“But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.”James 3:17 (ESV
Have you noticed that human beings have a tendency to mimic the emotions of people across from us? According to RICK WARREN, the reason we do this is because of mirror neurons in our brain. They allow us to sympathize and also to mirror what other people feel.
For instance, if somebody gets angry with you, you get angry back. If somebody is really depressed and you hang around that person long enough, you get depressed.
In the same way, when people raise their voice against you, you usually raise your voice back. Then they raise their voice higher. Then you raise your voice higher. Then pretty soon it’s escalated, and your emotions are out of control.
The Bible says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1 NIV).
Let me give you a little tip that will save you a lot of heartache and conflict in your life: When other people raise their voice, lower yours — in your marriage, in your parenting, in your friendships, and at work. That’s called strength under control.
Gentleness defuses conflict and deescalates anger.
Here’s a good verse you’re going to need someday — maybe even this week.
Ecclesiastes 10:4 says, “If your boss is angry at you, don’t quit! A quiet spirit can overcome even great mistakes” (NLT, second edition).
"If the temper of the ruler rises up against you, do not leave your place [or show a resisting spirit]; for gentleness and calmness prevent or put a stop to great offenses."
Ecclesiastes 10:4 AMPC
When your boss rips into you or your spouse or colleague or even friend raises his voice in anger, you need to realize it may not have anything to do with you. Instead of getting defensive, practice gentleness. Let your gentle answer disarm the other person and diffuse the situation.
What is our normal reaction to raised voices, such as when our kids are misbehaving or there is a disagreement with our spouse or partner?
Why do you think responding in gentleness rather than anger is so disarming? Why does it get people’s attention?
Look for ways to practice gentleness this week.
How do people react when you respond to them with gentleness? Lets try it this week, observe its effect and share in the course of the week.
Have a stress free and successful week in Jesus Name and Nay all your prayers and heart desires be granted.
BV Marble (from Rick Warren)