Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Memo To Women..

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Wednesday, 21 September 2016

Memo To Women..

Ooops.....This hit hard but as usual,they will come in here and argue and disagree.....Mscheeew!




Stella,

Why do Nigerian ladies concentrate so much on finding a man?
Why are our ladies so less competitive intellectually?
Why is it that what most of what our ladies can offer is sex and nothing else.
Why do we have more ladies as runs-girls than ladies who trade or are in business?

   Stella, this anomaly is on the rise, the young ones are taking after the old ones, we are gradually building a nation of women whose only role will be housewives.

Where is the passion, drive, discipline and dedication our mothers were known for?
Why is is that the most conversation our women have today is about boys and getting married?

My aim of writing this is not to sound misogynistic but rather to urge everyone especially the young ones to have a redirection.
We need more women from Nigeria to better themselves, we need more women to rise and compete globally,and for this to happen we need women who can invest in themselves.

I will stop here but if anyone is confuse on how to better themselves, please use Google or check the comment session.

Thank you Stella for your platform.
BV Ralph


227 comments:

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Scarlett said...

Ralph, your memo no make sense joor. please shift

Ibukunoluwa said...

Misogynistic? Okay
I stopped there
Let me use my dictionary first then I will come back 😩

calabar Chick said...

Very correct!
I agree with you Ralph... Its what the world has turned into,
Some women only want to get married or get a boyfriend...but then, talking about been a better person by empowering ourselves, some women do not have support system, the economy is not even encouraging anyone, in this case what do you expect them to do?

Anonymous said...

@Raph. I hope your mum is a pilot or a brain surgeon

Anonymous said...

That intellectual less competitiveness is the worse of them all... they always have nothing intelligent to talk or contribute yet they wan to be carried along. HOW??

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

Grabs chilled zobo and popcorn

Spreads mat

Michael bring pillow. Make I read comments jare

Loveme Jeje said...

Have you forgotten where it is written in Isiaah or so that on the last days, 7 women will be running after a man, let me just answer your name, we will feed ourselves.

So you want ladies not to go where they kabbash so that they can get married.

Am sure you are married that is why you are talking like that.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

BV Ralph is obviously an onye owu ite!...
A broke ass that wants a woman that will be working her ass off while he is busy lazying around and growing his bead!...at the end of the day,he will bring his wrinkled prick to the table...
Gerraahia mehn...
I feel so sad that some women are falling for men like you!...

Anonymous said...

@poster, charity begins at home. How have you ensured that your sisters and close relatives become our first female president ?

Anonymous said...

I tire too o, all our young ladies think about is marriage without bringing anything to the table. Anyways them go soon understand that what is after 6 is more than 7

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

Nice topic

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

If ur sisters only think of runs and marriage, that does not mean most Nigerian women are like that, speak for yourself and family, am sure this is coming from a broke ass nigga, what have u done to better ur miserable life.

nzube izuu said...

Hiaaaaaa!

Ideato/ilaje blood said...

Why do you find yourself among the runs girls and those with NFA?

Same way we have runs girls is same way we have goal-driven and career ladies. Ladies who plan to rule their world.

Most of them May lack resources for now, but some have started making an impact.

I join myself with the rest of "Goalgetters" to prove you wrong.

It all boils down to the kind of company you keep

Anonymous said...

Ralph please its men like you need in my life!
THANK YOU
Its like the dumber the women are, the dumber the men are too
Too much daftness everywhere

pink lady said...

Live your life and let others live theirs!
If ladies decide to go into runs to become successful,that shouldn't be your problem . Afterall if they come to you for financial assistance,you will flee from them.
Some excel in "runs" while some excel in business.Some exel in education while some don't.Most women's altimate goal in life is to get married while few have phobia for marriage.
My dear,please learn to mind your business and stop judging ladies who refuse to live by your standards!!

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Mscheeew,tell me something I've not heard before.Another man who has suddenly realised that all women have to offer is sex.Oga,before you open your mouth to talk trash,hope you've made all the money there is to make? Foolish men everywhere.

Anonymous said...

Oga shut that gutter you call mouth! What is wrong with being a house wife? What is wrong in just being yourself? Do what makes you happy and face your front biko! Even if it's being an housewife! You can't force someone to be who they are not! Mind your business poster.. when u have daughters, train them the way you want.. people should learn to live and let live really! Runs girl? Her body.. her business!


#nuffsaid!

Anonymous said...

As much as I agree with u, I doubt it's all Nigerian ladies. There are some though few who are honestly trying to build something of themselves businesswise, yours truly inclusive. But all, I agree and think we ladies should brace up, after all getting married in my opinion isn't an achievement. Those that don't agree, well... na una sabi

Anonymous said...

Fake Ralph, mind your own businesses.

Dani_Tuny said...

na wah ooo.. every body wanna be a writer. So Ralph, for your mind now you Don write meme. #wannabe

ukwu dimond said...

good to know.

Anonymous said...

its only God that knows the way out of every ugly situation in life.no pattern, one man's meat is another's poison

Anonymous said...

broke guys think they know better. always lamenting... pls pick a struggle smallie. I think you are just being jobless

Dani_Tuny said...

broke guys think they know better. always lamenting... pls pick a struggle smallie. I think you are just being jobless

Anonymous said...

Poster, I disagree with you. Look around you, u will see that most SME's are owned and managed by women. Ladies and women are in the fore front of business building but as usual the constraint they have is that most people that are in position to help them raise capital for biz expansion, always seek for kind favour before their requests are ranted. The banks will ask for collateral of which their parents did not purchase in their names because they r females and have no inheritance. Go to skill acquisition centers and see how many ladies and women are there, learning one craft or the other. And who said getting married is a wrong thing? But same men feels threatened by a successful woman and make up all sorts of allegations just to discredit her hustle. Did u carry out statistics that brought u to such conclusion? Are ur sisters and female friends in the category u mentioned? If so, I strongly think that their is a fundamental problem surrounding ur knit of relationship!

Dani_Tuny said...

#change starts with you.

stunning slim shady said...

Well said Ralph 👍

cathy said...

Women do a whole lot and its quite unfortunate that it is still women that don't recognize it, choose not to or tries to put other women down.

Mayonnaise said...

Ladies have "uped" their game now. They no longer concentrate in finding a man like you put it. The narrative is changing as you see more women in the corporate and business world. Many women are bread winners now in their homes.

The problem is with society that I don't think want women to succeed. When you are trying so hard to make a thing out of yourself, they will start telling you to leave that because the biological clock is ticking. Once in your 30's , they start looking at you with pity like a wretched of the earth. The stigma is not encouraging. While successful women are often threatening to our men. So, I think this doesn't apply to all our women. Society should change its mindset first.

BLUNT said...

That is why many men find it difficult to get a wife. Many of them have an entitlement syndrome. The only 'assets' they have that give them that sense of entitlement they carry about are their breasts, buttocks and Vagina. That's all. Once they carry these three 'assets', they believe they're good to go. No attempt to develop themselves intellectually. They believe those three 'assets' will carry them through any situation they find themselves. They're the ones screaming "Broke Ass Nigga" on this blog. Whatever happens to "Broke Ass Bitch"! There are very few of them that are concerned with matters of the intellect. Most of them are very ordinary. The moment any issue is beyond their simpleton selves, words like "idiot" "thunder fire your mouth" "broke ass" are then employed to cover up the intellectual gap. They believe a man owes them everything. I always pity men that end up with these girls as wives. The snag here is that the ladies that pursue their dreams, independently, the women of quality, the wife materials are always 'hidden' because they're always too busy chasing their dreams. Thumbs up to all those women. We're then left to make do with the available scraps- as girlfriends though. Until we meet that woman that embodies everything good in a woman- intelligence, character, discretion, super personality etc.

Slikky S said...

Ralph,u think every woman is lazy? Do u know how many women are graduates n jobless? Have u thot abt d fact that if ds countryw were in a stable state everything wld work perfectly? Why is it so easy to seenwomen as trashes? Mind u,not everyone is loose n wtout morals. You only see what u want to see from thru ur mind as a man.

Oyanu Enenche said...

Dear Ralph I couldn't agree any better. Most not all Nigerian women have truly lost their ways. A lot of these women even if given the tools, lacks the drive and passion to climb the ladder of success. Most of these women these days want a man who is intellectually outstanding, financially up to date, and someone who command societal respect. Why would anyone want such a man and only want to offer nothing but the bed department? He has it all so he could get even better. It's time we all as Nigerian women rise up to the task. Before you think of what a man would bring to the table, how about you. What have you got to offer? Equip yourself the much you can. Make sure you try hard to have a footing. Get thinking. Get Reading. Start small. Stop spending ur little earnings competing or showing up fake designers on instagram. Be independent. Men wants independent, business minded, hard working and intelligent women. More so, better yourself not because of attracting a suitor because you will fail at it if that be the case. Do it to better your life and make our society more sane. Anyway I think I should let other people share their opinions.

Iman Bella said...

Nigerian ladies focus more on finding a man because of the validation society seeks
We're less competitive intellectually because of de motivation
They offer sex because that's what most men want
I could go on and on
Not like we don't want to do better
But the encouragement, satisfaction, zeal and determination is no longer there

Our hearts keeps beating to hopeless hopes and dishonest promises
These days no one wants to struggle or work hard when you know you can get what you want at the slip of your fingers
But then............, there's hope
We lead by example and if we follow by good trends
Things will get really really better

onyii Asa said...

Blog Analyser: inessence?? Look closer, there are hard working women out there.

Joefirst Joshua said...

Joefirst can't marry a woman without income, and he won't marry a Clinton.
#JOeFIRSt

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

Shut up Ralph!
I have other things to offer
And sex too

You guys always look for any means to dumb female down.
If your own woman offers you nothing, but sex, your bad.

Anonymous said...

Thanks Mr. Ralph: I am a man like you but foremost, you have to develop your English. Take off the plank in your own eyes before you see the spec in someone's!

If the only thing a girl can offer; even in marriage is sex then what do whores do in brothels? Sex is just an infinitesimal aspect of the package called "woman" whom God created.

And another relevant question to us men is this:
Why is it that a man meets a girl today, he wants to go into her vagina?
Why is it that once a girl accepts to date a man, the next thing the man wants is SEX?
Why is it that most men once a girl has been conquered sexually, think only of dumping her and even boasts to his friends that he did it (get to car workshops and listen silently to men's conversations)?
Why do men profess love and marriage and once the girl (foolish girl anyway) gets pregnant, they want her to kill the child or get dumped?
Why do most Nigerian men want to conquer a lady sexually before she rises through the professional lather?
Why do men fear marriage more than ten lions; I married just before thirty and almost all my colleagues think I "RUSHED"? Can't count how man "old boy you get liver" that I heard?
Why are men so insensitive to the needs of the working class girl; most Nigerian men feel threatened once a lady is making progress in her career? I think I know the answer to this question; the men want to exercise financial control on their spouses and have the leverage to plant "concubines and satellite wives" without being questioned or challenged! It is a shame.
Why do most Nigerian men absolve themselves from domestic responsibilities to enable their wives rise professionally? How can a man watch his wife go to work, buy foodstuffs and come home to cook? Why not help her buy the foodstuff; are you happy seeing your wife carry a bag of rice home? Did you not see that in Acts six, men did these things for women?
Why do most Nigerian men commit adultery and want to remain in marriage to a heart-broken woman; who will most probably be too shattered to pursue a career?
Why do few Nigerian men fall into the category of "men who do not beat their wives or abuse her?"
Why do most men pursue a lady for marriage like they are pursuing their life earnings only to confine her to misery once they marry her?

And why . . . do women have "financial worth" as the only yardstick to measure the men they want to marry? Why he knows that "he is buying you", won't you be treated like a piece of furniture in that house?

Nwa AMAKA said...

Mr Ralph, you've been meeting with your likes. My pastor used to say that the kind of person you are determines the type of people you will attract.
You need to change your environment. Meet different people then write back to Stella and correct yourself.

I am surrounded by young women who wants to be self sufficient.

Chiamaka L said...

BV Ralph, to say the least,you are being very partial. What happens to also commending the ladies who have successfully floated businesses... who have successfully pursued their dreams... who shoulder family responsibilities... who have churned runs... who have jobs and who are role models.
Even as you air your concerns for the future females, we need to let them know that they have role models, even here on this blog. For instance, look at the cake makers and their very beautiful crafts, the so many artists, the business gurus like olori footwear, the BV that is into bales and all of that.
Young ladies, this is to remind us that we can make it in life with selling our bodies. While I do not advocate premarital sex, I will say that, giving yourself to a man, without expecting cash or him paying for it is a beautiful feeling.
Apart from the risks of contracting diseases, there is this fear an uncertainty of rituals, destiny blocking and curses (from wives).
That said, Be wise.

stephan said...

Ralph biko shift. While we work towards being career oriented we hav to focus on the basic HOUSEWIFE wch is the sole responsibility of a woman. You should work soo hard and carryout your God given responsibilities instead of looking for a woman who will come and feed you and your kids while birthing you offspring. Lazy man

OliviaSilk said...

Tell that to women who tell working single ladies "your career won't warm your bed"
"aunty gwegwegwe"
"go and look for a husband"

Blah Blah Blah Blah.

I want to be with someone who feels safe in whatever achievement or height I may get to and who supports me without the need to curb or control my dreams.
Someone who will be my cheerleader and companion.
Like I said before, I am old and I have no desire to impress the world or her many rules. I don't live to chase the pressure or expectations of the society. I am enough for me and whoever gets to share my life with me should be a person who understands that he is not doing me a favour in anyway.
I have just one life to live and I am not settling for anything mediocre. There is so much beauty to revel in and for me, nothing trumps that, not even another human.



BTW- I love you Enwongo.

Iman Bella said...

Personally I'm all about investing in myself
But then you have ideas
And a million of things you could do
But there is the need for money, encouragement and support and you get none
What are you expected to do other than to give up
So many loopholes in every segment of our system that when you're doing right if feels wrong
Abeg I just had to rant
It's so frustrating out here

Mara said...

Since mothers started loving their jobs more than their homes,children became useless.Its those kids raised by housemaids that are highly dysfunctional.A woman cannot be a man.Go back to the bible.If you have to work,do the kind of work that gives you time to bond with your kids.To the housewives,don't feel discouraged by this post.You are doing a great job.God is not angry with you.To the career woman who has no family,you are doing a great job too. Everybody must not marry.I don't know why people just wake up and start talking trash.In life,there's no rule. Some housewives have better lives than working women and vice versa.Good morning people.

Anonymous said...

Enter your comment...This is the best stuff I have read on this blog for a very long while. #NaijaLadiesOfferNothingButKpekus end of story,by their comments you shall know them.

Anonymous said...

Why do men want sex, sex and sex but not marriage even to the professional lady?

Miiiii said...

Okay Ralph. Expecting your memo to men. It better be longer than this ooooooo

Obi's Jewel said...

Why is the poster sounding like to desire marriage is bad???? Being married can't stop u from achieving your dreams. Marriage is a necessity so is sex. Get married, enjoy sex (with ur spouse ) nd still chase ur dreams. Tell me a successful Nigerian woman known all over the world who is single? Ur guess is as good as mine.

Anonymous said...

I met a man on S and M who wants to move in with me and control my finance. I can as well say why is the Nigerian man so shameless and dependent. But that's not true, is it?

Perhaps you should consider running around with the right kind of women and not the instagram loving, filter hugging, Brazilian hair-crazed,bleached out and zero IQ lot you dine with.
I also hope you are one of the men who have risen to the standard of global competition like you suggested for the females and not in the category of the loser who is considering moving in with me?

Savvy?

Anonymous said...

Oga Ralph don't conclude,i know many women who made it from even Jide Omokore and they establish on investments. You don't walk in their shoes n don't know where it pinches,let everyone do what they like. It does not mean women don't do good in life,but how many do you know that follow men about?men are helpers too.

Anonymous said...

Oga Ralph don't conclude,i know many women who made it from even Jide Omokore and they establish on investments. You don't walk in their shoes n don't know where it pinches,let everyone do what they like. It does not mean women don't do good in life,but how many do you know that follow men about?men are helpers too.

Bell Jacks said...

Nice one but I beg to differ. Many of us are still independent, disciplined...! So don't generalize

L'Amour said...

Any lady reading this should pause and digest it. You are able to have ambition and still be feminine. you can have a good marriage, even a BETTER marriage when you have a career. being a housewife is not happiness or conjugal bliss for ANYONE. Don't be put in a position where you are always bitter and unsatisfied. what poster is saying is not misogynistic nor the same as being feminist.

L'Amour said...

Any lady reading this should pause and digest it. You are able to have ambition and still be feminine. you can have a good marriage, even a BETTER marriage when you have a career. being a housewife is not happiness or conjugal bliss for ANYONE. Don't be put in a position where you are always bitter and unsatisfied. what poster is saying is not misogynistic nor feminist.

NORTH DAKOTA SIOBHAN said...

Poster ralph, you did sound misogynistic. You are prejudiced.
Who did a number on you?

Adadioramma said...

I don't understand o. Is the male bv so jobless that they concentrate on women now. Abeg free them biko.

Anonymous said...

I wud v sworn dis was written by Chikito..hehehehe

Anonymous said...

Mr Ralph will you help women to invest in businesses? I know many focus n ambitious women selling petty things by road side n everyday they show up. Am saying where is the money to be that kind of women you expect in our society.

Blackberry said...

But if they give u sex, u won't turn it down o.

Yimu

Titanium™ said...

Lmao, Nigerian women see marriage as the ultimate reaction in a woman's life. So no matter their achievement if you want to have em under your thumb mention marriage to em. In other news...
King xoxo pliz bring back our scandals of SDK bvns....

Blackberry said...

But if they give u sex, u won't turn it down o.

Yimu

youngman said...

Simply put, the average young woman today ONLY wants to be married to a rich man because they themselves are poor and are themselves from poor homes. They don't want to make themselves rich by their own hands but want to get into wealth through marrying an already rich man.

In all the snm posts here all you see ladies say is 'I want a rich man, a generous man, a caring man, a man that will better or add value to my life etc'as what they want. Nothing wrong there. But sadly, all you see is'I'm beautiful, I'm good looking, I'm fun to be with, I'm well endowed' etc as what they have to offer in order to land the rices they so much crave. Yet they end by saying 'but I have no job yet or I'm managing a meager miserly job. You don't get to see any one ssy 'I need man who I want to join hands with and contribute to build a wealthy home with their indices to guide them, yet after getting married to an already rich man who they know nothing about how he made his wealth and the man decides to spend his sweat in a manner he deems equitable , they begin to resist.

Many a woman has told me 'I don't want to suffer in my father's house and also suffer in my husband's house yet that rich man out there suffered in his own father's house and also suffered in his own house before making his wealth.

corisande said...

Please preach it!
We are the society so we take the blame. Our society is so money oriented!money it is.
Yeah, you are so true on the issues about women. women please let's try to better our selves, self improvement and achievement.
Them go soon ask me who e epp?

Aeegurl... said...

But it is still here that Bv Chikito talks about her achievements and bettering herself before settling yet y'all still bash her both men and women alike. Personally,I am inspired by her writings. I love her drive and look forward to achieving even more for myself. But una go still say she dey brag so wetin una want? Let us all pick a struggle abeg.

Chidubem Ifediniru said...

Noted.......

Umu umuwanyi......over to you

Staphylococcus Aureus said...

Some think it is easier to hoes than to be intellectually stimulating.

Especially some vile ladies on this blog whose singular mission is "gbenshing " ( who invented this word self)

Anyway , shout out to love me Jeje, queen of sdk blog... These are real chicks who can hold conversation revolving on many topics. I admire your intelligence.



Staphylococcus aureus

Anonymous said...

Ideato

Fifi said...

BV Ralph, true. But that is what happens when some males see educated and thriving women as a threat, as "unsubmissive" whatever that means. That happens when parents teach their daughters that their purpose on earth is to please a man and get married only. Don't get me wrong, marriage is a good thing as long as there's love in it. My parents taught me differently and I will teach my daughter same way my parents did.

Eka Joy said...

Ralph, shey u can see that u don't have sense. Can u compare the number of runs girls to the number of hardworking women??? Because you have paid a couple of oloshos from time to time, u now think most ladies do runs??? You better change that yeye mindset.


kay said...

I beg to disagree, presently we have more financially independent women both in career jobs and entrepreneurs than there male counterparts. Women are breadwinners in this generation. The writer should take a proper study. P.s I am not saying the above mentioned type of ladies don't exist.

d33ve said...

It's easier and faster to gain fame with boobs and ass flashing than with intellectuals.check Instagram,Kim k,E!etc.
The more the nudes, the sex tapes, the more famous a typical 90's chic will be.

We have lost it. This is reason I've conditioned myself that beautiful and physically attractive women don't catch my fancy one bit,except we have had some intellectual interaction.i swear.

I would prefer you style for me because you're intelligent than because you have big boobs, fine face and big nyash which you didn't even create..

What am i yarning sef!

IVORY said...

??????????

Stella, this anomaly is on the rise, the young ones are taking after the old ones,


Where is the passion, drive, discipline and dedication our mothers were known for?


If our mothers were all those you listed,who then are the old ones our young ones are taking after? Could you clarify please?

Inasmuch as a lot of women are getting it wrong these days and all what not,we still have substances amongst us.. How good have you treated the highflyers? I get your point and all but could you just leave the women alone and face the men folk? Raise and groom yourselves to be men that will command the respect of women. Be a reason why any woman attached to you would wanna be better because your life,ideals and deposition has challenged them and you're so worth it that they're either better or loose you. Until you get to that level,kindly free women

All of the 12 can't be good,there must be a Judas to balance the equ. We still got great women amongst us. Thank you!

Takes a bow.

Rachy said...

Loool, some girls are determined to be successful without the help of men though.

Anonymous said...

BV Ralph, were u there when our mothers were young & unmarried? I bet u their generation and those b4 were more concerned about marriage than anything else. Aren't they the ones always putting pressure on their daughters to get married? You men don't know what women pass through. You are the same ones who mock single women, including u Stella. You once referred to someone as 'gwegs '. Yet u come & criticise when the ladies are trying hard to get over the mockery. Why do u speak from 2 sides of ur mouth? Linda Ikeji is one of many successful single women. Yet, everyone focuses on her single status. By the way, THERE ARE MORE ENTERPRISING WOMEN NOW THAN EVER!! I don't even believe you will compare the career drive modern women to previous generations. Maybe u just want to be noticed sha.
The only point I agree with is the 'runs' bit. Unfortunately, it has come to stay. But that is only because there is a rising demand from who? MEN. So it's a 2 way thing mister.

Stella, I really wish you were more analytical sometimes, rather than agreeing with everything someone posts. How many women in our mothers' generations have achieved what u have? Do u really agree that they were more enterprising? Do u really think they cared less for marriage than us? Na wa o. The things u agree to sha.

Ellen Praiz said...

I would not blame the women,When you are been groomed with a stereotyped mentality that your greatest achievement is marriage what do you expect?

School Life said...

#some ladies daydream about guys while some daydream about business.

Anonymous said...

smh... (-_-)








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LOLLAH said...

In fairness, I have been thinking of the same thing too. Every talk is about love,heartbreak,men,sex etc like isn't there any other discussion ? is that what happens to you 24hrs instead of doing things to empower oneself. building a career. Even when a potential husband talks to you for the first time,he would have sensed your desperation. At the end of the day,you come here giving us sad chronicles What happened to building a career so that you can attract only intelligent people ? Stop being materialistic and cheap and do something meaningful

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Ah! Ralph let me tell you why....
1. Fake girls are more desired by most Nigerian men. The Kim kardashian looking girls are the ones that most guys are going for these days. Even the God-fearing intelligent nerdy guys end up marrying plastic girls and leaving the intellectual girls around them. Iintelligent babes are not appreciated as much. You know why? Cos most Nigerian men don't like very smart women. You know why? Because they can't cheat you or cheat on you. You know why? Cos 80% of Nigerian men like to cheat women. So if you people want smarter women around, start by appreciating the intellectually stimulating women already. So that would motivate younger generation to start using their brains..... But we know you won't. So why ask us back?

2. Nigerian men are always looking for sex. When that female business woman comes to sign a contract or strike a deal with you Nigerian men, even if she's speaking queens English and talking facts and figures.... the next thing you people start asking her is how can we sign this papers later? Can I see you later at night to discuss further? So at that point are you appreciating her brains or her body? Are you not seeking for sex? But you won't ask yourselves these questions. The 'problem' is always the woman! It's difficult being pretty and smart. Very difficult. You go for interview and do well, but they would start asking you jamb question. You do your job, your boss starts eyeing you. Your proposal is good, but no oh! Na 'come and see me'. Nigerian men too should stop looking for every avenue to sleep with a woman. Even when there's no need, they want to test you and see if they can add you to their list of trophies. Of course many girls start to think sex is the only solution to their issues.

3. Family. They make you feel like your existence is centered around becoming someone's wife one day. When a woman has been fed that from childhood, it takes a lot to shake it off. People who easily do, are the ones who are open-minded enough to. Which is the bell I've been ringing on this blog since. Apparently, many are still caught up in the web of man-chasing. I pray psychological freedom into our lives. Just negodu that 18 yr old girl of yday chronicle.

When I think of more I will add....

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Anonymous said...

Sadly the Nigerian woman is driven and defined by marriage. This is what her mother drummed into her head as her mother's mother did likewise. You get the picture. Most Nigerian women have no drive or desire to do anything asides from gossip, wear the latest asoebi, upload several pics of the "lof of my life" on Facebook. This is why u see them laugh and scorn amazing women like Rita Dominic, genevieve and any other successful woman who challenges their "happiness" in their very small empty myopic world of marriage. Marriage is good don't get me wrong but have u improved urself or are u just an oven for baking children?

TRUTH

Cocoz said...

BV Ralph, its obvious you are still in the last century because in this 21st century Women are getting established everyday, empowering themselves with knowledge and skills, going the extra mile in acquiring further education, building up their careers and creating brands out of new business ideas.
Women are standing up for themselves and helping to build up one another.

Even the so called housewives are no more ordinary housewives...they cater for the house and kids as well as engage in businesses and handiworks. Most 'housewives' as you call them are the ones earning big in the family even as their husbands are the ones seen by outsiders as 'gainfully employed' - Bloggers, Makeups artistes, Instagram online businesses, Jumai and Konga agents, female Uber drivers and mechanics, female farmers etc to mention but a few. Even our women in politics are not left out.

Some who engaged in runs have made something out of that...taking from our silly politicians to establish themselves and those ones, I blame not.

Its not a one day's job but I believe our Women are getting there. We are growing. We are occupying the world. Stop allowing the myopic view of using the kind of women you attract to yourselves to condemn the rest of us.

#Proudlybusinessminded #Proudlywoman

Anonymous said...

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Nedum! said...

This is it! I have been asking my remarkable female friends and colleagues the same question: why do the vast majority of Nigerian girls have an outlook on life that is so different from yours? I can say it without equivocation that the lack of intellectual depth and drive among our so-called 'hot' ladies is an issue that troubles every serious-minded bachelor out there. If this post will trigger a robust discussion among us, extra halleluya to the highest, abeg! And thanks a lot, Stella, for making this blog a forum for sensible discussions and show of humanity on many levels.

Anonymous said...

u want to know y we want to settle down, so as to have our kids ND not have a lonely old age, we all must settle down,if it was possible of having sperm donor I guess some women dnt need a man ,they jxt need kids. as for women with no ambition they are much, ND stil we have those with ambition too ,is very easy to judge us women na una way. not every woman want to be a housewife, am an example I want to be a great woman greater than my mum cos she's already great. we still have a lot of women with ambition

lovedoosh said...

well said, but i think its just the ladies you've been opportuned to meet. most young men r lazy and the ladies feed n support them all in the name of relationships...

Ms. Nicey said...

Because our society has shifted its focus, attention & respect to such things that are temporal and do not add value. Do not whatever you have to do just to get validation, and no one questions you. They want quick results.
For example, U see the price money for intellectual works & competitions are so small, while price money for immoral things are usually higher e.g Big brother whatever.
Less appreciation for things that will add value to us in the long- run. No one thinks of the long-run anymore, but the "NOW-run".
Society pressures women. As a woman, you have to be so many things. I've been in a relationship where the guy told me I was too serious, simply bcos I had a professional certification I was pursing and needed him to understand my busy schedule cos of classes and work. Of course, the whole thing ended.

Lil'lian said...

Hahahaha.... Epic reply

Obianuju Baby said...

Sadly true sha

cara milano said...

Girrrrlllllll! You hit the nail on the head, again and again!
90 percent of Nigerian girls have one ambition: being Mrs somebody.... And you can't even blame them.
God help us sha.

JACINTA MBACHU said...

Ralph u are useless and stupid.

cara milano said...

Well well well..... I'll start by blaming our mothers, who told us every woman's success depends on getting a man. I think that's where the problem lies.

Odus said...

Kikikikiki

Tuscany said...

Its the way society has made them. you see a woman that has achieved a lot and one mad woman will ask her "wont you marry"?
Or a man will tell a woman i have your type at home.
Its the society we find ourselves.
Sorry to say but truth is ALOT of nigerian women are lazy. All they think of is dating or marrying a man that can take care if them and thats all. So they dont see the need for entrepreneurship and all that. Even the ones that work, still position themselves in a way to attract a man they can milk or feed on.
Its sad honestly. See stella, av said it here before but people wont take it serious.
You see why men sleep with some girls but wont commit is cos they have nothing to offer asides sex. Who wants to spend the rest of his life with a woman all because if sex? Hes gonna get bored and tired but he needs of other things you can offer from being a confidant, to being supportive, advise, exposure, loyalty, your intellect etc to make him commit. Truth is, you are only as good as your knowledge. Av seen people say they are all the afformentioned but its because thats what they think but in reality they arnt. Being good in bed and having a fine face and body should be a plus and not the only thing you have to offer.
Go and check out alot of the rich men, even the girls they sleep with have more than just a good body and face, they always have something else going for them.
It gives you rrspect when a man knows your life isnt dependent on him.
There are alot of things to do and when you earn yours, it brings a level of fullfilment rather than getting handouts

d33ve said...

That's my former beloved nccmds logo..
Greetings Dr.

Quiksilver said...

I just fell in loveeeeeee





With someone's husband...awwww!

Quiksilver said...

Enwongo Cleopas is the real MVP

Anonymous said...

Ideato, you don begin sell the Abacha and Ugba wey dem advice you to do??

Anonymous said...

In life you will encounter badly ...I am female and I am totally in support of what you wrote up there,the thing is its the way the society is,and has been wired! Once you done with school and what not the next thing you are expected to do is settle down.
I met someone I haven't seen in a very long time and the next thing he asked was if I am married now,i was so mad angry!! Like can't you ask me anything else?

In all honesty it boils down to the individual and goals that they have set for themselves...but then again it's still you guys that would think a woman hasn't achieved anything till she is a Mrs,typical example of this is Linda ikeji,any Lil thing society is quick to call her out and put her in her place and go ask her to find a man before she has an opinion!
It's this same society that would still regard you as nothing if at 50 you have achieved the whole world and you still single.

But what you said up there is the truth...

#Sweetness

Anonymous said...

Love me jeje, queen, hold convo on many topic? Bwahahahahahahaha, u are very slow den. This na Wednesday laugh

Nwa Nlecha said...

I totally disagree with whoever that wrote this this.

The point is, like terms attract each other.

You attract what you are.

There are a lot of women out there who are making a lot of difference and making Nigeria proud, but you can't hear of them cos you are not even close to the sphere where they operate.

You are really an Onye owu ite!

Pls Oga writer, what do you do for a living?

LOLLAH said...

Well said but I feel women should still try and get something going especially for the ones that depend solely on guys for everything without adding values. What happens when the guy gets the sex and sees that there's nothing else to offer?

Anonymous said...

What did your mother bring to the table?

Why are men of nowadays interested in what a woman will bring to the table.

Who even coined that useless statement?

What are u bringing to the table?

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

gbam! gbamer!! gbamest!!!
you couldn't have said it better. most girls arent talking bout how to build a career all you hear them say is "MY BORFRIEND" . imagine yesterdays chronicle poster she was just 18 for fuck sake yet all she can think bout is BOYFRIEND was so pissed to say the least. this anomaly is crazy.
you forgot to add young girls competing to be baby mamas, damn!!! thats the part my brain cant just comprehend. who born the man wey go make be born pikin for him without paying my bride price? well inless na tubaba lols.
when i see a man whom i will love more than my job then maybe i "might" lower my standards until then abeg i jumpam pass. na who man don epp?
young girls need to start thinking outside the box. be selfish for once and think bout how to empower yoursef.






*hangs leg on the cupboard*

Anonymous said...

By the time you visit East Africa, you will know Nigerian women even preserve their Kpekus.

Anonymous said...

@ Anonymous 12:27, a million kudos for saying it like it is. The truth is powerful and shall set one or a group cree, if and only if, they embrace it. Why do most Nigerian men at home and abroad, make sex a condition before hiring a qualified woman and setting her on a professional career? Simply, bcos these are the most evil of men, the wretched of the earth. QED@atm

Olori_1812 said...

bv ralph, e lor sun.

Rachael Samson said...

I will agree and disagree with u. Please where there is bad, good can also be found. I know of ladies who are purpose driven and that's because I surround myself with them. Don't forget that there are also guys who have misplaced priorities. And don't forget that the best gems are usually rare.

Anonymous said...

It really doesn't make sense.

Go and conduct head count in the banks and tell me the most employed there.

The company(Financial Institution)I work with was found by a woman.

The only unit head that isn't occupied presently by a woman is just 1.

Go out and see women doing wonders.

Not when all you do is waste your life on blogs.

Go out there, you will even be challenged.

It's your likes that will still say working class women are arrogant.

Any write-up that reduces women being unproductive isn't worth discussing cos most of us really work hard.

RARE DIAMOND said...

Well said.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Me I daydream about making more money. And most guys don't understand it. They tell me 'you're always talking money money money. At this rate you won't get married' I hear that everyday. Yet I see those same people out on Friday night with strange women. So who's fooling who?

Anonymous said...

BLOG VISITOR RALPH YOU ARE A CERTIFIED NINCOMPOOP, PLEASE ALLOW WOMEN WHO WANT TO MARRY TO MARRY, WHAT WILL YOU SAY ABOUT WOMEN IN SAUDI AND THE ARAB WORLD IN GENERAL, YOU ARE A FOOL FOR THIS WRITE UP, NIGERIAN WOMEN ARE THE MOST CAREER DRIVEN IN AFRICA. ODE OSHI. I AM MARRIED AND I HAVE A CAREER AND PERSONAL BUSINESS. OLOFO. RALPH KO, RALPH TRESVANT NI

XOXO MYSTERY said...

Chikito , you are so on point with your analysis.
Chi Exotic...thank you for that.

Nigerian men cannot deal with an intelligent woman at all. If you are an intelligent woman dating, if you do not dumb yourself down and act a dumb fool, you may be single for a while. They don't like an intelligent woman at all. What the average Nigerian man sees as intelligent is when he comes home by 2.00am everyday and you give him food, bath him, do not nag him, give him all your salary then he will boast to the world that you are very intelligent.

Most men want sex too and they think that is all a lady has to offer. I know how these men ogle at women even in a work environment, they try to downplay your achievement and throw sex in your face. They are the same men that would mock a lady who has achieved a lot for being single.

They would meet a woman who is working, earning well. Next, they will ask her to resign from work, only to open a 'no moving market' business for her and control her finances. Or better still, they will marry a woman who is not working, if she ask for money, she would be insulted to get a job while the man secretly prays she never gets a job so she can depend on the small change he gives her.

You dare not refuse them sex...that is part of not being submissive in a man's world so do not blame women for giving it out left and center. Men made a mockery of sex a long time ago. So please excuse the women acting like bimbos because that is actually what men adore. Excuse the women who do not want to build themselves up because an average Nigerian man could care less about your certificate and might see it as a threat. Excuse the women that are particular about marriage and children because men seem to drum it up in their ears that is all women are meant for.

In fact , the more educated a man is, the more he wants a total dundee as his woman. Ask most married women, the secret to the 'peace' they enjoy in marriage, it is by not saying 'fim'.

I know they say, when the message is for women, we say talk to the men.
This time around, you better talk to the men.

KING XOXO MYSTERY

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

By the way, runs girls are everywhere. Runs is a global trade 😂 Just that other societies hv them on hush hush. But Nigeria they boldly own up to it (like me on this blog 😜)

Anonymous said...

No, his mom is a female judge in the court of appeal. Scratch that you jobless housewife. Instead of you to get the message you are showing your shallow self.be gone! Rat!

Anonymous said...

MR NEDUM!!! PLS SHUT UP

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

GBAM!

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Oho! Don't mind these chicken livered Nigerian men. When you're sharp they say you're proud and saucy.

Anonymous said...

Nature Ralph, Nature. God did not create women to hustle and make money, men were created for that while women bear and raise children, that is God's plan for human beings, it is pple like you that have turned the world upside down, I see women struggling in offices with 8 months pregnancy, when they should be resting at home, they give birth and run back to work leaving the poor baby for a maid to take care of, we ve a generation of kids being raised by house helps and gatemen. I refuse to be part of that, I recently quit my job of over 300k to stay at home after my cousin caught my househelp feeding my baby his vomit back. My mum quit her job to raise us and am proud to say I turned out right. Most working women are ignoring thr homes, it may not be intentional but they r left no choice, they r sharing in d bills at home. Raph work hard and provide for ur wife so she can raise kings and Queens for you. Stop ranting.

Anonymous said...

What's this idiot saying.
I work in the banking sector, women full there. my supervisor and my branch manager are all women.
Nwdays, women are contributing half or even more in the home.
Go to Balogun market, if u see d amount of women sending dere kids to university selling provisions.
Stop moving with olosho's and start moving with smart career women, dey full allover.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Ooohhh.... My darling for the next 24 hours 💋💋💋

Anonymous said...

Nice one 👍

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

It's not me oh 🙌🏽 Ahn ahn... What is it na?

Anonymous said...

Chikito abeg abeg pocket that ur analysis, I have an aunty that is a surgeon, very smart and intelligent woman and her husband cheated on her with their house girl, pls go and sit down on a chair of nails. Mrs A

Anonymous said...

RALPH RALPH RALPH!!! TO SLAP YOU JUST DEY HUNGRY ME

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Don't give up. Giving up is not a solution. I repeat don't give up. If STELLA gave up we won't have this blog. Don't give up. Quitting isn't an option. That should be your mantra. Society dey, but God pass society. Be faithful even in your struggle and see.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

I love you joor.... 💋💋 Oya ask him back.

Anonymous said...

Its obvious you guys didn't even take a second to read what he is saying. Just bad.

Anonymous said...

The problem with men like you is that u will try to put such women down when u meet them, u ll always want her to kill herself to prove to u she is all that whereas am sure u ve nothing to offer apart from grammar. I hope u ll marry a flat chested, flat booty, old and ugly intelligent woman since the boobs and booty mean nothing to u.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Not all men want independence. Many are intimidated by independence.

Anonymous said...

Annoymous 12-27 God bless you I wish all Nigeria men have your mindset preach it bro hugs

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

😂😂😂

Anonymous said...

RALPH IF YOU EVER WRITE THIS SORT OF THING AGAIN ABOUT NIGERIAN WOMEN, I WILL SEND SOMEONE TO SLAP YOU IN YOUR DREAM, YOU WILL NEVER REMAIN THE SAME AGAIN WHEN YOU WAKE UP, THEN YOU WILL KNOW THAT WITCHCRAFT IS ALSO REAL IN NIGERIA, IF I SLAP YOU MYSELF YOU WILL DIE IN YOUR SLEEP SO I WILL SEND ONE OF MY ASSISTANTS. BE WARNED

Anonymous said...

U forgot to add the word 'Lazy'. Lazy men want independent women. And u r still part of the problem, why r u talking about what men want, r u living for men. Why can't u just say it is good to be independent, parents love it or something, must u live to please men?? Rubbish. U want the men on this blog to clap for u Abi?

St.FranKooL.... said...

#Don't promise when you're happy. Don't reply when you're angry. Don't decide when you're sad*

Anonymous said...

Gbamest. Couldn't have said it better

Anonymous said...

Hahahha, Quickie oooo, silly girl

Mrs. Romas said...

Though you're right BV Ralph, but the generalisation was bad. Not all Nigerian women are runs babe or run after men.

There are still millions of descent women in Nigeria! You only see or hear what you want to see and hear.
Is just as women always complaining about Nigerian Men, whereas, there are also millions of great Nigerian men.

The thing is, the problem is everywhere. Sometimes, when i turn my tv channel to entertainment channels, all i see is women (Black and white) competing to get the attention of men. Americans and the UK have set the standards/way of living to the world and Nigerian especially most of the women accepted it and they are now worse than their teachers.

I am only scared and weep for the younger generation. You see young girls on social media seeking for attention and validation from people they don't know. Women going naked on the streets/social media claiming their body their rights.
Whenever you say the truth, they will tagged you a hater.
Anyways, i know the world is coming to an end, so many more of these things will continue to happen. I just pray we find ourselves on the right side of God.

Anonymous said...

all opinions can be expressed but being that it's the posters's opinion does not mean that it applies to all..
There are well educated women who bring not only sex to the table but end up catering for the supposed "MAN" of the house. It is true women should not only be sex creatures but what about those whose husbands, fiance, boyfriends leave them for uneducated women?
It is somehow altering the balance of nature. Imagine a guy calling and asking a lady to take him out because he cannot be doing it all the time.
Please to all men out there, if your woman brings more to to the relationship or marriage be grateful if not appreciate her that way because she is meant to assist you.
Shikena



Stella dear please let me look for my comment *sideeyes*

Anonymous said...

Traitor! You just had to lick their asses so they'd hail you as they're already doing. Mr politically-correct. The lazy women are already hailing you. The nitwits. But trust, the message has been passed. These ones hailing you are ireedemable. I'm sure your wife contributed in your wedding. And from the sound of you, she even brings more money to the table than you do. Mr Man, it is her duty to buy that food stuff and cook it, while it is yours to bring the funds. A woman's contribution must not be financial. Intellectual contribution isn't financial. Gigolo. Professor of English.

ybette said...

I will tell you what I do know. The intellectual competence of these ladies will not stop the Nigerian society from calling them names like gwegs or seeing them as nonentity, if they fail to have a man of their own.
I don't know about you but I believe societal expectations always breed pressures and pressures can get to you. It can make you stronger or crazy.

See it this way, a lady spends a good part of her youth acquiring education and building a career. You build a career in this Nigerian system and come out successful. You look up only to discover you are now termed as a gweg with a slim chance of meeting an honest and loving man. Then the society keeps reminding you and rubbing it on your face that you are single and should go get married. Sometimes it seems everyone around you keeps telling you same thing from friends, families, neighbours down to somebody who merely knows anything about you. Even when you are locked up in your room on a luxurious bed of gold, these messages still get to you through social media on facebook, twitter, instagram, blogs and all that.

You wear the finest makeup and the brightest smile telling yourself everything is ok, while deep down you are asking yourself if this is it. Thinking about what you could have done differently to have hooked yourself a man when your "mates" according to the Nigerian society were getting married.

Now on the part of ladies offering sex to men, has it ever occurred to you that in some instances, it is the men that are offering sex to men. You can not deny the fact that sex is also a human need and like every other need, it has nothing to do with being a man or woman.

My 2 cowries...

Fab_divas online store for designer bags, footwares and clothings said...

All I wrote just wey away!!!!!!!
#Crying!!

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

I know alot of driven single ladies, improving themselves daily and working smart in the challenge driven Nigeria.
This isnt a female thing, there are also men that are just wasting their purpose. In all we should all try to do something positive to improve our lives.

karma?...please said...

Ewu Gambia. Swerve joor. Who in the world gave you the right to come here and write fake article about women. Until you have walked in my heels then you can come here and talk to me about WOMEN.

Anonymous said...

Because thats what most of them ask for, giving unnessaary pressure to gullible ones. Its a two way thing.

rillyniddy said...

Am a woman but sincerely I love your comment,well phrased on like the born fool ralph...

Anonymous said...

Look at Linda Ikeji 4example, she is made thru her own hustle but still desires a man. You know when God created Eve, he had Adam ready for her. Ideally, the happiness of a woman is a man. Until lid happens, hearts get shattered, and lessons are learnt. People get wiser and realise happiness doesn't come from humans but enjoyment like one BV said.
You said our ladies are less intellectual. I disagree. Ladies have a flare for their own kind of hustle. Men are built for hard work and to withstand stress more. I do understand that times have changed. And men don't want liability as a wife or even gf but men have also become lazy and shy away from responsibility.
The main reason girls have only sex to offer is because, that is what men are known to rush after. How often does a guy does soul searching in the midst of hot looking chicks to get a gf? Men don't know that women also need encouragement as much as they do. You see more runs girls because that is what you want to see. Unfortunately, runs can't extinct bcos the pay is rewarding and immediate.
A woman's need revolves round money. Even when a guy is thrusting pussy. He is indirectly saying he is going to provide for her.
We need more women to better themselves. We also need many boys to stop going wayward. I weep each time I step out I see boys smoking and wasting their life. I see ladies that hustle trading. But they attract guys that want to leech on their small profits. Na wa!
In my house, my younger brother is wayward, dropped out of school to pursue music. All he does is to demand money and sell off our valuables if we can't meet up. As I type this, his friends are squatting in his room (from good homes). Why? Because daddy didn't give them money to spend. This situation is on the rise. All I see is lots of wasted boys Jareh.
Hard economy with many struggling guys and most girls understand that struggling with a guy is no guarantee. Parents nko? They want a sophisticated son in law but fail to raise one for their daughters in law.
Reminds me of my stay in the US. When I asked my uncle in law why lots of single mums? One of his reasons: a generation of males were wasted when they realized women were nothing but a "hole". They lived thug life. And women stepped up, while their male counterpart lagged behind. So there was a disbalance resulting in single mum.
My family situation: I still wonder how a man drags his feet so slowly when his lady has invested so much. Yet this is what guys continually ask ladies to do. Not encouraging at all. My Aunty's baby daddy did only introduction and they have 2boys. But when my aunt's younger sister (23yrs) was getting married proper (the pride of a woman, like in our mother's days) the baby daddy said: why is this young girl rushing into marriage? Why can't she use her handwork (she makes hair) to train herself? And "wait" for a more responsible man(her husband is a driver). But it's okay for him to have kids out of wedlock and shy away from responsibility.
Men needs and women needs can never be the same! It's not okay to give girls advise without doing their part to ensure the result is more effective. Just saying.

QUEEN VEE said...

Let me start by correcting the notion that women are only interested in marriage or sex. Look around you today everywhere you see women hustling and trying to make it in life. The times we are nobody depend on anyone again. Women are doing a lot and so much. You hear of women doing great things in the world. Women are building houses, doing well in business and different careers in all work of life. So i wonder why you would come here and be saying what you don't understand. They say show me your friends and i would tell you who you are.When you surround yourself with dumb people, you behave like them. Of coz a woman would get married . Women are waking up to realize that marriage is not the all for them so they have risen to the challenge. Ralph you must be blind not to see what women are achieving and doing because when they are self sufficient no man can treat them any how. Even thought those who are married still work or they go into business. When a woman is very successful do you know that men would want to have you in order to control your money. or they run away when they know you are very intelligent and take your stand. So before you come online to spew thrash go do your research well.

Anonymous said...

Anon 14:06 queens don't have time for blogs

Anonymous said...

You just painted a perfect picture of an average Nigerian girl today. A quick review of this blog will show you that 98 percent of the girls that comment have nothing intelligent to say except when they talk about "broke men" and their numerous sexual encounters yet their list of desirable qualities in a man are just the opposite of their rotten existence

Anonymous said...

I second. Gbamer! Chop kuckles.

Spirit said...

Dear Ralph

Sorry but you have been mixing with runs girls your whole life. Ralph change the circle you move with so that you can meet better Nigeria women.
Ralph when you move with touts.... you will attract touts to yurself therefore you must be a tout.

The Nigerian women i know are all self made millionaires and i do not mean in Naira.

Thank you.

Shennel Hyacinth said...

You !!!!!
I will find you and I will knock the living daylights out of you 💣

Anonymous said...

You could not have said it better. Ilaje blood or whatever the name of that geriatric girl is needs to read this so that she can redefine her thinking pattern.

Anonymous said...

Where are the professional ladies please? The ones insulting all men here? The man-haters on this blog? Show me one please. I need one.

bim ples said...

100 likes for ur comment!

Anonymous said...

A blog's hardly rocket science though,it's almost like owning a boutique or selling human hair or being a mua.These're not vocations that require much thinking

Anonymous said...

Ralph tell the truth you are a misogynist. Are you BV young man abi wetin...?

Anonymous said...

Did I forget to add that, my aunty hustle to train herself through school yet the baby daddy that is more responsible refuse to step up.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

*beard...

IVORY said...

Om loyal sir.

Anonymous said...

Just like you am not settling for anything mediocre. I worked hard to put myself through school. Now my 1.2m salary. And living life to the fullest. When husband fine. If e come no wahala. One can always adopt

IVORY said...

*disposition*

Anonymous said...

One of the reasons the western world mandated men to pay child support.

Anonymous said...

Ralph you are so wrong. My experience as a very intelligent female is that guys don't like females who are intelligent and can hold down a brilliant argument and give convincing facts. They are threatened by such women and see them as competitive as well as competition. They call such women feminists. They prefer to run after bimbos whose claim to fame is their looks and maybe their cooking skills. In fact many Nigerian women are intelligent and are doing well, but society dumbs them down. Tells them to tone down who they really are and not be too flashy or talk too much, or own so many properties so that the men won't be intimidated and they can get a man to marry them. I have heard men say openly that they cannot marry a woman more educated or richer than them. Some others who do, do that for economic purposes, not that they really care about the women. In fact women have so much improved now, in the time of our mothers women were solely groomed for marriage and hence to be housewives, child bearers and farm hands. So much so it was considered a waste to send them to school. If you ask me, I would say according to society, men deserve the kind of women they get now. So your write up up there is not balanced and just shows that you have misogynistic tendencies. Please change for the sake of your daughters, you may one day have them if you don't already, or granddaughters. And please don't make the mistake of making hasty generalizations based on the followership you can discern on the blog.

Anonymous said...

And na his type go dey carry prick matter for head.

Pels said...

Kikikiki

Anonymous said...

Lmao

Anonymous said...

I have been watching you and young man or whatever, you people are misogynistic. You are on this blog to bash woman. Kwantinu, you hear?

Anonymous said...

My dear.. I tire o

Anonymous said...

You are a man who thinks. The answer to your questions is why we have a lot of chronicles today, most of which comes from women.

Anonymous said...

14:28 kai you sound real dumb, nothing sensible to say.

Esther Mgbolu said...

Kikikikikikikikikikikiki@anon kilodeeeh

DonMayor said...

Yeah.. you are making a whole lot of sense brethren

Oyanu Enenche said...

Anony14:18. This is why the problem is lingering. The truth you know will set you free. Keep running away from the truth and ur problems will run after u. It's my opinion. I have shared it weather you like it or not. Oya run into a canal and find a transformer to hug.

Mao Akuh said...

Nice one.
Unfortunately the society we live in is the main cause of it.

Anonymous said...

Even if he can't think of anybody what of Stella D'Kork, Linda Ikeji, Bellanaija and others. Anu mpama

Mosi Jubelo said...

Being a runz girl is not a good though but it's in every country not only Nigeria.

Many women especially all those ones that wantu have kids for celebs esp those basketballers or baseball or football players are in this category.
Abeg sef, it's not a serz matter.
Lemme not even do wahala and start typing

Anonymous said...

Thanks Olivia, exactly!

Anonymous said...

Ralph come and answer.

Anonymous said...

Ralph comman read ooo. Take notes.

DonMayor said...

Ogbeni Ralph. I hope you read the above comment and assimilate it .. Lol awon Iya fe gba e leti.

Anonymous said...

And all you see men saying on SnM is they want a woman who is working.

Anonymous said...

Tell them, Namsense!

Anonymous said...

If sex bombs or sex symbols are in demand today, the men have made it so, they are their main patrons, yet they will complain that they want a woman with brains. What they get one they will still go after the bimbos. Mtcheeew

Anonymous said...

Yes, men face yourselves, groom yourselves and develop yourselves before you can see clearly to remove the speck in our eyes.

Anonymous said...

You are a pest 13:13. Please Stella stop enabling such foolishness on your blog.

Anonymous said...

My Chikito is back! Yay!🙌 Kisses 😘

Anonymous said...

Yet you are looking for a man who will take care of you pocket wise. Why deceive yourself?

Anonymous said...

So your story shows that it is some men who are not serious and always after sex. Leave Chikito alone.

Anonymous said...

You and Ralph both have to go back and read the rubbish Ralph wrote. Making hasty generalizations, it's annoying.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl loves Aeegurl for 24 hours said...

Anonymous start a blog and come tell us how it is later. If good blogs weren't a result of good thinking then perez Hilton won't be one of America's rich celebrities. If it was so easy every blogger will be rich.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl loves Aeegurl for 24 hours said...

Plus, it takes discipline and consistency that most unfocused people don't have. Try blogging for none week and come back to tell the story.

Anonymous said...

Oyin Oshinkalu stop boasting about Allison Madueke's N2 billion with you.

Even Sam has ran away to London to escape EFCC. Stop teaching girls how to be sidechick to billionaires

Anonymous said...

Oyin Oshinkalu stop boasting of been smarter than hardworking women like SD, bcos you and Sam Aikhionbare escaped with Allison Madueke's N4 billion Nigeria's oil revenue

And stop using EFCC to laugh

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl loves Aeegurl for 24 hours said...

Anon 15:39- even the women on this blog bash tough women too. Brag about your bfs huge dick they hail you. Brag about your degrees, they insult you. So its not only men who need to change their ways. A woman would look at another woman and say 'she has money buy I'm married and she doesn't have a husband. So I'm better than her'. So how would you expect a young girl who hears that to want to be like the successful woman? Abeg I can go on and on about his topic. But it's not a 'Nigerian woman' issue. It's a Nigerian women, men, family, office, govt institutions issue. Dino Melaye insulted Remi Tinubu and he's still a senator. In the workplace the single women are spoken to with less respect than the married women. So what encourages young girls to be focused? Abeg....

reemah said...

Ralph, change your perspective. Stop generalising. As much as you have made a salient point, you have also belittled the womenfolk by lumping us all into one huge mass of dullards. As there are intelligent men, so also are there unintelligent men. Same goes for the women. Give yourself a thorough reorientation and you'd find out that the percentage of the less intelligent fall short when compared to those who have refused to be airheads. Peace!

Anonymous said...

Chikito I did say it is a societal thing and I am addressing Ralph because he appears to be seeing things as a biased male who has not properly done his research, and simply comes off to me as a misogynist in disguise. That is my opinion.

Anonymous said...

As to Dino's behaviour towards women, even to his wives, speaks of how he views women. As to women's treatment in the workplace by men, are we not saying the same thing? What encourages young women to be focused are the hard working women and objective men out there. My father always told me that as a female, I can be anything I want to be and I have always had good female role models.So your "abeg", is not needed, we are invariably saying the same thing.

Anonymous said...

Yekpa! Anon 16:46 you don't say

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