Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

This Chronicle really really upset me!...WTF!

 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE.

CHILDREN WITH TOO MUCH MONEY

Hello Stella,

Thanks for all the beautiful work you do. I would like you to post this as i want to hear people's advise. I am a woman in my late 40's and i had a boy before i got married. I had him when i was 20 and then i got married and had 1 more boy and a girl. 

Now the story is that recently my first son who is a banker has been having issues with my second son and he has been on my neck to visit him in school unannounced. I have visited my second before and it's nothing spectacular.

So  i just drove there on wednesday and asked after him. At first people in his hostel don't know him by his real name. They know him as Don Richy but they kind of hushed that name and showed me his flat (First son provided the address). 

My son is living in a 2 bedroom flat in school!! He almost fainted when he saw me. The house is heaven, the furnitures to the TV set, AC. He had everything inside the house and upon interrogation, he was the owner of a E350 car packed outside his flat. 

Now the thing is, he has been into something they call wire fraud and he made so much. His brother who is my first helped him conceal funds. I asked for account statement and you wont believe my son has about N127m naira in his account and i dont know how much he has in other banks because i know he also has a GTBank account!!! 

My first and second had an issue was why i got involved. Now i am very confused, i dont know what to do or say. I am scared because i dont want EFCC after him but what do i do? My conscience is not at rest with so much money in his account knowing it is stolen.

What can i do? I feel like i have failed like as a mother. Me and hubby give this kids everything. I drive a corolla and my husband drives EOD and our children have access to everything. My husband isnt even saying anything and i dont know his plan.

Madam if this story is true,then you need to be really afraid cos that money is too much to be sitting in an account oh,Your son will definitely hear from EFCC.....I know what i am talking about,if he cannot provide a means of income then there is trouble.

Sit your sons down and discuss on a way out of the mess.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

LYING WIFE

Dear Stella,

Good day to you and all wonderful bvs.  I want to thank you for this platform. I started visiting your blog since Oct 2015, and since then I found relief. God bless you.

Please I want to remain anonymous. Also please pardon me because my story might be a bit lengthy and scattered.

I got married in 2013 and since then my life has become stagnant and unpleasant. Before I got married, I was doing well for a young lady, I could take care of needs and my family, I could take vacations outside the country and send my kid sister to school in  one of those african schools  even though I lost my job but i was able to save enough and do other side businesses and my brother was also supportive. 

I married my husband without him having a job, I was hoping we both would work hard together to either get a job or start up a biz. I later got a small paying job in a marketing company. Though the pay was small but we could manage it to an extent, when salary is paid I transfer everything to hubby's account. I became pregnant immediately after marriage, it was hell, he would beat me at any slightest issue, I became so scared of him , I dare not oppose him in anything cuz i will get the beating of my life, it started affecting my job, even colleagues started noticing.it, I dare not come home aa minute after the curfew he gave me even if there is traffic(yet he is a night crawler). A guy dares not mistakenly call be it ex or friend(meanwhile till date he still talks to ladies on phone both ex and friends).

I dare not tell him I want to go visit a friend or siblings(but he is free to see his). A single friend must not come around me (but he hangs out with his single friends and they even go clubbing) Even till my due date I was beaten because an ex called to wish me compliments of the season. I endured all this I didnt tell anyone.

The bubble burst when I gave birth and still the beating continued, the person that came to take care of me had to raise alarm. Stella all this period I was looking like an aids patient. Families became involved and he apologised. But he continued. One day I had the courage to run away with my child after he threatened to kill me..he looked for me ,called my friends  and some called him names and told him how shameless he was. Our pastors got involved this time and he told every one he has learnt his lesson and he is ready to be the best husband. 

I foolishly believed this and returned for the sake of our child. I got back after 2 months, weeks later he broke my sim card , changed my facebook password, deleted me from all social media, wiped out my contacts on my phone and tore where I had backup of contacts, his reason, that my friends insulted him and cajoled me to leave .

He hasnt raised his hand on me since then(to him that the only reason I left) but he still the same bitter, authoritative, manipulative,domineering, selfish person i have come across even his family pities me. Because of all these his atitude I lie over anything infact almost everything, I dont even like telling him things.I wasnt like that in my other relationship, I used to be an open free person. 

I dont have one friend, I dont go out, I dare not go out without giving him days notice which most likely he wont approve, even if he does I wont have rest of mind cuz he  will start buzzing and asking me what I am still doing. He snoops the hell out of my life infact he has more hold of my phone more than I do, he checks out all the numbers on my phone in his whatapp to know who they are. I make account on how I spend my airtym.

Stella marriage made me become a pauper and a beggar. I stopped work because of him and he doesnt have a job too oh.we beg before we can eat. My siblings have been supporting me with cash yet he seem not to want me around them. At 34 when I ought to soaring and having goals, I am being treated like a child, he is two years older than I am.This year I want to liberate myself. Am loosing my mind everyday. I have lost my self esteem and confidence. I hate myself. Wipe tears.

OMG...ARE YOU FOR REAL?if the Marriage is still this bad,why are you still there?if all what you have recounted is true,then you hate yourself.how can you let yourself become a prisoner with walls at your age?

I am sorry to have to say this but leave that situation at once...Leave and get a job,leave and LIVE AGAIN!

I am sorry if my advice does not make sense but i am sitting here and imagining myself in your situation and whispering to myself ''God forbid bad thing God forbid bad thing!''