NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
BEING MEAN TO GET LOVE
Hello Stella how are you doing? I just came across your blog a month ago and I am already in love. Your blog and your blog visitors are the realest! Ok so I have an issue I want to address and I know BV will help me out. I have realized that guys only like me when I give them shit to eat (pardon my language) or when I don't feel for them.
But seriously, from all the guys I have dated, the only ones that seem to really love me are the ones I am very mean to, if I start to show that I am feeling them and want to be lovey-dovey they will just start misbehaving like no something is wrong with their head. Ok I am a fine yellow paw paw girl and I have had severalllllll admiration from guys since childhood and I kind of didn't know how to handle that so I just did excess shakara.
Anyways the first time I really got serious to date someone I waited for him to ask me out while giving him hints but he never did after ONE YEAR of waiting I told him guy oh somebody is asking me out are you ready or not but he was still doing slowslow so I just vexed and dated the other guy that was asking me out. I didn't even have feelings for my bf I just dated out of vex but he turned out to be a very good bf. Anyways this guy I initially liked came back and started whining he loves me, he was just scared because when we were younger I fought with him when he mentioned his feelings etc (duh we were young).
After that, The way that I just messed this guy up with shakara, seriously I really did some major damage to this guys ego and I am very sorry about that. I hurt this boy so much that even I got scared that God will punish me
( I am forgiven, Jesus has fixed me Amen!).
After all the hurt he still feels for me. I have moved on with my life and I do not have any feelings for him at all again but each time I remember the pain I caused him and feel guilty, I go and chat him up to apologize. Everytime I do this he is very happy and thinks we are coming back together and starts planning the future etc (he hasn't moved on) I just get weak like why do you still love me oh. I have resulted to not replying him again so that he can move on with his life. But he still messages me on Christmas, and my birthday EVERY YEAR even as I have stopped replying him.
Moving on, the other guys I dated, the next one I said ok I would not be mean I would show love. This guy did me strong thing that I nearly organised boys to beat him (Jesus stopped me). That one passed oh so the next one I said infact I will be mean (stylishly, not severe like my first love because I am now a christian) and this one too started professing love oh, we had some re-currant petite issues (not infidelity) and me I was getting too angry about addressing it again and again (I hate being angry cos my temper is really bad) so I broke up with him like what rubbish.
But every time I talk to him he will say baby I (him) messed up, I am so sorry etc i love you bla bla come back.
This is the pattern in my love life oh, and it wouldn't have been a problem but I am getting tired of being mean to guys, I don't want to continue this kinda thing jor its rather stressful can't I just love a guy let him love me without me having to suffer him. And without him taking advantage of my love. Guys why do you call punishment love? Why do you love the girl that will show you pepper and the one that will love you and be caring you will want to do her anyhow what is wrong with you people?
Also ladies please advise me oh how should I go about this. I am getting ready to really get into the dating scene again So I wanna really prepare myself oh (sweet marriage things amen). You guys should advise me oh, no insults abeg cos infact hmmm, just advice me dearest SDKers thanks.
You sound like a player...an unrepentant one.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
DUMPED.
Good day Stella, I will like you to publish my mail because I need advice, I am a young guy in early thirties, fell in love with my babe in 2010, and since then we had been together, and when i met her, she was doing nothing, she had no job, I registered her for stylists and makeup school for almost 2 years, after that, i used my last savings to open a shop for her in Abule Egba bus stop, and only GOD knows how much it cost me to get the shop and buy things in that shop, Despite that my family were against it.
Stella as i am talking to you right now the young lady that promised me everything at the start of our relationship, is now telling me she can no longer be with me, that she's tired of me having nothing, i told her why didn't she tell me this before i did all this, she said she had suffered a lot from my family and the insults was just too much that she can no longer spend the rest of life with me, she said i am not the kind of man she wished to spend the rest of her life with.
Right now i don't know what to do, should i get the shop back from her or i should forget about everything and move on with my life
Please I need matured advice, because she visits this blog.
Thanks.
hisssss!..please pardon my bad manners!
MOVE ON!
Hiannn!
ReplyDeleteJust negodu!
Will be right back.
********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
EmJay, I've always wondered why ppl insult u on a daily basis, but iv got my answer, ur life surely lacking a valoid ingridient and very very low ego, and ure filling it up by being first to comment and subconsciously convincing urself ure obviously frontnin line at sumthg, and u don't mind other aspects of ur life that's already shattered and hanging by a thread..... Trust me, no man admires ur kind with low self esteem, ask urself if uv dated any man for 2yrs?? Don't make urself a carricature of SDK, remain blessed.
DeleteI knw am new to dis blog, but iv noticed ths babe is always 1st to comment with little or nothing to contribute to the narratives... Hw does she do it??
DeleteEmJay, u keep face like person wey perceive mess, but de try to smile, all this insults ur family members or friends no de see am? Or they already know ur IQ is -2 so no need.
DeleteY are u always the first to comment. Eni ishe ni?
DeleteHian @Anony!
DeleteWhat's ur own with em jay?
Mind your business and allow her be...wateva she does is her business and not urs.
Poster one; I read the 70 comments as at 3:37pm and most people called u mean. I don't think you are mean.. I was you last year. I like to play hard to get that's how I missed the love of my life, when I was ready bae had found someone that made love easy... Tried to get him back and he was just gbeshing the two of us. I learnt my lesson picked up my pieces and moved on. My next relationship I didn't form hard to get, guess what boo, I ended up dating someones husband because I was just following the flow. I cursed myself hated myself and went back to forming hard to get . Then I met this young man I was so mean to him choiii, but he waited according to him, he knew I would turn around. With time I friendzoned him this lasted for three years.. We never even hugged. When I sleep in his house he will face East and I will face west, he got tired , he had flings( shout out to women that know a mans heart is not with them but will still want to die there).
DeleteBut he never relented, one day I got so bored depressed and lonely I called him to take me out, we saw the movie( World war Z) and that's how It started. Though his very affirmative that I may be naturally mean but he loves me that way . I'm not mean It was myself own way of healing . So deary strike a balance , don't be too easy but don't keep him waiting for years like me. I'm glad I realised my mistake on time . He worships the ground i walk on and his the most wonderful being I have ever known . I pray the love lasts to the altar. Find the balance bae. Kisses
Anno u fyn pass her? if na so pple wen dey perceive mess dey be,abeg I wan perceive mess ohhh,dis useless anno na one person joor,d em jay nor dey even mind her funny enough.
DeleteBut how is it any of your business? If she wants to be 1stt @ posting comments is it ur data?
DeleteSome of you will call her dunce and forget to switch to anon mode ie Quicksilver yesterday.
Abeg free emjay. Every mallam get him own kettle. Face your work anon.
YOU PPL SHOULD LEAVE EM-JAY ALONE.
DeleteWHY THE COLLECTIVE HATE?
Stella even changed narrative from 2pm to 3pm and you're still first to comment...
DeleteHaba babe.... It's ok not to always be sitting and refreshing SDK...
But guys leave em Jay alone... Is it because you also wanna be first to comment hehe..
DeleteBut em Jay you know I love you right? But sometimes just skip being first to comment let's see how that works hehehe
Oga! Take your shop back, she's a wicked girl and just used you. You can't lose on both sides... Pls take it back and don't bother what people call you because of that
DeleteI don't have any problem with ur first to comment o but pls always say something reasonable. Thanks
DeleteMake una leave em jay nah, wetin be una headache? How does her comments affect you faceless 'anonys'. She is part of the family and that is enough. #freeemjay!
DeleteHonestly, I only noticed she comments first when people mentioned it.
DeleteI think the fact that SOMEONE noticed it without being prompted means that SOMEONE is as jobless as He/She says em jay is...
It's no ones business if this blog is her life. If e too pain you, biko offer her a job, thank Sir/Ma.
Poster 2.
Shit happens. It's painful but forgive her without her even asking and move on. Take the help you rendered as a service to humanity.
Also try to reflect on the logic behind some of her statements, like being treated badly by your relatives.
Poster 1.
You still be smallie.
@poster one, u sound like my baby sister. Shes 13. Pick sense.
DeletePoster 2- Time heals, free her and just take each day as it comes!!!!
DeletePoster 2: it's okay to use her for rituals. Even God sef go understand!
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ReplyDeleteHaaaa
DeleteSee beef!
Person dey e lane, another person dey hate.
Nigeria too hard abeg
Leave em jay alone.
DeleteYou are the shameless goat.
Did you read before dropping your useless comment?
Ologoshodudu like u
So u finally use ur id,u re indeed mentally retard,u will die of bitterness. This will be d last tym I ans u. May d gud lord forgive u.
DeleteI'm sure u are d anony under her comment...
DeleteYou guys shld stop d bully already pls!
Bullying*
DeleteSee wahala ohhh,u now check dictionary to cuss em jay? U always talking about dating wen ur mates re married,u re in did a vry big fool,she even comment b4 seeing her comments,lol nawah ohh,u mistakenly use ur id ohhhh,is em jay is a fool,u re way bigger dan her in foolishness bitter soul,watch it b4 u die of hate
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DeleteYesterday quicksilver. Today money maker. Emjay idi too popular nnem. Hian. All ya fans in da building.
DeleteCalabar chick if I were you ehn, I would zip it.
Dem no dey carry person matter for this blog for head especially when you don't even know if the person you are flexing muscles for has gone under anon to cuss you out.
Abeg close ur tohtoh,he did smell reach here.
DeleteOK, we know em jay isn't the finest and her comments can be mistaken for that of a 2yr old but ur guys shouldn't drive her away she's my daily comic relief oo *tears
DeleteClose ur mouth,idi ahra,make person nor talk for dis kin day time witchcraft? Hiannnnnn.
Delete@Em Jay, I will not exchange words with you. I don't have time for that. I am a very busy successful businesses. I have made my point.
Delete@money makes...., please shut up. This is not about fucking......
Anon 16 :48,please, go back to school.Just read what you wrote again. I can't make anything out of it.
Devil baptize u there idiotic monkey maker,u re truly a retard,u re making which useless point ni,dat u forget to hide under anno today abi? ohh really successful businesses, u be real an undiluted odoyor,she shuld saying she doesn't ve ur time,bcos she hardly reply u,God don catch u today,if u wanna be notice look for anoda strategy. I hate bullies wit a passion.
DeleteSee who dey talk abt english..See the rubbish u wrote "i am a very busy successful buisnesses"..Who come be d olodo now?kettle calling pot black..
DeleteSee who dey talk abt english..See the rubbish u wrote "i am a very busy successful buisnesses"..Who come be d olodo now?kettle calling pot black..
Delete@Doctoressa,even you know what it is auto correct wahala. Yes, I forgot to proof read. As I said earlier I am a very busy person.
DeleteAnon 00:25,check all my previous posts while standing up for what is right ie my comments about the new Islamic, tribalistic government, my battle against excess FAT, my battle against hypocrites and shameless people. You should know that I always used my id.
Why should I hide my id when I am self made? I don't need anything from anyone.
Also check out my courageous "controversial" comments on LIB. I don't hide. I always stand up for the truth.
Thank you.
*@ 20:20,............busy successful businessman.
DeleteJesssssssssssssssss.
DeleteU re a man? U re indeed a disgrace to manhood,u re so shameless,u don't ve time yet u ve d one to be going frm blog to blog to fight,u sound so childish I swear,ur being man spoil everytin,to ve d time to be hating on pple,d most annoying part is dat u didn't talk about d post,u went straight to pouring ur venom even b4 u saw her comment,ur hate get PhD degree,haven't u also see em jay's comments,no I guess,cos hate has blinded u,she always come back to comment,nor be by long epistle be comment u hear me,and yes u use ur name,no one is arguing it,but u enter anno to cuss,wat did she ever do to do,for u to cuss her even b4 seeing her comment? U just made a big fool of urself I swear.
Ibu otu this guy. Common shatap and gerrarahere mehn. Stop Cyber bullying. Free Em Jay. Badbelle
DeletePoster 1 and poster 2 - Jesus will fix it
ReplyDeletePoster two. Ever heard of "idi ti je"? Meaning nyash don chop am. Lmao
DeleteMove on!!!
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ReplyDelete*.... before showing
DeleteMoney maker see d way u displayed ur foolish,chaiiii! Pple dey cuss not dis ur own at all,do u ve to repeat like 5times? And u be guy,ur name is shameless mehhhhh,dis one is just too much.
DeleteChei......ya na
ReplyDeleteLet me make this short and quick
ReplyDeletePoster 1
I am not too sure about dating, but when it comes to fuck, mean girls are very sweet to fuck. This is because, fuck injects a venom of humility in them, and they treat you differently from others. But then again, this will depend on guys who can use fuck as a power tool
Poster 2
Salvage your loss and move on. We win some, we learn some. Leave the store and move on.
You too like fuck, haba, urr type no de good in bed oh, Poster, bleeding is the beginning of the healing process... He shld move on.
DeleteLeave which store?
DeleteFor who?
Poster arrest her. Make her pay
Give police small money them go beat her wella.
Tell them say she tiff your money.
Hahahahaha @venom of humility. This you are cray cray
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Aunty Bianca,na wa o.arrest her! Collect shop!haba!cos of only shop?dats too mean and childish.btw was he not also sleeping with her while it lasted?hasnt she done him some favours,?i bet she has!so abeg,@poster just save urself the stress and embarrassment forgo it like it's a bad bizness.!u were used by the lady alrite.
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ReplyDeleteStella, Madam bog administrator. Welldone.
DeleteDem nor born u well monkey idiot,wetin stella do? U don dey delete ur comments,bcos u see say u forget enter anno mood,come here dey call stella,make I hear dat name foor ur useless mouth again,monkey like u!
DeleteAnon 17:37,please, is English language that difficult to understand? Stella is the blog administrator. I am not. I am the money maker. Hope you understand the difference.
DeleteThank you.
Madam Vaginoplasty oh!! Is it too early to ask 'how go dey go?' LOL!!
ReplyDeleteNaija women are some of the most selfish women in the world
ReplyDeleteThat is why you must all share your horsebands
ALL OF YOU
If no be unilag girl, e go be Ghanaian ho or tranny but una need to share
Are your drunk?
DeleteAre you mad?
Are you high?
Are the witches in your village fanning themselves with your picture?
Sit down in ur house if u don't have 3000 N
DeleteTo attend is not by force.
they are not sharing husbands there.
I'm confused
Delete@SDK don press control "p".....lol....
ReplyDelete@Galore
Poster 1, you dnt sound serious at all...
ReplyDeleteSo not going to waste my time advising you.
Poster 2, please move on...
It will dawn on her wen it's time...
Guess thrs someone playing games with her heart hence the need to end it with you.
Lemme perch here,hope you don't mind Darling? Poster one,your story take style get k-leg o.my advice is that you shouldn't be mean and at the same time,don't be too subtle..just be in the middle..
DeletePoster2-pele,take heart,just use super glue and glue your broken heart,you don fall mugu for the girl side..hustle really hard and get your money,you'll be surprised she'll come begging at your door..
She has given you more motivation to do well in life
DeletePoster 2 ; move on
ReplyDeleteYes! Men love mean ladies! They dnt like an *anytin goes gf*. When u are mean to them they love and respect u... kapish
ReplyDeleteReminds me of the book Why men marry abi is it date bitches?
DeletePoster 2. You have been USED. I beg tell her to refund you all the money u spent on the shop, and the equipment you paid for, she dey crase!! Just that she fit tell you to pay for all the kpekus u collected while una dey date.
ReplyDeleteTar collect fire! Poster 2 just consider it a sown seed n ur reward is in heaven. Infact pretend u used d cash do give away 4 dis blog unugo. Afterall if d reverse is d case u guys will say not all relationship will lead 2 marriage.
DeletePoster 1 wen u tire 4 d Kiki siwe u dey play come bk n tell us.
My helper oooo,my helper,abeg locate me n sponsor me to attend dis lagos parry
ReplyDeleteStart now to save 100naira everyday or you'll come and wash my car for 2 weeks b4 that day.
DeleteNa by force to go party? Hian!!!
DeleteCrazy anony! Rotfl
DeleteLol
DeleteN1, Your story got me confused. I don't understand ur roundabout gist biko.
ReplyDeleteN2, Your family is against the relationship so why are you disturbing the lady? She has a strong reason for backing out. Let me see that your mouth that you used in asking whether you can get your shop back. Shop ko,Kiosk ni! What of her own 'sahel Savannah' that she has been opening for you all these while? Biko 'zuzu' out!
Oh plssss! D babe nor eat his rode too? Or sex is now enjoyed by one? Abeg dat one nor follow 4 dis matter.
DeleteBamm N2 your family is the cause of your dilemma
DeleteN1 Stella that heat has gotten to your head?
Both posters seek the face if God fast and pray fir direction. Work on yourself first
Lol p1 how old r u n those guys?
ReplyDeleteMaybe when u r older, u would be wiser!
Until then keep it up.
P2 guy move on! U will still make it,
Abi na proceeds from her styling una wan take feed?
Narrator 1 ... mean girl. stop being mean until you lose your husband. Me too am mean oo. but all the same try not to lose your God chosen man for you. You do well. like mean people.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.... you be my brother... Igbo man, una go give woman something and una go come back to collect am if the woman no gree.. Oya return all the fuck she don give you. Common move on. yeye dey smell.
Stella you for send e-slap to him.
Poster One - I no get anything to tell you. Poster 2 - Move on. Dont collect anything from her. Just move on. I would say move on and watch God fight for you but am sure BVs will abuse me for bringing God into this mata.....
ReplyDeletePoster 2 leave it to God, commit her in your prayers and experience God,s mighty blessings. Trust me
ReplyDeleteThey endure the pepper cos they wan to finish what they started. Their revenge is f*ckin U.
ReplyDelete(Sometimes U gotta play d role of a fool to fool the fool who thinks they r foolin U.)
Its called pretense. Why haven't one of them married U???
P2. Free her jor!
I swear. P1 these men are just enjoying free punani. So you think you are so beautiful that men will continue to fall at your feet while you treat them like trash. Chai nwa m e dikwa quite stupid. If you have so much control over them why are you here asking for help , thought you had it all under control. Pussy game too tight, iranu oshi. You better go and learn how to treat a man right cos it's this stupid mentality that has made women lose their homes to side chicks. Untrained girl.
DeletePoster 2 you won't get anything back from her, would you prefer she stay with you when she feels nothing for you? Would you stay with her if the tables were turned? Abeg thank you for your contribution to her life but please mover on.
Poster no 2... I am a guy like you. And if u will heed to my advice, it will pay u later.
ReplyDeletePlease, don't take the shop from her. And don't worry about it anymore. Later in life, she will regret it. And when she starts regretting, don't think of going back to her.
Please, just try to improve upon yourself and make money. Don't act as if u are missing her, even though I know its hard at this period.
Forget her pls And move on
What kind of stories are these??
ReplyDeleteTales by moonlight
DeletePoster 1 u no get gist... Na tales by moonlight u send nne. So no comment for u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 if ur story is true, just buy sniper and camphor put inside kerosene give her as fruit juice... After all d bible said suffer not a witch to live. She is a broad daylight witch... namsense! Dis is y some pple will never c good all their miserable life. And na d next pesin go suffer for ur hand cos of what dis shediot did to u....
Remind me again what that verse of the Bible has to do with the topic. Pls stop misunderstanding and misusing the word of God.
DeletePoster 1, I have no words for you..you sound soo unstable and unserious, how old are you again?please get well soon..Poster 2, choiiiiiiiiii I really feel your pain..that babe is just plain evil..so when she was collecting your money, assistance and even shop, she didn't know you are not the kind of man she wants to marry shey? I feel really bad for you...if there's a way you can retrieve all your investments from her, pls do mbok...but I really doubt if that's possible so pls just take evrytin to the lord in prayer..He can fix it!!!
ReplyDeleteHahaha @get well soon.
DeletePoster 1,FIX ur character!
ReplyDeleteAnd while at it,pls stop lolling.it aint funny!
PosteR 2,Nna kpele.
Thats d way it is o! She Used u to better her life and Wen she was done(or found someone else) she zapped.
Pele...just forget her and Move on.
Nemesis wil catch up wit her.u hear? Sorry dear.
Wia is ur gossip mate Bloglord? Not like I miss her though. *flips my hair n shakes my big rounded but*
DeleteThat's true ooo blog lord. Damn all dem oldies for ds blog don zoom off finish.
DeleteIyalaje,Bloggie is around.she is only trying to get settled in.
DeletePoster 1,you don't know what you really want..haven't you had the saying "you love who doesn't love you,and the one that loves you,you can't bring yourself to love"
ReplyDeleteThat is exactly your case right now.
Poster 2,just move on,I understand how you feel,but you can't take the shop back.the one for you will come along, but It would be a pity cos the current lady has done a number on you,so I'm 80percent sure that its going to take you time to open up to someone again,talk more of spending on her.
KIP DOING LUV ME JEJE LUV ME TENDER TIL WEN U REACH 45...TO NARRATIVE TWO, U CNT DO ANYTHNG IF D SHOP WAS RENT IN HER NAME, SHE PLAYED U A FAST ONE, BT IF U CN TEK SOME OF UR THNGS BACK GUD, IF U CNT U NID TO PRY FOR GODS VISITATION AND SHAMELESSLY SHE WIL COME BCK BEGGIN U TO TEK HER BACK...TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeletePoster 1: That ur yellow colour de deceive you, you got used to the attention from guys while growing up, & also got used to the shakara, its so into ur head right now that u dont know when to let it go and play down to earth to keep ur man. And yes, research has proven that guys value a girl that seem difficult before they actually land her to the easy ones.. its sumthg thats in most guys genes, dont ask me why? kinda similar to a situation whrby u save hardly to buy a product, you'd so pet it, compared to the treatment u'd gv a product that was dashed to u.... mind u dont be too hard playing hard to get oh, ur mates marry evry given saturday, learn to blend both.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I dont knw if i shld say u should have seen this coming, before a woman quits a r/shp, theres usually a cry for help, on and on... pointing out thgs shes getn fed up with, its either u werent payin attention or u paid less to her cries, winning back her love is like waiting for the cows to comeback home from grazing.... leave the shop, prove to her that thr ws no clause or condition attached to the thgs u did fr her, but ur good heart, pele, wat dont kill u will make u stronger.
Poster 1, just like Stella said u really sound like a player. Those guys u claim to be mean to at the initial stages and when u decide to get lovey dovey with them . Ur own idea of being mean to me I think u extort money from them all in the name of mean and a guy will not be spending on u and let u be. He will continue playing along until he is satisfied that he got what he want and most girls in ur category ending up loving the wrong guy. When u want to get real nobody will tell u.U still dey feel fine girl untill u date more men than ur age by then ur tohtoh go don get branches.
ReplyDeletePoster2 . It's very simple. She found someone better than u. Let her be .don't collect the shop from her the love and good intentions that made u open the shop for her will make her loose all her customer. She feel say she don wise she forget say karma na botch.
Poster 1 I don't even understand ur story, PS 2 just move on, forget abt everything you've done for her. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteWhat is that poster one on about? You better beg Jesus to fix you completely and stop with this childish behaviour. Rme
DeleteAbeg quick quick carry biro and paper, write down all the things u done spend on her sorry ass, beginning with that shop, write them alphabetically, make she begin pay, evn if she cnt pay for the yrs wasted n blocking ur real wife.... i hate ingrates, am sure she de collect outside since.
ReplyDeleteAbia, nor b only blocking real wife.
DeleteHahahaha, chim oooo. Blocking which wife?
Delete@1, Na spiritual husband dey worry u.
ReplyDelete@2, how can u even think of taking back d shop from her, Stella I don't like ur advice, while u were spending ur little money on her did u not fuck her, or are saying dat u ve never slept with her, bros Na trade by batar, u gave her money in return she gave u pussy so deal with the heart break, no be only men sabi break women heart.
No, d guy gave her both money n body(abi na only woman dey give body?) he surrendered all 2 her so he was used on all level but was dere any agreement signed dat she must b his wife?
DeletePoster 2. Your story is a sad one, don't collect the shop just move on and let karma deal with her. I feel like offering myself as replacement. Just know that with every difficulty there is relief.
ReplyDeleteLolz @ replacement.
DeletePoster 2; pls move on with your life and God will surprise u soon.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Similar shit happened to me but we dated for 5yrs, and i found out from my spies i planted that she ws cheating, they evn had proof, so she cldnt deny it, it ws a distant r/shp so thrs no tellin how long it ws going on... i had to call it off and to be sure i dont pityher n take her back, i told my family wat she did, the insults from them alone is enough nt to gv her a second chance, i trust my ppl.... i really invested in that r/shp, and at the end i jst let it all go with the harmattan weather... Now i look back n am glad it didnt work out b/w us, i shld bake her a thank u cake sef, my new Iyawo (Taiwo) has redefined love for me.
ReplyDeleteBwahahahaha@a thank you cake!
DeleteNice idea.. lmao!
Poster 2, as hard as it can be PLEASE FORGET EVERYTHING AND MOVE ON.. Write it down, God will replace everything you lost in the relationship and He would also give you double for ur loss. Don't worry, she was never meant to be your wife and u won't be the first or last to loose out in a relationship, some people have lost more than a shop but today they are happy and better.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:na so yougo do do till you clock 40,maybe ur beauty is getin into ur head,well na you know o.go and ask Rita Dominic she go tell you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:leave her to God,let God judge her,dont harbor evil in ur heart so that God wil hear you when u call on him.
Some people dnt hv forgiving heart,when u mess them up they treat ur fuck-up...guys and ladies shld be careful,dont promise a guy marriage when u know you won't marry him/her,let evry relationship be defined. Some people are facing challenges today cos of what some did to them.
Imagin you promise a lady like Chizoba wedin and u fuck her up,na juju she go take spoil ur life.some people no get church mind o.be careful don't destroy ur tomorrow cos of pleasures of today.#nuff said
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteJUST NEGODU
What are you on and about?
Poster 2
If it will make you feel better then get back the things.
Poster 1; all I see is SEX-LIFE and not "love-life". How will you be talking about fidelity with a boyfriend and you say you are a christian? You mean you are a follower of
ReplyDeleteChrist and having sex with a man that has not paid your dowry? Please lady, SEX-LIFE is not relationship and DOES NOT LEAD TO MARRIAGE! REPENT OF FORNICATION.
@poster1 : you sound very unserious.
ReplyDeleteYou feel you are beautiful bcos you are a yellow paw paw....be deceiving yourself.
Stop jumping frm one man 2 another, na your type men dey show pepper.
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@poster2 : please 4get about her her n move on.
Wetin you wan use d shop do if you get it back.
Shit happens.......move cause she doesn't deserve you.
Poster 1 you don't have an issue and your repetition of oh is annoying. If you like be mean or nice na your toro.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 let God be the judge, do not ask her for any thing back you did them out of love and God will repay you in due time. It's painful but try to move on.
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ReplyDeletePoster 2, move on....she feels she can play you and get away with it...let her own karma catch up with her, do not take the shop,just leave.
ReplyDeleteN2: it's been said severally that you can't build a relationship on Promise's, you build it with love, determination, and trust. #MoveOnBrov #MyTwoKobo #WhatDoIKnow..
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1. A close pal once said he prefers to marry someone who will always question his authority not someone who will keep being obedient like a servant and when he got married, hnmm the babe na fire. Now he complains everytime. To the poster, all I'll say is don't be like this when you get married cos no man wants a stubborn wife.
ReplyDelete2. The lady is just using your family's attitude to her as an excuse to leave but I'll advice you leave her to God. If the shop rent's receipt is in her name n the goods inside, it will be almost impossible to claim it back. Just move on and let God judge this matter.
Dear poster two, do not worry. Time has a way of paying us back in our own coin. You are hurt quite alright, it is very okay to be hurt. Cry if you must and please, do not stop believing in love. There are still very good and faithful ladies out there.
ReplyDeleteLike u abi?
DeletePoster 1... Stella has said it all.... U sound like a player, razz and very sure ure a street.. Stella ti fo enu eh.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...
hmmmmm i dont know what to say blcos i want to read comments!
ReplyDeleteN1- its okay as long as u not window shopping for boyfriends.. keep changing but be healthy abt it. YES.. men loves girls. N2- there is absolutely nothing wrong with being dumped. good thing is that u ll be picked, cleaned/reset and protected. ur functions will be appreciated. but it depends on where u re dumped.. and who the picker is.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.. Dis is d gurl u help grow... Wow. She's bein pretending all dis while. Hmm, Gurlsssssssssssss
ReplyDeleteHmmmm Guysssssssssssss, una get ur own for body too
DeletePoster one...It's normal for girls who think age is on their side to act this way, or maybe na Ogbanje things. *scratches hair* I no know abeg
ReplyDeletePoster two...I am trying so hard to keep myself from disorganising your face with hot slaps.
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I wonder o, how would a man who is not wealthy rent a shop for someone not married or engaged to him, what kind of love is that? As in u did not even invest for yourself but the girl, na wa o. May God help you.
DeleteIt was love?
DeletePoster 1, I think since childhood poeple have bee admiring you becz of your complexion and bueaty and the thing don enter your head so because of it you are full of pride and tend to be in control of your relationships thus making you mean and breaking up. You a woman o, try to be humble you can earnestky pray to God for a humble spirit and stop putting your looks first. Rather than do excess shakara to men why not be wise instead. Wish you well o.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, Please collect your shop and move on. When you do so it will she will feel your hurt. PLEAS COLLECT YOUR SHOP BACK.
Some women are heartless but men are worse. Poster move on without the shop. God would replace all you've lost.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: you right, Naija guys love girls that treat them like shit. Immediately you start doing all lovey dovey with them, they begin to misbehave.
ReplyDeleteI think what you'll do is fall in love but don't let d guy know, it's safe that way. Let the guy do all d loving!
Poster 2: Plz move on!!!
P1: If being mean is not u but just a front, get rid of it. Just be u. The man who will love u for being u will come.
ReplyDeleteP2: Pele. It's painful o! But u should have used ur head and listened to ur family. U should have helped her in a way u could comfortably afford but u went beyond ur means. Anyway, what has happened has happened.
If u did those things for her out of the genuineness of ur heart, then let it go.
U may want to retrieve d shop from her but it won't be easy cos u don't seem to have proof that u invested into her shop, do u?
She won't give up her shop without a fight. So if u want ur peace of mind forgive her, forget everything and move on. Leave ur case to God.
If u can let it go, let it go. God will replenish. But for this girl to accept all these from u knowing u are not her type of man, that's wicked. In future u should even be thankful to God for showing u d kind of girl she is...
Forget about it and move but just learn ur lesson the hard way. That's life for u.
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Poster 2, just move on. You don't need to take back the shop, God has a grand plan for you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I like you already but biko, stop being mean to guys o, just be you. What shall be, shall be.
Stella, how is she a player? Na wa for you o. Babe, if they like u when u r mean, den continue being mean but with a Lil sense o.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 : how do you intend getting the shop back? Lol. Dude, plz move on. She'll meet karma on her way up
Second narrative ireally feel for you.
ReplyDeleteWhen i read the second chronicle-dumped, and your reply,i got my sad..
ReplyDeletePls this is my story,as short as it can be...
I met this guy about 8 months ago,i found out he was rich and had just returned back to Nigeria.. He was just too nice that in less than 48 hours,he had given me check + money = 15k. We became very close,he was spending money on me n we became close,as a broke girl i was happy and decided to play along..
Soon he started talking baby,love,sugar etc.i was still playing along.i later got to know that -
He is 16 years older than i am
He has a daughter with a Nigerian lady back den when he was in university.
He is married to the white woman in the country he is staying in and they are at their divorce stage
All this he told me him self...He is so rich and his family here in Nigeria is a know name in his state (found out when we were constantly hanging out).
We became really closed and he spent so much on me and is still spending even as he has gone back to the country.i cant tell when he asked me out and i can't remember ever giving him an answer,i just know that we got to the i love u,love u response talk (probably the constant receiving of gifts,outings money -answered )
I only like this guy but the love chemistry am not feelinf it,i wish to tell him how i feel [ ](cos all he says is marriage,children,trips abroad etc) and he wants to do that in less than 2 years(by then i would be a graduate ) ] BUT I NEED THE FINANCIAL SUPPORT!! The bunden is too much for my mum (btw-i wont have to date someone close and sin -fornication in the name of short distance relationship )am just 21and our look (me and him )is just like that of Governor Oshomole and his new bride.
Please face your studies and brush up on your written English I couldn't get past your gibberish except that you are interested in a guy cos of his money. Awoof dey purge belle
DeletePlease this guy u're talking about did he travel from London? And what does his Igbo and Yoruba name start with? And does he currently stay in port harcourt?
DeleteRip English
DeleteDoppel ganger,my darling......
DeleteAnonymous 16.30, who ever u have in mind,is not the person.you are so far away...
Quicksilver,i write very well.it is just my phone’s oversabi corrector...and i typed this in a hurry (having a busy weekend )
What i just want is advice-if i should tell him how i feel about the whole ‘fake relationship ’..
He is 16 years older than you, with plenty baggage and you simply want financial help ... Hmmm..girl, cut your losses now and scamper away from this guy, before you rope yourself into some serious mess. You have been surviving before you met him, continue the struggle with prayers and patience, you will prevail.
DeleteThe man who invested all his life savings on a woman he is yet married to, e kpele oo! If you collect the shop and everything, what will you use it for? Give it to one of your siblingss or sublease it out or sale off her wares?
Your family was against the relationship because they observed that you were living far above your means and probably neglecting your obligations to them or you were not improving on yourself as an individual. Sit-down and ask yourself if her own parents will be happy to see their son behave the way you did for her? Noooo! They won't! This is the blunt truth! Bros, you are seen as her ALA-ONU, ( is the spelling right? ) as it is said in Lasgidi ... Take it as your fate and waka away jejely.
Abi na my husband u dey talk about ? God pls help me o
DeleteSweetie, life and it's endless pressures always push us to make a choice. Always choose to do the right thing. It pays.
DeleteFace your studies and let the man be. Forget the attractive promises. They may cost u in future.
God's grace dear. I pray He provides you a genuine benefactor to ease your mother's burden.
Choose righteousness.
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When i read the second chronicle-dumped, and your reply,i got my sad..
ReplyDeletePls this is my story,as short as it can be...
I met this guy about 8 months ago,i found out he was rich and had just returned back to Nigeria.. He was just too nice that in less than 48 hours,he had given me check + money = 15k. We became very close,he was spending money on me n we became close,as a broke girl i was happy and decided to play along..
Soon he started talking baby,love,sugar etc.i was still playing along.i later got to know that -
He is 16 years older than i am
He has a daughter with a Nigerian lady back den when he was in university.
He is married to the white woman in the country he is staying in and they are at their divorce stage
All this he told me him self...He is so rich and his family here in Nigeria is a know name in his state (found out when we were constantly hanging out).
We became really closed and he spent so much on me and is still spending even as he has gone back to the country.i cant tell when he asked me out and i can't remember ever giving him an answer,i just know that we got to the i love u,love u response talk (probably the constant receiving of gifts,outings money -answered )
I only like this guy but the love chemistry am not feelinf it,i wish to tell him how i feel [ ](cos all he says is marriage,children,trips abroad etc) and he wants to do that in less than 2 years(by then i would be a graduate ) ] BUT I NEED THE FINANCIAL SUPPORT!! The bunden is too much for my mum (btw-i wont have to date someone close and sin -fornication in the name of short distance relationship )am just 21and our look (me and him )is just like that of Governor Oshomole and his new wife.
No.1: Your story get as e be. You sound light hearted & callous, but I think that's just a front. Deep down u really want to be loved for urself without pretenses. Since u ar now a christian pray to God for the right man. If u sit to really analyse ur situation u will find that u hav been drawn to the wrong kind of guys for a particular reason. Once u can find out why, do the opposite. Best wishes.
ReplyDeleteNo. 2: Like Stella D'Kork I advise u to move on. Forget revenge & as for the business, maybe 2 of u can split the capital & u take half from her. If this will cause much kasala or problems just leave it for her. God will give u better things in future. I am not an advocate most of the time of collecting things u feel u hav invested in people for love. This is becos sometimes people come into our lives solely for us to help them & vice versa. However, next time shine ur eyes & know that people can change. Be prayerful & try to find out their true intentions instead of getting carried away by feelings, sex or beauty. As for the lady, I can't say much. Her side of the story may be valid. It is possible ur family have been giving her hell & u ignored it, instead of standing up for her. It is also possible that since u opened the shop, u decided to rely on her financially thereby stressing her up, this cud put a strain on any relationship. But once someone has fallen out of love with u, it is hard to get that person back except u also change ur ways. In all, I don't know, biko, just move on & try to better urself.
Happy weekend to darling Stella D'Kork & all BVs.
Lol @u sound like a player an unrepentant one p2.. if u collect the shop back, ehmmm how will u pay for all the ducking since 2010. Well just move on already, such is life.
ReplyDeletePoster 1.you sound like a Tom boy
ReplyDeletePoster2.just move on,forget about the shop
Poster one; u never talk wetin u want, yansh still dey scratch you.
ReplyDeletePoster two; if u have another source of income or better source of income, leave the shop for her and move on, let karma deal with her, if actually you used your last savings for that shop, OH Boy go and collect your shop back, tell her u were investing in the future with dat shop, since dere is no future with her again u want it back. Yes people will laugh at you, but it is better than living in regrets. My one cent.
Poster one; u never talk wetin u want, yansh still dey scratch you.
ReplyDeletePoster two; if u have another source of income or better source of income, leave the shop for her and move on, let karma deal with her, if actually you used your last savings for that shop, OH Boy go and collect your shop back, tell her u were investing in the future with dat shop, since dere is no future with her again u want it back. Yes people will laugh at you, but it is better than living in regrets. My one cent.
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ReplyDeletePoster 1... Stella has said it all.... U sound like a player, razz and very sure ure a street.. Stella ti fo enu eh.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...
Just forget about her and move on God will bless you with someone far better than her.For all you've done for her, don't look back at it forget it and say no word to her about it and watch how your story will turn from grass to grass.
ReplyDeleteI think you wanted to write forget* auto correct be falling our hand
DeleteShould i tell him i dont have the love feeling,then break his heart and go back to being broke and frustrated
ReplyDeleteOr get a sugar daddy? Which is a MIGHTY NO for me.
I still have a year before i see him again,face to face
Do whatever pleases you.
DeleteLast I checked, you can take up petrol pump attendant work while you are still in school. You don't have to wait for a man to meet your expenses
Poster 1: men adore "mean girls, I know cos I was one before I got married. You will meet a bad" guy that will love and adore you, so just enjoy ur self. My hubby loves the fact that I am not a novice and know all the moves of a player, so it's fun.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I feel for u,but are you sure you haven't been going on and on about how it's ur money and shop that is keeping her? No woman would love to go into a marriage where her soon to be in laws insult and disrespect her. Do you defend her in front of ur family or you just sit on the fence? Pls start a business,if you could open a shop for a woman it means you can save and start a business of ur own. In all honesty, ur situation is dicey. I wouldn't go into a marriage knowing fully well that the man has no source of income and then his family dislikes me- naaah! That's just too much.
Seeing as your babe reads this blog,my advice to her is that she should give u back ur shop and then move on, since she can't continue with the relationship
Poster 1... You are a player and pls control your temper..not all guys like mean girls, just look for a nice guy who is calm
ReplyDeletePoster 2...Forget about her and MOVE ON, dont collect the shop back, You are gonna make it without her IJN
Poster 1: kudos to you. until your antie gwegs come out well well your eye will open.
ReplyDeleteposter2: why will you spend such amount on a girl when you are not buoyant enough. guess you were blinded by her mumu love. please move on with your life and be the man you are supposed to be. you have been dupped by a lady and dumped. you can
Boys only want love if its torture
ReplyDeleteHaven't u noticed,
The one you love don't love you back
And the one you don't love, loves you
My advice-BE MEAN
Poster2.....No comment
Poster one: Sorry, but you still have childish tendencies. Grow up and embark on a journey of self discovery. It will help your life.
ReplyDeletePoster two: Leave the shop for her.
Just know that God used you as a stepping stone to someone's greatness, and he'll reward you accordingly.
She'll get her own dose in due time.
#WhiteDiamondOut
P1, your chronicle sounds like a rant. I don't even understand. P2, move on, shit happens. Let God be the judge
ReplyDeletePoster 1.
ReplyDeleteAnybody who gives love and gladly receives nonsense has serious self-esteem issues and lacks knowledge about true love. Shuo!
Confident people don't beg for love when they dish it out. They simply move on if they don't get it back or simply channel it where it will make impact unless they are certain continually giving without receiving will bring about a desired effect.
You've been very unfortunate to meet men who have self-esteem issues and either saw you as too much for them or you met real players who are not fazed by your 'yellowness'.
Now, being a Christian, all that ought to change. You need to pray that God should bring you a man with whom you can give and receive true love. Someone you can share true love with.
TRUE LOVE HATH NO SHAKARA!
It does not consider one's physical endowment as superiority over the other person.
It does not take advantage of the other's weak attribute.
Ask God to also help you to ditch all the complexes and weaknesses you are currently hugging to yourself. You may or may not know them. You obviously have your issues too.
TRUE LOVE IS REAL. It goes beyond all that romantic puff puff you see in entertainment media. It goes beyond all the 'girl power' and chauvinistic mantras been bandied about.
Pursue the God kinda love. Its sweeter and lasts longer.
Poster 2
Anybody can fall into been a "sucker for love'. You probably gave your all despite protesst from your family members.
Your family may have taken their anger out on your lady and frustrated whatever love she had for you such that despite all your generousity, she just may not like the idea of having them as in-laws for the rest of her life. Its also possible that you did not upgrade yourself enough to match her developing level of empowerment too. And she sees an imbalance.
You're better off leaving all you've done for her and moving on. Prayerfully ask God to restore the wasted years and all the locust has devoured.
Fighting and screaming for salon equipment will simply make you look cheaper and childish and diminish you dignity.
JESUS CAN REALLY FIX IT ALL. Cheers!
Boys only want love if its torture
ReplyDeleteHaven't u noticed,
The one you love don't love you back
And the one you don't love, loves you
My advice-BE MEAN
Poster2.....No comment
Correct
DeleteShe will definitely meet her doom! Free her posster2. The Lord is ur strength.
ReplyDeletePoster1, I no even understand wetin u need advise for, u just bring epistle dey waste our mb n time.
Poster 1 - You have a problem.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - She used you. Now that you know this will you collect what you have given or put matters in God's hands?
Narrative 1, u r a joker. U dont hv prob.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I can relate to wat u re going thru, cos I am d same way, currently in my mid twenties, I ve only experienced ttwo heartt brreaks, all from d only two pple I ever really showed love, the rest have treated me well n done d loving while me I was jst dating for datng sake, rright now I ve giiven mysself ttime outt off dating to reevaluate myself.. I think u shld do same
ReplyDeletePoster 1: and that's how you will turn to super gwegs in your father's house.
ReplyDeletePoster : Mbok make progress!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#1- Set your priority well. To start dating to gain what? Marriage or SEX?
ReplyDeleteHow old are you? If being mean suits you, fine, but be careful on how you carry yourself. You made mention of being a Christian/change person, please tie your legs together when dating.
#2- That's life for you. Never give up, try move on and leave her.
@ Poster 1... It Isn't A 'Men Thing'...It Is Both Ways.
ReplyDeleteFrankly Speaking The Reverse Is The Case Men Don't Like Mean Girls - He Is Loving Up Cos He Felt Your Being Mean To Him Is A Direct Result Of His Dilly-dallying In Asking U Out And U Know The Saying " U Don't Know What U Got Till Is Gone". A Point Of A Caution To You Is That A Good Relationship Isn't Built On The Foundation Of Shakara
Poster 2, Life Is Tough...You Need To Get Somebody Else And Forget Her - Know What U Want In A Girl And Go For Someone Else There Are So Many Of Them Out There. Serious Ones Sef
Poster 1 - I just checked the dictionary and surprise, surprise (actually, maybe not) self aggrandisement was right next to your name.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - Everyone will reap whatever they sow in this life. Forgive her and move on. Money can always be recouped. Dignity, no. Please move on.
She's not for you, you'll surely meet a good woman that will love you the way you are. This is a lesson for all. Don't ever invest in anybody, even in marriage I don't believe in my property and money is also yours. Keep your things to yourself Biko. People are wicked
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