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Thursday, 4 August 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative.

My people this one pass me Ohhhh!!!





NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
SINGLE MUM VERSUS SERIAL CHEAT 
Good day Stella,
Thanks for this platform. Please, I want you and your blog visitors to aid me in making this decision.
I'm a 24 year old graduate. I started dating this guy from October 2015. He appeared so nice, encouraging, supporting in all ramifications. He acts as if he is self disciplined, holy and too good to be true but I noticed he has lots of female friends that calls him. He told me they only call him for advice and counselling. The calls reduced with time because I'm always with him as we stay in same town.

He is a team no s3x but we had s3x earlier in the relationship like few times until he said the s3x was affecting his relationship with God. I had to agree, at least it gave me the chance of practicing celibacy. Meanwhile, I abandoned a relationship of 5years I had with my Ex because of this guy for no reason.
We have been together since then but there is a particular girl that comes visiting; the girl gives me attitude whenever she comes. 


She doesn't greet me and I don't greet her either. I complained, he said she is only a friend that I should just ignore. Whenever she comes, they go into the room to talk but I told him to stop it. Only for the girl to come yesterday, the same room discussion happened. I called him to get the girl out to the sitting room to discuss but the girl started laughing, immediately started ranting that they have been dating for over a year and seven months since January last year, that she's been enduring all my excesses.

I was shocked! This was a guy I could vouch for that he was faithful, she said the guy told her also that I was a friend.. 

Hmmn!

 I locked everywhere that no one could leave, I pounced on the guy out of anger. This is someone that forms spirikoko (prayer warrior). Well, I later told the guy to choose between both of us in the girl's presence so we all could move forward. After saying it's was a hot seat for him, he said no one should be angry with him because he didn't know how to handle it that he chose ME, the girl got angry and left.

I've not been my self since then, i still can't deal with the scenario because I never believed that guy will keep such secret for 10 months that we've been dating. He said he never knew why he kept on with her but she knew about me because he told her to move on since but she refused. 

The funny thing is; when I met this guy, he told me he was a virgin that I was the first girl he slept with, he never had s3x with any of his Ex though I never believed him. Only for the girl to say they've been having s3x. Although he had it last with her last year November.
Now, he is begging and telling me he had s3x 5times with the girl, that he had s3x few times only with his Ex too. It's just so shocking! I wonder why so much lies.. It's not like I'm a saint. He said he lied because he wanted to start our relationship on a clean note... 

Seriously, I wish to opt out but he's been begging since, said the girl is aware we're dating but threatened to cause trouble and destroy the relationship and he's so scared to tell me. Choosing me in the girl's presence isn't a guarantee for me taking him back although he has his good sides and moreover, I have a 5year old son he takes as his own too.
Please, Stella and fellow BVs, can i give him another chance?
 Thank you.       
From Confused BV Sophia




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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

THE SHOCKER AFTER THE WEDDING


Good day Stella 

Am a regular  visitor of your blog but rarely comment .(Please  hide my email id) because I don't want my husband's family to know am the one that post this..(please I will try to make this story short)

Stella please help me post this where I can get good advice from the BV.

My story goes like this ,I got married this year January but I meet my husband middle of 2015.we did our traditional and white wedding same day.Mind you while dating my husband says no sex because both of us are born again. We went for test but when we reached the lab he refused to do hiv test,said he does not believe in it ,from there I cancelled the marriage.

Later he came back begging me and my family then he agreed to do it ,when the result came out he was negative.But I never knew that this sign is from God for me to back out completely.

We proceed for the marriage ,throughout that day we wedded honestly I was not happy but couldnt say why.After the celebration we went home, they had two buildings so we occupied one .We take our bath and climb the the the bed then hubby said I should sleep that he was very weak.I said ok because I don celibate for more than 6yrs.

Next day he want us to escape it again so I make the move lo and behold his penis cannot erect,to avoid some quarrel that night I shift to the wall and cried my heart to God that night.In the morning he keep on begging me that we will find solution that what he suffers is an attack.

l followed him to one church in Abuja they conducted deliverance for him yet nothing happened.After some weeks I told him we must see a doctor while continuing praying,but he says no way that it  is was an attack I became angry and told him that am leaving after much struggle we see  the doctor then second episode start,when the doctor asked if we are comfortable together he said no that one of us to leave,I just respect the doctor that day,later the doctor called me and said I should be patient that it will be corrected,when we are about to go I heard the doctor telling hubby to continue taking his diabetic drugs religiously in a very low voice ,on hearing this I was very cold .


When I reach home that day I ransacked every corner lo I fined the drugs where he hide it.I google their name it was (glibenclamide and metformin).I was furious that day ,I want to call my family he started begging me and promised to do anything to find the solution,honestly that day I lost every love I had for him.since then i noticed he doesn't want me to go near any of his friend but I keep on asking him to tell me if there is any other secret I should  know but he said no.

One day I saw him rubbing some ointments on his feet I ask what happened to him ,he said he was feeling numbness on it I suggest we see the doctor but he said no that he will be fine.

One Sunday we are in the church,he get up to go and urinates,not up to 2 minutes he ran back and started shouting help help one usher ran to him stella it was convulsion right inside the church.

The convulsion happened repeatedly for more than three times before we reached the hospital.The convulsions even repeated for more than four times  inside the hospital.

The doctors asked me for any history of brain injury I said that i don't know and then his uncle walked in and asked my husband why he didnt me about his Epilepsy .

Jesus I broke in pieces .

I picked my phone and called my elder brother in tears,he consoled me and said I should wait for his reply .Later they organized family meeting and asked me to come back home especially my sister who is a medical doctor.I heard my mother fainted that day ,she called me and said how could I hide such things from her but I told her that they advised me not to bring my family matter outside,she said this one is beyond family.

We did the sperm cells count it was 20% and the doctor also noticed some heart problems with him.

His family including himself are begging me not to go that they will provide solution to him.Please madam Stella ,BV,medical doctors in the house am ready for any insult but hit the hammer on the nails, is there any solution to this mess I found myself?. 



HIAN....This one pass me oooooooh..ha!!!!!!

174 comments:

Chidinma Grace said...

May Jesus fix it.

Anonymous said...

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Payment after I av bought my ticket.
Thanks

stunning slim shady said...

Things are really happening oooooo. * mouth agape*




Brb wt ma comments

telema Cr7 present wife and drake girlfriend said...

Hian
What is this?

STARRY LARRY said...

Poster 2, DIVORCE HIM ASAP, this is too much now.


Poster 1, My dear sister, if your man is cheating on you..
๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ
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BOiL WATER...
Let it boil...boil...boil...and boil...
While water is still BOILING...wait for him to fall
asleep..
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When you are very sure that he is sleeping...
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Then make some tea and drink..
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Tea reduces stress..
๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ˜Š
Wait ...!!. Wat were you thinking!.. That you will pour the hot water on him....common you love him now...!!! Abeg wetin you want us do now?




*Larry was here*

Doppelgรคnger said...

Poster 2 leave that marriage while you still can and have every reason to. That husband of yours can kill and the sooner you leave him the better. Why lie so much to keep a woman when I am sure, there are women out there who would love him for who he is.


Poster 1 errrm
What's the deal with this guy? You had to lock two adults in to get a guy to choose you? Oh how smart of you. What makes you think he isn't begging the other girl just as much as he is begging you? I think there is something you are offering to thus guy that has made him consistently pursue you. Not saying single mothers can't find love in an hopeless place but dear you better say the truth. You are a spender for men and that is what he is latching on.
He doesn't like you and you better move on and Wait for someone more mature.

Quiksilver said...

Poster 1
Are you guys cohabiting or what? Gerrahere mehn. Since you cannot use your brain.

Poster 2
See ehn, I'm not even ready to be celibate once I find a boo. All these silly men with their various diseases are the ones advocating for celibacy. Thieves! Cheats!

Don't worry poster, even if Stella posted the narrative with your full names, your grammar alone would confuse your in-laws.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Poster 1,
What is your problem?...this guy has not married any of you so stop acting as if you own him...
He is still single and searching same as you!...

Poster 2,
Biko my sister,RUN!!!!...
WTH!...
This guy is a walking ghost...anybody advising you to stay does not love you cos you will end up having epileptic children!...
Don't start what you cannot finish all in the name of marriage...
Inukwa akuko?...
Well,you can stay if he is rich!...

salt E said...

Poster 1: asking the dude to pick BTW u and a chic is a huge slap on ur own face cos nne u will keep asking him to choose.Y not go and look for another man ehn? Must we keep humiliating ourselves because of man?

Poster 2: insult bawo? Abeg just quietly goan pack ur things ehn , flee to ur parents house without saying a word,they shudv trained their son better to know that lying and keeping secrets will cost u a lot. Don't listen to abeg oo just go ah! Epilepsy plus 20%what, what, what.My sister marriage isn't by force plus diabetes on top? I can't deal

stunning slim shady said...

Hmmmm what a story @ poster 2, some people are wicked sha. That marriage was dead on arrival, he wasn't sincere abt his health status. The marriage was built on deceit, it all depends on if u can tag along while ur Hubby's issues are fixed, but for how long sef...


Anyways if u were my relative, I wud ask u to annul d marriage n go ur separate ways. Who knows wot else he is still hiding. Mschew

Miss Suave said...

Poster 2, he did wrong by hiding all these sturvs. If you still got some love left, plz work with that but if the love Don yapaaa,plz flee!

Anonymous said...

Okokobioko at poster 2.it is well IJN.
MEN are worse than women o.tueh

Tuscany said...

P2
Better leave that man. Your marriage was founded on lies and deceit.
He has too many issues to deal with.

P1.
Just leave him. If he cant atleast respect u by hiding the girl from u or his house while you are around, you have no business with someone like that. Even your shag buddy deserves respect cos shes giving her body talk more someone you are dating.

Natural hair products 566bbc84 said...

Poster 2...all i could shout is Jesus

white Berry said...

Poster 2: please please leave that marraige, so many compounding problems. They are looking for someone to carrt their sons problem and that is why long courtship is still very idea

Loveme Jeje said...

Poster 1... continue to dey fall MUGU. Forget spirikoko people ooo. He is begging you, he will still go and beg the other girl. Abeg leave that MUGU jare.

Poster 2.... sorry about what you just entered into. Your love has gone off. If you need God to do it for you and him, kindly send email to me.

just know that You have to follow him to the hospital to run test and other things. Dont lose hope. It is just a pity that you did not seek God's advice before rushing to marry. You would have asked God to dig deep into that man before you marry.

It is well with you.

Jennifer Lawrence said...

@ Poster1: u re a big idiot...Imagine u after everything u ve read on this blog u re still asking questions goat poster 2: jesus fix it

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 and 2 got hooked up in the chains of pretending spouses.
P1: take him back but date other guys secretly
P2: nowhere in your chronicle did you mention love. Where you under some kind of pressure to marry? Based on something similar my friend went through, I can foresee financial struggles in the near future.

PLATINUM said...

Poster two: you married him in january? Nne biko gbaba ka ukwu gi ha. Hey! That ur hubby is wicked o, this is why i dnt blame pple who want to taste before marriage.
This man own sef is worst!, diabetes plus, erectile dysfunction, plus epilepsy plus watelse he is still hiding? Ogini n'afio!!
Poster one:nne sowie i had to tlk to poster two first, ehen, please, leave that situationship, that guy is an unrepentant liar, who knows how many more ladies he has n still keeping them as jst a friend. Please go, God will give u ur own man biko, i hate dramas in relationships!

orela said...

Why did he have to lie?@2nd poster....well you can go for a divorce since the Marriage was based on lies...
Diabetes can be managed like wise epilepsy and low sperm count....but no woman should unknowingly go into a union with all these on ground.
Say what is and in who loves you would still be with you and together jump over hurdles.

Poster 1 ..I no sabi wetin to talk sef..that you guy is a badoo. .imagine dating 2 women and passing them of as your friends and even seeing them at the same time..damn .He is good at what he does.
Bv Sophia. .maybe knowing you are a single mother he feels he is doing you a favour. .
Abeg I no sabi wetin you fit do..follow ya heart and pray

Olori_1812 said...

poster1: the guy is just using you..move on already! before you get broken

poster 2: ha! bet this one too pass me o. Bet why would he not tell you about his health status now?..i see this as a sabotage trust me

BECKY'S DIARY said...

Poster one..

You need to break up with that liar, you are a single mother. You dont need such unserious people around you
Imagine believing he is a virgin? Tueh for him

Poster two..

Too many lies mehn..
Tell the whole family you need a break mbok. A very long break o
The deceit is just too much to keep managing, leave him and go seek for peace of mind first. The kind that only God can give.

Ask him if he has any other secrets to tell, when he is done. In a calm voice, tell him you need a break to think if you can still continue with the marriage or not! Seek for guidance from God and Him alone, only He can tell you which way to follow.

It's well with you dear

Anonymous said...

@p1.Single mother
..?and you still dey shakara?kwantinu God dey.

P2.Make we hia word!!!!!!Stay by him.With God all things are very possible. You tot leaving him will make your entire life happy?kwatinu.

Atheist. said...

Poster 1: The 3 of you are not serious at all, how could u watch another girl walk into a room with ur BF & remain thr for hrs, i wouldnt even dignify you with a response, live ur life.

Poster2: Sorry i had to laugh, lol.... All those ailments packed into one person? and u didnt see any clue, dont even dare blame any1 but urself, am sure ure part of that TeamNoSnoop community, this is what u get Ntoooorrr *pulls eye lid down* In your nxt relationship, you'd collect & cross examine all that needs to be b4 jumping in...
Deceit, Lies, Sugarcoating, scheming, charade, Secrecy, concealing.....etc, its all the foundation of ur marriage, IT WILL NOT STAND the test of time, annul that union & dust ur ass.

#StannisBaratheon: What do you mean to do with him?
Melisandre: You know what I mean to do with him.
StannisBaratheon: Then why bathe him & dress him in fine clothes?
If it needs to be done, do it. Don't torture the boy.
Melisandre: Have you ever slaughtered a lamb, my king?
StannisBaratheon: No.
Melisandre: If the lamb sees the knife, she panics.
Her panic seeps into her meat, darkens it, fouls the flavor.
StannisBaratheon: You've slaughtered many lambs?
Melisandre: & none have seen the blade.

stunning slim shady said...

Poster 1:
He said he lied because he wanted to start our relationship on a clean note...

Ngwanu now fire down u don't need our advises here u know d ansa already. All d kies he told u are part on d "clean note".


Mschew hoping to get anoda chronicle from u if u remain wt ds guy probably on how he infected u wt std or impregnated u n dumped u. All d best.

Anonymous said...

Poster2... choi, na half dead body you marry so oh
Una too like that word MARRIAGE
Once una hear MARRIAGE, una brain cells don enter coma.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Bv Sophia y did you introduce your child to someone you're not assured of in the first place?? Many men come and pretend and go but never expose your chikd to them or you will end up introducing the child to different men and baby will get confused. As a single mum never make that mistake again. Secondly all those church brothers are the worst. Flee from them. Flee from that guy abeg. Another man will come buy

Ibukunoluwa said...

Chaaaaaiii

The best amongst the cuties said...

Poster 1, are u sure u were de one he chose๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜? Why do I have dis feeling that u are lying?? No vex oo, na question I ask!
Poster 2, sorry oh! According to the catholic church,( I ain't a catholic but wedded In one so I attended their counseling) marriage done under false grounds is invalid. So the choice is urs. But dis ur hubby is truly something else... So many lies and secrets! Who knows what else u are yet to discover? The Lord is ur strength, muscle and tendon o.

Anonymous said...

Ladies learn to truly snoop by seeking God before and after marriage and in all you do.

My husband is a business executive and needed to go to a conference in another city. In my family (of five), we all fast from morning till evening during the weekends; fri. sat. sun. And we have our family fellowship on Sunday evenings. We also pray at midnight just like Jesus taught. So before my husband went for this conference, the Lord revealed to me in a dream that a particular lady will come with a problem and would want him to help her. She would demand to visit him in his hotel room for discussion but her intention is seduction. The Lord showed me that if my husband yielded; i.e. allowed her in his room, he would "NEVER RECOVER FROM IT". After sharing it with him; even the description of the lady etc. He left. And when he returned, he told me that the lady (someone he trusted) wore even the exact dress that the Lord showed me. And after the conference, she was there pleading for his assistance with a project. My husband simply found an alibi and told her that they should discuss it there in the hotel lobby that he will be there as long as the discussion lasted. This lady refused and pleaded for the discussion in the comfort of my husband's room, next morning. He rejected that and called me that night. We changed his flight schedule and he left earlier than he planned. When the lady called as soon as my hubby arrived (she had actually been calling during the flight;don't know how she got his cell number. She was supposed to have only the official one), he gave me the phone and I simply said "I am the wife, he is home and sleeping soundly in my arms . . ."
Daniel two verse twenty two: He reveals deep and hidden things; he knows what lies in darkness, and light dwells with him.

amanda favour said...

Poster 1 Choi

Poster 2 Choi choi

christiana madumere said...

Poster 2, it will only take a miracle for him to be healed totally. But why d deceit. Na wa oooooooo.

Jesus pls fix.

BluntIjebuChic'*GiFTED'* said...

Jesos!! Diabetics+epilepsy
Jesus fix it cos this is just damn too much..kilode

Elegant Nums said...

Dear poster, please leaaaaaave tha bastard. For not telling u all these then it is crueeeel. What if it were to be u? Would he stay? I tell u, u can not cope. If u remain in that marriage, u wil cheat, sow bitterness in ur heart, grow weary and be depressed. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.. shuuuu u be reverend sister? Abeg fleeeee from that mistake of a man. Dnt listen to anyone that advices u to stay abeg leave. He is wicked. @poster 2

Poster 2 that guy is bad news abeg. He kept playing u right under ur nose bringing d babe into d house. Abeg break up with him

Stella maris Baby said...

Poster 2 I was laughing @ your chronicle @ the beginning but @ a point I really felt bad why did ur hubby hide a sentivite issue like this from you..
He is not a real born again.
I pray that you will get the right answer from our dear blog visitors..
My prayers are with you & your family..



Poster 2 give him another chance..

God fix it for both

Milk Shake said...

Poster 2. DIVORCE HIM!

Anonymous said...

Ladies and gents learn to snoop the "Daniel's way"; that's the godly way of knowing things. Do not rush into marriage or life serious events like this lady poster 2 did and come here with chronicles:

Yes, I broke up with my best friend of over a decade. We were too close. She went to a medium to make me mad. Her reason, I was too close to my New husband at the expense of our friendship. She wanted to exercise control over my home and I stood my ground and said no. she tried to seduce my husband; but that one was harder than igneous rock; he knew weeks before the girl made her first move. He is a praying mantis and fasts more than he eats in a week. To think that I could have lost my mind, ran naked on the streets etc. because of "a friend" is mind boggling. I was used to eating just fruits at noon (well, that was after I got married) and joined my husband to eat a whole meal with drinks and snacks at night (he eats only at nights for the past decade). When he told me of my friend's moves and the consequences of laxity, I went on 3 days with water and joined him to eat at nights for three months. It was the girl who came to confess of her evil deeds when instead of me running mad, she lost a very dear sibling. Guess that was the price she paid in the medium. Her long luxurious hair was clean shaven the day she came to my house weeping. I wouldn't have allowed her in if not that my husband wanted "my eyes to open" and asked me to indulge her. She told me that if my husband had fallen to her seductive maneuvers, I would have gotten mad the moment I had sex with him. If you hear what was pouring out of her mouth? I have learnt a veritable lesson in my life. You are either a Christian or you are not! Forget about all these giving of vagina and dancing in the church!

Rx Mams said...

Wow poster 2, that's some really serious issues ur husband got there o. He obviously deceived u into the marriage, enough grounds for a divorce.
How exactly will his family provide solution for all those problems, my dear RUN, run as far as u can. Don't go and tie urself in an impossible situation. Get up and RUN from that marriage, there may still be things he hasn't told you about.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Poster two I feel very sorry for you. You entered this marriage not knowing what awaits you. That's why that no sex till marriage thing no work for me at all. The man for you into that marriage with lies. Yes leavinf things out on purpose is also a way of lying. He wasn't completely honest with you so you have every right to leave that marriage. Ask yourself. If it were him would he stay with you?

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, this is one reason other reason why I like the Catholic Church marriage.
With what you have described, if you wedded in the Catholic Church and still have not had sex with your husband, your marriage can be annulled. Cos he kept so many secrets relating to his health to you.
If you thoroughly love him, as in love unconditionally, then you can carry your cross if not leave him. This is what happens when you court a man for 3 months then jump into marriage.

Candid Naija said...

Then his uncle walked in and asked him why he didnt tell me about his Epilepsy... Jesus is Lord!!
๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ญ
Sorry didnt mean to
only him
Diabetes
Erectal disfunction
Low sperm count
Epilepsy
Chronic liar
Religious fanatic
Madam ika na aju?
Oso!!!!!๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿฝ
Poster 1, i was going to say still dump him so that he looses both but i ve not been a baby mama before so i dont know your struggles in that aspect so ๐Ÿ™Š

Anonymous said...

Poster 1. A man that can lie like this in a relationship, what will he do when you get married? Thank your God you discovered the real him. For me, I would end the relationship. Women we have to use our sense. Use poster 2's mistake to LEARN!

Poster 2. Pele. You got what you did not sign up for. The decision lies with you. Ask God for guidance. Are you willing to, do you love your husband so much as to live with him through all his health challenges? He made the mistake by keeping all this from you. Maybe if he had told you, it would have prepared you.


Weasel.

BLOGBRITY ON SDK said...

Poster 2, I beg you please RUN. you are too young a woman for life's Drama

ELENA (HER MAJESTY) said...
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Stella maris Baby said...

Poster 2 your hubby is a wicked man,if it were to be you will he still remain with you & look for a way out..
He for don marry without wasting time.
God will see u thru dear..

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, get out of that marriage. He thoroughly deceived you. The guy has obviously been diabetic for a while, and that's why he can't have an erection. He seems to have symptoms suggestive of diabetic neuropathy too, that's why he has numbness in his feet. He's quite clearly a badly treated/managed diabetic as is the case with most diabetics in Nigeria.

Then he's epileptic with low Sperm count? And he didn't think to disclose all these to you before you tied the knot??? Unbelievable. The marriage is a fraud, get out now. His family are begging you abi? If it's their daughter they'll ask her to stay abi? Nonsense!

Dr S.

DREAMER said...

Poster 2, this is deep... Very deep. But there is nothing God can not do.... But be prepared to be emotionally drained. At least no kids yet.

Omasiri said...

Poster 1 You are childish,your play mate is childish and both of you are in a childish relationship. Someone needs to be matured and grow up.
Poster 2 Erectile dysfunction,diabetes,epilepsy. The Lord is your strength.

stunning slim shady said...

Hmmm are u for real?

Nkem said...

Poster 1- the handwriting is on the wall. Very legible sef, except you want us to help you read it out.

Poster 2- I feel really bad for you, you married a very wicked man. How could he do that to you or to anyone else? marry someone's child with so much baggage and not even deem it fit to be sincere about it. Only him, impotence, diabetes, epilepsy, heart issues. Ahn ahn na truly attack. Let me advise you like I would advise my sister. Please leave him for sometime and go somewhere where you can clear your head and re-evaluate. Ask yourself if this is what you want for the rest of your life, if you are going to be a caretaker for the rest of your life- not even a willing caretaker because he deceived you, can you love him and care for him in that condition? can you forgive the deceit? - he couldn't even manage to talk about the epilepsy. It's even too bad that you are not even getting the sex! when you have answered those questions, you will know whether to go back or to divorce him.

ELENA (HER MAJESTY) said...

Poster 2..How old is he?
I'd be speaking from medical perspective only
Diabetes doesn't have a cure,it can only be managed.
His erectile dysfunction is as a result of him being diabetic but brace yourself hun cos in d long run,ud have a lot to contend with other than his ED. Diabetes affects lotsa organs in d body such as d brain,kidney,eyes,muscles,legs etc coupled with d fact his has epilepsy....ask yourself this question;can u cope? If d answer is no ma'am then I'd advice you take a walk

Mao Akuh said...

Which solution other than God.
Diabetes
Epilepsy
Low sperm count
Traces of Heart problem.
They deceived you big time.

1. Even if you go back to him, keep tying your legs till he makes that bold step since he initiated the celibacy thing. If you keep tying your legs and he leaves you, you won't be broken like when you open legs for him.

Anonymous said...

poster 2, Pls that man is a definition of wicked. divorce now when the damage is very little.

Tessbaby said...

Mk una 2 run.

stunning slim shady said...

*lies

BECKY'S DIARY said...

Why won't she do shakara? Hian

Iphie dearie said...

Hahaha
Why are parents like this though?
This was my Mom's major worry too.

stunning slim shady said...

*yawns* say sth new!

Pearl said...

Poster 1 leave that man while you can if you know you dont want to end up like poster 2...man with a bag of lies and many secrets to surprise you everyday with. He is a LIAR what other sign do you want? It's funny how people lose their brains when they are desperate in love... if you find a good father for your son, fine if you dont, then your love is sufficient for him.

Poster 2: Im sorry abt your ordeal. I was actually shaking my head while reading your story. I would have asked you to leave sha but this is marriage and its more delicate. Its very obvious that your husband played on your intelligence and just wanted to marry someone with all his problems. If you dont love him then leave him cos you will just drain yourself emotionally but if you still love him after all his lies and deceit then stay and get him the help he needs so he can be better. But I must blame you for one thing sha...you are too naive. You married a man with all these problems and you had no clue...diabetes, erectile dysfunction, epilepsy, possibly HIV....what does that say about you? some people are just too quick to dive into marriage...oya now see

Elegant Touch Skincare Products - 08098361220 said...

Poster 1:
a) Cut the guy off from your life (a leopard never changes its spots except by divine intervention)
b) Go back to God and ask for forgiveness (Fornication with 1 or more partners is still fornication)
c) Pray to God to send you your own husband
d) As Stella would say, "Tie your legs like a mermaid" until after marriage.

Poster 2
Find a way of making your husband confess all he's hiding to you and you both should go to God in prayers. Deliverance will also help. With God, all things are possible..........

stunning slim shady said...

*yawns* say sth new!

P- FLAV said...

Thanks.we've seen this several times.I guess you keep posting it for the new comers to the blog.well-done. #noshadeintended

JACINTA MBACHU said...

Poster2 epilepsy can never be cured unless God interven. Please let him go, if he can hide such secrets from u then he never loved u. Poster1 please give him another chance and watch him closely. If he fuck up den trash him

Joy Nwigwe said...

Poster one: that guy's life is full of charades. Wait until another secret unfolds itself, he is a die hard womanizer..... Sweetheart flee now while you can.

Poster two: this situation of yours is very complicated. Our born again brothers should always tell the sisters the real truth na. Love does not hide the truth at all. Madam, you have taken the oath of till death do you part. Pls stand by him prayerfully, love and encourage him. I know that it is not easy but stand by him. Quit the complains and speak the word of God over him daily. Say what you want to see. Remember "by his stripe ye WERE healed" maybe this is the trial of your faith. Hold God by his word and watch the miraculous happen.

Cissy said...

#Sansa Stark: My father always told the truth.
Olenna Tyrell: Yes, he had that reputation. And they named him "traitor" and took his head.
Sansa Stark: [suddenly and spitefully] Joffrey. Joffrey did that. He promised he would be merciful and he cut my father's head off, and he said THAT was mercy. And he took me up on the walls and made me look at it.
[pause]
Margaery Tyrell: Go on.
Sansa Stark: [quickly becoming afraid] I - I - I can't, I never meant... my father was a traitor, my brother as well, I have traitor's blood... please don't make me say any more...

Anonymous said...

Your suspicion about poster 1 seem so true.poster 2 someone I know was in your situation,they were sexually active then after marriage he developed erectile dysfunction and she discovered he had epilepsy,she annulled the marriage after a month.

ukwu dimond said...

poster one the call him for advice and counselling, is he an adviser? that guy is a bloody cheat cos he will cheat over and over again.

since he is taking care of your son, just keep him but do not attach much feelings to him, be using him while you work on something better. Just stop collecting with him and make sure he opens a big shop for you, that girl should stay clear since the guy said he love you.

Kiks said...

Your husband (I won't even call him that because the marriage was built on deceit) is a very wicked person. Why so much lies and deception? What does your gut tell you? I would go for an annulment.

Poster 1 You have no problems compared to what I read after yours. Once a cheat......complete it at home.

Anonymous said...

Aswear u noh well.lol

Anonymous said...

Your suspicion about poster 1 seem so true.poster 2 someone I know was in your situation,they were sexually active then after marriage he developed erectile dysfunction and she discovered he had epilepsy,she annulled the marriage after a month.

Miss Ess said...

P1, so they always enter the room for as long as they want and you would sit down there comfortable? Aaah, o ga o. This thjng called love sef. P2, only him one? Lord have mercy! Honestly I feel nothing but pity for both of you. You are a Christian and a born again for that matter, *if* you still love him you can pray, fast and await a miracle, but if you don't, you know what to do if your belief in Christ would allow you

God chic said...

Wow! poster two really entered one chance.

Funmi said...

Poster 2; This is the result of a short courtship.
If you pack n leave,you join the already clogged singles market again.
If you stay,medical challenges means you will he stressed plus unhappy and maybe childless too...
Turn to God.its time to abandon your wisdom and the wisdom of men.Only God can guarantee a soft landing and take charge for you.
I wish you well.

P- FLAV said...

Dear poster 1.. U sound desperate. Abeg leave that relationship jor! How will u cope with someone that tells so many lies? Is he because he cares for your son? Lemme tell you..your own man will find you whether you are a baby mama or not! Respect yourself and leave that relationship jor.

Poster 2: you are a very good candidate of marriage annulment because a) you guys are still yet to consummate the marriage. B.) The marriage was contracted on lies and misinformation.. Annul the marriage and live your life!

The best amongst the cuties said...

This woman!!! U don come again??? Haba! Them swear for u say u make u always dey talk dis story ne?? Abeg we haff hear. E don do. Kai!

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

Only one person with
Diabetics
Erectile dysfunction
Epilepsy
Heart disease

Poster2: you dey try oooh
Lord fix it

Anonymous said...

My dear it is not about tasting before marriage,Many that tasted still discovered some problems later,someone can suffer erectile dysfunction even after being ok before marriage,we all live by God's grace,Pls poster 2 don't be so harsh on the guy when you are leaving,let him know you left because of deception not because of his illness,some people maybe healthy today and tomorrow sick,it can happen to anyone but you are hurt because he deceived you.you can annul instead of divorce.God guide you.

pls follow @trendy_haven on instagram for all the latest beautiful hairstyles. said...

Hian make I read comments too

Anonymous said...

P1... I hv no advice to give u bcos karma is still working wonders in ur life for breaking ur exes heart after 5yrs...so keep on enjoying karma

Anonymous said...

@poster 2..you have every right to divorce him on the ground of not been truthful. The church frowns at this and it is a bases for separation. Thank God you have not consummated your marriage.my dear divorce the nonsense sharp sharp.

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

Poster1: you are soooooo dumb
Keep cohabiting with a hood rat.
You lack sense that's y men will keep messing with u.

Anonymous said...

My dear it is not about tasting before marriage,Many that tasted still discovered some problems later,someone can suffer erectile dysfunction even after being ok before marriage,we all live by God's grace,Pls poster 2 don't be so harsh on the guy when you are leaving,let him know you left because of deception not because of his illness,some people maybe healthy today and tomorrow sick,it can happen to anyone but you are hurt because he deceived you.you can annul instead of divorce.God guide you.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 stay with your man. I know this lady's type. She knows your man has picked you since but she won't go away. If you love him , stay and forget the girl

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

Poster1: you are soooooo dumb
Keep cohabiting with a hood rat.
You lack sense that's y men will keep messing with u.

Anonymous said...

Do you want to have another kid outside wedlock,Why the sex after your past experience,I doubt if that guy really loves you.

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

Poster 2,I am not understanding why you are still married to that ghost...what fuckery?
Low sperm count, diabetes, EPILEPSY! EPILESPSY o as in akwu akwu, his dick cannot even stand. Which stupid cure are you waiting for if hAsnt been cured all these years is it your presence that will cute him? Even if he is rich sef all the money go finish for hospital bills nau. The most annoying part is how he hid it all from you, better go for another test o I'm sure that man is HIV positive. So are you trying to say you have been married for months now and you never still fuck? WTF WTF WTF
Your husband is the devil himself! WTF!!
Poster 1, chiri use there! Idi stupid. You locked the door as what na undertaker?idi very stupid... In your small mind you won the battle abi

Anonymous said...

Many of us only claim love when all is well with our partner,when shit happens we will forget love.poster am not blaming you but many of us don't truly love.

Empress CHO said...

Poster 2: I went cold reading your story. How wicked, selfish and inhuman can a person be?. Please, please, please LEAVE! This man is a devil, a truckload of diseases and lies. Please do not waste your life with this walking corpse. Let him go! That marriage was founded on deceit. He gave you no chance or choice. Do not feel any guilt walking away. You were never married so pls dont do that "for better, for worse" shit to yourself. May God help you! This is really bad. Wish i could talk to you for real. Pls be strong. Ignore his yeye family, they were all on this. So do not let them convince you to further stay back and manage their problem.

Poster 1: I was happy you gave the idiot a deserving whooping. But mehn, you spoilt it all when you asked him to choose. For what! Is that thing a prize. Come on ghost him quickly. Your Bobo is not far. Do not waste your time with this lying fanatic.

Atheist. said...


Plus Erectile dysfunction and a Liar..... More go still de oh

Anonymous said...

Joseph the dreamer

Stella maris Baby said...

I think I have read this comment here in this blog but can't remember under which post.
It is well.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 ; u dnt know wat you want yet....advices over to James and Kevin dat edo boi (if he still tinks ur bwest is good enuff for pwessing)
Poster 2; runnnnnn ....dat man is one chance ooo....unless he is VERY rich....dem make him put you inhis will and start buying property...he go soon pack up (only him epilepsy, uncontrolled diabetes,low sperm count, impotent) wahala dey ooo๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜จ
#PAM ๐Ÿ‘„ #

Atheist. said...

E never do?
This gist don tire me

lastborn said...

Fix wetin? P1 or P2.
P2 na d shortest verse " Jesus Wept". Even me self still dey weep.
P2 pls take a walk. his problem Is like BODMAS+COMPOUND INTEREST+X^infinity.

Anonymous said...

You stupid sha

Atheist. said...

Poster1 : even if Stella hides ur name or not, your inLaws & family will definately know ure the one, how many men are packed up with all these deadly ailments in their body, plus lies as the icing on the cake.... Abegi, they all helped keep his dirty secret.

Anonymous said...

Quickie, welcome

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Where is cissy and her reply to you?

nmacalabar nmacalabar said...

A marriage based on deceit is D.O.D. @ poster two. That is a legitimate ground for divorce. With all this sicknesses he is sharing,he can fall down and die(God forbid). And if anything happens to him,his people will hold you responsible. They will even forget they begged you to stay and their son is ill. Save your head abeg. Love is not blind. It has eyes to see, ears to hear and a mind to be perceptive. Poster one, it is well with you

.

Anonymous said...

The man don collect finish come house con lie to you. Continue dreaming Josephine, please help me dream about what will happen to me next week, I really need to know.

June said...

Lmao. I actually thought you were serious

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

Linda & James come and see poster 2 ooh, shebi when we tell them to gbensh before wedding, Stella and her fellow mami water go say, tie ur legs and pretend to be a mermaid, no advice for u oh Ntooooor.

Aunty gwegwegwe 1 of SDK/ Blogosphere said...

Pls next time test with condoms so u dnt become after 2!

Anonymous said...

Dear poster get out while u still can. Life is too short to be unhappy.

See How Girl Was Humiliated By Facebook Guy said...

lol,,, oyo lo wa

Miyaki said...

I have never commented before but i would this time. Poser 2 in the Catholic church divorce is very hard to get but one of the reasons it would be granted to you less than 48 hrs after marriage is if one of the spouse lied about his/her conditions before marriage. That is marriage by deceit. In the church they would say such a marriage never even happened because it was based of deceit. I don't think you have any reason to still be in such a home. A man who couldn't tell you he is diabetic, epileptic, partially impotent can surely even kill you but in all the choice is yours. The earlier you use your head and heart together, the better for you... Cheers

Anonymous said...

Did you pray to God to confirm if the guy is his will for you before marriage? If yes, go back to God

Anonymous said...

Poster 2: well you don't need such deceitful man in your life. Dating you and another and lieing you are his friend. There's a guy like that in Barrister Bode he calls all the ladies he dates his friends or helper to his other girlfriends and he exploits everyone of them with his fake calmness and he has a wifeandtwo kids in the uk. God should protect women and our sisters frm this evil men out there

Jules Louis said...

Poster 2.
This is marriage by deceit. They r begging u cuz they want him married not cuz they love u. They r bn selfish
How long r u gonna put up with those health crisis and when u eventually hv kids they suffer health issues too? Then u will start running from pillar to post to treat your entire family?? D earlier u stop wasting your life away d better for u. U better follow your head and damn d love.

Fity said...

Poster2'its just sad DT he hid dis much from u,just ask d lord for help,u CNT gt it ere

STARRY LARRY said...

Lol @Anon 15:37, cos the poster no even serious, how me wey wan advice her go serious?




*Larry was here*

GREAT LADY said...

Poster 1, you're in a relationship with a hypocrite. Break up with him now. I know he's type very religious but no spirituality. The bible says by thy fruit, you shall know them. He's actions should tell you that he's not a Christian.
Poster 2, your marriage is built upon lies. I can't tell you to divorce him but ask God for wisdom.
Memoirsofagreatlady.com

Jirade said...

God bless u for dat comment abt poster 2. She rushed into marriage n didn't pray abt it enough. Even if they send me away from my parents house, if i never sure abt d man, i no dey marry. Why do girls behave as if marriage is do or die? If dem pursue u comot for ur papa house, then stay with a frnd. Don't know what to say to her now. Hey lady, why not go on ur knees and pour ur heart out to God. You've made d mistake already, tell Him u r sorry, n u need Him right now. I know Him very well, He'll do something.

Adadioramma said...

OMG. Poster 2, this one pass me true true. My dear, it is too early to start living your life this way. Why did he lied to you in the first place? You use why it is good to taste before buying? I don't want to sound like Linda Eze here but my dear, opt out of that marriage. Yes, I said so. I hardly advise people to do so but I must advise you for the sake of your happiness. Even in marriage course, we were thought that any partner that hides any ailment or lie from the spouse and the spouse later found out can ask for divorce if necessary. You can never know happiness in that marriage.
Poster 1, no need of advise,I know you must go back to him so advise yourself.

Sweetheart said...

Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah! This is too much! No one deserves this @poster 2

ukwu dimond said...

poster two i will not tell you to leave your husband, he did not do well by hiding his problem from you but as it is now, you don't need to run away. Stay with him and fight this out, am challenging you to go back to God cos He was the one that said marriage is honourable when bed is undefiled. you kept yourself, you served God why will you get this man as a reward, am sure God has plans for the both of you. Go to God in prayers and find out what God has for you, my dear is not easy at all but never you give up on God.

i pray with you may God answer all the questions in your heart.

IJAY said...

Poster 2, the man should have told u at least some of is problem instead he kept all to himself jus to put u in bondage, may God intervene. Poster 1, like seriously u are still asking BVS for advise, u should no the guy s a liar, pls call it off

Mrs. Romas said...

Poster 1, that guy is a serial womanizer. The earlier you leave him, the better for you.

Poster 2, why would anyone insult you? That marriage was never legal! It was done in lies and deceit. Go back to the Church and call for annulment if you know you will not be able to carry the cross of your husband's numerous ailments.
I feel so bad for you. I can't imagine what you are passing through; how can he lie to you, knowing fully well he is very sick and can't satisfy his wife.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm @ poster 2..I feel your pain and your husband had no right to keep you in the dark about his health condition..but if u love him and can truly forgive him..I will advise you to stand by him..ED is a symptom of Diabetes..likewise Diabetic Neuropathy which explains the numbness..if he is compliant with his drugs he can live somewhat of a normal life keeping in mind he could have other organ dysfxns..cardiac,kidneys etc..but if u love him truly you can be there for him and also pray for him too cos there's nothing God cannot do..Epilepsy can be controlled doesn't mean you will necessarily have epileptic children..but like I said if u still genuinely and truly love him cos it's difficult to love and trust someone who lied to you..but if you can't madam you can as well leave the marriage now..no one will blame you and from the way you sound..im sorry to say you never truly loved the guy from the beginning so why marry him..na wa for you sha
@ poster 2..stay there and keep locking door and be looking for who to choose you and not to choose you..one of these days you won't be so lucky to be chosen..A relationship based on lies and deceit doesn't lead anywhere madam..if a guy genuinely loves and RESPECTS you..he will be straight with you from the beginning..

B said...

Angel Ray you do not have to gbensh to know if a man is solid down there or not. Will gbenshing tell you he is epileptic or diabetic? Will gbenshing tell you he has HIV or AIDS? Biko woman tink am now!

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, you're still there asking questions? Just one man has all these problems? He didn't tell you about any of his illnesses until you found out yourself and you think there's not more he's hiding. Keep staying and you'll be finding out new ones each day. From what I can see you guys haven't had sex which means you've not consumated the marriage, so you have grounds to annul the marriage (annulment means the marriage never happened) instead of a divorce. Better have a good think about it.

Anonymous said...

And you must mention that Bv Sophia...who sent you pls..can you not just give your advice without this ur i too kno rubbish..ur attitude is disgusting...respect people's privacy.its not a hard thing to do..tatafo...now we kno u sabi d poster,how much hv u gained? Stupid

Godhelpus said...

Poster 1 I really don't have any advice for u. Please use your God given brain.
Poster 2, my advice is based on 1 thing. DECEPTION. The family knew he had issues and they kept it away from you. I wonder how dumb all of them are because these things can't be hidden forever or were they thinking that once you are married, you can't go back but, I stand beside you and scream DIVORCE HIM ASAP. That's my candid advice. If you knew he had issues and you truly loved him, it would have been a case of for better for worse but they wanted to package him well and dump him in her hands of a woman. When he now dies, they would be the ones to scream and call you a witch who could not have a baby for their brother and finally killed him. So my dear, leave now and save yourself some sorrow. Still be his friend but not his wife abeg. God help you o.

Anonymous said...

The marriage is void as it was made in deceit. He hid lots of things about himself. The church can nullify it if you are no longer interested.

Atheist. said...

Game of Thrones fans.... Keep enjoying the quotes without saying thank you oh, una well done

Anonymous said...

Gbensh before wedding, una say NO.

Please leave that marriage ASAP. it will be annulled (meaning you were never married)

MOTHER NATURE........ said...

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Poster2, Just keep matching until you get to your destination. The guy just used your brains my God! You can divorce him straight up bec as long as I am concerned, that marriage is as good as nothing.

Anonymous said...

Come o nsija why ina sabi fool una sef sef. Let me advice any woman....red flag...wen a man wan marry u and una never gbensh. That my dear is the first sign that something is not right. Men are sexual beings. If he agrees to such nonsense. Run. Who the hell marries without havibg tasted the goodies. I am a woman. Been married for 2 yrs. If my husband had said no sex before marriage. I would have dumped his ass so quick. He wouldn't have known what hit him. Good for unA. Asewo sef go dey form born again....a bunch of hypocrites.....wen single my dears, bang all you want o. As long as you use a condom.....e no concern anybody. Live your life, live your truth. Ppl go dey form born again....ntorrrr stay ehn. Marriage my dear is for better for worse o. U didnt not do your investigation before you married. No need to dey cry now ehn. Na forever o. Ur cross. Carry it. Mchew

Anonymous said...

Madam, I don't advice anyone to go for divorce, but in this situation, the more you look the less you see. He has been lying all along. What else will you find out? Am sure there are other things you are yet to know. If the family wants you to stay let them come out clean. From weak election to diabetics to epilepsy to heart issues. Why did he not tell you. If you want to stay fine, if you want to go find. The decision is yours.

Anonymous said...

This is a modern society and old doctrines are slowly going out of fashion. Poster 2 how can you date a man and not have sex with him? I mean protected sex with condom. You see! You have not been getting the D bcos you want to keep yourself for your Husband. Now see what you have landed into. Pls walk away while you can or you seat there and let society and family pressure keep you in that scam you call marriage. People just dnt get it.

Anonymous said...

Help me tell them. The day hubby asked me to marry him, I had to test the D to see if he is worthy of my YEs. I can't shout

Schatzi said...

Hmmmm

Anonymous said...

Help me tell them. The day hubby asked me to marry him, I had to test the D to see if he is worthy of my YEs. I can't shout

beauty said...

Na me talk am@ am rolling on d floor, lol! U really cracked me up by saying Akwu akwu! I can't handle it biko ,Epilepsy? Most embarrassing sickness dat has been ever existed.

Anonymous said...

Not on lies and deceits

Vickie Finest said...

Poster 1, open your head and receive sense. Something is seriously wrong with you. You've seen all the signs that the guy is good for nothing and and you still want to stay put. Better leave that shit you call relationship. Poster 2: my opinion is that you should file for annulment because the marriage is fraud, he lied about everything and his now playing the victim. Madam please leave.

HOUSE OF LAWOF said...

P2 you need to keep praying to God,

Princess Charming... The only crown princess on this blog since 2010. said...

OMG!!!
๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Poster 2, my sympathy....
Jeeez,
I don't even know what to type. I'm 'hand-less' 
๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿ™† 

Brb..



MEN!
MEN!!!!!!!



This is the height of chronicle I have ever read

Musingsofjudgejudyjudy..... said...

Hahahahaha!!

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

The deceit is just too much. Gosh what a marriage! Poster 2 may you find the advice you seek. Hmmm

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, as long as the marriage hasn't been consummated, you can leave. That marriage is built on deceit and can't stand. Walk away without guilt.
Poster 1, your stupidity is beyond redemption .

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, your bf name start with 'D' ends with 'y' please my dear if yes! Please leave that Dude alone, he keeps telling every girl, he doesnt want to have sex after tasting ohh because he does not want it to affect his relationship with God!

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

Am sorry but I have to laugh hahahahahahahah biko. Poster 2 you married a walking corpse damn. Can't believe someone could be so wicked. But errrm you see why dis celibacy thing no get head? If you had tested and noticed his peperenpr wasn't working, you could have put pressure on him to know what wrong with him and why his something isn't working. Now see what celibacy has caused you ehn? You ended up marrying a ghost. Am sorry but the simple truth is to divorce him ASAP coz that marriage was built on lies and deciet, it too early for you to be a widow.
Tell ladies to make sure you test his joystick and they will call you olosho, now see the mess she found herself in?

Anonymous said...

Your advice to poster 2 is as stupid as your face looks on ur profile. It would hv been better if he told her about it before she agreed to the union. at least she will be prepared for whatever. Don't let me slap ur stupid face now o.

Anonymous said...

Even physical draining sef. It's not easy to take care of a sick person.

Leema said...

When he dies same in laws will shave her head and ask her to sleep in the same room with the corpse.
Marriage desperation is horrible. This is what society has caused, it has made a woman believe without marriage she is a nobody. Why is she even asking us if she should stay or les e?? It's a no brainier. If the tables were turned the man will not keep you for a second. Better leave and start over . #no desperation to answer Mrs.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1- I advise you leave due to the lies but if you have a lie-proof vest,stay.
Poster 2- HIV patient better pass dis ur husband ooooo. It's too much abeg.what are you feelings towards him presently? That will determine your action but listen to your parents.

Anonymous said...

only one man,
1. he cant f...k
2. he gat diabetis
to crown it all EPILEPSY.
the guy n LIE. too bad

Princess Charming... The only crown princess on this blog since 2010. said...

Poster 2,

The solution to this issue lies within you.
I shows your estranged husband is beclouded with pride and insensitivity, this is questioning. What else has he been hiding from you?

No this is extreme!

Why suffer for his misdeed? I am saddled with the anger I feel inside of me. 

Let's call a spade a spade...I'd advice you move out. If heis Rich, I mean RICH, you can cope with it,my dear if he's not, i'd advice you quietly move out.
When he's done with all his secrecy and ailments, maybe you can reconsider him, "that is if there's no other man asking for your hand in marriage."

No one should be haunted to ensure this kind of marriage, No one.

Avoid any form of coercion from him . 

Seriki harjokehade said...

Poster1:when u are in a relationship u need to be extra conscious of wat ur partner does no matter how u love ND trust him,will just tell u to give him another chance since he choose u not the other girl.
poster2:u really have packaged problem bothering u which it only God dat can solve it all,but ur hubby greedy Gann ooo without telling u all dis at d earlier stage just because he doesn't want to lose u.

Anonymous said...

I'm i the only BV tired of this story?

Gladys Bot said...

Poster 2: please do not listen to all the "Godly" advise. He married you with deceit and lies. You have every right to divorce him. Do not stay in a marriage that you will regret all your life. He was not honest with you from the beginning therefore the marriage is a fraud. Please divorce and start over. Do not rush into a marriage next time. Take all the time you need and make the right decision next time.

BonaParte NN said...

There's no law of God or man that supports your continuous stay in that marriage. Your marriage can be annulled immediately in the church and at court as if it never happened.

You dont even love this man from your drab tone. Neither do you agree with his principles and backward thinking. Telling you he does not agree with hIV test. Telling you its an attack.

He doesnt love you either. He is the lord of deception. Telling the doctor one party must leave to keep hiding his issues.

His family dont love you; they just dont want public disgrace btw misery hates company. Just be careful for your life while you deal with them.

You didnt come to the world to shoulder someone's luggage and keep being patient. For how long will you cope with this ill, deceptive and mean man? He is even paranoid, telling you to keep off his friends. You will never see satisfaction or happiness from that marriage. If roles were reversed, will he stay with you? Will his family be saying that?

I vote LEAVE

Anonymous said...

@ the best amongst the cutest

Lolzzz... Your comment really cracked me up. Jokes apart, e be like say the lady don swear for am true true.

rookies said...

A beg help me tell her. Please my dear don't think too much just go. Marriage doesn't require extra load.

mimi said...

Today after reading poster 2's story I don't regret my action.i jilted a man who loved me and took care of me when I was a corper with no income.somehow my spirit just couldn't agree.he was so hurt,doesn't speak to me until today!when he got married to a beautiful tall lady I was almost jealous since my husband isn't as rich and well placed as he is.6 months later he was divorced!his wife told my collegue who was her bosom friend that the man was sterile and mentally disturbed(it comes and goes)among several other diseases!his family knows and hides it from everybody,thats why they were rushing us and were extremely nice.my dear I went home held my sweet husband and kissed him.what a life!a man who claimed he loves me hid all dis from me!wetin I for do?he would have come out and told u.why do this to another person?hmmmm.sorry oh poster.may God see u through.

Minx said...

Are you for real? This lady is born again. You want to tell me she got into the marriage without praying or asking for directions? Do not mock a pain you have not endured. Do not say she didn't pray enough. You think prayer warriors don't have their own amount of problems?
Poster 2 , I'm sure you will very soon understand why you are going through this.
You will be the better for it.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Your stupidity is on another level anon. Go back up and read. She added her name there Ode. Ewu gambia

Cissy said...

@ Quickie be nice, but seriously 'lo and behold his penis cannot erect'...this got me...lol
@ poster 2, if you can't handle it, please leave. I say this because it's a married built on deceit. He knew what he was doing all along.

Anonymous said...

What about ligament?

Anonymous said...

Poster 2 I am a dr and I would say ur husband has diabetes a chronic illness and he is not taking good care of it.So he has developed all these complications. He has to go back to the basis i.e treating the diabetes and some of the compkications could be reversible.He needs a honest , efficient and reliable dr he would be seeing regularly and u could help him make sure he takes his drugs regularly.My mum has diabetes and I keep a blood sugar diary for her twice a week and she has been good

Anonymous said...

Hello .
Poster 2.
Your story is Huge.
The major problem is that he started the marriage with LIES which is a big turn off.
And if he is educated enough should know his medical problem can be fixed with medication and life style ..
He has diabetes Mellitus with complications which include neuropathy(numbness) and low sex drive.etc. He has to aggresively control his diabetes with medication,diet and exercise.He needs to work on his health and LIES.
I cant advice on your marriage. Analyse the whole situation and decide. I HATE LIES.

Cissy said...

@ Bonapartรจ...well written as usual.
#Kisses

Cissy said...

@ anon 16:33, what privacy are you talking about, didn't the poster put her name up there?
She advised the poster without insults, now see u.
Why are people so bitter?...I can't deal plsss

Miss Ferragamo said...

Poster2,your husband might even be HIV positive. I don't believe in divorce but I can't deal ooo,kai! Its too much baggage.

Miss Ferragamo said...

I keep asking this one question when people talk about erectile dysfunction, the preek no stand at all as una dey date and you no fear? That one is possible without sex na, Chai!

Ed said...

Its akwukwu

Qurenth said...

Legally , you have grounds for annulment sef, not even divorce. Its just this born again part. I would advice move on. The whole family connived to deceive you and the court will even rant you an annulment.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Ewo!! Unhappy wives association have come again. Make una doh ohhh.... This one pass me ohhhh!!
*screams* Ehn!!! ๐Ÿ˜ณ

Noni said...

Poster 1 plz don't try giving him another chance ,,you will surely find your own.,...if I may ask, what really went wrong in d previous relationship of 5years???I don't want to believe Kama has ur address hehehehe..poster 2 wow wow am speechless... church brothers don do something for this life...please we shouldn't be discouraged shaa we still have very very few good brothers still in the church, but even if I mustn't collect before marriage I go like to have a hand feel hehehe...

Anonymous said...

COME TO REDEMPTION CAMP.

DaCraziestEyes said...

Please don't stop!!

Anonymous said...

Poster two, no solution. My advice for you is to leave instead of being sad in that marriage

Slimbiodun said...

Dear poster 2, if you were my sibling or family member. You are leaving that deceitful marriage you entered, if you knew all about his medical predicament I'm sure you won't go ahead with the marriage. You husband's family don't love you. Why couldn't they profer the solution to him before allowing him to marry you. If the �� was turned and u r the one d diabetics, epilepsy, can't get pregnant and with heart disease will they allow him to stay with u? This is so unfair to u, ur marriage is barely 6 months and all these. So leave d house already, file for divorce on ground of deceit. You r too young to start this kind of live even if u were 40 cuz u r newly married and all these??? It's better to be single so free from this baggage than to be married to ur kind of husband. This is my advise to you if you were to b my family or close ally.

Poster 1: If you man is truly repentant you can forgive him and continue with him otherwise move on with ur life. That's simple enough right!

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