Its time for another couch Session..
This is Strictly for married couples but singles can read and learn.
After the session on snooping, I read the comments and lots of people actually belong to the team snooping and proud.
From the comment section, most people that snoop are women.
I will share a brief story on snooping and the result.
While we were in Uni, we would talk about men and cheating, and it always ends with, all men cheat! This argument always comes up and it always ends with, men are polygamous in nature so they will always cheat.
My best friend is married, her husband is a good man, but he cheats.
I am the one that always hears the last of it, the pain she feels each time she discovers what he does. I keep saying, this too shall pass., don't worry, he will change.
I won't tell anyone to snoop or not to snoop, what rocks your boat mehn! Whatever makes you satisfied and feeling your in charge.
So she will always call or chat me up, ' he has started oo! He is throwing a party for a girl in a hotel, I have even confirmed everything, why would he be doing this? I am a good wife and mother', and while trying to advise her, I try to be careful with my words, so it's always the same word, Nne don't worry, this too shall pass! But I feel her pain, but I wasn't able to help her get over the pain. One day I even jokingly told her, but babe why you dey cry nah? She na you dey champion am for school then, say all men must cheat....... why are you now crying, didn't you go in prepared? We just laugh over it.
Sometimes, she would confront him, he accepts, apologise, change.... and she will be soo happy! ' Nne, hubby has changed oh... comes home early now... plays with the kids, he even took me out this weekend' and I will be like, you see.... this has passed. Give him a month, he is back at the game, she snoops again, and finds out he is cheating, in fact, worse than ever.
On one of the occasions, while she confronted him, things got ugly, unpleasant words were spoken, she called me and said she was leaving with her kids, that she couldn't take It anymore, I asked if he kicked her out, she said No, she was done and that her driver will be bringing them to my house, I said Nooooo, he should drive you to your parents house I will meet you there. She didn't argue or get angry, she just said okay I just didn't wanna get inbetween them or be the topic of conversation, so I went there to see her and the kids.
She went home, told her parents her story, her dad was angry, her mum cried, me too I cried. So the. Next day, I went to work from there, later she called that her hubby was there, I said, oh wow...... so how far, you go follow am go house? She said he is still with her mum, her dad had gone to work, so he waited till the man came back. He apologised pleaded with them and all, surprisingly, my friend followed him back home, and the marriage continued.
This days when I ask how far Bros, she will be like em dey ooo, all dem babes nko? She goes like Nne, am tired of hurting myself, so I don't even know, I don't check his phones anymore. Make I face my children biko. My husband is a good man that can't help but cheat and I love him, I believe one day he will change for good, I will chorus, Amen oooooo.
And the list goes on and on, my colleagues talk about their cheating husbands and all, my aunties complain about this same issue, my sister will munch and send a message a babe sent her hubby or vice versa, but yet, these women stay in the marriage but I think they stay because of what I call HOPE.
Please, guys..... I know some of you have experienced such too from your wives. Oh honey, am off to church, and you decide to go to church and she isn't there etc. So my post isn't about cheating men, but couples who cheat.
My question is this, what do most couples do after they find out their spouse is cheating?
1. Do they separate or divorce them?
2. Do they revenge by cheating as well?
3. Do they stay and hope he changes?
4. Do they still make love to them unprotected?
5. Do they avoid snooping since they don't really know about it except they snoop.
Also I have these questions for women specifically, I ask myself these questions too, maybe your answers might help me figure it all out.
1. Most women say men will always cheat, my question is, why then do you marry knowing this fact?
2. Most women do not trust men, what are you doing in that relationship?
3. Most women snoop and find out their men are cheating, why are you still in that marriage even when you know he is cheating?
BV Onyinye.... that's not my blog ID though, I still want to be able to comment in peace, some of us no like fight.
*Hmmmm this is deep.