NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
I need urgent advice from fellow bvs
Im married to a very loving and responsible man but the problem I have with him is that he keeps malice with me at the slightest. Misunderstanding. I end up apologizing most of the time even if i am not wrong just for peace to reign, I believe that maturity and a show of love.
The problem now is i think dh is taking me for granted. If I don't apologize he wont come around knowing my peaceful nature. He knows I cant keep malice for long. I tired of this bullshit.
Please how can I handle this is attitude because i am getting sick of it. Please fellow bvs your advice is needed.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
Hello Stella,good job you are doing.please hide my email.
I started dating my supposed bf about 3weeks ago.though we met about 2months ago on instamessage (its a social network platform).
A week into the relationship I was already cooking for him.second week into our relationship he told me to pass the night at his place on Sunday ,he said we should go to church together then back to his place.
I got there very early on Sunday and met 2ladies sleeping on his bed while he slept on the floor.he told me that one of them is his friend who has an accommodation issue and the other was her sister and they will be staying for a month pending when she will get a new place .I said no problem,that I will just go home later in the day cos the four of us can't sleep in the same room ,his apartment is a 2room BQ without parlour.
He said the girls won't be staying there that Sunday I said ok....after church he started disturbing me for sex which I ended up giving and it was unprotected sex cos he said he didn't have condom .
About 2hours later the girls came in and I told him stylishly that shey you said they won't be coming back ,he said does it matter that it seems I'm not comfortable with people around me.I said it wasn't about that but it's not a good idea for me.
He said they will be getting a bed the next day for the other room so I said i was going to stay over the coming weekend .when i got there this weekend I found out they have moved to the other room and I noticed some food /food stuff in the kitchen.i also noticed they were now 3girls not 2 ,i asked him and he said he told me na, that one of them is her friend and the other is her younger sister and she came temporarily and he will be leaving the coming week.i just let it go
When he got back from work he started the sex move again I told him to get a condom he said he doesn't have again.after much talk I gave in .he asked if I was going to eat and I said i just cant go to the pot to take food I didn't cook or he didn't cook he said do I know how the food came about ,and I saw one of the girls cooking when I got in . He went to the kitchen to get food ,I managed to eat a little.when we were about to sleep he started the sex move again then I told him did U even wash your hand after you got Back and u didn't take your bath.he said he was going to do that around 12midnite when he turns off the gen .he said i complain too much .....
I said shuo,you went to work all day ,you went to buy fuel for gen,you turned on the gen and you want to finger me with it?mbanu then he said he has washed it which I know wasn't true but I had to let it go. I'm very particular about hygiene. Then he started with the touchy touchy attitude I told him I'm not comfortable having unprotected sex that I can't be taking pills .he said he was going to do withdrawal method this time ,I still said no ,that no condom no sex .he got angry and we slept off.when we woke up the next day I still noticed the moody attitude ,I was teasing him ,greeted him good morning ,he answered ,wore his clothes and left for the other room.
he was there for 1hr30min with them I also noticed it seems he had breakfast there. I was really getting pissed when he came in and asked in a moody way what i would like to eat. I said i was fine.I had my bath and left.when I got home I called him and gave him a piece of my mind .he said i wasn't being considerate ,that he was really in the mood and I spoilt everything .
I also noticed he was still on the site where I met him cos the notification sound kept disturbing me at nite ,he said why won't he be there that he needed to get his mind off stuffs that I really messed him up that night.And I was like wow.I just Had to end the call.stella please your red pen is needed.is this the kind of relationship I should carry on with?did I over react?
HUH...You actually thought you were in a relationship?That didnt even qualify for a situationship....WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?UNPROTECTED SEX BECOS HE WANTS? Dont you have a mind of your own?
And those Ladies hanging around,dont be surprised that they are all his girlfriends oooooh.
Leave internet dating alone and find your own mindset before you come and go and get yourself messed up!