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Tuesday, 9 February 2016

CHRONICLE Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

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 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND


Good day Mam. i'll just get right to it. I feel kind of silly sending this in because it seems small compared to other peoples problems but I'm beginning to get concerned. Ill be turning 20 this march and i have never had a boyfriend. 


I graduated from secondary school at 15. In school i really wasn't interested in boys, I felt it wasn't the time or place for things like that and we were all far too young. I did get asked out once or twice when in secondary school, but i wasn't interested because i felt you should only get into a relationship if you're ready for marriage. I still feel that way. But its like since i left high school I grew a third eye. Not even 1 boy/man has asked for my number or remotely showed any interest in me. I wont lie I'm not the most social person, if I'm not in the library, I'm on my bed. 

I decided to go to social events more maybe ill meet people in my 4th year of university. I even went out of my way to travel for a friends birthday in Alberta (I school in Ottawa), she was having a house party and a dinner. At the party i ended up spending the whole time in the room, i try but i REALLY hate party scenes, its not my preferred environment, the dinner too...same story. I'm honestly not ready for a relationship but anh anh, this is my peak and no one is coming, what will happen when i turn 30.

Sometimes I blame this country maybe if i had more Nigerians around it'll be different. i know i am not the prettiest in the room, but I try small naw. What made this paranoia worse was that, i saw a lady of 33 who had never had a boyfriend and it wasn't by her choice, she was so pretty that it was hard to understand.

 I don't want to end up like this. Please people of this great blog, when was your first relationship and how did you guys meet, is my own normal or am i worrying for no reason?

If no one is coming then search yourself....there must be something outward about you..maybe the way you dress or carry yourself or just maybe you have an outward display of inferiority complex..just maybe!

Stop worrying and work on yourself!..you are just 20,still time to work on yourself darling!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE CONFESSION AND ITS CONSEQUENCES

Hello Stella..... May God continue to bless u for all d good works u av been doing.... Please I really need help..... Please post this in chronicle of blog visitor and please hide my email.... 

I am a lady of 25years old and I am dating a guy of 26.....we are crazy in love with each other to the extent that we don't hide things from each other...... I have been honest with  him and even when I cheated on him, I told him about it and he also asked about my past which I did too..... 

Now he wants to break up with me and I know it's not from his mind but because I didn't tell him about the whole thing.. (I just did yesterday evening) and if he does, I would loose my mind....... I have never felt like this for anyone and I am not ready to let him go or leave him........ Please what can I do to make him stay??????... 

Please I really need your red pen here....... Please don't go silent on me Stella...... Plssssssssssssssssssssss...... #crying


Why dont you Ladies realise that when you go into a new relationship,you have to filter what you say?YOUR PAST IS BEHIND YOU AND THATS WHERE IT SHOULD STAY!!!

Why confess to him when he isnt doing same?

Confessing doesnt make you loyal.humble or faithful!
I hope you learnt your lesson?I dont know how you can make him stay but i know how you can make the next one stay......SHUT UP AND TELL HIM ONLY WHAT HE SHOULD KNOW!

If he leaves you as he threatened,move on,you will not die or go insane,you will only be heart broken.

Hissssss.

A real man doesnt care about your past,he only looks forward to the future with you,at his age he is not even ready and was probably looking for a way to get rid of you....#my2cents



NOTE- Yesterday's Chronicle poster has her contact details inside IHN today for those who requested.Her intention was not to seek for help but advise.She thanks you all the same for wanting to extend a hand of help.please check today's IHN...Thank you!


116 comments:

CherishD said...

Chronicles of life.

Lizzy T said...

Brb to comment

Doppelgänger said...

Poster 1 you probably look and act like a snub or have body odour.

Poster 2 sorry miss lover girl.
I hope he is serious.
Explain how you like someone and still cheat on them. You don't deserve him and next time don't put your guilt on a guy by confessing what you weren't asked in the first place, no one wins an award for disclosure.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Lesbian alert at poster 1...

See this Mumu poster 2,
Dude has dumped you because so many guys have fucked you...
Move on biko...
Mumu!...infact you are very stupid for confessing your sex life to a man...

Bianca BRUNO said...

Poster one : go for deliverance as usual.

Poster two: at ur age, a whole 25 years u open ur mouth and told a guy ur past? My bad. I forgot. Age doesn't always come with sense.
Go for deliverance as well. After all na only deliverance we sabi advice for this blog.
Tsk Tsk.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Poster two you cheated on your man and you told him? And he was ok with everything? Anyways, no one should judge you by your past. Main thing is you're a different person now. That's what's matters most. If he really cared for you He would let your past go

Poster one, sweety you need to talk more. Try to be more social. Maybe check how you dress too. Are you the type that looks easy to approach or you seem like a snob? All that matters. I don't think you should go seeking out guys. Justify to be more social and things will change

Bootylycious diva said...

The poster -no comment

Elixir Ray said...

Poster 1
Ask a guy ouy.

Poster 2
You are cray, cray.
Receive sense!

Quiksilver said...

Poster1
Maybe you are Ugly, or you have rabbit teeth, or half past 4 eyes, body/mouth odour, dirty skin, timidity or you just have a bad attitude in general.
But then again, even people worse than you get approached daily so watagwan? Take it to God in prayer sister.

Poster 2
UNAMIKOT!

Miss tiana said...

Please bvs,am relocating to owerri soon due to marriage.I want to start selling crochet braids;the type Stephanie Coker wears.I don't knw if there will market for it.please advice me.thanks

Real Nutty said...

Kro ni kules

BLOGBRITY said...

Although I don't have a very rough past
Buh wen boo n I did d confession game, we grew so much inlove thereafter...

A real man will love u irrespective of ur past but not when u cheat...

Anonymous said...

Girl, have you given vagina? Haven't you shared buttocks? Having counselled ladies over the years in the course of my work and I have come to discover that majority of the ladies that do not "move on" whenever a relationship does not work out are those who had given in to sexual pressures, committed abortions or gotten infections from their partners. They keep sulking even a decade after the break up whereas their male counterparts had moved on, married and had kids. This later scenario usually adds to the lady's predicament. On the other hand, those who "closed their legs" have more secure and trustworthy marriages apart from "moving on" faster. Also lady, spice your spiritual life with God's word. Learn to read your scriptures (New Testament -you can google it and read on your mobile phones or tablets) and find out what LOVE means.
1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. . .

Roseline Dakok said...

May God help those in need

Anonymous said...

Poster 2: use rope tie his legs and tie the other end of the rope to your bed or a heavy abject that is unmovable in your house. better still, tie the other end to a pillar in your house.

CherishD said...

For Narrative Two; Eish, guys, men will always come nd go. Never mind, you will get over d heartbreak, you won't die, just one of life lessons. Build yourself, excel in whatever you do, be successful then you ll attract d right man nd he will stay. Focus on yourself nd glow.

CherishD said...

For Narrative Two; Eish, guys, men will always come nd go. Never mind, you will get over d heartbreak, you won't die, just one of life lessons. Build yourself, excel in whatever you do, be successful then you ll attract d right man nd he will stay. Focus on yourself nd glow.

Eka Joy said...

You went to confess to cheating. Hmm. My dear, u are on a long thing.

Anonymous said...

@poster if you are on the skinny side try and add some flesh be like size12-14 ,plenty toaster will come. And if you are flat chested invest on pushup Bras if possible wear two for that busty effect. Honestly it works like magic

Anonymous said...

God bless you Stella. I absolutely agree on both of yoir thoughts today

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, I coulda sworn I sent in that chronicle. Will turn 20 in October, also never had a bf. I'm not dirty, don't have inferiority complex, don't smell, etc. Never been to a party or club, though, in my life. Every one says 'wait, don't worry, the right man will sweep you off your feet' blah blah blah. In my second year of university, though, so I dunno. And like yoh, if I'm not in the library, I'm in church or on my bed. Sometimes I wonder if it's cos I use glasses, or I don't wear makeup and jewelry (deeper life things). Anyway, lemme too read cments.

Anonymous said...

@ poster forget that guy, your age diff is two small try someone with atleast 5 years diff ..some guys are indecisive when I'm their 20s

Blackberry said...

Poster one, ain't u hot enough?

Blackberry said...

Poster one, ain't u hot enough?

CherishD said...

Poster 1, forget about boys, men for now. Live life fully , glow, you can even go for your Masters, concentrate on building yourself, you ll pick d man you want out of d lot that will rush you. Relax your mind nd do not let this be an issue that will give you sleepless nights.

mamannuku bagowner A.K.A Jamal lyon babe said...

Poster 1 is called oko - orun things.. oko orun will not make oko aye look your side
Look for where they can help you pursue your oko orun, so your oko aye can look your way. #dont take me serious i jus finished drinking paraga.. lol

poster 2 you said you will loose your mind if he leaves you. have you not already lost your mind hiding under the umbrella of wah u called love, and feeding ur ex to b le boo with the information he doesn't need.. why does some ladies do that tho. it baffles me.. my dear accept your fate and let the guy waka, is you that use your hand to start what u shouldn't have started.. pele if he leaves you will get over it. we the wonderful b.v's will help u with words of wisdom to mend your broken heart.

Linda said...

Good to know

Default Smile said...

I laugh at people who talk about their past ro their present. Sisters sew your mouth na ahn ahn.....some things should go wt u to the grave yes you

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Blackberry said...

Poster two serves u right anyway.

Nwa Amaka said...

Poster 1 is obviously Fat and she I not packaging herself well. Low self esteem is another problem with her.

Poster 2 is mumu raised to power 100. Gerrout mehn!

Cynthia Iyede said...

1. Don't be too hard on yourself. Try to smile often when you're with people you know and don't know cos that attracts people to you and don't wear the face of a snub as that may chase good guys away. Dress well, smell good and just hang out once in a while. When you least expected, a good man will come. Pray for a good man and not just toasters that will stay for while and leave.


2. Well at this point, what you should do is to prepare your mind for the worse and stop showing too much affection for him. That way, he might feel there's someone else trying to take his space and rethink his decision. If he still leaves, babe be strong and move on. In your next relationship if that may be the case, only say what he wants to hear and not your past cos guys can't handle the truth though they want to know. Sorry hennn.

Martins Aboy said...

@poster one;there is A difference between:

1)Not having Any guy ask you out or ask for your number for 20 good years,and

2)when u are too young and just dont wanna fall in love yet cos of personal reasons..

If you dont have guys disturbing you at this young age for your number;then check yourself..its either:

1) you dont have A good sense of dressing(geek style)

2) you have A bad personal hygiene(body odour,mouth odour etc)

3)You cant keep A conversation for five mins with anyone

4) you have A low self esteem when u are out there

5) you are very private and A core introvert;and you are still not willing to share your space with friends...

Trust me dear;every man out there appreciates women who appear so sweet to the eye when they step out..or why do you think most ladies go to the extent of fixing nails,eyelashes,bum pad,waist-trainer(sniffs) etc..

Its simply because naturally;Men are moved with what they see..just step up A bit and dont appear too stiff when you are out there..you would definitely see men flooding around and you would even get tired of calls + stalking..

#Cheers

@MARTINS ABOY

Omalicha said...

Sweet heart, take this advise from a fellow Nigerian Canadian. Never ever say "I'm not the prettiest in the room"! Never. That statement reeks of low self esteem!!!!! Baby girl,low self esteem is not attractive. I'm 18,2nd year and I rarely get asked out by guys but that doesn't bother me one bit. Although mine is not a case of never. It more of once in a while.Besides I don't think the guys around me can handle and take care of the jewel that I'm.

Sister, why does this bother you? Besides how are these guys meant to ask you out, when you lock yourself up. Self imposed prison. Anyway, I go to Western in London and if you need someone to chat with reply under my comment. I have a ton of guy friends looking for girlfriend/wifey. I'm sure you and one them would hit it off. But please drop this your crap low self esteem attitude. Focus on yourself and making it and trust me, you won't be able to count the number of guys that would be on your case.

Besides Ottawa is Lagos, so I wonder what you mean by no Nigerians around. If you were in London or Kingston, I might understand but Ottawa? Girl, look and you shall find in abundance. Study break is next week and I'm off to Ottawa to be with about 15 Nigerians. They are not family o, just friends and trust me, I'm not that gregarious! Sister, you will definitely be fine.

raphael michael said...

Madam Stella read poster two's chronicle again (.Now he wants to break up with me and I know it's not from his mind but because I didn't tell him about the whole thing.. (I just did yesterday evening)) She cheats regularly and now the guy is asking for explanation on something she recently just did..past here means things you did before meeting the guy not things you are still doing while in the relationship

Loveme Jeje said...

Poster 1 love yourself or you go for deliverance. choose 1. You are just 20, you are crying for a man. Diseases full everywhere or you did not hear they have prophesied about strange diseases.

Poster 2... next time keep things to yourself. Una too dey fall LIKE MUMU

Olori Isis said...

Poster 1 and 2 you people don't have problem. What we read here is chronicles and not leviticus or lamentations. Thanks a lot. Bye

NWA ANAMBRA said...

Seriously it's high time girls understand that there is nothing romantic in exposing your past.
For goodness sake it's PAST.
Some girls think that's the way to gain a man's trust, LIE it's not. It only take matured men with matured mind and genuine love to over look your past.
Some men even if they stay, they still end up using it against you in the future.

Sweetheart said...

Poster 1
Awwww.I get that feeling. It's just got something to do with you. You probably aren't friendly, maybe you frown a lot and maybe, just maybe you are not approachable. You should work on yourself.

Poster 2
You sound mumu-ish

Anonymous said...

Poster one: look for a runz girl and be her friend, trust me u will be confuse on who to choose.

pax dimond said...

poster one I tink you need to check yourself very well, is possible you have attitude problem. since I was in primary sch I had alot of guys wanting to be my friend, while in secondary sch I also have them. any where i go to I had white blood for attracting people especially guys lol, pray about it also cos it could be something spiritual. you also need to change your dressing and d kind of friends you keep, all d best sweet heart.

poster two why are you crying over just one prick when you have so many millions of prick out there? get busy, channel your time and love to something more important and forget about all this small small boys, face your life pls. know your wat ladies, place a guy where he belong, set a standard for any dude and pls always learn how to zip your mouth up wit your pass. have you seen wat your good girl has done to you, I hope you learn from this one. sorry Darling.

SON OF SOLOMON said...

I think you need to shut up poster one, you love him and you cheated on him, I don't see any love between you both, only crystal thing I could is just a fling...

SON OF SOLOMON said...

I think you need to shut up poster one, you love him and you cheated on him, I don't see any love between you both, only crystal thing I could is just a fling...

Ochanya Anselm said...

End time Chronicans

Ogonna said...

Poster 1, I don't think you have a problem. From your write up you don't go out and when you attempt to, you end up indoors. You're not doing the right thing. Its not even about being fine cause although I can't see you I'm sure there are people not as fine as you are with boyfriends. Work on your personality, be more approachable, smile more often, be sociable, hang out more often, don't always wait for boys to approach you. You're even abroad,you could walk up to a guy and talk to him without anyone raising an eyebrow. Not chyke o, Lol, just talk, it's called strategic positioning. Your age is not an issue. It's all a matter of choice. I'm 21 and never had a boyfriend either, so... Just try these, I'm sure your story will change. All the best love. Its not even like having the kain boyfriend is an award or trophy. Cheers honey

Jennifer Lawrence said...

Stella no mind all dis mumu girls,confessing doesn't mk u more humble r faithful but no dem no go hear word. Them wan form good girlfriends mugu.

Nwa Amaka said...

Is.

Anonymous said...

@poster 2,u are so in love with him yet you cheated??? How does dat happen.abeg tell us the truth joor.so u tink cos u are so honest wit each oda it means u r in love???.u cnt cheat on sumone u truely love.as for ur challenge...next time kip ur mouth shut.

Anonymous said...

What's your email, please?

Anonymous said...

Love u stella... 4 months pregnant no sex for almost 3 months now.. Do not love my husband he irritates me very cute, nice and loving man... Don't know what to do. Richer than him....FROM US

xxxTrinityxxx said...

*just try

Quiksilver said...

Which of the girls are you referring to? With this your never ending epistle?

Quiksilver said...

A deeper life brother will come your way. You can't be deeper and looking out for the likes of Liam Hemsworth.

Pweety G said...

Which kind yeye advice be this one? So she should add tons of weight because she wants a guy to ask her out? I think you need help more than the poster!

Eka Joy said...

U have listed ur own reasons by urself. Read between d lines.

Ada-nne said...

Ok so poster 1, no Nigerians in Canada is that it? I no gree joor. Fix yourself u hear?

poster 2. Did u say you will do what? Over a man? Ok naa, next time, abi next relationship, no confess to any guy, they were not in your past so what the heck!

Esther said...

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Thanks to all members of Bvn. You all rock

SHE HAS BEEN NOMINATED AGAIN !!!

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Voting ends on February 26,2016.....click http://citypeopleng.com/citypeoplesma2016/ and vote for stella Dimoko korkus (click on her name and make sure you click on vote beneath. Let's do it sdk way

Thank You

stella dellavega said...

Poster2 at 25 you're still dumb..dumb dumber dumbest! I hope he leaves you tho. You cheated on him and confessed as Mary eliza..akula

Precious Nkeih said...

Poster 1, you are only 20. No need to worry. Work on yourself and at the right time, a man will come. You do not need men constantly asking you out to validate you.

Poster 2, prepare your heart for the 'worst'. If he chooses to go, let him go. You can't really make him stay if he chooses to leave. Tell yourself that you can handle it. You won't die without him. he's not the air that you breathe. preciouscore.com

Jasmine said...

Go out more. U need 2 or 3 crazy friends

Dora Cuzz said...

Had my 1st boyfriend at age 11 in jss2 ...irony of life

Seriki Abiodun said...

Reading comments

Tuscany said...

1. Lol, dont disturb yourself jor. Like you said, you arnt sociable so its normal. You went for a party but stayed inside a room so how will all the boys find u? Well you shoulf reg for a gym, you get to see alot of guys there and one might just hola. But u seem nt to want 2 date but just want attention so copy all the pins on d last s and m or post yours on ihn and u will get all the attention u want.

2. Abeg stella she said she cheated on the guy and told him...are u saying she shldnt have? Well, u shld have told him all in the 1st place. Tell hin u r sorry and would never do such again. And be ready 4 constant scrutiny till u have proven urself.


Why do u people cheat sef?

nk 4 real said...

Immature chronicles, poster 2 receive brain in Jesus name... How will you tell your guy of your past? So that he will love you more or wat? You don't know by telling him all those things you are killing his spirit, and i bet you that guy doesn't have a single love on you because if he does he wouldn't mind your past or being interested in it.

happywoman said...

It is well with both posters.

Anonymous said...

Nwa Amaka,shut that trap and tap you. Call a mouth. Always judging people wrongly with that cheap GNLD trekking job that you have feeling like you can open your gutter mouth to speak,who gave you that right? Always wanting to come out clean when you are actually a pig living in the mud. Cheap whore.

Jenny zee said...

Poster 1, try a dating site in that your Ottawa abi how u call where u dey stay? Poster2, your mouth bend for there, y do people confess to boyfriends? Is he a reverend father? Nawa o

Tonia said...

Welldone Omalicha for cheering up a good girl with low self-esteem.
Poster 1, I am married so I won't lead you astray. I can hook you up with my younger brother (young,cool, intelligent,caring) If you want a true friend/boo.

nk 4 real said...

Anonymous 15:49, wat are you trying to tell us? Y did you marry whom you don't love, did anyone force you? You wanted to marry nd put on ring.. Better try nd Start loving him ooo before you will go nd start messing your self up... This is wat happens when you rush into marriage.

chijioke enyioma said...

Thank u Raphael.. I thought I was the only one that read that.. she lied to her guy about something..probably dude got to find out she didn't tell the whole truth.. there is nothing as painful as been lied to by some one u love..the guy in d chronicle seem like some one who can forgive anything but just hurt cos he was lied to

Anonymous said...

Oh dear! Why marry a man you don't love? Living bondage. Endure him and his finance. Did someone force you into him? Let's chat dear, I'm curious and want to learn from your story.(by the way IV got 2 kids and in love with hubby) I eih same for you.

chijioke enyioma said...

I think it's best you take a time off. A lil bit of space from him. U might get to miss and appreciate him. Might be your just bored.

MOTHER NATURE........ said...

Poster two, You're not ashamed.... at this age you still dey talk boyfriend smh.

Please dump that guy for someone who is ready to make you a Mrs. somebody. If you guys like come bash me. I'm only telling her the simple truth which is bitter. What will a 25 year old woman be doing with baby boy? When your mate are using their selling point to get a serious man to walk them to the aisle.

You know see common 20 year old dey bothered about man wey never toast. You that will clock 30 soon dey cry for baby. Na you know sha... If you like don't borrow sense.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1: I started dating at 28 and married at 29. Don't force it...u are still very young...take ur time and meet the right person...
Poster 2: how many times have we been screaming forget the past in this house? Like Stella said, if he goes, he shd....next time limit ur confession...

Anonymous said...

@poster 1. Hey, i am in my 20's too. I stay in Winnipeg, you don't want to waste your time dating the guys in Canada. It's always temporarily. They will go back to Nigeria to get married than marry someone who is already in Canada. Finish school, get a job and apply for your PR if you want a PR then go home and do your youth service. You will meet someone in Nigeria if you humble yourself.

Anonymous said...

am 21 my face is alwas perfectly made up nd am beautiful wit good body. but it only d type of guys i dn't like dat talk to me imagen all dis yeye skul boys. hmmm GOD pls send me a man.

Starjoy said...

Poster 1 try to look good, dress well, put on good smile and relate well with people around you and please don't push yourself on any man, yours will locate you because you are still very young. Poster 2 I hope your next relationship you will learn how to close your mouth of your past.

POTABLE viv said...

@poster2 : you are just plain stupid.
@poster1 : boyfriend isn't 4 everyone

Anonymous said...

Lol..I'm not fat.. In a siz 8 uk

BLOGBRITY said...

@tonia
Who says married ppl don't lead ppl astray. Imo shine ya eyes oooo. Let no one pimp u

Anonymous said...

Why are we all conveniently forgetting the Ho cheated

Mystique said...

Quicksilver, LOL!!!

Anonymous said...

Stella what about me. Ehn 38 never had a boy friend. People just don't believe it. Even guys sef. People say I look taken. Taken 4 where. I don taya. Faced work now am a boss but no husband. I just taya. A close friend has advised I should go nd buy husband since I am well paid

Anonymous said...

Poster 1: Don't know if you'll take me serious seeing that you are in diaspora and all but I had the same issue.

I am really pretty and sexy and a church girl but all I got were guys that wanted to sleep with me and guys that wanted to live off me, had had only one relationship at 20.

When I got a boyfriend at 22 who dumped me after 2 months,it dawned on me that I this was the first relationship I had had since the last one when I was 17, which was 4 years before then.

I took it up in prayers and have been praying since then. Am 31 and working on marriage this year, my dear, if you feel something is wrong, it probably is, start praying about it and try to be more social and presentable.

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Both posters are not serious.Very foolish people.What did I just read?

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Don't mind poster 2.Why did you talk about your past,are you mad?As a rule,I NEVER discuss my past relationships with a new guy.No matter how he tries to make me.Infact,I automatically get turned off by a guy who is so inquisitive of my past.Is it your past,why do you want to know?

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Lmao,Booty dearie...how you doing?

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Lmao,you mean gurl...damn!!!

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Anon 15.11,can we please rest from this your unending epistles?Give a rest already.We are not interested.

Anonymous said...

@Sassy meruche fire: Say "I" am not interested. Do not be spokesperson for anyone on this blog. I am interested in that epistle.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 please email me @liyelhorsfall@gmail.com

raphael michael said...

Exactly @ chijioke its obvious she is a chronic cheat

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 you just need to interact more. I was sort of like you but I worked on my social skills. Please mix with more Nigerians. Go to a Nigerian Church, attend Nigerian parties etc. You need to find good friends first before you start talking about a man

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, Redeemed Christian Church of God is almost everywhere. Go to their Canadian website and look for a branch close to you.

aisha jane said...

Poster 2.. I'm Happy for u
Hisss

esther udy said...

poster 1. just read your story and i reason with you. i also stay in ottawa and I'm a Nigerian. Is not that easy here with guys but you can sure get what you want by putting yourself out there, dress well, wear makeup, try to open your options, try extending your interest to both white and black guys. wish you well.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, no be Ottawa. Go and study in Carleton Uni. if you're a christian, go to woodvale church, RCCG overcomer's chapel. Algonquin's study rooms are not also bad.
Go rideau mall, study at Starbucks. There's fun in Ottawa and it's also good for students.

Anonymous said...

Ha chronicle number one sounds like my friend she lives in Alberta but she is 26. Never kissed a boy and never had a bf

Anonymous said...

@poster1 u don't hv a problem. @2 u want to eat ur cake n still have it. So after opening ur legs for every dick in town, u want this innocent boy to eat the left over abi?

Teacher said...

Waist trainer (sniffs)
Bwahahahaha
Women dey try
Torturous looking devices

Anonymous said...

Wat do u mean by"never had"? Like a virgin? R u humble n can u submit urself to a man?

Kzy Brown said...

You seem to be the only one thinking with her brains functioning... You'll defending a gal that cheated on her guy. I'm quite disappointed at Stella for giving such advice, encouraging ladies to go cheat on their spouses and keep zip their mouths instead of their pussies.
Ladies... It's called the past no doubt, however, it takes a mature mind to handle a gal's past, and even a more mature Heart to be sincere with one's past...why you guys acting like honesty and sincerity are abominations? If a guy can't handle you past... Let the boy take a walk mbok

Anonymous said...

poster 1,you have nothing to worry. I'm 35,a virgin, never had a boyfriend.

Anonymous said...

I'm 35,a virgin and I have never had a boyfriend.

Unashamed Me. said...

Poster 1, I can totally relate to your situation because I am a lot like that. Always indoors with my nose in a book. Also I am very picky. Intelligence is a huge attraction for me so if I meet a guy and I feel he isn't intelligent enough for me, I won't even give him the time of day. Haha!

At a point I started to think there was something wrong with me. There was never anyone new in my life and just like you, I felt time was going by. At a point, my friends started to even complain and worry about my 'situation'. Believe me, it was bad. But then my very crazy, outgoing friend got me to join a chat network site. I basically joined for fun, but today I'm dating one of the most amazing guys ever. In hindsight, I can't believe I was ever worried.

Basically, I think you should stop worrying about it.
From my experience, something totally wonderful comes along when you least expect it.
If you're up for it, join a chat network and make friends but please, be very,very careful.
Online, there's a lot more bad and ugly than there is good.

I hope you get to see this, just saw your chronicle which is why this advice is so late. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

Lol poster 1 I school in university of manitoba, I would have asked if you wanted to meet but I have a girl friend

Tee said...

Poster 1,sweetheart don't let it bother you and also pay no attention to some mean and stupid comments here, you are young and the world is at your feet, love yourself, smile more often, try to start up conversations.

Pffft said...

Mehn, your meter go Don crash be that. Chai!

Anonymous said...

Yes. I can submit to a man

Anonymous said...

Martin aboy I dey hail. Nwaaba.

Anonymous said...

Every Saint has a past and a sinner a future.

Anonymous said...

Every Saint has a past and a sinner a future.

Anonymous said...

U didn't answer the earlier question. I want to know u more.

Anonymous said...

Some women cheat and tell but they don't tell their hubby the full truth.

Anonymous said...

Brainwashing of women continues...why do men who don't care where they put their dicks want to know what has entered your pussy, have they self-lessly told a woman how loose they are?

Anonymous said...

Anon18.06, it's enuf of u if u're d same person haggling on "she cheated", cos it's a girl now. Do men ever try not to even cheat in d first place not to talk of confessing and repenting about such? Move on already.

Anonymous said...

Anon10.51, u're d devil already pointing on her virginity. Are u a virgin and are you even worth a known prostitute sef?
Men, ever feeling like it's women who need to be checked and not themselves. Hypocrite!
38yrs old stay away from such as his like are hunting either for your virginity or vagina... AGENTS!!!