NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CHRONICLES OF A CONFUSED WIFE
Good day Stella and fellow bvs. heres my own chronicle.
I dated my ex for about 7years.let me call him Mr H. the relationship was a smooth and enviable one until he traveled to Canada to further his study. for some months, we were always talking and promising to wait for each other but after a while, i guess he couldnt deal with the distance. he started acting funny.
Then i begged him to open up to me. so he said he was cheating on me and all and i forgave him (ije love). well for almost a year, we were off and on, then he finally called it quits. oh i was broken, so so broken. I cried my eyes out for months, starved myself and all, but at the end, I pulled through. after a while Mr H got married and i finally moved on.
I dated guys afterwards but i wasnt feeling them. it wasnt as real as Mr H's love. it was different. fast forward to after about 4 years. I met this guy, let me call him Mr K. he was calm and nice. but i couldnt bring myself to love another guy anymore. he tried to get close to me. i kept pushing him away. but he was persistent. God opened my eyes and i saw the good in him. within 3months Mr K proposed and I said yes. now we are happily married.
Just last week i got a call it was an international number was surprised i picked. who s voice did i hear? Mr H voice. telling me how he misses me, how he is sorry for everything. how he married because of papers, how he regrets everything, how he wished to have me back, i was like so sorry you are late. i am happily married now.
Well Mr H asked to be my friend and i obliged. since then he calls once in a while, he tells me almost everything and i advice him in the best way i can. we talk freely like old times and i kinda like the calls to be honest because it makes me have a good laugh.
Mr H is doing well for himself now and wants to be sending me money in Nigeria to help him keep,saying he trusts only me with his money. in as much as it s tempting, because if i keep the money in fixed deposit, i would be gaining small small money monthly. In this buhari s time, that is needed.
In as much as i still have little feelings for Mr H, because we went through a whole lot together and I spent most of my youthful years with him, i can never ever cheat on my husband. he is a nice and responsible man, i can bet all my life savings that he has never cheated on me.
Stella time to use your red pen o! what do you think about me saving his money for him or still being friends with Mr H? Thanks in anticipation. and bvs be subtle with your words o! .pulling my ears.
Who is talking about Cheating with Mr H?This is business and if you can then keep the monies for him and earn something,that is probably the reason he even called at all cos he trusts you.
if your mind is clear and your hands are clean,i dont see anything wrong with helping him keep his money BUT WHAT IF YOUR HUBBY KNOWS about it and gets angry?what if he wants the money to do business?some men are like that?better think it over very well before you get involved.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CHRONICLES OF A CHEATER
Stella of life., It's not easy but here it goes..pls hide my identity and advise your younger sister.
I met Bf in 2013.,you know that time you just wanna be single but the devil will sha come around (lol) and mess up your brain..so I said no sex and we was so cool and all loved up...
After some months, Gbam!! Devil come finally show himself.,one kind strong Temptation came and I fell hands down (cheated on him) so out of guilt I decided to give him the cookie so I won't spill..
It was great with Bf and he was so happy and inlove,begged me not to break his heart and all that..hmmm..you know when a guy is truly in love sha..
Few months later I had to leave town so as bf and gf, we had to do (the goodbye and hold body own till we see again) but I could not.,guilty conscience wan finish me so I made up flimsy excuses and he respected it tho he suspected something but kept cool.
When I returned 2014,.chai!..I couldn't resist Temptation and I fell again then I decided to keep both ( my Bf and Temptation )..Bf all the way but Temptation for just those ones in a while crazy moments which i stopped..don't judge me ejor.
Bf is the good guy,caring and cool but Temptation was crazy and sweet..
After falling for Temptation again,met with Bf and I still could not do the do with him (welcome back,i missed you things)..he finally asked and asked and asked how far and I spilled..O lawd!..Bf was broken,chai Stella and bvs I just weak.,apologised and begged and all..gave him space and time to take it all in assuring him that he was no1 and the other just 'temptation'..
We grew apart for few months tho we still spoke plenty..I was not so steady in town till 2015..asked him if we could continue or let go and he said he can't let go but can't trust me again,let's just see how it goes..one's in a while we'l do like that but the passion was gone,even when he tried it was just so difficult..I understood and we still managed.
Plenty quarrel and all..we'l chill for some week the next we are all over each other again..
2016 after celebrating 3years together and things looked better,I asked if we are back on track and he said we are getting there that i should not rush it..hah!.I no fit shout o so I decided to just withdraw,stop calling and all that,I take his @lst 3 to 4 times in a week but I just sound normal..he noticed and asked why and I said my unemployed state is kinda getting to me..
So my questions are:
Can he ever trust me again?? (I'm a better person now and more focused)
Should I just move on like I've decided?? ( E hard sha but i'l try)
Still give him time?? (2 years plus neva do to forgive and try to forget ni)
Stella pls talk to a sister and bvs be nice.,thank you.
Once trust is shattered it takes time.I hope your boo is not planning to serve you revenge served cold oh...shine your eyes well and study him,if you think its over,move on and dont wait for him to dump you.
Some men find it hard to forgive a cheating spouse but expect a woman to understand when they do.