OH MY GOODNESS!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
WHEN LOVE BECOMES HATE IN A MARRIAGE.
Stella,
I hate my husband with every bone in my body. I can't stand him next to me. He makes me feel lonely. He makes me hate my life.
I hate when we have sex feels like he's raping me, I'm always dry to the point I started thinking I had a problem. He just makes me feel so empty. He told me his prophet saw us getting a divorce, lately I have been really feeling like filing for divorce. I feel empty when I'm with him, I look at other man.
I crave the touch of another man, a manly man(I know it's a sin) but this is how I really feel. I am so tired. He So unromantic, he uses verbally abusive words to speak to me sometimes, i.e "I will punch your face, If I beat you enh...you will know me well." He even calls me fat(I put on weight after having two kids).
This so called husband of mine is a boy. I swear, I cry everyday regretting marrying him, he is so immature. He is 32 yrs old but still acts like a boy. I am so fed up with him. Two days ago, I tried telling him that I don't want to have sex with him anymore that we should live like friends for the sake of our two children, can you believe this boy said to me "oh, to me sex is all about going in and coming out, I don't have time for foreplay."
He has made me depressed,I hate my life whenever I think of him. He is selfish. I can't remember last time we went out or he did anything romantic. He is so immature and verbally abusive towards me. I am so fed up. I am thinking of moving out and then filling for a divorce.
We are about to get kicked of our house because of financial problems, do you know what this boy said to "why don't you work and pay bills, why depend on me." Stella, ever since I met I have been working and helping but this goat does not want to grow up. I am so fed up.
I am 26 yrs old and I feel I can still get my life together and get married again in the future. I am thinking of going back to my family house and start fresh. I know the kind insults I will have to put up with from my family is not for here but I am ready just so I can leave this goat. He I need advice. Where do I go from here?
Please be nice and sensitive with your advice.
Give me smart advice that can help me stand on my two feet. Thank you all and may God bless your homes.
*OMG..how did it get to this level?I am lost for words.i dont know what to say right now.I read the strong words,analysed your feelings and shock has numbed me...
I guess his being broke ass and not being able to cater for his family has also contributed to these feelings?
I am sorry darling but i may have to read comments too.Dont know what to advise right now.
You will be fine okay?Keep us updated.
Queen wetin happen today.
ReplyDeleteLet's talk or chat if you want to please don't do anything silly. Your future depends on whatever step you take now,please take any decision in a haste.will expect you to add me
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How did it get to this stage? There must've been love before now. What happened?
ReplyDeleteOversabi Chikito £300 is not #75,000 at the moment.. A pound is more than #500 now. You just come here forming what you are not, keep on living in your fantasy land😯
ReplyDeleteSmh.. . You not in America or London, and you are ranting like a fool. 👎
ReplyDeleteEmpress I love you, I want intelligent friends like you. Please be my friend👭👭
ReplyDeleteChikito so much bile these days, abeg cool down. What is going on with you? Kisses 😘
ReplyDeleteLovely advice. fifty Shades of Knackson 😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteRonalda well done 👍. Poster read ooo.
ReplyDeleteIsholacooku e pain you gaaaan, Lmao!
ReplyDeleteThat is because una type like shallow girls.
ReplyDeleteWhen a man abuses you constantly, horrid words become the norm. Pls people should be more empathic when advicing her.
ReplyDelete@Trinity..maturity has nothing to do with age...I know old men who are very stupid and immature...Imagine all the stupid male claas mates u had..will grow up one day, and be giving advise as "elders"..Smh..If u are stupid..u are stupid 4ever....forget age
ReplyDeleteChristians! Aka sky God followers, 99 % of y'all that come here to share yall sorry ass stories on this blog either on chronicles, TTC, spousal abused, home trouble or etc are all Christians. Y'all don't consults with God before you marry? Y'all are broke, begged, depressed, abused, used, make babies you can take care of, can't pay rent, borrow can't pay back, fuck around, thieves, can't pay school fees, abortion bitches, y'all living in poverty and still calling on your dead Jesus and fake God! Bitch go and suffer, you are supposed to feel the pain and suffer according to your bible.
ReplyDeleteKids that were still under their parents roofs making 20.000 nairas a month. Carry your load bitch
ReplyDeleteYou ain't shits bitch! Shut your smelly pussy ass up. Gay!
ReplyDeleteAnon 19:59 I for like send you airtime for this comment.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you successfully depressed me, please divorce him cuz he's already affecting you
ReplyDeleteI'm very sure your father is nothing, but poor bastard.😂😂
ReplyDeleteOloshi!..who wan romance horrible ugly parerompo like una??😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteYou are the best here anon 21.35👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍let's be friends.
ReplyDeleteHello, some men are worst than the poster's husband and most of us here women like to pretend and say all is well.
ReplyDeleteYou all are know what the poster is talking about, please note i am the poster but i feel what she is saying. Mine is the other way round where i have been taking care of my home since 12years now, yes 12years and becausing of this my husband is so relax and feels i am capable and still rain insults on me and mind you i have never cheated on him i am staying put beause of my kids and i cannot watch tghem suffer. please donot blame the poster.
If you are not mentally matured, do not go into marriage. Marriage is not bf-gf..I love you relationship o. You should be able to know that time will come when those N20, N5 he gives you then won't be available in marriage...Will you kill him? SUpport him? Stand by him? Accept the fact that he doesn't have...
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster...you have your own problem and the faster you work on it, the better for you and your marriage. The man may not have a problem but YOU. God gave you a package and you decided to rubbish it without thanking Him to lead and direct you. Getting married early without being emotionally matured is the highest stupidity.
Loose that fat, work on your low self esteem, get something doing and focus on God and your kids.
When a man is lacking in his financial responsibility it can affect a woman's response to his advance, but please don't call your husband goat.
ReplyDeleteWatch your weight, some men cant stand over weight wife, he married you slim he still wants it.
Get a counselor and work on your marriage, there is nothing new under the sun. At least he was not like that when you meet each other.
God will help you.
Oh my "uncle Dammy" I haven't heard from him too but I know he's fine :) Don't worry he'll contact us soon. Jumai
ReplyDeleteHonestly it isn't easy but from what I understand is that he has passed the honeymoon phase he has become real and you still want to go back to that phase he is open and blunt he tells you stuff like you have added weight and that sex is enter and come for him. P. S that is what it is basically for different guys . Truth be told he is being a guy with sensitivity. This is where you work to do let him become aware of this things don't keep it in your heart it only breeds contempt but please do not shout it or turn into an argument. For the verbal abuse let him know you don't like even if he is joking remind that you are a woman not one of his male friends let him see the woman in your. And most importantly I would like to believe you are a Christian there is a reason for better or worse. I know you think the grass is greener at the other side but it never is. Talk to your mother she is the only person that can give you a good advice without any ulterior motive I believe she has been married for nothing less than 26 years so she knows what's up. Talk to a mature married woman that you trust and most especially PRAYYYYYYY! No matter what you do if God is not involved it is doomed to fail. Thanks and God bless
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