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Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Omugwo Chronicles -35

Omugwo is overrated?LMAO!




Good day stella, I've been enjoying the omugwo chronicles. Kudos. 

I had my 1st child when I was 23yrs old. My mum was very ill around that period and couldn't make it. I had sisters in the town I live but though one of my sisters stayed with me from when I was in labour till about 3days after discharge, I was basically on my own. 

Another sister of mine who said she'll be coming to bathe my baby in the mornings ended up coming around 12noon so I just started giving my baby her bath early by myself. My husband was very helpful too but I no de sabi stay one place. If I never do my thing myself the way I want am ehn, e no de good for my eyes. 

My shaky shaky con land me with high bp by the time I went for post natal check up. My mother in-law lives far off in another state and had to arrange for leave from work before she could come. So because of the high bp she asked her younger sister who lives in the next town to come. This my aunt in-law works like "jackee". She'll cook, sweep, stay with baby throughout the night, only brings her to suckle. 

She washes all our clothes including my husband's with hands (she says our washing machine doesn't wash underarms of clothes lol). She was the one basically doing everything even when my mil came. I rested so well.

Fast forward to my 2nd child my mum was OK then and came for omugwo 3days after I put to bed.

On getting to my home, she said she came to rest. Ahn ahn! Rest ke, for where person born? I say if na so make she go her house make I call my aunt in-law that came before. I told her I don't want stress. I had already cooked b4 she came because I told my aunt in law not to come since my mum is coming. See suffer. D day after she came my husband had to travel. 

She didn't cook anything. I drank tea and ate bread in the morning waiting for her to at least make p/soup, for where? She relax for couch hold remote control for hand de surf TV stations. I drank tea and ate bread that after noon too and then my sister came to see her and brought food for us.

 That's what we ate that evening. The next morning I had to ask her 'you no go Cook pepper soup abi na fasting omugwo you come? Because I bought everything in bulk before I put to bed. She reluctantly cooked the pepper soup and I drank. I had to cook ogbono soup later that day as my husband would be coming back. He came back earlier than expected and saw me sweating in the kitchen while mumsy was watching African magic in the parlour. 

He was so angry ehn. He took over the cooking and I went to rest. The next morning my mom said she had to rush back home because she had to attend some form of screening at work and she'll be back. I guess she felt guilty.

For my 3rd baby, I didn't just invite anybody. My husband and I did it all by ourselves and frankly I prefer it. Omugwo visit in my opinion is over rated ooo.


But my sincere appreciation goes to my husband's aunt she was a blessing and I pray God Almighty will reward her accordingly.


*That remote control part really got me laughing but then it is possible that your mum really needed rest nau...LMAO


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  1. God safe you say you later appreciate that aunt of your hubby. For your mama, na enjoyment Omguwo she came for, so don't blame her

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    1. Same thing happened to me, my mum only responsibility was bath baby in d morning, after that she expect u to prepare breakfast 4 her, she doesn't enter d kitchen oo, for the rest of the day she plays candy crush, and watch telemundo! It infiltrated me so much, I was counting the days she will leave! Abeg omugwo is overrated!

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    2. Na fasting omugwo we go do?that part got me lmao!

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    3. Pls let's be frank if your mother is above 50yrs old she no be pikin again nah,so dnt expect her to start doing everything. Her role is to teach u d basics.My mum doesn't stress herself during Omugwo oh her own is to bath d baby morning n night n teach a few other things.2 weeks max she Don Waka.Ensure u hv a househelp or nanny before you put to be to assist.#Grandmasnotgrandnannys#

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    4. infiltrated ke? issorait

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    5. The correct word is infuriated.

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  3. Sorry my sister, some days are like that

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    1. How do I send my omugwo story and what time abeg?

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  4. Thank God for good in-laws. Some of them are case studies.

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  5. Thank God is ur own mother that did it to you so don't complain

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  6. HAHAHA Some mothers are funny walaΔ±!

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  7. Haba! Delivery isn't that serious nau...it doesn't stop you from cooking. I started cooking 2days after and nothing happened. Let's learn to be strong for ourselves.

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    1. Abeg forget that thing,strong or not everyone needs pampering at a certain stage.

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    2. Everyone is different my dear. Also babies are different. If you have a demanding/challenging baby, you would need more help.

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  9. Abeg I don't blame ur mum,she is a working class woman she just saw that opportunity to come and rest afterall no be ur first born be that,just that she suppose help u do work 4 house,like me my mum will tell me she can't cook 4 my husband but every other things she would do it.

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  10. Buy y will your mum feel so reluctant about taking care of you,,some mothers are something else.

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  11. Enter your comment...End tym omugwo,ur momsie na badoo sha.I pray God blesses me with correct in-laws so I can enjoy every bit of it

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  12. Her mum needed rest but would still want to be given omugwo gifts.She was just selfish jare.

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  13. God bless your aunt inlaw, she really stuck out her neck for u. As for me, thank God for my mum, she has vast experience in omugwo field. My sis inlaw was with me before mumsy arrived, kai!! If I remember the way she baths my baby ehn headache go worry me, if not for mumsy am sure my baby would grow up with black thighs, you need see the scrubbing and correct pressing mumsy gave my baby afterwards, infact 4days after mumsy arrived baby Reena started shining. Hmmnnn.... But if u see d way she pressed my tummy and dabbed my cunnnnttt with hot water, fear go catch u. Lol
    *God bless my Angel in human form*

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  14. Ur mom must be a lazy mother,where on earth does it happen?? She did herself good by leaving ur house.she would hv stayed in her house and relax nah..smh

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    1. Maybe she has been going for omugwo before,the thing come tire her

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  15. with all this omugwo gist i have made up my mind not to boarder anyone to come for omugwo, i will try and mange myself, am expecting less from people. I can't fit shout.

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  16. mummy in charge I can just imagine how busy she was with the remote.biko let Mum rest abegiπŸ˜‚

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    1. HaaahaaahaaahaaaHaaahaaahaaahaaa! Very funny momsy.
      May God continue blessing your home.

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  17. Your mom isn't your slave... Says my mom.

    Omugwo her only responsibility is to carry your child.. Every otherchore employ a maid. I will simply employ a nanny and a maid then invite my mom

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  18. Is not overrated to me especially now that I am expecting. I need all the help I can get.

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  19. Hehehe mama the mama, she come rest nau as body no be firewood, abi!

    God bless your home...

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  20. Lol,mumsy came to rest,can't she rest in her house

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  21. The mother shld have rested at home nau Stella. Not to come and add more stress for the daughter. Poster, may God bless ur home.

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  22. Thank God for the strength.

    That was how my 'big' elder sis told me that she came to look after the baby not me. She will sleep and forgot that the baby needs to bath, will bath my baby and when she wakes, she'll say...ah, you didn't even wake me. lol

    If your mum did this to her daughter-in-law, she will become a wicked mother-in-law.

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  23. lmao.....your mum funny ooo poster.

    hubby were @ thou...come quick.lol



    That imobabe....we rock!

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  24. Pls,appreciate that ur hubby's aunty o,she really tried.but as for ur mum,no word cos I don't know the reason for her actions. I always enjoy my omugwo, cos my mum usually comes before I give birth,ans stays like 4wks after,and I don't ever cook during those period, infact hubby is always looking up to her coming, but u must be loaded sha,cos my mum will buy and buy and buy,but I do appreciate her effort. She always says she wish she is still buoyant and I'll be surprised with things she will be buying for her,but despite that she brings like 4 big Ghana must go when visiting

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  25. Thank God it was ur mum who acted that way,it would av been a different story if it wia ur mother Inlaw.We tend to tolerate pple we love better

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  26. Hahahaha no blame the woman joor. She needed rest mbok, no be every mother dey like do omugwu
    I thank God for you and your baby and may God continue to bless your aunt in law and hubby as well. Una doh

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  27. Lmao...gosh girl u no well I tell u

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  29. I pity d person way go marry your brother, if she could be like this to her daughter, I just pity her daughter in law.

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  30. What's the difference between this poster and those who don't have a mother???

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    1. @Brown sugar,no make me laugh I beg you.πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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  31. Rest kini, she for rest for her house na

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  32. U shudnt av said anytin to ur mum. Posterity wil surely prick her conscience if she did get any help during her own time and failed to return d favor.
    Generally, itz better u don't show up than to show up and be redundant cos once u com over, the anticipation/expectation is so great that u cant afford to fail.
    Nursing mothers r realy trying. I lost sleep for just one day and i was acting weird the next two days.

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  33. lmao... african magic be causing damages lol

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  34. Good your mum left herself. You should have called your aunt if you knew your mum was coming for some rest.
    Please, Omuguo is not overrated, i have seen women back in Nigeria who fell very ill after giving birth; because they were doing everything themselves.
    Even doctors always advice you get a help or ask for help. Not having the help that you need can even cause postpartum depression.

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  35. Who says omugwo is over rated,because one is strong after delivery doesn't mean another will be,I'm a very strong person,while my younger sister will faint if she works the way I do after child birth,it is to every new mom according to your strength.

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  36. somebody should please help me. I think I am loosing my mind pls someone should help me because i dont think God has time to answer my prayers, i am so tired of this life already.

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  37. I don't know what people even think omugwo is, it's because most mothers are jobless or village women that's why they will leave their house and come for omugwo for months, even working class mothers or business women will even leave work or close shop to go for omugwo and these daughters don't even respect and value their mums, all in the name of omugwo they will turn their mothers into house girls, omugwo is basically to teach you the basics on caring for a newborn and yourself, and when you've had your second baby or even first baby and have learnt, you don't really need your mum coming to slave in your house, I remember when my elder sister got married and gave birth, I and mum went for omugwo, my mum will go to market, cook, carry baby and serve food, I'll clean and mop floors and wash toilets and bathroom, mind you I was an undergraduate o, yet my sister will be doing like who dem blow banger for head, very unappreciative, if my mum drink more mineral or eat chin chin when the husband comes back from work she'll tell him, and the husband will have the impetus to tell my mum that the drinks and chin chin is for visitors, mind you my mum is a landlady and can afford trailer load of drinks and container of chin chin o, just because she's humble to the core, left her house to come do omugwo and she was being talked to anyhow and treated like a glorified house girl . Heaven knows I won't go for any omugwo in my daughters house, I'll do my in laws style that when her kids put to bed, you come to her house with your baby, omugwo is usually at her place, when you're strong enough and learnt the basic you go to your husbands house and continue , she no dey to leave her business to go and do any yeye omugwo in anybody's house. Abroad who does omugwo for you, women think once they give birth it's just sit at home while people do everything for you and their only job is swallow food and grow fat all in the name of omugwo, most don't even pity their elderly mothers who need rest and care themselves, mchteeeeew

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  38. I trust my mum for that side. Ordinary miscarriage wet I get sef,the three days she spent in my house was heaven on earth for me,talk more of when I put to bed. However,I don't plan to rest and laze around for more than 7 days after delivery. After 7 days( barring c.s or other ish which is not my portion by d way) ,even my mum can go home. I shld be able to bathe and care for my baby myself by then. As for house chores,na exercise. Cooking shouldn't be a problem either as long as hubby will go to the market. My cousins for u.k and u.s no do any omuogwo and they managed fine. Why can't I?

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  39. Omugwo definitely makes one fat with all the chilling n excessive eating going on,had my first child n mil stayed for 6weeks i tink,she cooked when convenient n i also did when i could when she left it was jux my baby n i alone n i learnt to cope without help.kinda made me fit as a fiddle n i had my pre pregnancy bod back,she dint massage me either n it was jux fine by me

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  40. I can't wait for my own omugwo. I sha trust my mum. She won't even let me lift a pin. Favorite daughter something

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