STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE WICKED FATHER.
Good day stellar diamond. I am a big fan despite i do not comment all the time but i always keep up with your blog. You are just so wonderful.
Here's my chronicles. Bear with me as it's going to be a bit lengthy .
My parents got separated when i was 9 years old. I have 2 siblings. We lived with our dad and step mum until i finished my secondary school when i was 17. It was tough to say the least. My dad was the major problem as step mum just minds her business.
He would punish us and make us sleep outside just cos of transferred hatred from mum. Mum will always send food stuffs, school fees and clothings as dad never cared. It was mum who paid my WAEC fees. There was no point living with him as we had to return to live with mum. He married two more wives and went on to have 9 more children.
Fast forward to 13 years later,my siblings and I are graduates from university and we are doing pretty well in our chosen fields. Two of us are married and have our families. God has really helped us. Of course our bride price was paid to our dad and nothing else.
He tried building a relationship with me after my marriage which my husband encouraged but it wasn't really going well . I sent money to him on one occasion and he felt that was it. He never asked of my mum who toiled and suffered for us. He wanted to be a father who was never there. I didn't like it and cut off the relationship.
A year later, i got a call from one of my half sisters and said dad gave her my number. I spoke with her mother and all her siblings even though i don't know most of them.
The bottomline is my father is trying to create a bond between all of us while ignoring my mother which i don't find funny.
Now she wants to come visit me and and all that.
Advise me please as i do not want to carry everlasting responsibilities of 9 children and if peace has to be made, it has to be done properly and not through the backdoor.
P.s : My husband sees me as unforgiving. I told him that i can't forget so soon how he maltreated my mum and us. I carried over a GST course in school then for non payment of fees when i had a father.
I used rags as menstrual pads, we went hungry uncountable number of times . My mum was and is always there for us and never remarried so she could concentrate on us. Please help me on this.
Stellar diamond , your red pen is needed.
Hmmmmm...This one needs Solomon's wisdom to handle....can you not maintain a relationship with them but from a distance?..Forgiving is really easy,its forgetting that messes up the mind.
let me leave the wise ones on this blog to guide you.