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Monday, 15 August 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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  NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

HUSBAND FLIRTING WITH HOUSE HELP

Hello Stella,
Thank you for giving some of us a platform like this to rant and also seek for advice. Actually, I have nobody to talk to about this because DH hates anything that happens between us ever leaving the home.

Please for the sake of privacy, don't display my email address.
I have been happily married for a year and few months now. Yes,  happily because my husband is the most caring, generous and thoughtful man (no exaggerations) but as much as this is a blessing, I feel it is also my curse. 

Here's why:

I just had a baby and there was no "omugwo" from either of our parents (story for another day),  so I had to get a maid after a while to help out with house chores. We both treat the maid well believing if we do, she will be nice to our child. 

But recently, my husband has gone out of his way to be extra, extra nice to the girl, paying her compliments even when I am there. Using words like "I" instead of the usual "we" when addressing her, for example, "I will enrol you for another waec, I will train you in school, I appreciate all that you do, this or that" etc. He even told me that he has dreamt about her several times trying to seduce him. He is concerned about how she feels and so on.

Now some people might think this is jealousy but this is more like a red flag. Did I mention that this is a "19 year" old girl who we both initially didn't like because of several reasons, few of which includes: tying towels when hubby is around, wearing unbuttoned shirts when bending in front of him, rude and arrogant to me but pretends in front of hubby. 

All of which we corrected her with love and she doesn't do any of these anymore. Whenever I try to tell DH that there's no need for him to stay up as late as 1-2am watching TV with the maid while she irons, pays her unnecessary compliments; he gets really annoyed, when we have a fight, I hear words like "is she not a human being?" Funny thing is, she seems to be enjoying all of the attention; she now talks like me, acts like me and has even started dressing like me. 

Should I be worried about all these? 



Dear people, I need mature advice, bash me if you want but after all the stories I have heard about these so called maids; I am scared of going against all my instincts and losing my home. What do I do because I think I have started been a little bit harsh on her. 

I don't want her to see me as someone blocking her progress and poison me one day oh!


Take this slap to reset your brain so you can act quickly before househelp collects your husband or becomes co-wife.
RECEIVE SENSE WITH THIS SLAP IN JESUS NAME!




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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
MARRIAGE PROPOSAL AT 19


I Am nineteen years old, in my third year in the university and my boyfriend is twenty_five years,a doctor and he has asked me to marry him and I don't know what to say.
My parents are indifferent. They re willing to support my decision 100percent.

So I just someone to advice me.


*Wow,seems you are already sexually active right?
Why dont you agree to his proposal but tell him the wedding will hold after you graduate from school.
Dont mind those that will come here cussing you out that you are too young,you are not oooh.
Just make sure you know what you are doing cause you sound kinda naive sweetie.

I pray you get good advice but most importantly that you know what you want...Starting early isnt bad at all.




210 comments:

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Anonymous said...

Pay her off and send her out of your home.

karen Gideon said...

@ poster 1 Pls send that maid of urs away, Infact as quickly as possible before u hear story that tonch lolz.

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

@1,wat are u waiting for, throw her out of ur house already, and for ur info, ur hubby is already fucking ur maid, throwing her out will be difficult, don't u or ur hubby ve relatives,u should ve sent her packing when u noticed she had a seductive spirit.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 what is wrong with you. Ur marriage is still young what are u waiting for 2 send that ur maid packing. Oh wait until u starts sharing ur husband with her abi if @all she haven't started sleeping with him already. I said send her packing with immediate effect.

Damilola Okunlola said...

Poster one:send that maid packing Asap before the forbidden happens. Act fast madam. Poster 2: if you love him and you think you are emotionally mature for marriage, go for it girl

Gbenshers club said...

I'v bin tryn 2 comment wit my Id on sdk bt thank God I can do dat nw.

Doppelgänger said...

Poster 1 what sort of man are you married to though? Of course the girl has seen a fertile ground and at 19 she is not naive. Even if your husband is just doing it out of love, she'd read meaning into it and capitalize on it.
It's your man you need to talk to and tell him the girl has started to disrespect you. Tell him with love and act really hurt about it.
Start gradually and find a way to make her do those disrespectful things when he is around.
I don't see why he should be taking sides with her against his own wife.
See sleep with two eyes open from now on.
I find it really strange that you are this calm and it's probably because you fear your husband.


Poster 2 25 years old man? Hmm what can I say, age is just a number right? I'd advise that you both chill though and experience life a little more before you take the huge step.

Blackberry said...

Poster one, look for an excuse n send d girl away ASAP, I won't be surprised if ur horseband has tasted her cookie', she's 19 n gullible, get someone that comes n goes, do not keep a live in smally just yet!
Na wa o! Some men sef.

Dietitian Nezz! said...

Poster 1,send that house maid back yo where she came from!
She will soon take your place like play like play.
If you are a housewife,you can do without a maid...look for an elderly woman to be your nanny or a mature lady who comes in the morning and leaves in the evening.
please while sending her back,make sure u don't disclose it to your dh cos he may not agree.You need God's wisdom.
Poster two,graduate from school first and you can then accept his proposal.

em jay said...

Poster1 I swear you need a heavy slap that will tear that your mouth, package her things and put it on her head, upon all the stories of maids here and there, you carry your two left legs to hire one?
Do it fast, and make sure your hubby isn't aware, or else he will give her shelter elsewhere.
Hiannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Poster 1,
You must be a newbie on this blog for you to bring in a grown up girl to your home in the name of househelp...
Who does that in this time and age?...nne,the ealier you send that girl packing,the better for you!...
I'm sure she has started gbenshing your husband already...hmmmm....

Poster 2,
Wow!,...
There is nothing wrong in getting married on time...infact,that's the best gift you can give your self!...
Marry your boyfriend if you love him and thank me later!...

Moncoeur behbeh said...

Poster 1- Mbok send her away and get an elderly woman to come take care of your child and help with chores, efe edi blocking her progress? Nduk
Poster 2- Listen to Stella's advice.

Blackberry said...

Poster two, na calf love dey worry you, wait till ur are 22 , n ur so called doc bf should be mature atleast.

Loveme Jeje said...

Poster 1 you don bring calabar housemaid into your home. Dont you know she came with her seductive spirit to entice your husband. She came with a mission. I wonder why you women will not seek the face of God first before bringing in anyone into your house. You would have carried her into your church to pray for her against anything to harm you or your household. Abeg pay her 2 months salary. Delete any number she has on her phone. Find out if your husband number is among ooo. Make sure anything that belongs to you or your household she did not take.

Poster 2... You are still young at 19 years but if you can handle the stress of for better for worst GO AHEAD.

Anonymous said...

19 years old. Abeg marry am sharply. Omotola married @ 18 nd she s doing well. U guy has shown how responsible he is. He s doctor @ 25 wen his mate never pass jamb. Go and marry him ASAP. Yes dis s an auntu gwen gwen who wished somebody told her dat @ 20.

Anonymous said...

Poster one - All these signs already and you are still dulling? Girls are not smiling o... Jus pay her off already and manage ur home urself before you will send another chronicle.
Poster two - Well... Starting early is nice o. Hope you are ready?

Anonymous said...

Poster one - All these signs already and you are still dulling? Girls are not smiling o... Jus pay her off already and manage ur home urself before you will send another chronicle.
Poster two - Well... Starting early is nice o. Hope you are ready?

Doppelgänger said...

Poster 1 oh boy I really want to say more but please ehn start to pray and find a way to get that girl away from your home. Do not maltreat her because it will only get your husband to show more concern and make him mad at you.
19 year old is a woman o and your husband admitting to seeing her in his dreams, hold a huge connotation that you shouldn't take lying low.
Embark on a fast, do not fight her like I already said. Let her be the one to wake up one day and say she no longer wants to stay.
This kind of situation is not normal at all. A man ordinarily should not have any business with the help. It's any woman's job to concern herself with that.

BECKY'S DIARY said...

1) Hian! Eveb when it's glaring, we still stop to ask questions we already know the answers to

That girl needs to leave your house asap! Like yesterday sef
Dont tell hubby you want her gone cos he'll never agree to let her go.

But wake up one day and start searching for one of your expensive jewelry(make sure it is well hidden by you).. then start screaming that the silly maid took it and must pay. Tell hubby either you call the police or she leaves your home immediately.

By this time, she'll be begging that she didn't take it. But don't even listen, whatever happens oo. Just be sure that girl leaves your house in a disgraceful way, so your hubby won't even have the mind to go after her ever again.

Start taking care of your baby yourself, you can do it!! #my opinion

Mama Afrika said...

P1 what are you still waiting for? Please send her packing like this minute! You dont even need your husband's consent for this. Wtf?? Shine your eyes and do the needful pls your marriage is too young for this sort of distraction.

P2 age is just a number. But pls just tell him to hold on with the marriage proper until you graduate. No carry belle o!

Anonymous said...

Send her out of your house immediately but then your man will still be sleeping with her outside your house, why did u even bring in a grown up as a maid, ladies stop that

BECKY'S DIARY said...

2) Cool down and face your education please. Don't rush into anything to avoid mistakes
If u are my sister, i'd advice you to finish schooling first, get a job then get married. I wish you guys well

brown suga said...

Na your house o madam take charge
I wish that slap was real

when hubby has left
pack her load and drive her to the motor park, pay her Tfare down to her village street
Nonsense

P2.....Go ahead and marry if u love him abeg

Ada Nwanbueze said...

Poster 2 marry your man oh. It's not too early so long as you are sure he's the one, and you both love each other . I got married @ 20 I was still in school then. I graduated while in my hubby's house.

DIP3 said...

Poster one send the maid away asap,it's your home and no maid. Has the right to make you feel "unsettled",as for ur hubby #coughs#
Poster 2,my dear face for education and still kip your man,tell him to be a lil patient.love u stells

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Poster 1- 😂😂😂😂😂
You're just a mumu wife. House maid gives you attitude and you correct her in love? That should be the day she leaves!! Rubbish. Correct who? Someone on housing, feeding and paying... And you come give me attitude? You're not even ready to work.
Where did this girl come from? Was it your husband that brought her in? Cos if he did, then she's his babe he just brought in and that's why she gave u attitude.
If not, she's an agent on a mission to take your place. So sit there and be asking us jamb question until she poisons your food and takes over your home.
Sense is free and given to all. But many just don't use it. This is so interesting really. Can you even run your home. Should you be married? Remember the parable of the 10 virgins? You my dear are the sleeping virgin.

Blossom said...

Poster 1: all signs are there for you to see so what are you expecting we say to you again. Pls pay her ahead and let her go. Why will you even employ a 19yrold in the first place.

Your hubby is into her and if you don't act,it may metamophorse into a relationship so act fast. Tell you hubby you are not comfortable with her again and plead with him that you will get somebody soon. Maybe a little girl or even no one. Can't you manage? Shey it's just one child for the now? Your marriage is young so pls do all you can to save it. I wish you well.

Poster 2: are you ready for marriage? I mean mentally ready? If the answer to that is yes,no need to rush,like Stella advised,graduate first but if your bf can't wait,then go on. I don't see why he wouldn't wait till you graduate.

Sweetheart said...

Poster 1
You better get that lady out of your house ASAP.
Pay her off and tell her to leave one day when hubby's not around. If truly something was building up between them, he might be angry but you guys will be fine and if there was nothing, i guess you both will just laugh over it!

Poster 2
If you love him, can handle his excesses, why not??? Just like Stella said, you might hold the wedding a lil till you graduate and see if things will still be the same. If he loves you, waiting till you graduate wouldn't be an issue. All the best darl!

Iman Bella said...

Poster One; Don't dull ohhhh....., I wonder what that girl is still doing in your house. How are you even sure your husband has not started touching her or even sleeping with her. Find a way to evict her out of your house and be fast about it.
Poster two; At 19, you're not too young to marry so long you know you can juggle married life with school runs. All the best

James said...

Poster 1, you said you horseband is a nice. But you want him to a wicked man to the girl .
Try and put yourself in the girls shoes.
Unless your horseband is irresponsible. Without any moral and lacks self control that the only way he will gbensh the girl.

I once gbensh my ex gf sister but I stopped immediately I found out.
How we started is a story for another day. I won't have done it if I know they are related .

Ms. Nicey said...

Madam Poster 1, siddon look na dog name.. stay there make pant dey wear u until house girl go become madam.
Poster 2: I think you should go for it.. and I hope he supports your life goals and dreams too.

ZIONA said...

please send that girl out of ur house,she is planing to take over ur home,this one that she is already mimicking u,ur hubby has a crush on her its a pity he cant help himself,please help him by pursuing her out and make sure u collect her sim card so he cant call her ,if he is saying no to pursuing her better make a very big accusations,i mean use any means to get that husband snatcher out of ur home,cause this domestics helps are so fertile,just touch alone na belle.

please finish school first then u can marry u are still young dont go and trap urself inside marriage now.accept his proposal but wait till u are done and see if u still feel the same way about him at that time,u dont seem convinced cause u are coming here for advice.please take it easy.

Anonymous said...

Your maid is hotter than you in the eyes of your hubby at the moment.

nzube izuu said...

P1, better send that your House help home before she becomes your husband's bed help. If you must get a help, make use of a nanny, preferably an oldie or take one of your Hubby's relatives. Akwara no get respect biko.

Anonymous said...

Send her out when hubby isn't around, make sure she doesn't have his number to call him, change her sim if he had her number, just send her out of ur house before she breaks ur home

Mary said...

Poster 2: what do you want? We all come from diff background and school of thought. So what do you want?

James said...

Poster 2. Follow ur instincts. Just make sure he is the right man for u.
Some women marry at 35 and still marry the wrong partner

Anonymous said...

Ok

TM David-West said...

Poster 1: The part of"talk like me", "dress like me" etc. reminded me of Gwen Stefani and hubby and nanny. BE WISE. Take charge before you lose.

Your husband is already attracted to her. And that is the truth. Get rid of the ant-infested firewood before you lose your fire.

DeoFavente said...

Oh my God!!! Poster 1,you better send that girl out of your house,why is this even here as a chronicle? You should send this in as a testimony after you have sent her away. House work no dey kill,pursue that girl sharply till you get another one.

ehiacys smart said...

Poster one is still here asking questions. OK continue

Anonymous said...

Poster 1- Sidon dere make paent de wear you, dnt find a way of sending the daughter of jezebel out, and cnt u look fr a younger person. And Wv wat is on ground now, trust me your hubby won't accept her leaving ur home, so be redy fr battle.

God dey said...

Post I decree, receive opolo in Jesus name

Martins Aboy said...

@poster 2,Marriage isnt specifically all about age dear..

Your mindset,orientation,understading,perseverance,endurance etc are some of the qualities you have to look into before you venture into it..

So if you are 35 and still dont know anything about "TOLERANCE" etc;you arent ready to be A wife..

So dear;its all up to you to take A reflection of yourself and know if you are ready for this or not..

@MARTINS ABOY

Anonymous said...

Quietly let her go. Do it once your husband is at work.

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

Poster 2. I was once in ur shoe and today no regrets. I mean no regrets.. If you see me and my first son, u will think he is my parents last born. its only when i tell u that he is my son thats when u will know even thou i got married around that age range it didnt stop me from pursuing my dreams cos hubby is very very supportive and was even forcing me to go back to school and was willing to train me at any level. Na me self dey talk say i no wan read again cos motherhood and schooling no easy at all.
Just pray about it and follow ur heart or beg him to wait till you graduate. I repeat if you love him and he loves you too and he has that qualities you want in a man. Biko get married. People will tell u that you are young nd havent enjoy life bla Bla . what is it in life that you need to enjoy when u can Still do those things with ur man. What exactly are those things, I guess dating okeke today, dating okafor tomorrow, going to club . poster you can still do those things with ur man and still be happy.

You might decide to wait and enjoy life at the ene of the day, the people that will be coming for you will be those you dnt even like or dream of living with

Forget about age. Marriage is not about age but maturity or haven't you seen a 30 yrs old woman behaving like a 15 yrs old girl so thats it.

Think twice and most importantly follow your heart

My opinion.

Runs back to lecture hall

Olaide Davies said...

That slap is not enough for poster 1. She needs to beaten with koboko.You better send her away now!!! Otherwise she will get pregnant for your husband because I'm sure he is sleeping with her already.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1. Pls get her as far away from your family as you can and make it fast too.

Pending her leaving, pls no more late night ironing, if hubby wants to stay late to watch tv let him do it alone, don't ignore your instinct pls and don't be too tired to perform with n for your hubby in bed. I pray for God's unity and love in your marriage, amen.

Julit said...

You're asking for mature advice? Why is she still there Aunty.

BluntIjebuChic'*GiFTED'* said...

Poster 1..I double the slap stella dash you!!like WTH*she is a co-wife already and you're asking**tripple the slap again*gbosa gbosa gbosa*oya do needful
Poster 2..ask God for direction cos if I talk na*member of bvn will remind me of why I haven't been wifed..

LE prestige cream world.COO32848F .08034205152 said...

Poster 1,she will soon take over your home..kindly let her go with love.


Poster 2,congratulations in advance.follow your heart because he is not too old for you...

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

Poster1,send that househelp away and make sure she goes faraway from your home
If she has a phone change her number without her notice so she won't be able to contact your hubby when she's gone.
Act fast madam before your hubby starts gbenshing her if he has not started already.
Poster2, you're still in school,but if you feel you're ready for that phase of your life then marry him.
You're not too young to get married
Not at all.

lacreme said...

Poster 1: I think u should follow you instincts.NB: your instinct is the inner knowledge bubbling up from a wellspring of wisdom within,not only helps you survive but can also help u thrive.be wise dear and ask Jesus to help you in the right part.read John 14:14 . Poster 2: am so happy for you dear but I go with Stella's advice on this tell him yes he should wait till you graduate am sure if he loves you he will wait.Good luck

Mao Akuh said...

You better send her away and make sure she doesn't have your husband' s number to call him or even know his office add. My dear, its even obvious she has started sleeping with him or your hubby touching her indirectly. Send her away tomorrow if all you typed are true before he comes back or do you want a co-wife?
As soon as your hubby leaves for work, send her to the market and use that opportunity to check her stuff if your hubby's boxer or your inner wears are in her bag, then as soon as she comes back, tell her to pack her things while you watch then pay her off immediately and if you don't have money, borrow.

1. Lucky you but finish your studies, get something doing even if its a small business before you say I DO.

lacreme said...

Poster 1: I think u should follow you instincts.NB: your instinct is the inner knowledge bubbling up from a wellspring of wisdom within,not only helps you survive but can also help u thrive.be wise dear and ask Jesus to help you in the right part.read John 14:14 . Poster 2: am so happy for you dear but I go with Stella's advice on this tell him yes he should wait till you graduate am sure if he loves you he will wait.Good luck

Anonymous said...

A thunderous amen to that slap. U no see elderly nanny employ, na young las u go employ for ur he goat of a whoreband. And yes am I proud male that hates seeing married men misbehave.

Ehlarh said...

Poster one I hope and pray that ur maid doesn't have a phone so she doesn't communicate with hubby. Pls one day when ur hubby and the maid won't expect ,just take her to the park and send her home to where u took her from, pls make sure the bus departs in ur presence I am begging u,this same thing happened to my elder sis and before she realised it ,it was almost late but thank God, God took control. Inshort in my sis case, the hubby started buying the maid under-pants, dresses even phone kwaaaa as in better phone, to the point that if my sis talks to the girl she would eye her,I had to slap the girl one day and told her I am not my sis I won't tolerate nonsense. NNE that girl should not spend the next one week in ur house, u don't know if she is sent from hell. I wonder why u need a maid so early tho.Send her parking sharply.

Anonymous said...

Send the housemaid packing whenever your hubby is not at home

MISS TRUTH said...

Poster 1. Sack her already, I suspect your husband is about f**king her ( If he hasn't already ) This is your rival not your help. ACT NOW!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

For post 1, receive sense in sist Nkechi's voice. How can you be this naive? Pls, send her out of ur home quickly.it is so obvious she is planning on taking over your home. She has even started dressing like you,Ha! She definitely has something to do with your husband.secretly delete ur husband's phone no from her phone likewise her phone no from ur husband no and send her packing.send her packing when hubby's is not around. I wish u luck.
for post 2, don't be afraid of settling down early, there is nothing wrong.like Stella said,wait until your final year while you take that time to know him better.it's actually nice to start our early.

MISS TRUTH said...

Poster 1. I am really worried about you if this story is true. You are about loosing your man. SHE HAS TO GO! I fear that won't stop your husband from contacting her though. MAY GOD HELP YOU.

MISS TRUTH said...

To the extent of watching TV late with her? How naive can some women be??!!

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 did not even finish reading your write up. No its not a red flag @ all. You had better send her out of your house and get a nanny(elderly) lady that resumes in the morning and leave in the evening. Imagine the rubbish u typed she talks and dresses like you and like the compliments. She is now your younger wife now

Anonymous said...

@Poster,they have started having sex,quickly find a replacement like 11 or 12 years,19 years is too old or even a boy,your marriage is just too young for you to go through that. Your husband still feels guilty at the same time enjoying it,don't get to the stage that he would bring it out to your face,some men are not that nice,help him fight the temptation by looking for an excuse to send her packing.
@Poster2,of course,go ahead,you are not too young,however,know that marriages have its challenges too,be prepared emotionally. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

I join Stella to dash you another E slap. Namsense! My DH this my DH that, wetin you want make I talk against ya precious DH? Siddon there make paent dey wear you. Just go and Google how Gwen Stefanie lost her ex husband.

Poster 2 for your mind you sabi sey you never ready na why you come send this chronicle. Can't he wait for you to graduate? Do you really know him and trust him? Have you prayed to God about it? I can't make your decision for you, all you need is wisdom.

ZOMY said...

POSTER ONE : are u still asking, use wisdom to get that girl out of your home, if u do it with violence, ur hubby might noW go behind ur back to take care of her, just tell him u dont need the help anymore and if he insists, pls get her out immediately. she needs to leave ur home now!!!!!!!

POSTER TWO: the marriage institution is not a function of age, its a function of maturity and the mind. if u feel u are ready, the pls say yes, if not hold on. but from personal experience, i think u should finish school first, then prayerfully make that decision.

Anonymous said...

Enter your comment...run for your life. Send her back to where she came from

ZOMY said...

POSTER ONE: pls fling her away from your house and before you do ensure u delete her contact from hubbys fone and hubbys contact from her phone, so that they wont reach each other afterwards, then u delete her from ur house.

cakes by Bella's, Abuja. 58DA8ADF, 07080305132, instagram @cakes_by_bellas ,twitter @CBellaabuja said...

Poster 1, pls just know how you'll send her away. Make sure u do it when ur hubby is not around and make sure she doesn't have his number and delete her number from your hubby's phone. Which kind thing be that. Get a matured woman to help with chores, she should come in the morning and go in the evening. Do not ever agree to get a live in nanny ooo. All the best

Pure Nigerian said...

Narrator 1: Hold it there, how do you people write thoughtful and caring and then turn round and complain?
Do you really know what those words mean? I mean will a thoughtful and caring person not be mindful about the feelings of the significant other in his or her life; at least as a proof of what you claim they are?
Your husband uses 'I' so that the young girl knows who is really buttering her bread. Also, stays up late because he is thoughtful and caring of her feelings and not yours?

If she is dressing up and such, I don't blame her. She is at an impressionable age, and the attention from your husband won't help her and one night, they will both be vulnerable and then whatever happens cannot be erased. Receive sense.

Obum said...

Madam, is that girl being a human being to you? Pls find a way to get that her out of your house now, because wahala has started. If you husband is still against it, tell him you will call a family meeting with people from both sides being present, because you feel your home is being threatened. Also, for next time, get a much older woman to help you out at home, not a young girl. Make sure the woman is older than your husband and thoroughly check her background. I mean down to her village. Look for uncles, aunties, sisters, brothers etc because wonders are happening nowadays.

Plus, please be praying seriously o because your house girl might still try to keep in touch with him after she leaves. So help him by deleting her number from his phone or better still getting rid of the phone altogether.

Kai! I still don't get why men's sausages always dominate their thought process. #umunwokenansogbu

Anonymous said...

@ POSTER 1, You must be really innocent to see all these as okay, it is NOT OKAY

You even leave your help in the sitting room with your husband in the a.m's, if he must watch tv then and if you don't have one in your room, she should not be working at that time

I trust my husband but i don't take chances, he is not allowed to be too familiar with my help either, and he is as sweet as your husband is yet he gets my point and stays out of our way

Your husband has crossed boundaries and you are there still thinking it is okay

Listen, when your husband is not around, tell that girl to pack all her things, drive her to the park, pay for her tranport fare and give her what you owe her and tell her never to return to your house again

Then when hubby comes, you will tell him with a serious face since he wouldn't stop crossing the lines, you had to let her go

Then you get a male help or someone that comes in the morning and leaves in the evening.

Starjoy said...

Poster 1 send that maid away fast fast, you didn't mention if you are a working class lady or not but you can get a maid that resume 7am and close by 6pm to avoid same old story. Poster2 you follow stella'advice, truly you are not too young but after graduating.

Anonymous said...

Enter your comment...the age gap is not bad. If u are sure he is for real is even better to start early.

Anonymous said...

If they are already fucking, they will continue in another location when she throws her out. The root is that her DH cannot be trusted.

Adadioramma said...

I believe your house help should be your priority not your husband. How old is your baby now? Can you manage alone? Please send her packing, this is how side chick/co wife use to start. Look for a nanny (elderly woman), it will pay you than all this pretenders.

Anonymous said...

See, forget long stories, here are the points: 1. you have a right to change house helps when they threaten you and yours and even for no reason at all. Use your right. 2. She doesn't have to be your househelp and her help in life MUST not necessarily come from you family... so tell hubby there are 6/7 billion people in the world, she WILL definately find someone among them to treat her like a human being. So you don't want her services again. 3. As a woman in this country, at this present time o, you have more rights than your hubby over who you want as your help at home, with the children and in your kitchen and you have a right on telling them how they go about discharging their duties and you have more right on how you keep them in check... so Mr Hubby should hands off and leave you to play your domestic role in the home front. 4. You have a right to discuss your feelings with your hubby, so go discuss it with him WISELY. 5. I suggest you begin looking for a new househelp now, and one day when hubby go out or travel, without his consent and without her suspecting anything, you bring him/her in and lay off this bad one ON THE SPOT... pay her off (pay her an extra month if you can afford it) let her take all her things and go right there and then. NO QUESTION ASKED. When hubby comes, he will become angry, rake and rave but that's where it will end, at least she's gone and another one (even make it two if you want) has replaced her so whats the fuss? Yes, limit what you share with others outside your marriage, but 100% secrecy isn't healthy in a marriage, so i suggest you always have an experienced, trust worthy person whos got your back and can keep your secrets to share some things with. Final word, in this case you have rights, know them and ACT ON THEM FAST!

Anonymous said...

Gbam! Wetin she sabi na DH this, DH that.

IJAY said...

Poster 1, please do the needful send her packing shaperly shaperly before bit gets out of hand, bcus something is so going on between she nd ur DH. Poster 2, I don't think getting married early is a bad idea

Roseberry said...

Send d stupid girl out and bring someone from your husband's family or village.... He cannot fuck his own relation now

Anonymous said...

Na paent go wear am if she no act quick quick.

Roseberry said...

Pack her things and accompany her to the park back to her village, make sure you do dat wen hubby isn't around

Anonymous said...

Thk U @ James. Mrs Poster if ur Hubby is not an irresponsible man,ma u don't ve 2 b scared or worried that he is nice 2 ur maid.
Haba naaa Can't a man be nice 2 sone1 without any string attached???????
A responsible and Godly man evn wen a lady is naked in front of him,he will not be moved.
Have Men become so Sexually Hungry that dey can not control themselves??????
Almost all BVs are saying send d maid away,@ BVs r all ur Husbands Irresponsible????????????????????

Anonymous said...

Becky I swear u too get sense die. That's d only way out oooo. Or just call whoever brought her to u, tell them u want to see them abt an increment that u like d girl so much cus if u tell them for phone make them come carry d girl, u no go see them ooo. Wen they arrive, tell ur maid to go pack her stuffs Nd throw them out. EOD

Empress CHO said...

Poster 1: You should have sent her away when your hubby had the dream. Things have gone spiritual now.
Do not just throw her out, hubby will get a lavish apartment for her and follow. You have to fight her spiritually first. If you guys are very comfortable, you and your hubby need a vacation or she goes on vacation..... aim is, she needs to be away for sometime.

This is where i tell you to watch WAR ROOM, and i'm not being sarcastic. Your home needs to go back to God's hands. Fight spiritual laziness, pray like it's going out of fashion. Pray, fast, employ prayer warriors on your case... i mean genuine believers not fanatics for agreement prayers. You need both personal and intercessory prayers here. That chick needs to be smoked out. Invoke the heavens, it's not a small matter you are confronting here oh. You could tell your mum, if she is the prayerful type. If you do your homework well, she must leave!

Poster 2: Grow up a bit first.

Anonymous said...

You sound like Nollywood, Becky. I don't think she needs any excuse to send the girl packing. I would advise her to do it suddenly after getting an elderly woman to take her place and when the hubby is not around, so that she won't have time to set her madam up. If there is a way she can ensure that the girl cannot communicate with her husband that would be good. Also begin to pray for your husband. It appears you married a cheat. After 1 year and some months he is already like this with the help? What could be going on outside? Pray hard ooo.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1...you're in a very delicate situation and if you don't push the right buttons, you may end up regretting the whole plan. I don't know what you're doing wrong that's giving your hubby the balls to go that far, find out what it is & ADDRESS IT IMMEDIATELY. Secondly if this girl has disrespected you and done things you consider to be seductive in the past and is now "acting" like you, IT'S TIME FOR HER TO LEAVE but do it in the most platonic and ABRUPT way possible before she has time to recup and plan anything against you or your family. Basically...TAKE HER UNAWARES!!!

Poster 2...forget SDK, you flaming young to be in a marriage. You've not seen and experienced life and I don't mention partying & having sex. You'll have the rest of your days to spend with this man and he's young as heck too. Don't wed or tie yourself to anyone at this age, let life experiences shape and define what you would want in life as a married woman.

IVORY said...

Please semd her away and get an elderly woman to help you do some chores. Someone that comes in the morning and leaves by evening. Why get a 19yr old.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 : My dear sister are you a christain? Do you know how to pray? You sound like so soft hearted, didinrin o le se o Let me give you these psalms ; 139, 35 and 54 start your prayer by 12 am in the mid night if you can pray for like 1hr. Pls try and have a white fasting for 3 days. My sister its only prayers you can use to face this evil house help of yours that has been trying to snatch your home. This battle can only be fight by prayers and you need to apply wisdom in all you do. I think you should talk to oga about how you feel before she started going fetish with you if she has not already been doing so and be very careful and vigilant. Take charge of your home by serious prayer. Shalom.

mma cee said...

Hey madam
Is your name patience? ??
Cos you are such a patient and almost gullible woman.

I'm sorry , that was a bit too harsh. ...anyways , listen up ma !

Do you know her village ?
If you do , then perfect . .
Take her phone , delete your husbands number , your own number , corresponding text messages and nicely give it back to her.
Go to your husbands phone and delete her numbers there.

Then go to the park and book a ticket for her...preferably 8 o clock ticket. ( so you guys can leave after hubby must have gone to work ).
Then the next morning , take her ti the park, put her in the bus , stay there and watch them leave .
Before you do this , pay her off , and nicely tell her not to come near your family again. ..never in her life.
Okay?

Now madam , life is first of all spiritual.
Before doing this, I implore you to go on a 3 dat fast. It is pertinent that you do so. Control it from the spiritual angle .
Pray with isaiah 54 vs 17.

And after all this is done , make provers 4 vs 17 to the end your best friend ...where the bible talks about your breath satisfying your husband only.
Take God's word back to Him in prayer telling him that your breast and your breast alone shall satisfy your husband .
Do these things judiciously. ...don't think this is a joke



Whenever I discuss this house maid issues with my boyfriend , he keeps on insisting that he doesn't want a live in maid ,that he prefers a come-in-the-morning and leave -in-the-evening nanny.
Now I understand why
As much as lieth within you ,keep yourself from temptation .
My cousins husband was very fond of wearing boxers and coming to the parlour to sit with me and the man is very tall and handsome with fine staright legs.
I carried my bags and ran home .
No time for unnecessary shenanigans.
Anyways madam, I wish you the best.
Always always trust your instincts, and it's all the more trust worthy if you're born again

Jasmine said...

You r waiting till she gets pregnant b4 u send her away? Nice. Weldone

Anonymous said...

@Poster2 At 19 years you may be very young but not unripe for marriage. If you are sure the guy loves you and can provide for you, pls take the chance o.. Let me tell you the truth, many babes here would advice you against it. those are the gwegz

pure inspirations said...

Madam, if anything happens to ur marriage, u and ur hubby caused it, deliberately.

When I had my 3rd child, i didn't have an omugwo yet i coped with a baby and my 2 other children plus d chores. U just had one baby and u r looking for a househelp? Why r u making room for temptation in ur marriage?

Someone who u hv alrdy seen clearly wants to seduce ur hubby and ruin ur marriage?! What exactly r u waiting for? U want her to destroy it completely before u act?!

Get that girl out of ur house and take care of ur responsibilities. U hv no excuse. Do d much u can do. Hubby can help out but even if he doesn't, do things at ur own pace or get a help that will come and go. This is ur marriage for crying out loud.

Alrdy ur hubby is falling for her. U said he dreamt abt her trying to seduce him, right? Now this could be more than mere physical attraction. It cld b spiritual.

Or haven't u heard stories of (demon) possessed h/helps who come with d sole aim of causing chaos in a marriage?

Do something b4 its late,else u will hav nobody but urself to blame. Stop making room for temptations. Your marriage is still so young.



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Lydia Love O said...

Poster 1 if u know what is good for ur marriage send that girl away because she is already competing with you. I will advice u to look for an elderly woman that will be coming and going before u use ur hand and get co wife for urself. For ur information prick no go school n once ur husband taste dat girl punani, u will b in for a long thing. My 2 cent. Poster 2 for me u r too young, 19? Dont do what u will wake up in few years n start asking ur self questions

Anonymous said...

Poster 1:pls in ur best interest,send d maid away.u can get a nanny that will be coming to work frm her house,dnt let ur husband knw u want to send her away.buy stuff for her n nicely return her to where u picked her.
Poster 2:marriage is for adults,u re too young to get married.u may be academically intelligent but emotionally not.give yourself time just to avoid rushing out of early marriage

jane okudo said...

Poster1pls send her home,if she has a sim card already in use break it ND get a new one for her, drive her to d park,pay for her tp nd wait till d bus leaves...

Ehlarh said...

I know we are entitled to our opinions but I think lying against the maid is wrong, its better the woman sends her away jejely thereby having nothing on her conscience aside the fact that the girl has to leave her place.

Omolord said...

Poster one, you are a proper olodo! Receive some more e-slaps to reset your brain. You are still asking questions when it's obvious your husband and the maid have something going? My auntie's friend lost her husband to a maid because of her careless attitude, even when others noticed the closeness between the maid and her husband, she wasn't bothered and her husband eventually sent her packing and married the maid. Send her out immediately and don't let your husband convince you otherwise. Employ a matured lady that will come to help you with chores and leave in the evening. Be wise!

cuppy1702 said...

Poster1.....consider some factors b4 sending her away...does she have a phone,does your horseband have her number? If she leaves your home will she stay in the same city or travel back to village? Can hubby reach her easily when she leaves.Babes sometimes throwing them out doesn't solve it,cos bobo can hook up with her fast,rent her an apartment and collect,all behind your back....na you lose....do your checks and balances,be so nice to her,she's just 19,work around her brain,confuse her head,love her like a sister,don't let your anger show,find the weak or strong link in this whole saga...turn the table to suit you...kapish...na you get oga blokos,na wa for you oh,your husband dey watch film for night,ekaette dey iron,you dey sleep...mumu..stand up go form busy joor,the girl dey hardworking pass you,she go work hard for bed,oga Don reason am,if work no dey,collect the cloth from her hand iron,you too,when oga dey house,make you work pass,serve him yourself,service is enticing,men are endeared to women who serve them......

Anonymous said...

Where have you been Julit?

Omolord said...

Gbam!!!

Brown Sucre said...

Poster 1-congratulations,you are about to have a co wife,a step mum for your child and bedmate for your husband,if you don't send that girl out of your house this moment.
Poster 2- I need advise to advise you too.

Omolord said...

What are you talking about!?

white Berry said...

Narrative one: quickly send that house help away before your husband returns from work and tell husband she ran away before you got back from where ever you are going. Please send her away and do bring us feed back on how it went. Act fast but trade with cushion

Anonymous said...

Poster one! Na wa for you. You are still there asking questions. Immediately he leaves for work. Pay her salary add extra if possible, call her parents and tell them she's on her way back home. Make sure she's in the bus before you go back home

Sonia Mac said...

Poster one: You are standing on a long thing o *in Dbanj's voice*


The only thing you need to do NOW is to send her PACKING. You surely don't need a 10 pages advice on this ish.


The handwriting on the wall is clear enough.


Wish u all the best.

James said...

*a nice man

Kiks said...

Poster 1 I fear for you. The girl is gearing up for a take-over. Dressing and talking like you? Oriegwu *in a certain bv's voice* How the hell did a 19 year old become your house help? And who is to say that that your caring husband won't find a way to keep in touch with her if you sack her? Sha sack her long story short. Find a way to do it. Why is she a live in help? So many questions can't deal.

Poster 2 Marry him if you feel right about it since your parents are indifferent about it. If you guys are on the same page i.e completing school, working or business, when to start having kids whether now or later, so many things. I personally admire those who grow with their kids happily and healthily not the ones that marry young and age 10 times over because of marital woes. The decision lies with you.

Omolord said...

Well said! Poster 1 is not wise at all, first employing a matured girl and watching her trying to seduce your husband. Don't you hear stories of the devilish activities of maids? Stay there asking questions. Buy a washing machine to ease the burden.

Mary said...

Don't just send her away like that cos your husband will definitely suspect you. Set her up and bam! Good reason for her to leave.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1. I'm so angry at d way ure taking this issue calmly. When ur hubby goes to work, take her to d park urslf and let her go. Before then, send her on an errand and search her things thoroughly. Make sure u lock the door so she doesn't gain access until u are done. Delete ur hubby's no from her phone and all call logs too so she doesn't save it again. Check for msges from him too and delete. Make sure d deleting is on the day u want to do away with her bcos dey might exchange numbers again. If u dare tell ur hubby ure chasing her away, he will never agree bcos dat girl is already ur rival and he has a crush on her.

DonMayor said...

Poster one. Your husband is gbenshing away, you dey here dey ask question.
Pay her off now as you are reading this.

orela said...

Una no go advise this poster to watch war room?

On a serious note madam. .yes everyone would say send her a way ..truth is I support that...but now is the time to appreciate what watching the movie war room would teach one...PRAY. .Poster 1 PRAY. .I'm saying this because you may actually drive her away ,pay her off and all and your husband may even be indifferent to that action. You may relax and think finally back to status quo but the devil is always looking for whom to destroy. ..your husband may end up thinking he has seen an easy access in carry on with an illicit affair next you would hear the maid you chased away is living in a tushed up and porsche rented apartment or even self owned,fully furnished by your husband and she is prolly waiting to birth a set of twin. The family he doesn't want you to involve would be the ones escorting him to beg you by then water done pass gari.
PRAY VERY WELL.whether you chase her away or not ..madam poster 1 pray. .This one your husband is hiding behind her having a seductive spirit..pray before she perfects her mission in your home.

tiwa said...

Poster one: jesus said this can not go expect by fasting and prayers. I don't know if you are a Christian or not but dis is more than physical u need to tackle it spiritually.
I will advice you pray ask holy spirit to give you direction, show her love and don't let your hubby an her know your plan, then send her packing when she least expected. This should be done in less than two weeks from now. Good luck

XOXO MYSTERY said...

The reason you don't want to send her away is because she is really hardworking and you are fond of her.

Men are usually attracted to domestic helps especially the timid ones. Once they see you relaxing while your female help is working, they will subconsciously get angry and start placing that help above you. It does not matter that you were breastfeeding your child while relaxing. Now, if your help has average looks plus her domestic abilities and that timid 'i want to worship your man' look, then know that you have lost your husband.

The minute your husband dreamed that she wore towel to seduce him that should have been the time to send her away. A 19year old is a woman, A 19year old help has the brain of a woman in her forties because she has gone through a lot in life and is hardened and has made tough choices because of it. Overlook that timid appearance, what they know, you don't know half of it.

It is like a sheltered rich girl with rich boyfriend befriending a humble street smart girl from poor background thinking you are helping her. The street smart girl must make a go at your rich boyfriend and even your rich father. Do not place banana in front of a timid looking monkey and think it wont eat it.

If you send her away, she will continue to call your husband and they will continue their affairs outside.

It is time for you to call your mother. Mothers know best. Mothers are there for a reason. Relay your fears to your mother. Travel with her to visit your mother, do not let your husband know you want to return her, then leave her with your mom for a while so your mom will monitor if your husband calls her. Then later your mother should send her back to where she is coming from or to another elderly family. You can help her from a distance. By the time, she knows what is happening, you have renewed your love with your husband.

Next time woman , be very wise.

KING XOXO MYSTERY

Kiks said...

Poster 1 Don't do what Becky's Diary up there is advising. Don't! The cry of the innocent gets to God's ears no matter how long it takes. No matter what you do, don't frame her. Find a way to make her leave your house. I repeat DON'T FRAME HER!

Kiks said...

Poster 1 Don't do what Becky's Diary up there is advising. Don't! The cry of the innocent gets to God's ears no matter how long it takes. No matter what you do, don't frame her. Find a way to make her leave your house. I repeat DON'T FRAME HER!

Collette Nature Blog said...

I read this blog like winsh but hardly comment...poster 1,you better give yourself sense.How can you see all these glaring signs and you are still asking these questions?
First,do not even discuss her with your hubby again since he supports her when you express your fears.
Second, Are you related to her?who was or is her referee? is she from the same town where you reside? you need to call up her referee and tell them that you are not interested again.
Do not tell your hubby anything,make sure you have money and if you do not, borrow, then tomorrow(because this requires urgent measures),send her to market, search all her loads to see if you will see your stuff in it, then when she returns,keep her very busy outside your house, like tell her to wash 3-4 very big bedshits so that she will drop her phone inside,search through her phone and delete your hubby's numbers..(you will do same to hubby's phone today evening),then call her after the washing and tell her to pack her things,then accuse her of stealing your gold, follow her to the car park and make sure you go with her to her referee or village or if the village is far, just make sure that the car moves off and secretly tell the driver that he should not allow her drop on the way because she is 15 years old and that she is fond of running away from home(bribe the driver with money sef)..another option is to tell a trusted sister or causin or friend, then beg the person to take her to her village(give the person transport and allawee).tell hubby that they say her father wants her back ASAP.do not worry, even if hubby vex, he will cool down after few days.
Your hubby is already molesting that girl in case you do not know...i see in the spirit.Please act up before the end of this week and send Stella a follow up mail on this..treat as urgent please to save your home.

Ralu M said...

Poster 1...have you watched the nigerian movie "mr and mrs" and how that maid was dealt with when oga swore she wouldn't go? Do the same thing Nse did ASAP! what rubbish! Your marriage is being threatened by a roving eyed oga and a treacherous maid and you are speaking grammer. Organise a bad ass friend to do the deed for you (preferably when you and your oga are not around). Incase you are confused...have your friend go with 3 hefty men (to put the fear of God in her) tell her to pack kia kia, confiscate her phone and make sure your oga num is not jotted down somewhere with her. Threaten her with disastrous consequences if you shows face again and bundle her to the pack with instructions to driver (tip if needed) not to allow her drop anywhere until she reaches her town.
Poster 2...Your education nko? You are too young and I don't care what Stella thinks. You never even see life. He should wait until you are through with school.

Anonymous said...

Before throwing her, take her for a test.......and get a maid boy or a small gal. What were you thinking bringing a 19yrs old babe... Na wa oo she done reach marry sef

Anonymous said...

I will be very honest with you. Wait for a day your hubby has gone to work and seize her phone so that she cannot call your husband. Delete his number(s) and then proceed to pack her things very well into her bag. Take her to the park, give her money to travel with and then pay for her bus fare to her father's house. Collect the driver's number and instruct him not to stop for her until she reaches her house. Stay until the bus has gone far.

Take your husband's phone and delete her number immediately he gets him. Then you tell your husband that she was mean to your kid and then insulted you and then you couldn't take it again. Be steadfast and determined. Tell him that you need to get someone who is not as mean and then move on with your life.

SD2016 said...

Poster 1: read the writing on the wall and act duly. No be me go tell u make u tell am to go and look for an Emeka or Mama twins to take her place.

Poster 2: jst talk to him and tell him u want to graduate and serve first. But hold him tight oo.. he seems like a good guy

Olaide Davies said...

Needs to be beaten.

Cindy Babs said...

1000 likes. Chop knuckle!!!

ukwu dimond said...

poster one you better send her away, abi you no like your husband again? maybe your totoh don sack, as your hubby see fine, fresh girl with tight totoh, him want to die inside tight something.

ukwu dimond said...

poster two say yes to your doctor bf, but cross your legs and pretest to be mermaid till you are his wife, do not allow him to use this marriage proposal to control your life, make sure you are sure about your feelings before you become his wife. All the best.

Lilly simple said...

Pls send her off
Send her away
I have seen where househelp took over a home,

Post 2, there's nothing there u can go ahead your guy is mature enough too, some people even marry @ d age of 18

Jennifer Lawrence said...

Poster1 send her packing tomorrow without delay immediately your husband goes to work,as u re reading the advice of bvns from ur chronicles now send her on an errand then enter her room & search her bag or everywhere in the room to mk sure she doesn't live with any of ur belongings including ur child's own. Then tomorrow morning as soon as ur husband goes to work collect her phone delete all the no and text messages u see dere then u collect her sim card & drive her straight to the park so she can go bk to wherever she came from. If u re the quiet type dat don't like problem u beta call any of the married women in ur compound or church r ur relations if u ve any arund u to come & help u .tomorrow b4 ur husband comes bk bcoz dat gal is not as naive as u think she might not give u her phone or sim card. And her phone and sim card is the most important thing here coz without it she can not reach ur husband & ur hubby can't call her too. Except she knows his office but mk sure u stay @ the park until the bus she will board leaves u hear me poster2: I got married @ the age of 21 and I don't regret it,I finished skool & served in my husbands house jst dat I waited b4 having kids coz I was in my 3rd year wen I got married and my husband was understanding coz to carry belle & pikin go skool no easy.,I got pregnant while serving now am working & doing vry well 4 myself. Goodluck dear

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, delete your husband's number from her phone and do same with your husband's phone. After hubby has gone out for the day, tell her you 2abt her to bring her bag and her phone, delete all the contacts she met through you. Tell her your taking her straight to the pack and you DON'T EVEN WANT TO SEE HER IN THAT CITY AGAIN TALK MORE OF YOUR HOUSE. MAKE SURE YOU TAKE HER TO THE PARK AND STAY THERE TILL THEIR BUS MOVES. WHEN HUBBY COMES BACK SND ASKS, TELL HIM SHE SAID SHE WAD TIRED AND WANTED TO LEAVE THE HOUSE. A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE.PLS ACT SMART AND FAST.

ochuko bisam said...

Poster number 1 u re nt being paranoid, Pls let d girl go! She is even too grown to be a help for a young couple!

Cynhams Cakes & Pastries, Abuja. Home delivery. said...

Poster1, that girl will soon start sleeping with your husband if you don't send her away.
Why will you even put a 19 years old extra sexually active girl in your house as a househelp?

Get a washing machine if you don't have any.
Let the dry cleaner take care of your husband's close. That will sort out the ironing issue. Iron your clothes by yourself.

If you can't get an alternative help for now, ask around for elder women that cleans people's homes and does washing of clothes too every Saturday or twice a week.

Its just a kid you have so you can manage for now no matter how difficult it may seem.

This your story is a bit annoying because this girl has seduced your husband right under your eyes and she is doing more.

Hhhnnmmm make i stop here.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1:
You need to be smart about this. Join hubby and watch the movies with him. No matter how late he stays up. The maid should not iron at night anymore. Start an intense search for a matured lady who can help you at home. Delete his number from her phone. Search her stuff when she is not around including books n paper cos she may have written the number down somewhere. Do not take any chance. Set her up and send her packing. Something similar happened to me. The maid started disrespecting me, at first I didn't quite understand but I knew I didn't want a disrespectful girl in my house. I send her out with my husband approval.
I do believe that my husband may have tried sleeping with her.
Before she left I deleted his number from her phone n hers from his.

Anonymous said...

They are already sleeping together

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Poster 1 your answer is in that slap Stella gave you.

Poster 2, please accept the proposal.

Anonymous said...

P1- please find a way to delete her no from your husband's phone n ur husband's no from her phone before she leaves. Better still buy CCTV pen camera n keep in d house ooo, so u can be watch everything that happens in your absence. BABE SERIOUSLY THAT GIRL NEEDS TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE ASAP.
You can walk up to her and ask for her phone with the pretence that you have been trying to load a particular card n it's not entering,so u want to see if u can load it in hers.then run a smooth check on her msgs n delete Hubby's no .........

Edo finest said...

Send her away o,when i was preggie my maid travelled and i really need help,i employed another.She is really fair,pretty and wears short skirts that you can see everything under,even tho she comes when my hubby has left for work n closes when my hubby gets home i had to stop her from working after a month o.That is how my neighbor's househelp went to buy bum shorts and told their younger maid that i wear shorts and shake my waist up and down.Just imagine househelp competing with her madam's neighbor,the woman kuku threw her out..

Amacastel said...

Poster 1 do the needful is long over due nah the girl should be home by now

Poster 2 Congrates and Hml in advance dts if u love ur man pls go ahead cos in next 20yrs u will be a grand mother Lolzz.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1....You don't need any advice of the prophetess to know that this a sign clearly written on the wall...Your hubby is already losing control... So, the earlier you invite the elders the better...Or else you'll be gone till November...like my man Wyclef!

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earthquake said...

Nne delete the girls number from your DH's phone a day prior to her eviction. The in the process of evicting her delete every number that connects to you from her phone check her social media platforms and make sure your hubby is not connected. The delete even the number of the person that brought her from the girls phone and that of your horseband. Please sit down and calculate for them. They might not have started but they will soon. Don't let them connect afterwards cos that where there is danger! Cut any ties BTW them both physically, spiritually, socially inshourt any how but cut it!

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Poster 1, you say she now talks like u, dresses like you etc, and you are still asking questions....madam, send her back to wherever she came from. It's already clear your hubby is into her and not even give a damn how you feel. Abeg send back.

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Quin said...

Poster 1 dem no dey use fish clean rat mouth oh beta borrow yasef brain nah nah
Poster 2 am jealous of you honestly I am,i had such dreams for myself but wasn't lucky to meet Mr Right on time. Kept my virginity till 23yrs old still no luck. Now am 32 still praying for d right man. So marry him already any man disciplined enof to read medicine n graduate can handle almost anything. Goodluck

dame sexy said...

To the 1st poster,are you this naive?or simply daft and dull???
OMG! mad stuff like these are going right inside your house,right under your nose,you are still talking of treating the maid with love!are you Jesus christ?? even Jesus himself in holy anger would have chased such evil minded maid away with these words 'depart from me,you worker of inequity'.
from what any reasonable person can deduce from your story,your irresponsible husband is already deep down in the act of sleeping with her (to put it decently) and if like stella said,if someone don't reset your brain with some 'holy hot slaps' you will become 'a once upon madam' in that your hubby s house.God forbid we never get to read on this blog of the said maid killing you and your baby!!!!due to your failure to receive sense into your life.
Pls,do the needful,be very prayerful,act fast,like some posters have said,go through the maid stuff n phone and delete all contacts,take her back to where you got her from(make sure she s hand delivered (so no lost girl fake story later)delete her contact from your hubby s phone.be bold to talk it out after all the above action with your hubby and above all,from this moment turn yourself to a real prayer champion or better still find trusted and real MFM belivers to pray and intercede for your hubby and home.
May you never be this insane to bring a grown up woman into your home to live with you IJN,Amen!

dame sexy said...

To the 1st poster,are you this naive?or simply daft and dull???
OMG! mad stuff like these are going right inside your house,right under your nose,you are still talking of treating the maid with love!are you Jesus christ?? even Jesus himself in holy anger would have chased such evil minded maid away with these words 'depart from me,you worker of inequity'.
from what any reasonable person can deduce from your story,your irresponsible husband is already deep down in the act of sleeping with her (to put it decently) and if like stella said,if someone don't reset your brain with some 'holy hot slaps' you will become 'a once upon madam' in that your hubby s house.God forbid we never get to read on this blog of the said maid killing you and your baby!!!!due to your failure to receive sense into your life.
Pls,do the needful,be very prayerful,act fast,like some posters have said,go through the maid stuff n phone and delete all contacts,take her back to where you got her from(make sure she s hand delivered (so no lost girl fake story later)delete her contact from your hubby s phone.be bold to talk it out after all the above action with your hubby and above all,from this moment turn yourself to a real prayer champion or better still find trusted and real MFM belivers to pray and intercede for your hubby and home.
May you never be this insane to bring a grown up woman into your home to live with you IJN,Amen!

Elizabeth Osang said...

Please do not send her away,I repeat so not,keep her close and monitor her sending her away is like you giving your hubby the go ahead to finally collect,just be wise,monitor her and act accordingly.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, really???? U r here asking jamb question. She's evil, send her packing asap.... Dont let her take over your home. She's a strange woman.

Anonymous said...

My marriage counsellor once told me once your maid is getting too familiar with your husband she is due for a change. Send her away but not empty handed. Receive sense!!!

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, I dont think its too early becos ur bf is young also, just 25. If you really love him, marry him. You guys will grow together. Just that both of you should agree not to get pregnant atleast till you are in your second semester final year.

Adisa Akomolede said...

I dont mean to share you but first, you need to confiscate her phone and get rid of your husbands number from it, if you are the one that got her the phone confiscate the phone. Then act when you know your husband isn't going to be at home, make sure you pack her bags like every single thing. Go home throw her out of the house and pay her off. If possible threaten her to never step her foot in your house again. Good luck

Anonymous said...

Who told you omotola married at 18,1omotola is just deceiving you guys

LeaderofFreeWorld said...

Poster1 send her packing or continuing living with her and you lose you home
Poster2 you re one of the few people marriage come to early in life babe accept him.....if you miss that you might never get any man to the right thing till you are above 30...

Pipi Lee said...

Poster 1
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Anonymous said...

Poster 1, send her away but be smart about it. Do not let her or even your husband know anything. When he goes to work, tell her to pack her things. Make sure you are there watching her. Drop her in the park and say bye bye. Hope she doesn't have your husband's number.

Iphie dearie said...

Hahahahaaaa@shake your waist up and down.

Anonymous said...

Get another person ASAP. An elderly woman/matron. And let the maid know her services are no longer needed.
But be wise about it because your husband is already interested and smashing too!
Your husband has started feeling her up already, sleeping with her and giving her impressions, if not, why will she be rude to you? Dress like you? Talk like you?.
Your maid even knew your husband is easy to fall for seduction which is why she was dressing indecently and tying towels in front of him.
Also, you need to be more in control of her activities these last few days before she leaves.
Collect her phone from her and buy her a brand new one, exactly like that. Break the old sim card too, let her retrieve the line.
Delete her number from your hubby's phone.
Tell hubby you had a dream that she tried to kill you in the dream on several occasions.
Watch your husband too and start doing the bulk of the chores yourself!.

Pipi Lee said...

Lol
Tell the gateman to go buy 'pomegranate juice' for you, then make the girl write a letter addressed to your hubby begging for forgiveness and confessing to destroy his family, pack her properties and put her in a one destination cab to wherever she came out from, buy her a new sim and destroy her former, hope she isn't on Facebook tho and doesn't have your husband's ID???
When you husband comes home, give him his letter...go watch 'Mr and Mrs' yourself abeg...hahaha

BECKY'S DIARY said...

@Ehlarh lying against the maid is wrong u say? But she flirting with her oga is right abii? Namsense

Shey the bible talk say.. na only the violent go fit take am by force? Forget that thing joor.. hubby won't let her go that easily if she doesn't do sth drastic. The girl needs to go but in a way that hubby won't the have mind to go after her again.

Anon 16:08 i sound like nollywood abi? Seems you've forgotten most nollywood scripts are real life stories right?

You don't have to like my comment, its my opinion. Madam can choose to take it or not. #okbye

mildy said...

Before sending her packing,replace her sim with a new one, get another phone and put her sim there watch and see if your hubby will try to communicate with her abd thwn play along to see the kind of relationship they have.

Lee Josh said...

Poster 1: Am seriously SMH, from the way you describe her she's a "SPECTACULAR SIREN" (CLEOPATRA incarnate). I will like to quote you........"Funny thing is, she seems to be enjoying all of the attention; she now talks like me, acts like me and has even started dressing like me."

If care is not taken and you cease to act fast am beating my chest that she's gonna rob you off your home and happiness. Here's how to get rid of her:

1ST: Use the surrender tactic by transforming weakness into power. Don't give her the satisfaction of defeating you.

2ND: 'Master the art of timing'

Never seem in a hurry, always seem patient
Sniff out the spirit of the times, find the trends that’ll give you power
Learn to stand back when not ready, and then strike. Then:

3RD:"Stir up water to catch fish". Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make her angry while staying calm yourself you gain a decided advantage. Put her off balance.

4TH: "Control the opinions" Get her to play with the cards you deal.

The best deceptions seem to give the other person a choice
Give options so no matter their choice, you win.

Then finally: "Keep your hands clean"

Never appear soiled by mistakes
Use her as scapegoat to disguise your involvement in getting rid of her from you marital home. Your DH won't even know you had something to do with it.

Wish i could give you a book to read.

Goodluck dear!!!

B said...

What is shaperly?

B said...

Do you mean "sharply"?

mary nwa mama said...

poster 1, pls act fast, the signs are there already, we don't want to get another chronicle from you about how the maid collected your DH. send her packing, and make sure you secretly check her phone to ensure she does not have ur hubby's number, and check ur DH phone, otherwise they will be in contact when she leaves, clear all traces. let your hubby's family bring one of his relatives to stay with you, even it means training her in school or handwork.

Obiageli said...

Madam poster one. You have no excuse. I had a CS, no omugwo, in the US plus husband not around for some weeks. I did it all by myself. So you have no excuse considering your husband is around and like you said nice and caring. I am team #NOHOUSEHELPS be you young, old or intermediate, because i try to limit situations in which i may be forced to shout. Now listen to these words carefully KINDLY TELL HUBBY YOU DONT WANT THE GIRL ANYMORE in plain and simple english. No need for scheming and coyness. For what? In your own home again? If hubby tells you, you want to stop her progress, kindly tell him no be you bring am come city. You can also tell him that you prefer an older woman cause the girl is starting her life and may not be able to give your home her full attention. Before she goes make sure you delete both your numbers from her phone and hers from hubbys cos these heifers are not to be trusted. By the time shes gone you decide if to do it on your own (my advice) or get an OLDER WOMAN (who has finished raising her kids). But trust me, there is a peace that comes when you sleep at night in a drama free household. Just you, hubby and the kids. If you look foward to that time of the day, all the stress of the day becomes worth it.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1
Pls send house girl away. Enough has been said about how to do this so let me discuss what to do for house chores.

Clothes- 1. Buy washing machine if you don't have, use washer man or use dry cleaner. Washer man can even iron twice a week.

Plates and pot- buy dish washer. I hate washing plates this is what I have and I live in lagos. You can load plates baby bottle etc and wash at once. I bought mine in game.

Cleaning of house. Do this on Saturdays.

Cooking can be done once a week. Cook and freeze.

My dear pls don't listen to anybody who may call you lazy or spoilt for using any of the above. Do what will make you and your family happy. Is it better to have broken home to please others?

It's 2016 oh take advantage of technology.


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Anonymous said...

Don't bring hubby's family. Ur husband will always support his family. That's what am going through and am regreting why I even brought sister n law too my house. But as sharp igbo that I am she will be leaving my huz very soon maybe December

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 In this age that maids are taking over marriages, you seriously need a reset of brain my dear. Arrange for another maid without husbands consent and send this one away without his consent too! I don't care if he's sleeping with her yet or not, once your maid starts doing eye service when hubby is present then it's time to go. Make sure you take everything you and hubby bought for her that is making her feel like she's made when she leaves, ingrate stupid girl

Mrs Bee

perseverance cosmas said...

Madam am so furious with you. I expected Stella to have given you double dose of that slap. Bible said to smart as the serpent but gentle as dove. So what happened to the former. Go into your closet and report the girl to JESUS. Then get yourself a female police, narrate ur story to her, then call her person that brought her( take d officer along with u to a neutral place,not your home) hand d help to her person, then get the police woman to threaten her.don't worry the officer knows just what to tell her and her person. Trust me on this one,she won't dare your home again. Take her phone dont give back. Pay her and give t.fare,after this whole exercise. Commit ur husband to JESUS.report him and He (GOD)will bring back peace to ur home and make ur husband look u alone. Don't involve any extended family. It's ur marriage and be bold.get to nd fro nanny (elderly ) talk to ur husband after praying. God will give you victory. Just as Sarah had victory over Hagar.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 send her away. First take her for test with the intention of protecting the baby. Do this with your husband knowledge. Then tell him (only him o)the result came back positive for hiv. Send her away. If your husband was planning to gbensh he will do about turn nonsense.

Awesomeness said...

Poster 1...u bera receive that sense Stella slapped u with.abeg dat girl leaves ur hse.pls look for an elderly nanny.dis generation of young gals..dey r not smiling at all.

Anonymous said...

Poster apart from all the above when last did you and your hubby have sex? You just had baby fine but have you given him attention?

misblaq said...

poster 1 do you need a prophet to tell you that your home might hit the rocks if you don't read meaning to the handwriting on the wall? tnk God for the slap Stella gave u...think of a way to pay her off so it wont cause problem between you and your hubby. God's grace

misblaq said...

poster 1 do you need a prophet to tell you that your home might hit the rocks if you don't read meaning to the handwriting on the wall? tnk God for the slap Stella gave u...think of a way to pay her off so it wont cause problem between you and your hubby. God's grace

poster 2 you are lucky but pray wella ooo to prevent another touching chronicles, we will be expecting your wnb . #Happyforyou

Anonymous said...

Pls poster one b4 u send her away delete ur hubbys no from her phone. If not Na outside love affair go continue.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2: marry him already, but don't get pregnant yet. My niece made this mistake, she was proposed to while in 300L but she and folks turned the guy down because her dad said her daughter must have minimum of masters before she marries. She's gotten her masters now but she's still single because the other guy couldn't wait and I don't know why she's not getting suitors, she's 29

Mrs Bee

Awesomeness said...

Ehen poster 2..chia! young gals jst want to answer Mrs.do u know that marriage is different from dating?my dear u better receive sense and finish school.if possible get a job sef!fear men oh,u go jst turn to baby factory.by the time u r 30 yrs u ll be asking urself why d rush.d guy is 25yrs who dey chase am.dont come back here with new chronicles.to be forewarned is to be.....ehen complete am.

Anonymous said...

So you think hubby no dey watch nollywood movies? Ofcoz he'll know you're lying.

Anonymous said...

Best advice so far from Xoxo. Poster, it is time to talk to your mother, a trusted older female relative or a Christian mother. They've often seen it all and will tell you how you should go about winning back your husbands love. There are some marital issues that can not be dealt with by the couple on their own, this is one of them.

perseverance cosmas said...

Poster1. The bible said be smart as serpent but gentle as dove.what happened to the former.get a woman police tell her ur story.call d maid's person that brought her( plus u,officer,maid nd her person should meet but outside ur home ( neutral place ) pay her,give her T.fare and hand her over to her person. Then let the police woman threaten her nd her person. Trust me she won't come near ur home. But before all these actions. Go into your closet ( report the matter to JESUS CHRIST) Tell Him exactly how you want your home back ( remember don't pretend b4 God,tell Him how u feel and what u want.don't tell any family. They'll worsen it for u. Handle this matter smartly. Atfer sending d maid away. How back and tell God about ur husband, how u want him to be urs again. Then call ur husband nd talk to him. Don't quarrel. Maybe the LORD rekindle the love in ur home back in JESUS NAME. Amen. But also you have to be a smarter wife next time. Shune ur eyes always.

perseverance cosmas said...

Poster1. The bible said be smart as serpent but gentle as dove.what happened to the former.get a woman police tell her ur story.call d maid's person that brought her( plus u,officer,maid nd her person should meet but outside ur home ( neutral place ) pay her,give her T.fare and hand her over to her person. Then let the police woman threaten her nd her person. Trust me she won't come near ur home. But before all these actions. Go into your closet ( report the matter to JESUS CHRIST) Tell Him exactly how you want your home back ( remember don't pretend b4 God,tell Him how u feel and what u want.don't tell any family. They'll worsen it for u. Handle this matter smartly. Atfer sending d maid away. How back and tell God about ur husband, how u want him to be urs again. Then call ur husband nd talk to him. Don't quarrel. Maybe the LORD rekindle the love in ur home back in JESUS NAME. Amen. But also you have to be a smarter wife next time. Shune ur eyes always.

optimisticlady said...

Lol at all responses.
Poster 2 was almost ignored.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Hahahahahaha..,

Anonymous said...

End time cock blockers

Anonymous said...

Why are you all cockblocking the broda na.

Awesomeness said...

Lmao..una no go kill me.SDK rocks

Awesomeness said...

1000 likes for Becky.

Mz complicated said...

@ poster 1 get strong able men like bouncers kind, the day u know ur husband is not around call them over,collect her phone and break the sim and make sure the number is not saved on her phone and make sure u and the guys follow her to the airpot Don't put her on a bus but on a flight, she no go fit come down from flight but from bus she fit. Threaten her that the next time you smell her around ur house or husband she will be dealt with. Your insticnt aint deceiving u oo,and remember to pray cos ur husband is already having wet dreams about her. And take care. Then tell ur husband she left on her own. @ poster 2 accept oo cos oko won lode oo. Then fix the wedding date after u graduate. You can do the introduction tho to show u are serious about it. Me I still they date my boo 6years and counting and he never propose oo. If I see person wey better pass am I go follow oo

Anonymous said...

Enter your reply...honestly dis is not james. bringbackourjames

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True talk.... mothers are God's best gift to us. Don't feel bad about your decisions coz those maids can pretend enh. She will beg and cry in front of you, then go behind you and insult you. Only God knows what she tells your husband behind your back.... even the smallest timid looking ones are not left out.

Anonymous said...

@ Lovemejeje: Just so you know, there are Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa housemaids too. These folks are not lesser human beings by any stretch of the imagination....it's merely a matter of economic survival for many of these vulnerable people, in a depraved system, like Naija's. Even more, where in the story was it even mentioned said house help comes from your stated area? Or, is it part of your biased and jaundiced mind? Tribalists like you, are worse than racists, walahi.

Anonymous said...

@ Lovemejeje: Just so you know, there are Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa housemaids too. These folks are not lesser human beings by any stretch of the imagination....it's merely a matter of economic survival for many of these vulnerable people, in a depraved system, like Naija's. Even more, where in the story was it even mentioned said house help comes from your stated area? Or, is it part of your biased and jaundiced mind? Tribalists like you, are worse than racists, walahi.

BonaParte NN said...

What if the maid reads this blog... LMFAO

Whirlwind said...

I don't care if you are being paranoid or not.

It is your home, I repeat your home so you should be comfortable with whoever is in your home. Discuss with your husband out of regard, give her enough cash and kick her out.

I hate men like your husband. He has no business with the house help.Nice my foot.

You should be the one dealing with her and not him. Like what WTH staying up with her late to do her chores? Abeggiiii, take a drastic decision and send her away.

Anonymous said...

My dear my advise to you is to send this girl packing ASAP before you regret bringing her to your house and do it without your hubby's knowledge. He will only shout when he comes back but don't worry he will get over it. If the girl has phone, collect the SIM card so that she will not be able to communicate with your hubby. I can assure you that your husband has started sleeping with this girl. Yes! Men are like that. Trust no man.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Omotola married at 18.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

And please when she's leaving seize her phone. Don't let her go with her phone. Buy her a new handset if you just but seize the old one

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Handset and sim oh

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Seize her phone oh

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Eyah

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Ah! I never even write finish you don spill my thoughts. Change phone shaperly

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