Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

How does one ask for an engagement ring given in love to be returned?Hmmmm!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MARRIED TO A SPOUSE WITH FAMILY 'ISH'

I started visiting this sweet blog since Oct 2014 and it's been fun all the way. 

I got married in 2012 to an amazing man and an amazing family; but since then, I haven't met any of his extended family members. He's from the south western part of Nigeria. 

It's just his immediate parents and siblings that I know and relate with. No uncles,aunts,cousins etc. Although I know he has extended relatives but I haven't met them. Have seen their pics. I have two kids now-a boy and a girl, and non of the external relatives called or visited. 

Now,i am worried cos I don't know how my kids will grow up only in the town. What if the girl wants to get married, what if the boy wants to know his dad's people? We spend each xmas in Lagos and I have never been to their village. My parents went there before we got married.

 My hubby sees nothing wrong cos he accuses his aunts and uncles of being very rich and never helped in training them in school. I don't want my kids to get married in the town, village/family is everything.

What do I do? 

Bimbo.

The one you should be scared of is what if your kids start dating their relatives who bear different names.Abeg let me shut up and read comments....before i shut up,may i add that most people who hide their kids from extended family always wish they never did later.

Did anyone hear the story of the girl who got pregnant for her extended cousin that she met in the diaspora?it was when they came back to Nigeria to do introduction that mouths fell open and the father fainted.The father had problems with his extended family and cut everyone off.

They had to quickly abort the child and hush a lot but fact remains that what had happened could not be wished away.

make i read comments.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

COLLECTING/GIVING THE ENGAGEMENT RING BACK

Stella Right now I have a problem. I Met a lady 4yrs ago and we started dating ,along the line her room mates introduced her to one of their cousins. She started seeing the guy secretly but I found out and she said her reason was becos i am  insecure.

 Ok I forgave her and one faithful day after like 2yrs I found out she kissed her ex (not same person she cheated on me with). She apologised and said she was sorry. Forgave her the 2nd time and we became cool, she said her parents dont want her to marry outside her state but I shouldn't worry that we would scale through. They introduced her to someone from her hometown and she started acting up. 

I reside in Lagos and for 3months she didn't visit my house, I would always go and checkup on her in her office ,then I travelled out for a course last year and bought her a car and an engagement ring. My friends advised my to give her the ring and something else. And as God would have it the car didn't get to Nigeria until January,So I gave her the diamond ring and an iphone plated gold phone.

 8days later, the day she was supposed to go and see her parents she said she misplaced the phone. I Later found out that she went to see the guy in their hometown but she said it was her parents call. My aunt (a counsellor) told me to tell her its over and from her response I would know what she really wants. 

When i told her,She said "NO WORRIES". 

Now all I ask for is she should get me my RING back. What I have asked for, is it too much?

Oh my you must be hurting!..you sound like a really cool guy to have forgiven her so many times.

if you should collect your ring?COLLECT IT ASAP.she doesnt deserve you abeg.

Please make sure you take part in the next Stella's singles mingle,i am certain you will find a good girl on this blog.

Some babes never know what they have till they lose it and when the man moves on and is happily married,they will go and hang on to him playing 'ex back in love' side chicks and disturbing his marriage..Sheediot!

Walk away from the ungrateful bi***h