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Wednesday, 3 August 2016

Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
A MARRIAGE FILLED WITH RULES AND REGULATIONS


Good day Stella.please only matured advise  from experienced Bvs is needed .and Mrs Korkus your red ink is very much needed.here goes the saga I am into ,is just a summary ,no time for writing and checking vocabularies.

I have been married for almost 10yrs and done with kids.just stepped into my 30's .hubby is definitely my senior .Married out of love.My marriage has been very challenging from day one .most of you had a wonderful wedding night ,mine was soooo lonely .my hubby went clubbing and partying with girls and friends in a major expensive hotel here in lagos .


 I was alone in my hotel room  till the next day .no explanation whatsoever on that ,he even felt he shouldn't be questioned.meanwhile he begged me to marry him I would not tell you that it ever was rossy .marriage is like a gift ,when you open it ,what you see is what you have .every single problem I have now has been here ever since I said I do.so I buried my self in God.chasing clean money .family life .but now I am beginning to loose it. 

here are my problems .what do you think I do to remedy it .cheating on him or divorce is not in my dictionary even though I have got brain.beauty . good income and still very young.

1.I provide every of my need .I mean all .only get change from him once or twice a year .He HAS CASH


2. He keeps high class girls and spends so much on them .


3. Sex is extra boring .he says I am too decent .but when I learn new stuff from book and internet he becomes a monitoring spirit over me.


4. Treats me like an outsider


5. Has never taken me out .Scared when guys stare at me.


6.feels like a God over me so we can't communicate..


7.I am so scared and extra careful when he is around..


8.I am not permitted to have friends.married or single..


9.Says he can never be polite but when he sees other ladies he suddenly becomes a saint..


10. Goes to all his political or social functions alone or with his babe .


11.I am not expected to use any of his things .He will always say,go and buy yours .even when am damn broke..


And the list goes on .it has been like this from my wedding day .But I am tired of being a piece of furniture .I am emotionally broken and exhausted. I married him as a total novice.I grew up indoors.so I didn't envisage any negativity in life but here it is.



*You have lived like this for ten years and allowed him misbehave and maltreat you,trying to change things now requires God and a miracle....did you say you married for love?....Married for love as in you right?

You never complained in ten years but now you want to?Honey you need a miracle oh....a big one.
I dont know what to say sef!
 

200 comments:

ukwu dimond said...

chronicles is here..........

stunning slim shady said...

Eketeke!! Worrisds

STARRY LARRY said...

Since you said divorce is not in your dictionary, if you're actually saying the truth, abeg cheat on him and make yourself happy. Abi wetin you want make we advice you now?




*Larry was here*

telema Cr7 present wife and drake girlfriend said...

Oh jeez!
What is this?Marriage or bondage?
Let those experienced married women advice you.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Madam is your husband older than you with a lot? Cos as much as its best to date men that are older, some are not alright in the head. They become so possessive cos the age thing dsnt help (once they are up to 10yrs older). But your husband is not only possessive but stingy. How can he treat girls outside better than his own wife? And you have stayed for 10years enduring without rebelling. And now you want advice? It's not possible na. He has become used to you being his personal mumu and if you decide to change wahala dey. He will say some guy outside is eyeing you. I don't know what you can do to remedy the situation.

Doppelgänger said...

This one is a contract not marriage and you waited 10 years, had his kids before thinking you deserve better? Oh dear.
Focus of you now and your kids. Forget about him and sex should also cease. Are you sure he is protecting himself with those girls he is frolicking around with.
Your priority now should be you and how to stay happy for yourself and kids.
Forget about this man just as he has done to you.
You are just a piece of furniture and an end to a means (child bearing). He has no use for you anymore, so stop crying over spilled milk.
Make money and lavish on yourself. Change clothing, go out or does he have you locked in or chained? I won't advice you to cheat because you're doing yourself a disservice and not him if you do so.
You are free to get a divorce but do not sleep around to get revenge.
Peace!

ukwu dimond said...

poster since from day one you would say no to your hubby, i do not think he love you. is time to pray harder and seek the face of God for a miracle.

you can try and get one small sweet boy to be servicing you for the main time since sex life with your hubby is boring.

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

Divorce or to cheat on him is not in ur dictionary abi, so wat do u want us to do, cos the only two options u ve is wat u say u will not do. Don't u know a strong prophet who can turn him to a mumu, babe u are too dull abeg, give him a love portion dat will turn him into a vegetable, or just poison him to end ur misery, thank God he's rich, u can enjoy his money after his burial, is as simple as dat.

stunning slim shady said...

*singing*
Miracle worker 2X
Come n do a miracle a miracle today
You would do, a miracle, a miracle today..........



Miracle working God this poster needs ur help...O Lord fix it!

Tuscany said...

If you can do it for the past ten yrs u can do it for 20 more.
Marriage is a partnership that should come with love, understanding, respect, joy and happiness. It seems yours lacks everything a marriage should have.

Theres nothing like to love, respect, adore, be happy with someone and have it reciprocated. Thats the bomb.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Na wah oh!...
What won't I read here...
Poster,he has money and you don't tax him?...which kain Mumu woman are you?...in this time and age where correct women dey put their husband in a good seat!...
Infact,your story is so annoying...I will advise you get a side bobo...no go die because of a man...
I don't blame him for not having sex with you...common,sex with one person all the time is so boring...
Get your own bobo and be happy shiken!...

BLOGBRITY ON SDK said...

Just continue dear. Or
Watch WAR ROOM.

Anonymous said...

PRAYER is the KEY ma'am...
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JustSaying said...

All i can say is you are idiot and deserve him

Next thing you foolish people will be judging single people

this girl and a single girl (eg Steph NOra, Rita, Bimbo, Genevieve etc ) whose life is better . You people will be mocking them and give this girl more respect cos she is married. Married my goot

Stay in the marriage till death do you part, You derserve him - at the end of the day you have more respect from society cos you are married.

LAS GidDY said...

Most of you ladies out there would see the hand writing on the wall very clearly and vividly yet you'd walk into the marriage only to come bug us with chronicles with FAT claim you married out of love, ignorance, bla bla bla...

Deal with it afterall you've been living and managing since the past 10 years. What happened to his family members or your own family members? Abi na LAGOS MARRIAGE una do?

Ladies out there please look before you leap...marriage is more spiritual than physical...its a lifetime decision. #I'm outtahere

PLATINUM said...

Hmm, poster it started from the beginning, from even before wedding nite, u jst said u married for love so no one eould accuse u of marrying him for his money, bt my question is wat exactly did u see n loved in him een u accepted to marrying him from all u stated above he has no lovable attribute. Anaro amu aka ekpe na nka.

Pamela Shuga22 said...

best advice in dis situation.
ladies pls b matured and experienced in relationships before u get married.

Atheist. said...

Where are those that keep screaming "Dont marry a broke ass"... like its all peach n creamy when u marry a comfortable man "Yimu"...
Madam, all what you listed being true, cannot be a marriage, more like a dungeon if you ask me, some of us are just scared to take that bold step.... but i assure u the moment you do, the rest of the elevated level will be revealed.

#TyrionLannister: My lord father has commanded me to consummate this marriage.
STOP!!.
I can't, i could, i won't.
Sansastark: But your father....
TyrionLannister: If my father wants someone to get fucked, i know where he can start.
I won't share your bed, not until you want me to.
SansaStark: What if i never want you to?
Tyrionlannister: & so my watch begins.

Loveme Jeje said...

Poster you try ooo. Ten years and you are now writing a chronicle. Abeg marraige na better for worst. Since you don endure 10 years, endure another ten years to complete 20.

It is now i know most of you dont have sense at all. You dont know how to tax your man abi? Dem take you dash the man or your family dey owe IGBESE.

Better leave that situationship. You dont want divorce, you dont want to cheat. YOU WANT MRS. CONGRATS

BECKY'S DIARY said...

All i can say is.. Get a divorce!!! Although you said we shouldn't mention it but that is the only solution for you.

Or temporary separation, take your kids and leave him. Rent an apartment and stay with them for like a year! Even if you miss him during that period, don't show it. He can be allowed to spend time with his kids but no close contact between you two.

No matter what his family or your family says, insist you need a break and nobody should push you around anymore. Stop showing him weakness and fear! Remove that cloak of fear he has used to cover you all these years and wear a new cloak of glory and bravery! Make sure he sees the New and re-branded You, let's see if he won't have a rethink

If at the end of that one year you see no changes in him or any form of repentance in him. Make that separation Permanent! Then move on with your life!! #YOLO

christiana madumere said...

Wat u need is a miracle.

Anonymous said...

That's what happens when you marry your grand-father's mate because of money. Unfortunate runz girl. sorry oooo endure it you hear!

j baby said...

Madam you have lived with him for a decade, by now all that wouldn't be a bother to you anymore, you said you can't divorce or cheat, so what other option would you want us to suggest, to go bottle him. Hmmmm your happiness should be your priority, do what makes you happy.

Anonymous said...

Your comment is hilarious but full of negativity. I bet she doesn't need all that.

Dear, I'm not married but hey why has God given me a mouth? For decoration? No darl! Say NO to nonsense. He can't be giving you rules and regulations and you can't give him any.

Ibukunoluwa said...

Why do women still stay in marriage even when there was no marriage in the first place

Ibukunoluwa said...

I wonder too

BECKY'S DIARY said...

Jesus Christ onye ebere

Angelray i really hope you're joking o. I hope you don't mean any of this thing u typed here. Poster plz don't take this advice oo tufiakwa

Ibukunoluwa said...

No be only war room
Na coconut oil she go rub for hin head

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

hahahahahhhahahhaah madam poster sorry to say but you are really a DUMB BITCH choi!!! how can you let a man treat you like trash? you never talk true. e get wetin you never tell us.
what are you still doing in that house with that dog you call a husband? seems you aint ready for the bitter truth,but since you want us to be honest with you then here it is. DIVORCE THE MOTHER FHUCKER. u don born children finish, get small money what the fuck are you waiting for? he doesnt take care of you, doesnt provide your needs, the sex sef get as e be, what do you need him for?
honestly am tired of all this married dumb bitches, if a man doest treat you right you leave,is your life tied to his cock? what the fuck? na una type dey come here to abuse the single ladies calling us aunty gwegs. dey there till the day he brings a lady and fuck her in your presence na that time your eyes go clear like colour TV.
would rather stay single than married that type of man you described up there. NONSENSE

Ekunie Ify said...

Hmm what kind of advice do you want from us again woman, divorce him or cheat back is never in your dictionary, so what do you want then?

Spirit said...

My dear, your matter is very simple.

There is a saying... you have to act like a monkey in order to catch a monkey.

Your problem is that your goody goody is too damm much. Yes it is. There is nothing wrong with living a decent spiritually life but please try any enjoy your life too.

It is not too late to unleash the goddess in you and get your DH to adore you. What is your sexual fantasy, am sorry but you do not satisfy him in bed.
Your hubby has an addiction that his girlfriends enjoy with him and he can not open up to you because you may be judgemental.

One day try and shock him. Tell him to take you clubbing to celebrate something. When your out, tell him you feel like doing something crazy since your 30 and done with child bearing. Tell him to buy some weed. Smoke the weed together, start rubbing his cock, unvip his trouser and suck his dick while his driving.... make sure he doesn't crash ooo. Tell him your pussy is too wet that he should drive to the nearest hotel etc

In short.. my dear you are a learner. Imagine my DH not calling me for just one single day or vice-versa.... his mind wouldn't be at rest. People think it is jazz.. no it isn't. I watched him, learnt how to satisfy and please him and he did the same to me.

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

DIVORCE him Biko......wtf
Y are you speaking up now?
After 10yrs of marriage ........see what u will do,don't divorce him again.......u guys should just separate more like to your tenth oh Israel .
Move out from the house

Anony123 a.k.a SDK Nyansh Opener said...

Nawa oo, poster am soo sad reading dis..... may God provide u with a solution...

Now to all the little girls on dis blog ohhing and ahhing to WNB dat lady sent, una tink say marriage is a bed of roses? The chronicle up there is the typical Nigerian marriage, Nigerian women are slaves in their marriages especially the desperate ones dat rushes into marriage to avoid societal pressure....

That Wedding Night Brouhaha dat lady sent is a big lie!!! Can u see from the chronicle up there that her husband is boring in bed? Listen most rich men in this Nigeria especially Lagos are not good in bed, they only satisfy themselves, they dont give head neither are they concerned whether u cum or not, after all their money talks for them... The only type of men that tries to please their women in bed or give head are the broke ones.....

I repeat Lagos big men treat women like furniture, they don't care about your emotional or sexual needs, they only give u plenty money & trips abroad, they don't give head... shikina...

For the people dat ll disagree with me, you girls dont roll with big boys ( the high society in Lagos ) so u people will not understand me...

To the poster, May the Lord fix this for u, amen.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Kwakwakwakwa...
Gbam!...the woman is a typical ode!..

Jasmine said...

U've been bearing it for 10 years na. Why stop now? He takes his babe out for functions? Wow!!! Ur husband get mind o.


Who's his side chick?

Dietitian Nezz! said...

Nne marriage is an achievement ooo...i know most single ladies that visit spiritualists and native doctors just to hook a man.That this poster has a problem in her marriage doesn't mean all married women are having the same issue.All those names you mentioned to make yourself happy...do you know how they feel when alone.Old age matters ooo especially when you have good children.
If you keep thinking negatively about marriage,u will never experienced it.
Bye

Anonymous said...

Woow! This is emotional torture o! You are simply a property in ur husband's house. God forbid that I should let a man treat me like this.
U had better start considering divorce except u want to continue living an unhappy life.

I still don't understand why some women wud allow themselves to be treated like shit! Man neva finish for dis world na!
If u are married and its not working out well despite all ur efforts and prayers, just pack ur load and waka!!!!!!. Marriage is not a do or die affair.

amanda favour said...

Choi!!!!!
ANGRYRAY I HAIL OH!!!!!

Chidinma Grace said...

Hmmmmm am speechless

God chic said...

Ure not in marriage ure in bondage. I pray u get the Godly advice u seek. Xo

Cyndilicious said...

Madam didn't u ee all these signs before entering the marriage or he just changed after d wedding? Do u pray for ur husband?u should actually do dt everyday cos thr is nothing the Lord cnt do.

Anonymous said...

You have no mind of your own....how can someone control you this much. This is not love but lust for wealth. So sure you married him cos he was loaded so deal with it. You have endured for 10 years already so why complain now? No advice for you but you can keep praying for a miracle.

New Eve said...

This is serious. I don't even know what to say. I think you have to put divorce in your dictionary.
If you buried your head in God, you need him now.

popeyes said...

You laid your bed, lie on it quietly.

Anonymous said...

Bitterness will do you no good.

God chic said...

War room ko,peace room ni.everything is war room,war room.someone has been living in bondage for 10years u say she should watch room, if she does ,she's just entertaining herself. You waited too long to put ur foot down and call his bullshit, reacting now would mean u want to rock the boat. It's the fact he doesn't even take care of u financially that's crazy. Babe, your husband never loved u,and like Trinity said,some of these older men are really psychotic. Take ur problems to God in prayer. That's the only solution I can think of. All the best.

Isolde Fontaine said...

Madam I would not advice you to divorce him or cheat on him, at this stage there is very little you can do save for prayers. Always get him to use a condom when you guys have sex( and try to up your game), sit him down and have a "talk" with him try to explain why you need friends or some form of companionship, spend more time with your kids, look good, have fun, try your very best to be happy without him, most of all pray for him every single day and dont give up. The hearts of Kings are in God's hand he stirs them like he does the courses of rivers.

Anonymous said...

Your no 1 and 11 say a lot about this story. Women always play the victim and are in a hurry to talk about this issues. I believe there is a lot you are not saying here. A man begged you to marry him and has never shown u respect since you married him and you married him for love.

Your story has a lot of contradictions. With this you can't really hear the truth from people.

If you are ready to see a Doc for an ailment, you have to be completely open about it, if you wanna hear the truth here, you also have to be open about it.

In the mean time, you alone know the truth and God also does, so talk to him about all this.

Onyi

Sweetheart said...

Wow!
Twill take one who has walked in these shoes to advise you. I pray you get the answers you need.

Anonymous said...

Please, why is always women that have issues in marriage. It always takes two to tango. I think people should learn to visit therapists with these issues than to always run to blogs for answers.

Madam visit a therapist, you will get the help you need.

Miiiii said...

Treat yourself the way you want people to treat you.
A quick one, how did he treat you during courtship? I don't want to believe he changed on your wedding night.
And you took this shit for 10 years?🙌👏. You are a good wife.
I hate divorce too but mehn. DV is not just about your partner hitting you, emotional hitting dey too.
Talk to him; that's if you have not tried that ooo. But if you have, abeg face your life. Thank God you have a job. Invest and also pray cos bitches ain't smiling oooo. Also make him do what he's expected to do.
If he changes not, please do not hesitate to let your children know their dad isn't loyal!

Brain wave said...

Please ,
y'all should give her break. Frustrated demons filled SDK blog. If you don't have any advise proffer rplease back off.

You heard her...She was wooed into getting married. She was a novice. little experience.she was even in love at the time. It a gift unwrapped to find what she found.

Dear writer , this is my advise to you....that's if you have guts.
1. You provide for yourself...so what keeps you tied to this man?
2. File a divorce and request custody ...reason, your kids must be under 10years ( since that's the length of your marriage). Take custody they still eed their mother.
3. Before the divorce paper is served him. Go and rent a place and move out of the house. then slam him the divorce.
4.he will contest it... but work with child wefare so that the kids remain with you.

Cheating????..... I wont recommend it. you know why. Most men dating married women have nothing to offer then. They prey on their vulnerability and need for love, attention and sometimes money. Affairs are only short loved.

So don't say a divorce is out of the question....if you are not happy with the present situation.

On the other hand if he is not violent...why don't u disconnect as well. Have fun with your kids and church programs.... and of course SDK blog...lol

Anyway. good luck. I wish we can talk more.
Cheers

Anonymous said...

From all u said, u were not a good girl, it's karma dear, cos d man treats u like a runz girl he just happens to marry. U don't wanna leave cos of money? Stay put n cheat, when u r tired, u will move.

Ehlarh said...

Nawaaa oh 20more years keh? You are joking right?Hmmmm

Blackberry said...

Sounds like he was forced to marry you. You married for love but he married u out of what exactly? U ain't telling d whole story bae!

Anonymous said...

just go and view that movie (WAR ROOM).its goin to help you a lot.

Anonymous said...

Poster you just want to complain because you feel like nagging today
You accepted the role of stay home baby mama for ten years and now you want vision......continue
Nothing is in your dictionary yet you want something......you are confused
Smoke weed and drink wine in your matrimonial bed because after all you are better than the whores he carries cuz you are a married woman......you're definitely the type that thinks like that
Or you can go to one man of whatever in whatever temple and cry and speak in tongues while he sees the vision of the many girls that have tied your horseband.......don't forget to fast too

Brown Sucre said...

Cheat on him and then divorce him.
You are married but living single.
He knows you can't cheat on him or leave him,thats why he is so bloated with ego,so surprise him by doing what he least expect.
What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

Anonymous said...

Poster, this is emotional and financial abuse. I think it is too late to change this your hubby. The solution to your problem is stay and see him as your house mate, focus on your business and your kids or Divorce him.

I don't think that this man ever love you.

Anonymous said...

You are so right. Do not think you would get caught since you said you have brains. Women only get caught Ifire they wish to. My best friend is facing exaptly same thing you just typed except her and her hubby hardly communicate but when you see him outside, you would think he is a comedian. She found herself a side boo and trust me she feels like she is floating on air. I am her number one supporter.
My dear make yourself happy.

Anonymous said...

Part 2 WNB, how is it possible to remember in clear details everything that happened during such a heated sexual atmosphere like you just described? nne abi nna lie sofry sofry

Ehlarh said...

@ Poster I believe u got married at a young age. Marriage has its ups and downs but please I won't advice u to put up with this nonsense. That man has no iota of respect or love for you,does he even take care of his children? You are just a trophy wife to that man...what an attitude,he spent the wedding night clubbing. He doesn't even have a plus anywhere,everything Na minus,sex mbaa,money noway,love nko no,food no,please take care of yourself eat right train your children in the Lord and stop being a mannequin. Go out,make good friends,hang out. Don't worry when its time u would leave that man,and please stop sleeping with him.You are still young before u develop HBP.Think of ur kids.

Anonymous said...

i dnt knw why u are coming for advise oo cos u already said no divorce and d oda one. anyway as a christian here goes my advise.. pray to God abt it, he listens and hears everyfin even the strangest of all.
sharp advise- this man does not love u, has no regard for u, i dnt fink u even av self respect for urslf, u better begin to find a way out cos one std go soon do u sef. my advise, sharpen up, love is too short nt to enjoy marriage to d fullest dear.. pls start going out, be less concerned abt him, go to d movies with ur kids.. dress like a young classy sexy woman, date anoda man pls and find love. divorce is permitted on the ground of infidelity.. date anoda man dat will love u wella den you will be happy u left ....

Anonymous said...

Sad! It shows you never put anything into the box of marriage before getting married. My dear keep seeking the face of God, he is the miracle Worker!

Anonymous said...

DONT cheat you will be playing with fire . Forget his existence and focus on you and the kids. Love yourself and treat yourself graciously . Hmmmmm you mean you been in this bondage for 10 years?? Gurl after you na you oohh.. It well anyways since you been managing the situation well for this long keep managing just pay more attention to yourself L O V E Y O U R S E L F. Develop skills business wise or academic wise read more books spiritual social adventures bury ur life init give God and the HolySpirit time.. Kisses Boo I been there still there ;)..

Anonymous said...

Poster I share number 8rule with you. My husband forbids me from having friends. I got close to my female doctor and we became friends, now he said I am no longer permitted to se her. My marriage is bearly a year and I am tired of all the stupid rules of his. I want to leave him cos I am still young and no kids involve. I leave alone here while he is leaving with his oyimbo wife and two kids. That's not even my problem I just want the man to give me peace of mind but that's never going to happen with the looks of things. Damm!! He is way too insecured and possessive .if only I had money I would have left him. Stupid fellow, he drained my money dry just so he can keep me here. Fuck you John!!!

BluntIjebuChic'*GiFTED'* said...

Sebi you don endure 10years abi?ehn ehn*continue!ya reward is not from human madam,its from God
Just phen ya mouth since divorce is not option..

Ralu M said...

Prayer works wonders madam but do you have the salvation, faith & the patience required to see it through? Thank God you have a well paying job if not depression for don push you enter yaba left.
Face God, your children & your job. Plan your leave when the kids are on holidays & make your parents ask them over for holidays with you inclusive so you can have a change of environment.
Tell someone trustworthy you are going through (your pastor,mom, elder sibling)so they can give you support before it becomes more than what you can bear.
It's marriages like this that makes single life seem better.

kinky said...

Abeg, make I relax read comments #idropmygoldenpen#

brown said...

My own advice is for u to go on your knees,pray and fast concerning the issue,cheating on him is bad

Blessing Jackson said...

Hmmm! If he cheats, doesn't provide for you, sees you like a piece of furniture then what are you still doing there? House girl work? Sorry to say, you have to live for yourself, go out of your way and make yourself happy! Live like he doesn't exist! And better start taxing him, which kind osho free you dey do for der sef? Na wa...o

Letdemsay said...

My girl Doppelgänger always making sense...Im big fan...🖒...

World eye said...

Am surprised that you hv been keeping mute on this for ten years. Truly surprised. But now you've woken up, do the needful that is expected of a wife . You are a wife , not girl friend or concubine except if your bride prze was not paid. Call him to order. Make him responsible to his domestic and marital duties. Fight for your right but don't ever fight him. Even if he beats you up in the process , don't retaliate but make him understd that he has bn taking you for granted and that you will not allow it any more. Complain to his and your family members and your religious head and even to the girls if you knw them. Also step up prayer in the process. God help you.

Mrs powel! said...

dear madam!ua nt yet serious, nd as far as am concerned u still love dat cage ua buried in,u dnt even have any problem,since ua nt ready to leave him,den wat do u want? r u sending in ur chronicles to fill d box.i hate wen women claim d r being d good wife n watch d so calld man treat u lyk a scum bag.ua still very young ,at ds ur age some pipo hia are are still single,use ur brain not ur skull.no man can treat me lyk a piece oof trash.if u lyk dnt go n look for wia d sun is shinning,keep livibg in dar

Fiona said...

I go with you Larry. That marriage is a total bondage. See rules and regulations...

Anonymous said...

I am married to an older man,i've always had a thing for older men,never got on with young guys I find them too dumb and stupid considering my level of exposure# i too open eye and very sophisticated...lol....but I met my match in this man I married,am actually the second wife,when my Co-wife welcome me into the family,I didn't know what I was getting myself into,my Co-wife did our wedding arrangements,my husband met me we dated for 2years and he brought me home to meet her and his children,then they both proceed to make arrangements to marry me .It's like my coming into the family brought relieve to my senior wife as I later found out from my driver.i love my husband so much,I love him so dearly I can't ever think of leaving him but I really want him to change.we have great sex life,he takes me out all the time,and I travel with him all over the world,wherever he goes he takes me.he looks after me and our children,infact he is the sweetest guy when he wanted to be,we don't lack nothing.....but my husband is very controlling, very strict,very possessive,i can go on and on.i dare not say hello to anyone when we go out to dinner,he will leave me there to find my way home,he married me while I was in 300level,met him when i was fresher 100level student,I used to live in LAGOS with my parents,my husband changed my school to Abuja where he reside even before he married me and made me go to school from his house,i couldn't even stay out with friends,he will go out to knock on my friends doors if I was a hour late home.i can't go to parties,he comes with me if I have to go see my friends and stay in the car,that way I won't be able to stay more than half an hour.he goes to the market with me and tells the driver to come down and walk with me everywhere I go inside the market.when we first got married I couldn't cook,my husband will force me to cook what he wanted to eat and beat me up when I cook it badly,i learn by fire by force,now am a great cook,cooking has now become my hobby,I cook all the time now and he loves my food.if I was too tired to have sex i dare not say no cos my husband will have his way anyway by raping me.he won't let me work or open a shop for me,I have the money to start a business but I dare not try it without his consent.its like am his slave sometimes,I have to welcome him at the door once he gets back from work,take his briefcase and go in the room to help him undress,I got fed up of him one time and ran away from home.He found me after 3days and brought me back home.i just wish he could changed cos I love him with my whole heart.

Fiona said...

Dn't tell me you just typed this. So she should kill a fellow human being. Poster you go with this advice at your own risk.

Fiona said...

You will never disappoint me with your comments.

PL THE GREAT said...

I think one of your major problem is your inability to get him to spend on you. It's never wise to be miss independent when dealing with a man. They'll always take advantage of that. Find some succour in his money biko. That's about the only thing you can get from him now. Forget about love. Ah ahn e ga buru ogbenye buru amusu? As it is, you're married to yourself o. Report him to both families if he refuses to take care of your financial needs.



This man needs cain!

Adanne said...

Madam please focus on you and you kids, and make sure you use protection with him since you are sure he cheats on you .

Saboginda Ora cutest said...

Woow! It seems you are scared of your husband
From your right up, I didn't hear you say you have tried to let him know how you feel and what he has made you become.

I don't know what the foundation of your relationship with him was , when dating. But you have allowed this to go on for so long... You have endured way too much.

So will he kill you, if you have friends?
Sweetie , join an NGO, a platform that'll allow you socialise.
Release these negative energy into something physically and thought demanding.

Since you don't want a divorce

You can also speak to someone he respects and hold in high esteem, to speak to your husband in your behalf.

i wish you the very best
Marriage isn't supposed to be endured though, not for ever.

Saboginda Ora cutest said...

Woow! It seems you are scared of your husband
From your right up, I didn't hear you say you have tried to let him know how you feel and what he has made you become.

I don't know what the foundation of your relationship with him was , when dating. But you have allowed this to go on for so long... You have endured way too much.

So will he kill you, if you have friends?
Sweetie , join an NGO, a platform that'll allow you socialise.
Release these negative energy into something physically and thought demanding.

Since you don't want a divorce

You can also speak to someone he respects and hold in high esteem, to speak to your husband on your behalf.

i wish you the very best
Marriage isn't supposed to be endured though, not for ever.

Anonymous said...

Sorry boo. In this case you gifted yourself with the gift and kinda knew what was concealed in that gift. So he left you to go clubbing on your wedding night and you didn't know who he was prior to that time! Haba! Please madam either you leave or deal with it

Anonymous said...

Sorry boo. In this case you gifted yourself with the gift and kinda knew what was concealed in that gift. So he left you to go clubbing on your wedding night and you didn't know who he was prior to that time! Haba! Please madam either you leave or deal with it

badt guy said...

Madam... I am a bad guy and will advice u from my view.. Ur hubby is a bad guy who wants an organised home but will still live like a bachelor... He marry for ur naivety not love... He knows he can press ur head and u won't talk... For lack of nicer words pls bear with me but all sees u as is his home organiser and mother of his offsprings... To him you just a very executive baby mama... That will still cook for him and bend to his will... Truly you are every bad guy's dream... I Frolic in the street and still come home to a peaceful organized home... Chai.. U are a dream come true for him...
The solution:... Talking won't work he knows all ur mumu buttons... If u can take care of ur kids just abscond with them and hope for a beta life in a different country... Option 2. Get a tough FEMALE lawyer to visit him and serve him ur terms for a continued marriage.. Including a monthly fee for u... And a clause that if he beats u after the lawyer goes na better human right case una go draw. If he won't agree with that.. Then let the lawyer threaten him with divorce plus alimony..
Now VERY IMPORTANT if this ur political hubby is Bob Izua or their likes.. Pls ignore all I ve said and suffer in peace to avoid a very mysterious familiar accident.

barbie micheal said...

Obviously he's much older, and just wanted a young trophy wife...beht you've chilled and managed for too long na, ngwa waka and comot before e enter beat and kill

Shyla said...

*Singing
'Ten years don waka, we still de carry go, nobody waka nobody go solo, Baba God Oh, adupe oh'
Madam. You have done ten years, his issues are manageable. Even if they say marriage is a bed of roses, it means it has thorns too.
These are actually issues that can be resolved.

IJAY said...

NNE u have been bearing this for 10years, hmmm May God fix it for you

Ngozi Eze said...

Nne turn tto God. Fast and pray for 7 days. Cry to God and He will answer u! That's the only option u have now! 10years?! If u can't take my advice then u r not ready to end this bondage Dat u call marriage. Thank me later.

Ngozi Eze said...

Nne turn to God. Fast and pray for 7 days. Cry to God and He will answer u! That's the only option u have now! 10years?! If u can't take my advice then u r not ready to end this bondage Dat u call marriage. Thank me later.

Anonymous said...

Lemme tell u a very true life story, any mistake in my English turn it to coconut oil use rub body. My sister friend husband was like ur husband, oh ur husband is far better Dan him him. He talks down on her, embrass her publicly beat her, don't give her money despite being a senior staff in govt work. Even beat her a week to the delivery of her 1st child, beat shege comot her body second child, na only third child she escape beating, no dey buy baby things, when she ask of money his reply will be sebi mad woman dey born for road side who dey buy baby things for her, it's continue like ds for years, anyway this inhuman continue until one day the lady meet one fine doctor, na so she fall in love yakata, she change her dressing. Change her way of way, she started ignoring the SOB, when he start his usual shout, ds lady will just waka pass cos she no want scar, den the idiot started noticing her change in everything, her make up dressing on point naso he started doing lovey lovey but it's fucking 2 late, she Don open eyes. one day after lot of pressure from d husband she confess dat she don't love the husband again dat shez in love with sum one else, the husband started running helter skelter telling us we should help him beg d wife, I told d wife don't cheat on him u nw have weapons in your hands to deal with him. Now if she ask for 20k she will get 35k + miscellaneous, d husband is now over responsible but eyes wey Don tear tear. Ok my advice to u poster pls don't cheat but give him an idea dat sum one is making feel great outside, change ur dressing, stop making him feel hez ur all and all start making him feel a little irrelevant, go out ve fun snap pix enjoy ursef. U will see changes his brain will reset to default knowing fully well his unhappy wife is now getting happiness from somewhere else not from him. Na see finish dey worry am. Bye

Anonymous said...

Pls ma watch MR$ MRS acted by Joseph Benjamin and ise nkpe etim and see if u can find a way

Anonymous said...

Avo Onyarami! Sure she can leave with it for many more years. She should commite her husband into God's hands and then respectfully talk it out with him. The talk may not be a one time thing but continues with respect And one day the man will have a rethink and change for good. There is nothing impossible for God to do

BeQuiet Instead said...

Madam poster.....you have no problem. You must have been used to all he does to you for TEN SOLID YEARS so NOTHING has changed now.

You said cheating and divorce are out (which I also agree with you) so you have ONLY AN OPTION - PRAYER.

God is the author of marriage and since you have endured these 10 years, is it now you want to fight back or do you want to get rid of him? Your children will soon become independent, so stay put and enjoy the fruit of your HARD LABOUR.

You tolerated all these nonsenses for 10 years and raised your children in such environment, so you have no choice now than to hold on God - pray seriously that your children do not have such toxic marriage because i wonder the orientation they have about marriage having lived with you guys ALL THESE WHILE.

May you continue to grow in wisdom.

Serenity said...

You said you get his attention anytime you learn something new from the Internet and try it on him. You've your solution already my dear. Keep doing things that will make him feel unsecured. You see all those things you listed up there that you don't do better start doing them since cheating and divorce is out of the question for you. I wish you the best.

Anonymous said...

Divorce..No,cheating.. No. These two will affect ur kids and I know u won't want that for them. It's only prayer that can change him. The bible says the heart of a king is in God's hands,He turns it wherever it pleases. PUSH in Pray Until Something Happens. keep showing him love,take care of ur self and d kids.one day God will turn him into a better person.

Ebere Nwabueze said...

My dear I know what you mean,my formal boss is like ur hubby he dosent respect his wife and cheats with younger girls,talks to her anyhow,if you ve issue with the man,don't even dream of going to the wife cus she cannot talk to him.some women are living in bondage in the name of marriage

School Life said...

You've been bearing this for 10yrs n you are just complaining? Whad makes you think you can't bear it for some few more yrs?

Bt if you can't anymore, since you said you are independent, play him no time bt make sure the chores are done.... Make yourself look claSsy since he loves that bt not for him...
Step out of the house that way, go spend some time wid friends n make it serious so he gets to miss you or get jealous...

If he calls you, tell him you ve'ng some nice time wid friends since he doesn't care about you....

Plz act as if you dun care about him anymore bt plz dun insult or disobey him so he doesn't lay his hands on you...

#I wish you well even though maybe you never mawid him cus of love.

Adisa Akomolede said...

How about you start getting something to do for yourself, the if you have a job dress well to your workplace, have some me time with your girlfriends once in a while. You can do this you know, refuse him the boring sex he gives you, cook new meals for 'yourself and the kids'(like putting sweetcorn in white rice), go to spa. He does all this because you have never revolted for once. Come back and thank me later. Have u seen this movie with nse ekpe etim and joseph benjamin

Anonymous said...

what your husband needs is a major shocker, pack your things and leave the house for him. Overhaul your look and see as he will start chasing you. When he comes back set your own rules.

Just Glamour said...

So what are still doing with him?you can't divorce or cheat and your name is Ndidi so continue.

Awesomeness said...

Ha..ukwu diamond.Which kain advice b dis?poster no mind am abeg.dont cheat

Anonymous said...

what your husband needs is a major shocker, pack your things and leave the house for him. Overhaul your look and see as he will start chasing you. When he comes back set your own rules.

Victory4me said...

Abeg dis story no complete. Are u an only child? Are your parents alive? Don't you have relatives. Simply call or visit ur parents n siblings while ur husband is out partying.

nina chocomile said...

This story is the outcome of wanting to hear the MRS title by all means. Poster u can't tell me u didn't see d hand writing on the wall, big lie. I'm sure u saw some of these things and decided to go ahead thinking ul change him. Anyways to time to criticise you. All this one u are saying divorce is not an option for u is cock and bull story, cos ul just shrink from sadness and sorrow, and age 10times or age meanwhile ur husband will be there enjoying life n disrespecting u. Pls take a walk and don't look back. Aren't I even sacred of HIV, STD's and co? How do u women even do this? I for one can't and won't stay with a cheating man cos I don't want to die young, or catch one incurable disease, and 2, no man on earth will ever disrespect me. For Christ sake u are already a single married woman, so kukuma leave d marriage. He doesn't give u money, doesn't take care of u, doesn't make love to u, doesn't show u affection, doesn't respect u, doesn't protect u, so Pls at the end of the day what are u gaining from this partnership/marriage? Absolutely nothing. Why stay with him then? Who said you're too old to find happiness elsewhere? Babe Pls leave that man so u can be at peace. I know walking away ain't easy, but it's possible. Very very. U are even at advantage than some other women cos u have a job. Don't let a man ruin ur joy and happiness, it's not worth it. This life is meant to be lived with laughter and sunlight, not with pain and sorrow. This also goes to single women who are desperate to get married at all cost. Pls be careful. Don't let the insults senile women on this blog, and other senseless women out there get to u. Be careful when choosing ur spouse. This thing called marriage ain't child's play oh.

Mao Akuh said...

In fact, stop having sex with him, STOP IT. If you wanna live for your kids, this is the time to choose between clean and mess up. Clean i.e. free from Stds & hiv and messed up=stds&hiv. Some women are passing through hell all in the name of marriage.
Some men are cutting their life span via adultery and they thought they are on the right track. Continue saving and ignore him, make friends, look super good, have fun and pray more.

Anonymous said...

Madam I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Truth is you've let this linger for too long. Maybe you are just getting into this realization cos of social media. You need to evaluate your life and pick up ur self esteem from the dunghill. YOU DESERVE BETTER. At this juncture the only thing that you can do is hope and Pray that the scales will fall off his eyes and he will start seeing you for who you are. VALUABLE,yes that's who you are cos my dear sister most ladies won't tolerate this oh. So please PRAY, like u said divorce or cheating is not an option.The scriptures says the heart of a king belongs to God. Nuff said.

mk said...

Rubbish! What is love when you can't share ? Pls Excuse me . How can you be with a well to do hubby and you pay your bills? Like really? And you still say divorce is not an option ? Madam keep having headache and Sleepless night there but remember if HBP kills you he won't even mourn you .

Olori_1812 said...

Madame, you are crying over a spilled milk...you endured all of this for 10years and now you cannot take it anymore.

When you had the chance to take a walk you did not just so the society will not mock you or oh! the saying that*I would rather cry in a G-Wagon than inside keke napep*

Aunty deal with it and be strong for your kids...I would advise you to see the movie 'WARROOM'

Olori_1812 said...

Madame, you are crying over a spilled milk...you endured all of this for 10years and now you cannot take it anymore.

When you had the chance to take a walk you did not just so the society will not mock you or oh! the saying that*I would rather cry in a G-Wagon than inside keke napep*

Aunty deal with it and be strong for your kids...I would advise you to see the movie 'WARROOM'

Edidem GCON said...

hello poster. i tink wat u nid to do now is to take a stand. refuse to be treated like a furniture henceforth, if hes goin out you too dressup n go out, start kipping frnds 2. cus wen he sees u are changing owing to his actions, i bet u he will seat up. see gud women are hard to find and i bet u he knws dis, he luvs u bt dnt wanna show any weakness 4rm his part dat will make u take advantage of him. start ur revolt nau n watch him seat u, u allowed him treat u dis way. for him to marry u, he rilly luvs u n he act all jealous n his protecting u 4rm men cus he knws wat he does to oda women. so i say take a stand now n watch tins change, do notin n b treated like dis 4eva.

CrazyHornyWife said...

You already answered it yourself,since you can't divorce not cheat on him. Then keep managing , since that's what you have been doing for the past 10years or what else dyu wanna hear????

Anonymous said...

I am a man, been married for over 25 years. Sorry woman, but you have never been married. You are only a baby making machine that your husband "married" to keep tongues from wagging about his life style.

You will continue to live miserably until you either make your own serious trouble (which could backfire as I could feel hints of battery or potential battery in your home); or divorce or separate from him to live a happy life.

I always regret advising separation or divorce, but where it is the only meaningful way out; hit the road!!!

Pure Nigerian said...

What magical advice do you want? The only advice since you have ruled out others is to do what you have been doing for the past 10 years, once you get tired; you would know the next step

Miss Ferragamo said...

If he's this bad,how did you manage to marry him? What did you really see in him? If you say you can't divorce him, your only option is PRAYER. PRAY!PRAY!!PRAAAAY!!!

brown suga said...

Welldone o
You have made a decision already, so what exactly do you want us to do
Only you say no divorce besides the cheating is not even an option cos I won't advice that but then believe it or not this is slavery abeg
Your eye no tear before you marry thats why.
It is well

Miss Ferragamo said...

Contract ke? She said he doesn't give her money, not even love.

Kiks said...

You have ruled out the only option I think you have so bear your cross keeping in mind that nobody man or woman should have to live like that.

ZIONA said...

ur husband is a wizard pure and simple.how can a sane man treat his wife like this,but u are the one i blame cause u placed urself as nothing before him,so he sees u as trash.madam its time u got ur life back,shebi u have watched mr and mrs,u need to make him feel u can live without him instead of mopping around and being sad when he is around.have friends,isolation is demonic,if u had friends ur esyes would have opened since.make up,do ur hair and nails,go out,if u have added start going to the gym,just love urself u will see him coming back,but a simpler solution is "dump his wicked ass".u have nothing to loose,its not like he takes care of u.

The best amongst the cuties said...

Madam u have made de mistake already. I don't get it...why go into marriage with someone who cannot spend on u? Now u r complaining. U saw de signs earlier! U shud have known. Ur husband is only going to change by the grace of God. I don't even know what to tell u bcs when I was single, I made sure any man I dated spent on me, I mean a man has to know his responsibility from the beginning. Haba! Where u desperate?

Mother Confessor The real deal on sdk. said...

You see why I love you. You are always on point.

Teacher said...

Doppelganger nailed
it

Teacher said...

Easy to say
Terrible to do
Disgraceful in all

ideal cakes 07054561379, BBM C001661C3 said...

I can't advice you to cheat on him, that's a sin. This is a cross you've decided to carry for 10 yrs now. Divorce would've been the best but I will advice you to keep praying. There are books to help you to take over your man;- the Power of a Praying wife, Good morning Holy Spirit, Daily Strength Devotional Prayer Book. Win that soul for Christ.

Fuck you said...

If u had started saying No right from day one u won't be biting ur fingers...ur husband is just riding in ur emotions...love is not fear, u should be able to express urself when ure with someone.

Anonymous said...

How can you say pray and cheat at the same time? You are more confused than the poster

Anonymous said...

My hubby "was" a proper gentle man and my ideal man didn't know all that was home video cos people told him I won't marry him so he wanted to prove them wrong. Everything he says to me are lies. People also thinks I didn't marry with my clear eyes but I know I did. He changed after marriage... I don't know what your heart says. I am In a similar position. Mine even says women are dumb and have nothing to bring to the table. He also doesn't want me to get a job. He takes care of all my bills no matter the amount. Everything I want I get. Women married/single call him now and then and even send pictures to him cos he is a giver..I sure have handled the girls... Where I had a big problem is when I found out that he was married and is still in their marriage in another state (note:we met last year Jan and till today he has travelled only 3times...guessing this is when he Went visiting) We newly got married in January and I resigned from my work place the same month since then it has been dictatorship marriage. I have no opinion over any matter but my dear I can't put my life on hold for any man. I also am not patient like you... He assured me he was going to beat me one day I was scared for my life.I moved out last week and I'm trying to get a job... I haven't been successful with the search because all the jobs I've gotten pay less than what I used to receive... I don't want to go backwards I will prove myself a better person without that man. You should have moved early enough but it still doesn't matter if you are scared of staying there don't think of the 10years you spentwith him, think if you can bear another 10years with him, think of your children as well, if you leave him you need to make sure you will be a better person tomorrow, you live for your children now. You alone can make a decision! No one can do that for you. You have 2 options YOU EITHER STAY OR YOU MOVE ON its simple think! I made My decision alone and I will bare my consequences alone

Anonymous said...

 See madam, don't manage. Improve YOURSELF. Get new clothes, get make up, spoil yourself with outings to the beach. Take selfies, laugh everytime, smile, buy a tablet, download movies, get a blonde hair, red lipstick, sunshades. Paint your nails red, visit orphanage, take pics, cook big food and take to orphanages. Why am I saying this? I want him to see that you're busy. Let him see that you too don't have time. Let your schedule become tight as hell. Let him see you happy And nonchalant . Let him see a movie star at home. Chat with people. Join bbm groups for the fun of it. Be respectful anyway. Find a way to be financially independent anyway so that if it goes down, you will have a way out

Anonymous said...

My dear you have sense
But poster will rather be a mrs in bondage than single
Don't waste your time advising the wind

Atheist. said...

Stockholm syndrome..... Stella whrs me comment?

wizkitty said...

Best advice

nekkyville said...

Oh my...Loooool u cracked me up real bad!! I give u 10/10 for dis comment. Biko join Gloria's song " I will survive" cox dis one na real prison she dey. She's married but living single and she endured for 10 yrs?u can do more oh.cox u lived in isolation, u dnt knw what love is eh kwa.. even a devil knows good tings. I wonda what u saw in dis man sef..abi na hurru hurry to comot ur parents's house do you? It is well. Jst keep singing ur song "slim shady"looool

nekkyville said...

You are indeed very foolish!!! U jst enjoying money n living in bondage!!

Iphie dearie said...

#Shudders
Save life your entire life depends on it.
You have saved? Save more!!!

Nkylorah said...

Dear poster,10 years is not 10days fa. How did u cope all this while and now you are tired??? I don't know what to say other than God should intervene.

redbotafly said...

U gave him dt opportunity cos if u had stood ur ground on some tins he wnt try dt rubbish.u dnt need to cheat on him divorce him cos u r nt hapi in dt marriage.some ladies foolishly allow ds men treat dem like shit in d name of bein in luv,its nt supposed to be like dt.since he doesnt spend moni on u den refuse him sex too n learn to challenge him sometimes.some women r scared to stand up to their men cos they dnt want to be sent back to their parents house. divorce dt stupid man n ve fun cos life is too short.

Anonymous said...

I like your advice. You are very sensible

Anonymous said...

With all your sophistication and exposure, you ended up as a second wife to a psychotic, controlling rapist. Later you people will come here to lie how perfect your miserable lives are & how singles are frustrated.
You never even begin suffer.
Sophisticated airhead

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

I know this nollywood movie played by Rita Dominic...
I don't believe this your story abeg...he goes to work yet he follows you everywhere...
Oriegwu!...

Ibukunoluwa said...

The way people will just refer u to watch war room or use coconut oil baffles me😩

DonMayor said...

Carry your cross. Afterall you have you eyes wide opened when you walked into the marriage. You marry for money just stay put a remain a slave that you are.

PLATINUM said...

*would *wen *marry

Weed Chic said...

Poster, make secret plans to move out with your kids. Rent an apartment far away. Go there n get ur sanity. If he doesn't let u take the kids, leave them with him but b visiting regularly. If he loves u, he will beg u to return. Dont! Tell him all the problems u have with him and say u can't take it anymore. STay for at least a month away if he begs. If he doesn't, free am. You have been living in bondage. You didn't talk in the beginning and I doubt u love eachother that's y it became this bad. He sees u as d good wife wey he keep for house. Many wayward men do that. Move and take care of yourself. Then from today, stop eating shit. If he does something wrong, warn him and bone your face

Anonymous said...

Pls were can i get a side boo!! I am tired of this bastard

Weed Chic said...

Hian

Victory4me said...

D man is using your destiny. Forget he has money.You are enslaved to enrich him. Am sure his first wife knows about it.

Starjoy said...

Poster have you really talk to him as a wife? 10 years is long for you now to be expecting change, you are either start acting as if you are seeing outside or take it to God in prayer.

Anonymous said...

Another kind of bondage. At his age? And you say he is mature? Dey there, don't free yourself. No wonder the first wife transferred him to you, helped marry you sef. You have said bye bye to your own goals, hopes and dreams. And yes, you are a slave.

Anonymous said...

Her own is " 10 years a slave". If you like, don't free yourself.

Cissy said...

Watch WAR ROOM daz you people's anthem.
Someone is passing through hell and all you can advice is to go watch War room? The man in war room LOST his job hence the repentance. Every time go watch War room, has ANYBODY come forward to say 'watching WAR ROOM' saved my Marriage?? hmmmm, answer!

Anonymous said...

Babe, sorry for your loss,1st lesson neva rush into marriage @ 20 dats way 2 young, we are age mates when I was 20 I was jst stepping my feet into d water of life, I barely knew my left from right. In essence u dnt even enjoy life @ all, & you still end up wiv a retard, but serzly why do women rush into marriage( u will be stuck wiv dat same person for more than 50 yrs so y d rush) poster u are fooling yrsef wiv the phrase am still young😳, pls dnt fool yrsef poster,. Jst pick up d damaged pieces of yr life & look up to d brighter side, u need 2 start ignoring dat SOB, wicked men like that hate 2 be ignored. Get d mind set of enuff is a enuff and prepare 4 d worst. Look some situations will not change if u don't take harsh measures, get money 1st ,make sure u save enuff, Coz money make we women feel powerful, get ride of yr timid mindset coz I tell u change will not come easy dat man is pure evil & u need 2 step up 2 defeat a Goliath like him peace.

Anonymous said...

He beats and rapes you and you still love him.. longer throat we nor kee you

memmie said...

So you call this love? STOPEET! And receive sense

FLUX said...

Anyone 18:21. I'm soo in love with ur comment. True talk

Mama J said...

Well said

Cissy said...

Help her with what exactly? Someone has been in bondage for 10years and watching a 1hr plus movie will help her?
So if am broke and need money, will you ask me to go watch 'HEIST' to rob a bank?

Amacastel said...

My der find some1 to be servicing ur engine maka knucking down forget him as he has with u change very expensive sch for ur kids if he's d 1 paying their sch fees and spend ur money alone when u want to write list for household need triple d price or even more .

Mr kain said...

I go pray for you Angel 4sdk. Devil!

Amacastel said...

Pls op dt go anywhere talk to his family and urs d way he treats u don't be shy to tell them that he doesn't perform well both on bed and finanacelly.if he continue pls get side bobo , change ur life style if he gets violent,find prophets to help u arrange am since u av being praying for 10yrs but if he is not violent live ur life like a spinster,blackmail him with ur kids, put ur kids in very expensive sch is vry impt.

Chijioke Okafor said...

All of u encouraging having side boo...on judgement day let your advice here not prevent you from making heaven...

Madam pls take it to God,keep yourself.. But if tired seek divorce.. As adultery is ground for divorce in the bible

Don't cheat o,if u are caught.. This same end time advisers will be the first to curse and deny u

Anonymous said...

Ukwu diamond if u re still single n am your fiancee boo...marriage for don end

How would cheating solve her problems?
I hate wen women see their pussy as a weapon... That's y I dumped my ex...bitches with low mentality

Chijioke Okafor said...

End time angel4hell...may u never av peace..see advice

Chijioke Okafor said...

This jobless woman...with a vile heart...the day God go punish u for d bad advice u dey share here ehnn

Chijioke Okafor said...

Just saying go and marry

Anonymous said...

@queen of blog believe me, it's not a movie,he owns his own businessses,we go on his business trips together when he has to travel out of state or country. When he is working in-state he constantly calls me on the house phone not my mobile.he checks my mobile all the time to know who I've been talking to.i can't tell my parents what am going through cos they were against my marrying my husband bcos of the age difference but later gave in and gave their blessings.i do know I enjoy the comfort I get being married to him,but I didn't marry for the wealth,I come from a wealthy home.my problem is I've lost my freedom being in this marriage.i won't lie I was enjoying all the attention before but it got even worst sometimes I feel like I can't breath,he chokes me.i need some kind of mental freedom from my husband, I do not love him less,I just wanna be free,free to make decisions,free to go out,free to make friends,free to party sometimes,free to travel alone.i want to be able to tell him my mind without being scared that he may get angry.my husband loves me I know he does but this his love is too demanding it's hard coping long term.

Fiona said...

Anon 18:21. Your comment is soooo on point.

Anonymous said...

My hubby treats his married concubine better than me. He is responsible for the woman's upkeep while I pay my bills myself. Useless men everywhere.

Fiona said...

Gosh! War room again.Aren't you people tired? Pls replace war room with another movie.

Fiona said...

You make a whole lot of sense with your comments and I'm always looking forward to it.

Fiona said...

I dn't know why you want her to join your runz club by force. Pls take honey.

Anonymous said...

Keep an eye on your DH to avoid stories that touch. If you like do snake in the monkey shadow style for him. It doesn't still stop him from cheating.

Anonymous said...

Dn't mind them with their useless war room. Who "war room" epp abeg? Mtchewww.

Fiona said...

War room again. This is serious o

Cissy said...

#Walder Frey: You already swore me one oath right here in my castle. You swore by all the gods your son would marry my daughter!
Catelyn Stark: Take me for a hostage, but let Robb go!
[Catelyn pleads to Robb]
Catelyn Stark: Robb, get up, get up and walk out. Please, PLEASE!
[Robb looks at his dead wife]
Walder Frey: And why would I let him do that?
Catelyn Stark: On my honour as a Tully; on my honour as a Stark, let him go or I will CUT your wife's throat!
[Robb slowly stands up]
Walder Frey: [smiles nastily] I'll find another.
[Catelyn turns to Robb, seemingly accepting defeat]
Robb Stark: Mother...
[Roose walks up to Robb]
Roose Bolton: The Lannisters send their regards...




Stella this is the 3rd time am sending this. Pls post my GOT quote

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Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Posterposter!! Bitter wives on the blog.... I see you 👆🏼👆🏼

Anonymous said...

Anon 16:43 said it all. Act like you are seeing someone, fake calls and laugh over the phone. When he is not home and calls you, give him the impression you are not home too! Don't deprive him of anything tho, cook, tidy house and give him skills in bed. If he wants to start trouble for whatever reason, ignore him and or excuse him. All the best

Miss Kay said...

Marriage Iz getting scarrier day by day...................

Miss Kay said...

Mr and mrs(nigerian version )go and watch it

Miss Kay said...

Lmao !snake the monkey what? Hehehe

Miss Kay said...

Lmao !snake the monkey what? Hehehe

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

I used to wonder why mostarrive d women on this blog are bitter towards single girls. This chronicle males it all worth it. Abeg, angry wives association make una ride on with abuse oh!
If this is the kind of thing you're going through abuse is really therapeutic and I won't be upset anymore.
Tufiakwa!!! Let me continue packing my bags and for my birthday vacation *chews bitterkola*

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Chiji what is it nau? Are u now the one seated at the right hand of the father? The way you're dishing out under this post I don't understand.

Rahel said...

He will have a rethink when he is old abi? Poster you need to leave that house for a long time. Let him come and look for you. Please give him some serious space. Build your self esteem for goodress sake. Why would you allow another person treat you like this? Are you not worth more than rubies biko? Woman take action now or you might leave this earth very sad

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

😂😂😂 story!!!

Anonymous said...

This woman didnt see all these at the dating stage? na so

Anonymous said...

Lol @ Anon23:24, but it's your kind that will be cursing out a single 30-something or 30+ calling her 'gwegs' or whatever and telling her 'go and marry' causing her to feel and act desperate and jump into marriage for societal pressures sake. She will now become a miserable married woman like majority of married women on this blog, 'managing' while sending in Chronicles after chronicles but the cycle will continue. You know why? Because she that was a single 30 something being verbally abused my married nigerian women at one point, now married herself and with children, will start to verbally abuse other 30+ women who are not married. And for no reason at all. Knowing that at one point she was once single, she doesn't spare the plight of womanhood and continues to berate and belittle her fellow woman just because she is single at a certain age with no children.
Nigerian women: stop this behavior! You're not helping! With that stupid and desperate mentality you'll make other women feel desperate and they will jump into something they cant easily get out of (some of them, their lives ruined forever) . And who's laughing and enjoying the whole time? ...Men. They see your desperation, they feed on it and in turn use it to hold you down and treat you like shit. They hear, they see their fellow women calling each other names for not being married and they are enjoying this bc they know that a desperate woman will endure anything to get and stay married. And in turn they will have a field day all the while, the women are living in misery, either suffering verbal, mental, physical abuse or all in the name of being MRS.

Anonymous said...

Again I say Nigerian women (yall are the biggest offenders): stop treating your fellow woman like crap because she is not married especially when you know you yourself are in absolute misery in your own marriage! That's why these Nigerian men treat us the way they do, it's because we don't have respect for each other as women. They see us disrespecting and disgracing each other for no just reason and doing all of this just to get one of them. They will think they are a prize and that you are to run after them and not the other way around. Some of them will be disrespecting you even before you are married knowing good and well that you will tolerate it just because you want to be a MRS. And then the disrespect will continue in the marriage and may become more pronounced because they know you will 'endure' or 'manage' because you don't want to get divorced or don't want ppl to see that your marriage isn't working. You would rather remain a battered and broken MRS. Smh. I wish we as women would stop treating each other this way.
Today men are useless, tomorrow you're telling a woman to 'go and marry' and calling her gwegs even though she did nothing to you. Stop the cycle. Especially if you want some of these useless men to treat you with respect. Treat others with respect as well.

Anonymous said...

@Dietitian, marriage is NOT an Achievement like finishing school or obtaining a degree or getting promoted in your career. Keep telling yourself that foolishness. You said you know most single ladies go to spiritualist. Did you ever wonder where that desperation actually stems from??? Ppl like YOU who actually think and spew nonsense ideals such as marriage is an achievement. There are girls that are barely 18 and forced into an arranged marriage with men who can be their fathers, what kind of achievement is that? Arranged achievement? Marriage is a blessing and a long, prosperous and joy-filled marriage can be considered an achievement in a time where the divorce rate is more than 50%. But marriage in itself is not an achievement and having kids is not either. It's a blessing. There are ppl who should not be having children, we all know that. But they pop out one after the other with either no money to fend for them or being very aware of the situation they are bringing these innocent children into.
@JustSaying is right. Is the poster's life any better or richer than woman who are single and enjoying their lives? She has been married with children for 10 years and she is sending in Chronicles of her misery. Pls, do tell, who is happier? Lol some women on this blog are delusional. Keep telling yourself that being married is an achievement while reading these pathetic Chronicles and putting down your fellow woman who is single. Oya, advise the girl now! You who are an achiever of marriage just like the poster who is singing woes of a miserable marriage. Advise her!

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Anon 10:49- thanks for answering on our behalf.
Dietician please advice the poster as a fellow achiever.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

*most married women

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Poster you have a well paying job. Did you get it thru yr hubby? Maybe that's why he feels he doesn't need to do anything else for you.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Angry wives association on thus blog ☝ Got nothing to say to you. Cos tmr u come and abuse Chikito with your real I'D

Anonymous said...

Anon 15:49, shut the hell up with that WAR Room nonsense. After you watched it, did it miraculously change your life? So, after all the poster said, your small brain only came up with "watch War Room"?because after watching it everything will magically turn rosy, abi? Go and advise your fellow married achiever and do better than just telling her to watch WAR Room. Who War room help?? Obviously not you because if it had you would have explained why she should watch it.
Fool!

sassy mum said...

Anon 16:43 and 18:61, u guys are so on point. Poster, I feel u. Take both advices. Dat was what I told my sister to do when she was having issues with hubby. Show them u can be happy and have fun without them. And if the money is there to spend, don't hesitate. Take care of ur self and kids. Don't be rude or unruly but see urself and ur kids as the most important in dat house. Be nice to him while at it. Good luck

grace said...

Poster go and watch war room,it will help you!

Anonymous said...

Yes oh! Sit, kneel, lie, pray and fast. All the while, endure the hardships while your horseband enjoys with other women and abandons and mistreats you. Yes! Don't cheat on him. He can cheat on you while bringing home a new STD every week. BUT you must sit there and cry while fasting and praying. Mtcheww, don't listen to @brown. That's that old African mentality that the woman has to stay home with the kids and endure the hardships of the marriage and the man enjoys while also forgiving the man and "praying" for him while he continues to cheat, and treat you like shit. All the while, you're turning into an old woman even before your time just because of one lousy man you decided to marry.
My sister, take your kids and go live your life! Don't kill yourself and shorten your lifespan over of any man,even your husband. No man that takes a vow with you should ever make you feel this low.
But then again since you don't want to consider divorce or cheating, then continue to suffer while fasting and praying. It shall be well oh lol. Some women, eh. Big fools

Anonymous said...

"Fight for your right but don't ever fight him. Even if he beats you up in the process...."

My friend, did you hear yourself??? What kind of advice is that?

Anonymous said...

@Anon23:18, and you're still talking?! Abeg,shut up and receive sense! What kind of stupidity is this though? And I thought the younger females would be the smarter ones but some of ya'll are just as foolish or even worse. At your age, you even accepted being a second wife?? Wth, where they do that at nowadays? When are some Nigerian women/girls going to learn how to stop jumping into things so foolishly because they want to be married?

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