Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Revd.Mrs Funke Felix Adejumo's Advice To Wives....

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Tuesday, 23 August 2016

Revd.Mrs Funke Felix Adejumo's Advice To Wives....

This is what Rev. Mrs Funke Felix Adejumo has to say to couples.

Somebody might read this and have a break through in a troubled situation.

Be silent and read!







THE WOMAN:
As a woman, you are many things to your husband and as a man, there are 8 things you should be to your wife.

Don’t marry a man because of what he drives but what drives him.

Seduce your husband. Don’t always allow your husband to ask for sex. 

As a woman your under wear should match

You must be a different woman to your husband every time. Be creative. Don’t be predictable. Give him what he wants.

Everyone woman has an influence. If you lose influence over your husband you have lost womanhood..

You must learn to synchronize with your husband. Be part of his plans..

Don’t have too many children. Sex is not all about making children. 

Dress to please your husband..

Don’t fix time to have sex with your husband.When a man is sexually satisfied he is emotionally stable..

As a woman you should invest in yourself spiritually so you can adequately support him. 

Build yourself as a prayer warrior so that you will not be forced to pray at the end of your life.

I agree with almost all but why must my husband provide for all my needs? Is he a money making machine?
Secondly, why cant I provide for my husband, after all, iron sharpens iron, they say, if he can buy me something, I should be able to reciprocate, isn’t that romantic?


As a woman you are a helper!
The one who you are helping must be stronger than you! Once you are married, you are somebody’s helper and the helper is meant to have what the person’s need! 

As a wife, you are meant to surround your husband! 

Women are natural keepers; men take care of your wives so your life can be long! The woman is your helper. Treasure your wife, let her feel important!!  Let your wife know that she is important. Women, you are your husband’s helper, stop looking helter skelter! 

You are there to help him and God will reward you.

As a woman, you are a builder!!

Proverbs 14:1- A wise woman buildeth her home! We need wisdom to build. You must know when to speak, when to keep quiet, when to comfort, when to build!
As a woman you are a servant!

Titus 2:4-5- These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

You are a cook, cleaner, laundry woman and nanny!

When last did you love him and lay his head on your chest? When last did you run up behind him and kiss him?

Once a bride, always a bride!! Stop calling him daddy or papa Joseph!! He is your husband! You are a servant, not a slave

You are an intercessor!
Prayer cover him, satan proof him, Delilah proof your husband! If God has blessed you with a husband, pray for him. The praying woman is a winning woman; at certain times, just pray for your husband!! No matter how happy you are in your marriage, never stop praying for your husband! In case you don’t know, some people are not happy that you are happy? That husband you think is useless, some people are queuing to marry him. Take care of your home; no matter where you go, come back to your home!

  As a woman, you are a lover!
Some women forget that you are a lover! Every man is attracted by what he sees, while a woman is attracted by what she hears. That is how we are wired! If you are an old bride beside your husband, you will push him to a Delilah! The male species like variety, even Christian men can be tempted! Therefore, you must be many things to your husband! 

Become unpredictable in marriage! Wear your hair differently, dress differently!


You should have two types of nightwear, the general ones and the ones only your husband can see you in; you know what I mean. Look lovely for your husband; remind him of what he has. Make the room you share have a wonderful ambience!


Touch your husband! 

A woman needs 13 meaningful touches a day! 

Remain romantic! 

Don’t be an old ugly bride around your husband; walk hard to retain your shape! 

You must be romantic and spontaneous! 

Befriend your husband, if you don’t befriend him, you will wake up one day and find a huge emotional gap! 

Don’t let your ministry or career cause a rift between you


 As a woman you are a covering!
Look at Genesis 21:9-10
What a man can’t see, a woman can see! So, as a man learn to listen to your woman! Be careful when your wife warns you about a particular business or a friendship or woman, listen to her and try to understand her! Don’t tell your wife to shut up. As a woman, protect your husband, defend him!

 You are a keeper, an assignment!
For example, he gives you sperm; you keep it, deliver a child and nurture that child! He tells you his vision, you keep it in mind and help nurture and bring it to pass.
May  the lord  give us  Good understanding amen


132 comments:

Miss Ess said...

Nice one

Oby O said...

Gosh! Not another post telling women how to behave... When will they start referring to the men abeg? This is why we raise the girl child to believe she cannot amount to anything other than a slave to her future husband, while the boys act like demi gods.. Enough of all these please.. It can only work when both parties have mutual love and respect for each other.. It is not a one way thing.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Well said but that matching underwear part be as e get.

Stella, please post comments.

Ralu M said...

I concur with all she said but If I come to this world again...God make me a man. We women bear a lot. What about the men?what about them? In this part of the world we have the short end of the stick. What is a man and a husband supposed to do? All the time women are hammered on how to be superwomen whilst having to deal with men that get away with everthing.
Make we raise boys who will grow up to know that they have to be responsible to their wives, children and society instead of ones that behave with a sense of unnecessary entitlement.

grace said...

Beautiful!

Cynthia Iyede said...

Nice one....

The use of the word 'servant' to describe a woman doesn't sit well some how.

I pray men appreciates the effort of women too cos the list is just endless.

Eunice Oba said...

Enter your comment...Amen mummy more grace and anointing to you

christiana madumere said...

Amen

Ideato/IlajeBlood~ SDK FIRSTLADY said...

This is the reason so many women are enslaved In their homes. Die in silence and all.

We need advice's to the men. We know what to do and when to do it. You guys should start advising the men. Beasts everywhere

ov o said...

I'm out on the edge and I'm screaming my name like a fool at the top of my lungs.
Sometimes when I close my eyes I pretend I'm all right but it's never enough.
'Cause my echo, echo is the only voice coming back.
My shadow, shadow is the only friend that I have. *cries*

JACINTA MBACHU said...

Linda eze come and see ooooo try and be a good wife to him

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

All these epistle for women?...
What of men?....abeg abeg abeg I didn't read!...

Blossom said...

#Word!!!

Learnt a whole lot. God bless you Pst Funke.

Isolde Fontaine said...

I enjoyed reading this.

Nwa AMAKA said...

I keep saying this; any marriage outside the order God has made it is bound to fail.
Wife be submissive which includes obedience➡ honor➡respect. Their is nothing like partial submission. The devil keep putting this equality shit into women.
The truth is most women are struggling for what is freely theirs because they view marriage from other people's mirror.

Man love your wife. Whether she's behaving well you owe it to her to love her. Protect her, adore her and provide for her.

Marital relationship should be regular. Spiced up with different styles.
Communication is vital remember that assumption is the bedrock of frustration.
Affection must be mutually shared because love covers multitude of offenses.
Don't forget to give and finally prayer is the key.
That is my magic and dh can kill lion just to make me happy.

Larexy Brown said...

Nice one. I hope ladies will heed this advice.

Anonymous said...

Enter your comment...is when a man can provided fr his family,then before he think of love. hiss.....

Atheist. said...

Marriage talks up and down, if you like download the entire marriage material into ur skull, the proof is in the pudding... If its bound to crash, Albert Einstern law wont salvage it. goodluck y'all in ur quest.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Ewoooo! Nigerian women have suffered. One pastor say 'men don't marry a woman who can/can't.....' Another one say 'as a woman, do this and don't do that....'

Who talks to the men? Who?

Anonymous said...

Abeg leave story...a woman will still do all those things and the man will still stray like a cursed dog. It is in their DNA to be idiots and cheat.

youngman said...

Thank you ma. Today's liberated woman, femenist and educated woman believes not in these things. They are more preoccupied with equality with men. They forget that each time the chips are down, they are altimate losers. Even their brothers and parents prefer they stay hapilly with their husbahds. If a man does wrong all the women decend on him but if a woman does wrong the women excuse, justify and blame the man for pushing her into it. They give terrible advise to fellow women but would never join them in bearing the consequences of their advise.
The bible says it better for a man to live in the desert that with a nagging wife but today's woman wants to add to the bible by asking about a nagging husband just so to justify their new found belief.
Men marry women into their own houses not into the woman's house. The woman should adjust to her new reality but no they want the man to adjust to what the woman is bringing from her fathers house

Anonymous said...

Nice Word of Advise. learning and preparing earnestly.

School Life said...

A lot of ladies ve read something like this or something greater than this but they still think backward.

Causes:
1. Their Environment
2. The kind of friends they keep.
3. Misinterpretation.
4. Die hard Personal decisions, i.e Always being the hunted n not the hunter. (Love is reciprocal)

Our prayer point shoub be; Lord make me be the person you actually created ne to be. Let not my environment, friends, books I've read change me from ya God ordain Person.

#School
Lif3

Lateesha Pasteries Ajjah Lagos - 07032392414 said...

Hmmmmmm. Saw this weeks back on Facebook.
All her points are Valid.
Marriage from the times and days of our parents has always and will forever be about women/wives.

The success of a marriage lies MORE on the way the woman of the home handles issues.
As a woman: Married, you are so many things you just can't begin to count. And you can't learn all in a day OR a year.

As your marriage progresses from year one to year two, so also will your wisdom, tolerance, understanding,knowledge, exposure, experience, love, care, Adoration, Admiration progress.

May God give those married a home filled with Pure Joy.

Amen.

Anonymous said...

think everybody knows what is right, if you're doing well or stable,what will makes you,not to have happy home?

pinky peters said...

Nice one, may God help me

reemah said...

And as a man...?

Anonymous said...

..thinketh in his heart so is he.

Anonymous said...

Msheeeeewwww always wear matching underwear. Madam beg park well

Anonymous said...

Wisdom that have fled our generation. Why can't women and men be themselves for once? Let us follow the roles the Almighty assigns us and stop fighting ourselves over who is smarter, richer, or more important or equality or superiority. Man and Woman are meant for each other and there can never be a better substitute. Return to the basics.

Anonymous said...

How can I seduce him when both of us are broke, no money to take care of my children's need, for night I go come dey seduce am, sex na food?

Bolty said...

You speak the truth ma! I pray we will all wake up to this realisation and not settle for less! God bless you my Mama.

Loveme Jeje said...

Hian women are tired of all these sermons jare

Temi said...

It is worth the epistle.

HOUSE OF LAWOF said...

Chai women are trying walahi no wonder most of them age before their time all these rules for WOMEN!!! Sorry am shouting but can someone for once lecture men on how to make women happy???

HOUSE OF LAWOF said...

Chai women are trying walahi no wonder most of them age before their time all these rules for WOMEN!!! Sorry am shouting but can someone for once lecture men on how to make women happy???

Ideato/IlajeBlood~ SDK FIRSTLADY said...

My thought exactly

Ideato/IlajeBlood~ SDK FIRSTLADY said...

I regret reading

Ideato/IlajeBlood~ SDK FIRSTLADY said...

No body my sister
We will continue to have beast on earth all because No one wants to advice the male folks.

The highest advice you can read about them is a single paragraph

Anonymous said...

All these advice/tips are achievable when the man provides for his family. But in the case when the man cannot provide for his family, as in at all at all, will I start looking for a matching Pant and bra to seduce him on bed, my dear pastor I know u meant well but in my own case the only thing I can do is to go on my knees and pray for God to change my story for good, as for sex poverty Don kill am kpata kpata, no sex drive at all, but I believe when money show, those sex drive will rush back, it's a thing of the mind. I can be a champion in that department if I set my mind to it. My dear Lord have mercy on me, u know who is speaking, it's your daughter

Adedapo said...

I am blessed with these write up. I pray God will give me a good wife in Jesus name

Adedapo said...

I am blessed with these write up. I pray God will give me a good wife in Jesus name

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

So true.

Nice one ma

BonaParte NN said...

You equate feminism with aggression. A feminist can have a very happy marriage as against the stereotype you people keep painting.

A feminist says: Respect me as an equal let us all share roles, dont stereotype me, dont put me down just because I am a woman and give me a chance to prove myself first before looking at my sex. Is that too much for a real man?

Only a chauvinist will find a feminist annoying or a man who is not sure of himself; a weakling.

And yes, a nagging man is irritating. Read how Jesus used to put nagging pharisees and saducees in their place.

A real man is proud when his wife has achievements but a sissy man fears because he is a failure and wants to bring her down with him. I've seen women with PHd married to business men who dont even have bachelor's degree and its working out well. Arrogance is bad for a woman as well as a man. In marriage there must be humility from both parties and not just one party. So. My bro. Arrogance is not equal to feminism nor synonymous. Dont mistake the two. What a feminist demands is human treatment from a man. Simple. And it is not too hard for a real man to give.

Will you die if your wife is talking and you're listening??

Chidinma Grace said...

The bible said man love ur wife as christ loved d church n died for us, before he now said wife be submissive to ur husband. Love comes b4 submissiveness. N let's tell ourselves d truth, it's very easy for a woman to submit once she is loved. Women rebels when they re denied love from their partner. So men should sit up n stop blaming women.

CrazyHornyWife said...

Kikikikiki,am sorry am laffing but you wrote d truth. How do broke pipol knack?

Ada Nwanbueze said...

Lmfao

Adedapo said...

Idiot, no seduce him, another woman will do that nd you will now send a chronicles. Ode

Adedapo said...

Idiot, no seduce him, another woman will do that nd you will now send a chronicles. Ode

Yellow Diamond said...

@You are a cook, cleaner, laundry woman and nanny!

I ll be none of these when I have too much money, my money should work for me, someone is seriously praying for an opportunity to get a job description of this nature listed above to be able to earn a living.

Tush baby said...

Nice one

North Dakota siobhan said...

You are female? Jesus Christ of Nazareth! I thought you were male.not like you gave anything away to suggest you were of the opposite sex, its cos of the name,and the fact that you are always so composed.

Ideato/IlajeBlood~ SDK FIRSTLADY said...

Mao Akuh said...
A good husband does not slap or beat his wife.
A good husband doea not cheat on his wife.
He does not drink nor smoke.
A good husband does not ignore his wife's emotion.
A good husband irons his wife's clothes.
Pays his wife salary
Draw her closer to God.
Carry her along in decision making
A good husband takes his family to weekly fellowship.

Everything can't be Women alone.
23 August 2016 at 16:54

IYALAJE OF SDK BLOG said...

For real...I'm like matching really, no time mehn lol...

Anonymous said...

Obviously if this piece of advise had come much earlier you wouldn't have been this retarded

Anonymous said...

Abegi go siddon!
Who has time for all these fucked up Naija women wey no go even read wetin u dey write.
For all we know, u r just writing for writing sake.

KARMAisabitch said...

Lmao!
This list is so funny.Nobody can be all of this.Who is this superwoman???

Males are so lucky.All they have to do is be and a woman will jump through hoops to fit in.

Seun ogayemi said...

I love this woman her messages are always inspiring women empowering women God bless u ma

Anonymous said...

It's obvious you didn't read the post with understanding but rather a biased mind. Didn't you SSE how she admonished the men to love, care and listen to their women? Never to treat them as slaves? Abeg waka pass, na people like you dey always deceive ladies to feel marginalized inttheir marriages. Ok bye!

Emilia Peter said...

Thank u ma

serenah said...

It sucks to be a nigerian married woman at times. All these advice just to keep a man. Abegi I f he doesn't want to be kept no newton law or any rule can keep him

Anonymous said...

Ode, u dey find good wife, are u good? u are calling a faceless person that did not do anything to u ode, no go make money.

Oron babe said...

Nice one.

Oby O said...

Anon 19. 17,i was going to tear you to shreds this evening but luckily enough I'm in agood mood today.. Funny how retards are quick to use that word on others.. Read up and see comments from sensible people.

Anonymous said...

I love u,n I'm sure God loves u more

Oby O said...

BonaParte thank your stars that I'm married, i would have found you and married you by force as in put a ring on it "either you like it or not" in according to Iyabo Ojo πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€ i just love you!!!

irejoice said...

well said

Anonymous said...

My second nightie is no nightie at all. Why dress to bed when what I'm going for require me to wear my nude.

Anonymous said...

Epic response! Love it.

Anonymous said...

Please tell them

Anonymous said...

Abeggeeeeeee!old story!

Shantelle's Empire said...

I couldnt read all that. Like seriously,kilode??

Anonymous said...

Adedapo, easy nah!

From you alone, Idiot, Ode....

I don't know why people find it sooo easy to curse and insult people.

Give your life to Christ so that peace will rain in ur heart, love will flow and flush all the hatred you feel.

Jesus loves you.

Anonymous said...

I hear.

Olufemi Atinmo said...

Hmm. Pastor funke is ministering at our 2017 winter prayer camp. I am dissapointed if this is what I am going to hear there.

How can 1 woman do all this as well as take care of the kids too
No matter how he treats her?. A beg e hard!. It takes 2 to keep a marriage going.

Anonymous said...

Oby o your head too correct.... Can you imagine the nonsense write up,women do this,women do that,so the men don't need advice ba,just a few to be done by the man,na the woman owe Satan debt that she must pay by force by being a slave to her husband.rubbish write up.if una like make una dey listen to this ooo,the thunder that will fire a woman that decide to see herself as a slave to a man is running up like Usain bolt.

Olufemi Atinmo said...

You have said it all

Anonymous said...

@ideato Well said jare

Anonymous said...

Nonsense write up.some women do all these and still get beaten up by their husbands,their men still have wandering dick sleeping about.stupid Nigerian men with no morals,they wont change when people like you that wrote this write up keep coming up with stupid ideas like this.why not advice the men on how to treat their women right.

Anonymous said...

Many have died cos of this type of write up!!! May God help women . Let me tell you Mrs pastor if you like pound ur head and give him if ur marriage will fail nothing can stop it. Bonaparte nn I so love you.

Anonymous said...

You talk well

Anonymous said...

Nobody talks to the men and that's why they keep getting worst.foolish adviser.which kain slavery be this?

Anonymous said...

This woman actually think we are in the 10th century or what?abeg carry your advice go one side,all these people with arcade mentality,that is why some women keep suffering and smiling till they end up dead from heartache or get killed by their men.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Eyaaa...

Anonymous said...

Godbless u Bona!!!! And I love ur last question!!!

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Asin ehhee..

I am king EZE said...

Jason walker - echo. #bae

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Kwakwakwakwa...
See this broke ass Adedapo!...the thing pain you wella...
Another woman should take abeg who cares?...I'm sure the poster no send...

Anonymous said...

Seriously!!! Matching underwears long thinggghghhhhhh with all the listed rules.... Lemmme GI and match the one for tomorrow and forget dinner

perfect God said...

Women has a lot of work to do o

Anonymous said...

If ur a bad man you can Neva see the good in any woman be her an angel

BEDS AND ROSES said...

What about the men........... Every time woman woman woman.
What shld the man do ?
Who get time for matching pant and bra, who has d time when I'm rushing out of d house by 7am. Abeg leave story, all d man is interested in is tearing dos panties off.

If you like becum a slave in ur husbands house and be behaving like smone he wld come home and mark exam on ur performance as good wife, na you know.
A husband and wife are supposed to be friends and helpers to each oda. When I'm tired understand I can't fuck you, when I'm tired understand we can eat yesterday's jollof rice.
I perform my duties as best I can along with holding down a job, but I am not a machine that anything you request for I must do it that very minute.
You will see some men their wives just had CS or back from admission from hospital. They will be asking for pounded yam and asking for sex. Knowing fully well this woman isn't strong. But bcos u do not want to refuse ur hubby u will go ahead and oblige him.
Let men too be understanding and know we aren't robots. You go to ur stressful job, come back another job continues cooking, cleaning, bathing kids, preparation for school next day. You now expect sex untop of that. Are we slaves ???

Empressitta said...

Nice writeup. But again I must say "women bending women everytime " Asking us to succumb to dome ideology and prep ourselves for the "almighty man".
What happened to the men being told how to behave and keep the women, it's a 2way thing remember. Tell the women but please please and please, also tell the men.

Anonymous said...

Crazy Horn Wife,

Forget that thing, na broke people dey knack pass... just dey multiply like bedbug.



Anon 123 said...

@BonaParte;Ehugs for you. You said it all. This is me ranting...Is there anything wrong in treating the woman as a human being? Is there anything wrong in treating women the way men would like to be treated? Why can't there be mutual respect and understanding in a marriage? Why does the woman have to be the one making all these efforts? All these instructions are just too much. Ha! Is it a crime to be a woman? Is it a crime to want to be treated well? Are there not other things I'm supposed to use this wonderful brain God gave me for aside from thinking of how to please a man? Men need a lot of lectures and instructions too. Women are humans. We have feelings. We get tired after a hard day's job. We do not want to be looked down on. We want to be treated and talked to like humans. What is all this sef?

Anon said...

Adedapo u are a fool for calling her an idiot. In fact your foolishness cannot be explained. Why is she an idiot? Because she said it as it is? So she should seduce him and after knacking, she will give birth to more children that they can't take care of abi? And even if she sends chronicles no? Is it your chronicles. Abeg swerve..

Anonymous said...

Funny write-up, "you are supposed to be a helper to someone stronger than you" the things these people say ,only God can judge. Madame Funke, the strong help the weak that is why the Bible says the Lord is my helper, why? Because he is stronger, women are helpers because they are stronger emotionally and are spiritual channels. Please do not turn the Bible upside down to please yourself, young people be wise , Adeboye, Adejumo and Gbogbo e will not live with you and you will not see them on your way to heaven or hell. The Bible is a free book and the holy spirit speaks to all and sundry if only we would worship God in truth and spirit.

It'sJustMyVantagePointDarling said...

Lol

Anonymous said...

Oby O, are u Oby Obi?

nina chocomile said...

U that gives her in laws beans to eat is talking about being a good woman kwa? Odiegwu oh! I hear u. Women I raise hand like Beyonce for una. See me that hasn't finished thinking if myself and children will now come and be doing matching paent and bra for my hubby. I kukuma no dey wear pant when I dey house so that rule no concern me.

Ralu M said...

School him Bona πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘. Men who think like you are a rare species...infact they are going extint amd I blame parents and the society.

Y said...

Lwtmb.... this is so funny. Ask me ooooo.

Unyime Samson said...

Obi I share your sentiments

Unyime Samson said...

Y'all thump ya bibles and scream at the woman submit submit submit! But you conveniently forget the part that asks the husbands to love thier wives as Christ loved the church! Christ loved a SINFUL Church, he didn't wait for her to be perfect, his Love for the church is a given Wether she's good bad or ugly!
If you're spending your time trying to love your wives like Christ, you won't have any time left trying to remove the speck of submission from the woman's eyes...

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Unyime Samson said...

It's amazing how people can easily curse with thier lips and praise God using the same lip in a second. Adedapo were you not the one cursing a faceless person earlier?

Unyime Samson said...

Using religious languages like " I'm blessed" dosent make you a Christian o! Your actions show you for who you are!

Unyime Samson said...

.....highlight the section " as Christ loved the church"! Christ love for the church was sacrificial, he never loved a perfect church.. the church only responded to his sacrificial love..selah

Anonymous said...

This one that is always talking about how wonderful her marriage is. Look at the mumu advice she is giving. When I heard one of her talks and how all her hair and breast was standing when she was preaching prosperity, I hissed and switched off. For all we know she is doing all this and getting pounded at home or cheated on badly. Who this advice don help? So unrealistic. We know the types that have watched war room a 100 times and are still in denial. This is their kind of tak or write up.

Anonymous said...

God bless you

Adedapo said...

Am sorry for the words, I just feel sex brings couple together and it's not all sex that will end up producing a child,however, am so sorry.

Adedapo said...

I withdraw those aforementioned statement. Am so sorry.

Adedapo said...

As much as you are right, those duty are meant for women to carried out but an understand and responsible man will always there to support and be there for his wife, however, it's women duty to carried out those tins

Anonymous said...

I'd rather be a slave to Jesus than one man with stinking blokos .

Anonymous said...

A good slave you mean.

Oby O said...

Anon 19. 28 aka Pastor Funkes mouthpiece... How many lines reffered to men in this epistle? I just hate it when people are blinded by sentiments!

Mrs anonymous said...

As a woman
As a woman
As a woman πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’

Anonymous said...

Mtcheww. Follow Funke advice and end up an enslaved submitted saint. There are no medals for martyrdom. Funke after finishing your non-pastorly paint by numbers makeup please go and talk to men, starting with your husband. That is how Funke advised one governors wife, only for the governor to start going forth outside to scatter and multiply his seed as if his life depends on ploughing hoes. Follow Funke and fail ooooo! She does not practice what she preaches.

beautiful said...

Mumu people. Don't do it oo. Then you come here and be sending chronicles. Those people who have been married for long do you think it's because they love each other? Mtcheeeww. A woman is the key to marriage if you don't know. She can either break it or mend it. Many ladies are not ready to obey but they want to get married.

Anonymous said...

Let me speak for myself...

I have done ALL these and more. It has taken me 7 years to realize that you can do all these things but it takes two to make a marriage work. So if you like, be like me who did these and more, a man who chooses to be a cheat and an irresponsible husband and father will be one. It's his choice! All I can say is that I will continue to do my part as it is God I will answer to. When I have no strength in me again, I will pack my things and leave. Even God hates an infidel!

Oby O said...

That is ehn i am soooo sick of tbis a s a woman phrase.. What da heck! If they start with as a man will the world end??? Mtswww

Mao Akuh said...

Who ordained her Revd? She should leave Rev fr Anglican abeg. Evang is ok for her.

Everything women this, women that, ask their husbands they will tell you if they're doing same to them.

Oby O said...

My friend shut the fuck up! Mumu.. Go ahead and do what she has adviced.. You will learn the hard way when you need your partner to rely on and he's not available.. You think its by write up? Dumb fuck!

Anonymous said...

Well said. An irresponsible man will always be an irresponsible man. He is a result of his upbringing not what a woman makes if him.

Okafor Martins said...

I visit Stella's blog very often. I too am a blogger but way behind the Queen Stella. Lol. I never comment, but topics like this drive me into a deep desire to give my voice, not minding how relevant or irrelevant, powerful or weak, influential or insignificant they may be.

Truth is, when i set off to write professionally, one of the advice i got from my mentors was, "hey, stay away from topics criticizing women and if you must write, take a stand with them." I just read Oby's comment on this, and it ricked of emotion and has the stench of sentiments.


Remember, the men are not the one on trial here, the women are. If this topic was talking about the many ills of men, I will not hold words back. Those of you who have read my articles on the many failures of men, know that I don't miss or mix words, i don't edit or try to please. I drop it raw and hot. So please listen.

A woman is just too awesome, she is specially created to perfect all imperfections of man. Just like Jesus was created to correct the errors of Adam. The devil knows this and that’s why he has focused his attack on women. He used Eve to get to Adam and he is still using that technique that is as old as the world itself till date.


Dear women, be a fair judge. If fate had a twist, the history books had it written differently and it happens that women occupied all important positions in their countries, jobs or careers, that they were allowed to marry more than one husband like our ancestors did and as some customs mostly in Africa still allow, if when a woman is promiscuous it is seen as normal and when a man is, it is seen as a taboo?


If women are the heads of their families, the chief providers, not by circumstance, but by the ordinance of nature itself. If women had no biological clock and could choose to marry whenever they wanted, if it was their right by State and Church to pay the Groom's price.


If a woman sitting in a bar and drinking profusely was seen as a norm, if women were physically stronger that they possess the power to abuse, not just emotionally, but physically. The list is endless.


If women were men like the famous singer BeyoncΓ© sang, if I were a boy". Do you think the world will be any different? Do you think that perhaps God will have no need for a heaven and the earth will simply just be the paradise He desires?


If you think so, they you must be very naive. Evil is not a gender problem. It is a human problem. As long as humans live, evil will breathe and live with them.


If women were in charge, rape will still happen, human trafficking will still happen, the only difference is that more men instead of women will be victims. The world will still be a mess. So let us drop our self-righteous garments and look at the real problem.


Yes it is true without any doubt that a man must see his wife as his equal but do we really understand the meaning of this very unique and very mysterious kind of equality.
There is so little i can write here due to character restriction, but to read more, click the link: http://martinschike.com/2016/08/24/god-vs-man-vs-woman/

Amacastel said...

Inspire women to be ode Abi,this woman is the hypothetical person av ever seen in my life, a woman should be a nanny,yet she has domestic servants in her mansion, seduce ur husband even the 1s that can't give u neo onu that's wickedness ,to match inner wear a set is up to 5k Madame do u think everybody can afford it,that's the problem with d high class in dis country they don't everybody can't afford good things of life .MARRIAGE HAS NO FORMULA,cos everybody don't behave alike so every marriage is not d same, dis message is a trash to me.

da chic said...

My own submission is let him who knows right do it , be you man or woman because we will give account of our stewardship someday.

am out

Ronalda. said...

Were you guys expecting her to give a long list of marital advice to men/husbands? That's where a male pastor or counsellor comes in. This is for the ladies. The good thing about an advice is, it's there for the taking, nobody forces it down your throat and that's why it's not a LAW but an advice.

I always smile when I read "protests" from ladies, young I hope, about why it always has to be the ladies who do all the heavy lifting? If you carry this mentality into marriage, you're probably gonna jump out faster than you jumped in. It is the natural order of things. Is it unfair? Perhaps, but it is what it is. Who gets to go through the rigours of trying to conceive, even where the man is the "cause" biologically? Go do a research on the procedures for IVF and tell me who bears the brunt?

Who gets to carry the pregnancy to term with all the stress of pregnancy and endures the trauma of child birth, either vaginal birth or C-section? Who gets to lose her figure temporarily or permanently due to birth hormones and other factors? Who gets to whip out her boobs when that lil' angel cries and endures all the "joys" of motherhood like cracked nipples, sleepless nights, diaper change et al while simultaneously catering to the needs of her family and managing a business a‎nd/or a career? Need I say more? God, through nature, has put the balance of life force in the hands of women. Why not embrace it and tap into your inner strength instead of arguing and pouting over a rather comprehensive manual on how to make the "task" ahead easier?

Whether or not you accept your role as a lady, a wife or a mother, it is here to stay. That's why it is imperative that you get married to the right guy who knows and appreciates the role of a good wife as the Queen in his life. Marry the right guy and all these would come naturally. Even if they don't, the stress/sacrifice would be worth it. It is important to raise our sons to respect and appreciate women but remember, they also see how "daddy" treats "mummy". So my lovelies, choose wisely!‎

Anonymous said...

What can I say? Hmm! What I can say is do as Evangelist Funke does, not as Evangelist Funke says! The woman (and many like her) has her man on lockdown! How? Love yourself and help yourself, and every part of yourself,that includes your kids, and even including your man if you have one. Study the man well "helping" him until you can do everything he can do better than him, then neatly seize his glory, while giving the glory to God with daily praise and worship! Continue telling the man "if not for you I am nothing" to feed his ego.As you are progressing, the happy foolish man will be thinking he made you. That's whay Funke does, not what Funke says! Datsall!

Anonymous said...

Ronalda,God bless you

Anonymous said...

Ronalda, for the second time this week, u have shown lucid intelligence. I don't understand the whining and complaining by (young?) women on this post. Men have a different set of responsibilities and a unique role to play in a family, with "heavy lifting" of a different kind. And a responsible man takes his role seriously! Naturally, there will be exceptions, male and female. Doesn't change the job description.

Woman who is loosed. said...

Wow!!! The truth is, you can not give what you do not have and you can not express what you are not feeling. Did your spouse not "rock" your world before you married? What went wrong? Love is not about do this or that. I love my husband so I want him to "feel" my love in the words of Adele. My marriage is a partnership. I respect my husband as the head of the home. Dont get it twisted. I do not bow down and worship him. My worship is reserved for God alone, but I respect and receive back respect from my husband. We often respond to our direct environment or what we have seen others go through. Check that hate. It will eat you up. The above advice is not for everyone. Some ladies may not have ever been taught relationship issues due to no fault of their own. So, the next time you read an article such as this ask yourself whether it is for you. There is a concept that says " eat the chicken and throw away the bone". And if he / she is not worth your love now just like when you got married, retrace your steps and find the source of the problem and DEAL WITH IT. You married your spouse for love not hate, harmony not discord and longsuffering not suffer head. If the thought of bedroom antics repells you now but you enjoyed it before then check yourselves. Get it right, sort it out. If you love God first then yourself then loving a Godly man is easy. You will radiate such a confidence that will have any man at your beck and call. Notice I wrote Godly man. A Godly woman needs a Godly man and vice versa or the playing field will not be level. I am a strong woman period. I ooze feminism. My husband sees it, people around me see it and I am not ashamed to show it. I am my husbands helper or help mate. Without me our marriage won't work. Dont you get it? I only want one marriage so I've got to make THIS one work. That does not make me weak. No sir. That does not let down sisterhood. No sir. I embrace sisterhood as I take charge in the kitchen, living room and hell yeah, the bedroom. Go read up on Samson and Deliah and go figure it out. Tell me who was weak in that story. Do not let society deceive you. Women are strong. A good man knows that.

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