NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
HUSBAND FLIRTING WITH HOUSE HELP
Thank you for giving some of us a platform like this to rant and also seek for advice. Actually, I have nobody to talk to about this because DH hates anything that happens between us ever leaving the home.
Please for the sake of privacy, don't display my email address.
I have been happily married for a year and few months now. Yes, happily because my husband is the most caring, generous and thoughtful man (no exaggerations) but as much as this is a blessing, I feel it is also my curse.
I just had a baby and there was no "omugwo" from either of our parents (story for another day), so I had to get a maid after a while to help out with house chores. We both treat the maid well believing if we do, she will be nice to our child.
But recently, my husband has gone out of his way to be extra, extra nice to the girl, paying her compliments even when I am there. Using words like "I" instead of the usual "we" when addressing her, for example, "I will enrol you for another waec, I will train you in school, I appreciate all that you do, this or that" etc. He even told me that he has dreamt about her several times trying to seduce him. He is concerned about how she feels and so on.
Now some people might think this is jealousy but this is more like a red flag. Did I mention that this is a "19 year" old girl who we both initially didn't like because of several reasons, few of which includes: tying towels when hubby is around, wearing unbuttoned shirts when bending in front of him, rude and arrogant to me but pretends in front of hubby.
All of which we corrected her with love and she doesn't do any of these anymore. Whenever I try to tell DH that there's no need for him to stay up as late as 1-2am watching TV with the maid while she irons, pays her unnecessary compliments; he gets really annoyed, when we have a fight, I hear words like "is she not a human being?" Funny thing is, she seems to be enjoying all of the attention; she now talks like me, acts like me and has even started dressing like me.
Should I be worried about all these?
Dear people, I need mature advice, bash me if you want but after all the stories I have heard about these so called maids; I am scared of going against all my instincts and losing my home. What do I do because I think I have started been a little bit harsh on her.
I don't want her to see me as someone blocking her progress and poison me one day oh!
Take this slap to reset your brain so you can act quickly before househelp collects your husband or becomes co-wife.
RECEIVE SENSE WITH THIS SLAP IN JESUS NAME!
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
MARRIAGE PROPOSAL AT 19
I Am nineteen years old, in my third year in the university and my boyfriend is twenty_five years,a doctor and he has asked me to marry him and I don't know what to say.
My parents are indifferent. They re willing to support my decision 100percent.
So I just someone to advice me.
Why dont you agree to his proposal but tell him the wedding will hold after you graduate from school.
Dont mind those that will come here cussing you out that you are too young,you are not oooh.
Just make sure you know what you are doing cause you sound kinda naive sweetie.
I pray you get good advice but most importantly that you know what you want...Starting early isnt bad at all.