NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
Good day Stella,
Thanks for the great work on your blog, let me go straight to the point.
I met a guy in march, he told me about how he was divorced and had three kids,and that the kids and ex wife stay in the USA.
This I was okay with after all he is young, educated, successful and kind. He had everything I needed in a 'boyfriend' and I was glad i met him. One thing let to another and we had sex, we didn't stop and this was always in an hotel every time I asked why a hotel and not his house he just ignores and comes up with a story or another and I thought okay don't let me rush things so I stopped asking, although he won't stop introducing me to people as his friend and also didn't stop addressing me as his friend (I was very uncomfortable with this as I'll rather he addressed me as his girlfriend) well this never happened.
He has been a great guy, has supported my career and everything has been fine except one day I called his phone and a little boy picked up, he then sent me a whatsapp text and told me his kids were around.
I wanted to flare up and ask why he didn't think to tell me that they'll be coming back but I let it slide.
Fast forward to 2months later we were having dinner together and I just asked a random question about how are his kids he said they were doing great and then I asked how often he sees them(becuz he told me he hasn't seen them this year as he hasn't travelled to America this year) just for him to tell me he sees them at least 3-4 times a week he goes to their school every other day during work to be with them for sometime and I was so confused and didn't even know how to break it down to him that he's lied to me.
Right now I'm just so hurt and have so many things going on in my mind , I've asked him several times if he's married he says no but now if his kids are in Nigeria does that not mean their mother is also here and doesn't that mean they are still together and he only just lied to me?
Please Stella how do I know if he's really married or not and how can I just let him know this is the reason I'm hurt because after the dinner my mood changed and I just stopped answering his texts and told him to give me some time alone.
Read my lips honey...HE IS MARRIED AND YOU ARE THE SIDE CHICK AND YOU KNOW THIS ALREADY..so quit asking questions.Have a confrontation with him for leading you into what you people have knowing he has a fam and take a walk away from him.
The signs were there,you chose to ignore.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
LET GO OR PRAY
Hi Stella please this might be a little bit lenghten bear with me am writing this chronicle with an unhappy state of mind .
The guy I am dating he is so eager to get babies and he wants to get married soon ,i have tried to plead with him to be patient till next year when am in my 400level but anytime we make love he expects a baby immediately and one biggest make i did was I did D&C 2years back before I met him and I stupidly Told him so any time we make love the ring tone I hear is "are you sure you can get pregnant "......those words really Hurt my heart and we are just 4months in the relationship now ..
I just went back to school in a sad mood after visiting him because I threw up last night then immediately he said we should get the pregnancy test which I did and it showed negative .he was so disappointed that he didn't even see me off on my way and even gave me transport. He now texted me to send my account details then he transferred some money into it but Stella i think that's a good bye cash because I have said i won't talk to him because am sure if am in school he wants to look for another alternative. Please Stella what should i do.let go or pray he changes his mind .
Changes his mind about what? LET HIM GO AND PRAY GOD SENDS YOU A MAN who will not stress you the way he does.what do you think will happen if you marry a man like this?you will be crying everyday.Let him go