I am a corp member in the Federal Capital, NYSC brought me here, I don't know anybody in this town, I had to stay in camp for extra days after passing out because of accommodation problem, I honestly do not want to recount that experience.
Fast forward a friend in Lagos linked me up with her Uncle here in Abuja, alas the man had an empty boys quarter and like magic offered me the place for free. To cut the long story short, this man has been pestering me non stop for sex, and right now has given me an ultimatum to move out, pay five hundred and fifty thousand naira as yearly rent for the house or give in to his advances.
I must say people call it pride, but sleeping with someone in exchange for a temporary material thing is just not an option for me, my parents cannot afford to pay for a place for me to rent right away, i have weighed the options, if i start sleeping with this old man now, means i would continue till the end of my service year, means i would be offending God for almost a year straight. I just do not know why people are so evil, this man is way older than my father and it would cost him absolutely nothing to let me stay there. I spoke with my friend about it, and in her own words "I always dull myself" Please pleaseeee, help me, if you have a place for me to stay in Abuja, I know it is hard letting strangers into your home, but i swear I am not an evil person, I am not a bad person at all, I just need a place to lay my head, I don't want to be homeless, i have tried to redeploy back to Lagos where i have accommodation, but the process failed.
The only last option for me would be to forget about the whole NYSC thing and just go back home, as sleeping with a man older than my father is just not an option for me. If you have ever been homeless before you would have an idea of how i feel right now. I do not even want to tell my mum of what i am going through, cos she is hypertensive and worries about everything. I had to summarize this story and leave out some details, as i am honestly not looking for pity, just a place to stay.
Like they say desperate situations call for desperate measures, please if you have never been in this kind of situation, no need to laugh or curse me out. Cos i pray you never experience it.
Please Stella help me reach out to your readers, The only thing that has been giving me hope is the word of God, Matthew 6:25-34, but i must say, I am just a human being and sometimes even my Faith fails me. I believe God would definitely let this trying times pass over me.
Like they say desperate situations call for desperate measures, please if you have never been in this kind of situation, no need to laugh or curse me out. Cos i pray you never experience it.
Please Stella help me reach out to your readers, The only thing that has been giving me hope is the word of God, Matthew 6:25-34, but i must say, I am just a human being and sometimes even my Faith fails me. I believe God would definitely let this trying times pass over me.
*sad sigh*
Pls SDKers in ABJ suld a sista
ReplyDeleteNccf and nacc etc even Muslim corpers fellowship have family house. Go and stay there
DeleteNa wa ooo... Just that I so much cherish my space like craze... OK send me a mail: binacyril@gmail.com.
DeleteThank you. Nccf. Even if na to sleep for floor there.
DeleteCorpers have fellowships wch one do you belong to.forget nysc bc of accomodation,didn't u worked yourself down there to abj,u tink its a city of roses,mydear buckle up a lot of people have passed through more that wat you tink you are going through,and they are big people today in that same abuja never you give up.
Delete@Princess Charming, do shall every emptiness in your life be filled with grace honor glory and aura of favors.. God bless you! Aunty Esii of life. And to you poster be of a good character
Delete@poster,
ReplyDeleteStick to wat u blv in n DONT offer
him any puzzy!
Rawbeish!
Where do u worship? Are u a worker in the vineyard?why don't u talk to someone in ur group in church?they could be of help u know....I wish u the very best sugar and I pray God answers ur prayer speedily. Lastly,please don't do it!dont sleep with the old man!
ReplyDeleteNa wa o.....its like men cant help ladies without attaching a price tag to it,,,and to think the man is an old man that is old enough to have this lady as his daughter.....Poster,,God will send u help....would have loved to help but i dont know anyone in Abuja...it is well and pls dont let that old man get down with you,,be extra careful too,,,i dont trust such men ..the next thing on his mind could be RAPE....God will surely make a way...
ReplyDeletePosters should pls try and learn to summarize abeg;they should stop dishing us with long epistles and bogus stories that shouldn't be more than three lines! #mtchew##
ReplyDeleteQuick question, do u know u re stupid?
DeleteHaney
U r a waste of semen.eleyin waro.ogunfe sisun osi
DeleteLmao!!! I love it wen u guys yab dis yomslaw soooo funny man
DeleteKai.....Yomslaw,,see ur life for outside(wo aye e lode).......all dis insult for u alone???sorry ooo
DeleteThat wasnt a long one..Yomslaw
DeleteMshewww u that u like to make off points n say unneccesary jokes/points,is complaining someone's story is long.
DeleteHonestly, ima ihe! Nwa azuruzu ka e bu! I don't reside in Abuja at the moment, would have loved to offer a helping hand! U are really in a tight situation, don't be tempted to succumb! Hold on to God and keep searching. Don't u have a friend or relative who knows somebody that knows somebody or something?
ReplyDeleteDont be so gullible, its a wicked world. Dnt believe everything u read here.
DeleteHmm, sleeping with him is d first option. Being a good girl doesn't pay these days. U can just code it quietly and make sure u get other financial help ftom him, but dont turn it into a habbit or get carried away. Make long throat no catch u and u start sleeping with other older men.
ReplyDeleteala gbachikwa gu nto ebe afu. To even tell this lady this, God will judge u. Anu ofia!
DeleteI disagree in totality! BEING A GOOD GIRL PAYS! Ask me... yea mee. I pray for you to change too.
Delete@poster, have you tried Nccf, what of your local assembly? Where you worship. This too shall pass!
Renee, I second your comment. Efulefu!!!. Useless girl. Please @ poster DO NOT listen to this ratchet tout. God will send a helper. I don't reside in abj, would have loved to help. Seriously though IMO NYSC is a waste of 1 year.
DeleteIvie u gave the most useful advice..nccf helped me too wen I had alil house problem but not to ds extent sha.to d writer try n go to nccf family house u hear.
DeleteHmmmm I stay in abuja, am a Coper too staying with my parents but hav a room we can share, I stay in nyanya call me on 08157084606.....the name is joy
ReplyDeleteGod bless you.
DeleteGod bless u
DeleteI hope you are ready for the shock of your life!!!. Don't be too open to strangers. This is Nigeria where it is difficult for police to trace people if things go wrong.
DeleteGod bless and reward u Joy.
DeleteDabby.
I hope your ready for a step-mother @madam nice. God forgive me but one can just not be too careful this days oo.
DeleteI don't trust anyone again. Especially woman! Took the hard way for me to learn.
Haha you guys are funny.. @Joy may God reward you richly
DeleteHave you tried reaching out to NYSC corp members affairs for them to help you out?
ReplyDeleteAlso, there is NCCF Nigerian Christian Corpers Fellowship, they usually have a family house in every state where corp members can lodge. I thing Redeemed Corp members also have a lodge. Then LGs also have lodges for corp members.
You are really embarrassing your school. Are you saying that you have not thought out other options that you want to stay with strangers?
tsk tsk tsk
DeleteHmmmm I stay in abuja, am a Coper too staying with my parents but hav a room we can share, I stay in nyanya call me on 08157084606.....the name is joy
ReplyDeleteHmmmm..., dunno how true this story is but if you are for real, send me an email with ur phone number at rudoh@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteI really am short of words,I really pray u don't fall into d wrong hands. May God raise help for u.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand,u can go to ur church n tell ur Pastor(if ur a christian),they could help fix u somewhere u know? That's wot d church is for_sharing God's love.
Madam poster, when you were bribing your way to be posted to Abuja, u prolly thought money falls from the sky there yeah? Nobody gets posted to Abj by chance, it's strictly by working it(Bribing). Life is expensive there tho. I won't advise you to go sleeping around but it's usually safe to cut our coats according to our cloths.
ReplyDeleteYour PPA would determine where u shud be seeking help from. I learnt there's a Catholic Church in Zone 2 that helps corp members with housing, go there me see if u can get help.
Shut up! People get posted 2abuja. Did u see d part whr sh said sh has tried redeployin? Oniyeye
DeleteU guys like to open ur mouth and vomit rubbish, who told u nobody gets posted to abuja expect thru bribe? Shior, Abeg speak for urself jor and stop yaning dust. Y did u hv to comment if u can't help? U want to be heard rite? Ok we don hear u.
DeleteSwerve is right!!!i served in abuja n trust me 90percent of ppl dat serve here go extra lengths to be here!infact the NYSC officials even tease us with it in camp saying they knw we all worked our way to abj...before u come here,u need to make adequate preps n plans.trust me,if u really want to redeploy,they will be too happy to assist u cos there's usually a queue for ppl fighting to come here.That said,am happy Joy offered to help you,but pls dnt bite the finger that will help u ooh.and be sure ur nt entering fire frm frying pan..like the others sd,the church camps would have been the best,except your looking for smwhere exotic..Goodluck
Delete@Iphie dearie, leave those two Anon morons, speaking thru their nostrils and sounding so pained. Comment wt ur names, faceless bastard. Na me send una go Abuja go do ashewo work? U didn't meet a senator, now u want free accomodation? Scum of the earth!
DeleteSwerve, (like dat's ur own real name), u'r just a bitter fucktard. If u av no help 2 render move d fuck on and dnt spew thrash all over d place. Skank! Piece of shit. Leave d poster alone and dnt take out ur frustration on her! U'r d scum of d earth. Oponu ayerada. Ode jatijati. And dat I'm commenting as anon doesn't make me any less human, or make my comment any less effective. Choke on ur bitternes. Jesus loves u
DeleteI got posted to lagos without working it. So what are u guys saying?
DeleteGirl friend i feel your pain, if u are serving at least your are been paid, Y dont you get an apartment in one of the villages in abuja they are at least cheap,u will still get as low as 40k, wish I can help...Take care dear, May God provide for u
ReplyDeleteShe's been paid how much, 19,800? So where will d 40k spring out from? SMH. May God help u.
DeleteLOOOL good answer @anon4:44pm
Deletethen go home.
ReplyDeleteEeeyah. I wish I had someone in Abuja who can accommodate you. Your useless friend must be a pimp and the randy he-goat uncle is probably her client.
ReplyDeleteGood luck
Let the poster drop her contact details please. I'll contact her and see her first before I can offer her a place in my house. Nothing too fancy, just somewhere she can lay her head at night.
ReplyDeleteAshawo man..no go toast her o..dis one u use anonymous write..wid no contact 2 reach u on
DeleteOh my goodness! This is so bad....where in Abuja are you?
ReplyDeleteNice job @Stella...keep it up dear.
http://ngozikanwiro.blogspot.com
Since u have placed ur whole heart on God n u r keeping to his commandments, he will raise helpers for u. Just keep d faith
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm.What of the coy you were redeployed to? At least they should assist you in a way or two.Well, I pray you get help cos it ain't easy leaving your family for NYSC, talk more of passing thru difficulty in a strange land.God will see you thru.
ReplyDeleteAwww dearie, i feel ur pain.
ReplyDeleteI live in d suburb of abj, dutse alhaji to be precise, u can stay here for as long as u want if u dnt mind. Reply if u re interested so i can tell u how to reach me
Hmmmm nawa o nysc n wahala... O Lord see ds poster thru; giv her testimony dat will sound like a lie n may d dick of ds man (older than her fada) making sexual advances @ her shrink t pieces. Amen.
ReplyDeleteSlim shady.....dis ur prayer na elele.....eyin tun gbadura fun africa...lol
DeleteGod will make a way for u..d bible says 'd heart of kings n princes are in God's hands like d rivers of water n He directs it wherever he wishes' ..I pray God will touch his heart or send u a helper.it is well with u dear...I once had accomodation problem too in lagos (where I have several family members o including a broda dat has a posh 4 bedroom duplex @ lekki) but God used my friends
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I'm going through the same problem. Accommodation in Abuja is really a big problem. Me I don even tire self. I just pray I don't kill my self some day,cos I don pray soteh prayer don tire me. Things are nt working out at all... and it seems the only way girls make it in this town is to sale ur self for money,which am so scared of.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, I I'M TIRED.
It would work out every1 passed through some of these things but today here we are.
DeleteIsn't there like a corper's lodge there? Or don't u have corper friends who can accommodate u? People at your PPA nko?
ReplyDeleteI am not really a fan of all these long stories as I think most of them are cooked up.
ReplyDeleteThis is what I have to say: Find a one room in a part of Abuja that is cheap but not too far from where you r place of primary assignment is. I will pay half of the rent for you. I will create a gmail address in a minute and send it to Stella.The money will be sent through Stella. I am a guy but I have no interest in knowing you nor you knowing me. I am not an angel but I can imagine how a cross road can be (if your story is true).
So the ball is in your court.
I truly say this prayer from the bottom of my heart for yo,God bless and keep you! I would have offered the poster a place too,but I live in Lagos.
DeleteNice one bro..lol@ur nt an angel...I knw ppl like u hate to be thanked...But God bless u..i think this should solve her problem,its a good option in this town filled with sheep in wolf clothing!
DeleteI think I know who this is...
DeleteBrother, may God Bles you......
DeleteGod bless you sir.
DeleteEeeya may God see u through and make sure u dont hurt anybody dat decides to help u out o...cos d heart of man is desperately wicked....u dont wanna sleep with d man bcos he is too old or is it bcos u dnt wanna commit adultery/furnication...does it mean dat if a married woman dat has a young husband helps u out u will sleep wit her hubby? If u are truly a God fearing person thwn dnt worry help will come ok...takia
ReplyDeleteDisgusting old man.
ReplyDeleteAbuja readers! please help the young lady.
I know that 99% of fct corpers worked for it. Those who tried for lagos liike me sef were sent to abj. Abj isn't just come and take. That said I didn't pay for my own posting but dear poster if u have a ppa means u earn at least 10k+19k equals u can get a place in yanyan. If u have a friend that can link u to her uncle who has free BQ then u aren't as poor. If u dey find rent or eye house of 550 then my dear u be tif. 550k can rent u a flat in lugbe,kubwa,etc U no get conscience? Simply because u can pay less in many other areas eg papay,yanyan, kubwa,apo extension to mention a few and None of these places would cost u more than your parents and friends can rally for you. Ontop sef u coulda gotten a room mate
DeleteEverybody has had acc issues in abuja but scalled 2ru it.
Help yourself by cutting your coat according to your cloth.
Also fellow. Sdkers are u sure the man hasn't seen her living la viida? So him sef want a piece? Coz if u dey do am daddy daddy ontop and make him see or love u like a father. I'm aa really set girl by all standards but I've learnt to try and deflect o!
I'm not saying you should sleep with the man infact never do have sex for favours. Date a man,date a guy do whatever rocks your boat but don't belittle yourself this way. And my sugar I'm not a saint but i'll tell u same thing I told my friend on sunday. No man wants to help u for free but I'm a testimony to has gotten the best things(my nysc posting and even retaining me in my govt job) for free. The man no ever ask me d colour of my pant till date. I even call him daddy now.
Be wise! Get cheap accommodation- help yourself!
I don't like the help me, help me, mentality we have in Nigeria. I believe if u want help, show yourself useful abeg.
Many people like us have come to town with 3k and Ghana must go.
this is a difficult situation but i'll suggest to report this case to a police station for documentation sake explaining to them the situation ur in. run away from there if ur a christian enquire from ur fellow corpers for (family houses)where they lodge corpers. they have the NFCS FAMILY HOUSE and NACC FAMILY HOUSE. once the old man realises u ran out without paying such amount ur police report will back u up for the main tym till they resolve it.
ReplyDeleteOmg! This is so sad. Men are useless
ReplyDeleteYea we are,and ur father is number one
DeleteSome men can b very wicked n there's no assurance dat after sleeping wiv him he wud allow u stay d whole year, I dnt reside in Abj but I bliv someone wiv a kind heart on dis blog wud render u help, be steadfast in prayers n bliv dat dis phase is temporary n it wud end shortly. 'hugssss'
ReplyDeleteim also servn here in abuja. thank God for my parents.i know wat ur goin thru but please dont do it. Go down on ur knees and beg God, ull be suprised wat He will do to ur situation. Meanwhile, ill ask aroud and see hw we cn help u out.
ReplyDeleteeeyah!.....inbox me your digits @ 08032225403
ReplyDeleteGod will make a way
U don't leave ur contact carelessly on d internet or anywhr else. Just saying
Deleteeeyah!.....inbox me your digits @ waleakintade77@gmail.com
ReplyDelete08032225403
God will make a way
Dis is risky ooo.....
Deletenothing is actually free in life dear poster...work ur way around it wisely,maybe u are telling him No in a rudely way.relate with him in a fatherly manner and also pray about it.#sipsMoetnChandon#
ReplyDeleteDats how people get raped.
DeleteMy Dear you get mind to want to live with strangers. I'll advice you to look for the nearest Christian family lodge to stay for now still you can find a place. Talk to your Area Officer about your condition & your corper friends. You still have lots of options. Finally move out of that he goats house ASAP. May GOD protect to make the right decision so you don't jump from fry pan to fire.
Breezy
It is easy, you either forget your NYSC or you deal.
ReplyDeleteMy love don't sleep with him
ReplyDeleteIf you're not being too choosy about location, theres one area in Lokogoma that I can arrange For you.
The rent is actually really affordable and I will gladly pay for you however I have never been to the area so I don't know how it is , or how comfy it is but I know that some of my friend's workers live there, its like a self contained apartment I think.
Ill get more info for you, just tell him to give you till month end , ill pay for you as soon as my salary gets paid.
Ill keep up with the comments session of this post just for your sake if you're interested.
meanwhile when is your NYSC ending? I might just have a better option for you!
And don't worry Im not a homo, no fear, I don't want anything in return and you might never even meet me in person(not necessary) I just feel you as a woman who has chosen to keep her head up high willing to encourage that.
There is a reason why everything has a price. Nothing is ever free. You pay somehow. U still haven't learnt. Read 48 laws of power. Law 40 is apt. "Despise the free lunch"
ReplyDeleteYou are plainly dumb.
DeleteYou must be very Foolish....I believe that is how you treat your patient who can't afford common paracetamol... 48 laws my foot. Hissssssss
DeleteYou dumb idiots if you've read 48 laws of power you would understand what okechukwu was saying. Lemme break it down, he simply means she shouldn't have taken the free house because nothing is ever free. When anyone gibes you something for free most times its because they want something in return hence the old man gave her the free house because he knew he could put her in this kind of situation where she has no choice but to accept. Hope you retards understand now
DeleteIf it were 2 be Lagos, would hv had lots of options 4 u to choose 4rm coz dt's where I base. *sad face* So over to u guys in Abuja esp peeps wid lots of houses with no occupants, u guys kno yrslves. Be yr brothers keeper
ReplyDelete*eats garri and kulikuli plus sugar
She should go back to NYSC camp or look for cheap accommodation in the outskirts like Bwari, Gwagwalada, Maraba, Nyanya, One man village, sharp corner, Aleita, Ado, Massaka, Jikwoyi, Karshi, Orozo, Piakasa, Chika, Dutse, Kuchingoro..
ReplyDeleteAlternatively, she wopuld have made some friends as a corper so, she should look at getting about 2 other friends to contribute and share the rent. A room self contain goes for N300 - N500k so..
She should go back to NYSC camp or look for cheap accommodation in the outskirts like Bwari, Gwagwalada, Maraba, Nyanya, One man village, sharp corner, Aleita, Ado, Massaka, Jikwoyi, Karshi, Orozo, Piakasa, Chika, Dutse, Kuchingoro..
ReplyDeleteAlternatively, she wopuld have made some friends as a corper so, she should look at getting about 2 other friends to contribute and share the rent. A room self contain goes for N300 - N500k so..
Haba Madam!!! E de rora! U wan kill d poor girl nii? How much does nysc pay dat she will pay 500k for few months left for her. Even u, much do u pay for d rent of d house all members of ur family live in? Is it up to dat amount u ar calling? If u can't help, then shut d fuck up and gerroutta here!
DeleteBuhahahahahahahahaha @anon3:38pm. *wipes tears*
DeleteShe should go back to NYSC camp or look for cheap accommodation in the outskirts like Bwari, Gwagwalada, Maraba, Nyanya, One man village, sharp corner, Aleita, Ado, Massaka, Jikwoyi, Karshi, Orozo, Piakasa, Chika, Dutse, Kuchingoro..
ReplyDeleteAlternatively, she would have made some friends as a corper so, she should look at getting about 2 other friends to contribute and share the rent. A room self contain goes for N300 - N500k in and around town so..
Dumb comment...how many group of 3 corpers can afford to pay 300-500k for accommodation?
DeleteHaba, this story is funny though. Nysc ppa's come with accommodation however horrible it might be. So poster if you have not been given a place to stay go to your lga and complain. I served in Ogun and was given a dilapitated house to stay in. My dear you better manage if you where given a place to stay.
ReplyDeleteMost ppa in Abj don't give Corpers accommodation, Notin like LGA just area council
DeleteLike seriously? Free accommodation? Must b in some rural areas or u were attached to a sch or LG Council. If I hear say Abuja PPA offer accommodation free.
DeletePple r delicate noni.wud av loved to help.bt mayb if we get her tru information includin ha ppa.
ReplyDeleteDarling its not even safe to have strangers accommodate you...some blog visitors maybe :
ReplyDeleteMamiewaters or pappiwaters
Rapists
Swindlers
Or Ritualists
You have 3 options left:
1.option 1 : the NYSC joint fellowship accommodation...they'll gladly take u into
2.option 2: inform the organisation you work for in abj that you are about to loose your accommodation if they can't help ask for a leave of absence of so you can run around and raise cash.
Option 3: did you make @ least one new friend while in camp or meet old school friends @ camp.. They could help.
Living with people you meet on a blog can cost you more than you think. Selah
You are right dear,before they initiate you into lesbianism they are many here in abj. Just follow this anon advice
DeleteOption 4,she can take the cash offers she's getting here...very good advice!
DeleteDo what u gatta do shiii.....will u die? on the otherhand u ll be homeless shikena
ReplyDeleteDis' how u heap curse on ur children n dey never see helpers in their lives..how can u advise someone to sleep around for favours?ashewo oshi
DeleteDis' how u heap curse on ur children n dey never see helpers in their lives..how can u advise someone to sleep around for favours?ashewo oshi
DeleteI thought NYSC usually has those quarters for corpers without accommodation? It's not very pleasant but a lot of corpers stay there. Also CLASFON, (I might be mistaken) but one of the Christian students associations also have dorms/rooms/hostels for corpers. Maybe you should ask around. Are you a member of any church in Abj? Explain your predicament to someone in church.
ReplyDeleteI'm hoping some kind person offers you a place so that you won't have to endure the stress that comes with the above options. Ignore your friend's uncle and stop questioning why he won't just help you when it won't cost him anything. Truth is, he owes you nothing, besides some people are just naturally mean. There's nothing you can do about it. DO NOT COMPROMISE YOURSELF, don't sleep with that man. If push comes to shove please look at the above options or for other options.
Accommodation in Abj is a serious issue. Last year I turned down three good jobs in Abuja because I had no where to stay, and the rent is outrageous and like you, I didn't want to have to compromise myself. Stay true, God always comes through for his people, soon this will be a thing of the past.
Send me a mail ASAP on shadgcna@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteIt is well
ReplyDeleteYour primary place of assignment(ppa) did not provide accomodation for you. I feel so sorry for u dear my God see u tru
ReplyDeleteTruth be told, in as much as I sympathize with you, a lot of corpers in abuja right now in abuja worked their way into fct and they now realize its not easy to live in abuja because it is very expensive here. I say this because iam a corper too here in abuja and in camp we talked about how 90 percent of us walked our way to serve here. Iam here because my parent are here too. To the concerned corper, you can always get a cheaper rent in the surburbs. Good luck
ReplyDeleteYou are right but maybe she is among the 10% but moreover she would have thought of this before coming to abj
DeleteNo corper and I repeat no corper gets posted to Abuja or Lagos without working!! Unless you schooled abroad
DeleteWhat batch r u pls? Can't u ask fellow corpers to help u out? And u can try locate NCCF family house or Redeem family house or Catholic family house,they can help accomodate u.
ReplyDeleteDidnt u make friends in camp, get smone and join funds with and rent a place, or better still look for accomodation in one of d outskirts, gwagwalada and bwari. As long as you keep looking for freebies u r inviting trouble.
ReplyDeleteYou too you like better thing,from your post you didn't work your service to abj and ill never advise anyone to do that except you have someone to accommodate you here cos housing is too expensive.now if you can't afford the accommodation you should have redeployed nah,people don't do free things here without benefit.if you can't redeploy stay in the out skate of abj, sef con are cheaper there,you can pair with a corper too.but you should have thought of that before service nah.all d best
ReplyDeleteSo, did email stella and ask if there is awoof accommodation before runsing it to abuja? my friend you wre stupid, you didnt know that abuja is the most expensive when it comes to accommodation in naija? so u didnt consider stuffs before *please can you help me runs it to abuja*? mcheeew, nothing in this country is free, its either in kind or in cash. choose wisely
ReplyDeleteStella whr's my comment?? Poster pls ask ard 4 corper's lodge. Its @ nyanya maraba axis. U stay there 4 free upon d expiration of ur service year. My frds stayed there till pop. They have catholic and pentecostal lodge. Identify wit any. Cheers. #Belle
ReplyDeleteI would ve' gladly helped if I were in Abj. I really do feel ur pain coincidentally something similar(maybe nt too similar sha ) happened to me just a few weeks ago. My hubby and I are both jobless and we have a child to cater for. a neighbour of ours who is very aware of our situation and who happens to be a senior oga in one of d airline @ MMiA promised to fix me somewhere in his workplace after my hubby asked him for help. Excitedly,I went to his office only for him to shamelessly( as in no trace @ all) say to me that the job offer comes with a condition yes" I will ve' to be his mistress" or just give it to him once. he showed me an employment letter but I will collect it after our first round of action @ protea or soo.(Nt sure of the name) I was so dissapointed and almost cried my eyes out.sorry for the epistle I pray u get help or better still look for someone maybe a fellow corper u can share wit.am sure u ll' get cheaper places outside town. All d best dear
ReplyDeleteDon't worry,when his children need help desperately(probably in a life-threatening position)dats wen his karma will visit.
DeleteJesu ovie ! Na God go help una o. If u get small money begin buy and sell something before u know it u no go look for job again. All the best
DeleteHope you remembered to spit on him before leaving.
DeleteYour neighbour for that matter.
Inbox your C.V to me at aduke.adeniran@gmail.com
I'll fix you up
Na wa oo @ Mrs L, the Lord is your strength... Imagine your neighbour for that matter. You can gather money from diff quarters, then start something small... Nemesis will surely catch up with him... Leave him cos the world we live is a small place.
Deletewhy do our men do this? anyway, the ball is in the court of us women? teach your sons to be different.
DeleteSo sad what our society has become! I wish I could help in some way, but don't have the means. Don't you have friends you could squat with?
ReplyDeleteHang in there dear. I know it's a trying situation but pls don't give in to his advances.
There is always another way. As Maria said in the Sound of Music, 'when God closes a door, He always opens a window somewhere!'
Hmmmmmm. Am so speechless ryt nw.
ReplyDeleteI don't pity u for one simple reason, u found a way to get urself posted to abuja! So knowing u don't know anybody there, why did u do that? Don't tell me u just got posted to abuja, cos its a big lie! Everybody that has done NYSC knows that abuja is reserved for "long legged ppl"! So what was ur plan when u were going there? Anyway, if u claim u are stranded, then pls go back to camp and plead with Christian corpers fellowship to lodge u in their room! But I doubt u'll take that advise cos gals like u have big eyes and will be claiming "I can't sleep with old man" when u are looking for the younger men with cash to shamelessly open legs for! Mtcheew...
ReplyDeleteGbammest
DeleteSister/brother you harsh o!
DeleteLOl this your comment na die.. E go even make the poor girl sitdown for joko think of her life.... Damn!
DeleteMy dear I know how u feel I did my NYSC in abj n trust me it was not funny @all I was leaving 4 1 house to another 4 over 3months n I almost quit nysc till I got a self contain @ lugbe area.so u can go to dat area n look 4 accomodation n its quite cheap.unless say u dey put eye 4 wuse,garriki,Asokoro or mataima area.
ReplyDeleteGosh dis is bad!!!
ReplyDeleteDear poster i applaud u for trusting in God nd for remaining faithful to him and his word.
An I advice u to continue putting ur faith in God cos he neva fails nd I know dat he wont fail u.
Just see dis situation as a test of ur faith...so its beta for u to sleep in d street dan sell ur body to dat devil.
So my dear hold on nd pray, I know dat God will surely surprise u in no time!!
Whatever happened to squatting? Look for youth corpers like you and squat with them. Are you sure your friend did not set you up with the randy uncle? Make uncle no come rape you oh. Na you dey find free house. He is asking you for sex in exchange.
ReplyDeleteItz not pride dear, itz integrity and you are doing the right thing. I pray God uses someone to come to your aid soon
ReplyDeleteI feel ur situation. Don't even consider it after all said n done no luck, seek 4 redeployment back 2 whr ur parents r. Which 4get service when u can serve anywhr? Honestly I don't know of anybody dat will give u anything free of charge in Abj. Still waiting 2 be shocked sha. Even if they do, I will still be suspicious. N gud pple won't readily open their homes 2 u if u lyk quote genesis 2 rev our country is bad n full of bad pple. Meet ur LGI or ZI any1, go 2 ur church if no luck redeploy dat's all I can tell u. N to all dose pple who hv hustle 2 come 2 Abj 4 service, witout weighing deir options, same deal awaits all of u.
ReplyDeleteBabe gaan share rent with your fellow corper.
ReplyDeleteAnd stop looking for awuf!
Na una dey work una NYSC go abuja.
Awuf dey purge belle oo(ur safety is paramount).
No free food in freetown #UEar!
BTW ur place of primary assignment shld mk provision for u.
And wetin u dey use ur mony do sef.
My 1st degree i saved up to 100k frm my NYSC.(Plz learn to save oo n try get connection)
Good Luck!
Lol. First degree ? With all the zzzs and gaan , spelling 'hear' as 'ear' ?
DeleteYou're as good as an illiterate road pepper seller.
Nigeria's educational system is in shambles. No appropriate punctuation marks and you call this a sentence ?
I weep for this nation.
If the ilks of you are the leaders of tomorrow, I'd rather be stuck with those Baba 70s.
Infact redeploy n save ur mum d stress.
ReplyDeleteCorper, there are cheaper options, get a place in the outskirts and share with other corp members.
ReplyDeleteHi Poster,
ReplyDeleteI do not have a place in Abuja but have a few words of advice I can give. Can you talk to anyone in your PPA? Do you have other corper friends? If you don't, you can talk to a few about this during the next CDS. I pray you find a place soonest.
Side note: Please don't sleep with anyone for material things. It's never worth it. A few years ago, an old company vice president wanted to sleep with me. The only urgent thing I needed then was a phone. I refused and got a very old, heavy phone from a family member. I look back now and thank God I never did it. I can afford to buy the most expensive phone now without feeling it in my account. Wish you the best dear.
Sister please don't give up on your trust in God,there's definitely a reason why this kinda temptation has been set before you. But remember at the end of it all there are rewards. God is looking for a way to bless you,don't fail his test. I hope and pray you find some where safe out there even if its a mud house,just remember he's always with you.
ReplyDeleteI'm 100 percent sure u worked ur service to Abuja hopin to make it big, unfortunately u didn't see wat u expected
ReplyDeleteU're very stupid for that comment
DeleteEyah! I feel for you and I pray you find help. Please don't sleep with the useless man, i wonder why some men are so heartless.
ReplyDeletePoster, i salute your will power and courage
So many useless girls will accept this offer sharp sharp. You are one of the rare ones. Hang in there, help would come
ReplyDeleteSpare me.
DeleteI like the poster.
She's working her way round people's sensibilities.
Dear Poster, be honest with yourself.. If there was no SDK blog or whatsoever, what will you do ?
Don't be writing sob stories because you want help.
If want help, simply request for it.
So does she need help as per accommodation or she is already sleeping with the old fool? I cant still understand the import of the message.
ReplyDeleteI tell ya.
DeleteMy mind no dey deceive me.
She done did it.
But maybe plan didn't work as expected, she come come here give us cock (pun intended, please) and bull stories.
I easily feel for people, in such cases I help as much as I can but THIS I'm not buying.
OMG, wish I could help. There's a spare room in my house o but I'm married, not that I don't trust my husband o, he has never shown signs of being a bad man, in fact he's a God fearing man but with the kind of stories I've read on this blog, can any man be trusted?
ReplyDeleteDont even try it. You wan tempt your hubby?
DeleteNoooo...pls...they can't. I'd rather be safe than sorry really.
DeleteBabe accommodation isn't eazy in abj ooo. But you must not stay in town na, my colleague in the office just got a house at Lugbe Fed housing for 180k and you have other cheap areas like karu, Nyanya, Kwuba, Mpape and the rest.
ReplyDeleteSelf con in kubwa standard is 300 350 lowest inside d village 250
DeleteWhere ΐƨ ųя PPA?can't D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ offer Ɣøû Accomodatn?
ReplyDeleteNa wa oh
ReplyDeletePoor girl, i don't live in Abuja, i would have offered her accommodation.
please if you are a SINGLE female and you can accommodate her till she finishes please do.
Please note that i said single female, i don't want to see another allegation of sexual advances or a married woman saying that this poster is sleeping with or seducing her husband after helping her.
At poster, i also think you can get cheaper accommodation and we can assist you financially.
let's be wise.
Dearie, I was in the same boat 8 years ago. I believe there is an NCCF family house in Abuja. You can stay there for free all through your service year. Please do not give in to his advances or any pressure to do what is wrong. Go to NCCF family house. They will gladly welcome you and provide you with a place to sleep each night and meals...all free.
ReplyDeleteMadam how did you get to serve in Abuja?
ReplyDeleteFrom your story, I don't think you schooled outside Nigeria. Only corpers that schooled abroad get posted to Lagos and Abuja directly. The rest have to work it!
So why didn't you work your service to Lagos where you have accommodation?
Wetin you go find for Abuja before? You they find who would take you in so you can become 2nd wife abi. Hahaha.....I hear you ooo
I don take seat
Good choice you ve made not to turn yourself into a sex slave, I don't stay in abj but I remember in my service year christian organisations lead by corp members always offered accommodation, if this 0isnt still in practise go to the nearest catholic c0hurch n speak to d rev sister in charge, they might be able to offer you boarding. Take care
ReplyDeleteNo b u post ursef go abuja before?
ReplyDeleteWell, nccf has a family house in every state for situations like this. Find where they are and go there.
I served in gombe state and stayed in nccf family house till I finished service year.
Compromising is not an option sweetheart.
God will help you. Look for a friend and squat with the person.
ReplyDeleteAbuja is the worst place for a corper without family members based in abuja to serve
May God provide a roof ova ur head IJN. But sm people av no shame sha. Y can't ppl assist odas without wanting smtin in return whether in kind or evn a thnk u.
ReplyDeleteI personally do not expect people 2 reciprocate any kind gesture av done cos great personal satisfaction is what I derive from helping whenever I can.
Sorry dear,really feel.for you been in a similar situation of homelessness and helplessness during my service year, God would c you through, please someone should assist her,maybe you can get an accodomation at a cheaper side of the town.
ReplyDeletePost comments nah, which way stella
ReplyDeleteWat abt corpers' lodge? Can't u try there? Cos it's obvious ur frnd has sold u off to her uncle,for her to tell u u'r dulling urself. I don't stay in abj,buh I wish u d best
ReplyDeleteAccommodation Ȋ̝̊̅§ a serious issue I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ abj. Reach out †Φ NYSC, or your place of employment....they Ǎ̜̣̍я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ supposed †Φ provide for you. You can also stay with Nacc or the pentecostal one. Those Ǎ̜̣̍я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ your best option! Sexy D
ReplyDeleteNa wah ooohhh....
ReplyDeleteIf You are a Christian, I'll advice you to Locate NCCF Family house and put up with them. Maybe later u can raise money and rent cheaper apartment @ one of the satellite towns.
ReplyDeleteplease do not give in to his demands.
If u were anywhere close I would have given u a very dirty slap! Why influence ur. Posting to abuja when u have neither friends nor family over there? Wtf is wrong wit children of nowadays? U're the architect of ur own problems so deal with it!
ReplyDeletei dont get,NYSC provides corpers lodge nauu..go and ask your coordinator...
ReplyDeleteThis is off topic! Pardon me pls. Is it advisable 4 a gal 2 marry a man she doesn't have feelings for? Some one she shares different opinions on life issues, someone she can't communicate with fluently especially in English but of thesame tribe? Someone her taste is a bit different 4rm the man? Someone she does not really find attractive? So much more... Dunno wat 2 tell my friend about dis, that"s y am bringing it here so I can know how 2 advise her. There's just a lot of difference between them but she wants 2 settle 4 this cos she feels time is no longer on her side. 31yrs.
ReplyDeleteI cannot stand a man I don't. Have feelings for touching or kissing me or even not to talk of having sexuual intercourse with me,for me its about feelings and believe me that is exactly what you will be needing the long run after marriage,please advice your friend to wait for her man to come instead of marrying someone she has no feelings for and probably cheating on him...a broken home is better than a broken relationship and this Is my personal opinion...I wish her all the best in whatever decision she takes.
Delete' Desperate Times Situations Call For Desperate Measures '. Nice quote. The Poster already said it. The question now is, wat would Desperate Measures be?
ReplyDeleteI feel your plight but isn't there a corpers' lodge where you can stay? Must you stay in a rented apartment? You know you can't afford a place of your own right now so,why not make do with the corpers' lodge? I served 2years ago and was posted to where I didn't know a soul! All I did was stay in the corpers' lodge in that state till I was able to get a place of my own. #myopinion#
ReplyDelete@poster ;xcept u dint influence ur posting to abj otherwise u wud hav knwn wot obtains dr as regards to accommodation & d rest! Abj is nt a place for a single decent gurl to stay ALONE xcept she is a hustler or hs plans of hustling ..Even most of the working class babes there do by the side hustling..the married men too see most single independent ladies there as runs girls. I did my lawsch & attachment in abj so i encountered a lot! i had the opportunity to be posted to abj during my Nysc. I had an aunt i cud stay wit bur i tot of dat " u have overstayed ur welcome attitude"..i dint wnt to incommode anybody nor become a liability. I jejely chose lagos wr i had a room to myself in my parnts house&where i cud do what i wnt,&eat what i wnt without caution..some of my frnds dat wrkd theirs to abj cudnt evn survive it during Nysc they jes managed all thru d year &zoomed out once it ended. U cnt evn begin to imagine wot some went thru. The ones dat stayed bk are those based in abj & some who got 'lucky' during the term.. Am sorry about ur predicament &i pray u find help soon or better still look for a way to redeploy to a cheaper state..
ReplyDelete*HELP a sista*
ReplyDelete@Bunny, was ur friend born
ReplyDeleteFebruary 30 1983???
can accommodate u but place is in the suburbs. add me if interested 7C4D847E
ReplyDeletePls if u know u can't assist d lady, stop judging her! Y re some stupid pple saying she runs her posting to Abj? Were u there wen she runs it? Stop saying wat u don't know abeg, and assist, if u can't then shut d fuck up!Not everyone influence their posting, some is jst Luck or how it is. I know wat dis really feels like, Being in dis exact same shoes b4. I didn't runs my own, I was given abj and even with d so called cousin house I stayed in, I knew wat I suffered in d hands of his wife, accommodation in abj is so expensive and d saddest fin is dat most PPAS dnt give or even have any accommodation plans for corpers. Nne, go to NCCF, it's a small or let me say growing church fellowship dey always v accommodation in nyanya maraba for corpers. You shld also v new corper frnds dat can assist u. Btw jst be careful so u dnt fall into d hands of lesbians and co. Cos most babes dere re BI, if u dnt give dem ur toto dey mite also kick u out. D best bet is a church helping u, or some kind hearted pple on dis Blog who can truly, really assist u genuinely! With cash or a place, but d cash make sense more. There re cheaper places like: Karu, nyanya,dutse, Kubwa is a very gud place,lokogoma,lugbe etc. God will see you thru d way he saw me thru! Amen!
ReplyDeleteLuli graces, pls do you deliver cakes outside London???
ReplyDeleteDid you ask your friend to help you beg her uncle? Your parents cant intercede?
ReplyDeleteKubwa,lokogoma are no longer cheap
ReplyDeleteabj...won't advise anyone to come here if you have no friends or relative you can stay with.
ReplyDeleteAccommodation in abj is like Gold
poster, you should be able to at least seek for help from your church members of any reliable staff at your PPA.
i reside in abj but sorry am still accommodating a corper that has finished serving since october...sigh
i pray you find help
Fellow Nigerians, no be by force to comment for all post, if u fit help help, if u no fit shut it. Wetin happen, must u talk?
ReplyDeleteStella, I can't find my comment, and am gonna say it again! Poser are u a virgin? Stop coming here and forming holier than thou, na ur type get bf wey dey knack am steady. There's is no small sin. Since u like luxury Alot.. nne sleep with his cos I dnt knw why you aren't @ your christian fellowship house or rent with corpers like yourself. Am sure you are proud andd feel you are better than others. Tsk tsk
ReplyDeleteAnon 1:22, you're so daft! Didn't you read what she said? Aunty sabinus oshi. Mtchew
ReplyDeleteTel your parents to call the uncle and thank him for hosting you. They should also pay for him.
ReplyDeleteMaybe that would strike a chord and he will chill.
Lets assume you were posted to Abuja without the 'runs', the uncle offered only you a whole BQ, you dint use your first 2 weeks to start looking for accommodation...this is Naija,only very few people help you without wanting anything in return.
ReplyDeleteSo, Poster, your best bet..
If it is that bad, go to your church or NCCF or mosque and in the meantime, look for a decent, affordable one room apartment, its easier to ask people to help with the rent, than offering you a place to stay. That way, even people in Lagos can help once Stella verifies that you are real
na person wey no go service go offer u house or money. Maybe this is a new method of scamming people sef? If u are serving in any state of nigeria nd u dnt kw anybody there,who no sabi say corpers lodge,nfcs house,catholic corpers house,redeemed corpers house dey? Abi na long throat make u wan stay for town? Abeg park well make i no vex dis night,
ReplyDeletena person wey no go service go offer u house or money. Maybe this is a new method of scamming people sef? If u are serving in any state of nigeria nd u dnt kw anybody there,who no sabi say corpers lodge,nfcs house,catholic corpers house,redeemed corpers house dey? Abi na long throat make u wan stay for town? Abeg park well make i no vex dis night,
ReplyDeleteWhile I have no problems with a woman using her puss to get ahead, I also do not believe anybody should compromise their belief system ever, and do that which goes against their conscience.
ReplyDeleteThis is not even a situation under which you get the opportunity to make a choice of your own free will, this man is using your unfortunate financial situation against you to get his way. Stand your ground, and pray without ceasing. Seek, knock, and ask and see what doors may open for you, so that you can leave his place with haste. I despise people who exploit the poor.
Stella u didn't post my comment...well done o
ReplyDeleteSwerve you are a manner less goat.....poorly trained fool from parents who have failed.......u do not deserve to be amongst civilized humans.....as for iPhie you are a nonentity.....brainless fools.....do u people even consult your brains before vomiting rubbish at all?
ReplyDeleteI forgive you...am sorry I won't go down that lane with you..my opinion remains my opinion,not even your rants will change that...I can't remember referring to u..Thank U!!!
DeleteAunt Stella, d comments on this ur blog can make someone commit suicide. Wetin happen, d girl is begging for somewhere to stay and u all her judging her. Remember its only God that has every rite to judge us.
ReplyDeleteShe runsed it she runsed it, na una help her runs d posting? Kilode sef. Awon aleye bake oshi. Shior.
There is corpers lodge everywhere, do they ever reject anyone? None i have heard off. Pleasego there or you want creme de la creme
ReplyDeleteFor those who are enterpreneural minded, this is an opportunity to come up with a solution for the thousands of nysc corpers who come to Abuja and other cities every year without adequate accomodation. It could be a simple thing as a website that helps corpers find accomodation. I would say it is also an opportunity for a corper or someone else to create employment for themselves. Just saying..
ReplyDeleteAnom 11:50 : thunder fire una there. Who pays to apply 4 jobs? Fraudsters. No go find legit jobs. May your own fall in2 such hands. Stupendous ignoramus. If u were close by, I wud hav given u a hot slap. Ewu Gambia. I dnt blame you at all, I blame d'country we hv found ourslves in. I work we glo, and glo recruits every time but its not gone public. Na curiosity cari me go d'site. Mtchewww. Pay 5k ko, pay 5 mil ni. Anuofia! Na God go punish una 4 dis country. Oluku.
ReplyDeleteI remember I was in your shoes like about 7yrs ago when I served in Maiduguri, didn't have acc, had to put up with a sis in church o, naso the bf come dey eye me until he almost reped me, I had to leave the house, Istayed at Unimaid female hostel until the room mates started making jest of me, had to leave after 3 days until God connected me a co corper where she was given a three bedroom flat by the school she was serving. I had a lot of space to myself till sfter service was completed.I believe God is neva too late, He will reach u.
ReplyDeleteWhat the Lord has done for me, I cannot tell it all..... God would bless you and your entire generation ma, he would continue to uplift your name,....
ReplyDeleteFew days before i sent you that email, i was having a religious disussion with a muslim fellow and we were talking about prayers, He told me God listens to this prayers the most. 1. A woman in labour 2. A weeping soul, 3.When you wake up at a time sleep is the sweetest for you. i cant remember the remaing two he mentioned, but i woke up at about 2am and weeped to God. I challenged him and also gave him an ultimatum. Thank you father, i am settled. I asked God for a miracle that would sound like a lie, and he answered me. I have been offered a place to stay by someone in my church. They are not even based here, and just want someone that would take care of the house for them while they are away. I would be moving out this weekend. I am too excited to type much, and i still feel like it is not even real. I know that God does not fail, but i honestly did not expect such a speedy response from him.
Please my heartfelt gratitude goes out to all the readers that reached out to me, words fail me. I leave you to God, cos only God can bless you. God bless you. I would have loved to mention names but for their own privacy, God knows all.
Thank you, thank you thank you.
Praise God!i said this too shall pass and it did,am soo happy for you dear Poster. More blessings i pray. And who knows Abuja will be your place of future settlement! Remember to sow this seed of kindness to others because that is what we owe humanity in return. Enjoy your stay Hun...IT PAYS TO BE GOOD!
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