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Friday, 12 August 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

Hian!!...Are you kidding me?






STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
JILTED BY BAE BUT STILL HOLDING ON...

Hi Stella, I feel awkward as I write this story of mine as I have noticed in the few narratives I have read on this blog that most writers are women. As you already can insinuate I am a guy, 27, civil servant and a fashion entrepreneur.
*GF and I met initially in 2001, we were both in JSS1.

 10 year later, 2011, we started chatting on fb, after a few months we decided to meet and see each other again, that same day (in early 2012) I asked her out and after a few weeks of “toasting” she finally said yes! Few months later, we both left for our NYSC in neighbouring states so distance wasn’t an issue.


Our relationship since 2012 has been full of ups and downs as we fight and make up at intervals but it got worse in 2014 when I left Lagos for Abuja cos of work. The distance caused a lot, our communication wasn’t like before but each time I travel back home, its always like a miracle how we catch up and make out. I love GF like crazy and had made up my mind that she is going to be my wife someday.


2016 and GF started talking seriously about marriage, says she is getting old (26) but I keep telling her to chill and that I have no other plan but to marry her, I was sure she had that confidence too as our both parents met already also, she is talking terms with almost every member of my family (extended inclusive).

GFs bestie had her intro early July 2016, there and then GFs pressure on marriage increased and I sensed some level of impatience so I asked her to give me a few days, and that we will talk about that issue later as I have an important examination to write in the fourth week of July, same week I turned 27.


GF asked about how my exams went and I told her my score as it was a CBT and she called me “efiko”, this happened same week GF forgot my birthday, first time in 4 years; that day, she called at about 6pm to say HBD and I couldn’t hold the tears as I picked the call, that was the moment I realized something was seriously wrong, she apologized and gave excuses but I had no choice, I can’t be angry at my love!


The following week, my sister forwarded a picture she screen- munched from IG, lo and behold, it was a picture uploaded by a make-up artist and the captioned revealed that GF had her intro on Sunday, the same week she forgot my birthday. I was devastated, couldn’t eat nor sleep. I would drink till I vomit, I would form strong during the day and cry like hell at night. I didn’t understand why she would do such to me at a time that we are very fine, she visited during Easter, I visited in June and we got intimate both times.


 I actually told her at a point that we will get married in 2018 as I wanted some things to be in place before we make such an important move so that we can have the kind of future we deserve (a decision I could have considered changing if I knew about her rush), but then what could be her reason not to have told me about her intro? Isn’t that one event that I shouldn’t have missed?


Two days later, I confronted her about the intro pix I saw and she admitted to what she did, we spoke on phone for over two hours, she kept calling, apologizing and crying on phone.

Her reasons: “prophecies” have been coming that we were not meant for each other, prophecies to herself and her mum, prophecies no kukuma come to me as I no believe in such (that’s me tho)
“the pressure” from her mum for her to get married has been overwhelming, she claimed and me kuku never ready.


After a long talk on phone and lots of tears from both ends, she claim she still loves me and wants me to suggest on what we can do to get back to each other  saying she is ready to do anything to have me back. She also claims that she doesn’t love the other guy (who I do not know) and that they met only a few months ago and infact she agreed to the intro only a few days before cos the guy is in a hurry to get married.


My parents and sibling have heard about her intro already, GFs mum doesn’t want me anymore, some of my friends and colleague already know about my heartbreak (cos I noticed the more people I tell, the better I feel) and there is also a “new” guy who (thinks he) is getting married to GF soon.


GF and I have been talking well since her intro, and I suggested she go and see my home church pastor for a start. Truth is, I feel better cos I see and feel hope.

I know I have been jilted, but am I still being stupid?

Remember, my love for GF is endless, I do not want to lose her.



*You are not just stupid,you are foolish as well.
My advice?Forget that girl,she is poison!!!..MOVE ON WITHOUT HER,SHE CANNOT EAT HER CAKE AND HAVE IT.



151 comments:

Joblesshousewife said...

Hmmmm

Joblesshousewife

xxxTrinityxxx said...

You sound so weak and too emotional. Emotional men are nice but not over emotional ones. Did you expect the girl to seat and wait for you? It's never good to put all your eggs in one basket. Men do same. Only thing wrong she did was to allow you find out the way you did and even sleep with you before the intro. Another girl with patience will come along don't worry

nzube izuu said...

Poster, you need a hot slap to reset your brain! Get on with your life biko, no need crying over spilt milk.

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Awww poor guy.
She doesn't deserve you honestly.
The best thing you can do now is to leave her to her choices, good or bad she'd be the one to live with them.
Do not let her crocodile tears deceive you. No where in your story did you mention her family pressurised her into doing intro with another guy.
It was what she wanted and she went ahead with it eyes open.
Please cry and go through all the pain you feel, you'd feel better to have let her go in years to come.
At 27, money should be your priority because marriage with no money is living in hell on earth.
She wants to live for the gram, post pictures and accumulated likes. She isn't bothered about the future and what it holds.
Please move on already, so that a lady who will hold you down and build with you will come.
She belongs to someone else already don't let her deceive you further. Your family won't even let you go back to her. She not only betrayed you but them.
You will be fine.

Lara Peperenpe said...

Why are you crying foul?
Didn't she warn you enough?
2018? Can you hear yourself, you stupid time waster?
Pls get over yourself and move on
GF is only being smart by talking and seemingly agreeing to your stupid plans
I'm sure she and her new heartthrob are trying to relocate to america
She knows you can do something stupid
Wise girl...

Monkeynofine said...

Naija girls are too in a hurry to get married with or without money. I pity u son.

Pamela Shuga22 said...

stella oo πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜† ..lol. dats d best reply. mugu reloaded

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Mumu man!,..
Leave some one's woman alone!...
You are heartbroken?...serves you right!...
You want to keep wasting her time so at the end of the day,you won't marry her...
I'm happy she didnt put all her eggs in you!...
Move on joor...forget all those promises!...
She is just telling you that to calm you down!...
Look for another woman and move on!...

Anonymous said...

Shatttap dere

U voted buhari and u r looking for money for weddin
Muntulu

Lara Peperenpe said...

Chi exotic...your Yoruba is making me wet, hahaha!

em jay said...

This story is so familiar with the one a frnd told me 2days back, just that he is older.

Some gurls tho, move on already dear.

BECKY'S DIARY said...

Very Foolish Somebody! Hian

How can you tell a 26yr old girl to wait till 2018 to get married when she has other options? You is crayy

We all know broke guys love pass right? So when u make it, come back and we'll listen

She didn't do right by deceiving you, she should've broken up with ypu properly then went ahead with her marriage plans. Very bad of her!! Not cool at all

But the deed has been done. Stop loving and move on with your life jare. Focus on money and make enough to fill mmiri Jericho, then watch as girls.. She included will come crawling to you. #Bitter but that's the truth, nobody wants a broke man. Very simple!
Sorry about the pain you're feeling now, you'll be fine alright..

Ada Nwanbueze said...

Poster when next you see GF please ask her wish baba do the jazz ok! Because this one pass love mtewwwww.

Anonymous said...

Let her be you idiot, are you so ugly and lack self confidence that you cant find yourself another girl when we have them scattered everywhere?

lacreme said...

Gbam!.Stel you have said it all.she is worse than a snake's venom.

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

Chai....the way ladies jump into marriage like is full of roses,no wonder we have too marry bad marriages
Dude,pls move on....from ur chronicle,u are still a child
Go n make money n see how babes will hold on to for 10yrs without even a ring.
There is nothing to hold on for.........I see her getting tired of that sham she called marriage ...anyway,intro no be marriage
Don't be foolish okay,just move on

Immaculate said...

Good advice from Stella.@poster ibu anumanu(you are an animal) are you a learner? She did her introduction even when the two of you are still good, she didn't tell you and now she is crying and you are considering giving her another chance. (Onukwu)Fool that's what you are. Stay there until she kills u

Tush baby said...

She married another guy bc she is not sure that you will still marry her by 2018 which is far . U want to turn her to aunty gwegs and. Biko go and look for small girl of 21 to date. U even have a job what stopped you from marrying her and both of u will build together or u haven't heard that great things starts from a little begining.

Pure Nigerian said...

Pressure at 26? I don't get it! No dreams or ambitions, save marriage? Let her go biko; if she loved you, she should have set you free. Now, start working massively for your own future.

Ayzee said...

Bro...move on with your life. That she never told you about the intro and you found out yourself is all you need. Time would heal your heart. Focus on other things...There is light ahead...Stop talking about her to others...If you follow your emotions and hang on you would probably end up wishing you never did.

Gift Bassey said...

Bros.... No vex ooo... But eh.... Move on.... Maybe that's the WAY God wants it to be

Anonymous said...

You are not just stupid, you also a fool. Are you ok? If you take that girl back you have just laid the worst foundation for your home. Better receive sense and waka. God carried wahala on top of you, you want to use your hands .

crystal said...

Yes my. Love, you are seriously stupid and senseless. Prophecy ko, revelation ni. You should take this as a sign and move on no matter how heart broken you might be now. God just averted something from your future for you. Your babe knew her intro was been planned but slept with you twice thereby cheating on her hubby to be.

my dear pls respect yourself and give her space.

School Life said...

You drank, cried, did other thingx... Why didn't you kill yaself at once?

Anyways, since you didn't kill urself or commit *suicide*, forget about her n move on.

Anonymous said...

Stella nawa for your advices ooo. na real wa to u. some of your suggestions are actually misleading.
poster, my own is that u seek d face of God, n keep calm, do not make any hasty decisions yet. all d best.

salt E said...

This is a case of ozworism, are u an enemy of progress? 2018? U no say 2017 oo at that time shed be 28 then ud come with cock n bull that u can't marry her mbok goan arrange ur life and leave her to marry someone she doesn't love joo.

Precious Nkeih said...

The pressure to get married can lead people into the wrong places.
Poster, take some time out and think THOROUGHLY about it. Could you have married her now if she hadn't done the intro? I'll not ask you to marry her or not but I'll tell you to forgive her. Also, a broken engagement is better than a failed marriage.

How her father got her pregnant

Anonymous said...

GF dint do any wrong joor, she should wait till when na? Love kor, love nΓ©e? Ur very stupid truly. U want to be fucking and say my GF my GF. What's the difference between GF and MW? Ask ur sef that. Asshole.im a guy and I don't believe in let's wait for the right time, no such thing as right time as long as you can feed ur self and pay rent the u are good to go, if you like wait to till the end if the world who no ready no ready. My guy u wer not ready.

Anonymous said...

I Am a guy, by this is the MOST STUPID GUY I have ever seen in my life...

GUY, you MUMU abeg

Anonymous said...

wish i had dis kind of guy. anyway, jst knw she has been fucking the other guy too...nawa.. dnt even knw what to say. but before u start jubilating- does she plan to end it with the other guy..wen dp dey plan to get married... will u forgive her...my dear nobody shld rush u into marriage oo if u aint ready cos it is not a joke...dis girl will still leave you ooo cos i am sure the guy is richer than u. my two cents if she wants to go and marry let her go, ur love will find it and take not that sometimes love is always not enough as marriage is nt only love love love.

Samantha Tuoyo said...

You wanted her to wait for you till 2018 and she is already 26, I bow to you. If I were her sister I will advice her to move on... No time for time wasters. As it is now she is just stringing u along, fool yourself as you like but she will still marry that guy. Accept defeat and move on because the next shocker will come like a thief in the night... You will be chatting with her one faithful Saturday, she will say "talk to u later I want to go to the market", she will hang up and proceed to church for her white wedding. Mr Endless Lover πŸ‘ who puppy love epp?

Miss Juliet said...

Poster i went back to check your age,at 27 u are so stupid...how can u allow a girl to be fooling u around like ds? She has done her intro nd u tink she will still marry u abi...u go wait old..don't worry by next week your sister will screen shot her white wedding pix nd u will kal her nd she will cry again...
Onye ala!

miss Aboki said...

End time stupid.
Be there seeing hope ooo
Ewu!!

Mama Afrika said...

Hahaha. Poster u be mumu o! Please forget that selfish girl and move on abeg. When u are ready you will find the right person.

Ife oluwa said...

Pls move on alredy, seriously, I fear who knw fear dat babe oo.

Akwanwa said...

Your so called gf is wicked! It might be hard but dude the earlier u move on with ur life, the better for you.

chidinma ujo said...

Geez.... My dear just move on, she and even her mum are wicked, no point crying is painful though just wipe your tears and move ahead!

Anonymous said...

No church prophecies here, GF was just in a hurry to get married and you were busy making plans for only God knows when......huh! Imagine 2018....you're not serious. She did well oo, I hail her

IVORY said...

You better forget that girl. She's wicked! At least she should have told you that she was leaving you before moving on with someone else.

Awesome R said...

Poster sorry oh. She's no longer your girlfriend but someone else's wife to be. So sulk it all up and move on. I guess you felt she wasn't going anywhere and must have given some signs of not waiting anymore. But then you chose to ignore them or didn't realize that there was fire on the mountain. She just told u all that i'm coming Shit to pacify you. The truth is she ain't returning back to you. If you had made a move or something concerning settling down, not just mere words she would have stuck with you.
Now you are heartbroken. Kpele, this phase would certainly pass. You would pull through.

Anonymous said...

I beg forget her...what was she rushing for. Na wah for we girls, if it is a guy that got married behind us and treated us this way we would be crying foul play. Bro. put r mind for bettering your future and aim highest, then think of marring someone else. by the way, if you guys get back together how do you want your parents and hers to relate? Remember marriage is not just the two of you it is an extended family issue...you better give yourself brain and move on

Mrs. Romas said...

Young man, forget that girl as Stella said, why waste your time over a girl who already made her decision and moved on? You are still very young and by your explanation very responsible; you will find someone worthy of your love and care at the right time.

Your girlfriend (now ex) was not pressured by anyone to get married, she wanted to get married because her bestie was getting married too.

kinky with a golden pen said...

What more can I say, Stella has said it all. Guy, jus bullshit d gurl and move on. Post your phone number or bbm pin here n see d number of girls that will call u b4 d end of 2day, that is to tell u dat babes are in abundance in naija, plus u have a job that most ppl want.
BF alert: drama babes on SDK, grab your copy if the guy drops his contact.... Atleast I don try, free advert without ihn.

Anonymous said...

Am sorry I don't feel pity for you. So u want to waste her time for ur own selfishness. U already have a job and u are sure u love her but just want to keep wasting time. I don't know why people live in the future and not in d present. My brother live life in the present because nobody knows tomorrow. I pray our tomorrow is better than our today.Amin

Miss Itohan said...

I hardly comment, I prefer to read funny comments and laugh but I think it's high time I started dropping my thoughts,in this issue,i feel compelled to. Poster,please first of all,remove the 'GF' from this story,news flash,she isn't your GF anymore, she is someone else's fiancee. When I see people with no self worth,i feel like giving them a healthy dose of self love because the truth is if you loved yourself,you wouldn't let another human being treat you this way. I feel your pains, nearly everyone has been hurt by loving the wrong person at one time or the other but it is time for you to walk away. Walk away and don't look back please. A lady who is callous enough to do intro with someone else without even having the decency to break up with you first is capable of so much more. Now she wants to get back together with you and dump her fiancee, she just decamps at will and doesn't even care who she is hurting in the process. That level of selfishness is dangerous,do yourself a world of good and walk quietly away,you will be fine.

Slim Dave said...

I'm in this Same shoe bro just different size (can't even send mine, my fingers won't type, my mind won't compose *Hurting badly right now but God knows best... Wish her all the best tho

charles endy said...

Such is life, brother!

reemah said...

Lol. Stella can be harsh sha. Poster, move on. She doesn't know what she wants. You sef, u were making plans to marry her in 2018, you say? Na wah o. It's normal that she felt u weren't ready but moving on without letting you know is a no-no. Let go. Find another. Cheers.

Scarlett said...

You are a big fool o. seriously. move on with your life jare. Love ke!

How to get back at her? go make money and stand firm.

Chiamaka L said...

As always, This Stella's advice is not just insane but sick as well. No pun intended. If the babe had brought her story, telling us that her boyfriend doesn't want to commit and someone else is ready to accept her, baggage and all, we would be the same to advice her to leave a stagnant relationship and all that.
Guy, not only did you refuse to listen to her when she said she wanted marriage, but you were filling her head with what sounded like empty promises.
Guy leave her alone to enjoy her marriage, I am certain she like the guy and will fall in love with him and girl, if you are a BV, stand with your new man and make it work, except you truly do not love him. Then, I should say, you should break it off and re-evaluate your life

Anonymous said...

Mumu in live,pls make money first,money over bitches, then u can think of having gf,even u can get finer babe sef,then go they beg to marry u

Blackberry said...

That's why sometimes it ain't wise to date ur age group especially when d gap is just months or a year! The girl might be ready, but d guy might not, u wait for him to hammer n get married or get dumped.

ziona said...

eyaaaa,luffer boi.continue waiting until she drop 4 and u turn to an uncle gwegs then ur eye go open.its a pity u love her so blindly i dont blame u but she betrayed u,cant u see she cant b trusted and she is poison,please leave her alone.she wants to get married and u dont want to please free her

Promise Ifunanya said...

My dear is better for you to move on with your life,a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Be wise

Serenity said...

Osheii.......

Blossom said...

This poster sef na mumu you be?. Do you enjoy the emotional trauma? I think you do hence you don't want to move on. Kontinu o. When she invites you to help her serve drinks on the d-day,by then your eyes go don clear.

The truth is bitter but must still be told. Try to move on with your life abeg. You will find love again. Don't play second fiddle to any girl. You deserve better.

Anonymous said...

Please Stella that girl is not poison, the guy has a job, they love each other, what was he waiting for? It's not like the girl will refuse to marry him or she insisted he must be super rich but no! He is wasting the girls time on top no excuse.
Our society favors men when it comes to late marriage so a girl looking out for herself is not being poisonous,the pressure is crazy and even you all will call her Gwegs if she forms love and waits till 30....please poster leave the poor girl alone, you had her but couldn't man up and put a ring on it!
O please! Leave her the heck alone!
I am 27 going on 28 and I love my boyfriend like crazy but the day a reasonable suitor shows up in will move on. His only luck now is that all the guys asking for my hand in marriage are guys I just don't like....if I meet one that I like at all ehn...I will move.

Yummy chick cum mummy said...

Guard ur Heart . it's over. Obviously she has bin double dating.. Face ur career and make money.. Love is just a feeling, and u make it a choice feeling that way, so still u will fall again with another.... Don't waste ur time....

White Diamond said...

Stellz, you no even cuss him wella.

Namsense! 27, and you're still talking like a love struck teenager. If you're not careful, that heartless gf of yours, would be the death of you.

Just listen to the trash you swallowed hook, line and sinker. She met the guy some months ago, and she left you that she's known for ages, to go and get married to him. Story for Amadioha.

In case you're too love struck to realize, she's been seeing that man for longer than a few months. Don't be deceived. Wants you back too fire!

I suggest you watch War Room Part 2, make footnotes on what you learnt from the movie, and drink coconut 'oyel.' Your head go reset.

#WhiteDiamondOut

Anonymous said...

A girl who can do this to you cannot be trusted. I know how it feels to be madly in love with someone and keep hoping for forever with them. The pain of living without them seems just too unbearable that we want to keep them at all cost. It would have been a different ball game if she broke up with you upfront and told you the truth. What if your sister never saw the picture? What then? Move on darling. You can love again.

ukwu dimond said...

guy you need e-slap to reset your brain, what is wrong with you oga lover guy? let the lady be please, you had her for so many years and refuse to wife her, you would have engaged her or do intro and wait till things become normal. You don't expect home girl to keep on waiting for you till she turn gwegwes.

pick up your life and start all over again, that is not the end of life, let your ex face her hubby, such is life. Next time do not waste so much time when you know you love a lady.

una go dey waste babe time like say na only una be guys way get eyes for better food, shabi you don chop totoh as you like, you no still lose anything, i dey come abeg.

Anonymous said...

Poster you are a very selfish senseless stupid fool. U want her to wait for you till eternity. Go hang yourself if you cannot get another girl

Anonymous said...

I don't feel sorry for you at all infact you deserve it. If she didn't pull a fast one on you, you will on her. Tit-for-tat.

Anonymous said...

Shut up! I will personally tell her to break up with her bf first which is dumping him. Or how else do people get dumped? Mumu

Starjoy said...

Guy move on because she is somebody else finance, go make money and marry when you are ready.

Jennifer Lawrence said...

Stop thinking abt that ur desperate gal friend ....go bk to her & u re finished

Highest height said...

This almost happened to me and hubby, I was aunty gwegs and yet hubby was telling me stories about how he need to put one thing in place I was sick and tired of pressure from home and every where.

On the other hand there is d new man ready and rushing to settle down. I I almost left with d new the new guy before le boo came to his senses. Monday is our wedding anniversary am happy I didn't end up with d new guy I would have ended up in a loveless marriage and a very long chronicles. Pls oga poster give her a second chance if she actually ready to change

Anonymous said...

Looool @ my love for GF is endless, biko I dont understand, are you Jesus?

amanda favour said...

LMAO 😁
Bubu see what you've caused

Ralu M said...

Poster please forget about her she is bad news. Someone who has the mind to do such to someone they have been intimate and close to can kill. You will get over her...time heals all wounds. If I can heal and move on so can you. I only pray that you don't make another girl pay for her misdeeds and don't enter into another relationship until you have found closure and moved on. Stop picking her calls, stop calling her...she has entered into another man's house let her be. You can still love another.

Anonymous said...

Immaculate, why the insult? Just a simple question.

Lacey Love said...

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Flakkie Chris said...

From 2012 to 2016 you still no wan do even if na intro...... gerrout from here you time waster. The girl did herself a huge favour. If you were without a job now, ehn ehn it would have been understandable.
You just want to dey collect for free. People have married with less than 100k in this same country...... go to ikoyi registry and see for yourself.
You never said she asked you for a big wedding....... na you just wan dey waste her time. Mscheew.

Loveme Jeje said...

Eh yah postor ekpele oo. MOVE ON

Anonymous said...

You are actually right. My ex got me as a child I would say. Waited until I was 19 to eat the cake, waited again until I was 28 then zapped and married an older babe. Dt destroyed me cos I didn't know how to love again and I kept running from one proposal to another. I'm facing another one now but the fear of dt terrible disappointment won't let me be. My family think I hate men and I have absolutely nothing to do with women neither will I ever. JUST FEAR.

telema Cr7 present wife and drake girlfriend said...

See talk
She shld wait till 2018 when she will be 28yrs old..Do you know he kind of pressure mounted on her?the kind of talk and prayers her mother must have been doing in her behalf?
It's not her fault,family pressure caused it.
Pls leave her alone and find ur own woman

Jenny zee said...

Hahahahahaha anon u r cray lol

Anonymous said...

I repeat, we men are literally stupid, when the stupidity is augmented by being in love then thing will be really messed up like this narrative.

alicia said...

It's sad how people are calling the poster a weak man. I sincerely don't know what to tell you as I'm not in your shoes and can't judge but all O know is I'd love to marry a man who loves and wants me the way you love and want this girl. All the best.

Anonymous said...

No don't get on with your life. Tell her you want her and she shd marry you asap. You wasted time talking about wait till after exM. 2018 not even next year. When people are marrying everyday

La'creamie said...

All this small children chronicles

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

Dear poster, let her go. At 27 you should be more concerned about making enough money. In 2years you will be 29 and that is still young. Your ex is looking for an already made man so free her and don't be rushed into anything. Nigerian girls and marriage are like bread and butter. Someone who will build with you will come. Just let her go. Remember she is already sleeping with her fiance and go for test yourself in case they were already sleeping together before you saw her in June. I have broken hearts, mine has been broken as well but give time time to heal you. Good luck.

karen jessy said...

And so?isnt that 28years?how many girls married below 28years?especially if you went to university,Nysc and all, they are very few

Anonymous said...

Poster, the only thing she did wrong was stringing you along while making marriage plans with someone else, she should have broken up with you.
You on the other hand, did not put yourself in her shoes and take her hint about wanting to get married seriously, 2018 you say?
She felt you were not serious, ready and taking her for granted. A bird in hand, is worth 20 in the bush.
If you don't take anything away from this, next time you find someone you want to marry, don't sit around put a ring on it.
By the way, she is gone for good. She is just stringing you along. There was no prophecy and she has been dating the guy for a while as her back up.
He was the side bobo, but beat you to it by putting a ring on it.
I will advice you to concentrate on your career and trade and make a hella money, so you can find one pretty babe, so when next she sees you, she go bow. The best revenge is success. Make a success of your life and watch her regret her actions. You will be fine.

Anonymous said...

Many are mad, few are on medication.you are not only stupid, you are wicked as well and ,as for your Olosho gf, she don chop witch long time.
When you are together she was the one that wanted marriage by fire by force, now it was the new guy that rushed her into marriage.
So you are ready to marry a woman that gilted you and ready to break her marrige/intro for you?
You see on wensday chronicle,i thought i saw grade A oloriburuku,but now let me introduce to you all grade A++ Oloriburuku .Both of you are birds of same feather

Anonymous said...

I concur to that because sometimes the age gap might not be much but the goals might be different especially in Africa where getting married is the highest achievement for ladies (quite unfortunate)... The guy should put his life back together and move on..good things fall apart for better things to take shape though 2018 sounds quite far but God knows best

Anonymous said...

Long courtship ain't good. If you loved her that much you would have married her. I have friends that married while their husband's were your age mate.I married early as well and was not working till after my first child and we survived on my husband's income only. Today I earn a fat salary, hubby is doing well, we have our own house etc. Let her go dear as there is no need wasting her time. Look for a younger girl that can wait 5 years for you since you're not ready

Anonymous said...

Long courtship ain't good. If you loved her that much you would have married her already. I have friends that married while their husband's were your age mate.I married early as well and was not working till after my first child and we survived on my husband's income only. Today I earn a fat salary, hubby is doing well, we have our own house etc. Let her go dear as there is no need wasting her time. Look for a younger girl that can wait 5 years for you since you're not ready

Anonymous said...

Lol

blackmartins said...

Eh ya move on with your life and face your future...

Queen Jay said...

My dear just move on, the deed has been done.

Oyin said...

Awww poster,I really feel sorry for you but suit has happened, you have to move on. I know what it means to be heartbroken so I can imagine how you feel. However, you need to heal and the first step is to put an end to all forms of communication with your ex and take yourself off her social media and tell your mutual friends and family members not to update you on anything going on in her life.
She's about to be someone else's wife and the fact that she was planning an introduction ceremony and was still having sex with you says alot about her. You're the lucky one here, you didn't end up with her.
My advice, mourn the relationship for as long as you want to but please don't be reckless while at it so you don't end up impregnating a girl u don't like or even get an STILL or something worse.
If you're religious, pray alot for her, that helped me with my healing. I was supposed to get married then he met someone else and it was just messy. Everytime I wanted to wish them evil, I'll pray for them and even though it was hard at first, it got easier and after like 6 months, I was fine.
I'm sure you'll be fine poster. GOD will bring you a woman who'll love u the way you're meant to be loved and whose plans will be in line with yours.
E hugs dear

Anonymous said...

This is practically my story. Stuff like this makes turns good guys into monsters.
I'm scared that I may become one monster after this. The whole thing is still very raw and I'm gonna savour this pain and see where it leads me. One thing is sure I'm never gonna trust any woman again

labsy said...

Eyah sorry abt the heartbreak,life can indeed be unfair at times .but all thingd work together for good.wish u da best

MOTHER NATURE........ said...

Na wa oh!

Mao Akuh said...

Okwu nkasiobi.

Anonymous said...

Why are you so bitter? Why kick someone who is already down. Abeg advise is not by force, if you can't be nice, then don't comment.

Anonymous said...

Why are you so bitter? Why kick someone who is already down. Abeg advise is not by force, if you can't be nice, then don't comment.

Dominion said...

LMAO. What has Buhari got to do with this? Poster, pls move on with your life, your own woman that will make you forget this babe and thank God you never married her will come your way soon. Just stop crying so you will see her.

Anonymous said...

Love can conquer everything but I guess not in your case. The secret to my long term relationship is that I kept my parents out of it until the guy was ready. Introducing the guy to your parents when he is not ready is like a killer to the relationship. Poster move on!

Anonymous said...

Moving on is not poison, the poison is not Breaking up with d poster before getting hooked to another.

Dominion said...

Poster, follow this advice.

karma?...please said...

Poster I understand love, and I also know that love endures all, it's patient if she loves you she would have waited for 2yrs. What u guys had wasn't love it was 'patching-ship' as in she was patching with you. Love will soon hit you and my sweetheart you will know it. STOP TALKING TO HER. E-hugs and kisses

Anonymous said...

Exactly! Move on already and keep On thanking God.

karma?...please said...

Poster abeg next time don't keep a girl waiting, 2yrs nawa. Abeg make plenty money so that in that 2yrs u will have your choice. 2YRS? I bind

Tuscany said...

This is the sane thing that happened to me.
Mine she called me and told me she got engaged sm hours earlier, i just laughed cos i thought she was joking. Omo that was how i used my sisters phone to check ig (cos i wasnt on ig) and lo and behold, it was true.
I stayed for like 10days and didnt eat. She even told me same story of not loving the guy and all that she was willing to run away from home and come 2 me in abuja.
Truth is shes just trying to make u feel better guy, shes nt leaving that guy. You will think shes helpless but just move on. Truth is u wont die.
How will u think your family and friends will look at her(that shes a betrayal and can leave anytime) and u (you a second fiddle).
The cons outweigh the pros greatly

redbotafly said...

U r nt stupid u r an uhiuki.move on already u deserve beta.

redbotafly said...

U r nt stupid u r an uhiuki.move on already u deserve beta.

Queen said...

Mumu guy.. This is the story of I and my ex. Too emotional and always saying I should wait. When he traveled to 'the abroad' to hustle, I just gave myself brain. With all the stories I read on this blog, i felt guyman will go and marry there. Met my hubby the same day I broke up with him and got engaged on my ex's birthday. He called later in the day and was crying that I forgot his birthday. I later found out the eediot got married like 4 months after he got there and we were still dating. This was the same person that sent me engagement ring and wanted to tie down my destiny.

Miss Ferragamo said...

stop all communication and let her go. She made up her mind the day she introduced the other man to her family.
It gives me great pleasure knowing men go through heartbreak too.😈

Anonymous said...

Alicia so he should contact you now right?

Lady T said...

What is it with the insults. What's wrong with marrying above 28? Isn't it better to marry at the right time to the right person?
And who is the author of aunty gwegs? The timing for everyone is not the same. Better to marry right than to marry in a rush and to wrong person.
I see this lady in question writing chronicles in a year or two. Marriage is different ball game.

Poster, may God help you heal and make the right decision when it is time. The best and fastest way to heal is to forgive and release your ex. People make mistakes maybe this is just one of such. Take care and all the best.

BLUNT said...

Very sensible comment. Not all those razz, angry and frustrated women up there spewing venom. Young man just ask simple question o. See as some of them dey even lay curses on am!

Miss Ferragamo said...

Hian Lara are you related to the girl?How is he stupid? The girl was wrong for not telling him and now she's trying to mess up his life by proclaiming love to him. Love is patient,2years isn't too long to wait besides, no one is saying it can't happen before 2018,she could have told him she was getting married to someone else. Abeg she should face her "hearthrob" and let the guy be.
Poster you sef be mumu,do you want her back so she could break you down completely? Receive sense mbok.

Anonymous said...

Poster, that ur gf can kill.shes very selfish. Forget about her totally and move on with ur life. You will heal with time and even find someone better. Heartbreak is not d end of life. Everyone has gone through it and came out stronger.

Anonymous said...

She prolly read advice from this blog. Lmaoo! Sorry oh. That is how they keep deceiving women. (im a woman). Love is very important in a marriage. 65% love money 15 % and family compatibility,etc, the rest. But here they sound like money is everything. That gal has no right to jilt you like that. The females here act like men have no heart and should be maltreated. Frustrated housewives. Im sure they'll still find a way to blame you. Your economy Is bad. If its here in the US, a guy of your age would be self sufficient enough to live a normal life but naija gals dont want to know. Little wonder guys there engage in unscrupulous activities. Those drug guys u see, this is the cause here.

Anonymous said...

Ure so vile. That is how you guys land in the hands of cheats and wife beaters. See her mouth like time waster. So he is bad for being human?

Anonymous said...

Its not d end of life.... Everyone has gone thru heart break in life. Getting closer to God, he will heal you then start doin things that makes you happy. Life is too short for u to put ur happiness in someone's hand

Anonymous said...

I love you Doppelganger, you always know the right words to share, God bless you much Dear

Anonymous said...

This is what makes rich men use women. They have no real love. I know of a lady dating a young lecturer in Umuahia then. The guy wanted to marry her and said she should wait a while. Fine couple oh. Next thing, gal pulled stunt. Ran to one older bros in the name of marriage. Marry fast. Marry big. The man was so heartbroken.

Chick no last one year for the marriage. They even keep calling ex like this chick did. Luckily 4 the yeye gal, after divorcing the wife maiming guy after big traditional marriage she ran back to young lecturer to beg for forgiveness. The guy, in love like this poster and still unable to love another chick took her back. They've been married for 11 years now with 2 kids and doing fine, even going on good holidays with family.

Some are not that lucky oh. Either they get pregnant for the older hurry hurry marriage guy and bring chronicles here or the moment they decide to come back, dude is already taken like Toke. Na to wise before making decision.

Anonymous said...

The wise book says every heartbreak leads you closer to the person ordained for you! Poster trust time heals all wounds! If I can forget my boyfriend that shattered me, trust me you can forget this girl! You are still young! Focus on your career and make something out of your life! It's ok to cry and wet your pillow at nights, but don't let it not last longer than it should! Ok! Gerrup! Wipe off those tears! And be somebody!

Bank

Anonymous said...

All the while she was putting pressure on u, the other guy was in the picture. Now, that they have done introduction, it is over o. If you keep putting your mind there, ur broken heart will be crushed. Get another girlfriend n stop crying

Anonymous said...

Typical igbo air head. Thats how naija women come back to cheat with their ex and bring home bastard babies. What is stagnant about the relationship. Cant you women work? Una wan sit down as oriaku. If the gal had a good career, she wont want to make that decision with a fat fatherly man. Na poverty still. Keep talking rubbish, you will land with importer wey no sabi speak English like Linda Eze and end up looking for sugar son, lesbian and all, camping on this blog cos ure not contented

Baby Oku said...

Honestly too many fustrated bitches on this blog......so 28 is too old too marry? Is marriage a must? Why must your family pressure you to marry and you agree, then marry someone u don't love? That is bondage...poster she did not love you, she is now married so move on let her live with the consequences of her choices.....a guy fucks you for years don't marry you una go insult am, this one was honest enough to tell her the truth and " I must to marry syndrome no let her see road" .......ther is no age too old too marry when u meet the right person. There are good marriages in this life and yes it can happen to you, but u do it with sense and your eyes open. Not marry cos mum is putting pressure cos all her friends children don marry or all my mates don marry....that's freaking bullshit

DonMayor said...

Boy grow up. Define yourself and forget about the girl

Anonymous said...

First time commenting here and I'm only commenting because this Issue hits close to home for me. Most of us don't understand the kind of pressure girls have to deal with especially from their moms how have great Influence on them when It comes to Marriage. A lot Nigerian moms have sent their daughters into loveless and bad marriages due to all these pressure about getting married so, I wouldn't blame the girl entirely, we all know how much Influence moms have on their daughters, she could have handled It better though. It's obvious she's still in love with the poster and I would have him forgive her and take her back If she really wants to come back but right now, he shouldn't put his heart Into anything and just believe that It's over so even If she doesn't come back eventually, there will be no renewed heartbreak.

Anonymous said...

I wonder how some guys would open their eyes and be making marriage plans with a girl knowing she's in love with someone else, It's the new guy I pity most in all these sha. He should brace himself up to be cheated on

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

You don't believe in such things (prophecy) but you want her to see your pastor......

Anonymous said...

You need Jesus. For God has not given you a spirit of fear.

Anonymous said...

The same woman that says dont marry a broke man is talking shit!!

Olufemi Atinmo said...

Poster I beg you, please wipe your eyes. Stand up and dust yourself off. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

You are going to realise soon that you dodged a bullet. She is a stupid girl. She wants to marry someone she my a few months ago and 'doesn't love'?. She thinks marriage is moin moin?. Please leave her to her date. She will SUFFER!

Anonymous said...

Pained much did are you in similar situation on the girls side I mean

Amacastel said...

Poster move on with ur life accept her pleading keepon making out with her try get another gf may 2or 3 bebs. Pls love ur job and bizness cos love doesn't exit in Africa our love is with benefit. Wakeup boy

IVORY said...

Exactly what i did too. Didn't want pressure of any sort,so i kept him away from family till he was ready.

Mz complicated said...

You have always been the side guy that's y ur relationship with her na so so patch patch. Better move on. I'm single oo. Hahaha

memmie said...

Be strong for yourself. It may not make sense now but it will soon. Let her go, she doesn't deserve you jo. Your babe will come. A lot of us have been through serious heartbreaks and we survived. Don't be stupid and believe her lies. Work on getting her off your mind. It will take a while but it ll happen and you are not weak. All in all, usr your brain biko and wake up.

Anonymous said...

This is exactly my story,but am the lady here.Guy has been begging and even his parent are not left out. He is claiming the lady hypnotised him or so ,and from a reliable source I heard they've broken up already .I'm still watching him sha. I can relate with some of the advise here.

Anonymous said...

This is exactly my story,but am the lady here.Guy has been begging and even his parent are not left out. He is claiming the lady hypnotised him or so ,and from a reliable source I heard they've broken up already .I'm still watching him sha. I can relate with some of the advise here.

Anonymous said...

That's why as a guy, it's better not to date your mate, go for someone you are ahead of academically and/or financially, reason is apart from pressure that comes to ladies from their family, they also have their biological clock ticking,you said 2018, by then she will be 28 which is not bad for marriage, but let's assume things don't now go as planned and 2018 becomes 2021 and she's still waiting, you are still fine, but you can see time would have gone for her or if things don't now work out, she will have to start over, I actually understand where she's coming from, same thing happened between my husband and his ex, they were age mates, both 29, she was done with medical schools, he was just done with masters looking for job, the girl was pushing 30 with loads of pressure from home, eventually she caved in and married an already made guy, when I met hubby and he was gisting me, I explained to him and he saw reason,anyways I was 23 then,so I had enough time to wait for hubby to hammer, we eventually married months to his 34th birthday, imagine if the other lady was still waiting or they now even break up before then, where would she have started from again? So poster, dry ur tears, and look for a young girl that is not in a hurry so you can have time to hustle well.

Anonymous said...

A 27 year old man should be dating a 21 year old girl. What were you doing with a 26 year old anyway.?Or more precisely with a girl who is just a year younger than you? Your thinking vibes won't match and that's what has played out in your relationship. That ship has set sail dude. It wasn't yours.Stop wasting your tears on the phone. She took her decision. A callous one at that. Let her be. Concentrate on building your career, your pocket and making yourself a quality man.You will fall in love again. This time, choose carefully. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

A 27 year old man should be dating a 21 year old girl. What were you doing with a 26 year old anyway.?Or more precisely with a girl who is just a year younger than you? Your thinking vibes won't match and that's what has played out in your relationship. That ship has set sail dude. It wasn't yours.Stop wasting your tears on the phone. She took her decision. A callous one at that. Let her be. Concentrate on building your career, your pocket and making yourself a quality man.You will fall in love again. This time, choose carefully. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

Anon 16:09... U cray mehn... Lol

Anonymous said...

I just pity for this guy next babe after him heart heal turn concrete

DOPE NAIJA said...

I have taken my time to read thru comments and advice here, and i have come to understand the reason why intelligent people seek God and apply wisdom, only a fool follow the chorus in a market place, you must have your mind intact on what you want to buy and what you are willing to pay, what i am saying in essence is that, this same group of people would have been the one calling the guy all sorts of names if it was the girl, that was sharing her story that she has been dating this gal for yrs and he is not ready to commit, am sure you all will advice her to break up with him and find some else ASAP, even Stella will offer advice on what are you doing with a broke ass man, and now the guy is here with his own side of story, everybody is saying why date your mate, why are you wasting her time, she is evil, bla bla bla, everybody has an opinion on the influence of mother and family, marriage clock and so many advice depending on his or her own state of mind, but the truth in all of this is that, nobody has the monopoly of wisdom. only God has the final and last say, Guy forget all the many talk here and pay attention to that silent voice in your head, and pray separate your emotions from reality and you will find the answer.

Ekunie Ify said...

LA creamie you nailed it

Deluna G said...

You mustn't love them back, be like the posters ex, pick one and marry seems its marriage u want.

Olaide Davies said...

So men too experience heartbreak in fact, I'm happy to know this.Poster sowie o.

Olaide Davies said...

No mind am olobuushun somebody.You want a girl to wait for you for 2yrs when there is no guarantee that you will marry her. You're not serious

Olaide Davies said...

Lol

Olaide Davies said...

I like this advice.

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