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Thursday, 11 August 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

Na wah!







 NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
MARITAL INDECISION


Hi SDK and BVs.
I'm sorry to bother you guys with my long story. (Please, ignore my errors).
My story goes thus....

I am a 25year old lady. I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend (we are so much in love with each other). But the problem is that he is not financially OK to settle down now but I'm sure he loves me so much and wants to settle down with me (he is a banker, a contract one at that). And we are so much into each other.


Now, I have this second guy coming for my hand in marriage.

 He has a construction company of his own and has enough money to marry me ASAP but i don't feel anything for this guy. I know he loves me so much with the way he acts around me (I believe because he always says he likes fair girls and has always been unlucky finding one, also says he likes my family background). 


I know he loves me so much and he has really helped me financially. He is very caring and even acts like I'm already his wife sometimes, lol.

He has always asked me when I'll let him see my parents to make his intentions known to them but i always pretend i didn't hear him. He has even said he must get married by the end of this year because he is not getting any younger and he happens to be the only son of his parents. He is a polytechnic graduate while i am a university graduate and my boyfriend is a university graduate as well.


He is not so fine, he doesn't really speak well, and to crown it all; the part he comes from is somewhere we used to laugh at people who come from. To think I'll marry someone from there is really creepy (they have this stigma of eating human flesh in the past). He even has a very troublesome ex girlfriend who he says could fight me any where if she sees us together because the girl has sworn he must marry her and that makes me sick whenever he says that because i don't like fighting.


Now, the main problem is that someone is seriously asking for my younger sister's hand in marriage and they are planning on getting married by the end of the year. I don't know how the society would look at me seeing that my younger sister is getting married before me, I don't even know when my boyfriend would be ready to settle down.


I've asked her to wait for us to finish our NYSC before they continue their wedding plans (oh yes, I'm serving with my younger sister right now)....she agreed but changed her mind after we had a little quarrel because she knows I'm a bit insecure about that and wants to get back at me with that.


Should I proceed with the second guy so my younger sister wouldn't get married before me or should I wait for my boyfriend to settle down financially because he is the one I truly love?


Plus, I'll have to avoid the ex girlfriend drama because I'm not in for fights and I'm not strong in prayers in case she goes diabolical towards me and the second guy and i wouldn't want to lose my boyfriend and I'm even scared of breaking his heart because he has had a fair share of heart breaks in the past (I'm even one of them, we dated before and parted but love still brought us together, lol).

Please, fellow BVs, I really need your advice because I am so confused right now.

Stella, please your red pen is so important right now. Thanks and God bless y'all for your contributions.






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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
A MARRIAGE FULL OF REGRETS.


I must confess you are doing great job.please I need advice from Stella and bvns

I got married 5 years ago and since then life has been unfair to me. hubby and I didn't date ,we were introduced to each other through his niece.
I never had any feelings for him because I was forced to marry at early age (I started having suitors when I was in Jss 1).

All my mother wanted was for her kids to get married early.  she pushed my elder sister to marry at the age of 14 which resulted in her aborting 4 kids. Thank God she is married now to her own man with 3 kids.
 I love my mum still....

After our introduction,I was asked to follow him to know where he is living that was when he started beating me in any slitted mistake, I was 18 and he was 11 years older than me then. He promised to send me to school which he never did.
We have no issue, I had 3 miscarriage in the past.
He  blames me for everything .

He comes home late at night everyday and I don't ask him where he is coming from..... If I asked he will beat me or calls me names....he always reminds me that all his mates have given birth to 2 or 3 kids.
He abuses me physical and Emotionally ....I live like a stranger with him...
He doesn't tell me anything.... We are living with his 2 brothers and he asked another one to come without informing me.

I cook every morning before going to my small job by 7:30am which my salary is 7k per month,I am not a saint but I try to make things work. I have never told anyone that he abuses me.

I told him that I will be traveling today to my parents house to stay for 3 weeks,he gave me 10k and told me that I will regret it.

My transport is up to 7k ,we live in North and am the from East. I only want to have some peace ...

Did I make the wrong discussion or should I stay?

I want to leave the marriage but am Afraid that I may remain single.
My pictures are for your eyes only Stella.




Oh God, you are just 23!!!
You know what?If you feel like going to your parents 
for a while to clear your head,its okay,please go and when you get there,tell them everything.Since they forced you to marry,they need to know
what their actions have caused.
I dont know what he means by you will regret it but if the atmosphere is not conducive then a break is necessary.

If you choose to stay,its your decision,if you choose to leave for a while,it is also your decision.
Why are you scared of being single when you are living
 a nightmare being married.
The abuse part just made me so angry,a man can choose to be a nightmare of husband but he has no right beating anyone!
I feel really sad cos you look so young and beautiful..
WHAT A PITY and your English is so bad,i had to edit.
You need to go back to school my dear or you will never find a good job!
7k?what kind of life is that?

AH GOD!!!


172 comments:

Joblesshousewife said...

Hmmm

Joblesshousewife

ukwu dimond said...

THURSDAY CHRONICLES,,,,,

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

Poster1, you must really be obsessed with suffering
Bankers that are stingy?

See when there is money,there is love baby girl.
Marry the second guy cause that banker na one chance.

Posters2, married yet frustrated
Afraid you will remain single? Like being single is a curse? Gosh!

chidinma ujo said...

@poster 1: You are so insecure and don't even know what you want, so is creepy marrying someone from Ngwaland my home, you aren't ready for marriage dey there your sisters go all marry before you.... And remove jealousy from your life, you are a jealous person! You know is a stigma from the past and yet you are making it look like a condition for marriage.


Ehhe lemme go and read about poster 2.

salt E said...

Poster 2: u r the cause of ur own problem.U r afraid u will remain single at 23? What is wrong with girls these days? When some women with three kids see men to marry them n u without a kid is already living in self pity? Pls, stay in that ur parents home as long as possible cos the day he kills u, he will not even tell ur parents sorry.

Poster 1: who says ur younger sister marrying bfor u will make society talk? Ehen, let them talk they have their mouth.With this ur hurry hurry u will soon goan marry a man that will end up cooking and eating u in marriage.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Poster one,
What is wrong with you?...
Who fine boy epp?...
Who not speaking well epp?...
Who being a graduate epp in Nigeria today?...
I can go on and on with those rubbish you wrote up there!...
See a correct rich man that wants to marry you and you are doing what I don't know...
You think that your brokeass boyfriend will marry you?...he is caring and all that because he has nothing to offer!...
If you miss this ngwa guy,I swear,you will regret it!...

Poster 2,
You earn 7k?...
What is that for?...adonbilivit!...
Biko leave that marriage!...infact,if you travel to the east,don't go back to him again!...
Move on!...
That guy is not your husband!!...

white Berry said...

Your chronicle sounds so funny and at same time very childish. Please wait in short because I think you don't even know the meaning of marriage.
Poster 2 please stick to stella's advice.

amanda favour said...

Poster 1
Let Linda advice you

Poster 2
Na wah!!!
biko go home to your parents and start life afresh
Thank GOD no kids are involved

Anonymous said...

25 and 23...no words for them. Where re they rushing to? "He who goes before his mates will find spirits on the way"

chidinma ujo said...

@poster 1: You are so insecure
and don't even know what you
want, so is creepy marrying
someone from Ngwaland my home,
you aren't ready for marriage
dey there your sisters go all
marry before you.... And remove
jealousy from your life, you are
a jealous person! You know is a
stigma from the past and yet you
are making it look like a condition for marriage..

Ehhhe lemme go and read about poster 2

Loveme Jeje said...

The queen will tell you not to marry OWUTE (BROKE ASS). Your sister destiny is not tied to your own destiny. What is wrong if your younger sister get married before you. Why will her own stop yours. YOU are looking for trouble where there is none.
If you love your brokeass boyfriend and you believe in him, Pray for HIM THAT GOD opens his ways so that both can be married, if not go for the RICH GUY.

poster 2... kindly leave that marraige for sometime. clear your head. Wetin una dey use N7,000 monthly they do? Na wa ooo. Which kind work be N7,000. I dont want to imagine the way you will be looking. Go back to your PARENTS. Take your 2 children with you as your Mama push you marry, go and give her the children to take care of while you think of what to do next.

ukwu dimond said...

poster one what is your problem here if you cannot wait for your contract banker bf to get money why don't you follow your old man second option bf? i hope you are not in competition with your younger sister? allow your younger sister to get married when she want to marry, do not rush and say yes cos you want to break record to your friends and family "i got married first before my younger sister".

if you can stand by your bank contract bf to build your wealth together, think of how to get a better job after service to assist your bf, what do you have to bring to the table if you get married to your big bf today? hope he will not be controlling you once you both get married, if you love a person stand by them and fight. Marry a man that can grow money and forget about already made men that one day their wealth will just waka.

School Life said...

P1, you wan use eye service finish your destiny... 'Kontinew'

P2. @23 you are already in this deep mess.
Leave that old woman beater of a husband n start life afresh if you can....

God help us.

BLUNT said...

The first poster is a typical local Anambra girl. Everything about them has to do with money. And you have the guts to even make snide remarks on another part of your tribe "they eat human flesh". We all know where you are coming from, and that's why your Biafra will never come to fruition because your disgusting Anambra people will still constitute nuisance to us. Poor girl. Why not make your own money? And for the records, this is to all the non-Igbos here, all the girls denigrating other tribes here are Anambra girls. Most of the crimes people accuse Igbos of are committed by these people. They do anything for money. They dragged us into a needless civil war in 1967. They look down on even other Igbos. The funny thing is that they're mostly illiterates. They're the ones spelling "knees" as "kneels" here. Mark them please. Leave out other Igbos.

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BECKY'S DIARY said...

1) Don't rush because of shame your junior is getting married before you. Just wait and get to know this second guy well before rushing into anything!

But one thing i do know is, no matter the kind of love you and that your banker bf have for each other, it will not put food on your table o. Love will not pay for house rent, school fees, hospital bills, gwogwotigwo when you guys get married! The way that love go take disappear ehn.. hmmmm shine ya eyes well oo

As for his ex-girlfriend, the lord is your shield and buckler, you shall fear no arrow that fliet by day or witches that hunt in the night! Nor fear her joor, she lost the man , you won him fair nd square. Shikena looool

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

@1, what guarantee do u ve dat ur so called broke ass boy friend will marry u when he's financially buoyant, broke guys can love for Africa, u are on ur own.
@2, u better end this ur hopeless marriage sharp sharp, dat husband of urs will kill u soon mark my word, u will remember this advice in ur grave.

STARRY LARRY said...

@Poster 1, please read Poster 2's chronicle so that you will know that it's bad to marry someone you don't love.
Also, a man's love can be tested when he have everything, that your now bf loves you doesn't mean he won't change when he have money. But honestly, you need to pray about it and let God direct your steps. But never marry out of frustration and because of what people will say, simply because your younger sister is getting married before you. Marriage is for life time that you can't afford to rush in and rush out as well.

@Poster 2, let your mum knows what you're passing through and never belief you won't find single to marry @just 23. Dress smart and be happy, potenial suitors will come, but for your hubby, it's left for you to know maybe divorce is next on your agenda




*Larry was here*

chidinma ujo said...

@poster 2: Nne go and if possible don't return again and ask your parents if they want to come ask carry your corpse if the say no then tell them you ain't going back

Anonymous said...

boo jst popped d question after 6 yrs.... Stella m super excited

Blackberry said...

Poster two ur sis n you married muslims? Cos ur story about early marriage is synonymous to d north! U r 23, u might just jam another man, never say never!

stunning slim shady said...

As usual chronicles don land.....

Blackberry said...

Poster one u r in competition with ur younger sister? Ok naa! Marry and goodluck..as u r rushing in, better stay in, wjo knows, he might just be ur knight in rusty armour.

Martins Aboy said...

@poster one,marry cos you have found the right one..if you make the mistake of choosing the "wrong person" simply because of "what society will say" or because you dont want your younger sis getting married before you;you might have yourself to blame on the long-run when you find out the consequences of your action..

If personally you see A future with your "hustling Boyfriend" who is still coming up;Good!! But if on the other hand you want an already made man;fine!!

But whatever choices you make;always remember that the only constant thing in life is CHANGE!!

Choose wisely!!

@MARTINS ABOY

ukwu dimond said...

poster two please travel back home to spend some time with your parents and explain things to them, give your husband some space, clear your head. I cannot tell you to end the marriage, i cannot tell you to stay put, make up your mind on what you want. 22 or 23 years you will get plenty men to marry you, you can still go back to school, you can still make it big in life.

All the best dear.

BECKY'S DIARY said...

2) Sorry for all you've been through my dear, may God heal you of all physical and emotional wounds you have.

As you are already nurturing the thought of leaving now, please make suee you go through with it. You don't have to be afraid of anything... anything at all!

Thank God you're not an orphan, go home and tell them all you've been passing through in the name of marriage. I'm sure they'll never ask you or push you to go back to that animal.
Thank God you don't have a baby with that asshole, now you are free to pursue your education and make something meaningful of your life. Forget what the bastard may think or say about you

Even if he has called you useless or a failure, forget all those words and forge ahead. Forget about men in general and focus on You for a change.

Your main goal in this life once you leave him is to get educated and independent, then sit and watch the bastard come crawling back to you. On his knees begging for forgiveness! If you believe it, so shall it be for you!! It's well my dear

PLATINUM said...

I knw the second poster, i havent met her in person though bt we spoke on fone last year, if ur reading this im sorry i hvnt called u all this while, i lost ur number dear, biko, if u cn send it to me again i promise to call. I met her last year through her comments and i called her she told me everytin, i even asked her to leave bt she said she didnt hv anything n her parents were poor.
Nne, if ur reading this biko go bck home ok? Start ur life afresh, igba ni go. Ur nt the cause of the childlessness, please go n clear ur head. Im sorry darlyn.
Poster one. Poster one the worst thing that can happen to u is if u marry someone u dnt hv any feelings for. Marriage is hard on its own, now being with a man u feel notin for is pure torture bcos everytin he does will irritate the fuck outa u. And on the other hand, how r u sure ur bf the one u love will eventually wife u, how long are u willing to wait, are u sure u will nt regret waiting. The choice is on u dear.

Hope ur nt tlking abt an okija guy lol.

Adanne said...

Poster one kitikpo racha gi anya...you dare you have the nerves to be tribalistic with your 'University certificate' yet have impunity to ask for advice.

People like you are those who eat their own vomit. Your second suitor is from 'ngwa' and you won't marry him for that reason but your broke as dude is from where?

Btw, does your bf knows that you are cheating on him with a richer 'Ngwa' guy? No I guess, plus is are so desperate that you have become insecure, tueh!

I know you will marry the 'not good looking human eater before before guy', just to measure up with your sister, so run along and quit being uneducated lil girl.

DB Malumi said...

It is Well....
Some stories you wont even no how to respond to them.
Poster One, your thoughts should be 10 years from now after getting married who will i be happy and comfortable with?
Poster two: dont you have family? Uncles, Brothers you can confined in? Staying in a marriage with no happiness in Nigeria now is not healthy.
Please let someone no about whats going on.

Adanne said...

Poster 2, you are too young to suffer, life is hard already. Please tell you family everything so that will have support when the real quarrel starts because it will happen.
You can't be reading this blog and still be a victim of domestic violence and still live with him, he can't even take care of you. Please borrow some sense.

BLOGBRITY ON SDK said...

Poster 1
Pray and hope for the best... Leave that contractor guy.

Poster2

Pray and leave that sham of a marriage

Loveme Jeje said...

Congrats anon 15:14. invite us ooo

Atheist. said...
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Atheist. said...

Zack Aniso Ere
Game of Thrones fans that looked forward to my daily quotes in chronicles, sad to say i spoke to Stella lastnight & she made it clear that she'd be pulling the plug on it, apparently we were going against blog rules, it was nice to know I & Cissy went thru 6 seasons uninterrupted.
I raise my Beyonces hands up for the original script writers of Game of Thrones, George R.R Martin & D.B weiss, awesome storyline since sliced bread, thanx.
Lets all wait till April 2017 for the official release of Season 7.

ZIONA said...

poster one u reek of insecurities i can smell it from my computer,u just want to ,marry cause u don't want ur lil sis to marry before u,forgetting that everyone has his/her own destiny.please stop being childish and think properly about what u really want,all i hear is a wining baby.lol at 'i'm not strong in prayers'.

poster 2,awwwww.when will parents stop selling their kids to monsters,if u cant take of of the child why give birth and allow an innocent child suffer.please leave that horrible hubby of urs and go to ur family,u can still start over 23 is still very very young to do everything u can ever dream of.

reading poster 2's chronicles i was already going to say she writes pretty well for someone who did not finish school,please like Stella said u should try and go back to school ,i know u can do it,don't let anyone discourage u and say u are to old.

Precious Nkeih said...

Poster number 1, who to marry could be such a tough decision to make. However, you must be very careful and prayerful. You are citing the wrong reason to want to marry the second guy.
Like you don't want your younger sister to get married before you. It doesn't matter if she does. Marriage is not a race. Please quit thinking what people will say and look within you. Does this guy love you? Can you love him back? If you were in a relationship with him before then you probably felt something for him. Love can be learned. If he eventually gets poor, will you still be able to stick with him? Though a man needs to be able to earn his bread, don't be driven by the love of money. Are you two compatible? (Can two work together unless they agree?)

The guy you are in love with, does he have plans to marry you? You have to be sure so you know he is not wahiling time with you. Also, will he stick with you if he hits it big? As a contract banker, doesn't he have some form of income coming in? Or it isn't enough.

Marriage is not a holiday. It's for a lifetime. So take time and choose someone who loves God, who is mature and serious, who loves and respects you and you can do life with. Love alone is not enough. All the best, dear.

How my father raped me

Empress CHO said...

Poster 1: Girlie, you have major issues.....jeez.

The boyfriend you love so much has not a steady job and is not ready for marriage soon. You rub off as a superficial person, so it's easy to say, you don't even have a concrete reason for being into your boyfriend....i'm sure of it.

The second guy coming for you would have been cool but the heavy flags raised. Not just coz of your feelings, fact is, Your feelings for him are inconsequential here, i don't see you as an emotionally intelligent person anyway.
The red flags here are his need for a trophy wife, a yellow abi light skinned gal and, that timelime he placed to marry this year. Then a psycho ex in the picture?

Then you are on a marital race with your younger sister, who the hell are you? Then you wonder what society thinks. In all of the rubbish you wrote, you haven't figured that you are the biggest problem here.
You are damn slow and frankly, you are on a straight road to self-destruction. You need to step on them brakes on marriage and grow first. You are 25, your brain needs to play catch up.

You are pretty manipulative too, you know you coined your story in a manner to sidetrack commenters to advise you to either:
1.Stick with your boyfriend who you love, wait for him to grow, run a small wedding package, be a mermaid till he commits, marry for love, grab him before you turn gwegz and be careful of your sis.
Or
2.Brush up the second guy, forget love, marry comfort and someone who loves you more than you love him, grab him sharp before you turn gwegz and knack pigeon on his psycho ex.
I hope others see through your bullshit!

The head and tail of your story is not because you are spoilt for choice between two non-viable options by the way...
Your concern about society and your need to marry now is because you are a competitive person. No boundaries on yours, your sister is who you've got to beat. In your heart, you know these guys are not good options for you. But your pettiness,immaturity and spirit of discontentment has brought you here. Go get help. If you are christian, get closer to God and ask for contentment and wisdom. If you need the help of science, talk to a psychiatrist. If you go on like this, you will live a life of ugly chronicles.
By the way, your sister needs to send in her own chronicle, if she actually moved up a wedding to get at you....she needs help too.

Poster 2:Pls leave and work to never come back. Thankfully you are still young, it's not late for you and there are no kids involved. Go acquire a skill or further your education. Do not live in fear,nothing will happen to you.

Rededicate your life to God and ask for his direction. Allow no one pressure you back. You have been through enough,now leave and live like a survivor you truly are! God bless you.

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

Poster 1 love isn't enough in marriage, when there is no money and you hunger and starve you will forget you ever live him.tho I understand marriage shouldnt be bout money but I would rather cry in Dubai under a fully air conditioned room than be caught crying in Ibadan under the sun. Good thing the second man loves you, you can start from there. Get to know him,you might be surprise.

Poster2 bikonu leave that man before he kills you, you are still young, go back to school or learn a trade,find something to do with yourself. Some parent are really useless sha. Who puts his/ her child tru this sort of pain.

Precious Nkeih said...

Poster 1, let me add that you will not have to be fighting the guy's ex-girlfriend. FIGHTING ANOTHER GIRL FOR A MAN IS UNATTRACTIVE.

Olori Osokoya said...

To the NYSC bae seems you don't really know what you want like the yoruba will say ojukokoro lon ba e ja, the fact dat ur younger sis is getting married doesn't mean u should rush yourself too If truly u love you banker bf contract or no contract stick to him..don't marry who u don't love cos of money.
To the 23yrs old bae pls leave that marriage that guy is coward... Change your environment don't even go back to your parent I pray God will lead you through

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

But I thought eating of human being by Ngwa people is a myth?

DVICTORIOUS EHIS said...

Poster1,stay wt ur real guy(contract banker) don't mind wat pple would say if ur younger sis marries b4u.also,problems of ex coming back to hurt d present bad/boo isn't something u hv to experience

Poster2,use this opportunity to RUN,RUN,RUN and RUN
Never go back except u love him too well,and u do not care abt giving a better meaning to ur life
At least no kids yet so u hv greater opportunity to leave.

Adanne said...

You*

Precious Nkeih said...

Poster 2. speak up!
Silence is golden but when it comes to domestic violence, it is not.
DO NOT FEAR. You will be okay.

How my father raped me

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Poster one y are you competing with your sister? So she she should wait for you to msrry first just cos you are older? I pity you. Anyways you have someone rich who wants marry you. Y are you wasting time? Love will grow after you marry him. Or you want to suffer Abi?
Poster two you see why I advised poster 1 to marry the rich man. Your mother married you guys out early probably out of poverty. She felt her in-laws will be helping her. I feel sorry for you. Leave that marriage now you have age on your side still

Anonymous said...

Congrats honey,hasten up with the wedding plans so you won't be a key holder.

Adanne said...

How*
You*

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Don't mind poster one. She saw a rich guy that wants to marry her. Someone that can cater for her well and shes talking about polytecnic graduate. She wants to be drinking garri when she marries the first guy.

Brown Sucre said...

Poster 1-with all you have narrated,you need JESUS in your life,ASAP.
Only you-2 men,yet,you can't decipher which is which.
You love one and hate one,but love the money from Mr hate.
You are competing with your younger sister.
Too much drama,you are too young to get married,marriage is not about money,and love,or skin color,its about God being the 3rd cord in your union.
Have you asked God yourself?
Poster 2- please leave the marriage .if you go back there,you might not be alive to write to stella again.
Please leave now,thank God there is no baby between you two.

Everly Rockin' said...

@Poster 1- u need to grow up mentally first before u delve into marriage. I will advice that u leave both boyfriend 1 and boyfriend 2 and focus on developing your psyche and self esteem first.
@Poster 2- u better leave that he'll u call mrg. Tell ur parents everu single thing u ve going thru and don't go back no matter what they say. U will survive. And u will see a good man that will marry u.

Oyanu Enenche said...

Chronicler2: I feel very sorry reading your chronicle but like you said what are you doing if he abuse you daily? Do you want him to kill you before you take to your heels? Am against unnecessary divorce but if it involves hitting,beating and all, then one day your physical body might no longer cope. Decision is in your hands in that. Okay like Stella said your English is bad shows you need to return back to school. I can understand your fear of not leaving that marriage. At 23 you're a very young girl. You could choose to go back to school and upgrade yourself, speak to your parents and relatives, and try add value to your life. Until you start the process to help yourself, help wouldn't come. Am not advising you to leave your marriage but if you're experiencing DV like you said then you have to act. All the best.

Oyanu Enenche said...

Chronicler2: I feel very sorry reading your chronicle but like you said what are you doing if he abuse you daily? Do you want him to kill you before you take to your heels? Am against unnecessary divorce but if it involves hitting,beating and all, then one day your physical body might no longer cope. Decision is in your hands in that. Okay like Stella said your English is bad shows you need to return back to school. I can understand your fear of not leaving that marriage. At 23 you're a very young girl. You could choose to go back to school and upgrade yourself, speak to your parents and relatives, and try add value to your life. Until you start the process to help yourself, help wouldn't come. Am not advising you to leave your marriage but if you're experiencing DV like you said then you have to act. All the best.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1- I think u r still childish in your mind with d way u narrated your story. Life is not a race. My younger ones are getting married before me it does not mean I won't marry 2mao. Also if u keep listening to what people say, u won't go far in life. At 25 u r panicking wetin people we don pass 30 go do. Babes abeg cool down and look very well before you leap cos na u go suffer d heat if d marriage goes south.

Posted 2- I really feel sorry for you dear and I know you are psychologically distorted by your husband's barbaric actions. Pls don't feel bad that you are taking out time to think and heal up. Your husband is just emotionally blackmailing you. Pls open up to your parents and If u know u can't cope with d torture anymore. Pls kindly divorce him. N.a. who dey life they talk about 2mao. And don't think if u leave him you won't find another man . You may just be surprised d angel God would send your way, that would help u heal up and forget your former husband so quickly. It is well.

Both posters I wish u listen to your instincts cos they never lie.

Anonymous said...

Poster one, marry the rich man. Men are bastards. After suffering with them, when things becomes perfect they start cheating.
Poverty na bastard learn from poster 2.
Then poster 2, leave that silly marriage o

Mrs. Romas said...

Poster 2, please you are so too young to be passing through what you just wrote and explained here. I am very upset right now! How can your parents allow you get married at a very tendered age to a beast of a man.

Please, take that money find somewhere to go and do not go back to the dungeon. Don't you have brothers? Report him to them; and let them teach him the lesson of his miserable life. Tell your family and please don't go back to him.
You are still full of life, don't allow anyone cut it short for you! May God see you through and shine His face upon you.


Poster 1, You are not ready to settle with a man you don't love nor intend to love! Don't force yourself because your younger sister is getting married.
That guy likes you because you are fair? Hello!
There is time for everyone, it is not written that you must get married before your younger ones.
And stop cheating on your boyfriend. People like you are among the women who castigate men with the slightest opportunity.

Miss Ferragamo said...

Poster1,just a quick question, what part of the bible says older siblings must Marry before the younger ones?

DonMayor said...

Okay. Good to know.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Did an anambra girl dump you cos of money? That's if you are a guy. I don't know about them being illiterates but their men are the richest among igbo men so they r def doing something right. At least they have the brains to make money. And their girls have the beauty to make them spend the money lol

Anonymous said...

Who told u when there is money there is love..... Mumu, u think money can buy happiness or love abi??

Anonymous said...

Poster 1...I'll advise you also pay the brideprice of the man marrying you since you're so stupid that you require someone to tell you to clean your ass after using the toilet

Poster 2...go back home and have a heart-to-heart discussion with your folks, you have LIFE ahead of you to be squished like this at this young age. Meanwhile SDK, If you edited the 2nd chronicle with this level of grammatical errors in it, you need to go back to school with this girl you're advising to do the same

JOYOUS said...

poster one, i understand your condition....please marry only out of love not because of money or cos of what people will say...money can disappear one day and evry thing the man does will start iritating you but love conquers all things....also if you r going for ur banker bf make sure he commits himself by going for introduction with the little money he has (if he loves you and what to keep you he will sacrifice) or make sure he's ready to wife you cos men this days are not to be trusted they can change anytime and dump you...so choose wisely...

Ebere Cnae said...

@ Blunt Which Anambra indigene broke your heart kwanu?? And do you know that all your hate is not hurting a single anambrarian? Free your self, that is too much anger for one person to be carrying around. According to a JAMB statistics, Imo, Delta, Anambra and Edo are the most educationally inclined states in Nigeria. If you are going to be alleging illiteracy better be doing so with your facts otherwise you'll come across as quite illetrate yourself. As for the poster, she has her own issues, insecurity, jealousy, vanity and plain ignorance. Let's not deviate from that. Have a nice day and remember to breathe.

Florence Huttons said...

Poster one, at ur age u let insecurity nd envy rule ur life means ur headed for destruction coz na here I go dey u'll surely send in a second chronicle..

Poster two.. So u'll rather die a married woman than live single? nawaoooooo anyway ur still young nd marriage shouldn't be ur priority now but to go to school, while at ur place try to get a job as u enrol for a diploma program.. But never u make the mistake of going back to ur horseband ur future is bright!

Anonymous said...

POSTER 1 : i dont think there is anything wrong in your sister getting married bf u, am in the same situation as u are. u need to be happy for your sister or else u will be bitter and bitterness can make u make mistake u will regret for the rest of your life .

Anonymous said...

Which 2 children? Kai una funny ooo

Anonymous said...

Tribalistic with university certificate? WTF! Biko ask for refund from your English teacher. You can't be tribalistic with a certificate, you can only discriminate

chenygirl said...

Poster number 1,Please marry the rich man,so that when you do,theex girl friend will kill you,then the people that your afraid of what they will say,will attend your burial.NB.
I was a contract staff,earning less that 61k.today have been converted to a full staff dear and i earn as high as 200k.in leaas than 6months of conversion,i managed my self very well as nwa azuru ofuma and saved 700k,that is aside family expenses.am yet to be married,but the bobo that called me a laibility and left me when i was on contract,is now sacked and he has been dying to be with me but dear levels have changed.and am still waiting for my edu allawi,and other allawi that will soon drop.The future is pregnant Dont under estimate a low incoe earner who loves you.anyhting can happen,any moment.learn from me!.GBADO ANYA!#makeifacemywork#

Anonymous said...

Blunt don vex.

Anonymous said...

At last... wishing you all the best anon 15:14. Hope you are praying ooo.

Anonymous said...

Martins I wish you were older, as a woman I never do am before, but I for toast you.

Anonymous said...

Is it the weather or there's a bad grammar bug biting people on SDK? Met her through her comment? Nne please I want to meet you through your own comment, I'm sure it would be an experience

Anonymous said...

Lwkmd...Are you from Ngwa or Abakaliki? This one surely struck a nerve for you to be this aggressive...abeg calm down before you die oh

Anonymous said...

And money you think will make her love the other guy over time? And if he gets broke again, the so called money induced love would vanish nd she moves on to the next rich guy??? Hmmm! I wonder what you'll tell ur bro if you notice his gf loves him just because he has money.

Anonymous said...

I don't understand people these days. Marriage is no joke. In marriage, you plan to spend the rest of your life with your partner. You are planning to leave the one you know and love for someone with money, thats got a troublesome ex and you are not even strong in prayers. Lol. All this hurry because you dont want your younger sister married before you? So what if she does? How does that determine the success of your marriage? There is more to marriage than just the wedding day. Stop taking marriage like child's play. People see problem and walk into it with their two left legs... You have already made your choice. Good luck to you! Pardon any error

Anonymous said...

No children yet, it's 3 miscarriage

Cindy Cakes and Events Lagos. 07066639660 said...

Is it d same chronicles I read you are talking about? 2 children? hian!
poster 1. ur bf may not marry you after he makes it and ur rich bobo may not treat u well after he marries you, that's life. whatever decision u take, be ready for whatever follows it. Abi no be Linda talk am here say marriage be like bale of okrika.
poster 2. go back to ur parents and always learn to speak out when in an abusive relationship. u are still very young and I pray love finds you.
parents pls stop living ur children's lives for them, u have lived urs,allow them live theirs.

Anonymous said...

Bankers are stingy abi? Make your own money & quit being a liability, become an asset! I'm also sure you think adding "gosh!" makes you sound like an ajebutta, abi? We smelt your localness a while ago, you can't fool or impress...just wallow in your misery

Mao Akuh said...

My thought too. The guy is Ngwa boy I guess so.

Otaswifey said...

So you believe he loves you because this (I believe because he always says he likes fair girls and has always been unlucky finding one, also says he likes my family background), you are dumb. You sense of reason is so barbaric
University graduate indeed

God help you

Anonymous said...

Your bitterness is on another level. I am sending a truckload of honey your way.

Anonymous said...

No children yet, it's 3 miscarriage

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 she is the thatwho can advice you
Birds of feathers
Eeeeeebo mentality

Rubbish

Mao Akuh said...

1. That guy needs to address and settle whatever scores he had with his ex. Pray about it and if your heart didn't move, my dear leave him but don't put hope on your boyfriend because there's no guarantee that he will definitely marry you. Is there any law that forbids younger ones from getting married first? Trust and believe that God will give you a man that will make you love God more.

2. Tell your parents everything and pray to God for forgiveness. In the midst of suffering, God's children deserve to be cheerful.

Anonymous said...

1 Poster: You're a fool....didn't bother reading all ur post. First of all, you're just 25yrs old so why the rush?? secondly, wat's u don't knw how the Society would look at u if ur younger sister gets married before u? you Need a serious slap to reset ur mindset for dat crap. Are u the one to live with him or the Society? would the Society be there when you start regretting ur marriage to him? PLEASE STAY WITH THE FIRST GUY AND STOP BEING IN A HURRY....

Yummy chick cum mummy said...

I can't believe I concur to this. Queen,u must b in a good mood o. D 2 posters pls read re read this advice...she has said it.

Yummy chick cum mummy said...

Lmao

Cissy said...

Stella, worrisit?

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, so many irrelevant things are the things you are taking so seriously..sister shouldn't marry before u, wt would people say, he comes frm a flesh eating town, this, that. U don't evn have a job o, and you want to get married. I am tired of telling young girls to get a job first and have some savings before diving into marriage, so at least you can hold your own. When you have don that, we can then talk abt marriage.
Poster 2: you are not in a marriage, you are in a situation. Just leave and pick the pieces of your life all over again. Some parents are something else.

Anonymous said...

Poster1
Pls wake up and grow up.deep down in your heart you know what u want to do.
Poster 2
You need to go n check your Rhesus factor to be sure.you might be having recurrent abortions (miscarriages) as a result of being rhesus -ve n being married to a rhesus +ve man .which happens if u don't dictate on time n take anti-D after emptying d content of the uterus be it delivery at term or miscarriage.

PinKy berRy said...

Poster 1 which exactly is ur problem? Marrying later than ur kid sis or marrying someone u don't love?

Vivian Caius said...

Congrats dear

IJAY said...

Poster 2, don't regret ur decision I seriously think u need a break from him, abusive marriage na na na.Poster 1, are going for competition with ur sis na na na use ur brain biko

Anonymous said...

Chidinma don't mind her. She knew the guy was from Ngwa from the very beginning yet she still went ahead to date him and from her mail it's very obvious the HND guy with bad grammar, ugly face and shameful village is taking care of her.Long throat child, keep deceiving yourself you hear. You don't like his place but you love his money. Please go and marry your university bobo with perfect grammar and fine face. Whenever hunger comes,stare at his fine face and Bsc certificate for 10 minutes without blinging, hunger will disappear. Onye oshi

kinky with a golden pen said...

Poster two.... Maybe he plans to bring in another woman while ur gone.... And at 23 you've already had 3 miscarriages and ve started suffering in marriage!! Stella also said your English is bad. Only you!!! Just go to your parents as u already planned and pray he marries anoda woman while u re gone, take it as luck on your side, u don divorce naim be that.

Anonymous said...

Blunt..u are da bomb!! Anambra empty barrel noisemakers, who brag about their drug dealing illiterate ritualist ppl. Very annoying and uncouth humans.I have never seen a group as insecure as them. They abuse other tribes, their fellow igbos and brag about what they are not, fortunately/unfortunately other igbos have no time for their rubbish or to reply them. I put it to you that the richest igbos are found in Abia state, but they do not make noise at all and noone cares. Imo ppl have money too and they are probably the most educated igbos. If u notice illiteracy goes hand in hand with unnecessary noise and show off and stupid bragging. Many ppl are living their quiet rich lives without noise.dangote, bill gates and co dont need to start spraying money or disturbing our ears. Biafra is really a mirage

T-bae said...

Poster 1. Read poster 2.'s narrative and advice yourself from there

I LOVE THE GENERAL'S WIFE said...

You sound like someone who was dumped by her Anambra boyfriend because of how uncouth you are. Pele....

stunning slim shady said...

Poster one so bcos u want ur younger sister"s life to come toba haltbbcos ur boyfriend isnt ready to marry u. U must b nuts to start with, are u d 1st person whose younger sistervwud marry bfr her. Pls stick to ur boyfriend n stop being greedy n insecure. Stop constituting an emotional nuisance(by leading him on)to d 2nd guy afteral u ain't proud of him. Let d Abriba guy b, shikena.

Older Men Till I Die said...

@blackberry biko we muslims dont do intruduction and secondly didnt you read the "After the introduction I was sent to liv with him"??our women dont go and liv with their husbnds before marriage.

stunning slim shady said...

Poster 2: its well wt u, woteva give u peace pls do it.

No man has d right of depriving to peace Christ has given freely to mankind.

Dominion said...

Poster one, happiness is key in marriage. We may advise you all we want, but you are the one who will be in the marriage, not even your sister with whom you are in an unhealthy competition. If you are sure your boyfriend will make you happy, then stick with him, if not, then take a walk. Always think about what gives you joy before thinking of what people will say. And as for your competition with your sister, God has a different time plan for both of you, so don't make a mistake because you want to marry before your sister.
Poster two, you are too young to be suffering like this.

Omah Cindy said...

Atuo inu nkirika nkata... (complete the rest). Poster did not mention anybtown but since you feel she is talking about Ngwa people lemme tell you that there is nothing like stigma from the past. Ngwa people still eat humans.
Just because she doesn't want to marry from human eating people you had to curse her that her sister will all marry before her. Are you God? Instead of you to campaign against the evil practice of your people, you are here cursing someone you don't even know.

Bubble gum said...

Poster 1- so archaic. Return back to the 17th century where you belong.

Poster 2- I feel so bad for you .I feel you should go bacm to your parents. They put you in this mess afterall. N7k a month!👈This just broke my heart.

War Coconut room oil said...

Poster 1 you are very selfish for asking your younger sis to wait for you when you don't even know when your bf is planning on getting married. I have four younger sisters and 3 are happily married with kids, did i kill myself? Heck NO! But guess what, come November, i am getting married to a Millionaire, at the moment, i have moved to his mansion,with a new car, and he's establishing a new biz for me. Meanwhile we have been courting for almost 5 years now. Patience is really a virtue. Be wise!

Mama Afrika said...

P1 whats wrong with ur sis getting married b4 u? Abeg swerve! Stick with the man u love.

P2 run and never go back!

Asike Sylvia said...

Poster One: You're clearly an indecisive person. You want to rush and marry so you can be the first. Is it a competition? Is marriage by force? Nigerian ladies fail to realise that marriage is FOREVER and not on a TEST_AND_SEE basis. Its better to do forever with someone you love. and as for all the faults you listed for the other guy, you're only seeing it because you're looking for reasons not to love him. Think like a mature woman that you are.

Poster two: RUN! RUN! as fast as your legs can carry you. You are not LIVING, you're merely EXISTING
Build yourself as an independent woman. Don't take shit from no man okay?


Thing that's paining me is that after all this advice, these women would still go back to these abusive men. Its better to struggle with your poor parents that make you happy than stay with your better-off husband that give you agony.

Anonymous said...

Useless boo of yours, after fucking Toto for 6 years Na now him day break .tell him to gerrarayea mehn

Loveme Jeje said...

Anon 16:31 God will give you children. Keep faith in Him.

Anonymous said...

This dude BLUNT looks at the world from a terrible generalised view...won't be surprised if you get depressed from time to time and cry yourself to sleep. The other day you said men of God were all fake...now you have condemned all Anambra girls. Smh. WISDOM is not found in one who sees life from such an angle.

white Berry said...

Wow so happy for you, congrats dear

Megxquisite collections pin 5597C3D1 said...

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lucky sparks said...

poster 1- you are on your own.
poster 2- you need to go home to your people and explain to them all what u posted here and simply ask that your mis-marriage be annuled.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 sounds so insecure and jealous, even your kid sis knows your weakness and will get at you by marrying before you. Marrying well is important at my end but I doubt you and your growing up mentality knows anything about that. It's disgusting to know you actually want to choose the second guy only because he's rich and leave the first guy only because he's not yet made. What if after you marry the second guy things fall apart for him? Instead of praying or seeking Godly counsel for divine guide to the right choice she's here tearing bra for the riches....mtcheew


Poster 2 I can picture your pain, saw something similar in a new movie by Stephanie Linus. Please go to your parents, let them know what you have been going through. If they are not bothered to help you, you need to strategize your escape and freedom. What will you say you achieved in life if you can't even be happy? You don't have kids for him and that might be a way to not have to be tied to the bastard. If I were still in Lagos, I would have asked you to come start another life around. Maids earn between 15-20k per month, you live with the family and won't have to touch your earnings. If you do that for 1 year or 2 you can have savings for business. Another plus is your speaking English gets better through the people you live with at least my previous maid now speaks better and writes better with the help of my children. I used to say if I happen to get impregnated I was going to run from my parents to another state and do odd jobs till I can do something meaningful.... What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Mrs Bee

Anonymous said...

Bless you, very sensible comment

Agbalu Al-Zahrah said...

Best comment ever! I love you😢

Anonymous said...

Biko which one is university and polytechnic graduate again.please identify ur problem, is it his graduation from Poly , ur sister's marriage or ur boyfriend's cashlessness because u haven't said anything about what you want.

Every girl deserves a shot @ education said...

Wow...epic

Lilly simple said...

Post 1, pls marry the guy u love

Post 2, leave or stay

Dre said...

Thank God! The whole thing was becoming very cheesy. I no know who una dey form for. And I'm a GoT fanatic.

Adanne said...

Kai! you be embarrassing me, lol

Anonymous said...

That's not what she meant I guess @anon 16.12, i might be wrong, get the message first. jeez!

Anonymous said...

Aboki blunt shattap dere, Anumanu.who tld u she s from anambra, ? If you don't have any reasonable thing to say pls gi and face ur miserable life.foolish thing

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Poster 1 is so dumb! As in you don't have sense one bit. Very shallow chronicle. Imagine?? The reasons why you're staying with your bf, the reasons why you want the other guy, the reasons why you don't want either of them and the reasons for your younger sisters marriage ish are all dumb, shallow, and childish!! You're not ready for my marriage my dear. Please sit down and develop your brain first.

stunning slim shady said...

Chai what did I just type up 👆dere.
ayam not even 🙇 understanding it myself.... *covers face n walks outta post*

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Poster 2- go back to your parents house. When you don't have kids in bad a marriage for such a long time, that's a sign from God giving you a second chance.
He is the one that will regret it cos the next wife won't be as tolerant as you. Please go back to your parents, Go to school and just live your life. A better man will come.
And you may not like to hear this but big shame on your mother!! Big one!! She has been a selfish from day one never looking out for your interests but hers. I'm appalled by her level of reasoning

Mrs Power aka MP said...

Poster 1 wait for ur boyfriend. Guys r usually more loyal so I believe he will marry u Wn he is OK. Just don't wait for him to hammer to much cis den competition go come from other Chics. Just enof to get u guys started. Forget d other dude biko. Money comes n goes. He didn't have money once like ur guy.
Let ur sis marry na. Haba she us ready. My younger sis got married before all of us n she is d fourth girl ooo. So free her joor inukwa.

Poster 2. What r u waiting for to run from dat marriage. Abi u think if u divorcé ur hubby u will go to hell? Abia. Leave now with ur life. Work on urself . u will still get married again OK. Just leave n den live life.

Mrs Power aka MP said...

Gosh Chi u r really something.as wear I can't deal right now

PLATINUM said...

Anonymous, weather the bug is disturbing u or not i dnt care, someone is going through a rough patch and im sure an inconsiderate unfeeling english proffessor like u will always find a reason to mk light of her situation.
I contacted her because she dropped her number in the comment section. Now drink ice water and go to sleep.

Anonymous said...

Empress 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 girl!!! You are intelligent! New found blog boo. You NAILED. IT. ON. THE. HEAD!


Let's be friends?!

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, u don't seem exposed. Pls don't make stupid decisions Biko.

Tessbaby said...

Trinity na u type that tin? U fiance must b a billiionaire then. So if ur fiance was a banker u wouldnt ce acpted his ring or rather if sometin happens 2 his now job*God forbid) n he takes up a bank job ure returning his ring? Wait if u see someone 10xs richer ull abandon him? Make una dey easy with una advice. Dont 4gt wat we say most times is who we truly re deep within.

Haute Cuisine Abuja said...

Poster 1: you are not psychologically ready neither are you mature enough to get married! You want to do it for the wrong reasons so I think you should take time to appreciate yourself, you don't even know what you want so just have patience. You are still young so no rush! Love yourself and think bout what marriage is all about before you go in cuz once you are in its difficult to leave! Cheers!
Poster 2: please you need a break. Go back home. Leave that man for now! Please go back to school. 7k is really nothing please! Just be very careful cuz that guy can kill you! Tell your parents what you are going through. If they don't support then look for something else to do, you can even be a nanny and if you are lucky enough your employers might see you through school. You just need a change of environment. Learn a handwork or anything just to help yourself! I pray God sees you through. Amen!

Jasmine said...

Omah the omniknowest!!! Shey you've seen them eat human flesh b4? Madam rumor spreader. Dem say, dem say go kill una one day

Jasmine said...

Leave poster. 1. When hunger catch am, she'll eat fine face and Bsc certificate

Jasmine said...

Trinity, u mean richest that their money ain't pure? Just asking o

Anonymous said...

Poster 1...dnt b a fool and marry for money

Mary said...

You are so jealous of your sister. 😗. I got married before my sis and she was there all the way during the wedding.We all are running different race, you better don't start running on another man's track. And only you can decidewho to marry and why. I dated my husband for seven years even when he was earning 25k.I just knew I m on the right track. We don't live in a mansion, neither are we millionaires but God has been faithful and we are grateful , in love and very happy. So choose what YOU want.

Anonymous said...

Poster one I want to SHAKE some sense into you walahi. So becos you don't want your sister to get married to you....you want to end up with a man u feel nothing for n u also have to go for judo lessons because the man has even opened his mouth to tell you his ex will fight you. kaiiiii women don suffer. So what if your younger sis marries b4 u?? U made her postpone her wedding already because of your insecurities. Pls pls pls poster one receive sense

Anonymous said...

1st poster. Il tell u my story, wen I met my hub, h had nothing! Asin nothing at all. I was due for marriage..heck evryone around me reminded me at Évry opportunity..suitors were comin...but I knew what I wanted. I never felt bad wen a friend sends me her weddin IV, or wen smone asks me what in waitin for. But most importantly..i knew my man..i knew he was focused, determined and very confident, I confido even without shishi baffles me. Above all he knows God and strongly believed in His Grace. I saw all this and I remained there, knowin it was jus a matter of time..in 3yrs h called me and said 'babe..iv made my 1st million o...wen am I comin to see ur ppl?' lol. It's been 4yrs now and we r about to start building our 3rd house! Not to mention other things. And we have complete joy,love, peace laughter in our home, yes a perfect marriage is still possible.

So my advice? Know what u want in life, In ur man..(u guys will be tied together for life!) s u have to be wise and choose rite. Dnt choose becos of pressure frm society . Dnt choose becos u r desparate, dnt choose becos of money. Ask God and listen coz he will answer u..Look within ursef and u will truly know who u r meant to be with. Nobody else can tell u that..only u can!

And incase my long epistle no reach u..read poster 2 chronicle and know how far.


Poster 2....RUN and never look back!!!

Adanne said...

6 years? Nnem congrats

Anonymous said...

@blunt- u r so right. Stupid ppl giving Igbos bad name.

Jules Louis said...

Poster 1. U better learn from poster 2's story. U r so timid. U better marry for love. U think marriage is beans abi. Continue o

Anonymous said...

Its not that all these things listed are bad. The fact that she sees them means shez very petty and not ready for marriage. Tommorrow, she'll be ashamed to walk with the guy in public because he went to poly. Oko oko! This gal no deserve that guy. Stay with your banker let people who appreciate the guy go for him. You need 3 more years for your brain to reset. No good reason in all dis. I wan marry sharp sharp so my sister no go carry 1st, he like me cos im fair, his ex fit use jazz, they eat human flesh for dier state, he go poly I go uni. Silly girl. Stay with your 27 year old broke bank contract staff but please ehn, dont kill the poor guy with yeye pressure. Im sure he is even too young to marry but you dey do on your marks with your younger sis. You sound like a village soul. Still checking ngwa na aba in marriage, at this age! Okuku igbo.

Poster 2: get an education, get a boyfriend and leave that your broke spare parts dealer in Kano. Those old Ndubuisi men come home to look for young girls to prey on. Fill the house with umu boy. Dont lie. Una dey live for yard. That man dey find who go respect am, born for am, remain for house like mugu. You and your mama fall big mugu. Pimp of a woman. Koh ha biko. Move on wit ur life

James Bond's Girl said...

@Poster 1 I Think I agree with some adviceS here..1) you seriously need to GROW UP becos u are now 25 doesn't mean u are mature for marriage , Marriage is very deep.

at this time, why would u think about what society will think cos ur younger sister married before you, lolzz Pls when u want to talk try listening to yourself and secondly, My younger sister I know for sure is gonna get married before me and I don't give a damn about it...I know a story of A lady who her younger sister was getting married, she supported it . her mother and her relatives were so angry with her to consent with something like that but she said if her younger sis is happy then she is happy. on the wedding, this lady was running around and making sure the wedding was a success for her younger sister..people were looking at her with some much pity some with disgust. would you believe that this lady caught the eye of one of the guest who was so impressed about how this woman 'carried the wedding for head''

Na so this guy hook up with the lady after 6 months of dating..what am I trying to say ENVY WILL LEAD YOU TO NO WHERE AND IT IS A POISON THAT WOULD EAT YOU SOONER OR LATER... THE CHOICE IS YOURS..PLS GROW UP

Poster 2 with your story it is eminient that you were naïve and was forced by people who were suppose to direct and help prepare the right path for you to follow..am sorry that husband rubbed you off your innocence and treat you bad...Thank God you know better ..Please tell your parents what is happening and Please don't go back to your husband, I know he would tell you words like ''You are not good enuff, no man will look you twice'' e.t.c..but you know what u are the BEST THING THAT HAPPENED TO THIS EARTH AND YOU ARE MADE FOR SIGNS AND WONDER and like a phoenix , from your ASHES YOU WILL RISE AGAIN AND BECOME A VERY BEAUTIFUL PERSON..GOD BLESS YOU

Anonymous said...

Lmao!

Cissy said...

@ Atheist, the pleasure is all mine, till 2017...
Lo pasé de maravilla, adíos

Anonymous said...

Na Anambra mentality. Blunt don talk am up there.

Anonymous said...

Shut up Der,northern girls that are so corrupt,and for your information the girl's bride price may have been paid ,she may not even know her bride price has being paid

Anonymous said...

Muslims that think other people are infidels but they refuse to live infidels alone,them go wan die for Oyibo countries instead of going to middle east,they are on all the blogs commenting yet they still call them infidels,Christians don't copy you people but you always want to be like christains,even their weddings is now being done like Christian weddings.

Anonymous said...

Poster one, abeg wash your hands off that Ngwa man with all the issues trailing him and marry your boyfriend- so what if your younger sis gets married before you?
You'll just be looking for issues where there are none and wanting to put yourself in a situation you won't be able to handle in the future.

Poster 2, please leave that marriage abeg.

Anonymous said...

Ngwa people are still in the business of human eating o, no jus go there o!

Anonymous said...

No tribe that doesnt throw jibes at each other or accuse others of one thing or the other:

Yorubas say Egba are stingy husbands.
Go to Sokoto and hear what they say about Kebbi and Zamfara.
Go to cross river and hear Ogoja accuse Efik of laziness and squandering their wealth and hear people say Ugep eat human meat.
Go to Ijaw and hear what they say of itshekiri or PH and hear Ikwerre acuuse each other. Abi is it Awori and Egun in Lagos. Or dont get me started on Fulani and Hausa and Kanuri. Bini and Esan mock each other. Abeg park well. Its mere jibes and not exclusive to igbos. Didnt you hear where Noble Igwe's wife is from.did poster say its forbidden to marry him or just not really cool for her? Fool. You must be high on some Blunt. Travel more and get educated cos youre loud for nurin. As for the Civil War, war was declared on igbos for trying 2 secede after they were getting killed in Lagos and the north. Igbo men like u are the problem we have really. You wanna play all cool and neutral and politically correct. They go slaughter you like nama. You think Fulani muslim send you. Ezi

linda ikebata said...

Poster 1 ur thinking is very myopic, do not be deceived. Poster many singles out there r better than u. Jump out of that marriage before he kills u.

Baby Oku said...

Ahhhhhh Poverty.. the things that poverty can lead to is all I see in the second narrative. God help ur Children..

I dnt knw wat to advise u dear poster 2, but I sincerely feel and understand ur situation.

Chijioke Okafor said...

Foolish blunt was there anambra state during d Biafra war?nawa for some mumus..fool...your type blame others for their failure in life

Empressitta said...

Poster one; pls get over your insecurity. There is nothing with your younger sister marrying before you. If you don't love the ngwa guy, leave his money alone and date your banker bf. Finish nysc an get a job. Pray to God so u ll stop being confused, jealous and insecure at the same time cz trust me you are already.

Poster 2; nne biko, when you go back home, tell your folks what they led you into. Quit the "situationship" pick your pieces, God can still fix u. You are young and you ll find love again.
My 2 cents...

Anonymous said...

Lol!my dear if dem no pass you you no go get time vex for them.discrimination is everywhere,Ogun state discriminate against ondo and Ekiti,ife agaibst modakeke,what about you guys against Mbaise and Osu people,fulani against other tribes,Isoko against urhobo,itsekiri against jaw but no igbo or Yoruba will behead their tribes men just because of discrimination but a fulani will gladly behead you as long as you are not fulani,if Nigeria can survive for 100yes with multiple tribes then Biafra will succed,you must not be part of them,a lot of Nigerians are citizens of other countries but don't even bring Biafra to your rubbish talk because Biafra will survive.Anambras are not tribalistic,if they are they will not own billions of businesses in Other parts of the country,the only problem is maybe when it comes to marriage they mostly" stick to their own so stop judging because one Anambra guy broke your heart of because their money intimidates you.

Anonymous said...

Girl, if you can make a successful marriage then the society would broadcast it and vice versa if your marriage flops. Don't make the society define you!!! U alone own the sole right to write your story be it a mess or a success. Right now you aren't yet ripe for marriage. We all can tell from your narrative. What kind of life would u want in marriage? I think you would be better off the virtuous woman the book of proverbs 31:10-31 talks about, where she is not lazy rather wakes up early to organise the affairs in the house and yet she is into commerce which enables her to provide clothing for her own household including her maids in the cold period although her husband is already well to do. Yet by her conduct she earns her husband fame throughout the city and her own children call her blessed.
Don't run into marriage becz he looks set today since u don't have the slightest idea what tomorrow holds. At least we know the saying, change is the only constant thing. That said I believe you would want to take time out to develop yourself for the future, be ready to give and make sacrifices and not only be the receiver. Only true love would do that . Obtain wisdom so that when the rainy days approach you don't get troubled. A plan to be a liability to a man would only make him trash you in the long run cz he is human too and may not be forever patient. I think you should grow up well financially, emotionally secure, spiritually...just create your own sense of accomplishment first. It might take some time but it is safer that way. Let you future man know that he is indeed with a gem and not the regular girl out there. That is true security not the one someone else provides you just bcz they have money to spend today. Money has got wings to fly around irrespective of ones complexion, height, origin ... Get wisdom dear. About your younger sister that is totally unacceptable, you are already breeding unhealthy competition. You ought to be looking out for her and not trying to outshine her. Give her quality advise abeg. May God help you both. Open your eyes wide, so many are already into marriage but they are desperate to undo it wishing they could be single again but I guess it is not our in ability to turn back the hand of time. Have u asked yourself what are those things they didn't do right? Be charged towards getting yours right!

Mz complicated said...

Poster1 you are a jealous, envious, greedy and a selfish person. Pick one and let the other one go. Looking for ways to put people down. Ur sis, d poly/eating people guy, the contracted banker. You what do u do? Just corper with 19,800 with ppa allowance.I wonder why some ladies can't be selfmade always wanting to be a parasite, can't you work and become rich on ur own then it would not bother u when you want to marry cos u have ur own money or is it a crime?. Theman bo fine but u like hime fine money, OLE. @ Poster2 walk away or better still sa ere kabakaba.Run as fast as ur legs can't take u, nothing is tying u down, u should see the miscarriage tho painful as a sign of telling u to leave that abusive marriage. Even if u parents don't take u back take the risk and walk out. When he beats u to death they would only weep but u won't be able to come back to enjoy life to the fullest. Yolo( you only live once)

Anonymous said...

Your case looks a combo of the weather and bug because you still can't spell a damn thing correctly. There's no crime in not knowing but when you don't know and refuse to accept that you don't know, that's where the problem lies.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 how old are u pls cos u sound so desperate are u over 30?pray over it cos ur bf's love might get sore along d line there by breaking ur hrt and d richer guy might be poor tomorrow can u cope ?
Poster2 u really need leave dt marriage cos I was like u few yrs back marriage off @ 12 had my 1st child @ 13,16,19 respectively ex hus promise to train me via sch but didn't fulfill his promise I sold pure water to pay my sch fees till I discover my talent dt made me who I am today in my own case he has a cane for me after flogging me he will rape me join I saw hell, @ atime his matured gf was living with us I was practicaly his maid slave I ignored him build my talent and stat making good money dts wen main war started he will steal my money ,hit me. I left him wen am 23yrs that's 6yrs ago he doesn't pay his kids bill I do dt too but I have peace of mind no 1 beats me now.am a landlady of my self but him ,he is a broke guy as usual has left his 5th marriage, Infact I heard he now stays with his mum in there family house cos he cannot afford house rent, so pls ur future is not tied to any man if u will listen pack ur things leave that man start ur life all over if I can start afresh with kids u can without,though 1 gud thing I did for my self, I make sure I finish my first degree and my Pg, saved enough money ,from my talent bizness b4 Leaving him cos I hate being stranded, u might not be me so since u don't have a child with him thank ur stars LEAVE HIM ASAP ur future is so bright trust me on dis cos I have being in ur shoes b4 and am getting married soon to a very big /rich boy that worship even d floor I walked on. Ur future is not tie to 1 foolish pedophile

Awesomeness said...

Lmao...SDK on fire.

Anonymous said...

Blood of Jesus😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲

Anonymous said...

Marriage Marriage!!! I thought i married my best friend.3 years of marriage and we havent made luv up.to 15 times.its a love/hate relationship. Je is cheat! Yes he a horswband ! Yoruba demon ! I wish i waited! I wish i listened ! I am doomed and stuck with sadness! I want to.runaway but no job!! ROCK of age pls provide my dream job ijn!

Anonymous said...

Aunty Stella, i strongly think the BV's on here can help the young girl and not to just read and comment, you acknowledging her english is so bad made me wanna cry...LETS HELP HER.

Amacastel said...

Poster 1 how old are u pls cos u sound so desperate are u over 30?pray over it cos ur bf's love might get sore along d line there by breaking ur hrt and d richer guy might be poor tomorrow can u cope ?
Poster2 u really need leave dt marriage cos I was like u few yrs back marriage off @ 12 had my 1st child @ 13,16,19 respectively ex hus promise to train me via sch but didn't fulfill his promise I sold pure water to pay my sch fees till I discover my talent dt made me who I am today in my own case he has a cane for me after flogging me he will rape me join I saw hell, @ atime his matured gf was living with us I was practicaly his maid slave I ignored him build my talent and stat making good money dts wen main war started he will steal my money ,hit me. I left him wen am 23yrs that's 6yrs ago he doesn't pay his kids bill I do dt too but I have peace of mind no 1 beats me now.am a landlady of my self but him ,he is a broke guy as usual has left his 5th marriage, Infact I heard he now stays with his mum in there family house cos he cannot afford house rent, so pls ur future is not tied to any man if u will listen pack ur things leave that man start ur life all over if I can start afresh with kids u can without,though 1 gud thing I did for my self, I make sure I finish my first degree and my Pg, saved enough money ,from my talent bizness b4 Leaving him cos I hate being stranded, u might not be me so since u don't have a child with him thank ur stars LEAVE HIM ASAP ur future is so bright trust me on dis cos I have being in ur shoes b4 and am getting married soon to a very big /rich boy that worship even d floor I walked on. Ur future is not tie to 1 foolish pedophile

Anonymous said...

Poster 1:what for ur banker boyfriend to be ready,if u marry d other guy u will regret ur action forever
Poster 2:tell ur family everything nd if u still want to continue in d marriage pls go back to school,education is more important in life than marriage,when u acquire more education it's d man that will regret not u.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1:wait for ur banker boyfriend to be ready,if u marry d other guy u will regret ur action forever
Poster 2:tell ur family everything nd if u still want to continue in d marriage pls go back to school,education is more important in life than marriage,when u acquire more education it's d man that will regret not u.

Anonymous said...

@ blunt, it's people like you that end up marrying that tribe u detest, thaz the funniest part.
Woe betide you if you finally marry an Anambra girl.

Inabeto said...

Poster one is a CAPITAL MUMU. No need wasting my time advising you. I'm angry
Poster 2, u will see someone o, u young. Leave that marriage go to school learn a trade and start working on yourself. Don't be scared what ppl will say, everyone has their own problems they will only talk about u for 1 month and everyone moves on. Be brave

Teggie said...

Jules Louis you just saved me from typing

IkElly said...

I think jobless gals are the ones who often find it difficult to settle in a relationship

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