Sometimes keeping secrets hurts more than a heart break...right?
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CROSSING THE LINE WITH A MUTUAL FRIEND
I am a single girl in my 20's. Sometime last year I got involved with a male friend (we've been friend for almost 10 years) and we ended up having sex.
I was distraught when it happened because he is married and it was definite that our friendship would be affected.
I was in shock for days and when we decided to talk about it we realised we have been in love with each other for over 15 years but none of us ever talked about it all those year.
After the incidence , I travelled for official assignment for about 6 months but we kept talking on the phone everyday and it just seems right to want to talk to him everyday . Fast forward 6 months and I get back , we hooked up and had sex again and literarily started dating . Now he claims he loves me and i must confess i have fallen in love with him too. The problem now is I want to move on with my life but its really hard and he gets jealous when he sees me with another guy.
The big problem right now is that i might be pregnant for him!
That would really disrupt my plans because I have always hoped I would meet a single guy and eventually marry and have children .
He is married with 3 children and I might have to take care of the child all by myself . I think when I tell him , things would change between us, so I have decided to just walk away and have the child without telling him about it.
BV is this a wise decision I have taken ?
Oh wow!..No,it is not a wise decision,e needs to know about his child!..the mistake has been made but you cannot render that baby fatherless.Please tell him,nothing will be the same between you both because you crossed the line and sometimes in cases like this,sex messes it all up!
Tell him!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO TELL IT ALL?
Hi Madam Stella,
Compliment of the season to you and your family. I am a regular blog visitor of yours though i hardly comment.
Am a 28years old lady from the southern part of Nigeria. Am a single mother of one dating a man of 42years whom i love so much, i just found out that he also has a child from his ex. He never mentioned it to me neither have i told him am a single mum.
Should i discuss it with him as he's already seriously talking about marriage? Did i mention that both kids are with our exes.
Thank you madam
Hmm a case of thief jam thief!...That should have been the first thing you should have told him!
I dont see why it should spoil anything between you both,is having a child now a crime.
If you tell him and it spoils anything,put on your shoes and look for the exit door!
These chronicles though
ReplyDeleteI'm weak from reading them
Just follow Stella's advice
Funny hw she decides 2 save d part whr he is married with 3 kids 4 d last few paragraphs... N1 u no just try @ all. U laid ur bed, jst suffry lie on it...
DeletePoster one u r a big liar! Kip lying to make urself feel good. So u mean both of u have been in love for over 15 years and Neva mentioned it? And the man went ahead to marry another woman. Abi na wetin d man take deceive u? So u've succeeded in spoiling another woman's home? I bu ezigbo onye iberibe!
DeletePoster1 ...I think the man needs to know about his child no matter how the situation looks like.
ReplyDeletePoster2...The deed has been done..u just have to open up to each other.
Poster 1,you are giving him some free fuck,yes fuck.
ReplyDeleteBtw,don't let thunder fire you oooo
Just unlove him NOW
P2,a relationship built on lies.
Ndi ashi
To the single ladies...if a married man mentions the word 'love' to u,better RUN!!!
DeleteHe just wants the puzzay
Why sleep with a married man without protection?
I just pity the innocent child involved
I pity the man's wife too
Poster 2:tell him,I think u both are meant for each other
Ahahahahahahahahah. That's all
DeleteMy dear thunder really fire her with lightening. And him too.
DeleteStella iyaff answered it all
ReplyDeleteWhat did Stella ans, u can think with ur brain, everything Stella,behave ur self
DeleteN2, you have a child he has a child where is the problem?? I see none. N1, E be like say you be witch. *walks away*
ReplyDeleteThis chronicles are beginning to tire me
ReplyDeletePoster one...tell him about his child..u could have use protection if u know u will be sleeping with a married man
Poster 2...marry him already
God bless you for this comment! Is it not wickedness? Hope you are happy now that you have brought sadness to another woman's life. When you were sexing without protection and forgetting contraceptives, you didnt tell stella o. Now you dey form confusion.
DeleteIm so pissed! Gtfoh!
@sassy chick,click on my name and send me mail...hope o didn't do something bad?
DeleteI was having a not so good day when a friend called me.
ReplyDeleteSHE IS PREGNANT
With her 7th child
She is 35
She uses contraceptives.
She nearly left her marriage when she was pregnant with the 6th child
The hubby is one hell of a quiet man
Two-words-a-minute guy
But I heard his waist revs at 60thrusts a minute(yeah his wife said it to his face when we visited that he fucks a lot and the man didn't get angry his wife was exposing him,he just smiled)
Me sef,I don't know how my body is doing me ooooo.
I need prayers
Lwkmd!
DeleteHahahahahahhahahahahaahhaahahahaahahahahahahahahahahah!
Chineke!
Irene haff keeed me!
Lmao!
Ogini bu ifea!
I don't know what it is about you but I just like you #nohomo
Delete7th???
DeleteThis day and age?
One contraceptive failed and she didn't switch to another or a combination of 5 different types?
Lmao @ his waist.
As a good attacker, he can have as many shots on target as possible but your friend is supposed to be an experienced goalkeeper and push away all the balls.
Prayers ke? Go and do the test and give us the good news.
@irene!! Better allow harmattan to dry down south ! Don't give in to how ur body is doing u. Lol
Deleteposter 1:all this ur story is for the Gods of ur village,truth is when ppl want to misbehave they find the easiest lies they can tell themselves and when they do,they feel good abt it.One of those lies is being in luv with eachother.Sex makes u luv anything and anyone.
ReplyDeleteU want to have a man of ur own n u r nyashing someones husband?R u one of those that feel if i marry and ask God for mercy it all goes away?If yes my darling u will reap what u have sown one way or the other cos u cannot fool God nor can u fool an innocent woman who prays God keeps her home.N no my luv i aint judging u.
Finally, the wages of ur sin is not death my darling actually it is 9months of toture cos the more u think that ,that child has a father who is with his family u will realise u have been whoring urself with the man n theres no space in a married mans life for u.Whether u ask if u r to keep or abort the baby?My answer is i know ur type in the sense that u expect if u abort he will feel sorry for u and want to get serious with u?or if u keep d child he will divorce his wife n marry u?My dear u have successfully joined d queue of baby mamas.CONGRATS BABY.
hahahahahahahhahahahahha wiched lol!
Delete@poster one you are mean ooo you are already taking his wife out of the picture abi you get plans for do away with his wife? Fear God @poster2 your number rule in relationships should be transperacy do not hide anything as they could come back to hunt you! Fix your mess tell him you have a child if he truly loves you it won't make a difference
DeleteGBAM!!! Tell her like it is!!! God can not be fooled o!!!
DeleteWell said Salt! I mean like really? Both of you could not use CD? You better tell him, so that you will see his true colors! Before nko? You will be the alone one to care for your child! Now, you will hear, about how important his family is to him! I don't know why singles don't understand that is all about sex for married men?!
Delete#2, I don't see the problem here o, he will only get angry for you not telling him initially, after that both of you make a good combo! Cunning man vs cunning woman. Gbam!
lmao@ "a case of thief jam thief"
ReplyDelete@poster 1, he needs to know abt his child. The deed has been done. Dnt render that innocent child fatherless
ReplyDelete@poster 2, you shud av told him about your child right frm the very beginning. I'm a single mum with a 2yr old son. Anytime I meet a guy, dts d first thing I tell him. If you can't accept me and my son, then you move on. Please tell him abt ur child
1] You should tell him about his child biko..nd yes u are gonna raise that child alone cos he's married.
ReplyDelete2] The truth shall set u free..if he rejects you cos you're a mother, then he isn't the one for you!!
@ammy becky, true talk, dis chronicles dis days, na wa ooo, poster1 u have been in love with d man for 15yrs now, so how old are u, u said 20yrs, nope it is not adding up, so u knew d man when u where 5yrs, pls grow up now and stop d lies, it is either u are not 20yrs or u are fooling urself,, d way u pple give advice on dis blog is annoying, when she was fucking d man, didn't she know dat he is married, didnt she know dat she will use protection, pls girl grow up, u wanted to be pregnant for dis ur. Side man, and finally it has happen, ooooooh least I forget, u want to be baby mama, u don't want to tell him, my dear forget ur self pity, u didn't mention d man's wife in ur pathetic story, becos u are planing to break his home, pls go for DC, or tell d man and see his reaction, u know how many pple way do D and C here, pls stop deceiving urself here and get a life, u pple Alwalys wanted to keep one pregnancy or d other........ Poster2 just let d man know about ur situation, or else it will back fire, it is happening to my cousin right now, b4 shr got married, she had a son, she never told d man dat d boy was her son, the man finally got to know, even the man himself has 2sons out side without telling d my cousin , see problems in dat marriage, d man hardly sleeps in d house, d man is pining everything on her, dat she never told him, she has a son b4 marrying him , not considering his own part, dat is Africa for u, d men are always stupid, but our families and relations will make us to beg, when it comes to settling matters, well my cousin's marriage, has been built on lies from day one, now she is trying to amend it, so my dear poset2 pls tell him, if he loves u, he will stay, or else make e waka commot for there.
DeleteThe narratives we are having these days are really "hotting" oo
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : You made the mistake of sleeping with him when you already know he is married with kids. Anywayz, the mistake has been done,,move on with your life but let him know you are pregnant. Abi what story will you tell your child about his/her dad later in life??
Poster 2. Ole lo mo ese ole to lori apata. You met your type. I think the both of you will make a good couple.
Hahaha gbamest comment. @Sleek, happy new year dear
DeletePoster 1, honestly I taya for u, you've goofed already so pls just tell him. *rme @yu sef, ur story is a tad annoying!
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I like stella's word 'thief jam thief' were u planning to hide dt from him or sth. Dunno what u want in d r'ship, biko open up. Ah!
Poster1 Every child needs the love and care of both parent no matter the circumstance of their conception,so tell him before you decide to walk away.
ReplyDeletePoster2 you have no problem.
i stand with stellas opinion this time jare, lol. no 1 narrative, i wont judge you biko, na only person wey don dey your shoes b4 fit understand what happened. no 2. just tell him
ReplyDeleteI JUST DONT UNDERSTAND WHY YOUNG GIRLS CANT KEEP THEIR LEGS CLOSES.
ReplyDeleteyOU DID WITH A MARRIED MAN AND ENDED UP GETTING YOUSELF PREGNANT FOR HIM.
wELL YOUR LIFE YOUR BUSINESS.
Cause these small girls all think their pussies are lined with gold and married women are expired witches. They all think their own woul be different
DeletePoster one you have to tell him. But you MUST keep that Child.
ReplyDeletePoster two. You two are same. So tell him yours so he will confess in the process.
Its well
Hmmmmm, chronicle/IHNs de hurt this days oooo, I beg make I lying down. Small read comments
ReplyDeletePoster 1:
ReplyDeleteCut the crap!
What does "I might be pregnant for him" mean?
It's either you are pregnant or not!
You know what you are trying to do.
You are trying to get a baby out of a relationship that is destined for doom because you love the guy so much.
It looks so cool now. You can take care of a child all by yourself and one day, he'll know about the baby and come looking for you. Then you will all live happily ever after???
Crap! You will regret taking this decision in a few years' time. I promise you.
Poster 2:
Why would a 42 year old man be hiding the fact that he has a child?
You should even be worried if he doesn't have one.
You both are discussing marriage and are still deceiving each other. I fear for the future of your marriage.
Tell him you know about his child and that you have one too. I would have thought that is one of the first things you would tell a man who's interested in you.
Find out what other information the man is hiding.
Goldscents, i really like youd honesty!make d silly girl dey deceive herself
DeleteI concur!
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DeleteYou have said it all!!! I think she got pregnant intentionally. @poster one, you are very mean
DeleteN2: please tell him you have a child.
ReplyDeleteN1: Tell him about his child and stop seeing him.
Hian!
ReplyDeleteN1 Why did you allow your emotions becloud your sense of reasoning??? For crying out loud, he's married so allow him stay married. If he loved you enough to wife you, he would have done that instead of getting married to another person. Tell him about the pregnancy cos its his. Infact, i'm short of words. Don't know what to advise you again.
ReplyDeleteN2 Wisdom, Openness and understanding is very essential in every relationship. Pls let him know you are a single mum especially now you guys have gotten to this stage. If he gets to know this himself, trust issue will arise as he will think you have lot more to hide. Pls open up now. He will stay if he genuinely loves you.
Poster 1, telling him is your best bet. You wouldn't want to complicate issues later. Just tell him and if he chooses to be a part of the child and its upkeep, cool and if he doesn't, then take care of your baby yourself. I really feel for the man's wife.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you and the man are both not sincere. What man starts talking about marriage without disclosing he has a child somewhere? Really? That means he is not straightforward. Anyway, you are both not pure. So just tell him and don't make it look like a serious conversation.
NN1...the deed has been done, the father has the right to his child regardless of the circumstances and vise versa, please dear let the him know.
ReplyDeleteNN2...I am a single mom and and i am proud to tell anyone who wishes to listen. Well, your case a bit simple, since both of you are in the same condition. Please do not hesitate to discuss it with you man.
Wish you both good luck.
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This your am proud to be a single mum,get as e be you make it sound like it's a walk in the clouds to all these new arrivals called babymamas.
DeleteMouth agape.
ReplyDeleteHands on the head.
Legs apart.
Legs apart ke?
DeleteHmmm
Bianca!!!!
Stella bae I go with you on this one
ReplyDeleteStellastica, giving epic answers since 419 BC !!! Make I dey chew my kola & sip my zobo as I siddon listen to relationship experts na!!!...ghanaman signing in !!!
ReplyDeleteLet me read commentscomments,what do I know about relationships
ReplyDelete1st one, she should tell the man about it. 2nd one, the two of you match. Just tell him. If he doesn't like it, u let him go cos he will definitely knw about it someday.
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Let me read commentscomments,what do I know about relationships
ReplyDeleteposter1...you've been friends for over 10years, but realised youve both been in love with eachother for 15years? huh? i dont understand! you are in your 20's? so you fell in love at how old? All these stories sef! anyway, tell your lover about his child, and keep it if he doesn't acknowledge it. You will be happy you did....
ReplyDeleteposete2, please tell your bf. Better to be late than never...it might not change a thing, plus he just might be waiting for the right time to tell you about it. Keep an open mind though, things might not go well...You cant keep it a secret forever, so tell him now. i know couples that are very happy together eventhough their wives had a kid before they met...Goodluck.
She fell in love when she was 5yrs, abeg, she should grow up, she is stupid and she has been planing to break d man's marriage,since, becos she didn't mention d man wife in her chronicle and she want to keep d baby, pls u ladies should learn how to use condom or d man should try withdrawal method, or even else go for a D and C, which kind advice una dey give for here self.
DeletePOSTER1............I LOVE THE WAY YOU WRITE..PLEASE TELL HIM.
ReplyDelete@ poster 1: you want to marry a single guy and have a family with him; my prayer is that another girl will fall in love with your husband and sleep with him.there are sins that can be avoided if we have something called self control. but I guess not everyone has it.make sure you tell him about the pregnancy and leave that man for his wife to enjoy.we cry every time about failed marriages.this is the reason.how will couples enjoy themselves with all these wahala.abeg; am not a saint but I fear karma and anything that will put a restrain on me when I want to pray to God because I fill guilty of the same thing.that is why I can go on my knees and talk to God about my husband and he hears me because I fled from that temptation as a single lady.how will you tell God to fight your battles as a married woman; when as a single girl; you broke many homes.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: let him know about the pregnancy before taking a walk. Please walk and don't look back should he make you an offer so you don't break another woman's home.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Tell him about your child, after all he's also guilty of not telling. If he truly loves you, he'll accept you with your child. If not, walk please.
I cannot giving advice on delicate issues, especialling Matters of the heart. Fuck love.
ReplyDeleteI will takes one of Stella chairs and readind comments.
.....I know you intentionally write like this .....lol
DeletePoster one:wat were u thinking wen u were falling in love and sleeping with a marid man.....do u think he wud make u his second wife or wat.....#if a man cheats on his wife bcuz of u just have it in mind dat even if he leaves her and get marid to u he will still cheat on u####u are too young for dis drama.... just tell him abt d pregnancy cuz he deserves to know
ReplyDeletePoster two:as Stella said theif jam thief but still let him know....is beta u say now dan lata....
Seriously its better to come out clean on certain things on the first date @ poster 2... Yes you would have told him this on the first date or during the initial stage of the relationship. I'll use myself as an example I turned celibate more than a year ago and whenever guys comes around I don't hesitate to hint them that see omo no show... I tell them this after some dates, and I've seen I really like them and I could date them.. so at that point they either back out or continue knowing my condition. That was your mistake... But no worries, don't stress your head.. I belIeve everything will fall into place.. A good thing he even has a child so that wouldn't be a criteria for him to back out.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 this your own case I don't even know what to say...hmmmm you wouldn't have slept with him naw... You put yourself in this fix.. Don't abort the baby though.. Good thing you ain't thinking towards that direction. And I'll go with Stella... Please tell him about that child. God bless you.
I cannot giving advice on delicate issues, especialling Matters of the heart. Fuck love.
ReplyDeleteI will takes one of Stella chairs and readind comments.
Poster 1, this is the exact reason I don't keep married male friends. Emotions can betray us. Abeg, tell him and make sure you keep the child. No matter what he says, never abort the child.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you don't have to be ashamed after all, it's not like he is tear rubber either. Tell him and let the truth set you free.
Poster 1: you must tell him cos he has the right to know.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Both of you should come clean biko.
Poster 1: I hope that if and when your husband has extra marital affairs that u don't get upset because u just did the same with another man who u clearly know is married..and now u are claiming friendship
ReplyDeletePoster1; You are in your 20s and u have been in love with a man for almost 15 years, hmmmmmm...... Minus 15 from your current age and tell me how old u were then.God is watching you with your lies. I need you to answer this question. What will it profit you to break a woman's home? A woman like you. U had sex with somebody's husband without protection and you are already talking about baby. U ARE WORST THAN JEZEBEL.
ReplyDeleteMy dear o! Tot am d only one who noticed it! Firstly they have been frnds for 10yrs n then they realised they have been loving each other for 15yrs!d Lord is good!
Delete@chi baby....hhahahhah ur reli funny oh but Serusly dat is d truth
DeleteDon't mind the poster.She's a serious serious liar.See her using love as an excuse for her selfishness & stupidity. God help us.
DeleteAbeg abort that baby. You want to be a single mother, abi?
ReplyDeleteFlush that ting comot and carry on with your life. MtchEeeew
May God forgive you. Amen
DeleteAnd wat is wrong with being a single mum? You call what God has created "that thing"? May God have mercy on you.I'm sure you must have committed series of abortion yourself. Mtcheeeew
DeleteHad to scroll up to see, who spewed this senseless comment
DeleteNot surprised , the person is a nonentity
Girls sleeping with married men, justifying it
ReplyDeleteDon't worry....u go marry one day...ur eye go clear
Poster two....tell him jarre...make una know d keke napep wen dey drive una two
@Galore
Narrative1,
ReplyDeleteYou are very stupid and useless for getting pregnant for a married man...
I just pray he dump and deny you...
Asshole...
Haba, boss that's too harsh now
DeleteEheeeee. Linda abiala
DeleteNawah!!!
ReplyDeleteSingle mom/baby mama Loading....
stella i love u.no homo pls poster 2.
ReplyDeletesee people are different but am sure he will understand since is a case of brum ya samei brum(hausa).lol.am a single mother and truth is i've lost a number of guys i would have love to date just because i told them am a single mum.is painful but i believe we are not meant to be in the first place.the lord is ur muzzle.hugs dearie.don't be scared to tell everyone that cares to listen about ur child.
My dear you simply have a baggage.... Before you scream look inward and ask you self prior to you been a babymama ,if you had 2 guys both equally good but one has a baby,whose proposal would you accept?....
DeleteMy dear whatever you reap you would sow,there are consequences for our actions, that doesn't mean God hasn't forgiven you...but my dear you are reaping the fruits of fornication... You can't have a child and not expect challenges when it comes to matters of the heart as a single parent... So braze up...I'm speaking from the experience of close relatives and friends..most had to leave their kids with their parents,so they can continue and have a life,mind you they i didn't abandon or deny the kids o
Those that sleep with married men.....others would do it to you for sure
Poster 2,it takes two to tango so honey...you both are good for each other.
ReplyDeleteTwo great liars coming together as one.
Poster one,it's so easy nah...
Kill his wife and take over her home.
Posses her kids and save yourself the stress of finding a single man.
Blady idiot!
Home wrecker!
LMAO!!! Mamie you are a big goat!!!
Delete@poster 1:you are very stupid n 4 sending in dis rubbish u are a big fool.........single mother everywhere, u knw he was married n u kept following him up n down
ReplyDeleteU deserve no man in ur life
Poster2 :i dont know what 2 say 2 u,will just relax n read comments
Easy pls!!! Don't call her a fool, it's easier to judge someone ! Without being in their position.
DeleteBe liberal .
Been
DeleteI need to sit on a peepee chair and read comments later.
ReplyDeletea lot on my desk which needs my attention now...
P1- Ur story get as e be as per Ur age, but as Aunty Stella as said U cant declare a child fatherless...Infrom him!
ReplyDeleteP2- Both of U just need to find a spot to open up,do d meeting(d kids)den decide d way forward for Ur relationship!
Lol,this stella henn,na really thief jam thief, poster2 just create a time to tell him simple, it's not hard since he also has a kid so that makes the two of u, poster1 how cud u sleep with him without protection? So tey e sweet u reach to carry belle! What kind of life do u want? Do u want a man running home to u every night or a man who visits u once in a while bcos he already has a kid? Y were u guys pretending to each other before he got married that u like each other? Dnt know what to say to u
ReplyDeletetell him ooooo
ReplyDeletena real thief jam thief. O girl tell him. If he loves u he will accept u and ur child and u be willing to accept his too. Gd luck
ReplyDeleteLet me sit down with my Tim Horton and read comment
ReplyDeletePoster1 may God punish you for destroying a woman home,idiot,I'm so vexed Jesus,what should we do now sent you pampers?or tell you to abort? Nonsense
ReplyDeleteNar 1: You have just successfully made another woman's life miserable by your action. Is the recent closeness that actually infatuated you guys together, its not love at all. Friends with benefit!
ReplyDeleteThe deed is done and I honestly think you should tell him. You might end up getting your desired reward( which is marrying him). but for the sake of the child, please tell him
Nar 2. The opportunity just presents itself.if you throw the secret out in the open now, the damage may be minimal.
People like you and you suppose spouse may have more cockroach in your cupboard o.You need to split all in other to re-invite trust in you marriage
The way people sleep with other people's husband without remorse these days is soo alarming!!! Poster, u walked into this wide open! You knew he was married before dating him... Now you are about to bring an innocent child into this confusing mix... I'm just so pissed with you right now... Anyways, pls let him know you're pregnant! Every child deserves a father no matter what! And pls in future decisions you both make, have the decency of mind to think about the innocent wife you guys are hurting! If u guys knew you were in love 15years ago why wait till now??? #Pfttttt##megapissedmode#
ReplyDeletePoster one
ReplyDeleteDon't compound your mistakes, by depriving him knowledge of his child.
It's bad enough, you helped him cheat on his wife.
Poster two
Since you've found out about his,its only fair you let him know you have a child too.
But people are strong o. Being with someone, and keeping this kind of secrets.
Poster 2: Pls just tell him about your child and see how it goes... Love is a beautiful thing... If he really loves you, this will not affect your relationship... Good luck
ReplyDeleteP1: Tell him u have a baby for him...It's good he knows.Such tins shld nt be hidden...Sex messes it all up I swear...
ReplyDeleteIf only u remained casual frnds wivout getting emotionally involved,it would have bin much more beta.
P2:una two fit each oda...
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He needs to know about his child if there's any - poster one
ReplyDeleteYou need to tell him about your child & ask him if there's something you should know..his answer'll determine your next move.
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Poster 1:pls tell him, this your decision is not the best.
ReplyDeletei have missed this blog...
ReplyDelete@P1. Please tell him he has a right to know. And ur child should know who the father is. @P2. LOL at tiff jam tiff. Just tell him
ReplyDeleteI had sex with a mutual friend once. we stopped talking after a while from guilt. It messes tyns up.
ReplyDeleteIn other news... people are just shoutin "Buhari",we need change! "Buhari";we need change!! Pls this "Buhari",is he a bus conductor or a bus driver?..
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P2. Ur case simple self, u will just be like 'babe, there's something I need to tell u' then u go ahead and tell him, don't tell him u already know he has a kid tho, so he doesn't think that's d reason u have the morale to tell him too, wait for him to tell u. P1, IMO, it might be ok to walk away with ur baby, seeing that he loves u, that kinda news might make him divorce his wife and I'm sure u don't want to be a homewrecker. Anyways, get ready for the blasts from 'holy' bvs.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 u hav already fuck up bt u shld nt add to it by nt tellin him abt d pregnancy. Poster 2 u knew abt his child secretly n he might hav known abt urs too bt still try n tell him by urself.D earlier d beta.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: u need to tell him,any man that goes into a woman unprotected should be ready to face d consequeces,and u that let ur guard loose should be ready too. No to abortion
ReplyDeletePoster 2: two of u started with secrets,very bad for a relationship,start by telling him urs and see if he will open up,if he doesnt then confront him
Poster 1, please tell him. Poster 2, please tell him.
ReplyDeleteHmm,these narratives nawa o.I wonder why on earth you would wanna have that child without letting the father know? Abeg,stella one of those your chairs would do right now.
ReplyDeletePoster one: hmmm...... I know love and being in love is not something to dabble with! Someone eventually gets hurt!! No matter how knowledgeable one is! U can never be a guru with matters of the heart
ReplyDeleteBut why????????? Will u sleep with a married man without condom, knowing the consequences of that!
Or is that , you are don't mind being a single mum for a married man???
Do think you want to keep the child without his consent baffles me
I don't understand you!
You should let him know, since you both knew the possible outcome of your illicit affair ! Both of you should dance to the music and take full responsibilities
Poster 2: great minds think alike ! Both of you, for whatever reasons you decided to conceal such vital information remains best known to you both
So none of you have the right to be upset ! When your secret is disclosed
Why will she even sleep with a married man talk more without a condom. Its a no no no for me o...
DeleteP1, tell him bout his child jhor. u two fucked up sha buh the innocent baby shdnt suffer for it.
ReplyDelete#buh no forget say what goes around comes around oooo. another sisi might make ur future husband cheat on you o. pray make God forgive u sha.
P2, na so una two go de hide hide things from each other.una fit well well. hahahaha. you have nothing to worry about. the man should not make a big deal outta it na. he is equally guilty. tell him and don't even try feeling bad about it... #widegrin
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@Poster 1 : U gat it all wrong going awt wif some1's husband ..jez tell him
ReplyDelete@Poster 2 : Tell him also
Poster one, bloody thief. May God fill your life with much more misery than what you are going to inflict on that man's wife. This is why I never ever will knowingly allow my husband to have a female friend. God forbid! Anyone that is going to get pregnant for my husband will mysteriously be killed in a road accident before it happens. Rubbish!
ReplyDeletelobatan o stella i am in the smae case with poster 1 my own is i no get belle im happy i dey run from the guy the more i run the harder it becomes o the guy must find me out...God i need help pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
ReplyDeleteposter 2 im in no position to judge you please tell him if it works out all well and good if it doesnt then it was never meant to be all the best dear
*sips jik* this narrative tire me. P1 it is well since u've decided to join d league of 2nd wives or single/baby mamas! Enjoy. May ur type never cross my domain n d useless man, na epilepsy d penis I wish for am.
ReplyDeleteDear poster 1, u are very irresponsible for sleeping with a married man, its people like u dat make hell for other women...nd remember wen u get married, if u do , nd ur husband starts cheating on u even with ur sister ...dont dare complain.lets call a spade a spade..a hoe is a hoe. Poster 2, u better tell him before its too late, besides ur relationship with him is built on lies so it wont last.*drops mic
ReplyDeleteI don't know why some single mums find it difficult to let their partners know that they have a child from the beginning. It's better you let them know from onset, so that they know what they are getting themselves into. If he decides to leave you then let him go, a better person will come. Am a single mum and I never hide the fact that I have a child to whomsoever I come across. Children are blessings from God. N2, please let him know ASAP
ReplyDeleteN1, you should let him know at least. But do not let him pressurise to go for an abortion.
All these babymamas una too plenty sef....shuooo.una no dey tire...
DeletePlease BV`s i`m looking for a catering school in Abuja. please can any1 recommend a good one
ReplyDeleteThanks
@poster 1, we all make mistakes but somehow we need to think about somethings and the outcome before jumping into it, if you are the wife of this guy, how would you feel when you hear about this? You didn't ask us if you should sleep with him or not but you are asking us what to do with the product of sleeping with him, anyway you need to tell him about his child, you have done the worst already, denying the child is a greater sin.@poster 2, you both have commited thesame crime, discuss it with him, like stella rightly said,to have a child of s not a crime. Jaydiva
ReplyDeletePoster 1 - tell him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - tell him.
Shikena!
*smh* the things I read on internet
ReplyDeleteN1, ''u may be pregnant with his baby''u r not sure. R u sleeping with other men? Whore!
ReplyDeleteU didn't know u were in love until he got married, had 3 kids, u now realise? Stupid fool trying to justify being a home wrecker.
U r in a big mess, whether u tell him or walk away. Carry ur cross, BTW did u inform us b/4 parting ur legs.
N2, u fit each other, neither of u has d right to judge d other.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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ONE: yu are big fool. Yu are having sex with a married man and yet yu cant use condom. What were yu expecting at first, that he will leave his kids and wife for yu bcos yu think he loves yu?? Yu are officially a home wrecker bcos this kid will one day want to knw his dad and his wife will also be aware ur bastard child by so doing a beautifull home will be destroyed all bcos of yu. Selfish motherfucker.. My frnd go and die.....
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TWO: yu are the biggest fool... Yu are in a serious relationship and yu are thinking if is ryt to let him knw yu are a single mum..... I swear yu dont have sense. I personally pray that guy leave yu bcos yu really dont knw anything about a relationship..
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THANK gOD AM NOT A LADY....
*GLO BRING 3G TO KONTAGORA*
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Your longest comment ever... Congrat'
Deletelmaooooo... this thing pain me die I swear...
DeleteYou dont have to curse before you make your point. The Guy ll never leave her, instead the bond between ll be stronger than ever Amin. Did u read that de guy also is with a child?
DeletePóster 1,Hahhahaha,na one chance u enter o!.
ReplyDeleteNow maybi humbly say dis ONCE MORE.
Wen one gets married,u knowq after a while,say between 6 to 7 years,some married couples,esp the Men,tend to get BORED! Pls kindly note that i said BORED!
and dey wanna play d field again...not all though.....
they remember their "youth" and by den,yes,marital cinflicts would have already "tainted" d fairytale Love story Which had progressed to Marriage...LMAO
HAHHAHAHAH.....thats wen u Hear guys say some Very Crazy Ish like:
She doesnt cook for me
*She is now fat
*She doesnt give me BJ
*She worships d Devil
* She beats me and Some other very funny Ish......LMAO
Ma dear Single Ladies.....all Na Wash o!
Run Run run wen a man tells u dis...
He only wants one thing....to get "a different pussy*
Nne thats all u are to him o!
wen u deck out in ur 6 inch heels,carrying ur Marc Jacob bag complimented by ur tailored suit and ur Ruby Woo lipstick and feeling FAB,all d dude is seeing is Pussy!
Just pussy! Not ur bag and certainly not ur tailored suit...LMAO
Pls Lets be wise! Dese Men can lie for África.
Poster,tell him u r preggers first and watch that "exotic love " vanish like a ghost.
Tell him u r preggers,and u wil see wot wil happen...Nne ur Eyes wil come down!
U sound smart and dont get why u got csrried away....
Now dere is a child involved....a child of wedlock......
I just pity the child that wil have to answer peeps wen dey ask of his Dad....
And a fellow woman that u hurt...
I tell single Girls,if u Want God to bless u with a good Man,Keep away from Married Men.....
Be good.do good.have clean fun.and Keep away from married men....
Póster 2,for me,i like every every in d Open.and shoukdt expect Same from my partner....
.....beautiful comment, you have summed it all up!! It's all about the ping ping and nothing else!
DeleteNwunye General ,ndo biko.
DeleteI just saw the message you left for me under a comment I made yesterday.
Ngwanu,send am come. I dey
You guys seem to be missing the point, this pregnancy was planned by her so stop stressing yourselves advising, it is a premeditated move, it isn't a mistake, it is obvious from everything she has written.No advice oh, you had it all planned out.All the best .
DeleteShout out to my friend, she flaunts her son despite being a single mom. They had fixed their wedding and dude later backed out.My friend discovered she was pregnant and had the baby.She goes everywhere and anywhere with her son, she no send,, they are 5 and 6,,his pictures are on her face book page, her bbm dp, they shop together, go for weddings together ,they are always together.
Hummmmm waiting for comments
ReplyDeleteStella you didn't borrow seat or sleep today
ReplyDeleteposter 1,u two realized that for 15yrs you have both been in love? has he been married for more than 15yrs? hmmmm,pls tell him about the possible pregnancy once confirmed,u have already made a huge mistake having sex with him,and I think it shld stop.
ReplyDeleteposter 2, no big deal,both of u are in the same position, since he is talking abt smtn as serious as marriage, let the cat out of d bag,let him know abt Ur child.
poster 1,u two realized that for 15yrs you have both been in love? has he been married for more than 15yrs? hmmmm,pls tell him about the possible pregnancy once confirmed,u have already made a huge mistake having sex with him,and I think it shld stop.
ReplyDeleteposter 2, no big deal,both of u are in the same position, since he is talking abt smtn as serious as marriage, let the cat out of d bag,let him know abt Ur child.
poster i: smh...this action u want to take, am very sure you will regret it later when mr right finally comes. a guy with three kids down and you are dir saying he loves you. it better for you not to be pregnant at all if you have not. it is a very wrong step to take.
ReplyDeleteposter2: u both are thieves now, so why dont you go ahead and tell him and then see if he will talk about his own. if he ends up not saying about him having a child somewhere, then confront him and tell him you know about it. shikena..my lil advice
Poster1, you are 20s,how old were you when you started sleeping with a married man?Known him for 15 years plus? chai, you girls of nowadays eating for made for adult,when it chokes you,you run to us for advise.Well the truth is that now you are a second hand wife material whether you like it or not!Sorry!Poster2,two of you are hiding your true identity from each other,you love him, he love you,sorry these are not true love cuss you cannot keep an important secrete from the one you love!shit happens.
ReplyDeletePoster one... Three kids really??? Bet you aint ready for all that, U have the answers just follow ur hrt plz. Poster two its never too late to discuss that, just tell him u think its d right time to discuss it lolz.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, this your story get k-leg! So you mean you have been inlove with your pp-imaginary boyfriend when you were 11? 12? 13? Or 14 years old? Kai this your story just doesn't add up!
ReplyDeletePoster 1- trashy story. You've been friends for almost ten years, and after you slept with him, you realised you've been in love for over fifteen years, huh? And you're in your twenties. So you fell in love with him five yrs before you guys knew each other and became friends? And maybe you were ten yrs then since you're in your twenties now. Abeg stella shift for me make I siddon with you. This is a dumb story from a husband snatcher gone bad. I'm sure you tried to hook the the married guy with the pregnancy but it backfired. Lick your wounds darling. The guy was only there for the sex and can never leave his wife and kids for you. And to be wife number 2? No way, men of this modern age don't have the strength for such extra responsibilities. Next time when you see a married man, you will flee. Rubbish. #SoPissedRightNow
ReplyDeletePoster 2, both of you are keeping secrets from each other, it's not a good sign abeg. Don't know what to advice
Hmmmmmm, what can I say? P1 why ll you take in for a married man?P2 tell him you hav a kid,I don't know why ladies keep hiding their kids from their malefrnds
ReplyDeletePoster 1# you did cross the line but don't render the child fatherless cos of your mistake,just let him know about the pregnancy first,den hear that he has to say,he definitly wouldn't leave his wife to marry you but he just might support the child so you don't have to carry the burden alone cos it takes two to make a babay.
ReplyDelete#poster2# you have to tell him,if he loves you,that won't be a proble,besides both of you have the same secret or should I say baggage?
Stella, u r most times on point with ur responses n u v said it all. Poster 1: he just has to know, u dnt wanna have to cook up story for the child wen he/she is grown up. sex comes with a lot of responsibility.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: if he doesn't want u anymore after telling him abt ur status, den u were not meant for each other in d first place.
Poster one, he needs to know. Its no longer about u, its all about the baby. No child should be denied any chance of knowing their dad. Unless if u tell him and he decides not to have any part in ur kid's life. But u r conscience would be clear incase ur child asks in future.
ReplyDeletePoster two, u both need to come clean hahahahahaha na real tif jam tif.
poster 1: Your case is critical, really short of words i would have loved to insult but there's no use crying over split milk;
ReplyDeleteYou need my advice walk away and drop a note telling him you are pregnant and that he should not look for you; DON'T BREAK THAT WOMAN HOME BECAUSE OF YOUR INSENSITIVITY.
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Hmmm today again?
ReplyDeleteAll this single ladies sleeping with married men r the same pple dat when dey eventually get married will come here sendin bitter chronicles of how they r heartbroken n in serious pain in their marriages. Nawa!
The both of u should better tell o
Bvs keep advising, will just wait 4 comments.
*Rmn blessed*
Poster 1, get ready to be wife number 2.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, pray, do tell and see if he'll also tell.
Be guided from there on.
@1, shit happens , tell him cos he must take care of his child.
ReplyDelete@2, both of u are criminals, cunny man die cunny man bury am, who will spill first.
Does anyone not use protection in Naija? Gosh!!! That's why we have so many people with STDs.
ReplyDelete@poster 1 & 2...its your choice to make,that one concern una
ReplyDeleteTwo of una no get problem. You already know what right to do. Gudluck.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 . stella is right, u can't deny ur baby the chance of having a father neither can u deny the man the chance of knowing his child even if he has 10 kids already. The mistake has been made so tell him.if he decides to be part of the child's life, then good for u and if not, carry on with ur life knowing u told him already. .but please and please stay away from anything sex or relationship with that man..don't destroy another woman's home and pray to have ur own.let the relationship u have with him now be strictly for d child's sake..Good luck with ur choice.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: cunny man die cunny man bury am.how long did u intend on keeping d fact that u are a single mum from him even if u hadn't found out he has a child also.anyways ur case na small thing. Both of u lied by omission so u should be able to forgive each other. .confront him with urs first and see if he will talk about his own. .If he doesn't and tries to get angry, throw his own bomb at him. .I'm out
#1: You did wrong by sleeping with a married man. You all pray for a God fearing man whereas you are not. I hope this pregnancy will not cause ripples in his marriage. Tell him, when you were having sex without protection what were you expecting?
ReplyDelete#2: I would be very happy if both of you end up as husband and wife. You deserve each other, two secretive people! Rose
An I-pad, dey wer expecting an I-pad 4rm unprotected sex. Lmao
DeleteNa wa o...naija don turn country of no self control...really troubling o! Sexual irresponsibility everywhere!
ReplyDelete@Both posters honesty is the best policy,no matter the situation!
Hei everyone, i have been Reading but cant comment because i dont know how it goes.anyway back to matter at hand. narrative 1 tell him incase of tomoro. and 2 there is nothing to hid there. he also have a child.hope i am in the rigt track of commenting
ReplyDelete@second poster:
ReplyDeleteJust open up to him...If it is meant to be,both of you will overlook the past and forge ahead.
Communication is key in relationships especially the ones marriage bound.
My people say "Onwehu ihe anya huru gbaa obara" (there is nothing the eyes will see that will make blood rush out of it)
It is either both of you continue after opening up to each other or quit... But I pray it works.
Most importantly,make sure he is THE ONE. You don't deserve to be hurt a second time..People say there are no good men..I say they are out there! #Tasted and Trusted
Narrative 1: dnt walk away; d deed has already bn done. Let him knw abt d baby. Its a lesson f us all especially those not in r\ship- wen u hv feelings f somone let it out. D poster n d guy in question ws in luv wt each oda f ova 15 yrs n dint let it out. Hmmm such a lonnng time t nurse feelings wen u guys wud probably hv bn married by now n savoring d beauty of Luv, its well sha. Life goes on.
ReplyDeleteAnd stella has said it all.
ReplyDeleteI havent even finished reading this.....but!
ReplyDeleteyou are 20. youve been friends for 10 years. found out youve been in love with each other for 15 years. This happened some time last year.
so you guys have been in love since you were 4 yrs old!!!!???
Olodo rabata. Reading it again.
Delete20's, not 20.
DeleteLet's assume they've loved each other since she was 14 and she's 29 now.
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Poster 1... I wonder why single girls find love with married men.... No sensible man will leave his family because of you. What happens to CONDOM? See your life now being messed up cos of foolish love.... You think to raise a child is easy? Even with both parents not to talk of single parent..... Better tell him about it and know if he has a guniue love all these while......you young girls should continue deceiving yourself saying you fell in love with a married man...".Nwanyi obuna ga afu ihe ibe ya hurry
ReplyDeletePoster 2.. You better tell him cos whichever way, he must find out and if it's not from you, it might jorpadise the relationship.... If he loves you, he will not mind. PEACE & LOVE
why do women treat other women with such disrespect. wow! it's so amazing and exciting keeping a baby conceived from an affair you had with a married man. i pity for you. why will you want to hurt the innocent wife and breaking a marriage of another woman because you can not find yourself a man.
ReplyDeletethe deal is, you and the man have been friend for 10 years and he never married you, he went ahead to marry his wife. you started having an affair with him knowing that he will never leave his wife and because you're getting old you decided to get pregnant for him to trap him.
my dear you're such a loser and you plans will fail. trust me nothing will go well with your plan. you're just going to suffer big time.
how dare you! knowing a man has three kids you went ahead to intentionally get pregnant for him. please tell him about the pregnancy, he will either deny it or tell your to remove it.
now put yourself in his wife shoe. how will you feel if you are his wife?
I have nothing for the 1st poster, she is a very selfish person and all I can say is let the prayers of the hurt wife catch up to you and her horseband.
ReplyDeleteN2...you can tell him and if he acts funny you move on. Both of you were trying to be slick.
To the first bv I can relate to ur story mine z dating a married man dou v nt found a single guy to myself if I do ll let go tell him abt d baby it's worth it dear
ReplyDeleteSecond bv lol both of u na 419 discuss with him jor at least he has hidden agenda too....lemme read comments
N1:Leave a married man ALONE.
ReplyDeleteshe is in her late 20's..could mean 29 and half
ReplyDeleteLool@ 29 and half. Story for the gods! Poster must have overestimated the length of time she's known her pp-boyfriend for maybe partly due to her present confused state. Haba!
DeleteLOOOL 29.5! My gosh Stella you're so funny
Delete@P1, let him know once u confirm u are pregnant. Sometimes where we find love could be tight...if genotype doesn't mess it up,d guy will b married. May God help us all
ReplyDelete@poster 1; you are and were never in love, you are in LUST; the burning and smoking type of it. The offspring of lust is sin and the terminus of sin is death. for now, you've not reached the terminus; you are at the level of sin. If you do not retrace yourself, the murderer is already around and his name is "jealousy"; when a married man is jealous of "any man around a lady" that's not his wife, what do you expect him to do? Yes, he will kill to retain that lady. The greatest blunder is if the unborn child becomes the victim of death; that can also affect your life and eternal life too. So, do the correct thing now; tell him, tell the Lord and break off before your sin begets death!
ReplyDeleteHb said so.
Hahahahahaha.could even be 29.99(shoprite mode).
ReplyDeleteThe story might be true but the composure sure is not legit
#2: Honey, I see nothing wrong in what you did. Until you have defined your relationship with a man and it starts getting serious, the full disclosure rule isn't necessary. Desirable? Maybe, necessary? Not at all. If you are too quick to reveal too much, you may even scare a potential good guy away. Not all good relationships start with strong emotions, some develop as you spend time together and get to know each other. So perish the thought that if a man really loves you, your past shouldn't drive him away. Make sure you develop your relationship well enough 1st before you start disclosing personal information and there some things you should keep to yourself.
ReplyDeleteThe issue of trust can't be based on issues like this at the early stages of dating, you had your reasons for not telling him about your child, so did he. However, you must be vigilant during your courtship and don't ignore red flags because you feel pressured to get married at all cost because you have a child and you are getting closer to being in your 30s.
Poster 1: I guess you walk away but b4 you do so let him know that he's got a baby and don't shatter his marriage. Keep the baby
ReplyDeletePoster 2: your story is pointless. .. Pls try again_
@ Stella, she said 20's. so it could even be 21
ReplyDelete*sigh*
ReplyDeleteThis is how some men will pick up STDs and infect their wives because they cant keep their wandering stick in one place.
Poster 1 please inform him about his responsibility afterall, he wasn't using condoms.(If you can't do the time, don't do the crime). I hope this information does not destroy the home he has built.
*so many things on my mind, but i'll end here
Poster 1, no advice, lemme read comments, bt remember no man wuld leave his family 4 u. P2, der is no problm here, tank God na u catch am 1st, confess ur own 1st he'l b forced 2 confess 2. Ur both in. D same shoes. Goodluck. *church*
ReplyDeleteTOmorrow another lady will get pregnant for a married man and start with - the guy abandoned me and my baby SDK pls I need help. Why can't you disconnect yourself from such?
ReplyDelete@Poster for ya mind, u thought u won't get pregnant? You enjoyed it so tell him and continue.
#2 Just open up, what will be will be period.
Poster 1 when you eventually meet an eligible bachelor that wants to wife you who do you tell him is the father of your child? No matter how you try to hide it one day the truth will eventually come out. For God's sakes why do you want to wreck another woman's home? What is wrong with you? Gosh!
ReplyDeleteStory that touches the heart....
ReplyDeleteOh my God!!! What's with people and other women's husbands?! This is insanity! And they expect to get married and enjoy their marriage??? Smh.... God can never be mocked. Poster 1 you're a FOOL! What's all this??? That man does love you, never has, never will!!! You're clearly disillusioned with lust and definitely living in Lala land! What the hell???!!! For over 10yrs or is 15 yrs he couldn't summon courage to ask you out? And both of you were single? So it was until he married and his wife birthed three kids and one night of accidental sex snapped him into the realization that he has always been in love? Seriously????? Oh mehn that guy is using you beyond your wildest imagination!
ReplyDeleteI bet you are not pregnant. Yes! You're not! You're trying to get pregnant for him so both of you can be bonded eternally. FYI, that would be the biggest mistake of your life because the beast in your so called lover would so daze you, the thought of hell wouldn't be so traumatizing for you. He knows you are not so sensible that's why he never asked you to marry him and albeit even date him and with every sex rendevous you guys have, he is proven right. Just get pregnant first and watch your life crumble before your eyes. Single mothers that had their child with single men suffer not to talk of you planning to have yours by a married man. I pity you. And oh if you're pregnant, I so pity that child. Poor baby would be scarred for life knowing his/ her mum was side dish for his dad and he/she is the product of an abomination in every ramification. I bet if you tell him, he will suggest an abortion without blinking.
Trust me his WIFE and KIDS come first in his life no matter how you want to deceive yourself.He will never want to ruin that not even for a side dish like you,Women forever be putting themselves in trouble.Mistchewwww! So much irresponsible married men roaming this earth. Such grotesque!
DeleteLookie here! Lookie here! Guess who's back? Lady B! The object of my blog affection, my perfect rose in bloom, the X-factor which adds more colour to my rainbow...should I go on? lol! Hiiiiiiiii sweetness! Where have you been? You've been off the grid and I noticed in spite of my busy schedule.
I hope you're good and all is well at your end, though. Welcome back, love drops.
#hugsnkisses.
Oh my God!!! What's with people and other women's husbands?! This is insanity! And they expect to get married and enjoy their marriage??? Smh.... God can never be mocked. Poster 1 you're a FOOL! What's all this??? That man does love you, never has, never will!!! You're clearly disillusioned with lust and definitely living in Lala land! What the hell???!!! For over 10yrs or is 15 yrs he couldn't summon courage to ask you out? And both of you were single? So it was until he married and his wife birthed three kids and one night of accidental sex snapped him into the realization that he has always been in love? Seriously????? Oh mehn that guy is using you beyond your wildest imagination!
ReplyDeleteI bet you are not pregnant. Yes! You're not! You're trying to get pregnant for him so both of you can be bonded eternally. FYI, that would be the biggest mistake of your life because the beast in your so called lover would so daze you, the thought of hell wouldn't be so traumatizing for you. He knows you are not so sensible that's why he never asked you to marry him and albeit even date him and with every sex rendevous you guys have, he is proven right. Just get pregnant first and watch your life crumble before your eyes. Single mothers that had their child with single men suffer not to talk of you planning to have yours by a married man. I pity you. And oh if you're pregnant, I so pity that child. Poor baby would be scarred for life knowing his/ her mum was side dish for his dad and he/she is the product of an abomination in every ramification. I bet if you tell him, he will suggest an abortion without blinking.
Trust me his WIFE and KIDS come first in his life no matter how you want to deceive yourself.He will never want to ruin that not even for a side dish like you,Women forever be putting themselves in trouble.Mistchewwww! So much irresponsible married men roaming this earth. Such grotesque!
15 years my foot lol she's forming story to justify her actions haha
DeleteYou've said it all, but greed can never allow them till they find what they are looking for. So many irresponsible married men. Gosh! Can't deal......
Deletewhy do women treat other women with such disrespect. wow! it's so amazing and exciting keeping a baby conceived from an affair you had with a married man. i pity for you. why will you want to hurt the innocent wife and breaking a marriage of another woman because you can not find yourself a man.
ReplyDeletethe deal is, you and the man have been friend for 10 years and he never married you, he went ahead to marry his wife. you started having an affair with him knowing that he will never leave his wife and because you're getting old you decided to get pregnant for him to trap him.
my dear you're such a loser and you plans will fail. trust me nothing will go well with your plan. you're just going to suffer big time.
how dare you! knowing a man has three kids you went ahead to intentionally get pregnant for him. please tell him about the pregnancy, he will either deny it or tell your to remove it.
now put yourself in his wife shoe. how will you feel if you are his wife?
Guys I'm weak!!! The chronicals will give me chronic heart attack one day.. Goodness me!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: hmmmmmm it's never a good idea to sleep with a male friend... Sex spoils everything unless you know for sure you both want to commit to each other.. Now you know!
I know you couldn't resist him but he's married so walk away.. He has a family so turn away and face your own... Please go see your GP.. This your "I think I'm pregnant" pregnancy test may be due to stress or because deep down you wish to be pregnant. Go for confirmation then if it's positive, let him know. I feel sorry for his wife... May God protect me from women like you IJN... Amen! (No offense) but you've been chopping someone else's soup so I fear you lol...
Poster 2: lol you just narrated the latest episode of "Love and hip hop". You are both thieves so tell him... He's not allowed to get mad.. You're well suited lol
Good luck
In Yoruba we call it '2 ge 4'. As in 2 divides 4. U both have a child so y not move ahead together?!
ReplyDeleteU r in 20s u guys hv bin frnds 4 10yrs. Den found u wr in luv 4 ova 15yrs, pls sum1 shld hlp mi wit dis maths It's nt clear may b ma calculator s gvin mi wrong figures. I nw see reasons y u got pregnant cos d contradiction. Is too much
ReplyDeleteI just hope poster one is not sara becos if it is you, the thunder that will fire you is doing press up, you see a man with three kids and you want to add responsibility to his plate becos he told you lies that he is in love with you.
ReplyDeleteJust try and keep that baby then you will know what suffer is, you will not stay on your lane, you have been in love with him for 15 years so since you were a baby, abi you will not say how the wife has been warning you to leave her husband and you have been claiming that there is nothing.
No problem.
#1, What makes you think, you are the only single lady he is sleeping with apart from his wife, that you did not insist on protection? Oh! You think, he is faithful to you? Simply because of what? If he can cheat on a woman he made a vow before GOD and men to protect and love, then who do you think you are to him? A sex toy! TGW captured it all in her comment.
ReplyDeleteSTDs and HIV is real!
You think having and taking care of a child is lovey - dovey as your illict affair? I pray that you will go through the same pain as the legal wife at home will suffer when she hears this during your morning sickness and cry of anguish during your delivery, as the legal wife will shed when she hears, and you will have endless sleepless nights taking care of your child, just as the legal wife will be thinking of her marriage to the irresponsible man she married! And every negative thought you have towards the poor innocent legal wife and his children now and in future, more measure will be pressed down, shaken down and poured over you! As you have made a wife to be unhappy in her marriage, so shall you never find happiness in your own marriage in future! Amen!
Stella please post this comment because Iam so getting freaking tired of these stupid desperados gals that like to build their happiness on the foundation of another woman!
Cuss out if you like, I don't give a horse shit!
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Nawa o @poster1 u c d contradiction surrounding u hmmmmmm u r in ur 20s u hv bin frnds 4 10yrs got 2 fyn out u wr in luv 4 15yrs his marid u new, u hv bin slipn wit hmmm, u r nw pregnant u don't wana tel him ok o I tink u nid spiritual birth 4 nw b4 we wil. Kw wat nxt 2do wit u
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ReplyDeletePoster 1-See Ur new year resolution unfolding already,u are very wicked,this isn't fair at all, what do you stand to gain frm wrecking d beautiful home you are about to destroy?The very day you executed this evil project of urs by destroing the happiness of another woman n that of her children, that same day Ur very own happiness eluded you,travails of great magnitude will remain presistent in everything you do.What a difficult journey Ur about to ride on,i bet u think its easy abi ?.....oya enjoy d everlasting blast of Karma .
ReplyDeletePoster 1 wen u were rubbing shoulders together didn't u realise he wz married wt kids bt u went ahead to d extend of being pregnant, pls dnt keep him in d dark..he has every right to knw abt his child n pls dnt even think abt abortion.....@poster2 na d same boat carry d two of u...I mean single mum n single dad, pls discuss it wt him...notin spoil...wish U luck
ReplyDeleteStory #1: something wey dey sweet, dey bitter, never start what u are sure u can't finish.
ReplyDeletePoster 1;tell him d truth,y hide ur child. That's your blood n u shudnt b ashamed of talking Abt him/her.if he's for u he'd stay n if not he shud take a walk.,n poster 2:how can u make d mistake of crossing the friendship line.n if truly u r pregnant den it's not a mistake, wat happened to protections.u allowed it to happen simple.u berra tell him Abt d child n ask God for forgiveness.u both r irresponsible
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