Straight to the matter on my chest. This sprung from a comment I read in one of our posts. Maybe we can make this a couch session or you could post it in In House News (IHN), according to your discretion.
The issue is divorce/broken homes, the effects on children and the stigma that follows.......so I have a friend who was very much in love with a particular guy. She is a charming, classy, fun to be with, educated, somewhat innocent (naive) and most importantly, 100% faithful to this guy.
Out of the blues when their relationship was nearing altar stages, guy starts ignoring her and this babe was almost losing her mind. Bottomline, this guy stated that he could not continue with the 2 year relationship. According to him, he loved her and had found no fault in her but his family would never welcome a girl from a broken home.
I felt the guy was just the "regular Joe" cooking up excuses to play the next girl, not until it happened to a neighbour.
In this case, he was a guy. The annoying part is the girl who broke up with him is even from a dysfunctional home; only that her parents weren't separated. Everyone always felt the guy was too good for the girl.
Some weeks to their introduction, family said their daughter would not be given to a person from a broken home. After this same family have enjoyed goodwill from this man.
My question is this....stereotyping. We get mad when one Nigerian travels overseas and commits a crime and all Nigerians are branded criminals. We flare up when someone judges us even before knowing us (as seen in the comment sections). How come we do to others what we don't want done to us?
Children from broken homes have suffered enough from issues they knew nothing about, yet society punishes them with stigma as adults. The little I know, a good percentage of children/adults from broken homes hate divorce with a passion. Yes there are the exceptions who go on to repeat the circle but for the anonymous who generalised, pray people don't judge you someday based on circumstances that you knew nothing about and even suffered from.
PS: There's a particular geopolitical zone on Nigeria where it is not uncommon to largely find siblings with different parents. This is due to the fact that families from that region always impose same tribe marriage which often times fail.
I'm glad that the present generation is breaking away from this anomaly and change is already evident in this region (I'm also from this region and I have done my little research).
Thank you Stella and BVs for taking the time. Cheers. Anonymous BV who loves this blog passionately.