I am looking for people who can connect with the word heartbreak.
heartbreak caused by loving someone and losing them....not that they died but that it
didn't work out and they had to move on..sometimes when they move on,we are left at the same spot yearning for them.
Heartbreak is the worst thing that can happen to any one...male or female.
Heartbreak comes in different forms,sometimes the people we love don't move on but their every action breaks us.
Some people become suicidal when they are heart broken.
whats your heartbreak story?
The first boyfriend i ever had was a ladies man..I got all the love and attention and gifts but so did his other girls...lol
He left me because he said he couldn't do a relationship without sex and i was too scared to part my thighs.
because he had a monster between his legs...LOL.
What did i do?I got drunk and cried,weighed my options and decided i didn't want the monster.LMAO!
What did you do?
Why would a girl have only one boyfriend? I'm not saying u should sleep with d other guys o ! Just keep them in case one tells u something like, "honey, you know this thing we have is not ..." . U should b able tell him boldly, "ok bye" in reply, b4 he completes d fucking sentence .
ReplyDeleteWatch what happens after that!
Only a slow girl gets heartbroken these days.
Na lie o! Not only slow girls gets heartbroken . I am an example of dat, I have friends around me dat am dating but not sexually intimate but there is dis particular man I so much like n respect maybe cos his d richest of all my male friends I don't know y I love him. He is a workaholic n don't have much time for me. Anytime I call him, he will be like am busy call me back, sometimes he will be like u think its ur own dat is doing me, I need to make money , yet I keep hoping dat someday he will have my time n return d love. I keep hoping cos sometimes when we r together he will be like, I like u but I have to work! Am heartbroken cos am tired of d whole excuse but I don't know how to let go even my oda male friends can't help cos I don't have d kind of feelings n connection I have with dis oda guy. God help me !
DeleteNa the money you dey look. Nne just don't call him anymore.... you need to hold out sometimes even though e dey hard.
DeleteHe "forms" the busy-busy thingy 4 u? Lol . Anyways ,I totally understand you.
DeleteDear, he DOESN'T love you, believe me. A guy who is in love with u MUST squeeze out time from his busy schedule to CALL you at least.
I don't think a girl should waste her time thinking about a guy who doesn't love her.
Find something to keep you busy and pray 4 d right person - that's d best advice a person in ur situ. could ever get.
Rough Diamond is his name Alex Iyamu?
DeleteThat one na gobe o
Deleteclick HERE for more gist
I had been heartbroken SEVERALLY funny enuff by d same guy i am still with till date.there were so many hideous thinz i did,bur i will just talk about a few of dem. We started dis relationship way back in my 100level in sch,dat was in 2005.He was a ladies man in d sense dat,he was likable by ladies. There was a time he cheated on me and i felt i cud not take it,i used about ten capsules of sleeping tablets,thank god he came in around dat time and noticed wat i had done,he quickly almost emptied a bottle of palm oil in my mouth. Another time,we were both in d car,he was driving and all of a sudden,i hijacked d steering from him and he struggled it with me,i wasn't thinking right,i was like,instead of another girl to av u,i wud rather kill us both. Thank god he managed to control d car,if not hmmmm. Another time i drank a big bottle of sqadron,i alomost died. Love and its pains
ReplyDelete@ skimpy... IDIOT
DeleteNne u need deliverance o, wat u feel ain't love but obsession!
DeleteBabe ar u even ok? Sorry 2 ask buh... Dat is not normal. Wot u feel is not love, u only feel ugly& fear u myt not find anoda. He only pities u... & 2 think dat u wan 2 take ur life cos of a man.. It's visa 2 hellfire!
DeleteWell said anno 1. 37, my dear you better get out of that relationship as fast as you can. The relationship is not healthy and no man is worth dying for. He is still with you because of pity and you can never force him to love you.
DeleteDee
WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!!! (Shouting)
DeleteIf dis is true den u need deliverance. Trying to kill urself and the guy for wat na? Beta do something bout dis rubbish u think is love cos the guy may still leave u
DeleteMy dear,you need help!Get it by any means possible.Don't end up dead or in prison for life in the name of what you call love.imagine if your partner gives u a bit of what you re putting him thro.you will run from him as u would a mad man!You will do same to any partner you date; except you get help!God be with you!Signed:wide eyed!
DeleteU are a sorry case dear.U r depressed and need urgent medical help.
DeleteYou've been drinking the wrong things.......abeg,the next time, drink BLEACH?
DeleteLmao @drink bleach!!
DeletePls is the guy's name chibuike frm imo state? Cos I met a guy like 2months ago and he kept askin me out. He said he wants to break up wit his gf cos she is too hot tempered and takes drastic measures. He used an incident of d girl grabbin the steering wheels frm him on a highway cos she was angry. Ur story jst sounds like u r d girl. Pls let me knw if he is d one
DeleteThis one dey crase o! All because of man? Hian!!!
DeleteA lady was quarelling with the hûbby while on their way bk froom the villa. She got very angry n started jerking the steering,the hubby struggled n shouted with her not to let her anger kill them all(they were with their 3 kids n one niece). She slapped him(according to d kids) n started jerking d steering badly. The car crashed n all were wounded. Only her died cos in her anger she removed her seat belt. MY DEAR,DO NOT DIE UNNECESSARILY OOO. BTW,See a doc cos u need help cos of ur suicidal tendencies
DeleteLol, u guys are mean . Cant stop laughing
Deletesapele babe in Lagos: you are spot on abeg! What a way to live your life!
DeletePpl think I havent gotten over the first one even though I had been in more than ten relationships after that.Maybe its coz all my ex's still do call me n we are friends.My first is still so special(freind) to me till today, we do fight even dou we friends but he always wud apologise even when its my fault coz I delibrately push people just to c hw dey would react but his different from the rest.He tells me evritin n seeks my advice n respects my choices even on personal matters even though his in a relationship n me too also but we talk and chat for minimum ov 6hrs a day.I cried when it was ova buts its ova but I'm happy I neva over react on things, I'd rather lock d toilet n cry till wen am satisfied then its ok.
ReplyDeleteMine was wen I lost bf to a car accident n sterra don't say death don't count o cos that's d worse of all d heartbreaks. I cried for months cos he was the best thing that happened to me on earth. He was my everything frm dad to Bro to bestie to lover to teacher to preacher Kai anytime I think abt him I say a silent prayer in my heart 4 him. I'm married now but it's not d same.
ReplyDeleteSorry love!That's the worst kind!Heartbreak from death.kai!it will be sooooo painful!God keep you dear! Signed:wide eyed!
DeleteM jst on my way back 2lag.went 2 visit my best friend who lost her husband last month..she's 27yrs n dey were married 4 3yrs witout any child.dey were best of friends.dey were realy realy close cuz dey met as virgins.dere was dis day I went2 her room n she was lookin realy worried I asked her wat d problem was n she confided in me.she said she doesn't av a hole in her bumbum..dat d guy tried 2 look 4 it d previous 9t n he didn't c any hole...(I always laff weneva I thnk of dis day)ryt nw I dnt even knw hw 2 comfort her.she doesn't av any reason 2 liv again.she tld me she prays 4 death everyday..my prayer is 4 God 2 continue2 strengthen her
DeleteIt's d worse dear wen I heard d news en my heart broke literally. I could feel pains in my chest.
DeleteMine wasnt a day's hrtbreak. I woke up wit de pain n went to bed with de pain. Everywia i wnt to, everytin i did, i had de pain wt me but didnt av de self worth to leave him. He treated me lyk shit, enjoyed makin me yearn for more pain gav me notin but sheer pain. Am married nw wt kids. I stil tink of him n wish i married him... But i dnt tink he remembers ever datin me.
ReplyDeleteIt happens my dear..just try n gather ursef n move on
DeleteAunty stella oh! @Monster in btw his legs
ReplyDeleteI've had heartbreaks in d past.The most painful was d 1 dat happend sometime ago.
ReplyDeleteWen I met Femi,I fell in luv with him @ 1st sight.Who wouldn't? He was hardworking,cute and with a gud sense of humour. We bcame frnds. The chemistry btw us was magical and dz led to series of late night hanging outs dt resulted to kissing,fondling n wt av u. He kept on telling me that he cdnt giv me wht I want,that e cdnt b in a rel with me bcos he hasn't gottn over d rejection his former gf gave him. That e doesn't wnt to take advantg of me.I kept on tryin 2 make him strt a rel wit me.And mayb that's wher I got it wrong. D 1st tym(which was d last too) dt we had sex was so outa dis world,e was damn good! Hw cd e tel me dt e cnt offer me a relatnshp bt kept on leading me on? Several months later,e stopped picking my calls,ignored sms,whatsapp etc. When e eventually ansad my call,e sed 'whts d use comin to c u when nothing can com outa it?' God! I was embarrassed,hurt n dejected. I deleted his contact frm my fonebuk bt yet,I stil luv him and I'm mad @ mysef for such stupidity. #FMH!#
@ Fuck me Hard!,I think u gave ursef to him. I knw how it feels wen sm1 u luv,luv sm1 else.nothing hurts more. Dnt worry,all is well. Femi's enemy
DeleteI have not experienced heartbreak before cos i've fallen in love with any girl.the reason is because i am afraid 2 approach d gal i love cos i donno how she will react. I am A 24 years, A virgin,i don't smoke nor take alcohol. Plz open A post 2 get advice on how 2 approach A gal.10q
ReplyDeleteStella you a liar.You are a prostitute don't come hear and go all Linda Ikeji on your bloggers.You both are poverty scums bringing down the rich and famous.Youbare a known prostitute in Germany
ReplyDeleteLater, she has accomplished greatly. What have achieved faceless human being. Ewu
DeleteWhy some people just comment STUPIDLY beats me...†̥ tink people Α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ saying something serious here and this dimwit is calling Stella a prostitute,does it relate †̥ what is being discussed?ok,her being successful today is ΰя heartbreak,u for talk so naa.Mtscheew...Asswipe!
DeleteWhat's ur business if she's a prostitute? Y don't u put a name n a pic to ursel so we can see who u really r. Imbecile.
DeleteKikikikikikikikikiki! I'm sure Stella wrote something about you which perhaps is true. And e dey pain u. Nne you can like to coolitdan!
DeleteFaceless ewu Gambia, ur a fool ooooo... Ashawoshi faceless aturu. Sterra no mind am
Delete@julit lol, definately the babe is hurt! Stella has probably posted her runz info on here that's why! LMAO! She's now calling stella a prostitute! A prostitute that is calling a respectable and fearless blogger a prostitute! Aunty Stella dey fear una? She no dey fear una ooo ! She will continue to open all u Naija runz women's yansh!
DeleteHmmm, so sorry for ur loss dear.
ReplyDeleteI left a rship mutually bcos we thot we were both AS, I later got married to someone else and during antenatal of my 1st son, I was told i was AA, I was really sad, cos I loved d other guy, but its too late now, I have my family now.
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwwwww,' Ʊ both thought'??Una for do genotype tests †̥ confirm naa.Haba...such a loss.Anyways,like u rightly said,too late now.God bless Ʊ and ΰя family dear!
DeleteAwwwwwwwwwww...Pele
Deletedrink one bottle of squadron and sleeping tablets bcos of a man ? na bcos una no get work. byeee.
ReplyDeleteFunny enough,I've always been the person dishing out the heartbreaks.=))º°˚˚˚°ºLmaoº°˚˚˚°º°º=))!! I had this guy that I really liked o! Kai! As in! He was not that good looking o! But he had charisma and knew how to carry himself and his voice used to make me swoon!!! But he was a very "smooth operator" he knew how to lie and string ladies along(I didn't know it then).it hurt when I found out but for some reason I thought he'd change but he didn't! What broke the camels back was when he got another lady pregnant and was still denying it,saying the lady tricked him,froze his sperm and impregnated herself! (Chai! I chop somtin sha) I decided to play along o! I kept him there,playing the good girl till my soulmate locates me...All the while he was getting serious and willing to propose et al. He even went shopping for engagement rings, I was planning my own wedding. I sent him a text the day I got married... He called in the evening wailing! I reminded him of the humiliation and lies I suffered in his hands..he isn't married till today. Guess you could call it revenge or heartbreak
ReplyDeleteGod prosper you my sister!
Deletethis is brilliant! Well done, lady! You did well! They can't always have it their way. Subtlety pays
DeleteGod bless u sister
DeleteGod bless you real good.
DeleteI ve had 2 major heartbreaks!I got over them quickly but suffered nonetheless!I' d say its better to nurse a broken arm with a sling connecting your hand to ur neck than nursing a broken heart! Mourning a lost relationship is painful! The only good outcome for me, is the weight loss from lack of appetite!Amazingly,na me dey scatter hearts now o!Liver and kidney all join!At this point,nothing can touch or torch me.#Flicks Hair# Signed:wide eyed!
ReplyDeleteI swear,dat weight loss makes sense pa!.. But right now,na to dey scatter hearts anyhow.. no time
DeleteAll of u callin stella a prostitute, she don fuck unna before?
ReplyDeleteHaters oshi, na linda ikeji be prostitute, she'll be forming holy holy bt lustin afta men and writing crap on ha blogs!
She doesn't even sound like a xtian sef.
Anyways!
I read both blogs, and I can honestly tel u that stella is a better blogger.
Xoxo
P.S
Stell shebi ur married?
Tell us ur status.
Xoxo :*
What has this post Got to do with Linda? So you will just sit down at home and have so much hate for person wey no know you? Which kain bondage you dey so? You don chop today? Ozunwuruanwu. Stay mad. You shall remain unknown while Linda's matter continues to pepper you. Who's winning? Your guess is as good as mine. Ode.
DeleteHmmm I've had more dan one oh
ReplyDeleteD first was in highschool I was an ugly geek den everyone hated me cos I was ugly bt dis guy didn't he toasted me for four years I evn had to ask him wat he really wanted from me nd he jus sed he liked me dats all. I finally succumbed nd jus wen everytin was gettin all rosy he started avoidin me nd started havin PDAs wit my friend it was so bad dat I used to cry den I class nd ppl used to surround me like I lost someone, wen he was approached he jus sed he got tired of me, HOW! We hadn't evn so much as kissed...dat was durin final xams but I still graduated Best In Arts nd Humanities so oh well...
D second wz in University to a pastor of a church I won't name cos Aunty may not post well he was nice at first den he started demandin for money of which I mumuishly used to give him den he started tellin me I'm jus one of his girls so I shld strive to b his best choice, we used to touch nd play bt I was a virgin so no sex.. Nd den cm d RAPE he got me pregnant I was two months in nd I had to go tru d painful regretable process of abortn cos I had no one...
Suffice it to say dat till today I cn never trust a man no matter wat
Awwww.. Sorry love... I know what you mean...
DeleteI got my heart broken last year and it was really shitty because I don't really know what happened..we just stopped talking.I was in law school so we were not seeing everyday but we used to call n text all the time then it stopped suddenly. I tried to form stronghead so me sef I didn't call. I got tired and finally called and asked him what's going on, if I did anything wrong. He said I didn't do anything wrong and he doesn't know what's going on ....?!!! Anyway that's how it ended o all my friends say its because we didn't have sex and he got tired till today I don't know the real reason but hey, life goes on.
ReplyDeleteI have been heart broken too many times to remember the worst of them. The latest was 3 months ago for me when the man that said he would marry me suddenly decidely I wasn't God sent again. He is born again, so he said God said am not his wife. After dating for months. Why didn't he seek his consent first b4 dating me? Why didn't he pray first b4 leading me on?It was painful, still is but I get over them with another dude though I don't double date. I just MOVE ON....... Its not by force to love someone so I can't force anyone to love me. If he doesn't want again I will count my blessings and hope for the best in the next one. I've had like 5 serious heartbreak. But I still pick my pieces and move on. I believe in love sha.
ReplyDeleteIf you keep "getting over them with another dude", darling, the cycle will continue. You're only transferring rebound love to the next person. When it wears off, they get bored & leave. Place more value on yourself, you don't need a man to validate you.
Delete@anon 1:03pm, u see how miserable ur life is? U cant even type well, calling her a prostitute will never make ur life better, NEVER. All u pple with dis gist of stella being a prostitute in Germany without one singular proof, una no dey tire? U guyz shld take several seats abeg and try to do something better with ur miserable lives!
ReplyDeleteDon't bother yourself , that anon is probably one of those Island runz "women" stella has opened their yansh! They are just bitter! Who doesn't know stella is happily married? Abegi free that bitter anon
DeleteThe word 'Stella' and 'prostitute' in the same sentence is funny and weird...# stupid haters#
DeleteHmmm..My own nah very long story, Please don't kill yourself for any man. THEY ARE NOT WORTH IT!
ReplyDeleteGod I went to bed in tears and right now am still crying. It's so hard can't believe this hurt but I knw God has gr8t plans for me. It's so hard not to look for him in another guy. Lord help me
ReplyDeleteSo sorry love! I knw how it feels. Giving someone all ur love n attention n the person treats u like its nufin. Life suddenly becomes grey n meaningless. It will take time buh u will eventually heal n it will make u wiser. Stay strong angel.
DeleteTell me bout it
DeleteI've bin crying 4 ova 2mths.
Its nt even getting anybeta
I feel empty witout him
Still don't knw w@ 2 do
Its still so fresh
Worse of all,
I cnt even look @ anoda guy
Sad
I haven't experienced heartbreak ooo. I had one bf in school b4 I married in my Year Two. I marry early sha.
ReplyDeleteYou should have finished school first , now look how bad your English is.
DeleteU bad
DeleteAnon 4.58,I finished school. I wrote my final exams two days after giving birth. Anyway,we dont have to blow grammar in blogs,do we? FYI,I hv an MBA and I'm rounding off my Phd(applause for me abeg) So,I think I can "spoke" well. (IRENE BERNARDS Phd)
DeleteI got dumpd after I got pregnant, he said he had found hz wife.... bla bla bla
ReplyDeleteHmm.my own,am just in my early twenties,in my 4th relationship,neva luved d oda apart 4rm a married man i dated.but left him,and had a self inflicted hrt brk.I'm dating a single guy now
ReplyDeleteSkimpy ko smampy ni u no get sense no be person like u them they find here jor hisssesss
ReplyDeleteIt's tru heartbreak coms in diff forms. Mine was jus unbelievable.
ReplyDeleteI met dis guy wen I was in 100L.e wz in 400L. We bcame so close nd got into a relationship,then, we startd making love. I rmbr vividly dt all d tyms we made luv,I used contraception pills. Smhow,I discovered I was pregnant 4 dis guy, I told him.And hell was let loose. He told me that I assured him all d times we made luv dt I was never gonna get pregnant,hw com I got pregnant den?' He was mad @ me. He avoided me 4rm dt day. I was just in 1st semester 100L.if I gav birth 2a fatherless child,I wld b a total letdown 2 my family whose dignity rested on my shoulders(I was d youngest n d only child who went to d University as all my 4 elder sisters gt preg/ dropd out of sch etc. & neighbours were saying they didn't train us well)
So, I kept d pregnancy,hoping dt Seun wld change his mind.He never did. Then I calld my childhood frnd nd told her evrything, she was pissed @ me,bcos I've always bn d 1 dts against dem avin sex and aborting pregcies while we were stl together. She hookd me up wit a Dr in another state.I went 4 scan nd all dt,I wz xpectin a baby boy. I savd up a li2,bought som baby tinz n hid dem in her room & wz praying dt Seun changd his mind. Finally, my frnd askd me 2 make up my mind as 2 wt 2 do wit d preg. I opted 4 a DnC. On d scheduled day,I told d dr 2 wait for 1 hour,dt if only Seun wld pick my call,I wldnt abort.He never did. And I aborted a 4month old baby.As I'm typing this,tears r flowing down my face as I rmbr seein my boy's leg.Oh d pain I felt was out of dz world.Then,Asuu calld off strike,I went bak 2 schl,saw him,e didn't even blink an eye! His frnd told me dt e confided in him dt e didn't tink e wz d only I was fucking.Can u imagine? If only I ad waitd 5 mor months,my baby boi would av bn beside me now.bt I didn't,I cut short his life nd would live with it 4 d rest of my life. #HS#
Men! Most of them have curses on their heads and they don't even know it... Sorry for your loss though, only you know how difficult it is cos no one else understands until it happens to them...
DeleteHmmmn, stories that touch! Aborting a 4months pregnancy?chai!....anyways I hope u are married now and have kids too...
Delete@HS, my thoughts are with you sweetheart. I had a friend who was in a similar situation as you Infact the only difference was her pregnancy was 7momths when she finally a bored the baby. I still cannot get over it.this life sha.
DeleteThk u all 4 ur comments,I swear it means a lot to me. I had opportunities to do grave harms to him but I didn't.I let him go.y? Becos I'm thankful that after d abortion,I went bak 4 check up almost 5 tyms in diffrent places and nothing was found wrong. I can get pregnant again. So whts d use harmin him wen I survived d process? I let seun go but I knw 1 day,e'l seek me out. #HS#
DeleteHmmmm. Heartbreak! Bin thru a lot. D most recent happened abt 2yrs ago. Dated dis guy 4 months, we were even talkin marriage sef. Den he had an accident, which made him undergo surgery. Wuz with him thru out. Went 2 c him evryday. Wuz discharged on my bday. Tuk kare of him. Wuz like I dint have a life (all in d name of love). 2 cut d story short, he wuz datin sum1. Saw a msg on his fone. Asked him abt it. Said he dint owe me any xplanation. I said ok. Left his place. Now he's beggin me, sayin he's sorry n all dat crap. But nah, nt interested. God will bring d rite man my way.
ReplyDeletenever bin heartbroken cos wen i sense the guy is about to bail or acting funny...i simply ask him if he wants to be wit me or not...wateva his answer i just cancel d relationship of my mind...but give him d chance to call it off himself...
ReplyDeleteim still friends wif my exs(3) i dont av d time to hate..
im presently engaged to d love of my life
You just like me. We must be sisters. Lol
DeleteNeva been heartbroken before..Once i sense ЪŦ †ђξ guy is no longer interested.,i kick him out immediately..And den pick a replacement from †ђξ ones waiting for ♍ε̲ to L♥√ع dem!!
Delete@2:41 Shed the tears but don't linger on it. I hv a friend whose life hs given me hope that good guys who are of sound mind, fear God, and treat women right still exist. God has great plans for you, it wont be long! It only will be even better
ReplyDeleteLee talk your own abeg! Stop referring to the life of a friend that does not exist. Yeye
DeleteI had an heartbreak when I was in yr1 to a corper dat I met wen I was working part time while school was on strike.The guy is an edo guy ,handsome and very intelligent.All of a sudden he said he doesn't love me enough to marry me after disvirgining me and meeting my parent.he left me the same week my mum died and didn't even come to pay her his last respect,I had to nurse 2 heartbreak together.its still so painful even though am married and have a child now.
ReplyDeleteI remember I met one ijot 2yrs back who used me to do Mumu. he used my head too much, wen I moved on was wen he came n started begging like a goat was still leading him on while preparing 4 my wedding. Wen he discovered he called n sent messages n I didn't even reply till today, If I had wasted my time thinking he would marry me like he promised I 4 still de on a long thing, stupid womaniser like him.
ReplyDeleteI just suffered d worst heartbreak of my life recently,I was dating this guy and he was d best BF I ever had,I travelled home cos of d Asuu strike,and I have been calling him for days,its unlike him not to pick my calls,I was scared and had every thought in my mind but cudnt imagine he was cheating,I travelled down to sch,calling him all tru my 6 hours journey,I arrived @ his house and on getting there,I saw him with another girl in d Bathroom,they didn't even bother to lock d door.I didn't knw how I made it back to Lagos,its happened 2weeks ago and he hadn't even flash me not to talk of calling me,my heart feels battered right now
ReplyDeleteMy dear, he will soon call you and try to use your head.. Am sure he will tell you the reason he couldn't call u immediately is cause he felt bad and knew he has wronged you and doesn't think u can forgive him and he didn't know what to tell you.. He will claim he still loves you very much and he doesn't know what came over him..
DeleteDon't ever listen to him, forgive and never go back to him. Tell him you are no more interested,u are better off without him. Just use this period to heal and get over him..Never Ever evn call his Number for any stupid explanation..Advise from experience
Waohhhhhhh! This sure brought back some bitter memories. I met this guy in uni then Segun, kind caring etc. Until we got to part 3 or so and we resumed from hols only to hear from my classmates that my so called boyfriend travelled to UK on holidays. I asked him he was like no. Then he started moving with the so called big boys, and he found himself a girlfriend to match his new status. The small cute girl who was with him when he was just ok was no longer appealing. I still remember the humiliation I faced from Ruth and her supporters. I could go on and on, like this guy would still come to meet me telling me all sorts even when he knew that he would still go back to madam Ruth. Talk about emotional blackmail. I managed to get over him, and never even thought about them again.
DeleteFast forward to present, am happily married with a lovely kid, both of them? He is now a full fledged playboy and as for her? She sure got served as well and is now very much single.
I pray for them both as I look back and realise that some things were really not worth the stress but was only blinded by fear of rejection and heartbreak. Sorry Stella for mentioning names :(
I had the worst heartbreak of my life last year. My BF from Uni suddenly decided he had had enough of me. We actually worked our service to the same state so we won't be far from each oda. All of a sudden all the love was gone as we resumed camp. He started dating someone in my platoon. That was the worst time of my life I couldn't even spend the mandatory 3wks in camp. I had to go home when I almost died. I went from a size 16 to a size 12! I kid u not. This guy was my best friend and I still can't explain what went wrong cos there was no fight at all!
ReplyDeletePls, is dis guy'z name Daniel??
DeleteIz his name Daniel???
DeletePls, is dis guy'z name Daniel??
DeleteThis is serious o.All these because of a man?I can't deal.
ReplyDeleteMy dear
DeletePray against it o
If e come, u go deal
Its beyond words............
Hmmm where do i start frm?Stella dear,i am still pained.Dated this guy for 5yrs...i loved him so much and never cheated on him...we planned to get married in oct,our introduction was fixed for d 29th of june,i got the shock of my life wen i found out he was married wit 2kids(happily married stella)its still like a dream to me and i'm still in pain.I dont even know where to start from,he decieved me,saw my parents,saw my parish priest,made me start marriage counceling.Stella see my life
ReplyDeleteMy dear, thank God for your life.. If u are complaining, what do u expect his wife to do.. As far as am concerned,na d wife I pity..There nothing as sad as been married to a heartless man.. God just showed u nobody is to be trusted..
DeleteLet me tell u my story.. I was dating a guy dat got married a day before my birthday(saturday) and my birthday was d sunday.He lied to me he had a paper on my birthday so we won't be able to see not knowing dat was his thanks giving..lol...His masters was a weekend program so he goes normally by weekeds.. A friend in jand just called me and told me so so person got married and I was like really? I just pinged him and I was like happy married life and he had the gut to reply that thank u..
I felt bad but then I looked on the brighter side, getting married to him would have been the worst mistake of my life.. I just pity the babe he married cuz I heard she was preggy for him.. I thank God for my life everyday cause such a man is a devil and I deserve better..
Omg!!! Dated for 5yrs n no signs that he was married??? Most men are cruel. I was almost a victim of that too. I pray that God will send you the right person Amen.
DeleteI ws and am stil heartbroken,I met n fell inluv wit my 1st bf,we started datin wen I ws 16,very young but as young as I ws,I knew I luvd him n it ws all dat mattered,we were frnds 4 a while b4 we started dating,he dint touch me 4 over a yr...I luvd him too much 4 my own gud,den d cheatin began,I alwaz 4gave him cos I blived a rltnshp is al abt 4gvness,unconditional luv,patience,commitment,faithfulnes,I tot it dint matter wat he did,I held on....if I buy him gifts,he wuld say dey are cheap,4 a period of 3months,he didn't contact me,he wuldnt pick my calls or return my msgs...I ws scared I tot sumtin had happened 2 him....I dint knw if I shuld go 2 his place 2 check up on him or nt cos dip insyd me I ws scared dat if I go,I myt find him wit a woman...after d 3months,he started pickin my calls n he gvae flimsy excuses 4 all dat,foolish me,I dint mind,I ws just hapi I culd hear his voice,den I decided 2 go visit him...on my way,we were attackd by armed robbers,4 passengers were killed...tank God,I wsnt among d casualties,in all dese,I neva complained,he wuld say I lyk moni too much,I dnt dress well....God knws av only askd him 4 moni only 1ce in d course of our rltnshp n dat ws cos d moni my frnd kept wit me ws stolen,I knw I dint av much but I dress neat and I cnt steal 2 buy d most expensive tins..2 cut dis long story short,I found out he ws gettin married,we were stil datin til den,I neva knew til I stumbled on d invitations....after he got married,he started peddling rumours dat I ws slipin wit his frnd,may God 4gve him...I culdnt slip,I culd hardly eat,I ws terribly heartbroken,I ws blaming myself 4 all dat happened,mayb its sumtin I did or sed,av bin goin ova and ova it,I dnt knw wat I did,I called him and askd him 2 pls tell me my faults,I begged him...I cried til I culdnt cry anymore,he is nt a bad person,he is just a humanbeing wit flaws,his wife called me after some months in2 dia weddin,she must av gotten my no 4rm his fone,she sed I shuld pls 4gve her husband dat she undastnds d pain I feel,I told her its alryt,aldo I am hurt but I 4gve him,I av 4gven him a long tym ago...am nt blamin him but I wish I know wat I did dat made him dat way.its bin over 2yrs but I cnt 4get,wat did I do?wat went wrong?wat happened?ws I too naïve 4 him?I cukd,I cleaned,I had sex wit him even tho it ws alwaz a painful experience but I tot,he is my man,my lover,my frnd.I want my heart 2 heal,I want 2 be able 2 luv again...I dnt want dis pain anymore,I want 2 let go but its nt happening,I dnt knw wat 2 do,it hurts too much,I swear its alwaz lyk its a physical pain in my chest...I cnt throw away his ring or pictures,I dnt knw hw 2 overcome dis...I just dnt knw...on d day b4 his wedding,I sent him a msg,I wrote"I am sori if I av eva wronged u,if I pushed u in2 d arms of anoda woman,I wil alwaz luv u and I hold no grudge againt u,God bless u,hapi married lyf in advance"..I dnt knw y I feel worthless....I feel lyk mayb deres sumtin abt me dat is nt luvable dat drove him away.I dnt knw,I dnt knw anytin anymore..
ReplyDeleteMy dear, nothing is wrong with you, he is just not a sincere person and God doesn't want that for you... Let it go..Forget him..Am sure when u pray to God for a man everyday,u don't ask for a man full of deceit, a man who stays with and woman and marries another.. Such men can definitely not be faithful in marriage..
DeleteU are better than him, u deserve better, say that to yourself everyday and see how God will surprise u
Am so sorry for your loss dear,but pls let go of the pain one way or the other. You need to help yourself by throwing away everything that has to do wiv him,pls go as far as detroying or burning some,that way there wud be an air of finality and breathe of fresh air,its painful doing that but that's the only option you ve gat now,then move closer to God,pray well,attend church services and midweek,join a unit in church and do more of midnight prayers.Instead of thinking and counting the ceilings at night or anytime prophecy good things into ur life and destiny and gradually you wud begin to feel better and your tight chest filled wiv pains would begin to feel free and happier. It is well kk, there is no pain without an ending jes believe that kk,dnt forget the tot of the Lord towards us are of good and not of evil to bring us to an expected end. The glory of the latter shall be greater than the former in ur life In Jesus name. Watch out kk its gonna end wiv joy. Plenty hugs.
DeleteDon't you ever let anyone make you feel less than you are, I don't know you, but I can tell you have a good heart, you just fell into the wrong hands. Everyday when you wake up, look into the mirror and tell yourself how lucky you are to have escaped an animal like that, he used your innocence and trust to his advantage and you making it look like it was your fault? You are fabulous, don't let any man make you feel worse about yourself. Love yourself first, build your self esteem and am sure one of the million guys will come to appreciate you for who you are.....
DeleteI have exprienced heartbreak twice they both happened last year! Although am almost over both of em buh I still hate this two guys n I feel I nEed to harm em(may God 4give my evil thoughts). I met the first guy in 2008 hez name is iyke, I just finished second sch then. He was crazy about me then n I really suffered him before I agreed mainly coz my family is very religious n frowned upon dating, he was in the uni then so d relationship was on n off. In 2011 I was more free from my family's influence so I opened up to this guy n told him I really loved him buh then he had another girl buh he didn't tell me. He was a broke ass so I Did him a lot of favours n gave him things out of love when I found out about the other girl, he claimed she is wayward n that he can't marry Her that am the one he wants(cock and bull story) I was so so heartbroken so I left him. A month after dat I met another guy, I didn't really like him buh d pain from this first guy was much n I needed to 4get him. So I agreed to date the new guy(worst decision I ever made), I asked him if he has a girl friend n he said "NO" so I gave him my sincere love two months into the relationship(december2012) I noticed he was hiding something n in my heart I just knew he had another girl. I checked hez fone n it was confirmed, I confronted him n he was acting all cold n non chalant(guess what? He was dating the girl even before he met me buh shez not in same town with us). Mehn I was mad, I told him to give me all my stuffs wif him including d gifts I gave him n it resulted into a big fight. Trust me to be a lioness wen angry I scattered hez things n even threatened to harm him(crazy me) n still took my stuffs n left. I went home and cried like crazy I felt so humiliated n hurt, I even taught of killing myself. My heart was torn. I cried in sch,in church,in d taxi, at d bank, walking along the road, infact I practically shedded tears everywhere. Then I made up my mind to stop the self pity bullshit n be a strong woman, I stop crying and started praying,God really helped me. Now am one tough lady guys wonder if I even hv a heart coz nufin moves me anymore. I hv 4given my Exs although I am currently not speaking to the last guy buh I hv 4given em although I still despise em. I hv a sweet loving guy now buh my heart is still shut. I will open it when we get married. #pls 4give my typos.
ReplyDeleteInfact ehn, I was knew a guy called elvis. Bloody mofo, the guy was into yahoo stuffs and he would ask me to please pretend to be someone else on the phone and speak to his maga. After wards he would start rapping me telling me how much he loved me and how he would buy me the world when his maga pays. But every time the same story I always heard was they hadn't paid. Apparently, guy was spending his money on a smallie called Maggie. As in this guy used me, set me up, looking back now I can say I was really a fool in love. I desperately begged this guy to love me to no avail. Until he told me to my face he preferred Maggie to me. After slaving g my self to please him! But that was all I needed to hear to walk away and rebuild my self esteem. This is a guy that only had oND whilst I was studying in one of the best universities in the country. I just faced my studies and I am glad with myself today. As for the guy, I heard he is still drooling over his Maggie, but the babe send on realise say she no be im levels as she sef don graduate and parole with like minded guys.
DeleteThat God for age and maturity.
Mehn that thing messes up ones self esteem, then I was feeling not good enough. Then I realised it wasn't me it them! They are bloody filthy dogs with mouth odour sometimes and poor dress sense(lol all the things love covers) n we deserve better sis. Nemesis will soon catch up with those hungry mofos. Thank God for age n maturity for real am a happier person now.
DeleteI knw one Edo Elvis that lives in gwarimpa. Na im?
DeleteNo dear!
DeleteThis one is an igbo guy
DeleteAnon 8:20 this is anon 6:41. Yeah, this Elvis am talking about is an edo guy but last I know about him he was living in lagos but who knows where he is now, Idgaf anyways.
DeleteLwkmd @elvis for gwarimpa. Elvis onye Igbo putakwa o!
DeleteCheating men are filthy animals that deserve raw acid sprayed on their dick! Lol lemme see what they will use in banging their whores
DeleteI myt be able 2 get help,av read buks,av talked 2 my pastor,av seen a counsellor...notin seems 2 help,av cried 2 God but my heart stil bleeds,Aunt stella pls publish my story...I knw its too long,I nid help...I just want 2 get over dis,I want anoda rltnshp but am so scared,I get panic attacks just tinkin of anoda rltnshp,I cnt continue lyk dis,I want 2 muv on,So help me God!
ReplyDeleteHrtbrks? Hmmm. Wen I sense sth wrng with a r/s I walk away... Well, I use to walka away until I met ds guy...cute nice dude. We dated for a few mnths and the the drama started. He'll go out almost every weekend, get drunk and come bk really late. Smtyms @5am the next morn. Initially I thot nth of it but wen it became like a weekend habit I got really uncomfortable and I talked to him abt it. Who wants to get married to a guy that doesn't call wen he says he'll call, goes out almost every weekend to drink with his friends and never takes u along, doesn't pick ur calls wen he is out etc. Everytym I complained, we'll have a fight, brkup for a day or 2, make up and start all over again... One day I decided to read his msgs and the msgs I saw? Talking abt fav sex positions with anoda lady, planning a visit n crap like that. I confronted him and he said it was nth. Well eventually he left for camp and the communicatn jus got messed up. Cudnt take it anymore so I asked for a brkup. I cried, and cried and at a point even begged him to take me back and he said no...then I got a rebound..fast fwd to few months after the brkup...calls me to ask me for 50k to sort himself out...hahaha.
ReplyDeleteHe is a fool!!!
DeleteI had a very bad heartbreak. Was in my first year in Uni and i met a guy at a party who surprisingly knew me from church. We started dating although he was 9 years older than me. He. Became my very first love. He disvirged me and we were so much in love and the envy of all. Over a year later, i got pregnant, he begged me to have an abortion which i did and soon he started acting up and i found out he was dating a fellow usher in church. (church workers. Smh. May God have mercy).
ReplyDeleteI cried and cried and cried and guess what. . . I married the next guy i met only 4 months later. Not the smartest move but God knew my heart, he helped me and i have been married for ten good years now. It has been wonderful all the way and i just bless God. I have two beautiful kids now and one more to go.
I hooked up wit my so called first love sometime ago and we chatted. I could still feel that unholy love for him but i let it go immediately. Cos shit happens.
Heartbreak. . . Its not a good gist at all.
The guy is still somewhere in my heart, he is also married now and we gist from time to time. I thank God for my home and thank God i took a strange decision that paid me big time.
Cheers
nesquared
Well, I've never been one to wallow in self pity ova a guy...... They act like shit, I treat dem like tissue..... I don't bother myself cos if they don't want me or can't fight for me, it's their loss.
DeleteMine wasn't a case of heartbreak tho..... I was the one who broke up wiv him wen I noticed he was doing stuffs to intentionally piss me off...... Wen I say I don't like sth, he keeps doing it over again..... But after the break up, I felt bad for him, and called to see if we could work things out......he said he was in another rel..... I moved on....Today? I'm glad he didn't accept my proposal..... *grins* I won't tell u why *tongue out* he calls me frequently, pleading and sometimes crying.... The girl that was making him intentionally piss me off, has suddenly become an orobo mama...she just blew up out of the blues.. He can't take it no more he's trying to run...hahahaha
I have had one too many heartbreaks but the worst yet is a guy I dated for 3yrs, got engaged to him n somwhr along the line everything got shattered b4 my very eyes. It's been 2years now n I'm still not out of it. He's getting married next weekend and I still might just commit suicide b4 then! *sighs
ReplyDeleteForgot to mention I lost my virginity to him when we got engaged (biggest mistake), I'm now celibate though. The experience still makes me cry myself away
DeleteYou are looking for who will pity you and beg you not to commit suicide abi? Dude has moved on and is even getting married and you are here talking about suicide? Go on, commit it. Please send us an invite though so that we can witness it and probably record it and cheer you on cus a lot of us have not been privileged to watch a LIVE suicide scene.
DeleteGod forbid that you commit suicide over ANY MAN (more so another woman's man). That's NEVER an option! Cry, wail, grieve, weep, lament........do all you can to let out the pains.....but don't forget that when there's life, there's hope. Let the whole world give up on you, as long as you don't give up on yourself, God will also NOT give up on you dearie. Definitely you won't understand what you've been SAVED from (perhaps a catastrophe marriage) until later in life when you will be counting your blessings.
DeleteTrust in God and don't ever force or beg anyone to love you. Surround yourself with good pple who values your worth and existence. Know that the right opportunities will definitely come looking for you and the right man will not only come but will stay with you ever after. Ensure you reconcile with your God and live a life of excellence and integrity and do good even when it's most difficult and good people will come looking for you. Just hang in there your opportunity will come because God hasn't forgotten you, just seek Him.
I fell in love 3mths ago,I did everything in my power to show I loved him and thru out our relationship he treated me like shit,even dating other girls. And he made sure I knew abt it and I still loved him and respected him,he even wanted me 2 organize a twossome for us claimin it will make our relationship stronger and tho I had neva done it bfre I was willin to do it.....and 2daay he left me,I'm so heartbroken I can't even cry,cause I love him so much....how do I get my life together again,how?
ReplyDeleteYou are the most stupid person that I have ever heard of in my life.
ReplyDeleteU are d most stupid person to eva grace this blog
DeleteWere all dis guys.make una open up oo..na only guls dey write here.
ReplyDeleteHeartbreak comes in diff form,Of all d heart breaks av experienced,d most painfull was wt a guy I nvr got d chance to prove my love to.I was intoduced to dis guy in his early forties by a mutual older person to us,after dat day, he nvr bother to call,always giving excuse abt a busy office schdule,after sometime he nvr bother to even reply my texts msg again not to talk of picking my calls, up till dis moment I cld not get him out of my mind, really tried, I really wished I nvr met him, becos I feel pained each time I rem d way he treated me,but despite everytin,I still wished he will give us a chance,becos I tink av fallen in love,who say there is notin like love at first sight.
ReplyDeleteHahaha.....dat man must be rich....*shines teeth*
DeleteBeBe
I have had my heart broken 3times nd sadly by the same man. We. Dated for 18months nd after the first three months of total bliss he started showing his true colors. But that didn't stop me. From loving him. All the lies, cheating and outrageous request I still remained faithful and soo in love with him. it got to a point where I lied to all my friends and family about my relationship with him, I told them all we had broken up even though I was still very much with him. After the recent fight which started because I went out with my friends (he always wanted me to stay home) he rained all sorts of unmentionable insults on me and we broke up (again). This time although I feel like my heart is in a hard grip nd I space out nd can barely concentrate I an glad I am finally set free. Cos if he didn't let me go (btw I had to beg him to let me go) I would've been stuck in his unyeilding grip. I am suffering in silence cos everybody around me thinks d relationship had ended months back.
ReplyDeleteNo man is worth dying for.. Ladies, life is beautiful. Deal with your self-esteem issues and don't ever allow a man validate you..
ReplyDeleteheart break no easy o. after dating someone for 8years and undergoing five abortions the bastard got someone else pregnant and wants to marry her. its well o
ReplyDeleteAnonymous N0 9, Would you please leave Stella alone? Am very sure you are not a saint either, your story might even be the worst of all.
ReplyDeleteBottom line from the numerous heartbreaks is that most girls have very very low esteem!How else would u stay in a relationship that's sOo abusive and makes u less of a human?I mean how?
ReplyDeleteFor the christians please read and understand what 1Corinthias 13:4-8 clearly states about love,if someone aint showoing u even one of that then sorry he's selfish and doesn't love u one atom!
And MY GOD PLEASE CLOSE your legs!its the bane of all your problems.
God didn't ask us to flee from fornication for fun,he's our creator,he knows what best for us.ah ah I'm pained,all these so called christians defiling God's temple,say how?smh
ummh, me have like 3 hrt breaks if nit 4self,the and all are painful, is it my 1st boifrend dat took my virginity after a bid oath, dat hunt me for 6yrs before we break the oath, or my 2nd boifnd dat too jealos dat made me loose my admision to study medcine in lauthec, or my doctor fiance dat led me on thinkin abt marriage wen i av just 2month to finish my nysc, ummh i cant write te stories cuz it too long. but alihamduliliah i av a guy now dat luv me so much dat i control the relationship, infact i just propose to him some days ago and he accepted, he cant wait for me to be his wife, i luv him too, but i dont really show it,dat just my leason and it really work for me. will be gettin married soon, i will give him date wen am ready.
ReplyDeleteU proposed 2 him? U r the mumu!
DeleteDoctor doctor!!!Dis Y̶̲̥̅̊o̶̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊r English sha oo!!!
DeleteThis one na native doctor
Deletethis one naa women show ohh..... Dnt expect too many guys to come here and spill the heart breaks they have had.. Vry difficult for guys to express emotions especially if it's a disappointing one like this... We wld rather not talk abt it... Oyaa over to you ladies..
ReplyDeleteFor d person wey dey call my dear Aunty stella prostitute. Abeg, wetin be ur own? Has aunty stella slept with u b4 niii? Y are u takin Alomo bitters for anoda person headache? Even if she is a prostitute, d tin concern u? Na she get her varjayjay and d tin no dey read meter abeg leave her alone and face urs.
ReplyDeleteMine was a guy....I really loved him...dunno where we lost it buh I know he never asked me out and I asked him wat we were doing and he said nothing...so I decided 2 shut my legs....although, we kissed, sucked, fingered and all.....fast 4ward 2 2years later and he married my twin 4m anoda moda....OMG!!!every1 asked me y I didn't say I was gettin married when I used their pix as dp...I really felt bad cos we talked and he said he felt I was not ready and wanted sometin as flemsy as asking me 2 b his girl...he said d chemistry would have been enough 2 prove 2 me, he said I should have known how I was d 1st person he always ran 2 see whenever he stepped in2 d country...I remember how he left his parents @ abuja airport and took d next flight 2 ph 2 see me d moment he stepped in2 nigeria.
ReplyDeleteI remember how he came wit his friend 2 Yobe potiskum when I was serving just 2 see me...buh I wanted him to ask that question"pls be mine"
Was I naïve??? I spoke 2 sum friends and dey said he was a player else he would define what we had...
I wish I even slept wit him, the memory would linger....d kisses and touches can't leave my head...
Its been 6years since I saw him 1st and 2years since he got married...I have a bf now, he has met my family, buh am ready 2 make a u-turn and follow Femi if he stands 2 oppose my wedding on my wedding day and ask me 2 marry him....I love him that much.
I don't know if I wil ever get over him....I don't know if he broke my heart or I broke him....Femi is disciplined and has never asked 2 see me since we stopped seeing 2years ago.
I Love You my Babatunde....#sobs
BeBe
For d person calling Aunty stella Prostitute, pls if u don't av Original evidence to back up ur claim, just shut up. Has Aunty stella had sex wit u b4 niiii? Even if she is a prostitute in Germany, abeg wetin be ur own? Y u kon dey take Alomo bitters for anoda person headache. Na she get her varjayjay and d tin no det read meter. Abeg go slip if u no get anytin to say.
ReplyDeleteFor d person wey dey call my dear Aunty stella prostitute. Abeg, wetin be ur own? Has aunty stella slept with u b4 niii? Y are u takin Alomo bitters for anoda person headache? Even if she is a prostitute, d tin concern u? Na she get her varjayjay and d tin no dey read meter abeg leave her alone and face urs.
ReplyDeletechaiiii!!!!!!!! WOMEN!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy ex dumped me for a girl I'm 5 yrs older than(4 yrs ago) I almost lost it,I could literarily feel myself going crazy. Cos it happened in a really funny way. At first,she was just a girl who was like a 'baby sis' to him,next thing she started calling me to say my boo's been sleeping with her(here was someone who said no to premarital sex) and I had to comply even tho it was hard for me. I confronted him and shockingly,he didn't deny it. My knowing was relieve to him. I wept,begged him,did all I could to gain his love,but he left. Good ridiance to bad rubbish,I'm getting married next month to d love of my life. Mimie.
ReplyDeleteMy dear sisters,hmm,relationship no easy.We have 2 make God d centre of our relationship 2 avoid hrt brk.I'm dating some1 now,and praying real hard.
ReplyDeleteI saw the lying idiot's wedding pix on facebook and immediately exed him
ReplyDeleteme dont really like to comment, cuz of some little brain here dat like to insult, am sure stella know people dat view her blog are much more than those that comment,
ReplyDeletestella me like ur blog cuz the commentators are sooo funny and some brainless u wonder if they reason at all,but like seriously i av a good laugh wen i read peoples commet here, at least they are still beta than linda ikeji commetors,haters full there while aproko full here, someone must know somebody, i just fear, and i realy pity those celebrity,no privacy atall,as for hrtbreaks we all av our share.but life goes on,it makes us a beta and wiser person,time heal it,
Mehn...
ReplyDelete3 years n' counting
Heartbreak wan kill mi but I neva die.
1 man oh. My 1st love
He just Got married recently.
Told mi I wasn't good enough... Romantic n' homely enof
Funny thing is that I had changed. Y'know maturity changed me
He just kept on judging me from my young days in sch... Dat m a geek/careerlady- not romantic and all.
M 25 now... Wower woman. Still a V buh subtle now.
He wanted to get married when I wuz just 22... Mehn.I had stuff to do... Wanted to develop myself personally. Told him to be patient wif me.
Oya, d psn he married nko... He did 3 yrs later n' dy wia engaged for 2 yrs ooº°˚ ˚°ºoo!!!
Y rush mi n' leave me like dis ? That is a question For his village gods!
I felt sad cz I really luved him. Funny, he got married around ma bday period to spite me. I know wah he cn do
Well... As God will have it he is putting sth great in the pipline for me. I can feel it even dou I get sad @tyms.
Eve.
Mine was self inflicted as i just cudnt be with him tooo much drama...short life....white garment....his mum n sis dint like me...his x widnt leave us alone in peace.....but i loved oluwaseun like mad....but had to walk due to those reasons n till today he still thinks am a bitch that broke his heart. Well i have moved on n so has he but i will always have love for you oam, but i admit i ended it badly. I thank God everyday for my temitope he is an angel in human skin i wouldnt trade him for nuffing and we are avin our baby boy in a few months time.
ReplyDeleteOam i just pray your new gf stays n marries you...goodluck x
Meanwhile...
ReplyDeleteI have a familyfriend that had a guy wanting to marry her.
She told him dh she needed to know him properly 1st. Cz she just met him a few months
D guy Got vexed n' left married anoder gurl later.
Ok.
This lady wuz 30 n' still unmarried. So she called him to wish him congrats cz she dint know he got married.
Instead of saying thanks.This guy yabbed her n' called her an "OLD CRONE" said that she will be miserable n' alone in her life.
She felt sad n' told him to please take it easy on her cz his words hurt her deep. He repeated it. She just said "ok"
She cried n' cried for weeks.
Right now, shez got d most amazzing man eva. They love eachoda like cray.
She has 2 beau kids n' a very comfy home n' career.
The guy that called her called her an old crone is suffering in his marriage.
Y'kno she says "God is everything, just ask him for what you want n' relax. He can't leave you cold. I have the bestman eva. If I had married d oda man out of desperation. who knows how ild av bin feeling now? "
Eve.
Heartbreak is very painful if you really loved the person you never really get over it you just have to learn how to deal with it. Cos you will always still care about the person. I recently broke up with my boyfriend I love him very much but sometimes love is not enough and the relationship just doesn't work out.
ReplyDeleteHmmm. My story. The pain that broke my heart was like my bestfriend. We broke up because his mum was against the relationship and she knew we were planning to get married in six months.
ReplyDeleteThe worst thing? He was the only one I cld cry to. So after the break up, I used to cry to him for like 2 months, wondering if there were other ways we could get back and all.
At a point, one of his friends called me and told me if I were his younger sister, he would have slapped me to reality. That statement brought me to reality.
I thought I thought of suicide at least the times. City people made it easy with stories of how people committed suicide and what they used.
Heartbreak is not easy or funny. I lost like 15kg, I turned into a walking skeleton. Anyways, after his friend made that statement, I turned to God. Started talking to God and after like 2/3years, I finally got over the relationship.
*clears throat* to close this meeting/forum.
ReplyDeleteif I write my own, Stella go faint! Been dating for 14yrs .... And I've never broken up with anyone and I'm still single. I've been doing something's wrong and with age and maturity, I have come to realize that 1. Men like to eat their cake and have it. 2 . Men always know what they want. 3. Even a so called God fearing man is as sexual as a rampant rabbit. He will climb you if the opportunity presents itself and blame you and the devil . 4. A man will never show you his true color until he marries you and even after marriage, it's not guaranteed. A man can hide anything till he dies (women are deep too). I like to tag that "survival instinct".
You can choose to keep your legs closed or not. It doesn't change anything. Men can play the waiting game. Na just God my dear sisters. If God hand no dey, ya on ya own. Marriage / relationship is a trick God has used to draw us closer to him. Lets try not to give boyfriends husband privileges.... What ever that means to you. I pray everyone learns a lesson or two from all this. I'm still waiting for my man. Please where is bloglord?
This time i wil have to post as Anonymous. Lol
ReplyDeleteAm a guy and I must tell you that we also have our stories to tell. I have faithful male friends that have had their heart broken by this Lagos girls plenty of time. I met this young lady back in 2006/7. She came home on holiday from the USA and we started dating, she became the best thing that happened to me. She went back after her hols and we kept contact and continued our relationship. She comes to Nigeria when ever she was on holiday. I was faithful throughout the relationship but she was sleeping around over there in America. I got to know of her unfaithfulness and still forgave her and continued with the relationship, she even got pregnant for another person while we were dating and she aborted it and I still forgave her cause atimes love is something you can't just explain if you really snd truly in love. I invested loads of time and money into the relationship but still she left me like a bad habit and moved on without any good excuse but I still had mad love for her and was trying to let go. Met a lady years later and the week we had my first baby, she called and was saying how she was sorry and if I could still have her back that since she left me she couldn't just love someone else even though she tried different relationship and all of a sudden at they moment I found peace within my self and the pain I had carried all this time just reduced. I had to choice to get back with her or stay with my wife n the new born baby. Thank God I made that right choice. I married the mother of my baby and now we have 3 beautiful kids. Though I will never forget her in a hurry but I pray with time I erase her of my memory.
Mmmmm stories dat bring bk past memories. Yea i have a very wonderfl guy in my life, his been ma piller, teacher, lover, a brother, a father, infact my everytin. Ironically, this same guy has coursed me so many uncountable pains. The most devastating was d one dat happened in may last yr,i was in ma final in uni preparing 4ma first semester axam, this particular day i had finished ma first paper an wondered y ma bf hasn't called, unlike him dat wudhv called frm d previous day to d exam just to encourage me and to also kno ma level of preparadness to d exams,curios me who usualy dont visit wtout notice...cus i no want see wetin big pass ma fragile hrt, headed straight to his house, i had ma keys, went upstairs opened d iron protector an knocked for him to open d netprotector but no respo, afta several knocks i tore d net frm outside den unbolted d net frm inside, just den i landed in d sittinroom, d first shock was a female shoe i saw i in d sitinroom, was rushin straight to d bedroom wen all of sudden d same ghost who wasn't aroun or so i asummed started dragging door wt me.. Omo come an see drama(nolywood movie) he'd locked d gurl inside d room, denied me access into d corridor leading to d room, just den it became clear i was in for a shattered an broken hrt. I started banging d door, ofcus he wudnt want neighbours to evedrop so he opened d door pushed me an asked me wat right i had to arrass an embarss him in his house, he asked me if i was his wife, then it dawned on me dat hv crossed my boundries...yea he was right he he hadn' put d dam ring on ma finger how cud i hv asumed i owned him. I sha begged him to just allw me hv a glance at d gurl who knows we cud bcom frn which he reluctantly did, a saw her sitting on d bed a much younger person(19) while i was 28) wt shame an tears tho hidden i asked her a few questns,d one dat hurt me most was wen she sed d guy is her fiance, dat de'v bin dating for like 11monhts, well looked at hm in disdain, got ready to leave, dis was alredy 10pm, just den he realised he's messed up bigtime, thank God for a married friend whose house was closedby, just called she said i can come, went there narreted everytin to her, wetin she go do other dan to encourage me... Gave me a room to sleep..here comes d lonely n pains ridden nit cudn't sleep, tot abt ma life ma future, ma academics, ma axams, project, i wondered y it had to turn out dis way, ofcus bfo morning i reduced to ma skeleton,tho i got over it quite fast cus i needed to if nt ma educatn will suffer which to me was more important cus i cudn't aford to trade ma 2.1 for anytin..... Hw it affectd him? How we madeup? D gurl in questn? That is a story for anoda day. One tin is certain i turned out a better an stronger gurl. Sory for d long essay.
ReplyDeleteWaoo I empathize with u. Can be depressing. I have always said that if my man must cheat, by all means do so. But u better be good at keeping it. But if for any reason I find who the lady is, she better be prettier than me a million times over...if she's better looking than me, I'll doff my hat in salutation and take the back seat in surrender. But if she's not in any way near my standard, I'll flog d shit out of my man along d girl for diminishing me. Men can be soo mean.
DeleteSomething like urs happened to me years ago when I lived in the U.S. I was dating this dude who worked as a police officer in our city. So he would work shifts..most nights till a.m. But sometimes when he's off on wknds, I would be at his house chilling. So d day in question was a friday night, and we planned to hook up at a local Nigerian bar/club. So we met at the club...after a while he said we should go to another bar close to his house. Clubs in town usually closed by 2.am...and d time he said we should go there was already past 1am. All of a sudden he was no where to be found. I checked everywhere didn't find him.
I was with my gf, so I thot abeg let me just go home jare. But on my way home, I changed my mind and decided to go to the bar he earlier said we should visit. After ringing his cell fone severally no answer. Got to the bar he wasn't there. So I left, but something in me said I should drive to his since his house was a block away. I got to his house and I noticed his car wasn't there, all lights were off. An indication that he wasn't home. I sat in my car, having some weird feelings he was up to no good. So I moved my car from d front of his house, went to park at d road adjacent to his house where I viewed his house frm across. I looked at the time n knew that no matter where he was, all bars would be closed soon and he'll come home.
After waiting in my car just staring at his front door. He drives in...and then I noticed he wasn't alone in d car. I waited for him to open his garage gate, and I just walked across to block him there. I saw a female I had earlier seen at the club. When he drove in, I asked why he did what he did, and that I demand to knw who this lady is. He started acting up, d lady just watched us confused. When d fool couldn't make up what to say, as d lady and I stared at him, he asked me if he invite me to his house? And that was he married to me? He even said we are just companions and he didn't think we attached much importance to our relationship. I was gobsmacked in the least. I went ballistic, then I said to him, Jim, u'll have to fuck both of us tonight o. I am entering that house with both of u. Then I just paused, I realized it wasn't worth it, I felt I was disgracing myself by wanting to enter his house after what he said to me. I just left n drove home. I cried blood. Infact if crying could kill, I would av died from it.
I couldn't sleep, as all I imagined was that he was sleeping with another woman that night. He called days after to apologize, saying I caused him to do that. Bla bla....that was it for me o. And ever since then, I made up my mind never to visit my man un announced..ever ever.
Hmmmn.... Mine is just as painful n deep as odas i ve read, Growing up i was d tough girl who guys treat with respect, u had 2 i carried myself dat way n praytell i was neva heartbroken! I used d dump dem b4 dey dump u tactics, even dou i dated some gr8t guys who just were being men, i dump u @ d slightest sniff of attitude! Well lo n behold i met dis guy of my dreams, we were soulmates n we played like kids, buh he lied 2 me dat his friends dawta was ill n in intensive care unit in Lantoro in abkt, i was praying like mad not knwin d guy was gettin his brains fucked out by some gurl, well unfortunatly d lies happened l8ta n d said dawta died, my pain was dat i found out in d most awKward way dat he was even married wif kids(we lived in diff countries he visits my loc freqently), i nearly died!!! Cos here i was d "marget thatcher" n i was soooo fooled! U know God works wonders i met my hub who is everyfin my ex is not, i'm so glad it happened! I ve 2 kids now(a girl n boy)!!! My hub is just God's way of consoling me, pls if u re out dere still finkin deres no hope in sight, trust me, u'll look back n thank God some day, PS the guy is now divorced calling me 2 famz n say crap buh plssss speak 2 d hands.
ReplyDeleteHmmmn.... Mine is just as painful n deep as odas i ve read, Growing up i was d tough girl who guys treat with respect, u had 2 i carried myself dat way n praytell i was neva heartbroken! I used d dump dem b4 dey dump u tactics, even dou i dated some gr8t guys who just were being men, i dump u @ d slightest sniff of attitude! Well lo n behold i met dis guy of my dreams, we were soulmates n we played like kids, buh he lied 2 me dat his friends dawta was ill n in intensive care unit in Lantoro in abkt, i was praying like mad not knwin d guy was gettin his brains fucked out by some gurl, well unfortunatly d lies happened l8ta n d said dawta died, my pain was dat i found out in d most awKward way dat he was even married wif kids(we lived in diff countries he visits my loc freqently), i nearly died!!! Cos here i was d "marget thatcher" n i was soooo fooled! U know God works wonders i met my hub who is everyfin my ex is not, i'm so glad it happened! I ve 2 kids now(a girl n boy)!!! My hub is just God's way of consoling me, pls if u re out dere still finkin deres no hope in sight, trust me, u'll look back n thank God some day, PS the guy is now divorced calling me 2 famz n say crap buh plssss speak 2 d hands.
ReplyDeleteBebe, wat has been a rich guy got to do with d story
ReplyDeleteMe am still in shock about what happened 2 me cos it happened a few days ago. I and my darling bf who I assumed was a God sent and can't do no wrong have dated for 2years,I admit our relationship has had its ups and downs which in my opinion has made us closer and understand ourselves d more,so recently I was beginin 2 ask for us 2 fix a date for intro as we hav bin planin our future 2geda but he has not bin talkin much about it lately, na so d guy begin yarn me say he is havin fears dat he's about makin a mistake,after we had fixed august 4th for d intro, I say no problem let's put it in prayer and we also sought counsel from a man of God who told him its only normal to feel dat way, so his bday was during d week so we cldnt celebrate it cos of work so we decided on a post bday celebration, na so on d said day I didn't tell him I was coming and him on d other hand wasn't xpectin me cos I have been given him space to sort out his head,as I got there I knocked his cousin who dey live together begin form say him dey find key he kept me out for a couple of mins which was enough timeto alert his brother,as he opened d door I just saw one chick sittin in d sitting room with her night gown and d mumu of a bf just rushed out to meet me, as soon as I saw her I recognised her from d pics he showed me of getting involved wit her wen we had a break up several months back according to him he said he was vulnerable, so I just walked into his room and he followed suit so I asked him who dat girl was thinking I won't recognise her he denied dat she's his cousin friend,after continual probing he knew he had been caught he started talking and acting nonchallant den I went to his wardrobe to open to see if her clothes were in dere na so d guy begin push me, so I stood to my ground dat I must look into his wardrobe,Ha! That got him more violent he started shoving,pushing,rakeing,to d extent I hit my head on d ground and I presently have a broken hand but dat didn't subtle him o! D guy say if I keep talking he wld break my second hand, na so d dirty girl come begin seperate fight dey tell me say dem just be friends I know no wetin I go tell am, d long and short of it is dat he took me to d hospital to treat myself and after realising himself him begin beg,na so e easy to forget and forgive, I don tell am say make him waka go far cos I don't ever want to have anything to do with him ever
ReplyDeleteYou can forgive him but don't go back to him at all at all. You heard me. He is a jackass and will do it again. It reminds me of what happened to me although there was no violence but just insults and the babe was in his room. He is name is Peter. By God's grace your own husband will find you easily. In Jesus name. Amen.
Delete*deep breath* where do I start? From the end. Femi trode on my soul, I loved him like no one before him, or after him. I was ready to give my future, my strength my everything to him. He was the finest specimen of a man I had ever seen and we were perfect in every way, at least I thought so. We disagreed, he wouldn't forgive. He walked away, I cried an ocean. I started to drink, smoke, party like mad, then one January years ago, GOD showed me he had much bigger plans than I could imagine. Looking back in my minds eye, I see me crawling in the valley, broken, a husk of me. Right now, my children remind me I'm supposed to help with home work, make a snack or just want my attention, their darling father jostling for my attention and you know what, if I see femi today, right now, I'd kneel down and thank him, thank him for letting me go.
ReplyDeleteWow! Alot of stories of heartbreak. I'm married but know wat it is to feel like you have loved and lost. Wouldnt want to go into mind but i wanna say when u r heartbroken thats not the time to have a rebound relatnship. D results cud be lifechanging. Talk 2 God 2 heal wats been broken
ReplyDeletechai........okay i am 19 mine abt 4months ago i met dis igbo guy hes in my skool i was previously crushing on, den 1day dis guy calld me and we startd talking nd all, typical me everytin takes time, but this 1 happend so fast,we startd making out nd all dat was lyk a month into d rela*stupid me* a month into d relationship we startd aruging dis guy is RUDE,POSSESSIVE,he lyks to do oga at d top, mr responsible, every1 around me use to fink dis guy was reali rich, but he dsnt have shi shi ,nada notin he wld borrow money frm me even whn i am so brke i will gve him bcos i dint wnt to see my baby suffer, whn he does smtin wrong i will apologise, dis boy never treated me ryt, nd i was d most faithful grlfrnd ever i knw dis. if i ask why he liked me he wil get upset dat why m i asking, but foolish me bcos i was blinded by love nd i was all over him i jst over loookd all he dd.den we wnt home for the strike i wnt to see dis guy after manipulating me to v sex wit him which i dd, everytin jst scatterd he startd giving attitude, calld him nd ask why, baba said he invested his money into smtin else dats why he dsnt v crdt nd he cnt come nd see me , dat i v startd countin who calls 1st i was shockd lyk reali,den i dint see my period i tld him baba jst stopd talking to me till date he has never calld, anytym i call to tel him i vnt sin my period nd i v to wait for weeks to do a test , he says i shld stop disturbing dat he has a project topic to takai off...... ryt nw i m hopin i am nt preggy. bcos i will b very sad. i feel like the most used person ever. is guy never cared frm day 1. in my next relationship kai dat person wil suffer die. moreover dis guy no matter how long it takes myb in d future i wil harm him.*over look my typos*
ReplyDeleteU r too young for all dis,face ♈ōϋя studies.
Deleteyou are on a journey to disaster you better break up the so-called relationship before it is too late.
ReplyDeleteyou need to love yourself first; whether anybody loves you or not will not matter to you.
please break up NOW before a tragedy occurs.
wake up girl you are not in love with the man and neither is he with you. you are only love with a dream.
ReplyDeleteso sorry to read your story sister, what you went through is unimaginable, men have been so terrible to you. I pray that God will let you meet a man whose heart is after His heart.
ReplyDeleteUni love and youth service love are mostly experimental phases of adult life that's why a very high percentage of breakups/heartbreaks occur at this time. To protect yourself from heartbreak don't take this love matters of this phase too seriously just have fun if it works out fine and if not you lose nothing.
ReplyDeleteYou are 19, please face your studies and build yourself into a successful woman that no man will dare take for a ride as this dude took you for a ride. Do yourself a big favour and prioritize your life otherwise in your next relationship you go still suffer again.
ReplyDeleteHeartbroken right now. Am in my office staring at the ceiling...can't do anything cuz I can't even think. Am not angry but just pissed I got SLAPPED by my gf over an issue I am totally innocent. I was just getting set for work when dis happened plus my mum is around on a visit. I swear I av never cheated on her and I will never cheat cuz am a believer in fidelity. About done from work and am thinking I can't go to my house cuz she is there waiting for me.
ReplyDeleteDear Green, I can't feel sorry for you, even small. Go home and face the errr slaps.
ReplyDeleteAunt Stella words cannot express my own heart breaks o. When I was n naija I was dating this guy which was based in the UK. After my nysc I got admission to Uni in d UK and he was helping with the admission nd all. Sha to cut it short I got to UK and spent a night with him. He went to work overnight and I got really bored suddenly I remembered that I have his yahoo password omo see email messages nd Facebook messages from different chics he even had pictures of clitoris nd boobs on his laptop, yahoo chats nd web cam showing his penis. The height was that he booked ticket to South Africa just for sex cuz d girl sent pics of her boobs nd vijayjay. Omo I couldn't cry or laugh neither could I sleep stayed awake all night till d idiot came back from work nd I confronted him. The boy had sex with my friend's family friend o but I didn't care cuz it was before we started dating. He went to south Africa o nd had d guts to call me to return the pangolo phone he gave me. I returned it nd boned him he started begging me o to go out on a date nd all which I refused. Another one we went to d same uni but I never knew him back then n Babcock met him n London nd we kicked it off. After a month he started demanding sex nd I told him I wasn't ready na then fight begin o that our relationship is boring bla bla he even said if I don't have sex with him that I shouldn't call him sha to cut it short I stopped calling him only to find out he was doing another chic. Another one is d agbaya broke ass na me dey give am money o plus he hadn't completed his school fees yet I will go nd cook for him only to read his Facebook messages inviting chics to London that he will pay d yeye boy is broke o nd he was sleeping with one other chic. That day I cried home and just stopped calling him he beg me tire I no gree. I thank God I am married now nd God gave me my husband as a gift plus he met me a virgin.
ReplyDeleteAll this stories . I'm too distrustful of pple.so I'm in no danger of falling prey to all these agents of the devil.
ReplyDeletei have been heartbroken so many times. even up to the one that my friend was dating my bf behind my back. the one wey give me belle, run nko? my dear, my own is that i think of how stupid i was and move on. now, i am wiser than a serpent. no nonsense.
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