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Friday, 19 August 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
WHEN THE PAST LINGERS


This is my chronicles. I will love my identity hidden.

I have had this issue disturbing me that I have considered seeking therapy for healing and to allow peace in my heart. just the grace and strength to let go and be free to enjoy who I truly want to be without letting my anger, hatred, et al get the better part of me.

It all started from the University with a friend I consider a bosom friend. We did everything together, we were always together and she was more in my department than hers and we also traded our dreams of what we want to do in the later future. people said we look alike but I can say facially she is quite prettier. 

Let me not make it too lengthy... my first red flag was when we went out to an eatery and she saw a guy asking her out with his friends, she said we should go and say hello to them and guess what her 'toaster' insulted me and she sat on the guy asking her out's leg and was smiling. I acted like I didn't hear and walked away. she came back after over an hour and didn't apologise. ( we were both in a relationship but her bf then was a complete jerk while my bf then was swooning over me)

I forgave her but didn't forget and moved on. while in the University I've always wanted to do stuffs design inclined while she was going the stomach path. I was opportune to travel and we kept in touch. when I got back to the country, I got her stuffs and she looked at it with disdain. I kept quiet and that didn't stop me from getting her stuffs ( this is someone that has never gotten me anything out of her benevolence- I am the one always giving). I got a job, she started a business, I held on to my passion and was trying to build it... the next thing I discovered she started doing what I wanted to do ( I later discovered that everything I share with her, she starts doing it, I don't really have a problem with it even though its annoying, but the most annoying part is her telling people its her idea). we decided to stay together and she did not bring a single pin except for one piece of furniture into the house. 


she won't buy foodstuffs or cook and she was always inviting her bf over they will cook the foodstuffs i bought and finish all without remaining anything for me. I go to work, she is at home, i go to the market, cook, clean the house and if i don't wash the plates, it will be in the sink till i wash it... and that was the cycle. on one of the cycles, I was in the kitchen cooking and left my child with her, i discovered the house was smelling, I had to go and check my child's diaper and I discovered it was a poo, I changed my child's diaper and went back to the kitchen... she didn't offer to help but was watching TV. 

while in the kitchen I realised the house was still smelling just for me to get back to the sitting room and saw my daughter feeding on her poo and she was there. I was very angry and told her... she said she was engrossed in the movie she was watching. guess what, this same thing happened twice.

Another one she did, my mother came visiting and she placed her legs behind my mother on the couch... I gave it to her that day. but then i realised I've made a huge mistake. she doesn't contribute anything into the house except on very rare occasions when she buys pepper... very dirty and she can analyse and command... always proud to say she is saucy.
I moved and left virtually everything for her and gave a few to my sister... my sister said she went back to the house to get somethings she left behind and she told her that my family are hungry people... that if it were her, her family won't take anything out of the house. ( this is someone that got a huge sum of money and she didn't offer me 1k not to talk of trying to get something for the house). In all this, she could be good if she wants to ( she says it herself) 

In all this, she made me angry, bitter and I try so much to genuinely wish her well... but everytime i try to, I think about our friendship from the beginning till now, and I realised I have been the one giving without holding back, and she is just been herself and it makes me more angry and bitter. I have dealt with some issues with her but she didn't show any form of remorse... she has done loads of hurtful things to me and I know sometimes I've tried to hurt her back just to let her have a taste of what she dishes out.

I want to forgive and just be cool with her, but all this things take me back and I don't know how to be cool with her. people (mostly family members) tell me she doesn't see me as a friend but as a convenience... but i try to hold on to the good things about her to not think that way. I hardly stay in touch with her anymore but she is always trying to stay in touch... I'm confused i don't know what to do.

Please advice...




161 comments:

ukwu dimond said...

kilode?????????????

amanda favour said...

Poster biko forgive her but move on with your life
B never be friends with her again!!!!!!!

Atheist. said...

My happiness be say, i no read am reach the end....
Mtcheeeewww....

1nigeriangirl said...

Hian! I guess no red ink cos this no chronicle, since you let go of her, forget her pls. Everyone has their share of frenemies, omo next time draw the line, which one is living together. ABEG.

Lemme read doppelganger and queen and boss first.

Agbalu Al-Zahrah said...

Dunno why they say Stella hide my identity like Stella as ever revealed the people behind chronicles before😒😞

Doppelgänger said...

*stuff not stuffs.
You're in a slavery situationship and this is something you have willingly accepted.
How can you still refer to this person as a friend when she has clearly shown that she doesn't value your kind gestures and love towards her?
You should move on with your life if you claim she is all these things you have mentioned.
She should be the one fighting to keep you and not the other way round. Why does it feel like you need her as a support system when she is clearly just the devils advocate.
When you can clearly state the good things she has done for you then maybe I will understand why you are still stuck in 1802. Did she donate a kidney for you?
You are not a child anymore, heck! You are a mother to one. Please stop acting like a baby whose mother will abandon her and rub away.
If you are all bent on remaining friends then please let her know your grievances or keep swallowing it like you have always done.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

What advise again do you want?...
Must you be friends with this girl?...ohh she fucks you so well!...
Hmmm well I can understand sha...
But there are thousands of girls out there that can do it to you the same way she does it...
Kwakwakwakwa...
Leave her and move on !...she is not a good person!...

STARRY LARRY said...

What should we advise you on? You said you've moved out, so why can't you keep her at arms length? Moreover, where's your baby daddy? Must you people keep friends? I only chat and call my friends, we hardly visit each other, please save yourself of all these stress and be like me



*Larry was here*

Ibukunoluwa said...

Poster Shey na by force to get friend nii?
Why are we ladies like this
Do you need a soothsayer to tell you the kinda frnd she is?
Okay continue
Beg her
Be her best friend again
Do all the things you've been doing befr and even more
Ur reward is in heaven
Oshisco!

Pipi Lee said...

Is this forced 'friendship' the gateway to heaven?????
Ah ah...

Sharon john said...

For me I don't keep friends that much,I tried to but have learnt my lessons ,but dear poster why can't you try and live your life alone without been around this your so called friend ,cause what I see in her,she is just a user and not a friend.

Loveme Jeje said...

Unfriendly friend. I did not finished reading. What are you still doing with her. That is what we pray against. Father every unfriendly friends remove them from our lives. I pity you. Go and make peace. Mrs Patience

white Berry said...

Be right back, on a hot seat

em jay said...

Hiannnnnnnnnn!
Na she buy the soap when them take bath you, I had a frnd who was controlling upandan, if nor visit her wahala, I must tell her before I take any decision, I had to quickly borrow sense, madam let her goooooooooooooooooo, pls work on your self esteem.

Mama Afrika said...

Pls leave that venom of a friend and move on with ur life. Cut all ties with her, she was never your friend. You sound like a "pisces" always trying to please and people be taking your calmness for granted. Im even angry on ur behalf! Hissss.

Pinochiodee said...

Please keep your distance, that kinda friendship is unhealthy.

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

Abeg stay ur lane, friendship is not by force, she's jealous of you and a jealous person can kill. Where is d father of ur child cos u didn't mention anything about him, was wondering why you shared the same flat with ur friend, just asking.

Becky's Diary said...

Naa waah!
Everything must be a chronicle on here innit??

Oh well.. female friends are a No go area for me.. i just can't deal with all 'em drama.
You didn't tell us anything about yourself, is it that you are totally innocent in all this? You have never in any way done anything bad to her, at all? Issorait

Just ask God for the spirit of forgiveness, ask with a clear conscience and God will answer you. Forgive her and move on with your life mbok

#Shit happens!

gloriah 24 said...

Poster if u know how to run, pls run. She is not a good friend.

Anonymous said...

Is it by force to be friends with her? It's not as if you girls were lesbians.let her go.forget her.dont keep in touch.cancel her from your memory.free her abeg.firget her Biko

Anonymous said...

Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”[d] says the Lord. 20 On the contrary:

“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”[e]
21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12.

REXOVIC said...

like seriously???

Anonymous said...

If you do not forgive you are heaping burning coals on your own head and not on the other person's.

Gee said...

I don't really get this though.
Patch it Father!

School Life said...

Jisos! N you telling us she's ya friend... She's evil. It will be sinful if unforgiviness lie within your heart, n it will be Another chance of dinning with the devil if you forgive her n still share things in common.

What 'is' me saying? Forgive her n Maintain a buhari kind of relationship with the southerners. This shouldn't be hard for you to understand I guess.

E Sylvia said...

Short of word.let me wait for comment.hmmm

Anonymous said...

Hian......o gini ka nke a na akoyeli ife a?

Quiksilver said...

You must be a glutton for pain & punishment. Why not cut her off? Do you both share an umbilical cord?
Instead of you to sever that parasitic relationship, you are here typing plenty... Clearly you are not worried.

Most female friends come with a truck load of drama; the reason why I'm wary of them. The one I thought I could relate with, I notice we both have parallel interests, so make the friendship chill. Lol

Haters will come and say it'S because i'm bitter...lol...i agree

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

For the first time I don't know what advice too give. I actually have loads, but I don't know where to start from.
Moral lesson: once you realize your friend is a user, curt them off. Don't cur them ANY slack. Don't wait. You'd only be hurting yourself.

DonMayor said...

This your friend go soon kill you. Do away with her and watch your back.
Good luck.

Apples said...

Truth is you love to hate her but you can't Cuz you d kind of person that can't hate... the only thing I'll tell you is that you should try and stay away from her if you can't handle her nastiness.
It's even good that you both are no longer living together.... just be hi hi kinda friendship with nothing more.

Anonymous said...

advice you on what? that 2 friends had issues? abeg we have better things to worry about this buhari times no reach u I guess.

One trillion said...

End time frenemy

ukwu dimond said...

poster i lost it at a point but all in all just be a good person to that your friend but from far, some friends are just selfish. i don't want to give you gist how friends has dealt with me, is all in the past now, just be yourself, forgive her but stay far from her is better.

Anonymous said...

Biko what is the meaning of this rubbish.. If God wanted to give u a best friend u would have come to this world with a twin or Siamese..move away abegg na by force to do..you even have a child out of wedlock and u need a roommate. How?

Ajebo Confidential said...

Hehehehe warris dis? This is what yoruba people call "oro rirun". I don't understand why people give themselves troubles over just ordinary girl friends! Abi na lesbotron tins? How old are you? And you're even a mother! You better block nonsense from her. Everywhere. Facebook, BBM, whatsapp, instagram, twitter, yahoo messenger, snapchat, true caller, eBay sef! What rubbish!!! Don't give her any explanation. You will meet better people. There are friends from Secondary school I thought I could never do without and now over 10 years after I don't think I will recognise some of them if we ever meet again in this life. You better cut her off.

Anonymous said...

Dear Poster,

You can love her from far.

Stop carrying unnecessary burden in your life. Theres no law that says you must be friends with her.

Make it a hi hi friedship.

Shikena.

Abi is it until she poisons ur husband, baby or family that you will use ur brain?

THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

With what U've analysed up there,im forced to say she isn't a friend but a PARASITE, she's a parasitic animal feeding on the host (which is you)......sever all ties with her before she harms you,you cannot expect me to carry you like a bag of rice when you hold me like a pinch of salt....never let anyone cause you your peace of mind.....let that unhealthy friendship of yours die a natural death,dont force it...
*Faithful bv*

Pretty Barrister said...

I hate girlfriends. I don't have and I don't intend to have. I am a lady and I keep my female friends at arm's length

Pretty Barrister said...

I hate girlfriends. I don't have and I don't intend to have. I am a lady and I keep my female friends at arm's length

Mr. Chopalone said...

My friend receive E-slap and move on with your life. Theres a purpose for everyone that comes into your life either for a lesson you don't want to learn or for blessing. She's for a lesson and her chapter has closed so move on and stop disturbing our peace with trivial issues.

Ehlarh said...

Friendship is not by force. Poster pls forgive her coz u would be doing urself a favour by doing so not her. You must not be friends with her like seriously, you can check in on her once in.Remember once bitten twice shy be more careful around her. Don't be close to her but FORGIVE her trust me you can.

OLANIKE said...

We know there type, my sister i beg of u just let go of everything n move on,the same thing happen to me this year this is a guy can u imagine, i feed him even though he is working he is not my bf but i took him as a brother imagine the next thing he did,he took my best customer to his boss cos we sell the same thing but our shop is far from each other though i did not fight him but i told him i will never part with any of my thing with him again.

Isolde Fontaine said...

Forgive her, let it go and dont get too close to her anymore

Ada bekee said...

It's like God have you all the friendship in this world to carry on your head. If you want to tow the Bible path, keep showing her love. Infact kill her with kindness(in Selena Gomez voice). But if you can't cope, for the sake of your sanity and peace of mind, erase her COMPLETELY from your life. Trust me God would forgive you. That girl would kill you one day if you are not careful.

PLATINUM said...

Poster forget her now, haba, u draged her into ur life after sch, u are still dragging her into ur life now? Dont u understand that not everytin is meant to last forever? Hian!

brown said...

My dear I understand, but try and keep your distance, u have seen with your eyes, please run for your dear life is this is the full story, I have a friend like this, I ran o,because tomorrow na jealous go start to dey work,is not by force to do friend, make the holyspirit your best friend, a word is a enough

Anonymous said...

Is friendship by force?? Na wa o....or don't u have other friends?please move on!

Anonymous said...

R u dumb? U r in A useless friendship. U know it. Everybody knows it. What r u waiting for. Cut off all ties with d bitch. N move on with ur life. Don't keep in touch. Don't be 'hi' 'hello' friends. Just end it once n for all. It's toxic. What d fuck r u waiting for. Better take control of ur situation. Be there acting like pussu. There is nothing more I hate than friends who aren't friends, who try to oppress. Honey, get ur life together by kicking d bitch out in all angles of ur life. All. Better alone than with fakes

Anonymous said...

Better let go of d pest in ur life period!

Cynthia Iyede said...

There is nothing confusing here poster. Let her keep staying in touch but maintain your lane. To be candid, i can't be close to someone that insults my family and is forming friendship, ko le werk.

Just Glamour said...

Poster permanently delete her from your memory and move on with your life,she's staying in touch with you just to know if she's doing better than you,and I so hate competition,she's selfish and wicked.

Mawii said...

What is this? Poster, so u are considering therapy because of a mere bad friend THAT U ALLOWED to remain in your life as a leech & parasite. Why so dumb though? Where is your self respect? If u loved yourself, u wouldn't condone such nonsense. Are u being forced to be friends with her? Will u die if u get rid of her? Are u guys under an oath? Hian na wa o! Common sense is really scarce. Infact I think you lack problems in your life, hence this mumu thing u posted.

Just Glamour said...

Poster permanently delete her from your memory and move on with your life,she's staying in touch with you just to know if she's doing better than you,and I so hate competition,she's selfish and wicked.

Embla said...

Friendship is not by force. It's by choice. Friendship is a two way street. It's give and receive. She hasn't added to you in anyway. So why hold on so tight? Leave her in the past where she belongs.

Anonymous said...

As in eee, by force friendship. Make friends n not best friend so their fuckup can be treated anytime and anywhere.

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

Don't u know how to handle such people rather than sending chronicle
Must u be friend with her?
Na by force?
Mtcheeeeew

pinky peters said...

Hmmmm, friendship no be by force. Bone her and she go waka in no time. Hate such friends that always take advantage of you, breaking away from one sef. Thank God hubby no like her which makes it easy for me.

DR X said...

Dey do you? Is it by force to be her friend? Abi dem tie una placenta together at birth? Pls answer, so that I can know how to advise u!!!

lopezbarbie said...

Hi poster , I have bin in such situation before.the bitterness and anger isn't worth it, it will deprive you of ur blessings and ur friend won't still send you.pray to God to help u fight any anger or bitterness you have against her cos of the past and try and fight it.Those sins of the flesh are the worst tin ever you can have.bitterness and anger.May God help you my dear.

NB.try as much as you can to cut of any thing or connection you have with her.

Trey Mama said...
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Anonymous said...

Poster, u want to learn in your grave ba? She doesn't wish u well or want any good for you! Stay away from her before she learns to use jazz on u! Run away!

Anonymous said...

Ur a big mumu

Trey Mama said...

Huh? Warris this??? I don't get the point of this really,really long story...
is this your friend calling and begging for forgiveness? Is the question here whether you should forgive her or not?
Babe, am sorry but you sound really jealous of your "friend". Please let go of all that jealousy and hate, free yourself,life isn't that serious.
This reminds me of that earlier post about the upcoming actress and her friend.
Friendship is not by force. If that friendship isn't adding anything positive to your life,please walk away.

mimie said...

Must she be ur friend?ahn ahn.let her be na

Blossom said...

Please Move on will you? If you know you can't see beyond her fault,just try not to forget about her. Friendship is not by force.

Kiks said...

Can you move the f**k on?!

Mey said...

use your tongue to count your teeth. stay clear from her

brown suga said...

You don't know what to do how?
Is friendship by force
You should not be caught with people like that(someone who doesn't have your best interest at heart)
What have u gained from the so called friendship(It sure didn't add any value to you)
Abeg move on Jare
I'm not sure you like yourself.

NB; She's not a friend, that one na enemy looking for your downfall

Chiamaka L said...

spell after me L-E-E-C-H. Your dear friend is a leech and she feels she is doing you (an ugly girl) a favour by being friends with you. DO not call her, do not pick up her call and do not invite her to your celebrations. That friend of your will kill you if you are more successful than she is as she is filled with envy. Why will a single mum who is not even as pretty as myself be more successful than myself? This is her mentality and you fed it for so long. Now she feels she is entitled to you. Run as fast as your legs can carry you

shefik adinoyi said...

Poster, friendship no be by force. You won't die if you move on with your life, you have a child, a job, and most importantly, you have a family. To hell with your parasitic and self centered friend. She will never wish you well , only wants to be with you because of what you can offer. Id gladly advice you to cut off from her and move on. You might experience some withdrawal but girl, you have to flip your hair, twist your neck and say bye bye to FELICIA.. Goodluck.

QUEEN AMY Loves Sisi Eko and Stella Asemota said...

Dear you dont need to punish yourself like this, if its hard to forgive her try to forget about her existence and with time her memory will become history. The geniun love you have for her is still hurting, stay away from anything that has to do with her and dnt expect any apology either.

Olori_1812 said...

Aunty,you did not come to this world to mk friends!focus on things that will make you better
Lobatan

dabsditty said...

Poster, uve done enof. Move on and let go. Some friends r not worth ur friendship. No be by force. Dis one na parasite!

Anonymous said...

Women with hatred for one another...Mrs Poster, I'd like to hear your friends part of the story too. Cause you appeared to be an angel and your friend the devil.

orela said...

Even the bible says a hand that would lead you to sin cut it off...

Is it a most you both must be friends?
I'm not here to insult or side you. ..All I'm saying is when a situation is too toxic for you to handle move the hell on.

Mary said...

You need a trash can. You know what to do👻👻👻👻

nzube izuu said...

Mtsheeeeew!

Martins Aboy said...
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Chidinma Grace said...

Hmmmmm! Only one person? Re u Telemundo?

Anonymous said...

What type of chronicle is this eh!. I don't even understand any bit of it well let me read it again.

Anonymous said...

Sorry to deviate from the above post. I know who told makinwa'a new bobo is. His name is oluseyi K. Check him out on th, you 'll see all the pictures he took with toke. Stella dig into these and bring us the gist. They are so smitten with each other.

Yummy chick cum mummy said...

Detox ur life jor... But ow come u portray her as a demon like this... Also, u v a kid, y can't u live alone for privacy. I can't deal with room mates Sha, oga o. I don't even know d advice I can give. Good luck

Anonymous said...

Is she your lesbian partner? The only thing that can make you this foolish is if she sucks your pussy very good. Mschwweeee

Martins Aboy said...
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Anonymous said...

exactly...kilode....is it by force to be her friend...abeg loose her number and move on....shuoooo
how much insult would it take for you to move on

Martins Aboy said...
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Martins Aboy said...

My dear;life is not as difficult as you seem to see it..

Learn not to prioritize any human over yourself and your God/god;and always learn that in life;your happiness comes first..That way;you can learn to let go of people who are out to ruin your happiness and welfare..

Start by focusing your energy on other things;like your career...and don't believe you must need a friend in your life before you achieve a goal..

This said friend isn't your Demi-god and I think you have a higher expectation from her;which is already registered in your head..

Let go of her if she is causing you much pain and always remember that "20 kids born together 20 years ago,cannot continue playing together for the next 20 years"..

Leave that friend and face yourself;and your career..and don't live a life full of expectations from anyone out there.

#cheers

@MARTINS ABOY

Anonymous said...

There is something you are definitely not telling "me". Is she your source to OXYGEN supply or you want her to kill you first before you realize it.I don't get it if she was a sister I would understand but this haba madam please collect brain resetting E-SLAP. Keep away from that enemy you call a friend. So pissed off..don't mistake foolishness for kindness

grace sylvester said...

Running madam! In fact flee from that leech, is she your placenta? Abi na heart sef? Must u have a friend? Na by force? In all these u didn't mentioned you husband, you must be a single mum and I bet u caused it. See I dey vex

Olubunmi Omolola said...

Enter your comment...Must you be her friend? Abi is there something else yiu are not saying? If not just forget her existence completely.Of what use is someone who is not adding any value to you?

someonbody's mum said...

What is your confusion about exactly? You need someone to pat you on the back and say stay away from her? If that's what you are waiting for, then you are obviously enjoying what you are getting from her

MacSpeedy said...

The truth is you are not her friend, she is a user and simply a tool to her (a means to an end). My advice is please stay clear of her, sometimes you need to shed some weight and burdens(unproductive friends) to grow in your life's journey. She will keep bringing you down to make herself feel exalted and this might affect your self-esteem in the long run. Wish her well, forgive her and move on with your life. If it's necessary, let her why you can't continue with the friendship, let her also know you have forgiven her, then stay clear. You'd be happy you did.

Anonymous said...

POSTER, MUST SHE BE YOUR FRIEND? I HATE PEOPLE LIKE YOU. ITS NOT AS IF ITS A HUSBAND OR ANYTHING ABEG IF THERE IS ANYONE IN YOUR LIFE MAKING UR HEART SQUEESE IN PAIN KINDLY DELETE THEM MBOK! STOP WHINING, CHRONICLES IS FOR MORE SERIOUS ISSUES. OYA WAKA PASS!

Empress CHO said...

Had a frenemy too, was mad angry when i realised what she was all about. And almost bitter when i tried to move on. But now i have moved really on. Some tips?

1.Embrace the fact that you could be selfless in a friendship....it's a plus on your character. Deflect your thought from thinking you were a fool or some loser or you were used......you will only hurt yourself more.

2.Ask God genuinely for forgiveness. You need to shake off the negative moulding you have undergone courtesy of the toxic friendship, the negative energy and aura that your anger has bred. In my case, i fasted and prayed for days oh.....coz i was so touchy and inflammable.

3.This one go hard sha.... Pray for her! You really need to learn to devote even if it's a minute or more praying for her everyday. Pray for her well-being, her peace, her fulfillment, her balance, her sanity, a better godly version of her. Try not to have a locked jaw or pause to yimu at the heavens as you pray like i did. Release forgiveness....that is a key step to finding peace, the peace necessary to move on. Don't worry, you will get used to it and it will be nothing soon.

4.Cut off all communications with her. No texting, calling, social media stalking. Except you are strong enough sha. You are trying to be unburdened from the toxic friendship, don't play Jesus by keeping her close. Help yourself first!

5.Re-evaluate your life and social skills. People-pleasers are never happy people. You sound like one. You need to learn to do what babies do naturally...SAY NO! If you do not like something, open your mouth and put it right. Nobody owns you and you owe nobody for being friends or even family. Do not bottle up things....it's unhealthy.

Like i always say, be the tuzalicious pepperbody with her peace of mind than a well loved doormat. People will always want to push and take advantage so long as it makes their life easier. You either choose to be their yoyo or your happy self.

6.Ask for grace to rise above suspicion of others...the aftereffect of toxic relationships. So you don't mess up future healthy friendships. You do not have to launch into prayers for new friends. Find your peace first and get to know yourself better...just be happy within yourself essentially. Then, when the new friends come along...learn to censor the information you let out. Watch your words and actions...lest you draw the weak ones into unnecessary rivalry. Give only necesssary info about you, keep the important ones. Many people come close coz they want to know what we really about.

So pls, do not share your ideas,hopes,dreams,fantasies....many do not even know what they want, the fact that someone else have them threatens them. Be guided!
Okay, i think this might help a little. One day,i might just share the story of how that "fiendship" went down.
Broken friendship especially with emotional investments and back breaking actions can feel worse than heartbreak...but you will be okay.....Just always do you!

precious blog said...

Let her go... If u guys have b

300 said...

Remember When You Forgive, You Heal. And When You Let Go, You Grow.

Anonymous said...

My dear she is not a good friend pls forget her why u still can.but wen ever she needs help n u r in a good position to help u can do DAT for her,pls forget her for ur own good.

Damsel said...

Mumu chronicle , abeg leave ur friend alone , na by force to get friend , pls face your life

Beautiful lawyer said...

Na wa ooooo,poster na only you Waka come?

Anonymous said...

Dont be stupid ooo. Before she will poison you. Love her from afar and give her space oooo

Blackberry said...

Continue, until she stabs u in d back,pull out d knife n watch u bleed out. U no fit do 'one man squad'?

precious blog said...

Let her go... If u guys have been friends for this long and she has not tried to change or be a better friend then she is not worth crying or losing sleep for.she sees u as more of an expandable convenience than a friend. Forgive her, move on and forget about her. Such person is too dangerous/poisonous to be kept around if she is as heartless and uncaring as u said. {My two cents}

Mimi Love said...

Na by force? Abeg I can be your friend if you really need one.Some persons are not just worth the stress.

Mimi Love said...

Btw forgive her so God can forgive you too

Anonymous said...

Lobatan,this is no friendship at all, receive sense

Elixir Ray said...

Poster, since you have bluntly refused to have sense,receive it in JESUS name. Amen!!! If you can, please forget everything about her, including her name. You see unfriendly friend with clear eye yet you are still seeking for advice.

Ayomide Adenike said...

you can keep contact with her but be careful in the process

MOTHER NATURE........ said...

Mstchewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

So at your age you don't know when to give yourself some sense. Please dump that fool you call a friend. When I hear people say friend I can't help but laugh. If you see who a true friend is, you will bless God. You and You along is the only friend you have.

If you are married please make your hubby your friend or your sister and move on biko. Some women just train idiots as children. How do people derive joy in making people sad/unhappy? Na wa oh!

Madam, you had better save yourself that stress of going through pains/heart break bec of one imbecile mstchewwwwwwww.

BeQuiet Instead said...

Poster....you really sound UNFORGIVING. All these while, why did you not talk with her as a friend? You talked about your child but I did not hear you talk about being married. Does it mean that you got married and brought in an adult to live with you?

It's obvious your pretence to be her friend made her to follow you about. Enough already, even being friends with somebody from childhood does not mean that you will remain friends all your lifetime. You need to sit her down and let her know how she has hurt you so that you will free your mind from much hurt and unforgiveness to also be forgiven yourself. Quote me dearie, if you do not discuss your hurt/pain/feeling with her - NO THERAPY CAN WORK.

It is not good to hold things up against others, it does more harm to the person holding grudges than the one s/he is holding grudges against.

The Grace of God is available to ALL who come to Him. Shalom!!

Emilia Peter said...

Pls let go! And move on.

Anonymous said...

My dear, i will advise you to go and the book "managing your emotions" by Joyce meyer. I understand ur type of person and i put it to u that u are to emotional and sentitive to issues. D proble is not your friend, but you.

Ada bekee said...

*gave

Doppelgänger said...

*run away.

Doppelgänger said...

*run away.

DIP3 said...

Egbe wa won wen! Na by force! Hian! She nor be better person, move on with your life Sis,she's just a user and takes advantage of you.You are much better off without the likes of her.wish u luck

Ibukunoluwa said...

Help me ask

Pipi Lee said...

Trash that bitch!

reemah said...

Not all friendships are meant to be forever. Cherish the good times you guys had and move on.

Anonymous said...

The poster said herself that d writer can be good if she wants to be. Dont judge people with one sided story. This writer is too emotional and sensitive to issues she could ve let go. For her to be ur friend for years now, means that there must be somethings u like about her. I ve a sister who will not allow u to use her thing, she is so slefish that one day she embaraased me in d church for using her head tie. I didnt resent her for one day. Now, i send money and buy things to her and she has really changed. I really do not take sh***t from people if u know me but i ve grown to realise that some people will not just change no matter how u want to revenge. The only way to treat thise people is to stay away from them, show them care and love anytime they cross ur path, forgive them and take them they way they are. Life is too short to bear grudges to people who might not even know they are hurting u.

by passer said...

Sweetheart you don't have "haters". You are just really hated. There's a difference. Bitter doesn't describe you, that's putting it mildly.

stunning slim shady said...

mschew I dint bother reading d chronicle to d end cos it reeks of stupidity n immaturity. Poster seems like ur so called frend gives u LIFE dats why u cannot severe ur parasitic relationship wt her. U r a magnificent M U M U plus DUNDEE united. Kindly anoint ur medula oblangata tonite @ about 3am wt cold pressed coconut oil then watch WAr room afterwards. Inugo, wisdom will com from on high. Mschew, next post plssss am out of here.

Mao Akuh said...

Did stuff together. Una be lesbian? Focus on your CHILD, make your daughter your friend but make Jesus your best friend and share that idea with Jesus. Keep going and don't look back. Use your common sense if any.

Damsel said...

As in , this chronicle just dey vex me , don't know why you want to be her friend after all she has done , abeg move on

Anonymous said...

Just forgive and wish her well from afar. Don't bother about the friendship again. Uv been there but mine was my sister... I know how you feel. I Wish I could talk to u and share some things on how I overcomed mine. I still haven't forgotten 100% but I've put it behind me.

Bold Marehi said...

Don't make people your priorities when they make you an option. it's obvious she does not have the attribute of a friend. Please let go she is only your Friend for food(fff) or better
still apply wisdom in your dealings with her.

IJAY said...

Please forget her biko, i don't know y u are forcing yourself to her, must she be ur friend. Kindly give your child 100% concentration and forge ahead

Anonymous said...

I too know Doppelganja, let me educate u small.

'Actually...STUFFS is a word in English.

Ordinarily, we can't count STUFF in English (1 stuff, 2 stuffs, no, no, no). But...if you are a salesman (say, for household goods) OR an expert about this type of STUFF...like bedroom linen stuff, and kitchen linen stuff, and bathroom linen stuff...then YES, you can use the word STUFFS.You have to be referring to everything you are selling at the same time (and each group of STUFF is different...bedroom, kitchen, bathroom STUFFS, all linen). Get it? It's a super-hard concept.

ATTENTION: I am a native English speaker (American) and an language teacher, and I NEVER use the word STUFFS in conversation. HOWEVER...I've seen the word used in the media (books, broadcasts, etc.) The word exists...but it's very specific (and literary) and very rare. You don't use the word STUFFS in speech...unless you are a specialist with a highly literary grasp of the English language.

See: WARES (a more common word that means the same thing as STUFFS)'.

She Listens said...

You are so right Lopezbarbie. Anger and bitterness eats you up. It took me a long time to overcome them. Guess what? It was caused by a friend as well. Although she's not as wicked or heartless like the poster's friend.

Martins Aboy said...

Kai;glo eeeehhh! Oriegwu..


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@MARTINS ABOY

Anonymous said...

D same way they keep u at arms length...what all this "i dnt keep female friends bla bla bla"? I didnt see anything wrong with d poster's fend rather than d poster is too sensitive and kind hearted. Simple, stay away from her, call her only when u need something from her, dnt buy anything for her.

Cissy said...

Lol
Dunno why people choose to remain in a toxic relationship that drains them be it from a man/woman thinking they will change. You saw all the signs why remain? Will you even take the advice you get from BV's
You have low self-esteem deal with it

Anonymous said...

May God bless u for this. I'm suprised many didnt see what was wrong with d poster. For her to stay in that friendship for this long, it means d girl was good in some ways

Anonymous said...

Get a life u fool! Ana akogheri all d time. Were u thinking she will never get a boo before. O ga-ene gi vum na anya

Olaide Davies said...

This poster just annoyed me.Must you be her friend or are you lesbians? Abeg comot jare.

Anonymous said...

Haba madam poster..have not heard where anyone died as a result of friendlessness..if having a friend is dat important to you then make ur blood sis or ur mom one..what have come to find out is female friends are less loyal to one another especially those that claim to be inseparable..from your narration its evident she never liked u deep down..how can ur so-called friend watch ur baby eating her own poop..yuck..she's an enemy fleeeeee..I know what it feels like cos I've been there..maybe mine was even was..but I got over her..became stronger and never had so called intimate friend again*don't place on having* cos I learnt in a very hard way..am better now and stronger but will never fall victim again..please don't be gullible..God bless

Anonymous said...

Yoruba dey say "tipa ni?
Madam chronicler face ur life, leave d babe alone

Anonymous said...

Friendship is not by force, shuo? Were you not hugged as a child? You need to practice self-love.

Anonymous said...

Well, from what I understand, these two should be a couple, our poster breached the trust by sleeping with a guy and the baby is the result of d broken trust. Hence our poster feels indebted to this so called best frnd.

Anonymous said...

At the end of the day, BESTFRIEND break ups are way worse than BOYFRIEND break ups. I know that for a fact and this chronicle and many comments here confirms it.

Anonymous said...

Fb

Mary said...

I had such friends too. The moment I felt I was pushing too hard, I borrowed myself brain. Now I just keep very very very few frienda. My husband and two sisters are my Paddy.

James said...

Madam U must be a very depressed and sad fellow and u need her in your life by all means

Jasmine said...

Aboy, take time o. Glo is the best!!! Glo is good, hehehehe

cakes by Bella's, Abuja. 58DA8ADF, 07080305132, instagram @cakes_by_bellas ,twitter @CBellaabuja said...

Friendship is not by force. Learn to cut negative people out, if not they will keep stealing your joy. I never hesitate to cut of negative people , can't deal abeg

Jasmine said...

No need. You've not met a friend like this that why. I av and it was so annoying. After doing all the chores, she'll just cross leg and be looking like u like a fool

Jasmine said...

Story

Jasmine said...

Oyibo!!!

Obaro Evaborhene said...

Seen

Anonymous said...

Yeye chronicles, how old are you sef? Must you send chronicles...soo angry I wasted my time reading this. brainless women everywhere. No wonder you're a baby mama.

Starjoy said...

Thank you English teacher

Rx Mams said...

I'm a bit confused. Are u guys just friends or lesbians? Anyways it really hurts when someone you love and prioritize treats you with disdain, that's why God is the master healer, he can mend your broken heart and make you whole. Meanwhile u need to cut ties with this friend of yours since it's obviously a one-way friendship. Goodluck

Anonymous said...

PLS FREE HER. DON'T SEE HER AS YOUR ENEMY BUT DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM HER.PICK HER CALLS DON'T MAKE THAT MISTAKE OF ALLOWING HER COME TO YOUR HOUSE AND FEELING FAMS. IF SHE NEEDS HELP THAT YOU CAN OFFER DO BUT NOT MONETARY HELP SHA. THERE FRIENDS LIKE THAT.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

*cut ooooh CUT

Anonymous said...

Friendship is not by force,give yourself sense.she is not your God,concentrate on your child.

Anonymous said...

Shut up there. If he had asked you to sleep with him, you would have agreed.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Ah! Leave oh. I had them when I was in Uni. When you know how bad they can be, you will wonder if Na woman born them. Leave my dear. Some people are terrible. I was almost poisoned because of hatred when I was in Uni. Why? i don't know till today. I took them as my sisters. Ask them how I offended them, no real explanation. Gist for another day. The annoying part is everyone else around me pitied me amongst these 'friends' but me I didn't see it. Until the straw that broke the camel's back. I parked out of my house, with 3 months rents pending. And moved to a new place I didn't disclose to anyone. My dear, leave am. Some people are just evil. All you need is strong will to cut off.

ngfineface said...

Honestly that's my thoughts too. You gave the best advice

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

See.... This toke's new boo will be far better than Maje. Wait and see

Anonymous said...

Poster In the name of God and for your own safety, sanity and peace, stay away from such friend. Yes, forgive her and move on. Do not keep malice or wish her evil, but please stay away... I MEAN STAY AWAY OOOOOO....

Anonymous said...

My dear,that your friend is evil.If you allow her into your life again she will destroy you.Mind you she is contacting you because she is tagerting something from you.Am talking from experience.I have evil colleagues like her from Urhobo and Anambra and they can pretend for the devil.My dear don't allow that girl into your life unless you don't value your life and that of your daughter.

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