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Is age difference between two people really nothing but a number?...does the gap play any role in how the marriage survives?are you married to an older spouse?Did your marriage end because of the age difference?Gist us.....
''I will be 42 this year and i know i am overdue for marriage but i had to wait till this late because i had to train all my siblings through university being the first born.
now that the last born is in her final year, i think its time to rest and marry. so i met a 22 year old girl i very much like. Pretty smart and a lawyer with a good rich family. but am afraid of the age difference. our ways of reasoning are not the same and sexual compatibility.
Can a man my age satisfy a 22 year old girl sexually? will i be able to cope with her occasional infantile behaviour? when i am 52 she will be 32. my friends are discouraging me but Ojukwu and Bianca were much wider in age gap and she was a good wife all through.
should i just ditch her and seek for a lady in her 30's?.
*IN CASE YOU DITCH HER CAN ANY SINGLE BLOG VISITOR BE ELIGIBLE?
Trust me, it does matter. Your sense of reasoning wudnt be same with hers. I'd prefer sm1 4-5yrs older than I am, not well over 10 yrs, choi. But, if she's mature and u knw there wudnt be issues(which I doubt frm your post) pls go ahead. There are stil ladies her age who are mature u wudnt believe it. Bianca and Ojukwu are diff ppl, dnt compare your union with theirs. What worked 4 party A may not work 4 party B. It all boils down to maturity.
ReplyDeleteI'd marry a girl older than I am; as long as she's not an Igbo babe anyways!
Deleteyou cant use bianca and ojukwu because she had a reason for marrying ojukwu. Besides the age gap is too much. Look for a lady who has reached 30. The 22 year old may be attracted to you now. but when u r 52, she is likely to be ashamed of showing u off as her husband. and then u will be or maybe using alomo to get erection. Thus opening doors for her to cheat. choose wisely
DeleteI got married at 14, my hubby is 23 yes older than I am
DeleteIt has advantages, he overlooks all my faults ,in fact he loves me more when am vulnerable whenever am unhappy it unsettles him and he looks for any possible way to fix things
Initially, it was hard cos I didn't like him cos he had a beard and does not smile and was always fucking me with his giant prick and I used to cry a lot I was so unhappy I was always pregnant and always sick anyway that is bygone if I come to this life again I will still marry an older guy cos they always want to satisfy and prove themselves
Yomslaw,no igbo babe will even look at you talkless of get married to you.....look at this onye owu-ite talking...
Delete@Yomslaw I doubt any igbo babe wld want to marry u, u cant even handle an Igbo girl. Only igbo men can handle a igbo girls...... so take several sits as stella would say.
Delete20 years is child abuse!!!.
Deleteplease dear poster,look for someone within ur age group at least 10years gap is ok..there are lots of single good ladies in their 30's....Goodluck!
i personally cant date guys within my age bracket but anything more than 10yrs is too much...
Ezenwanyi!!!!!!!!!!!
DeleteLol Stella the match maker
DeleteYomslaw u no fit marry Igbo babe cos u ain't man enough. @ poster, u are the man, are u sure u will be able to cope with her tantrums when she throws them? Her outbursts, and her near childish behaviour? If u are very matured and good at overlooking things, then u can go ahead as long as the day in question is willing to make the marriage work too. My husband is 8 years older than me, hour overlooks things a lot so we are good, bianca and ojukwu coped well and am sure he overlooked as well, omotola jalade and her hubby are doing great as well as joke Silva and olu Jacobs. The list is endless. If u both are willing, u can make it work. It all boils down to willingness and maturity. Good luck.
DeleteSassy Mum
LWKMD @Yomslaw
DeleteI think you should look for a matured lady maybe in her late 20s,at 22 the youthful exuberant will still be there,I just hope when you can't satisfy her sexually she doesn't go out for a younger man.anyway all the best
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't matter
ReplyDeleteAge matters a lot especially when the woman is older.
DeleteAbeg no strength to type dis morning
Plssss I can marry a man who is 20yrs older then I am as long as He is Mike Adenuga heheheeh.
DeleteYes oo,Poster there are blog Visitors that might be closer to your age, incase....
ReplyDeleteAnyway 42, 22 that's 20yrs difference, its big sha, but it all depends on the girl, if she would agree to marry you no problem, since you don't have baggages from the past, and to be honest women age faster than Men, so in 20yrs time u guys would look the same. If u decide to marry her , please dress and act like a "guyman" so she wouldn't think you are her father,
SDK I think age matters, I can't marry a guy I'm older than lie lie oo, will I now be telling you "migwo" when I serve u food? Abeg abeg we are africans jare.
i cant marry a guy twenty years older than me o. God forbid
DeletePersonally I can't date guys around my age bracket. I find it difficult to communicate with them cos I am more matured. So I go for older men like 10 years older or more.
ReplyDeleteCeeCee
Goodluck in dating your ancestors
DeleteHehehehe @ancestors... @Poster, pls Bianca's case is soo different... I ll advice u look for someone in her thirties, Stella can help u with that ...Loll
DeleteAnd pls Dont let this year pass . Just wondering why u stayed this long all in the name of training ur siblings, u could've settled down wen ur immediate younger one graduated. where ur parents not against it?
my hubby to be is 11years older and i have never been happier in my life..the best relationship ever.
Delete11 years is not bad. Infact in some cases in the same age group eg 32 marrying 43 is ok.
DeleteI agree with u Anon 8:54. I also find it a bit awkward to date guys within my age bracket. And it has nothing to do with money..as some may assume. Its the mental capacity and orientation. Matter of fact, I find out sometimes that men are intimidated by me because they think am too knowledgeable and smart. While some see it as a bonus to out relationship, some see it as a threat becos they know that they can't lie to me or monopolise me mentally.
DeleteThese are the men who perhaps have something to hide, so they flee to go and date passive girls or those who just want their monies without asking any questions. Eheh. Their loss.
LOL, you just likened your case to that of Ojukwu and Bianca? I laugh in spanish at you.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, I reason intelligently and in my early twenties too, but I CAN"T marry someone that is like 10yrs older than me.
But dude, you are her ancestor naa, how would you feel if your sister were to be in the girl's shoes?
abi o. selfish man. And he go don knack enuf akpakos already. now he wan begin give that girl one one round per week.
DeleteU reason intelligently yet ur reasoning here borders on stupid. Please y'all shud quit with ur advices a.k.a ur opinions, if age is a problem for u sir, then rectify the situation, if it aint wife the lady, people wld just plant their deadass seeds in ur head/mind, then u end up making a big mistake, and mistake here cld be marrying her or not marrying her, just pray hard, and follow ur heart/head. To each his own. People's opinions wld ruin u.
DeleteAunty stella,Ȋ̝̊̅ dnt think age is really a ish in relationship and marriage,so far d guy in qst is older than the lady and not the other way round. Am 19yrs of age and ♍ boyfriend is 26 tho we jst started dating,and Ȋ̝̊̅ pray all iƪƪ work out well cos Ȋ̝̊̅ wanna remain a virgin till d night of ♍ wedding.*btw* am already in sch and he's working. So age is jst been overrated in naija. Ma 2cents
ReplyDeleteSee this okoro feeling funky ooo..We talking 20years diff u talking 7years.
DeleteAlmost times 3 of u guys age. So pls shift. Who cares if u r still a virgin? Dat one na for ur pocket o
Nne, read again, 20yrs difference
DeleteDebby, what has "okoro feeling funky" got to do with anything the girl said? Is there anything there that suggests her tribe?
DeleteAbeg, I'm eligible.
ReplyDeleteDon't ditch her. Age is just a number
ReplyDeletefeb14 is coming soon. Read about the friend zone here before you end up there
women mature more quickly than men and some women can handle mature men easily......you know here better and should be able to judge how mature she is in the way she conducts herself......but there is nothing wrong with the age gap.......however just be ready to accommodate her when she want to do some stuff more related to her age group....you might have done those things past and think they are childish so pls don't oppress her and start building up resentment in her.....marriage is give and take...yes she will have some of her friends who are not married don't forbid her from being friends with them for no genuine reason cos you are afraid of shadows, but in all let there be a balance......and lastly dont talk her down like you are always right cos you are older......no oppress the girl oh, dey open eye for house anyhow with rules and regulations as if she dey secondary schl......lol.....i say so cos i have friends who had that experience....
ReplyDeletewomen mature more than men quite alright but 20 years is too much. Look for any couple with twenty years age gap then look at their picture when the woman is in her mid or late 30s. Then the man go don reach menopause. Then imagine their picture when the man hit 70 n d woman hits 40. Remember that former miss nigeria who married a rich old guy. Can u recall how people were talking when they saw their pix? The husband looked 78 and the wife looked like omotola jalade's age mate
Deleteeg olu jacobs and joke silver...i cant biko...
DeletePoster, that's why u are older than ur lover, you'd teach her and you'd also learn to cope with her behaviour. Trust me, she might even act more matured than them thirties chics but she might be less exposed, which is good for you. It's no big deal what ur complaining about, if u two love each other, you'd teach other.
ReplyDeleteGod bless u jare, I was 23 when I got married to my 44yr old husband, I learned a whole lot and even he was happy to learn a few "hip" stuff. And its been going strong for the past 6yrs. Age is but a number, if u don't feel the connection, love and think u two can make it, biko just let her go.
DeleteCome back and update us when you're 40 and he's 61.
DeleteMarry her if you really love her.....most 22 year old girls are matured and ripe for marriage......me I married when I was 21...8 years now and still counting....women gets old easily than men....morever,age is just a number...you need fresh blood mehn...
ReplyDelete@ Linda,U no well at all, walahi !!!! Biko age doesn't matter, if d girl is well matured psychologically oh!!
DeleteMaybe I'm mistaken as to the identity oo and correct me if I'm wrong ( no pun intended), but was it not the same Linda that said she used pregnancy to get her husband to marry her? Did she do that at 21?? some things just don't add up.
Deletenkem gbam. the biggest liars here lelbj, mami, galore, billie jean and bloglord. their stories always have k legs.
Deletenkem gbam. the bad liars here are lilbj, billie jean, galore, bloglord and mamie. their stories always have k legs. women sha. i hail una.
DeleteYes age diff is a big problem Oº°˚˚°º.the guy shld leave the young girl alone and go for someone in her 30's.men dat are far older than their spouse are too over protective and too insecured.I'm talking out of experience,I'm 28 and I met a man of 52 early last year ,very nice but he was too over protective,has trust issues and insecured,always saying I shld stop wearing makeup to work cos he doesn't want other men to snatch me away from him,he trails me with calls every 30min,if I don't pick its wahala. mr poster later u might become too jealouse and tempramental as u grow older cos u will feel u are not good enuff for her,so go for someone dat u are few yrs older than.
ReplyDeleteI agree with u, am 28 and my huby s 43. My dear is biin war siince we got married, we dont reason alike, we act and behave differently. Hes insecured, has trust issues, very temperamental and too jealous. O my wedding day my friends were just callimb me nick names that they were used to andthe guy got upset and was very mad at me .am the matured one here and u know what am outvfor good. Pls marry ur age bracket pls. It helps
DeleteSo very true!
DeleteAnon 11:19 sorry o, you decided to marry ur ancestor, what did u expect?
Deletehow can u be dating a 52 year old? such a man should have grandkids by now
DeleteWhat u two need to do is talk, age is nothing but a number. And this has little or nothing to do with age, its the mentality. At 23, my 44yr old hubby used to feel insecure, but I earned his trust and we helped each other drop our baggages, its abt communicating and connecting. After all one has to go under for the other.
DeleteAnon 11:19 may God bless u 4 saying the truth. These other ladies that married their ancestors re just looking 4 people to join them. I can't even date som1 dat is 10 yrs older,i'll just cheat on him
Deleteyes age matters
ReplyDeleteAm just going to 21....and a frnd of mine who is also my age bracket is engaged to one chief like that,,,he is 59yrs old
@Galore
Galore, you're just 21? No wonder. Kids full this blog o. Hian
DeleteNo wonder galore comes here to spew childish comments......u just open ur mouth anyhow dey insult your elders......u better face your school and behave yourself henceforth.....naughty girl
DeleteAnd u don catch lesbo spirit at 21?!God help this generation! Tueh!
DeleteThatisokochic!
@ galore!
DeleteThatisokochic!
Nobody should take anytin galore says seriously, some post he/she wll identify with the Men, other times with women.I'm confused.
Delete@galore go read oo, I've been going through old post and you have been active, at least I stopped.lol
sugar daddy tinz
DeleteAll d ppl on dat married baba arugbo ojo pls come nd talk o! E.g,wide eyed!
ReplyDeleteThe age difference between I and my spouse is over 20yrs, but he's the best lover and he's an understanding man who loves and supports me. So my dear its not in the age, its in how compatable both of u are. Understanding matters. I love and respect him dearly and won't trade him for a younger person.
ReplyDeleteYour comment makes so much sense...I like!!!
DeleteBest comment!
DeleteIt's all about understanding,love,appreciation,tolerance,communication,etc. Age is nuffin when all these are present. For all I care I don't mind marrying someone who's 15 or 20yrs older if he's d one who understands me. Some people keep saying older men don't reason n c things d way we younger peeps do, I beg to differ biko. There are older men who are much more enlightened,open minded than some specie of young men around. Sha it all goes down to praying n finding,who's made for one. *scratches head**
Age is nothing but a number!
ReplyDeleteYou are only as old as you feel.
Adding the fact that childbearing and body changes makes a woman (not all though) look 10 times older.
I know a lady 24 who married a 42 years old man.
Best believe you will think they are within the same age bracket. She don spread full everywhere, + acts very maturedly.
It all depends on you. Can you take a dive? Or you are scared that would be cradle snatching?
Oh well....
I agree with you Bloglord. It all depends on the orientation of the individual.
DeleteDear Poster, You can ditch the 22 year old lady and go for a 35 year old who may reason like a teenager in the heat of puberty. What then would you do? Come back here and scream "gobe"? Unless she doesn't behave maturedly I wouldn't advice you to succumb to peer pressure. These same friends will still talk even if you present a lady in her 30s. Follow your heart. Be Blessed.
Bless u oh jare, iv learned not to criticise oh, when my friend got married to one old guy like this, we wr doing nose for her, 2kids after, she's as fresh as ever and young blood don make d man freshos die.
DeleteWhen love threw my 44yr hubby into my laps, at 23 I at first tot of what society would say, the breaking point was when I used our pix for display pix and one girl asked if he was my father, I was mad at first, but said no,my husband. My very good friend said to me the earlier I learn to deal with sneers n jeers d better4me. My mum was not in support sef, was scared d man will v stroke n ild b young n restless tryna take care of him, we eat rye, exercise well n most importantly pray. Of all d guys who v come my way, he's been d best, yes sometimes he's acted immature, its been me who called him2order. Its mind over age if u ask me. So poster, what would u rather do, ditch or stay?
Its matters o stella. My husband is 13years my senior. I love him very much . He is 43 I am 30 but seriously he doesn't have the stamina to satisfy me in bed and @ dis age all I want is a good sex . I talked to my dr abt he says most women in 30 and above have high libido for sex. So u see, now he can't give me wat I want and I can't cheat on him. So pls marry ur age grade abeg . To avoid issues.
ReplyDeleteYou have a good point about their sex life but lets not forget that men who waited this long to get married doesn't neccesarily have love in mind.
DeleteOne of the reasons he's going for a younger woman is her FERTILE womb. Do you think a man this age would want to deal with fertility isssues?
He does want kids right away knowing fully well that a lady at 35 may have some difficulties with fertility.
And of course, older men want to still feel relevant in this time and age and thats why most of them go for younger women.
Poster, None can advise u better than yourself. Do what's right by you and you alone.
Gbam! Gbamer!! Gbamest!!! Anonymous 3:32pm.
DeleteLet the truth be spoken! The difference is too much! 5 year gap is the best to me.
He spent all his energy and youth to train his younger sibling, now he is looking for a young woman to control bear children!
So, he was not dating all those years he was busy training his younger ones? What happened to them?
@8.10, very good point. Where r the women he has been dating? Wicked man. He has probably dated women his age, given them hope of marriage n now wants a young girl to settle down with. Men can be wicked.
DeleteAge really matters oo esp 4 women in Africa marrying a younger guy, a 70yr old man can marry a 15yr old girl without d society bat an eye lid, bt nt d reverse. ....meanwhile Stella u dey try nw oo, I prefer u to Linda; dats y am commenting nw.
ReplyDeleteSpare us the details! Arse kissing comment!
DeleteAfterall Emeka offor in his late 50's married Adaora Ufondu in her late 20's, I was there live bcos its my village, bt d way pple were kept outside without food nor water was dissapointing, it wss strickly by IV, yet dem set chairs outside 4 pple. Lol
ReplyDeleteHahahahaahahaaha nne iwu amebo oh!
DeleteLmao. Abi o. It is customary for big Nnewi ceremonies to cater for the whole locale.
DeleteBros, the difference is too much....Example; When her body becomes sexually active in her 30's u will b too weak to satisfy her nd she wil cheat. Pls look for a 30yrs old or 35yrs old cos u wil regret dis marriage, I live wit a marriage counsellor nd I can tell u d rate of divorce bcos of age diff don't b fooled.
ReplyDeleteTomorrow now u wil say she's exposing all her body, keeping too many frds, wearing too much make up nd always want to party nd trust me in 10yrs time she wil b ashamed to introduce u as her husband ...Bros, pls I have seen too many cases like dis nd it didn't end well....Marry a lady in her 30's.
ReplyDelete1000likes!
DeleteAre these not the same people who say age does not matter, cuss out cougars?
I wonder if their brother in his 20's bring in a lady in her 40's as bride, they won't complain at all?
A 42 year old man should man marry a woman 35 - 43. Poster leave the little girl for her mates awon Wiz kid and Davido. You're looking for small girl to fool. And why should her rich family matter? You feel you deserve the money because you raised your siblings? I don't trust you at all.
ReplyDeletelol @35-43? Haba! Thats mean naw.... hehehe
DeleteI support m-amie for the first time age matters! Especially when the woman is older than the man! It's a no no and even a sin
ReplyDeletewhere is it in d Bible, Madam?
DeleteLady JM. no vex sin? which bible? Remember David who married a much older married woman called Abigail who took care of him in his fugitive days before he became King?
DeleteAbigail was Nabals wife. After he died, David wifed her.., older woman and widow.1 Samuel 25.
Abeg help me ask Apostle JM oh. A sin indeed, smh, if men were God eeeehn........
DeleteGod created Adam first before Eve....Adam was older!!! #tongueout
DeleteThe only problem am seeing here should be from the man. I don't think the girl in question will have any problem but ask yourself these questions if the ans is yes go ahead. Will i be able to take it when my wife acts her age? when she dresses her age? when she hangs out with her age? when the talks to and make friends with men her age? i rest my case
ReplyDeleteI think age has notin to do with it Bt maturity,trust me I maried a man dat is 10yrs older dan me bt he acts below 20. Infact, d experience was terible dat I had to Move out afta 2 mnths. Stella I'll stil send U my story for people to learn frm d teribble mistake I made all in d name of wantin to be married.
ReplyDeleteSend it quick biko.
DeleteMy husby is 43 and am 26
ReplyDeleteWe got married when I ws 19
My dear every little thing kills his spirit
We hardly hv sex no communication is I to knw tomuch
we re jst leaving like that. Miracle or thing shld jst happen. I don't knw what it is but something shld happen
Ewooooo!!!
Deletesee wicked wife, so d miracle you're praying for, is for him to died.
When u were chopping his ready made money, u no know, now u want him to die, nigerians are d worst of creations
die*
Deletedie*
DeleteAnon 1:57 lwkmd ooooooo! Biko anokwom na train laughing like loon.
DeleteMercy N. Is dis u?
DeleteIt matters. If you can't create the fantasy life she wants or is used to. That marriage will not last. You will spend a better part of your marriage pleasing her. A woman has to know how to appreciate a good man before marriage because we can be easily carried away. Find a woman in her 30's or 40's. You will enjoy your life better, trust me. The generational gap is too much. And she is too young to really understand what the essence of marriage is. Which she will learn with age. I know many who married early but divorced now because they want to "live life" their friends lived. But at the time they rushed into marriage. Examples all around you. We women need to see a good man and appreciate him, also understand the essence of marriage before marriage. Most young ones have fantasy view and expectations of marriage. If you want peace and stability, look for a woman in your generation and age group who is doing well for herself. Peace of mind is paramount in life and marriage.
ReplyDelete100000 likes. A man ur age needs a woman ur age. A young girl wil want to experience life and will end up resenting you. The ladies here singing about their happy marriages to older men are not telling us about the male friends their age who they ping, tweet etc A young girl will be naturally attracted to a young man.
DeleteAge is nothing but numbers. If you na like make you na insult me that one no concern FG. I'm 19 now but last but 2years ago I dated someone who was 2yrs older dan me and d relationship went well and I won't lie she is d best thing dat has happen to me she treats me like a baby calls me 3times a day and stuff. But now we are no more and it was all my fault. Abeg age does nt Matter atol. Older ladies re d best! Sir alpachino
ReplyDelete2 years?
DeleteWe are talking of 20 years!
Shaaarap dia.
DeleteSee this rat still dey talk,lol....19?
DeletePoster, now is the time to sit down and ask yourself some honest questions.
ReplyDeleteIs her character a little matured or she loves the fast lane? If you are sexualy active with her, do you satisfy her easily or is she always leaving you with waist pain. If this girl is the matured & calm type and you karry her. You will be in for the best experience of your life. Truth is you are getting old & you need someone that can keep you & your home lively.
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But if this lady is the wild type & you eventually marry her, my brother instead of looking younger, you will age so fast that you will doubt your age.
Age is actually a number. But is she matured mentally for marriage?
Age really matter in marriage but at the same time depend on the level of understanding of the younger and d older person
ReplyDeleteI'm forty and single, dated a girl i knew from my area who was 27 then and i was 38 but the family said the age diff was too much and interfered and she couldnt stand up for what she believed in. We eventually broke up and till date she is not married(now 29) and i am yet un-married too. she has been trying to stage a comeback but i just cannot bring myself to loving her again cos i was embarassed. Now, though I don't find satisfaction in others that ive met (in their 30s), I just follow as day go by cos I'm getting better as i age and she on the other hand looks like my elder sister. QED(proven Beyond every reasonable doubt)
ReplyDeleteEeyah! Hope something works out for you soon.
DeleteO Lord, I am patiently waiting for my own man...this 2014 shall not pass me (Amen)
ReplyDelete27 no be play
E go pass u like breeze. Better focus on being the best woman u cn be 4 urself.
DeleteE go pass u like breeze. Better focus on being the best woman u cn be 4 urself.
DeleteI have not had luck dating guys my age,so I have decided to try someone older with about 5years. They are more matured
ReplyDeleteOga take my advice, don't marry her! 42 to 22? haba! Make you fear God! You are 42, what stop's you from marrying some one in her 30s? Men and small girls! Mtcheew. If you marry her you will start having problems in a few years. You are not Ojukwu
ReplyDeleteAge barrier ? Nonsense. Been dating people wayyyy older than me since I was 13 sha (if you like call me a hoe, na u sabi). and i am in my 20's now. Weytin i wan use age mate do ? 10 years and above it is. I cannot date you if you are not at least 10 years older than me. Till now, i still wonder how people settle for people who are just 5 years older than them. I cannot do it.
ReplyDeleteAwa, is dat u? Lmao
DeleteSo at 13 u knack 23 years man? Tufiakwa gi. Ur p**sy will be so slack by now.
DeleteSo at 13 u knack 23 years man? Tufiakwa gi. Ur p**sy will be so slack by now.
DeleteALABA BOYS THINGS ,THEY FULL TEDI VILLAGE IN OJO LOCAL GOVT MASTERS HOLDER LADY MARRY PRY 6 HOLDER ......IGBOTIC THING WITH PLENTY GAB IN AGE DIFFERNCE....GOD IS WATCHING YOU ALL
ReplyDeleteBetter to marry somebody with like 5 yrs gap for your sanity and peace of mind!
ReplyDeletePersonal experience.
ReplyDeleteReasons you can't be with older men
1. Is it really about love or flexing with younger generation?
2. Be ready for master-servant relationship
3.You are not allowed to air your view, talk back or even vent.
4. Bottle up whatever grieviances you have, with time. You will get to forget them.
5. You didn't make money or struggle with them so your opinions are meaningless.
6. Siblings family will always take precedents over you.
7. Kids are the main thing especially if he has none
8. If he ever trained u in school pr helped your family, you would never hear the end of it.
9. Communication is very low. What can u say to a man who had more life experience than u.
People are different but this is my experience.
Married one 38 yrs old than me and till date I hate the air he breaths
38?? Oh my! Wow . Easy dear.
DeleteWell said
DeleteWow! Speechless!
DeleteAnother like!
Delete38 yrs!!! Hiaaaaaaa!!! Nne ogini ka ichoro ga ebe ahu?
DeleteStella,i ll like u to publish dis.am 44yrs,a born again xtian and after much prayer,i felt d Lord s leading me to marry a 28 yrs old guy.i av been so sad and depressed but d guy loves and adores me.we av been friends since last yr.we are compatible bt am scared of d age diff.he doesnt mind d age,to him,he thinks am just overeactg.as a believer,i cant disobey God.pls sdkers and especialy d believers,pls kum to my rescue.wot do i do?he s abt to tel his family so dat dey can kum and c mine.btw,he s ibo bt i dont mind.God bless u all.
ReplyDelete16 years not beans
DeleteLady what's his financial status? If you are a lot more comfortable chill and act death poor I dont know him but I hope he aint a gold digger.
2. Have you discussed issues of childbearing no-one prays not to have kids but what if.......
3. Dont be blinded by love test him, try him, push him test him.
4. I hope you are not clingy...I don't want him turning around to say he married you out of pity.
5. When you stand beside him , what do you see, your son or your husband? How do you look are you the sexy Kate Henshaw kinda lady that can pass for 28?
Truth be told na for only deeper life where I don see where this kain age diff dey work o.
Open your eyes before u take the plunge. Much love
What is 'he's ibo but I don't mind'? Disgusting bigot. May u get what u deserve.
DeleteWhat is 'he's ibo but I don't mind'? Disgusting bigot. May u get what u deserve.
DeleteAku must u call Deeper life.Retard!!!..must u call a church to pass a message.Fyi Deeper life sef Dont allow such age difference. Dont say wat u aint sure of.Always bridle ur tongue n trend gently..Don't incure d wrath of God.
DeleteI'm awake! I'm alive! That's all that really matters......back to the grind...Lasgidi i'm coming to get you! *doing back flips* Bonjour Stella. Have a fabulous day
DeleteAge definitely does matter cos d 22yr old would most definitely act her age,matured or not.teenagers are a handful, its d growing up phase of their life,its not easy coping with them cos dey must grow up.@Poster.... Question is can u cope with the trends/lifestyles of teenage age??? i am 30 currently dating a 24yr male(dosent look his age though) trust me,it gets to me wen he exhibits his teenage tendencies,i seriously can't deal. Only advantage is our sex life is #mind blowing#......winks*
ReplyDeleteI wonder why you don't want to marry a 60 (or more) year old woman, or isn't age just a number? Well, that's by the way. I agree with you bro, Ojukwu was much older than Bianca. But you didn't say that he compensated by leaving her with lots of wealth (in cash and properties) when he died. Just like J. Howard marshal (Anna Nicole Smith's late oil tycoon husband) who got married to her in 1994 at the age of 89 when she was only 18 (that's 71 years gap). But, J. Marshal made her an instant millionaire when he died (of old age) in 1995 and left her with millions of US Dollars. So bro, the question here is, what is your own 'BUT'...? In case you don't understand, I mean, how much would you leave her?
ReplyDelete100000000000 likes! Tell it like it is mate.
Delete100000000000 likes! Tell it like it is mate.
DeleteHi poster. I'm 28 and available.
ReplyDeleteThirsty chic. Smh
DeleteU just killed me...lmao.
DeleteU just killed me...lmao.
DeleteTanx @ Aku.am a pretty lady,tall,a graduate wit money of mine own.bt he s nt a graduate.@anony,i said i dont mind him being ibo cos am nt tribalistic.my family knows i love d ibos a lot.i luk and act lik dem so much so dat pple kul m an ibo even right frm wen i was younger.almost al my friends are ibo.he keeps saying he doesnt want to lose me cos am lik an opportunity dat must nt pass him by.tanx
ReplyDeleteAbeg who r u fooling? Why mention his tribe if it isnt an issue? And wat does 'act like dem' mean? Massive idiot like u.
DeleteYou are welcome pretty lady. Please thread very carefully and pray really hard.
DeleteI respect your privacy you dont have to respond here... What does he do for a living? Does he earn? Abi you spend on you two? There's a lot of deceit even in churches hun. Open your eyes be worldly wise....no dulling.
DeleteShocker! I married my 57yrs old briton expatriate soon to be EX-husband when I was 24, he treated me like a precious stone, initially I was happy, I had it all, money, attention, everything. I was like a kid in candy shop but then I got bored, I got stiff bored, I began to feel embarrassed going to the mall wit my husband, it didn't matter If he will buy me a car, I just don't wanna be seen wit him, he became a sad man, I became a sad girl, he clung to his cigarette and bottle of whisky and i embraced my gadgets and soaps, I would get into bed wit my mobile phone and chat the night way wit younger friends and he will drink up his bottle of whisky and sleep off.....it ws that bad. All he wanted was to flaunt his beautiful young wife, all I wanted was to hide and not be seen wit an old husband. Sex was great by the way, the way people stared at the malls didn't make it easier, trust lagosians and staring. To cut long story short....I got bored stiff and I walked away. Fast forward- now I am engaged to an amazing guy who is 4yrs older than I am, he knows all about my past but my old husband has refused to give me a divorce, I don't want a legal battle wit him, so I'm just giving it time.
ReplyDeleteSummary.....from experience, age matters!!!!! It does matter, I used to think otherwise but now I know beta.
Wicked white hunter. Ur new guy is going show u pepper.
Deleteyou obviously entered the marriage for the wrong reason and if i get it right for the money.......if u enter marriage for the wrong reason it will never work..the gap was too much and you thought the goodies will make you happy......you don't mess with peoples emotions, am sure he married you cos he really loved you but u were with him for a diff purpose.....and trust me a 57 years old white man compared to a 57 black man looks old and wrinkled already....point of correction, u cannot be engaged to another when u are still legally married to another....how long will this guy wait for you? pls be careful so you dont get heart broken...i believe you have learnt your lesson well by now..pray he give u the divorce u want so u move on with your life
DeleteAwwww am kind of scared now, am about to marry a man who is 20years older than me in few months time.by the way am 28... but with all ur comments. ...awwww am kind of confused.
ReplyDeleteI am currently dating a man who is 47yrs and divorced, and am 28yrs. He loves and cares for me so much and I love him too.he has proposed to me.please want to get your opinions. Is the age difference much . Thanks
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