dress sense n try n be haappy aaround her. My dear,she'll bring her ukwu sara mbara to u without u begging for it.
Did he say 10.5 inches? That's almost a ruler na? Ok na.
ReplyDeleteLol! Cnt stop laughing.
DeleteLol! Cnt stop laughing.
DeleteThat's y I think he's lying or exaggerating....+ he's successful and hasn't had sex in 4 yrs? Y do I also think that's a lie?
DeleteWow....but seriously there is fire on the mountain. 2009? Pls sit her down and talk to her. Can't really say its becos of ur manhood cos she saw it before you guys got married,so no excuse. Are you the type that likes foreplay before sex or you just enter like you are in a hurry! Am a married woman and I know what am talking about. Most married men don't like foreplay, they just want to do and go!!! And this a great turn off for women. That might be the case or you might not be attracted to her anymore! Give her treat and talk to her about how you feel. My friend Communication is the key!
ReplyDeletePororororororpoororororo.... 10.5 0_o .....
ReplyDeleteI think your wife may be depressed.
ReplyDeletehttp://nenisnaija.blogspot.com/2013/07/a-simple-tightening-and-toning-mask.html
Since 2009 no sex n no wanking?. Ok,that means u be correct FULL TANK. God bless u
ReplyDeletesir Stella gave you the best answer.
ReplyDeleteLmaooooo Irene you are so sillly! U got me rolling on the floor!!!
ReplyDeleteAbeg aunty stella,help, my own problem.be say i love sex and im 6 months pregnant, my husband only enters from.d back.its getting frustrating cos i want him to ride properly, i gues hes scared of hurting the baby cos its our first. But im avhing for a good grind and hunger dey kill me.sotey i dey get cramps.pls advise
ReplyDeleteTry fingering urself, or use ur toothbrush becos sex toy is not advisable for a married woman, ur husband might not like it.
DeletePealie love,toothbrush? Pls expantiate cos am starving oooo
DeleteNa anything una dey use 4 punani?
DeleteAnon 9:15, u no go kill persn: hahaaaaaaaaaaahahahaaaa. Laugh wan tear ma belle
DeletePealie olomu roro! Tooth brush tori Olorun? Onidoti buruku
DeleteIf u like use toothbrush to dilate ur cervix and miscarry, na u sabi
DeleteMay be you're not sexually apealling. Its not just about talking. The thing men don't understand is that women get aroused before they land on the bed. So you'l have to turn on your sexy, you know be romantic, like a previous visitor said, take her shoping, hold her waist sometimes, kiss her neck and tell her how much u love her, make her feel like a woman... Take her out to dinner, give her a suprise lunch date at work, you know all these things just do them and she'll stop seeing u as boring, she'll be intriuged and wonder what happened to you, most of all she'll be aroused
ReplyDeleteYou couldn't have said it any better. Spot on!!
DeleteThat's quite a long time o,shooo.
ReplyDeleteMehn More than 4yrs without sex......I believe you are not telling us everything
ReplyDeleteSee Full List of Today's Hottest Stories From All Naija Blogs Voted by Readers
Irony of life! And am here begging my hubby 4 sex everyday as if am a nympho. I even want sex like everyday. Woman wake up oh
ReplyDeleteMe too o we are in the same boat begging my husband for sex and I'm tired of initiating it all the time and before you know it he's done in 2 minutes leaving me hanging. No romance nothing and I've complained to him several times still no improvement. I'm shopping around for sex toys online now and I'm not going to hide it from him then I'll see what he'll do.
DeleteU no get electrician or plumber?. Use them.forget sex toy. My plumber's dick is enormous.
DeleteCall me 08166514583, i will like to date u
ReplyDeleteMy first time commenting. Married to a man i love but not excited about love making with him. My reason is this: he travels a lot, keeps late nights and have refused to make some changes i've been having conversations with him on like: joining in prayers with I and the kids, helping out with home work etc. he's been living this life for our donkey years of marriage and while am not happy about it, i try to live with it. The result is sexual disconnection. I trust him totally and I know he's not having an affair. My point is dis: if she's been complaining about certain things over and over, try and make that difficult change. She's not having an affair, trust me. She just is unhappy with you.
ReplyDeletehe's not having an affair then i am the Pope
Deletepealie I guess that's what you do. Talking like the ho you are.
ReplyDeleteGod help u but help urself by reading allllllllll the comments and taking them on board ASAP. They are insightful.
ReplyDeleteFor her to be using sex toys, she's not turned off by sex. The problem is with you.
ReplyDeleteIts not by having 20 inches. My husband has a big, fat dick but was a 1 minute man. I managed it for 2 years before I spoke out. Within those years, I was masturbating. We agreed he should seek help, he did and he is wonderful in the sack now.
What have the 2 of you been doing since 2009? You still carry on as husband and wife? I don't want to believe you have not talked about this problem with her.
Also, no normal man I know can do without sex/wanking for over 3 years. It definitely looks like you have performance problems.
Hisss, life is a bitch. Abeg let's swap.
ReplyDeleteThey sleep in diff rooms, they are house mates. First step is to get back into the same bedroom. Take it from there.
ReplyDeleteplease hope u don't have mouth and body odor cos that alone can piss d devil off.check ur personal hygiene and ensure ure sparkling clean cos nobody can resist a sweet smelling dick/pussy.use of fragrance is necessary
ReplyDeleteApart from medical reasons, it could be that she is totally disconnected with you sexually because of your attitude to sex. I will use myself as an example. I am married to the most handsome but unromantic man, with a very good sizable penis. But he is very selfish in bed and last less than a minute. He will never go second round so as to satisfy me. He will just leave me like that wanting and craving for good fuck. He knows this and the fact that I have a high libido but he will never do anything to satisfy me. So selfish in bed.
ReplyDeleteAs a result, I started feeling frustrated , I stopped looking forward to sleeping with him cos i know it will be the same disappointment. I gradually started avoiding with him and would give excuse so as to avoid sleeping with him. Now we have sex like once in a three weeks and I do it just to perform my wifely duty.
So Mr, search yaself and find out where you had gone wrong.
Why don't u hav a hrt to hrt talk wit him or ar u telling us u like or enjoying the disconnection ur having. Na so e dey start o
DeleteIf she's using sex toys her libido isn't lost. She doesn't want to have sex with him. Sounds like they need therapy/counselling from a marriage and sex therapist NOT your pastor o! Get professional help. People have a hard time opening up to their religious leaders.
ReplyDeleteBut seperate rooms ba wo?
10" wen erect? U r lying about d size of ur penis.n secondly, since 2009 u hv not had sex wt her n u hv not either wt another woman? N not even masturbation? Sometimes I really think all the sob stories are hoax. N lastly u want to tell us that since 2009, here is the d first place u hv bn to for advice? No pastors, trusted relatives?etc. N then u have to make ur wife look sad n pathetic by mentioning d fact she has sex toys. If truly u hv a problem n u want good advice, then tell us d truth including where u erred
ReplyDeleteHi Stella,
ReplyDeleteI appreciate the comments made on my post. I guess the editing didn't give the full perspective. Anyway, Thank you very much. We have gone for counselling with Pastors, Doctors and Psychologists. I Told her why I didnt want the Assistant, That was when she confessed that she actually was hoping something happens between US. She said she feels terrible about depriving me. That the trauma of child birth has completely changed her desire for Sex.
Thank you for letting me express my feelings and I know she reads your blog. I love her very much and I will NEVER cheat on her even if it means we never have sex again. My closeness with God makes it impossible to commit Adultery.
DeleteIt sounds like a medical issue then, please arrange to see a specialist in that field.
Na Oyinbos dey really get this kind ailment
Lobatan means the end
ReplyDeleteThis is the first time am commenting on this blog.Are you really Man enough?Since 2009 u ve not touch touch ur wife..Abeg my bro look outside.Your wife dey enjoy herself with toy and youdey die in silence..Note thats short cut to heaven...Mr Man Look for girls outside..no by force to fck ur wife.Come make we teach MUMU!!
ReplyDeleteTo Mr and Mrs please get together and work this out. There are some good men out there like this Mr, hold on to him Mrs and satisfy him.
ReplyDeleteThis na big lie!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteNaija man not had sex with his wife since 2009 and not had it anywhere else since. Big Fabu!!!!!!!!!!
Abegi!!!!!
I can understand how child birth can be traumatizing. If she is that traumatizing that she is forgoing sex, you guys need to go seek a sex therapist. I am sure she associates sex with pregnancy and she doesn't want to get pregnant hence no sex. In the meantime, you need to assure her that you will wear condom and pull out before you cum even with condom on. That will lessen her fear of pregnancy until she has finished dealing with her child birth trauma through a professional help.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, it's probably hormonal imbalance. Try to see Prof. Ashiru of Medical Art Centre if you are in Lag, he's very good with endocrine issues but as you are praying try to be more affectionate(touching, laughing together and even kissing without pressure. All the best.
ReplyDeleteMrs please give him sex, you have a good husband, dont make him change. Sex is important in marriage. Just tell him how exactly you want him to do it. Pls o give him some.
ReplyDeleteGoodluck poster
Nawa ooh! wetin persn no go hear for Stella blog?Take banana,u go yoo
ReplyDeleteA̶̲̥̅♏ not suprise about dis story? my very close friend got married since 2011 and he has not have sex with his wife.his wife claims to be a virgin.any time he was to make love to her,she cry and scream.so he leaves her alone.d guy is dying in silence.he cud not tell any1 expect me.ℓ̊ told him to call for a family meeting becos dis is a spiritual issue.
ReplyDeleteWho brought d idea of stayin in d diferent rooms in d 1st place? Trust me its rilly nt advicable den Mr don't pressurize her, talk 2 her, seek expert help n put it b4 God in prayer.
ReplyDeleteMaybe b4 u married her,she was addicted to dildos think.think about it.no mata hw big a man's snake is with time the vagina will accommodate it,no mata hw small the hole is.
ReplyDelete