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Friday, 7 October 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CONFUSED AND IN LOVE

Hi Stella and blog visitors. I'll make this so brief and understandable.
I am a 19 year old graduate from a prestigious university and am
currently doing my masters hopefully to round off by February.
Here is my dilemma. I have always been a good girl to my parents all
through my life and I have never given them any hassle whatsoever. It
all came to a surprise when I told my folks I wanted to get married
since am through with my studies -like they always wanted. 


At first it sounded like a joke and they didn't take it seriously as they haven't
seen me bring a guy home talk more of talking to one.

Now my mum asked me to bring the guy let her access him for herself
and the next day I brought in my boyfriend whom I have secretly been
dating throughout my fourth year in school till now. The moment my mom
saw him she gave me a terrified look and I understood immediately.
Why you might ask. Because he is far older than I am with 22 year age
gap. I tried reasoning with her but she said nothing like marriage is
going to take place between the both of us.


I really love my parents and don't want to go against their wish. I
also love this guy so much.
I am seriously confused as no one understands me, even my friends and
siblings are at loggerheads with me because of this issue. I want to
know the ideal age gap for a couple. 

Do I sound desperate?

Please I really need your red pen Stella and would appreciate it if
you all advise me as your younger sister as I don't have any sis.
Thank you.


You are 19yrs old and he is what?41years old?
My goodness and he started dating you at what age?....Just how experienced are you to handle Marriage at this age?I know they say age is nothing but a number but that only applies when both have had experiences and come together to prove that 'just a number thing'

I think you should wait a year or two before you go ahead and think carefully about this oh..most age gap like this also comes with communication gap and break down and by then it will be too late.
Can you playfully tell him to shut up?can you crack jokes with him?
Is he your friend?does he impose things on you?


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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
A FATHER WHO DOESNT PRACTICE WHAT HE PREACHES.

Hi ma'am keep doing what you do best.
While growing up my dad used to warn us the girls out of six children that if by chance we get pregnant he will disown us.  We grew up with that in mind as he constantly reminded us. Any guy I dated I made sure that he is someone that will not bail on me when it happens. When my sister gave birth and came home to show him the child, he said it is because my sister is married that is the only reason he touched him. 


The reason for my narration is that my dad after his strict warnings had 3 children out of wedlock with two different women that are after 2 and 4 respectively. It so painful that he didn't have them with some one that has never been married but divorced women. This is a man that according to my mom when she was pregnant with her last child he told her he does not need more children hence an abortion which she refused. 


He is 24years old while the first of his other children is 9years. He claims my mum pushed him outside. Outside. He complains every time that we do not ask of the children up-to the extent that if we need anything from him just to soften his mind we'll ask about them because that became his mumu button. Before now he used to tell us that we should take care of the children but now he is saying that all his properties will be willed to them that he has given us education since he will not be around to take care of the children. 

This is a grandfather of 4 children. Didn't he think about is age before he had then? Didn't the women know that he already had grown ups before opening their legs for him and to the extent of getting pregnant? 

Or probably they taught they could get money from him because of the small change he has but they miscalculated because he is the type that can buy a full cartoon of beer than to give you the money equivalent. So now all the things we went through together as a family will now be enjoyed by his bastard children and their useless and shameless mothers?I  personally cannot and will not accept them not because its their fault but the mindset of my father. 

I have told him to marry the women to make the children legitimate because am just playing by his rules not that my words mean anything to him by the way. This is a case of do what I say but not what I do. My dad use to embarrass my sisters and I when ever he sees us with any guy except our neighbors which he will looks with bad eyes. 

 Please I need advice on how to go about it because all my siblings are still struggling that we still ask him for financial help. We suffered before God blessed. I know they have the right to their fathers inheritance but is too painful that he disrespected my mom a woman who stood by him when he had nothing with different women but these two felt they were wise and decided to get pregnant for a granpa. Please do advice. Thanks ma'am for the platform. 


Let me read comments please



183 comments:

HOUSE OF LAWOF said...

Let me read comments too

HOUSE OF LAWOF said...
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RICHBEE said...

The older the better but not your ancestors na.. Haba

Vivian Ezeadum said...

HmmHmmmm
I will be reading comments today

Quiksilver said...

Poster 1
Got Daddy issues?
Why settle with that agadi nwoke papa gwegwegwe at your age?

Hahaha, Igbo people, did I get the Igbo right?

Adadioramma said...

Poster 1 wait o, I still score A in Mathematics, is 22+19 not equal to 41? What da hell? Be careful sha.

mamannuku bagowner A.K.A Jamal lyon babe said...

Huh 41 years old man
Haba that man doesn't have the fear of God keh.
He can be your father. Shey people don't ask you if you are his daughter if they see you both ni?

Flawless BossQueen said...

So u r 19 and doing your masters? Okay o

Jasmine said...

Poster 1: he's 22 years older than u? R u kidding me? Ha! *shocked*

Poster 2: no advise

PLATINUM said...

Im honestly gonna read comments today

Blackberry said...

Poster one if I was ur mom, I will chase that old craddle snatcher with an axe, he has fucked all fuckable n wanna settle with a smally that he can play with her brain. U wait small, sex don dey sweet u bah?

Adanne said...

Poster one, take your time and think about this marriage matter oo, is not a joke you know.
I don't want to say you are too young but that man right there you want to marry, is your 'father' and will treat you as one, so are you ready?

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Poster 2 from the little I was able to pick from this your confusing write up is that your dad has kids with other women.
Let me ask you, why are you fighting a battle that isn't yours? Your mother is still hale and hearty from your narrative, why can't she fight for her children and what she deems as her right?
Work hard, study hard and be somebody. Your own person who doesn't need to rely on daddy.
Stop whining please, he has said he has given you education, be content and strive to rise above it.
You have no right to fight this battle. Let your mother who married him and has stayed with him despite his infidelity fight her fight.

Poster 1 The thing the guy is giving you must have gotten into your head.
19 to a 41 year old man? Why his he still single at his age? No kids or what? Is he impotent? Are you sure you know this man enough to want to disobey your family and marry him?
Think about this thing well else you'd rush out of it once you get in in a blink.
Marriage is to be enjoyed. You are still young and should enjoy your life while you can.
Just because you're done with school doesn't mean the next step for you to take is marriage.

Fuck you said...

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ANGELRAY4SDK said...

@1, what do u know about marriage and love, I really don't think you are matured enough to handle a 41 yrs old guy, I hope he will not turn u into a slave.
@2, tell ur mum to jazz ur dad, she should give him a love portion that will turn him into a zombie cos that will make him do whatever she says, after handling all his properties to u guys, then u an now poison him, end of discussion.

Miss Ferragamo said...

Poster 1, sincerely,that man is way too old for you,Haba! I'm with your mum on this one.

Adanne said...

Poster 2, I think you should talk to a lawyer or have a 'real' family meeting with your kindred

Blackberry said...

Poster two, since u guys are dependent on ur dad for now, just be like a green snake in d green grass until u get what u want. Those women r divorced, they can always t!ake care of their kids if u guys cut them off. If I were u, I won't care for any outsider when I'm well off cos I no send anybody message.

telema Cr7 present wife(way maker miracle worker,that is who my father in heaven is) said...

Poster 1,what are you doing with a 41yrs old man?
Pls listen to your parent
Poster 2,No comment

Jessy Oriflame said...

Poster 1, I support Stella on this one o. Marriage and relationship are 2 entirely different ball games. Even though you are done with your education, don't be in a haste to marry, you are still extremely young enjoy your youth and single status before you venture into marriage. Wait for about 2-3 years and study this man more. More importantly pray and hear from God, if God gives you the go ahead, then carry on but pls don't be in a hurry.

P2, I will read comments pls cos I don't know what to advise.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2,sorry o. But if I may ask "How old are you?" and why are u so bothered about d inheritance? Don't u av ur own life? Have you looked down on ursef dat u can neva make it in life? So what is wrong with u? Your father's prooerties are the things he worked for. Please work for your own. If he gives u any, good. If he doesn't forget it. Ah! What kind of story is dis sef?

salt E said...

Poster 1: life will teach u along the line that this decision u r abt to take isn't the best for u.First u r not emotionally ready, second the age gap is damn much u will think like a baby and he will think like ur father.Think abt it pain ur parents will feel when God forbid they hear u r not been treated as they want. Pls, reason am well oo love is never enough in marriage.

Poster 2: u will forgive ur father, our parents are our parents no matter the nuisance they constitute.But, the inheritance if any should be urs and ur siblings.I know u r pained but leave name calling(bastards) out on the innocent babies they didn't know their parents will be this shameless.U and ur siblings r grown enough and should be united enough to know how best to deal with ur father.Goodluck and be careful, remember the fight for inheritance doesn't always end well so it's best to forfeit when we have to.

Atheist. said...

Poster1: Are u serious? which level headed parent will condone such? he wasnt even terrified to waltz into ur home to face his age mates (Your parents)... hes even lucky hot water wasnt poured on him, you hv hinted ur mum the age gap before taking such risk..
thrs alot of question u shld ask urself girl, why has he been single all these while? why is he now in a hurry to snatch u away? does it mean ure the best behaved lady to cross his path?
You hv no idea what ure walking into, marriage isnt beans my dear, it seems so for teenagers till ure fully in... Google "Honeymoon Phase" and read all about it, it lasts for 6-12months but varies in individuals, really usually dawns when this phase passes, you now get to see the person for who he/she is... thats why lots of relationships dont make it past 2yrs.... am sure this ancestor know this, and would rather snatch u away before that phase sets in.

Blog Member Ibukunoluwa said...

Poster 1- I will read comments (bashing)
Poster 2- men sha

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

Waoh,chronicle

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 u try, I raise Beyonce hand for u
poster 2, u nd ur siblings Shd forget abt ur father's property, ur education is ur own property.

Becky Divine said...

Poster one..

19year old and a graduate, doing masters already. High 5 babe ✋

Back to your story; Honestly I support your mother in this, I don't think you know anything about life talk more of marriage!

Age is just a number they say but the gap between you two is quite alarming! Does he return your love? Is he truthful, honest and caring? How sure are you he is the faithful type? How well do you know him? Is he the type that'll demand too much respect and obedience from you cos he is much older?

I really think you should wait! Finish up with your studies and find a good job. Start earning your keep and be independent!
Give other men chance too, maybe what you feel for this man isn't love after all...it might be just a crush or infatuation you know. Cos you're young and inexperienced! Just tell him to wait, let him give you time to grow up first!

Time will tell if he is the one for you! Good luck

Tilly said...

Poster one the age gap is quite overwhelming especially as you are quite young. I wish i could ask why he has been unmarried till now and why he wants a lady this much younger. Is it a fault of his or not?
You need to go spiritual on this. Pray for guidance. And also look past whatever bias you think your parents and friends may have for him and try to reason with them and understand what they are trying to say. Then you also need to be a detective here. Dont be naive. Dig up info about him. Has he been married? Any children? Etc. Marriage is a lifetime. You cant just up and live. So open your eyes and see past the love you are feeling.
Look ahead and see the future.
Poster 2 i dont really know what you need. No comprehension. Sorry

Ayo said...

Poster 2.My dad is like your dad. Very foolish human being with three bastards out there. In my mind I'm fatherless.

Loveme Jeje said...

Poster 1 .... 19 years to a 43 year old man, kai you don spoil sha. Why dont you wait for small so that you might see your age mate. But if you love him and he loves you, go ahead. dont mind your mother.

Poster 2.... i did not understand your story. Since your father has within and outside, you all should come together and try and make peace. Dont carry problems on your head because you go just OLD.

Sweetheart said...

Poster 1
You really need to take a chill pill, whether age is just a number or not, i don't think this is a good idea. Not because he's too old but because you are too young. It's 2016 my dear.

Poster 2
I doubt if there's anything you can do.

hustle 2 get married no be here.. said...

God bless everyone here..

CherryCee said...

Poster 1- It's not easy marrying a much older man. Relationship and marriage are 2 different things. As time goes by, your differences will become more and more obvious. From movies to music, topics you discuss to friends to the things you love. While he is viewing life from an older man's perspective, he may regard you as a child. You might get frustrated or bored to the point of wanting to try new experiences. Can you handle all of that?

Poster 2- The truth is that you cannot force your father to will his property to you or any of your siblings. We all reserve the right to will our property to whomever we like..,Which is why I always tell people to work hard and make their money so that you won't be reliant on what your parents will leave behind - that's is if they have anything to leave behind. Get your ass up and work. Forget your father's own. Don't go fighting for anything. You don't know them or what is backing them. They may have gotten involved in one fetish or the other. Which one do you belong to? Or na only mouth you get? A word is enough...

Giselle Lawrence said...

Poster 1, wait small na maybe a year or two.
Poster 2, I'm sorry I wish I could give advice, but like Stella, I will read comments

Chidinma Gift said...

Poster 1 Abeg he is too old for you, follow your heart sha but not regret it later! Marriage is not as easy as the word
Poster 2 Just forget about your father and his infidelity and focus on being a better person, just huzzle and make your own money and take care of your mum

Becky Divine said...

Poster two..

Your story is quite complicating dear! Your dad is indeed a shameless man, who didn't practice what he preached!

Eermm I think you guys should consult a lawyer now to know your stand!
Then go to your pastors and seek their counsel, your day might be under the influence of something you know. Cos I don't see what will make a man want to disinherit all his legitimate kids for the illegitimate ones. It is confusing

But poster, I hope you guys have in no way been disrespectful to the man cos he cheated on your mom and had kids outside?? Even though you deserves it, it's not right disobeying your father. That might be the cause too sha

Whichever one you guys do, I pray your inheritance do not pass you by! Good luck

Anonymous said...

HEHEHEHEEEEE DOING MASTERS U SAID? So why would yo mum wana *ACCESS* YO GUY? Hahahahaaaaaa

Cynthia Iyede said...

Please listen to your Mum. Age is just a number they always say but your situation is different. In your case, age is vital dear. My mum have a friend whose husband looks like her uncle if one isn't told he's not. She has been complaining that she's tired of taking care of him cos he's always sick. It's obvious she married him at a very young age.
Will you be able to still love him like you claim when he starts aging faster than you? Can you handle marriage issues at this age? Please slow down a bit inugo.

nina chocomile said...

Poster 2 I'm sorry to say but your father is irresponsible.

Anonymous said...

Poster one: your parents are to blame. They rushed you through school and now what next? "marriage". And your mom is not happy about your choice. You should still be in university my darling. At 19 what do you know about life? "Nothing".. If you ask me. So go back to school maybe do another degree. Because at 19 you don't even know your career path yet. Don't be sleeping with a man old enough to be your father.

SDK Henchman said...

Good to know

Chike Anumba said...

Poster1: he is 41yrs and you are 19yrs. My dear, this is not love but child abuse. Are you kidding me?
You will never have a say in that marriage. Marriage is not as sweet as it appears at the beginning. Age gap of men to women in marriage is 10yrs max.
from my calculations, he started dating you when you are 17.
You mother tried ooo, just to give you a bad eyes only. As an African woman, I thought she would have hold the man's shirt and start crying out to neighbors that the man has used the tips of her pumpkin (onu ugu).
Wait ooo, did I read where you called him your boyfriend? Nne he is Parentfriend because he has even pass the age of manfriend.

Poster 2: no advice for you because I can't comprehend your write up.

Chike Anumba said...

Poster1: he is 41yrs and you are 19yrs. My dear, this is not love but child abuse. Are you kidding me?
You will never have a say in that marriage. Marriage is not as sweet as it appears at the beginning. Age gap of men to women in marriage is 10yrs max.
from my calculations, he started dating you when you are 17.
You mother tried ooo, just to give you a bad eyes only. As an African woman, I thought she would have hold the man's shirt and start crying out to neighbors that the man has used the tips of her pumpkin (onu ugu).
Wait ooo, did I read where you called him your boyfriend? Nne he is Parentfriend because he has even pass the age of manfriend.

Poster 2: no advice for you because I can't comprehend your write up.

Bella D Chemist said...

Dearest 19 year old poster, I second Stella's opinion, chill for a year or so before you marry your uncle bae. You are still young why not focus on your career or better still go for your PhD? By the time you are done you will have more experience and if uncle bae is still around so be it. When I was 19 marriage was maybe number 20 on my list.

Poster 2 pele o but if I were you I will gather all I can gather from my pale before he pai

Asa nwa said...

Na wa o. Poster2 pray for God to bless you so u people can take care of your mum. Forget your father's money.
Poster1 Don't marry him, you are too young

Ugochi I.j said...

I understand how you feel but poster soften your heart towards your step siblings. It's no fault of theirs. Imagine if it was the other way around? Your dad doesn't seem to be like one you can communicate your true feelings to. But try AND let him know the hurt you feel so you can get closure. Yes he set some double standards ,but I'm sure he wanted you and your sister's to reach your full potentials without the complications that arises with an out of wedlock pregnancy or baby. Understand that and see the good intentions he intended. I wish you well. And free yourself from the hurt.

Zinny Chocolate said...

Poster 1, you are way too young for that man. Next ten years he will turn 50something and u what? 29? Abeg have a rethink my dear, use your church mind abeg.
Poster2: speechless speechless, that's how your case make me feel.

Otaswifey said...

19year old babe, please give yourself from that your manfriend. You guys are world apart

Plus you need to give yourself sometime by building a career and go for your phd. Let marriage wait

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Poster 2,that your Father is a very irresponsible,sorry excuse for a Father.He even had the temerity to say you guys don't ask of his bastard kids,foolish man! oh how I hate men who allow their third legs think for them.
I honestly do not blame you for not accepting those children because I personally won't accept them if I were in your shoes.

He wants to will his properties to them? the nerve!! I can't deal with such stupidity abeg.

SDK Henchman said...

Poster 1.follow ur instincts disobey ur people if necesary but be very sure he is rich and a good man.Ur parents will come around if u people are living happily.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Poster1:please go and look for a work.... Get busy, start making money n men will be crawling around you.
Please, leave that uncle gwemz that is looking for fresh blood.... What was he doing when his mate were getting married?
41yrs old man is too old for u

St.FranKooL.... said...

#Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it*

Chike Anumba said...

Poster1: with all your qualifications you can't even hold down a young guy? My dear, you need serious deliverance because that man has jazzed you.
That man is old enough to be your father. I put it to you that the man is older than your mother, if I lie reply under my comment that it is a lie.
Blood of Samson!!! 41yrs and 19yrs, my dear, in 20yrs time he will be 61yrs and you 39yrs. Your children will be addressing him as papa and you mum. Check it out.
Poster2: still no advice for you. Your narrative is confusing. I don't know what exactly you want me to advise you

Port Harcourt's Finest said...

Chronicles of the secrets of the sand.
Poster 1 - I totally understand with your mother. That man is old enough to be your father. Imagine a man of 41 years still unmarried. Have you asked yourself why? Isn't it strange? Plus of all the women in thier 20's and 30's, it's only you still a teenager he has the hots for. That guy must be a loser and a paedophile. He just wants a child bride he can control. Is he a northerner? Or are you sure you're not under a spell or being hypnoticed? Please my dear use your head as you seem smart and intelligent. There are many mature young men in thier 20's and 30's like me who are ready for marriage and would kill for you. Be patient okay. Life is not a competition. I wish you all the best.

As for you poster 2 - Your chronicles is complicated and sincerely no one can advice you but yourself. Your father is suffering from mid life crisis. I believe it's only prayers that can help him now. As for inheritance, in as much as you're his child, try to concentrate on making your own mark seeing that you're educated and all. I believe one should endeavor to struggle for thier own especially seeing that you're a woman and will be married someday.
Family inheritance should be seen as a plus not a necessarily a must.
I wish you all the best.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1: I had my Bsc at 18. NYSC at 19 and I'm currently on my masters and married to the best man on earth with 11 years age difference. It wasn't easy convincing my parent. I got pregnant and my baby is my patents joy now!!!
I know this sounds somehow but it's the best decision I have made. How can u say 19 is too young to get married. There's no right or best age to get married.
I couldn't let my husband slip cuz he was the best I ever had.... I did what I had to do and it worked for us☺️
Sounds like me a year ago! Good luck.

Chike Anumba said...

Poster1: with all your qualifications you can't even hold down a young guy? My dear, you need serious deliverance because that man has jazzed you.
That man is old enough to be your father. I put it to you that the man is older than your mother, if I lie reply under my comment that it is a lie.
Blood of Samson!!! 41yrs and 19yrs, my dear, in 20yrs time he will be 61yrs and you 39yrs. Your children will be addressing him as papa and you mum. Check it out.
Poster2: still no advice for you. Your narrative is confusing. I don't know what exactly you want me to advise you

Empress CHO said...

Poster 1: Oh Noooooo.......22 years?
I am terrified on your behalf...don't try it at all.
See, you might think you are matured at 19, graduate and all but reading your story,you absolutely do not sound like someone that should get married now.
You sounded like marriage is the next item to be ticked on your check list. Your mindset reads, a degree, masters, marriage, kids, work, life as it comes.... but sometimes it gets messed uo and, with you not coming from an angle of emotional preparedness towards marriage with the hefty age/reasoning gap in the mix....it will be terrible!

Do not make the "Early-bloomers mistake." Trust me, you will hate your life coz you will have time on your hands to "Live" that mistake and there will be many things you will realise you've failed to accomplish.
Pls, don't rush into this. Give it a year or two at least....it is marriage, forever business oh. Don't jump at the first man, ancestor in this case that says hello.

You have a lot to know, grow.....infact at 19, you haven't grown a "life palate". You do not completely know your priorities and even what you think you need now can change into hasty wants in months. Pls, i am begging you now, and i do not even know you. Wait, wait, wait please.

41yr old man....you are generations apart in outlook about life and that man is set in his habits and beliefs. Why would he want a child like you if not to dominate you. Do not fall for that crap that a way older man will pet and pamper you and indulge your young tantrums....it is a big lie. A very matured guy seeking a young babe is first insecure about himself. There is a need for self-validation hence the questionable love interest.

Pls, be an individual and partner for a younger man than a puppet for someone who has peaked and is edging towards a decelerating vitality. Don't be fooled by gifts, attention and exaggerated understanding. It won't end well!


Poster 2: Your story is all over the place....sorry.
See your dad has lived his life, still living it...aided by your over-enabling mother.
Face your business, mind your own life and leave him alone.
He became this terrible coz his wife let him....now see what it's resulted into.
Learn from your mother's mistake, maximize the little you have. At least he trained you guys. Find a job, apply wisdom when you wanna settle down. Help your mum and keep the unity between you and your siblings. Peple have it way worse, stop chasing inheritance, pray for your dad instead. It is late to do otherwise.
Except you have a riff-raff somewhere trying to get you pregnant without paying your bride-price and you want to sample advise on how to confront your dad with it...you really have no chronicle here.
FACE FRONT!!!

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Poster2:this is what we call monkey dey work "baboo" dey chop.
I just pity ur mum in all this.
After struggling n suffering with him,he will will his properties to his illegitimate children😠

SDK Henchman said...

Poster 2. Ur father did the right thing by telling ur sisters not to get pregnant in his house .Infact I will personally chase the girl away from my house with a cutlass.Such a girl should go and live with the man that impregnated her.
Poster,are u after ur father's property?

Otaswifey said...

You make laugh out loud with your comment to poster 1

Iyke Emma said...

N2: Sounds like the story about the grandpa who was bath with acid few days ago in Edo St. N1: you're still a small girl... Listen to your Mama!

Anonymous said...

P1, be extremely careful. Was he married before? What happened if he was? if no, why is he still single at 41? And why is he going for someone who's not so experienced in relationships? For all you know, he might be into you because you are young and probably naive. Be careful oo, marriage is not about wearing a wedding gown and having him dance around you in circles like a peacock.

Ideato/ilaje blood said...

My Angel is turning my brain, I can't think straight.

Jesus

I can't even comment on this issue

Can't read again

Stella Help ooooo

Jasmine said...

Take time o. Wetin igbo people do u?

Anonymous said...

Enter your comment..hmmmmmm .

Mawi said...

Poster 2, I have walked in similar shoes & I understand ur pain. I was gonna give u a little advice until I got to this part; "...his bastard children and their useless and shameless mothers?" I'm sorry but only a wicked heart can extend such vile hatred towards innocent kids. I'm not expecting you to automatically accept them but to hate them? That says a lot about you.
The deed has been done. Focus on making your own money & quit this nonsense african mentality of waiting for an inheritance. If your dad was late, wouldn't you work for ur own money? It's his money & his decision & he has made it. It's either you try to convince him otherwise or (preferably), you move on & focus on making yours. Guess what, he doesn't owe u an inheritance. Like I said, the deed has been done & he MUST take care of those kids. Forgive & let go. Stop hating those kids if you want to be blessed. You will earn your dad's respect by doing so. That's what we did in my family & we are at peace.

Nonye Inspired (James Bond's Girl) said...

Dear Poster 1: Why are u rushing your life?? is it because you have a master's degree that u feel its time to marry? have you set your goals and aspirations? have you gotten yourself a job?? see my dear marriage is not an accomplishment like your master's degree..My dear you are just 19, u have a whole lot ahead of you..your parents mean well for us. don't feel wise in your own eyes..41yrs old man is way old for you, don't be carried away by age is nothing but a number..Like Stella said''is he your friend, can u comfortably call him playfully ''see your big head'' without having issues..Tread with caution..Dey no dey mark latecomer for marriage.

Dear Poster 2: Poster I understand how u feel but unfortunately, this doesn't concern you much about how your father chose to live his life..What matters now is your own life and you are mature enough to understand things better for yourself..You are not compulsion to cater for his stepchildren instead be nice to them when around, show them love, treat your father with respect..I tell you,he will regret treating you people later, take care of mumsy and give her hope that you raise above this challenges..it will end in praise..let me part with this''anything we hate, we become but anything we love, we overcome''...

Anonymous said...

Poster 2 please it's not by force to send Chronicles. Even Stella became tired and replied with let her read comments. Hahahahaha.

Poster 1, if you were my child, I'll book you in for deliverance. You are a graduate yet you write "access him" instead of ASSESS. Go back to school biko!

Anonymous said...

Poster one leave that uncle alone,u still have a long way to go.
Poster 2you know u can't do anything Sha so the little you are getting from your dad u should start investing in profitable business.some have dads who don't spend shishi on them,some don't even have yet they strive to make it on their own.

Anonymous said...

James,i missed you

Chike Anumba said...

Poster 2: forget the comments that the two women jazzed your father. If he is under a spell he will only concentrate on one party and not the two. But from the little I can gather from your confusing write up, you and your siblings might be disrespecting your father, that is why he don't need anyone of you to inherit his properties.
The Bible reads "honour your father and your mother so that your days may be long"
You and your siblings should ask yourself do you people honour him?

Atheist. said...

*reality usually dawns...

Anonymous said...

James I missed you

Anonymous said...

Please how do I go about mountain of fire deliverance service.

Chike Anumba said...

Lol. Real ancestors. And she even get mouth they call her grandpa boyfriend

Anonymous said...

Why you no go for 22 years gap??? Why 11? Goat. All these old men stealing foetuses from families in the name of marriage, are pedophiles

Chike Anumba said...

100% correct

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, someone in your village has cursed your parents that you'll shame them. Hence you falling for a grandfather

Chike Anumba said...

Madam receive Jesus. Poison him because of money.
Lol

Anonymous said...

Aunty,you will read comments bashing..men sha..just look at you.Can't you think and make resoanble contributions? This is a blog, yes, but its also an avenue for reasoning. Nawa to u oo

Chiamaka L said...

you do not have any right to insult the mother of those kids and much less the innocent kids. Your mum can have a say but please... not you, If you do not want to take care of them, good and fine. You father is still alive and you are worried about who will get what? Please, set your priorities straight. I am not saying you must/ should accept the kids but just let it be. Meanwhile, why are you looking for what to inherit? are you disabled? work and earn for yourself

Anonymous said...

And you too

Anonymous said...

Mumu poster 1,despite attending a 'prestigious school', u can't differentiate between assess n access.na to fuck old man u know. Olosho

Chike Anumba said...

The father of poster2 is not under any charm. Maybe the poster and the siblings are disrespecting the man

Muna said...

Just imagining how I will feel if my dad has children asides my siblings. Mehn! Ur dad sure has money, if e no get, them No go trouble for inheritance. No be person wey get property dey share property?

Anonymous said...

Linda eze's wretched parents condoned such.when hunger wan finish them

Atheist. said...

Don't mind the teenager....
I wonder how they'd be compatible....
When he'd be listening to the music of ABBA, Elvis presley, or Tina turner, she'd be frowning cus she'd rather listen to Beyonce, Drake, or Rihanna...
When he's glued to the TV watching The Godfather or Grease (1978)... She'd be bored cus she'd rather watch Telemundo or Empire series.
When his comedy jokes will be from Bill cosby and Seinfeld, she'd just keep a straight face, cus its just Kevin Hart or Basket mouth that she can relate to..... And lots more... Its just the sex & positions that never gets old, same routine, diffrent pussy/dick size.

missamusa said...

Welcome to my world sweetie. E go better. I wonder why grown ass men behave like that though.

Anonymous said...

Lol,so funny but true

World People said...

Poster 1; by the time your are just 49, that man would be 72 and Approaching the grave .... loneliness would kill you after he dies...cos then u will have no one to grow old with . Ur kids would abandon you to start their lives and u will bite ur hand in regret .

Poster2 : my dad always said he owed us nothing but education , and we should not even think of inheriting his properties . With that in mind , everyone is hustling o ... he owes us nothing... u better remove ur eye from his properties . It's his , and he will will it to whomever he pleases .

Anonymous said...

Na yoruba demon una be na. Why are you surprised?

Emilia Peter said...

Let me read comments

Anonymous said...

Lmaoooo @ Parentfriend. Bvs are wicked Hahhahaaa

Sweetie pie said...

Poster 1,Biko leave that man alone ooo,I would have been a victim of that situation but thank God for timely intervention of my elder sisters.Today I'm married to someone 5years older than me n we both do silly things together. Sometime last year,I ran into the older man I would have married n then I realised the age difference was so much....his fashion sense etc didn't even appeal to me.I couldn't help but wonder how I would have been coping with him in this trendy age.
The truth be told,his sex life will bore you when your own sex life would be at it's peak.ie few years from now.....

QueenLA of SDK Baby said...

Take a bus going to Mowe/Ibafo from pen cinema or Berger. Then u drop at MFM. And cross to the other side.

Anonymous said...

This Chike sef Lmaoooo. Papa and mum loool

Wendy said...

Poster 1

Babe, don't be surprised if he already has a family somewhere, has been divorced, is a womaniser and is looking foe fresh meat to control.

Have u asked him if he has been married before?
Have u asked him if he has kids?
Have u asked him why he has not been married at his age?

This man has a story he has not told u about.
How active is his facebook page? How many pictures are there?
why is it so vague?

These are their attributes (older devious me), I'm talking from experience because God delivered me from such a man. He even lied and told me he had no children
But after I went to God in prayers, guilt led him to confess.
OPEN YOUR EYES. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG FOR THAT KIND OF MAN.
God will give you your own husband at the right time. Enjoy your singlehood.. God bless you.

HOUSE OF LAWOF said...

Loooooool

Madam Small Chops said...

*Hands on jaw thinking*

Anonymous said...

IF YOU WANT TO ATTEND MFM DELIVERANCE GO TO THE BRANCH OR REGION NEAREST TO YOUR HOME AND MEET WITH THE PASTOR.
HE WILL TELL YOU HOW TO GO ABOUT IT.

Mao Akuh said...

I will keep scrolling today.

delta babe said...

Poster 1 age is nothing but a number to older people not a 19year old.poster 2,would you have preferred he had the kids with young never been married girls?your dad is extremely irresponsible but that is his problem,pls forget about his properties,you should plan on getting your own in the future and building something for your self.

Slim SLK said...

@Poster 1: Just like the caption on the post...HMMMMMMNNNN! was my first reaction after reading through your post.
I once had a young female friend who had a very huge crush on me but as a more matured and very responsible dude, I refused to give in to her "moves"...she once asked me; "is it because you're 10 years older than me?". She was 17 at that time...my conscience would never sanction such an adventure.
To be very honest with you, the age gap between you and that man is quite large. What was he even thinking dating you at a very tender age... In your case, age is not just a number; rather it is a very critical factor.
Give it some time; maybe one or two years- truly analyse and have a full grasp of what you want to go into. If the love remains, then you may re-present your case to your parents.
Wish you the best!

@Poster 2: In as much as I don't clearly understand what your issues are; I will advise you not to make yourself a judge over your father's matter. He is at liberty to do whatever he so desires with his properties. Rather you should strive to become successful in your chosen path and impact people around you positively. If there's need to still leverage his support; he's your father... DON'T CREATE ENMITY WHERE NON-EXIST!

Anonymous said...

What grandfather , he is 41. What does she have to do with a happy marriage. People of the world sha.

Becky Divine said...

Lmao @parent friend
You are mouthed oo kwakwakwa

Anonymous said...

Is dis Chike Anumba or new james???? Ideato u don finally catch maga for dis stella blog?hmm!oluwa is really involved!i hope u wld not be in a hurry to gbensh dis ur new maga o!tell him to put a ring on it first o!time nor de for u o!u knw ur biological clock is seriously ticking!i wsh u goodluck sha!

Becky Divine said...

Chile will not kill me today too hahahaha

Wait! James is this your new ID πŸ’ƒ

Becky Divine said...

Anon 16:04 how you take know say na James be this?
Are you SDK herself? πŸ™ŠπŸ™Š

Alabi Ganiyat said...

Seconded

anonymous said...

Mama poster one so of all the young men in this world,you hav decided to follow ur fathers mate nd u cal it Luv! Ur head dey tanana! Wen e clear,u will see u will knw!

redbotafly said...

Poster 1 y d rush to get married?
Poster 2 u sound so rude.
U r also very lazy dts y u r hopin on his inheritance.those kids vnt done anytin wrong so let dem be n stop hatin.
Y r u fightin ur mums battle?is it ur own?
Go n luk for sometin to do n stop callin those kids bastards.u ve same blood n theres notin u can do abt it.
Those kids ur callin bastards wil one day be d ones u luk up to.

Fifi said...

Poster 1, in my opinion the age gap is too much, it won't be a problem now, it is much later when he gets much older that the problems ll start. To be safe, give yourself another year or 2, during that time try very much to have an open mind, you just might meet someone closer to your age.

Poster 2, you sound so angry and bitter. Life is really not as simple as all you have narrated up there. Your father is not perfect, far from it but he is still your father, as ordained by God. His stance on pre-marital pregnancies for his daughters was after all quite right, that he refused to take his own advice is his problem not yours. You are taking poison and hoping someone else dies, pls have a rethink, ask God to help you forgive him. No one knows tomorrow, your step siblings can become your destiny helper as God uses d foolish things to confound the wise. Be wise! This battle is not yours and is really not necessary sef. I know how disappointing and devastating it can be but for Gods sake, forgive completely and embrace your siblings so God can be pleased with you.

Sharon Aminu said...

P1,that man start dating u when u were 15 thats child abuses, after marrying u he will jump to another child or ur child to fuck.receive sense. P2 ur father is wicked,just kill him before he write his will.and love those children it is not their faults but their parents.

Anonymous said...

Best advice for p2

Anonymous said...

What's the fuss. I'm 18 years older than my girl friend and we relate very well.

Dauntless Cersei said...

Poster 1: please forget about that man immediately. Jesus....41 and 19. If I were your mum, I would have dressed up in Igbo wrapper, then invite two 41 years old men to accompany me to his house, I will beg him to leave my daughter alone and then the men will tell him how old their own children are and what they have accomplished at 41. I have a feeling your parent friend is from Nnewi in Anambra state, peodophiles everywhere looking for naive children to devour. If you do your findings well, am sure he has dated a zillion girls and now wants to settle with you cos you are a smallie that he can deceive and lie easily to. Biko ho for another masters abroad or find a paying job, MRS no be accomplishment oh.

Poster 2: I couldn't read everything, too long and almost incomprehensible. Please abide by world people's advice and face your job and life. Your father has given you a BSc. Use it wisely and stop looking for inheritance

Mini Me said...

Thank you Atheist for summing it up. Poster 1, please be wise.

Affiong Uyah said...

P1: I have no advice for u but questions. Say d truth biko. Hw cn u be 19yrs n doing ur masters now? Did u start schooling from ur moda's worm? Or is naija nt practicing 6-3-3-4 system of education again? The truth is there's more 2 ds ur story than wat u wrote over there maybe age is d minor issue.
P2: Except u guys gives him d go ahead before he'll there willed all his properties to them.

Hawt mama said...

Both post are about ancestorial boy friendship, is it a coincidence or what? Anyway poster 1, I don't think you have experienced enough in life to marry such a guy.
Poster 2, I don't know what to say.

mary chukwuka said...

Y will I even date somebody that is 22 years older than I am let alone marrying,odikwa very risky...

Tilly said...

Its guys like you that call girls prostitutes at the slightest opportunity.

She Listens said...

Hahaha. Very funny.

Tilly said...

But i love godfather...infact the soundtrack is my ringtone. Am addicted to d movie. And dont get me started with Grease...Sandy...lol

Anonymous said...

My thoughts exactly on poster 2. Children who feel they should get involved with their parents marriage. Why fight your mothers battles? And why lose sleep over inheritance that isn't even yet yours? Do you know whether God will bless you so much that your whatever your dad leaves will be peanuts compared to what you have? My dad was polygamous and left nothing for us female children when he died. His philosophy was female children will get married and therefore sent us only to teacher training. He said females are better off as teachers. He left everything to his male children whom he sent to Universities outside the Country. Well God blessed me beyond my expectation. I went into trading and God blessed me abundantly. Then the man I got married to became a prominent person in Society (if I mention my name you will know me immediately). Besides, the properties I alone own today are five times more than what my father left behind put together! So stop whining and looking at your dads properties. Face your own life
Poster 1. Age gap of 22? What is going on in your mind? Do you think marriage is for children? I'm sure the man is putting pressure on you that's why. If not, you are just flowering. Enjoy your youth. You graduated early. Follow your career first. Give other men an opportunity to date you. You will probably change your mind...

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, I pity you. If your parents like you , they should ban you from dating your grandpa. See your mouth like you want to marry! You think marriage is a game?

Anonymous said...

So poster 1, the man has been dating you since you were 16 or what? Do you guys have sex? He is a paedophile and you should be scared for your future daughters if you plan on marrying your ancestor

QueenLA of SDK Baby said...

My dear poster1 I got married at your age. I'm doing my masters at 21! Although my hubby is 11 years older though.
My parent agreed finally after I got pregnant! Lol... 'Twas hard but it's the best decision I have ever made and I'm happy☺️

Starjoy said...

Poster1 what are you thinking of marrying a man with that age gape? Don't even try it, listen to your parents tell him to look for his age mate to marry. Poster2 Try to work hard and stand on your own and stop longing your neck for my papa property.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 in plain words, do not marry that old man you call a boyfriend for the sake of your peace and the sacrifices of your parents. Something is not right about that man

Poster 2 I can imagine how you feel about him betraying your mum but what if he had left her and you guys? What if he hasn't betrayed her but he's a broke man and couldn't afford to give you and your siblings education? All man for himself, who you are or will be shouldn't be as a result of what you inherited or not. Strive to excel and do better than whoever gets his inheritance

MrsBee

zinny uwalaka said...

Seat down dey read be my name today. family palaver oya oooo

Elaine said...

Op one, please try and get a job after your masters program and have other male friends. I am sure you will look back at this time and wonder what you were thinking.

Elaine said...

Hahahhahahhahaha
Na real parent friend!

Anonymous said...

You again! Hahahhahhaha

Anonymous said...

I think you both have different experiences. Op sounds immature. Besides 22years is too wide a gap!

Anonymous said...

Best advice so far.

Anonymous said...

1. 'You couldn't let your husband slip, he was the best' meaning at age 19, you were already sampling men.
2. It's the best decision you'very made maube because you are happy as a housewife who can't even have friends cos you husband is thinking they will spoil you for him. Have you asked the poster if she is ready to be caged like you?
3. Yes, it takes maturity to marry and maturity comes with age (though you could be old and still refuse to mature).
Anyway poster, if you drcide to marry him, ask the following people and they will give you tips on how to cope:
Sexiest mum
Quinn and bus
Iwuanyanwu's wife
Dabota (though I don't think you should take hers seriously).

FINALLY, GIRLS WHO MARRY GRANNIES AND STSY ARE GIRLS FROM WRETCHED HOMES AND MUST BEAR ALL KINDS OF SUFFERING JUST TO SEND MONEY HOME. THOSE THAT HAVE COMFORTABLE PARENTS (DABOTA) WHO MARRY BECAUSE OF LONGER THROAT DON'T LAST IN THE MARRIAGE.
Send your wedding night brouhaha soonest.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1, if you decide to marry him, ask the following people and they will give you tips on how to cope with a granny as a hubby:
Sexiest mum
Queen and bus
Iwuanyanwu's wife
Dabota (though I don't think you should take hers seriously).

GIRLS WHO MARRY GRANNIES AND STAY ARE GIRLS FROM WRETCHED HOMES AND MUST BEAR ALL KINDS OF SUFFERING JUST TO SEND MONEY HOME. THOSE THAT HAVE COMFORTABLE PARENTS (DABOTA) WHO MARRY BECAUSE OF LONGER THROAT DON'T LAST IN THE MARRIAGE.
Send your wedding night brouhaha soonest.

Anonymous said...

Lol..me sef dey wonder

Anonymous said...

Hi stella. thanks so much for publishing my story. i will adhere to your advise and do exactly as instructed. Thanks to you all who advised without insulting or bashing me in a harsh manner.For those who bashed me thank you.

HRH.Oluwadamilola Banjo said...

He will just turn her into an househelp!! She wee just be cooking ND doing all the house chores!! My dear poster..dont marry him!

KARMAisabitch said...

Atheist,I'm young but I'd rather listen to pink floyd,grandmaster flash and I looove elvis presley.Grease never gets old.John Travolta out-did himself and I watch old re-runs of Dallas.My favorite quotes are from scarface,coming to america and the cosby show.

What if she's like me?

Quiksilver said...

That you graduated at 33 doesn't make it impossible

Anonymous said...

No mind the parents,they want other people to envy them now the child is about to disgrace them,if she hasn't already by sleeping with the man.

Anonymous said...

Lol @ peacocks dance

Iris said...

Poster 1- eh yah. I pity your mother. ..so the man wait make your mama born pikin before him find wife? Chai.....

barbie micheal said...

Poster 1, I'm very sure you attended Madonna university..Is it his money? is he handsome? What is the attraction?? You say he's your boyfriend.. anyways na small pikin dey worry you, that man will dump you for another teenager once you start looking old.. poster2 your father is a hypocrite and an ashawo, I think y'all should start living your life,go out, meet people, network, and with prayers secure jobs,no matter how small, they are always a stepping stone, don't put your hopes on whatever he has, strive to make your own money and take good care of your mum , and when he sees, y'alls mind isn't on whatever he thinks he has, he'll adjust. Or better still, marry a big man

barbie micheal said...

Loool, Lagos branch association of people with ashawo father..

Nkem said...

It is very possible. If she went to a prestigious university, it means her '4 years' was '4 years' or even less. If she gained admission when she was 14/15, she'd have been done by 18 and could have started her masters immediately.

Nkem said...

Let me perch here biko.
Poster 1, your man is doing 'catch them young' strategy for you. In his mind, you are undefiled, either you are still a virgin or he was the one that deflowered you. By his definition, you are pure and have not entangled with world people. You are his prize, his cherished possession and his trophy. Just think about perverted northern men marrying 12 and 13 year olds because they are still 'pure'? this is what I see happening here.
You need to ask yourself if this is what you want to be. Your Masters degree will be almost wasted because he will control your destiny. He will decide where you will work if he allows you work at all. He will be so protective of you because you are always going to be a child in his eyes. Why do you want to start life with a man who has lived like half of his life? My mum had me when she was 20, meaning that if I was in your shoes, this man would be older than my mum. There is so much to say to you but let me stop here.

Anonymous? Lol said...

DG mama! Wa gbayi! Oro lomo!

Nikita said...

Anonymous, ur head dy there

Nikita said...

Chop kilzzez

Nikita said...

Lmaooooo

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Sharon she said she started dating him in her 4th year. Which means she was 18!! Abeg make una read properly before commenting. Jeez...:

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Poster 2- hmm..... your dad is womanizer that's why he always warned you guys. He didn't want what he was doing to people's daughters to come to his household. Won't be surprised if he even has more children. I know it's painful, but can you people just ignore him and those useless women? Karma has an address book. Work for your own money and ignore him.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Said she has been dating throughout her FOURTH year!!!! Jesus!! Don't you people read?!! This is a serious matter oh

Anonymous said...

P1: pls dnt make a mistake u wld leave 2 regret 4ever take tinz easy.

P2: my dear am speechless pls try 4give d old man and 4 d kids try accept dem dnt even knw wat 2 say

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

I wonder why a 19 year old girl isn't thinking of doing her PHD and finishing at 25 max! She's thinking of man and marriage. I don't understand.....

Chike Anumba said...

I am not James. I'm Chike Anumba because I am Chike Anumba

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Anon 18:02- seconded!! Who looks at daddy's property these days? You're an adult. Go out there and get on your hustle. Leave the man alone

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

If he likes let him move from mama sikira to iya bisi giving birth. Let him will them all his property. Your father is a foolish man and there are many out there (sorry if that offends you but it's the truth. Ignore him and let him do whatever he wants.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Na so them dey start. you don come find husband abi? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Oya join the line.

Ituru Mary said...

Poster 1 that man is using marriage to deceive you..besides you are too young for him..my dear pls wake up at least when you are 21: if you are so desperate ..marriages of before are not the same but if you feel 'had I known' won't be the case then suit yourself.

Anonymous said...

Parentfriend indeed! You no well o @Chike. Very funny

Anonymous said...

They are not bastards.your father is their father!

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, when the time comes, get DNA for those kids. No be every time grandpa sperm dey meet target

Just Glamour said...

Well said.

Just Glamour said...

Oh my God,Chike see me laughing any how when everyone is sleeping,which one is parents friend.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚


Dolapo Kosebinu said...

Anonymous 16:28,you dey mastubate for urr brain! Ode oshi

Dolapo Kosebinu said...

*masturbate

Anonymous said...

Ur english for poster 1 yaff scattered my medula.. so clean. I love you

Amacastel said...

Poster 1 I just discus ur case with my younger sis who is 20yrs & a graduate she told me to ask you Are u not afriad of dating the man ,how do u talk to ur father @home knowing fully well u fuck a man older than him & u should be ashame of your self being seen with an old man, pls leave that old papa you called lover,
Poster 2 I understand ur plight pls don't mind anybody telling u to over look ur fathers property it is ur inheritance the kingdom of God suffered violence& d violence take it by force thats d dangers of getting married to a man older & stronger than you, u & ur siblings have to help ur weak mum fight for her inheritance & right that's why she have you & ur siblings, u & ur siblings shld held a meeting plan how to make sure all the document of ur father enters ur hands, even if it means going spiritual cos if ur father falls ill his care & responsibility will fall on u & ur sibling who ar his legitimate family, the baby mamas have come together to confuse him with juju to make sure they strip ur mum of her inheritance cos she is weak pls u her kids shouldn't allow dt to happen ,
Solution; treat him with care make sure u pple monitor all d document to knw where they are u pple can pray if una get power if u don't have power put mumu juju for him to make sure his under the control of his family cos onye umunna ya gburu adighi awa na afa( a man killed by his family cannot fight back) ur father don't knw himself again No man with his right senses will give all his all his property to his illegitimate children cos he train his legitimate children to school ,whom did he want to train you & ur sibling b4 ? He simply did his job & dt shouldn't be settlement inheritance for u & ur siblings ooo. Stand up fight for ur inheritance it is ur right. Cos those babymamas are almost ahead of ur mum n dis game ooo b4 they kill ur dad wen they re done making sure everything ur parents worked for belong to them imagine reaping where they didn't sow. Wake poster 2 this is an urgent situation ooo. If ur dad dies now what will ur mum use to take KIA of her self? Think about that & fight but pls don't be rude,or shout @ ur dad pet him & fight as a wise woman. Don't allow illegitimate children take ur inheritance it wil a biggg slap on ur face & a shame.good luck . Some men sha so gullible like my dad.

Fiona said...

Poster1; the age gap is just too wide. Marriage is not a child's play.
Poster2; You dn't have to use vulgar words on the kids. It is not there fault that their parents chose to be selfish and stupid.

Anonymous said...

Pls dont kill us. Still cant get ova ur 'parentfriend' statement up there, now dis? Lmao

Anonymous said...

Who gains admission at 14? She no do NYSC? Almost rounding off masters at 19. Most schools in naija masters na about 18months o. At least 15months. She try sha

Aj said...

Poster 1 Please most men that are 40 and above and still single have issues and in your case, for him to have been dating you since you were below 18, he has more than just issues. Please run away from that Paedophile, listen to your parents, they've done you no wrong, they have the real love for you, not that pedophile.
Madam 11 years difference, stop confusing this girl, ur husband was just 30 and u 19 which is still okay cos he married at the right time himself. This poster's man is over 41, he's not normal

Priceless Jewel said...

Atheist be careful don't let me start liking you now oh! 1000 like!

Priceless Jewel said...

At 28, some people can't still marry a man of 40! Talk more of 22 & 42! Poster take time oh!

Pretty Barrister said...

Didn't she do nysc? She is doing her masters now and she is 19yrs. Nysc definitely 18yrs. So she was 17yrs in 400l

Gemstone Vee'C said...

Bia, chikito, are you that daft?...the fact that she's a 19-year-old lady doing her masters should ring a bell to you that she actually did her nysc. If so, they couldn't have started dating when she was 18. Read well before commenting!!!. Sure you don't even know what nysc is...ode

Dudette said...

Atheist I love ABBA. ..and I'm in my mid-twenties

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, I just can't help but advise you.
The reason is, I was once like those other children your dad has outside.
See, no one begs to be born into this world or into a specific family.
Yes, I agree your dad just like mine, acted irresponsibly but hey, everyone makes mistakes.
From your story you seem disappointed your dad did everything within his powers to protect and ensure you and your sisters didn't get pregnant while in his house (That is definitely the honorable thing to do).
I would advise you to stop thinking about properties and focus on your own self development as well as your siblings.
Yes it is a hard thing i'm about advising you to do now but if you can overcome your anger and disappointment mostly towards those children, everyone would be better for it.
You all should try and show love to those kids because they haven't offend you and you don't even know tomorrow (I dey talk from personal experience o)
What makes you feel that even if only you guys inherit your fathers properties then your life would be better for it?
Some of us inherited nothing from our fathers because the kids who were born in the house felt we didn't deserve a share, but today we are feeding, helping and sponsoring the same kids who inherited everything because we have more than enough (Na my personal experience i dey give you so o. free of charge).
Do you know why? Because those children can not be denied God's blessings just the same way you feel you deserve God's blessings.
So please i'ts tough but remove this hate from your heart and hussle for yours. After all he was responsible enough to give you an education.

grace said...

Poster 1,you will think people don't want you to get married but 2to3years from now you'll be thanking everyone.

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