Is it possible to dream ahead of your love proposing to you,and then you actually see them live wearing the clothes they wore during the dream proposal?scary ish!.
So why do some people think a woman who gave birth via CSis a failure?why do some spouses discriminate? what is wrong with
the girl child?It is so wrong!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
FUTURE HUSBAND SEEN IN DREAMS - IS THIS POSSIBLE?
Good morning Aunty Stella and my SDK family members. Please hide my details! I need your advice. My ex left me months ago for some understandable reasons, I know I spoilt the relationship and I regret that, after the breakup, I decided to move on and hoped to meet someone else.
One day, I decided to go to the mountain to pray and I met a pastor for counselling and I told him I want to get married, that I want the man God made me for, so he gave me prayer points and psalms to read for 3 days he told me if I prayed very well that God will show me my future husband.
I purposely delayed the fast for a month cos I was still thinking of my ex and I didn't want him to mess up my dreams and visions.
Surprisingly for me, on the first day of my fast, I saw a man, didn't see his face but I saw his body and he was my ex, in the dream he gave my sister a ring box to give me, when I woke up I was pissed cos I wasn't expecting to see him at all! sec day I couldn't remember the dream but on the third day I saw him again and these were his words. "I heard your prayers and now I'm here, will you marry me?" I said yes and he put a ring on my finger.
I called the pastor and he said God has shown me my husband, I still didn't believe until I saw him early this month when he came home (he lives in Glasgow) and behold he wore the exact same clothes he wore in the first dream. I don't know what to do, we have both moved on and now we are friends, he knows I still love him. Should I pursue this? forget about him? tell him? I'm confused please HELP!!!
*Hmmm this is serious!..Maybe it was a dream that meant nothing,i dont now but please be careful,the heart is not so smart!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND BIRTHING A CHILD VIA CAESAREAN SECTION
My name is Juliet, I am 29years, I have been in an abusive marriage for the past 5years plus now...The first time I met my husband, I fell madly in love, followed my heart and we got married in 2009 But the truth is that I have been suffering since after the marriage, I am now the shadow of myself.
My husband talks down on me because I gave birth through CS, which wasn't my fault, I was bleeding at 8months and the doctor said he has to cut and bring out the baby (we later lost him),after his death, all my husband and his father saw was that after the whole money that was spent,that the baby didn't survive.
He was carrying face for weeks, just for peace to reign, I went against doctor's advise and took in few months later, we thanked God, I gave birth to a baby girl (through CS ,they wouldn't give me chance to push) .
After I put to bed my husband changed ,he refers to her as a thing, he says that others put to bed with 5k but after the amount he spent, I brought a girl forth.
He has refused to pay for her vaccines etc...
I can't type all down, i am not working, I have tried to get one but its not been possible ,I'm an orphan, I dont have anyone to help, I'm not asking for money, all I need is a job, we stay in one of the Africans country around but I'm ready to move home, I have friends that can squat me in Lagos, Enugu and Umuahia but if accommodation can be available, I'm ready to work anywhere, please,I dont want my daughter to suffer like I did please... help please
I have HND in accounting.
*You married a man with the backdoor mentality who believes that a boy child is better than the girl child.I dont know if anyone has a job for you because your case is made complicated because you are not in Nigeria,however I beg you to concentrate on your child for now.
Have you tried sitting your hubby down for a heart to heart?does he know that the woman has nothing to do with birthing a female or male child?Does he know ?I am so sorry about the situation you find yourself in.
@ first poster most you get a ring before you settle down. Second poster please try and endure your husband attitudes towards you. With time everything is gonna be alright, moreover he doesn't beat you so why are you giving yourself stress. Nothing out there my dear especially with a child.
ReplyDeleteSo a man must beat u b4 u think twice????
DeleteEmotional abuse is even worse, u can never forget it.
Poster ur husband will never change, I wish I had a job for u.
ok first poster i almost thought u were me though i live in glasgow and my ex lives in edinburgh
DeleteI bet to disagree o. They don't change. Mama baby better make haste while the sun shines. Your situation is the exact thing my mum went thru. She was cursed right from the hospital by her MIL. She played the good wife and at the end more wives followed and one nearly stabbed her but mistakenly stabbed the woman she ran into her house for help.
DeleteBetter ask those your friends to help you even if it's teaching job. Also look out for job postings here. Your case isn't so easy coz you're outside Naija. Please and please,hmmm
ANGELRAY SAID
DeletePoster 1, wait for ur guy to propose don't rush him abeg.
Poster 2, ur hubby is very poor at heart, no be women born am, I don't tink he's worth d stress cos he will never change, u berra find ur way.
@1, wait for him to propose abeg
Delete@2, ur hubby is poor at heart, u berra find ur way.
@ poster 1 - nothing stop u frm pursuing if u still love him, @ times we dream abt what goes on in our mind, if this man is who u can spend d rest of ur life with then pursue. Na 50-50
Delete@poster 1,be careful with men of God unto marriage issues cos some of them will mislead u either bcos they are not genuine, or they are patronising u cos they see desperation in u!
DeleteSo now,unto d dream,it depends:does God minister to u thru dreams usually?and are ur dreams exactly as dreamt or d opposite?if u are a dreamer like me(and mine happen exactly as dreamt!sometimes I know how my day is going to be by d dream I have d night before)then it's possible that their is a message in it,but otherwise check!
And also,u stated clearly u are in love with ur ex,so it's possible u dreamt and saw his face cos he was on ur mind and is the man in ur present(sort of) now. But the best thing to do is to be neutral,continue with the prayers,then watch and see how things will turn out.
@poster 2,i feel sorry for u cos ur hubby's mindset is archaic and messed up!and unfortunately for him,its his type that keep giving birth to gals all thru(dou it won't be his portion for ur sake!),ignore him,this is ur own marriage trial,just be nice to him and don't take his mockery to heart,rather concentrate on God to give u a son and to also change his mindset!.....some pple keeping shouting boy child!boy child!if only they knew that of late it's the female children that always end up taking care of the family and being there for their parents.mtceeew!for me I rather have one son and five gals for all I care.cos boys!hmmm...dat will be story for another day!
Poster one. When u commit a matter into God's hands, why ask men again? Do u not believe in the God u sought on the prayer mountain? Man cannot validate or invalidate God's decree if it came from Him.
DeletePoster 2. Were u betroth to the monster? Na wa o. Since when did women start deciding the gender of their child? God will secure you a job o. Dont know what else to say.
N1: it's very possible u saw ur husband in ur dream. It happens to people. Same cloth, same hairstyle, etc. If he doesn't ask u out, don't ask him out. In d dream, he made d effort, u didn't. So let him do.
ReplyDeleteN2: sorry ooo...what kind of husband do u have? I dislike him already. Why would u refer ur own daughter as a 'thing'? Your husband is crazy.
Una even sure say this man no be Okija wife husband? Mr 44 second wife loading. Weda na wetin been dey frustrate Okija wife be that wey she dey always yan dust, as hubby no dey gbensh her wella. No be me talk am o
DeleteNarr 1 - you were obviously thinking about your ex all through the fasting period. Getting back to him is not a problem, the only problem here is making sure that the reason you broke up with him before doesn't surface again.
ReplyDeleteNarr 2 - hmmmm. First of all, you married the wrong man. The question now is if you want to die there. I pray you find a job and a way out of that joke of a marriage.
In other news, I am so happy today, I don't know why yet but something tells me that I will have a testimony today
Stella I tot I warn all you married women about advicing women to sit their husbands down and talk?
ReplyDeleteLet me watch another person say it here again. Ahn! Ahn! Wat is it?
*sit with ur husband and talk to him* lol I've said it. Come n beat me.
DeleteXYZ, the thing dey vex me. Sit and have heart to heart, naija people hear one phrase and they will abuse it. How do you have heart to heart with this boy. Linda this one na your bros o...una go swallow me for this blog as per na una full here, but you see example of how our men dey mess up in general?
DeleteExactly my thoughts! Sit and talk about what? You think she has not tried in the last 5 years. Can you change a man by being an angel sef not to talk about sit down and talk . The thing vexes my soul. Stella sometimes leave the commenting to blog visitors you hear? Ndo. And to the mountain lady, no words for you, this is 2014 bae.
DeleteOhhh thank u o. So cliche. Sit him down like say wetin? I'm sure this place is a last resort for many, meaning they would have laid him down, sat him down, put him upside down, etc. When they won't hear word nko? Abeg
DeleteSo @last I can now comment na wa o. Stelalicious, I don't know if it's your blog or my fone dat's d "causer" of d prob o. @N2 hmnn your case is rily serious. If u do see som1 dat'l help wit a job, I support u to come down home.
ReplyDeleteAll I can do is sigh. One is praying for "horseband," the other is married to a foolish man. I hope you ladies find some joy and peace. I can't even talk because i'm 30 and not married,but i refuse to kill myself over a man. May God meet you at your point of need. Amen.
ReplyDeleteFirst poster, you sure say that mountain pastor never go give you spirit husband so? Hian! Be careful, let dude ask you first don't be too forward and lose your dignity in the process.
Delete2nd poster.... I feel really bad for you, seeing you're married to the worst kind of illiterate (the kind that doesn't realise the Y chromosome comes from him alone). But if you're anywhere in Benin Republic, there's a job at the restaurant where I take my tourists when in town. It's just 20k (naira equivalent) per month, but with meals. God help you.
@ Flakkie.
DeleteThank you jare.
People can see their future spouse .Its possible and happens.
However ring means covenant.
There was a time I used to see a man giving me ring in the dream and I would be so happy that an engagement is coming not knowing that it was spirit husband.
It took me another 2 years to realise that and I still dey pray sef make he leave me alone make I marry..
Never doubt the mischievous and jealous nature of spirit husband's oh. They deliberately manipulate dreams so you marry wrong and then divorce or not have kids or sometin.
Poster 1 stop moving around mountains n so called men of God. Go on ur knees n pour out ur heart to God. Concentrate on ur job or biz n allow God do d rest. If its ur ex, he will b bac. Poster 2, its well may God make u smile again.
ReplyDeleteHian..
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2;
Wht won't I read?..am sure your husband is an Igbo man...see how he calculated the money he spent for your health and that of your child...
I don't believe this can cause a fight between a couple or is there something you are not telling us?..yes Igbo men don't joke with a male child but this your story no gell..
Ist Narrative;
Forget that thing..you still have your ex on your mind thats why you saw him in your dream...
Like last night,I had a dream about Nwunye General of this blog cos I read that her story before going to bed...
I have seen Ezenwanyi too after reading her comments...so my dear,dreams are based on what you had in your mind before going to bed..
Linda how will her story gel na. Infact I am disappointed. Someone is suffering and being maltreated, her husband is not even acknowledging her daughter and you say the story no gel. Same mentality tins.
DeleteThank you. Dreams are simply based on what is on your mind. These MOGS will continue to feed fat.
DeleteNarr1) hian dreams do come thru, some come tru as it is y some come in opposite way. .. u gat nothing to pursue follow ur heart if ur ex come begging accept him if u still love him let him b d one pursuing u not d other way round!!!
ReplyDeletePoster one, I think your mind is playing games with you. do not pursue anything, what is yours will come to you.
ReplyDeleteposter 2.
wait, Its either your husband's mentality is too poor and on zero level or lack of money has messed up his thinking/reasoning faculty
I had my kids via CS (elected sef) and who cares? most important thing is...am a mother! whether they pop out from the vag or via bikini cut.
that husband of yours doesn't need talking to, he needs serious bulala-koboko flogging.
abeg no mind the yeye man. e wan carry im frustration land for your head. e go go far. mtchewwww
namsense! imagine that?
@ Bloglord, d man De broke, he knows how to fuck and he does not want to spend money, na crazy De worry am. Poster 2. Don't mind dat ur husband and his family. U will surely get a job, poster 1 na spiritual husband dey worry you, how e go give u ring for dream, u need mfm fasting and prayer. God bless women for there endurance.
DeleteNarrative 1: You went to the mountain to pray and allowed your prophet or whatever to manipulate your consciousness, this is what you get; confusion. God is not an author of confusion. When God reveals, He reveals with a clear picture.
ReplyDeleteDesperado...prophet, I need a husband. I want to fast and pray for the vision.
Na wa!
Narrative 2: I don't have any advice for you because you sound like a disobedient wife, pardon me if I'm wrong but people don't change just like that overnight. You must have seen some of the traces your husband is exhibiting before now and still went ahead to marry him or your husband is punishing you for something you did.
Jayem that's harshly judgemental naa..y u go say she dey disobedient? U sabi her before? U c babe wey dem dey maltreat cos she gave birth to a girl child via CS..bia nwanne no make me vex!
Deletecurvy ZO never vex biko. Lol
DeleteShe disobeyed doctor's advice na, so I just feel say she go disobey hubby too.
Jayem has a boyfriend what does she know. Madam how can you sit from your stool and call someone disobedient. For what? She should have killed herself during child birth. What is wrong with some of you?
DeleteJayem????? Oh! Pleeeaassseeee.... Get married FAST! Why would u be so mean @ Poster two? Did she create the female child in her womb? Or did she cause herself the Caesarian section? SMH
DeleteAs usual Jayem has spoken like the senseless idiot she is, she can never disappoint
DeleteAs usual Jayem has spoken like the senseless idiot she is, she can never disappoint
DeleteAunty Stella, with the kind of Mentality that her (Poster2) husband has, sense can not be talked into him. And the fact that his father backs him up, is worst. I doubt if he was educated, even for a day.
ReplyDeleteMy advice for poster 2: like Stella said, focus on ur child for now, while u plan ur way out. Pls don't fight or argue with ur husband. His type could kill. If he is wicked enough to call his own child "a thing", he can do anything. Don't be surprised if he starts seeing other women. If he starves u of sex, better for u. All am saying is, concentrate on ur child and plan to leave this husband and country back home. Wish I can help. Goodluck.
POSTER 1
Yes, u see ur ex in ur dream and all that, so??? Does it mean u should go and propose to him. If really ur mind is not playing any tricks on u and he is ur God-given husband. He will come around. Don't go embarrassing urself because u had a dream o. The least I would advice u do is, apologise for the wrong things u did in the relationship (u said it's ur fault that things went south), and MOVE ON. Ur husband will come and propose to u. Don't get desperate for ur own good.
#*Amout!
When I see something like
ReplyDelete* "Have your sat with your husband to discuss heart to rheart"
* "have you told him how you feel"
I would be like duuuh,they must have tried that and it failed that's why thru decided to ask outsiders for their own opinion..
Madam poster 2,I do not know what you are going thru but you can not just up and move. Its very difficult. Find ways around your issues while you try to get a job there. Its not easy getting a job here either. But with your certificate,apply for bank jobs over there. I heard its a little easier to get jobs with banks that are also in Nigeria. So try eco bank,UBA and access bank if they are in your country.. You might be lucky.. Overlook your husband for now. The little he gives you to use for feeding and managing the house,use a little of it for your child while you pray and hopes he changes...
Some men are just craaay in nature. As if it's not the gal child that would look after them in future. I won't ask you divorce,I am tottaly against it unless serious physical abuse is involved. I read you said abuse but I don't know of its mental,psychologically or physical abuse.. But if you want to come to Nigeria,then go to the state where your parents reside,that way,they can help with the baby while you try to get a job and when you start working.. That way,you are just seperating for a while for thibgs to boil down between the both of you.
Poster 1. I don't joke with my dreams but thrn with your ex breaking up with you and you still thinking about him. Hmm. I am scared your dreams might have been messed up. But then he could be the one,who knows
Did you miss the part where she said she is an orphan. And the part where she explained the type of abuse by saying he talks down on her? If not, please read again.
DeleteQutie nwannem, she is an Orphan. She can seperate from that animal. How will you call your child a thing? Some of these men are not worthy of having wives but Naija women like to die there.
DeleteAwww. I actually read that but forgot while commenting.. Aside the staying with your parents,every other thibgs stands.
DeletePoster 2, the Lord is ur strength. Biko nwannem marriage isn't a do or die affair,God will give u job. Abeg that man isn't worthy to be ur husband. Biko puta o nne.
ReplyDeleteN1 - God has shown you your husband. If you didn't believe in the power dreams, visions and prophesies, why then did you go to the mountain to consult a pastor?? Don't worry he will come back and propose to you as God has shown him to you. Just show him more love and care. N2. God is your strength, pray about your situation.
ReplyDeleteNa wa oh! Some women just go through a lot in marriage. How is giving birth via CS or even birthing a female child the woman's fault? Some men's illiteracy cannot be cured by even the most potent medication.
ReplyDeleteSorry you're going through this kinda of trauma and it's a pity you don't even family to rely on. Try to pray more cos God is who you need now and He will sure change your story. God bless you.
Ur hubby is simply old skool.
ReplyDelete@Poster 1 - Talk to him and find out his current relationship status. If there is a chance you could be together, do make a move. I believe in dreams and I know God speaks to us through dreams. Make an effort and if it doesn't work at least you tried. Secondly, ask God to please show you another sign. He is our father and if you talk to Him he will listen.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2- I am one of those who believe that the universe adjusts to our actions. If you have made up you mind to leave, what are you waiting for? Gather anything you can and move. You have accommodation in Nigeria, come. Come first with your child and settle in. In the process, other things will take place. It might even be on the trip to naija that you would meet someone who can help. My dear, if you keep sitting there waiting for perfect conditions, you won't do anything. The bible says: If we keep looking at the weather, we would not sow.
However, have you talked to your hubby? What is his reaction? If you haven't pls do. But if the relationship is abusive nd destroying you in any way then I advice you make your late parents happy and determine to live.
What is it with you women, has she talked to him? Do you talk to someone that does not know how to relate with his wife? You want him to beat her up?
DeleteChikto I dara nke a!@ poster 1 to approach d man based on a mere dream Mbanu!
DeleteDuring my days of soul mate searching I prayed though I hv a bf, initially it was all rosy in d dream but the guy was nt making any move to come nd see my pple. But a time came nd I sat mysef dwn nd talk to my being dat b4 I can approach God I must be 'Holy' I stopped all forms of fornication,lying,etc and focus on God. The revelation I got knocked me off my balance!
It was shown to me dat my bf will hv plenty money bt 2nd wife is arund d corner. That he won't love me the way I want to be,etc...
I challenge God upto 3 or even more tyms with fasting, prayer, giving alms without going to any pastor and guess what dearie? The same dream keep repeating itself showing that God is not man that he will lie.
I kukuma left d guy though it was very hard bt I left and started waiting upon God now am more fulfilled and pray it will be forever.
What I am saying is this, poster don't approach ur ex biko! Go back to the porter and ask him more questions...don't be in a haste...I have been in ur place and hv witness all these things u're going thru.
Enter your innermost chamber nd call upon God
@ poster 2: prayer is the key. Holyspirit has the solution, don't give up yet cos devil is a defeated one and wants to take away ur joy but it is your duty as a child of God to stand ur ground and fight! Remember God is a father of Orphans Exodus 20:24...pray! pray!! Pray!! You shall laugh again in Jesus name amen.
Nwunye Okeke
I HAVE BEEN A VICTIM OF THIS STIGMATIZATION OF GOIVING BIRTH THROUGH CS......I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE SAY...IT WAS NORMAL DELIVERY ABI? DID YOU PUSH?
ReplyDeleteMUM KEEPS SAYING,KEEP QUIET O DONT TELL ANYONE YOU HAD CS....
ALL THESE KEEPS ME ON THE EDGE EACH TIME I WANT TO TELL MY BIRTH STORY.
Don't mind dem jare?
DeletePple r looking for children, pple r even wombless. God has blessed u with a lovely healthy child and that's all that matters
Hian..
DeleteI had all my children through Cs and am not ashamed to say it..
In some wealthy middle Eastern countries, it is now considered very shameful to actually have a baby via vaginal delivery. CS is now the preferred option and it is fast becoming a "class" thing. Women from wealthy backgrounds in these countries find the entire process of delivering a baby vaginally absolutely disgusting, with all the blood, smell, and poop! Having said that, the poster needs to make a choice - does she want to remain in that marriage and be unhappy for the rest of her life? Because, she has had two Caeserean, a vaginal birth is no longer an option. So she has no hope of a respite from the constant abuse because any additional kids will be delivered via CS. In my experience, a terrible husband is one thing to deal with; a terrible husband who is uneducated, unexposed, crude and in this particular case, seemingly uncouth will probably kill one day. Start planning your exit, men like this never ever change.
DeleteAh gone are the days when having Cs was considered an abomination o. I had mine all tru CS. Matter of fact i had in my subconscious the stigma behind the CS thing as a younger girl in Nigeria.
DeleteMy vague perception of Cs was such that they'll break open your stomach from your beast down, leaving an ugly conspicuous stitches across the belly etc. But here I was in a civilised country about to birth my first child and I was given the option to do so through CS, I didn't agree at first. Like I said, I thought it was a death sentence. Not till I was educated how the process is, and that you wouldn't even notice it.
Cos they'll cut beneath ur stomach area and staple it back. It's called Stapled in the U.S. And was neatly done that I don't see it any more cos it melts in ur skin.
So drop the embarrassing thing about CS you have in ur head. It's not bad at all. Like the anonymous said, many opt for it these days.
@ sisi Eko, dat is cs over there, they staple ur stomach, for 9ja come see tear and sow, u go dey wonder whether u be cow or boo. Lol. After the CS d anesthesia way Dem give d person, go still dey worry am like ogogoro. With CS in Nigeria, u will prefer vjay birth. Thanks I rest my case
DeleteMy wedding has been put on hold. My fiancé found out I have N35 million in savings. Don't know what to tell him.
ReplyDeleteThe stupid overzealous zenith bank staff that told him will hear from me because she had no right to do that. I'm going to file a complaint with the bank.
Meanwhile, what do I tell him? I have been saving this money as a single girl for over 8 years. I've only known my fiancé for less than a year, and was supposed to wed in February 2015. What do I do?
Where do you work?buy another husband with the money..lool
DeleteBe careful babe! Hope he's not a gold digger. Mind ur frenemies. Be alert. A big boy would not mind if his woman has trillions or not. From experience, telling a man everything is not worth it.
DeleteYou have no explaining to do,it's your money you've known him for less than a year and you are planning to get married in four months? Don't come here later with stories that touch biko. A man who's almost bailing cos he found out you have savings you've been putting together before you met him. @ least he should understand it's in marriage you guys become 'one' before then,what is yours is yours snd what is his is his. I see hand writings on the wall. Good luck and call me for your wedding makeup.
DeleteHahahahahahaa, runz gone wrong. If not, biko where did you get 35m from? Are you a politician that stole our money? I laugh in Spanish. Okwala gi
DeleteThat bank staff should be queried! What's his own there? He should be happy he has a smart fiancee like you. Don't bother to explain nothing! Its your money that you worked hard for. I would advise you to save #30m into a fixed deposit and #5m into different accounts because if your fiance is the type of person I am suspecting him to be, you would be spending more on your wedding and in your marriage.
DeleteYou better leave this man. His ego is too big. What is he angry about? As for the Zenith staff, she is a pant.
DeleteGod just saved you by way of the big mouthed Zenith staff and you are asking. Some men can not deal with a successful woman. If he is forming vex because you didnt tell him, he will get over it. Or have you been forming broke while he has been carrying you along? Did he ask for help and you did not give?
DeleteSimply tell him you saved it. And you have been saving for long. I am sure he will ask how you got it,ehen,that's where you will have issues if it wasn't gotten from business .
DeleteSo bcos of the money u have he is putting ur wedding on hold? Is he marrying you or your money? You have not committed any crime by having a savings account.
DeleteMeanwhile, report the Zenith bank staff to their head office , what she did is so wrong.Do a letter to their HR.She must have signed an oath of secrecy when joining the bank, so she acted in an unprofessional way by revealing that.
He is putting d Wedding on Hold?
DeleteIs it Because u havent told him how u managed to Save such amount under 8 years?
Were u working? I mean,what job Exactly was it u had?
E Pelé...
See u o. It's at this point u should be singing.. Chineke Imela Imela, Imela oooo...Imela ooo...Imela oh oh oh oh...Imela ohh oh oh.. with thanksgiving. he should bounce o
DeleteMy dear sis, I don't understand, if it where to be him dat owns dat money, will u query him? Abeg he should go and sit down for gutter, God loves u so much, dat u will have to sue zenith bank and they will like to settle out of court and you what dat means, adding more money to your acct. Pls move on. You go see anoda man jare.
DeleteHmmm,millions of people looking for any sex of babies and someone out there is calling his daughter a thing...u don't know what you've got till its vanished.
ReplyDeleteAll this tale about marriage...Dear Lord, plz help us o
ReplyDeleteFor number 1 pls stop wasting our time reading rubbish. Enhen no 2 sorry. Theres nothing u can do but leave. That ur hubby is a grade one bush man. Stella such men dont sit down for heart to heart talks. I pray u get a job. Ndo.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, be patient, if its really destined by God, it would come to pass when its right and not by your actions. And do not tell him anything, go ahead with your life and continue being friends with him, do not force anything between you guys and don't be worried.
ReplyDeletemy heart breaks for #2. I don't know why people look down on women who had a C-section. I had my child through C-section because the umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck and i pushed, i would have had a stillbirth baby.
ReplyDeletePlease #2, i don't know how, but you have to find strength to fight the depression please. if you can come home, come. your husband is not likely to change, all he appears to be thinking about is how much he spent, as if money spent = child's gender.
if you have family that can take care of you, leave.
RVA
Crying..see me looking for a child.God please where are you
ReplyDeleteGod will locate u nne..chill..dont give up.
DeleteIt is well with. You shall carry your own child in your arms by this time next year. IJN. Please don't loose faith in God. His plans for you are gonna surprise you
DeleteHang on there, for the lord is still on the throne. He will prove himself soonest!
DeleteAmen.am waiting on God .thanks curvy zo, mimi and pinky berry
Delete1st narrative, pray and fast again, this time tell God if the guy is real, he should show you a sign...
ReplyDelete2nd narrative, your hubby has a thich african mentality, anyway you need to survive for your baby, dont give up in your search for a good job and a better life...
Oh wow! So there are people who still think like this? I feel really sorry for you...
ReplyDeleteSorry your hussy is a typical igbo man.
ReplyDelete1.Dreams can be misleading. And the Devil can be very manipulative. So i suggest you pray harder.
ReplyDeleteAll these "mountains" you people go to pray, Na real Mountain??
2. Hmmmm, Nne you are suffering o. In this age and time, a baby girl, a thing??
Stella, your fav advice is "sit him down and talk to him", like they have been standing since 2009. Lol
culled
Men are just children really.
I pray you find help soon o.
I wish you well.
I am highly disgusted at the husband of the second poster. It is rather appalling to think people still have this kind of mentality in this 21st century.A child is a child no matter the gender!!That man must be an illiterate at heart.
ReplyDeletePoster No1, No comment
@General's wife,people like u make me feel like getting married.Have gat nothing but love and respect for ya.
N1 God speaks to us thru our dreams mostly cos our lives are so busy and the night time is the only quiet time we have.Your ex might be appearing in ur dreams probably bcos u av been thinking about him lately or the devil has just succeeded in turning ur dream life upside down.From ur story, i would say u shld go and pray very well,someone putting a ring on ur finger in the dream might be activities of spirit husband(spirikoko aside).And then the words "i heard ur prayers", he heard ur prayers???(he asin ur ex).Pls, pray seriously so u wont be misled by dream manipulators
ReplyDeleteN2 I keep wondering y men still think a female child isnt worth the stress of childbirth in this time and age.Dear poster,may God see yu through.
N1: You should remember that our dreams are just a reflection of our imagination. You have thought about your ex for so long so it's not out of place for you to see him in your dreams. Secondly, if God showed him to you as ur husband, God will show also show you to him.....remember God showed Mary to Joseph and prepared Mary for Joseph.
ReplyDeletePlease I want to know why you had to go up a mountain to pray. I know God is omnipresent and he can hear your prayer anywhere. What is the rational/advantage behind climbing a mountain (aside from the obvious loss of calories)?
Hahahaaha
DeleteCould be cos of the seclusion.
DeleteAnd there are some mountains that are set apart by God for prayers and deliverance.
The serious ones take special care for people not to pollute it. No jewelry, fornication (even husband and wife sex) ,charms, jazz, rings are allowed. No burning of candles, deliverance,coconut tins allowed. People flock to some of these mountains cos of the testimonies that abound.
I come from Ekiti and we have quite a few. People come from Lagos,Oyo,edo, east, south south etc.
Num1 becareful of spiritual husband oooo nd stp goin to al dis fake mountainz
ReplyDeleteNum2 come to naija frst bfr u ask fr hlp....ur husband doesn't luv u so leav bfr he kills u.
~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~
P1.....hmmmmm...let us know later developments. Don't apporach him though. If he is yours he will come for you. Preoccupy yourself and be happy. Let Go and trust God He has your best interests at heart. P2. Your husband is crazy and enduring all you have I cannot begin to imagine. I pray a door opens for you and you are able to be independent of him. Hold on.
ReplyDeleteBlog visitor 2 if ur husby disturbs u again telll him since he cannot give u a male child n he's askin 4 one tell him dah he's ur male child...better contain him nw b4 he starts laying blames on people in ur street for nt bin able to birth a male child..#nu b craze dey crip in so
ReplyDeleteWhen you are desperate...you are ready to see things. You went to that same mountain the other lady went to.
ReplyDeleteWhat is it with girls and mountain? Going from mountain to mountain
He is not your husband...move on.
Madam, relocate first and look for job. Blog visitors, if you have any job available...give her oo.
Madam...African countries no get name ,hope it is not those Ebola countries? if it is, just remain where you are.
XOXO MYSTERY
Lwkmd no b small Ebola
DeleteWhere in africa are you my dear I would like to assist you but I am in south africa
ReplyDeleteMay God forgive that man . Why are some men so heartless? after the pains of CS, instead of him to give you a shoulder he was busy carrying face. Sorry dear, I pray God gives you the strength to go tru this.
ReplyDeletePlease leave your imformation with stella or answer me here. Asap
ReplyDeleteWhere in africa are you my dear I would like to assist you but I am in south africa
ReplyDeleteNo 1...Please forget that dream and move on. ..If I had listened to my heart and left my ex when I was supposed to have left him, when all the signs were glaring , my life would have been so much better. I've left him now but I still wish I did so earlier. ..don't go back. No 2...it's quite unfortunate that you got married to support such an archaic and barbaric monster. Please, like Stella said, concentrate on your daughter for now while still looking for something doing. Try and start up a trade, no matter how little to at least keep yourself busy. Some women are really going through hell all in the name of marriage sha
ReplyDeleteN1 don't know what to say, but keep a mutual friendship with him, just let nature take its course....
ReplyDeleteN2 how did u marry a man who's not your friend, such an uncaring man...You want to leave him 2come 2nigeria, so you need an accommodation and also a job and money too, you've to take care of your child for @least d first 1mth abi?Does your husband provide money for the child and household items?why not start saving from there for a while,then continue your fleeing-away plans!!Phew
Imagine the yeye man..
ReplyDeleteok, who brought him to the this world? as in who birthed him?
tell him to answer that question for me before I tell him a story he will never forget in a hurry.
*just so angry re-reading the story*
#1 What you had was mere imagination, you conceived your ex in your head and saw it. To me, I don't think he's your husband, pray more but meanwhile forget about husband and pray for other things and God will perfect it for you.
ReplyDelete#2 Talk to your husband n do not get another pregnant for now, care for your baby and still look for a job there, from what you said, your hubby na typical Igbo man like me, there are so many things his types don't know. Be the best you can and do not let his abuses bring you down, always pray. You are educated and obviously he isn't that's why.
#1. I dont trust that ur dream cuz i know @times we dream of what we hav in our thought!! Plz dont tell him anytin, if possible stay away from him 4 awhile and enbark on another prayer. U cant get a clear result wen u hav a particular guy's pics in ur mind... i hav never seen my man in a romeo setting in my dream and i told him untill we are married if i see him in a romantic setting with him in a dream then dat dream must be a bad dream staged by a familiar spirit.. plz pray more and harder.
ReplyDelete#2. Go ahead with stella's advice, are u sure dat guy ever loved u? I blv he did for him to ve married u so go ahead and have a hrt to hrt chat wit him wen he is in a good mood. I pray someone wit a job offer finds u here. #peace#
Pink berry a man can marry you without loving you. Forget dat tin
Delete12:38, please be free to speak...
ReplyDeletethat mentality is so old school and messed up. who has time to go thru painful induced labour bla bla when you can get an epidural anesthesia, and in minutes your bundle of joy is out.
whichever way a baby comes...you are rocking motherhood.
a lot of people are crying day and night for a baby...even if its to get pregnant and miscarry..at least just to know they can achieve pregnancy..
and then one 'ijiot' is saying CS is a crime. mtchewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
namsense and ingredient.
Lemme guess, the man in the second narrative is from Eboyin state aiit? I know they can be so crude, archaic and wicked. Madam please find your way home. Not having anyone around you who got your back is only making matters worse. Please come home to Nigeria, where you have friends and relatives to support you. You'll find a job in due time. Also, don't stop praying. There's nothing he cannot fix!
ReplyDeleteHian!! Deedee pls what kind of business do you do? *shines eye* I am a single girl pls, share the news.
ReplyDelete35million? And you left it in your account. Na you cause am nau. U no fit build house? Put am on rent dey collect? Why won't the banker's eyes be there? Don't u know they are always looking for idle money and talking to whoever to convince you to invest in bla bla? You should have been investing the money and making it work for you, so that even if agbada hook, you can say you have business partners.
Mwnh, I ask again biko what business is it that you did and made 35million over 8 years? *scratches ears*
Mnwh, Deedee Omonigho is stil in LASUTH oh! don't forget to contribute.
Marriage is only sweet when you're in it with the right person. I thank God for my husband. Poster 2 God will take care of your baby for you and your husband will one day swallow his words. Develop athick skin and just let his words slide,don't let him get to you ever again,you are fearfully and wonderfully made,don't feel less about yourself. Poster 1,your relationship broke for a reason,and that reason still stands I guess,it's just the dream that's clouding your judgement. Open your eyes and stop dreaming,move on with your life,if he's your God ordained husband,he'll come back to you,don't help God,he's God all by himself.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2 pls let people know your location precisely so they can help you...Your husband seems like an unrepentant person so just focus on your life.All the best!!!
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ReplyDelete#2 I am angry on your behalf with your husband. Since you are not in Nigeria and an orphan, I would advise you with this saying: Who that marries a cripple, knows how to sleep with the person. So don't make the error of getting pregnant for a while. When he is around, give him his space and occupy yourself with things. Manage whatever money he gives for housekeeping and save little from it every time. Your well-being and your daughter's should be your priority.
Someone should please tell me how 2 comment with my google ID puuulease.....am really fed up
ReplyDeleteIf you already have one,and you don't sign it out on your phone,it will automatically show whenever you wanna make comment and if it doesnt,after making comment,click on "Google account" instead of going anonymous kajiko?
DeleteIf you believe that God has shown you your husband, then wait for him. Did God show you that you should pursue him? Above all; while you fast and pray; stay away from fornication or else you spoil everything! Finally, supposing a "business tycoon" who cruises on a private jet comes, will you still love and wait for this man?
ReplyDeleteIf you believe that God has shown you your husband, then wait for him. Did God show you that you should pursue him? Above all; while you fast and pray; stay away from fornication or else you spoil everything! Finally, supposing a "business tycoon" who cruises on a private jet comes, will you still love and wait for this man?
ReplyDeletedeedee please how and what business did you do to have saved 35m hmmmm... biko advice me cos i want to be like you next year
ReplyDeleteN1, I believe in dreams. Before i got married i knew years before that i will marry a foreigner , In my own case i see visions with or without fasting i see things. I am based abroad but anytime anybody close to me is sick in Nigeria or any other country in the world i know months before, even if some 1 is going to die in a few months i see, it is very scary but there is nothing i can do about it. Follow your heart.
ReplyDeletePele oh, Joseph d dreamer
DeleteN2. Your husband is from the evil forest. People from that place think with their ass. BH is also from the evil forest.
ReplyDelete2ndposter. ..
ReplyDeletewe are living in Togo, I have been trying to get a job here but nothing soo far. I can also speak French fluently.
I have pleaded with him severally about all this issues, but he says I should give birth naturally, get use to his mouth or leave. the 3rd option is the onlyone I could choose.
Ur husband is a wizard at 2nd poster. Give birth naturally after two cs?its too risky my dear ....do not try it. I love boy kids but all kids come from God and none should be rejected or looked down on.no need to talk too much abeg i dey vex.
DeleteMadam do not get pregnant for that cow again. Carry your child and go, God is saving you from that thing you married.
DeleteNarr.1, I was expecting to read in ur write-up where/how ur pastor rebuked dat "spiritual" husband wifing u in d dream for u n den counseled u afterwards but I didn't . Sorry dear buh Am afraid d devil is about to giv u a GBANJO husby. "Gave a ring in d dream" aint a gud dream dear- ur pastor shoulda known betta. clear ur ex off ur head before embarking on a F&P journey. Don't be desperate abourit. Husband ll come when it ll come.
ReplyDeleteNarr.2, am so sorry hun! This life sef.... n I remb my friend telling mi she'd rather her pay to go thru' the knife (Cs) than go thru d pain of pushing....smh
As for giving birth to a female child, my dear, don't u ever loose hope cuz "dat thing" ll bring so much joy in ur life than u could ever imagine. Watch this space! Just try as much as u can to ignore him. Don't let him push u into depression ... E-hugs!
Stella u obviously don't know much about the spiritual and miracles, poster 1, it is for real, God is not the author of confusion, Why did u go to pray wen u don't believe? I saw my husband in the dream too before we met, after much prayers, and he's the best thing that has happened to me yet, so u better leave spiritually shallow minded people and sharply do the needful. Next time, don't ask God if u would be scared when u see the answer
ReplyDeletePoster 2, u need to go online and start applying for jobs in lagos, or better still move to lagos immediately. So that people would take u serious, I know ur type of husband with local mentality, u can't change him, u would only be frustrated. So get out of there fast!
@Dream praying warrior..
ReplyDeleteI used to have a friend that I was very close to back when I was in high school. He was very fond and protective of me... His mom and sibling used to tease us all the time. Everybody thought we were an item but we were not. I dreamt several times that I was getting married and everytime I saw somebody that was physically built like him, same fair complexion but I could not see the face... So I thought maybe we wil get married someday, however every time I could also see him smiling in the audience next to me in those dreams. I was convinced that it had to be him but why was he at the same time in the audience smiling....
Fast to 20 years later, I have always liked, been attracted to, and dated dark skinned guys, and I mean the darker the better type of guys... But I'm about to be married to somebody who has the same light complexion and physical built as my bosom friend, who came into my life in a miraculous situation... And one day I was thinking about it and I understood my dream.. He was sitting on the side smiling because it was not him. The right one came later, ressembling but different. Don't let the thirst play you mind tricks. God will surely see you through...