NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
Alcohol Brouhaha As Concerns Church
Greetings to the the amiable lady.Thank you Stella for this platfrom.Please I want to share my view on a pressing need and will need the advise of Bvs to see if I am right or wrong.
Growing up I was born into a very staunch Catholic family and my family have done several ocassion without any interference from the church about what you want to serve your guests.
I got married to someone who was not a Catholic, my dad despite being a knight did not reject or say I must get married to a Catholic.He only insisted the wedding should be in the Catholic Church.
As expected i was to follow my DH to his own church after the wedding. DH told me he did not like the the mode of worship of the Catholic church and it does not interest him much and told me to pick any believing church we could attend.Knowing him very well I told him to choose any church close to us since he said he wanted to change from his previous church due to distance.
It was hard switching to a new church but since the pastor's way of preaching was covering all facets of life I liked the church and it was a walking distance from our home.A statelite church from the main branch.I will not call the name of the church to avoid bias on Bvs.
God in his infinite mercies blessed us with a son and are planning the dedication. DH accepted I baptise my son in the Catholic faith just to pacify me.The dedication process started and the church asked for certain things which I was wondering why.
We were asked to bring our wedding pictures to be sure we are really married.I was like so a single mum cannot do dedication or what! A form was given to be filled and at the bottom DH saw no alcohol should be served.He did not think of the implications and signed under it as instructed.
Normally I am not an alcohol person neither is my DH but we have no issues with people that take it if it is not abused.
So preparations has been in top gear for the dedication and so jokingly I tell people am inviting, that alcohol is not going to be served.
Trust Nigerians some will be like please what nonsense.Some will say they will not come.My DH even had worse reaction because his friends are guys and they were like absolute rubbish.
The crux of the matter is my DH is insisting he will buy alcohol despite signing the form.I met a lady at my gym and I invited her so when I told her the church she told me that her husband is a pastor in one of the branches and she hopes I don't plan to share alcohol.She went further saying the GO has placed a curse on whoever does not heed to it.Is that not so extreme? I have not witnessed such in my Parish all my life.
The curse is That if you are rich, you will become wretched, or armed robbers will attack you.My goodness why place a curse on people.I told my husband what the lady said and I don't want any curse on my head since he signed the form he won't share alcohol.He said he might change the church and find another church to do the dedication which is still funny to me.
I want to ask fellow Bvs are the churches with such stringent rules and the implications.Religion is really the opium of the masses.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
How are doing? am a great fan of yours, learn't about your blog last year June, and since then i have been glued.
Stella, my story is a short one. I have a fiance whom i love so much and we will be getting married soon.
The problem i have is that he has refused to relocate. The place he stays is not favourable to me, considering that i work on the island and drive to work.
He works on the mainland. He insist on staying at his present place and will only relocate to his own house from there (he has completed his house), i even agreed that we should move to the new house. i know that money isn't an issue and moreso he has a rule of not moving any item of the previous apartment to the new apartment.
every item in the new apartment must be new.
Please BVN's how do u make your fiance decide to relocate? I have tried every method ranging from direct confrontation, to searching for an apartment myself, to even agreeing to share the cost, etc but non has worked. i even tried using my car as excuse but he is the one that maintains it. And he believes my work should not be considered as i don't contribute much.
Please bvn's how do i make him relocate cos i dont want to move into that house or be going to work from that place cos its far form work place and i don't like the area.