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Saturday, 12 November 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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DEPRESSING AND DIABOLICAL SPOUSE



I need advices from your readers on my depressing marriage.

We met as undergrad students and got married afterwards.To be candid,I pushed for the wedding after almost 6 years of courtship.

I have been working throughout the marriage, acquired a Masters Degree and 2 Professional Qualifications with another one underway.All these was in addition to raising 3 kids now aged 7 to 13.

He however,lost his job a month after our wedding and his business attempt resulted in debts that was about my 1 year annual salary. It took 2 years of financial anguish for me to clear his debts in order to prevent his debtors from dealing with him meanwhile he also sold my only car without my knowledge.Another business that I established for him some years later also met a dead end so I gave up on him.I decided to face my job and provide for my 3 kids.I still provide his basic needs an even bought cars for him.


My source of concern is that he does not want me to relate with men despite the nature of my job.Business Calls and visits are greeted with suspicions and being called a prostitute. Another source of strife in my home is that I purchased a property from my mum near her house cheaply where I now collect rent annually.I also allowed my sister to establish a Primary school on another property pending when she gets her own place.He is constantly quarelling that I have placed my properties in my family's hands which he said is as good as throwing away.


There is nothing as frustrating as coming home from a hard day's work to meet a man who quarrels over everything eg. the way I answered him,spoke to another man on phone or on issues that happened 10 years ago. He has never talked about providing for the kids or home except quarelling about what I did or didn't do.There were days I thought of sleeping in the car or in a hotel just to avoid him. I have asked him severally to leave my house but he has refused that I should move out.How can I pack out of a house I built with my money?


I don't even want to think of his constant financial demands,late nights or the girls calling his phones. I don't want to take his issue to church because we turned to a topic of gossip when I reported him to our former church.His family is out of it as they are also no good.I have even gotten tired of praying about him in order to reduce my anxiety.


Kindly advise a depressed sister as he is also very diabolical.



152 comments:

Anonymous said...

Fix it Jesus

em jay said...

Fix it lord.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

That man you're married to is lazy. If he weren't, he would do everything in his power to provide for his family cos no real man will want his wife to be the main provider. His problem is poverty. If you hand your properties to him, he'll sell them so don't even try it. Next time do your stuff without him knowing about it. Ignore him. He's frustrated. Pray well too so rather than him harming you since he's diabolical, he should leave

crystal said...

Hmmm,

temmy yemmy said...

Tell it to God

Doppelgรคnger said...

You don't have a husband but a baby daddy and house mate.
You're educated and have money, please get a lawyer if truly you want him out of your home.
Hope you have the properties in your name else OYO for you.
Or still sell the property with him inside without his knowledge.
Pray fervently still since he is diabolical.

Now let me attend to this hunger...

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

Madam which other advice do u need, change ur security man and throw his things out of your house, report him to the police dat he's threatening u, stop giving him food and money,ur hubby is a lazy bad luck man, he will kill u if u don't divorce him.

Blackberry said...

Lol! So girls date broke married men? Hahahahaaa airheads.

Madam ur husband is frustrated!
Simple.
Be Careful so u don't end up dead.

Fan Emmanuel said...

Adamummy happy birthday

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

This poster's husband and yesterday's poster 2 snm chicker, unu agabu ogbenye buru amosu?

zion baby said...

Nawaooo

STARRY LARRY said...

You bought him cars and he's living in the house you built? He already sold his birth right and you've both exchanged positions. You're the husband while he's the wife, so I see you living as a single mother, with that you will have time for the kind of job you're into and receive calls @ your will.
In a typical Nigerian mentality, someone's destiny had been tampered with


*Larry was here*

The General's Wife said...

I am So sorry you are going through this.
I really don't know what to advice as this is a bit too much.You have really tried for him and Bn a good wife from ur story. But my dear as Long as God is on His Throne,He wil come through for you.
He gives us Crosses to carry. Maybe he is yours. Pray that He lightens it.
Honestly I really don't even know if I am Bn selfish with what I am telling you but my dear,Prayers is all I can offer. Like I said "God wil come through for you"

Please one more thing, try as hard as you can not to let all these bother u a lot.And one more thing,make sure you got your end tight.Documents,Paper work and all. And keep trusting God.At His time He wil make all things beautiful. Ok?
Sending you loads of hugs Sis.

Adanne said...

Women suffer since 1900 because of men...this is tough, he doesn't want to leave because he wants you to leave the house for him, madam, don't do it oo. Am glad you get sense.
He doesn't want to hustle for his money...how about not giving him money anymore, he should go and make money.

Have you tried counseling?
If you are not interested and not safe,I think you should involve both families or the law.

Please be careful, your life is way important, his kind can go any length to frustrate you.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

You are a FAT Aunty gwegz that forced a man to marry you so why are you complaining?...
What do you expect from a man that has nothing to offer?...
Why are you treating your husband like a house help just because you are the bread winner?...
Imagine telling him to leave your house as what?...
You are a very rude,stupid,frustrated old woman battling with menopause that's why you keep rubbing your phone calls with your boyfriends on his face!...

I pray he use his jazz to finish you and that your chicken change!...
Goat!...

white Berry said...

Madam poster ur success is intimidating him, I will advice you give him a second chance by establishing something for him and if it fails or he is still like this without change, then you fight for a divorce so you can at least have a peaceful mind.

Ideato/ilaje blood said...

He is simply depressed. He has good sides. Do not be a pain in the ass

Be patient with him and pray for him

em jay said...

I refuse to judge untill I heal frm him, can u breath in and stop bossy MADAM?

Doppelgรคnger said...

See how I used still to finish my write up smh.

St.FranKooL.... said...

#It's so hard to forget someone who gave you so much to remember*

Becky Divine said...

Serious gbege!

Madam you're now the man of the house o while he is the nagging wife? Hehe irony of life

If you really want him out, then you should get the authorities involved na.. after all it's your house, built with your money. So if you really want him gone, then he should be gone by now!

I think you're hesitating for some reason and you should check deep within yourself what that reason is and work on it. Maybe you still care for him? You still love him? You're worried about your kids growing up without their father?

If you do love him, then i suggest you stop finding faults with him, give him another chance and work on your marriage. Maybe you can try and establish another business for him? Just so it won't seem like you don't want him to prosper like you. Please give him another chance okay?

I'm just telling you all these cos if it's a man that wrote this chronicle, we as women will be advising him to give the wife a second chance! So now that it's a woman, let's give the man another chance as well... It's only fair! Good luck

JACINTA MBACHU said...

Diz One pass me oooooo

Adeniji Bisi said...

Thunder fire d man..

Mc pinky

Anonymous said...

My dear my dad was like that, you cant win ooo. Do it now, find a way for him to go or you will regret it. Rent the house out or sell it then move to an unknown location and buy another house. Its not healthy for the kids too and trust me you won't be doing anything bad. Don't make my mum's horrible mistake cos you will regret it .

Atheist. said...

Have you thought of a restraining order? i just dont think youre ready to get rid of him for good.
Women in troubled union are more likely than other women to be depressed. Plus, they were more likely to have metabolic syndrome, a cluster of risk factors including elevated blood pressure, high triglycerides, abdominal obesity, & elevated blood sugar-- all basically steps on the road to heart attack or diabetes... #Fact.
Whatever you do, try to shield your kids from being witnesses, kids remembers, the stigma & all.

#The North remembers.

CherryCee said...

If he is very diabolical, use prayers to follow him up. All power belongs to God and his juju cannot be stronger than my God.

I cannot advise divorce. You may need to tolerate him for the sake of your children. This is what happens when you force a man's hand.
Good thing you work and are doing well.
Concentrate on yourself and your children's future. Hard as it seems, try to make yourself happy. Mental illness often starts form depression and you don't want to experience that. If you die of high BP, he will marry another wife and move on with his life.
Its in your hands.
Cheers!

Imelda said...

poster you are the man and your husband is the woman in this your marriage. Na wa!!
You pushed for the marriage you see yourself..its being crisis from day 1.
I don't like weak men God knows. Your personality just ve to be stronger than mine.
Poster you are strong. You try! May the peace of the Lord be with you.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

This is a lesson to all the broke ass guys here looking for a FAT,old rich woman to marry!...
She will marry you and use you as a houseboy!,..
She will fuck other men to feed your lazy ass!...
She will insult you and insult your generations for not being man enough to take over your responsibilities as a husband!...

Anonymous said...

Fix ur boil and craw craw

IJAY said...

Poster I don't think that man is ur hubby,please be very prayerful ohhh so that his diabolic life won't get to you

IJAY said...

Happy birthday once again dearie, biko send my own jollof rice ohhhh

Anonymous said...

Nawa. God didn't intend for women to be breadwinners. It never works, a man will take care of his family and even his wife's family without breaking a sweat but as soon as the positions are reversed problems will start. Some women strive to find a balance despite it all massaging the fragile egos of the weak men and providing for their family but what do they get in return? Resentment and accusations from the very useless man. Some will even use their wives money to be carrying small girls and still blame the woman.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm dis is serious.sell the property.move out with your kids without him knowing.odawise he will continue so till he runs u dry.he is lazy.didn't u see all dis b4 jumping and opening your legs.?mtchww.na wa

Mr. Chopalone said...

Oh God this is what happens when a woman becomes the man....this is too much. May God give you wisdom to handle it.

THE KING"S QUEEN said...

Most men have insecurities esp when their wives are more successful than them. Don't take it too personal,he is depressed and frustrated. may be your prayer should be that God should provide a better job for him. The effective and heartfelt prayer of a righteous man avails much. All this whining will end as soon as he gets sth doing.

Jane Moore said...

I concur. Quietly sell the house and tell him u will move out for him. Pack to a pre-arranged place when its 3 months to the new take over. Forget him.
Hope u are a strong woman. Cos i dnt understand why u are even still living in that house.
Jazz? I dont believe in jazz

SD2016 said...

Happy birthday

Suwa Aneetah said...

Take it to the Lord in prayer. Read Psalm 61,51,62,64,68,70.
Fast for 3days if you can 6-12
Daily reading:
Day1 Exo 13:1-10
Day2 Joel 1:3-10
Day3 Nahum 1:1-10.
May God look upon you with his eyes of mercy and answer your prayer.

becky naka said...

If all these things you said are the truth, i'll advise you sell the house and buy another one and move out, and put a restraining order on him, if he goes diabolical on you, you do same to him,he sold your car without your consent, he can also sell the house without your knowledge. Since u have money u can lock him up and forget him there.

ten-twenty said...

Madam poster, your husband is the perfect definition of frustration.I don't know why I have this feeling that he will not let you go without a fight and yes, he is sure to fight dirty and diabolical. Divorcing him or separation from him is a personal decision for you and only you to make. Snoop ๐Ÿ‘€ his phone, get concrete proof of his infidelity, stand on it and cut off all forms of financial assistance, support and allowance you give to him. When you are sure his brains is in reset mode, then you give him fresh terms and conditions.

Priceless Jewel said...

Hmmm, Jesus will fix it because I'm short if words...



... Jesus is my worth!

jade said...

dear poster please listen to wht i have to say ...first make sure NON of ur properties is in ur husbands name if they are change it naw!!!! nd he MUST NOT be ur power of attorney or else he will just kill u nd take over...pls do all dis silently then gt a lawyer put ur kids name as POA then gt a divorce as well as a restraining order frm d court fr ur husband nd pls wt good evidence durin dis process pls pray cos ur husband or let me say "baby" is clearly jealous nd dangerous frm ur narration nd he wnt leave unless he has finished u ...i wld really love to talk to u bt for naw dis is my 2 cents may God be wt u

jade

Anonymous said...

dear poster please listen to wht i have to say ...first make sure NON of ur properties is in ur husbands name if they are change it naw!!!! nd he MUST NOT be ur power of attorney or else he will just kill u nd take over...pls do all dis silently then gt a lawyer put ur kids name as POA then gt a divorce as well as a restraining order frm d court fr ur husband nd pls wt good evidence durin dis process pls pray cos ur husband or let me say "baby" is clearly jealous nd dangerous frm ur narration nd he wnt leave unless he has finished u ...i wld really love to talk to u bt for naw dis is my 2 cents may God be wt u

jade

TRUTH said...

Did anybody else notice how this writer told us all her achievements but couldnt say one good thing about her husband? He is diabolical? What did he do to be termed that?
Madam say the truth, you just want to discard this man becos you feel you are an over achiever and he is good for nothing. No problem, since you want to throw him out of 'Your' house into the street(he is broke so I assume he has no where else) then do so.
Dont come on SDK blog to seek approval for what u already made a resolution to do bcos u know dey wld support u being the feminist that they are. You feel praying for him is a waste of time okwaya? No problem, when women are praying for the conception they start forming 'push until something happens' or Pray without ceasing. But praying for a broken husband is a waste of time bcos u have ur own money. Poverty na bastard sha...

If to say life be like Nollywood, u will throw your house husband out and things will turn around for good for him, then he will marry a younger woman and you will accuse him of neglecting his duties.

Good luck big woman

Anonymous said...

My dear sister, better go to the nearest ministry of women affairs and social welfare to report the here. I have been in your shoes and believe me if you want to have peace of mind it's better you get him thrown out officially. He does not love you and he's just a bully n nothing good can come out of him. Forget reporting him to church. Don't listen to anyone that tells you to stick to the idiot o don't endure anything. I set myself free when I read the story of Abigail in the bible. Good women don't have to stay married to stupid bad men. Throw him out and take care of yourself and your kids. I'm so upset imagine he's jealous of you taking care n helping out your family. Is it your fault he's not well brought up n jobless that he can't provide for his own family. He feels entitled to being cared for. He's a stupid coward. Please leave him o.

Anonymous said...

Odiegwu! The man must always be at fault!

Madam please check urself too. What makes him complain about ur relationships with other men? Do u keep late nights...do u have regular male visitors etc. There might be something arousing his suspicions.

Is it that he doesn't contribute at all...our ur just pissed cuz u contribute more?

Btw, how can u tell ur husband to leave ur house? Seems ur a very proud and troublesome woman.

Well, what do I even know?

Imeeze said...

I can just tell this ppl are yoruba. Anyhu, madam just sell the house under his nose. And get another place somwhere he will not know. Maybe relocate. But please be praying very hard o.

Anonymous said...

If u built the house with your money and have papers with you,then acquire another one secretly and move out with your children. Let him sort himself out since he has boils on his hands

miss Fee said...

Here's how to solve the problem. Get the documents of that house and sell it without his knowledge. There are lots of people who buy and sell properties codedly like that, even the ones that t don't belong to the seller.
Then when the sale of the house has been closed, find a day when he's not home and pack all your personal belongings out of the house.
The part about him being diabolic, put that in God's hands, and once you're prayerful enough he would always protect you.
Please make sure you keep photocopies of the property documents, he might summon families and elders and even take you to court, it would be the proof you show them the house was yours in the first place.

Anonymous said...

If u built the house with your money and have papers with you,then acquire another one secretly and move out with your children. Let him sort himself out since he has boils on his hands

stunning slim shady said...

Fix it Lord

Anonymous said...

Your husband has inferiority complex.H e is intimidated by you which is not your fault but a result of his laziness.From your writeup here,you have really tried to lift him up as a wife should do but obviously he is not ready to be a man.Instead of living continously with him in that toxic environment, I would suggest you separate from him.Get a lawyer to sort this out.So you can have your peace of mind .

MISS TRUTH said...

Another one painting herself as a saint RME. Once they starting making money and "ducking"other men their husbands become devils. YEAH RIGHT!

Anonymous said...

Who are the girls gbenshing him o lord!so this one will take your money and still spend on some oloshos choii.u are a nice woman Sha.try going on vacation with your kids or relocate to one of your properties and don't forget to change your locks. when he doesn't have access to you hunga will make him look for something to do.

Anonymous said...

I dont understand why some men will not harness the gift of a successful wife to build an empire for the family. I am a man and wish I had met a successful woman like the op, Together we'll take the family to great heights. Op sorry, your man us just physically, mentally and spiritually lazy. Don't think he has pushed you to ur limit, if he has, you'll definitely know what to do. All the best.

Anonymous said...

Let him v d house as compensation,leav him n build anothr1 may God provide for him

Chidinma Gift said...

Just go and organize thugs or touts, pay them well, pack every of his property let the boys move him since he has refused to move, and then report to police that he is harassing and threatening you, that's if im no go give them bribe

Anonymous said...

Watch war room! Hahahaha!but on a serious note madam u hv to let dat guy go! Hs a heavy Dushbag! A Dumbfuck! Hs even diabolical? Madam get a divorce asap! D guy is not worth it! D marriage is dead on arrival!someone dat is lazy,a nag, quarrelsome, abeg madam free d guy! Afterall u hv ur kids already! Marriage nor be by force biko!

Push up said...

Who are all these women? You don't know how to chase a man out of your own house, are the documents not in your name? My dear when he goes out change th locks then get body guards to wait for him outside. You can sell the house without telling him, let the new occupants do the chasing away. I can see you came to this world to work and he came to eat, as the jackky that you is na.

Mrs James said...

Amen. I think its better you buy another house a smaller one will do... And sell the one you built.... At least you when the new owners come he must be forcefully ejected.. And you pack small small.. One day he comes home to meet an almost empty house!!!

In summary... Sell the house ma

Mrs James said...

Exactly dear... She should sell it as i suggested earlier... Happy birthday once again Dopper

crouchingTigress said...

Is this poster for real?
Like is this story true?
Addonbiliv this.

Anonymous said...

I hope you are currently living in a rented apartment, that way you can move out with your kids and cater to your kids alone. Even the bible says "He that does not work must not eat". So leave his sorry ass, get up and help secure your kids future. Forget Diabolical, you are a child of GOD

Anonymous said...

@poster
I think ur driving him insane! Having no job is enof on him talk less of u!
I tink ur running ur mouth to much n its not good on him.
Now dat ur d 1 with money, I tink ur using it against him.

Well..ADVICE FOR U
Now its d time to pray more Dan ever, u no y, cos his DIABOLICAL ! U need to start praying for ur self so DAT any day he wants to wake up n attack, u kno JAH got u covered!

Gudluck!

Olori footwear said...

You are the husband if all what you wrote up there is true.. can't your he wife do something for himself? I thought people say men are the only one's who knows how to struggle and make money.. please let me go away

Anonymous said...

Make una no vex say I dey digress.
Just found out thatt my girlfriend of two years who I love dearly and who claims she loves me too, apparently doesn't love me as she told her best friend in a chat. Since I found out, I'm thinking I should also string her along give her hopes of marriage, waste her time and then dump her sorry ass. Fear women O!

PL THE GREAT said...

"Or still sell the property with him inside without his knowledge"



This just reminded me of one nse ikpe etim and Ramsey nuoah movie where she sold their house while he was still living there. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Anonymous said...

You pushed for marriage after 6 year. He was not willing to marry you after six year. Madam what do you expect?? He was never into you.you saw signs yet went ahead and married him. Now you're facing consequences of your action. You may have to involve a lawyer on this issue if you really want him out of your home. Goodluck.

Barbz said...

I think you should separate from that man,he has no good intentions towards you or your children. He is cheating on you that's why he thinks you are flirting on phone with your business partners. You have to find a way to make him leave your house,maybe sell it but be discreet bout it. You said he is diabolical,ive heard stories of men that use their wives and kids for ritual purposes, be extra careful cos that nigga can become desperate and do the unthinkable. Do not entrust any of your properties to him,and be extra careful of him cos when e don enter juju na game over be that.

Anonymous said...

Poster, wait for him to go out then bundle his things out and change the locks, also hire a body guard or a new security guard for the house for a while. I hope you bought the house in your name.

Phillip Difemi said...

kick his sorry ass to the curb.
where did they get this men that fight over what another human legitimately hustled for?

Anonymous said...

Compensation for what exactly????!!!!!!! Sentimental ignoramus!!!

Anonymous said...

Abeg sell the house and move too another one without his knowledge.

Bisola said...

This is what Yoruba's call oropesije.
I dint even know what to say. I think you encouraged him to be lazy by fending for him from the get go. It maybe Tom late to change him or complain. He has even refused to move out so what do you do?
Just pray okay.

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Anonymous said...

File for a divorce dear ,cos u are as good as a single mum

Amax

Anonymous said...

Madam kindly sell that house and relocate with ur children, let d new owner of the house evict him. What even made u to carry this kinda cross, Nawa oo.

MOST BEAUTIFUL said...

Mchhhhhheeeeew some men have no shame!!! Sell the ppty without his consent, seek for divorce and move on!

Anonymous said...

He has reduced you to his ATM card. You can give him money to start another business if you can afford it or get him a salary paying job. On the other hand sell the property you're occupying and buy another one without his knowledge and take off for your dear life....what is keeping you with a diabolical man....he can kill you to inherit the property and your children will end up suffering under the care of a step mom who will lavish your money on her own children. I don't support divorce but you can separate from him and let his people know he can only come back when he gets a job or business so he can take up his responsibility as a man. I don't understand why men just faff around and depend on their wives and then demand respect....it's crazy cos you loose respect the moment you cannot fend for your family.

Anonymous said...

Queen I thought u will support her.what happend?

Anonymous said...

Madam queen I hail oo

Rob said...

He would kill you soon . Run

Mawi said...

Hahahaaa....
I have always maintained that u are a broke ass, frustrated person seeking relevance. You just proved it. jealousy jeloma. Hahahaaa..... what a pitiful, worthless somebody.

Whisker Wul said...

The picture you just painted of your husband left my mouth agape. Bia, you said he refused to move from the house abi. Let me ask you a question, is d property in your name only? If yes sell it and move to another house abeg

Anonymous said...

This is the first time i have ever agreed with you. You have spoken exactly what is on my mind. Can you imagine telling that a whole husband to "leave my house" "a house that I built". Madam you have completely emasculated your husband and have robbed him of his manhood and gave him low self esteem. Change your ways, you are the main problem here,not him. Yes I am a very feminist woman but you are very wrong here. You have turn him into houseboy. Learn to respect your husband and stop rubbing your achievement in his face. Do your children even respect their father after they see the way you are treating him?

Anonymous said...

Did you just say "battling with menopause?You are obviously dumber.Gosh,go and wash your mouth and brain you nitwit.SDK celebrity, foolish thing.

Anonymous said...

Linda it looks like you are stylishly trying to insult Anna and victor. Why can't you just be bold and say it? Are you scared?

Chidinma Gift said...

Shut up already

Anonymous said...

Wait oo..inukwa somtin! I tot dats wot u advice gals to do? Marry n av side booboo! Inukwa somtin!

#feminist #calabargal

Muah said...

Madam the truth is a jobless man is worse than the devil himself. Just keep praying for him and ignore him. You need prayers. He can't just leave your house. File for divorce if you are tired. He will be forced to leave your house by then. He's just frustrated. Pls don't blame yourself for his downfall, if you do he will be manipulating you. Continue buying your properties in whatever name you want to pls

Anonymous said...

I am anon 16:33 wait oo...u guys dat r advicing her to sell d house, av u forgotten DAT d horseband is diabolical ? After she sells d Hus ,he will now use his diabolical somtin on her abi?

Anonymous said...

He is feeling insure bcos of ur achievement.pls dnt divorce him try nd fall in love wit him again bcos I can see u dnt live him.he may nt be that bad,just reassure him of ur love nd loyalty to boost his ego.try to involve him in ur business,nothing is too big to give when in love.

Isholacooku said...

Madam, the best thing for you is to sell the house both of you live in without his knowledge, prepare yourself another good place to reside, because if you continue with this kind of man he will later find a way to kill you inherit all your property and make your children suffer.h e is trying to make you collate all your property and eliminate you.this is the way you will go about it.

1) find a buyer for your present house or if you feel you can't afford to loose it, organise a fake buyer that will be brutal, tell him you have financial problem that's why you sold the house. Before doing that organise another place for yourself both don't move in immediately after the above operation, you and you kids can manage with your mother or close relatives with space for like 3month.
2) divorce him legally, get your lawyer to ensure you divorce him with court order ,him never to come near you.
3) be watchful because he is enemy of progress will always wanna eliminate you by any means.
4) after few months move to your arranged apartment and live good.

#Note madam, if you don't get rid of him soon he will eliminate you soonest.

Isholacooku said...

Madam, the best thing for you is to sell the house both of you live in without his knowledge, prepare yourself another good place to reside, because if you continue with this kind of man he will later find a way to kill you inherit all your property and make your children suffer.h e is trying to make you collate all your property and eliminate you.this is the way you will go about it.

1) find a buyer for your present house or if you feel you can't afford to loose it, organise a fake buyer that will be brutal, tell him you have financial problem that's why you sold the house. Before doing that organise another place for yourself both don't move in immediately after the above operation, you and you kids can manage with your mother or close relatives with space for like 3month.
2) divorce him legally, get your lawyer to ensure you divorce him with court order ,him never to come near you.
3) be watchful because he is enemy of progress will always wanna eliminate you by any means.
4) after few months move to your arranged apartment and live good.

#Note madam, if you don't get rid of him soon he will eliminate you soonest.

Jasmine said...

Sell the house codedly and move out. Let him face hardship

Jasmine said...

Hahahahahahaha!!! Linda??? Kilode? I thot u would praise her and deal with her husband.

*lips sealed*

Anonymous said...

Please I need to rant. Who has watched catching Kelce on E??? It's so disgusting how 50 women are crying to be with one man. That show is an embarrassment to women everywhere.

Anonymous said...

Diabolical kwa....hian....with all his plenty problem that his village people have given him...he has the gut to join orishirishi inside......your horseband's case will be settled in Shiloh. Please make sure you take him there. Tufiakwa.


*opens leg for harmattan breeze*

Anonymous said...

Oh God please I'm begging you please don't take me to where these kinda men are......haaaaaa because I am not understanding

diamond in d house said...

U took d words rit out of ma mouth. U pushed 4 d marriage, u didn't seek God's face n allow His will 2 be done in ur lyf rather, it was ur will, n u r complaining. D did has bin done. 4rom d way u sounded, u r tired of d marriage, u r depressed, frustrated n emotionally broken, he cheats (cos u said gals call him) which means he isnt faithful. My dear file 4 divorce n move on wit ur lyf.

Anonymous said...

Kwakwakwakwa....love is not by force na chairman.......don't give anyone hopes of marriage when you know you ain't gonna marry that person.....it is evil.....una doh

Anonymous said...

Abeg shut your gutter if you have nothing reasonable to say.....senseless comment

MISS TRUTH said...

Start.

MISS TRUTH said...

I meant to say another saint. Oh dear lol. Gbagaun lol.

General Zod said...

The jobless men here will find a way to blame the woman. He should leave seeing as he is no use to anybody. Nothing more disappointing than a man who is a disappointment.

General Zod said...

The jobless men here will find a way to blame the woman. He should leave seeing as he is no use to anybody. Nothing more disappointing than a man who is a disappointment.

Blossom said...

Give him one more chance by starting him with business again. But from the tone of your mail,i feel you have given up.

I know you have tried but before you throw in the towel finally,just try one more time. If you say he is diabolical,you didn't tell us how.

If giving him another chance doesn't work,then sell the house and move on. I wish you can sort it out with your hubby though cos I feel your success contributed to intimidating him.

General Zod said...

Read the story again.

Anonymous said...

Hian. Pack his things out n lock the door then change the locks. Imagine him having babes sef.
It may be frustration that is making him behave like that. Pray for him
May God help una

Anonymous said...

Read well, mumu

its me said...



Dear poster

From what i've read, you are really hard working and has tried. I think you guys need to sit down and have a longgggg talk. In all this up and down problems, you both are looking it. He is depressed and you are frustrated so depression + frustration = (you can fill this in). You need to talk so u can atleast start getting along. Also, you guys need to do that prayer together and pls give him another chance by opening another business cos if it's you that's on the other end I believe you would want him to still help u and not Give up. Plus pls hope all (most) of your documents are in ur name. U can also look for a marriage counselor also don't let all your achievements get to your head because that alone can make you feel bigger and behave somehow. Good luck

Anonymous said...

How can someones opinion annoy me so much? Truth abi wats dah ur name, is it that u dont have sense at all ni or to use it is ur problem?
Now give me half a reason why she should not count her achievements please.

Anonymous said...

How can someones opinion annoy me so much? Truth abi wats dah ur name, is it that u dont have sense at all ni or to use it is ur problem?
Now give me half a reason why she should not count her achievements please.

Anonymous said...

Madam poster,hope you're not shining with his luck sha. Na so una go de cry say dey don kill una,but spiritually,you're the one tying him down and using his star to shine. If not why won't you pray for him until something happens. Instead you want to throw him out after you begged him to marry you. Ngwanu throw him out inugo.

Roundabout said...

God help u oooo...... This one is just like living in bondage... I pray against this kind of hubby in my life ijn

MISS TRUTH said...

Stella I wish her husband can send you his side of the story too. This chronicle wives the kind of things they do to their husbands ehn.

MISS TRUTH. said...

Wicked wives every where. May God forgive you all.

Anonymous said...

Hack alert. Did you type those words in your right senses? Like General Zod said, you need to read and digest the story again.

Anonymous said...

Oh poster, it is well with you. Stay put, don't go no where for the sake of your kids (as long as he doesn't hit you). God can turn things around in your marriage. It's just a phase. Patience is everything. Meanwhile, look for in touch ministries on facebook and like their page. You'll find messages that will help ur current situation. Remain blessed

Anonymous said...

Oh poster, it is well with you. Stay put, don't go no where for the sake of your kids (as long as he doesn't hit you). God can turn things around in your marriage. It's just a phase. Patience is everything. Meanwhile, look for in touch ministries on facebook and like their page. You'll find messages that will help ur current situation. Remain blessed

Anonymous said...

Hope all those girls planning to marry broke asses are reading this.
Madam if you can relocate, sell the house, buy another and move out without his knowledge.

Anonymous said...

You are an idiot. If the man is a responsible man he won't have moved in to the wife's house in the first place. It's cos you have never bn in her shoes or under the same roof wit a quarrelsome frustrated man before that you can spew trash like this n blame the woman.

Anonymous said...

@TRUTH maybe there's really nothing good to say about the man. The man is just simply useless n you can't understand unless you have been married to one of such jerks like she described above like I have been. I have no problem with a man allowing himself to become the wife but pls if he can't cooperate n just be quiet since he refused to act n be the man n take care of his responsibilities then he should get the fuck out n not stress the woman.this lady is hurting but cos we have such a messed up society that gives all these lazy good for nothing men a sense of entitlement to all their wife has you are quick to condemn the woman. Is it right for a man not to work or expect is wife to set him up. This is bullshit abeg

Anonymous said...

Dear, I hope that house is in your name?

Chuks Bruno said...

Am a man and so I have this to say no real man can be intimidated by his wife success, in fact he should be proud (proverb 31). He is paranoid because of what he does behind you & he feels the reason you don't fight him even after finding out is because you also in it. My dear my candid advice for u is keep doing what you must for your kids and be careful of him, such person can kill

Anonymous said...

I'm sure he's from benin.broke lazy fools dead beat dads,cheats and losers.dump him quick and move on.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Chidinma ujo,I have warned you before to stay on your lane here you ugly nitwit!,..
I'm not the cause of people not patronizing your rubbish local decoration business!...

ukwu dimond said...

That is the problem when is the woman that take care if the home. I will Advice you to Stop being the man and start being the woman. You should try and establish him, your man is being lazy.

ukwu dimond said...

Queen and boss that was so harsh, the woman is on hot sit, please use some nice and friendly words on the poster.

Anonymous said...

Dear Stella pls post this. Ladies please don't marry a man that does not have a job but if you decide to don't cover for him. If pple ask what he does just say it as it is that he's still job hunting. When you cover for him they get lazy n before you know it you are working your ass off to feed him. Then if he tries to use emotional blackmail on you just ignore it Abeg. Let's start encouraging men to be men again. My mum never paid my fees once it was my dad's responsibility n he always pay on time. Only responsibilty my mum had was to buy you clothes once in a while which she gladly does but feeding, rent, transportation n school fees was solely dad's duty. Shout out to all the hardworking n responsible fathers out there may you grow old n live to enjoy the fruits of your labor. To all the lazy ones may God touch ur heart and you won't reap where you did not sow

Anonymous said...

I think Stella's blog is about women's life and women's world alone.. She should divorce him bcuz he is jobless, what kind of silly advice.

Anonymous said...

Madam your are the big problem of that your husband,
any man that loose his job or money after marriage are a spiritual problems
come from the wife,maybe you can check ur birthday and find out,,u may not
know or you may know it well,becos for u asking him to leave and calling him
diabolic make its look that u really knows alots and his destiny can not be
destroyed by an evil power,,i may advice ur husband to stop having sex with you again,
God will open his case file after months,,,living in bondage

Victor Emeka said...

Hmmmmm..d tins pple go tru

Ronalda. said...

‎Honey, I know the importance of financial stability in a marriage. I can only imagine how irritating it would be to come home to a lazy and abusive husband who pours his frustration on you. However, this falls under the "worse" in the "for better or worse" marital vows. You can't kick him out for bad behaviour and being broke. He is your cross to bear. You were honest enough to admit that you even pushed for the marriage after 6 years of courtship. He was your choice, no? You walked in with both eyes open. Marriage is not for the fainthearted, it requires a lot of sacrifice and commitment.

You say he is diabolical? You've left us in the dark to wonder and speculate, conjuring all sorts of crazy stuff in our minds. However, what I know is, a praying wife is no match for a diabolical husband. Prayers carry more weight than demonic incarnations. The only reason your prayers will not be effective is, you don't think he is worth fighting spiritually for. You're already fed up and have checked out emotionally, so you wouldn't put your back into it, as it were. ‎

My darling, let's be honest, there's always a reason to stay in a marriage with a man you love and there are always a million and one reasons to end a marriage with a man you no longer love. I'm not blaming you or trying to make light of the situation you find yourself. You are the one who knows where the shoe pinches. It will be a safe presumption that loving a man like your husband will be a herculean task but I don't think kicking him out is the solution here.

You will feel better and justified if we encourage you to leave, perhaps you need us to confirm what's already in your mind but please pause and weigh your options carefully. ‎He feels emasculated, so he acts out when you interact with any man, it doesn't matter if it's business related. Do you know that his erratic behaviour is only a reflection of how he feels about himself? He resents himself for not being able to provide for his family and he knows you've lost respect for him. It may surprise you to know that 1 of the reasons he has ladies by the side, is to feel "manly" and in control. Perhaps he feels more appreciated by them. I'm not justifying his actions, I'm merely drawing your attention to this possibility.

If you still feel inclined to leave him, try a separation first. See if some space for a period of time would help. Move out temporarily, since he is refusing to leave. You aren't giving him the house you built by yourself, it's merely a trial separation. If you feel you are better off without him, then file for divorce. You'll definitely get your house back. I still feel your marriage can be salvaged but what do I know? I honestly wish you the best of luck.

#e-bearhugs.‎

Anonymous said...

Madam, take a deep breath and rid yur self of all hurt and pain so yu can reason well....reflect bak on tyms yu dated dis man, times dat yu loved regardles, times he took care of you....truth is this life is give and take.Make yur husband feel like a man nd yu get a man hu would make meals and wait fr yu at d end ov a days work. Treat him like his d one hu blessed yu with d money yuv made. set up a bussiness and Both ov you shud see to the success of it 2geda puttinf him in charge nd busy as well....Build yur home d way yu want it. I know its nt easy but yu can do it, God bless you and give you Grace

Anonymous said...

Pls sell the house and move out with your kids afterall it's your house and I hope the papers was in your name. Simple. Be prayerful too.

Anonymous said...

OMG!!! You just sent in my story. I don't love that man anymore. No financial assistance, no friendship, no sexual attraction... NOTHING.I want out.

billy sule said...

That is the most annoying reality show so far

Lilly simple said...

HBD dear
WULLNP
Cheers

Anonymous said...

Linda, or what ever stupid name you call yourself, there is a limit to one's madness and you have crossed that line! Your madness is beyond Yaba left! If I write all the insults I want to give you, sdk might not post it. One thing for sure is that, you are a frustrated, depressed, unhappy and pathetic woman!

Anonymous said...

@ Truth is the only person on here that is been honest. NEVER listen and judge based on a one sided story! The man will have loads to talk about too. If you are reading this, I will advice you work on your marriage and stop looking for an easy way out. Believe me, nothing out there, as long as he does not hit you, have a sit down talk with him and make sure both of you are far away from home. Try 1 week and you will be amazed the changes you will see in him. Thanks

Anonymous said...

The Truth & Anon 16:33
Read again and ask yourselves if you had a sister in such a situation what would you do/say. Would u be this quick to condemning her while you defend such a man? And get it right, just bcz the society is fast to pinning everything to the woman like she's just has to be at fault doesn't mean men who go extremes such as this are right. As for you wanting her to start praying are u a prayerful people yourselves? If you had such a case wiv ur wife and she was all this and diabolical too would you say a word of prayer to God for a better her??? Instead you keep preaching d woman's life calling is to endure and pray constantly over a man who is determined to be a pain in d ass. Ps correct your perspective it is not standing straight.
As for poster you need to act fast seek God and be safe wiv ur children. Dont leave any stone unturned. Block every loop hole. Secure your kids future and they would need you to be in it too. Don't let any failed man manipulate you. May God give you His wisdom to surpass this trying time. If you are a successful person be ready to delete from your life any negative influence. It is no crime that you are a successful woman. And stay closer to God more than ever before and trust Him to deliver you. You can't fight this battle with human strength. Meanwhile ACT fast!!!

Marjorie

Anonymous said...

Anon 22:24
Read well naaaa! If he was just jobless that wan still get remedy but he also a basket that keeps asking for water to poured into it. Self he is diabolical. Must a man sit on the prosperity of his favoured wife? Y can't he simply harness her success and be the one managing her but here in Africa most of you just become sick and useless right away and then do all things just to drown your wife's success. It's a terrible mentality and it can be likened to witchcraft. That man up there has no problem but he just want to assist the devil in creating problems. He womanises too. Let me ask you if you had a cheating wife would you be a bit tolerant of her acts? Sure not. Ps don't come here and start preaching what you wouldn't practise. Just stay calm instead. Yes Stella's blog is for everyone especially those who don't have a voice and those who really need help. So u just stop opposing progress better still go and operate your own blog if you think say na yam.

Marjorie

Anonymous said...

Bruno
*Chop knuckle* Indeed you are one of them truthful men tho rare. Many would play cowardice at this narrative just to disregard the truth. Blaming it on Eve constantly. But real men like you stand up and not only speak the truth but also act the truth.
Your are a MAN.

Marjorie

Anonymous said...

#teamPrayerWorriors#
Pls make una make sure say una join her in this prayer to win the battle.
Although I think she should pray and also act by relocating too. Put the man in a situation where he too would sit up and make things work.

Marjorie

Anonymous said...

May God intervene. SMH

Anonymous said...

Olodo! If you like dey there dey look for ready-made woman wey u go wife later begin blame her. A man is meant to hustle and the woman is to assist but your mentor in the narration has decided to switch roles wiv his woman and yet doesn't want to assist her. Sef na which kind men dey grow boys like this up? Lazy bones get up and WORK and stop blaming it on Eve whenever you decide to act without your brains.

Anonymous said...

Ahan! Chidinma doing all this might indict her later on. Let her just construct a neat way out of the man's presence.

Anonymous said...

Sorry about how u feel. Don't strike back but work wiv the truth you have and just live wivvout her then you can get to meet the one who would appreciate u for u. You don't have to play dirty it might take you more than u can imagine. Don't destroy your good nature. Kill the bitterness your feeling. *hugs*

Marjorie

Anonymous said...

Good one

Anonymous said...

What are u trying to say? We are not 'understanding' you. Ps use pidgin if English nobler u use.

Anonymous said...

Poster leave all this long talk, my worst fear for you is that your headband is plotting to kill you and take everything.i know two cases like this one succeeded and another almost, the woman found out bit she lost at the end cuz she put things in his name from the terrible advice of his family and this happened because they said it would solve their marriage issue.
Start putting things in your children's names with your side of the family as legal and supervisory guardians and also write a will.
Men like this are usually waiting to hit jackpot at the end that's d only reason he won't leave, he's in it for property and not love and his family are fully backing him if you don't know, know now

Anonymous said...

Dear Poster,

Not everyone can understand your chronicles if they haven't been in it either as wives or having your husband's type as a father. In some tribes these kind of men r the norm (very common) other tribes they r the exception meaning u av them but they're not common. So the ladies here will advise based on what they r exposed to. U should listen to those who r from d tribe where such men r d norm because chances r we av had similar experiences or know people who have. I am one of such. Don't plan to sell d house just yet. Plan n start by praying n fasting, God will show u things. You will know the extent 2 which your husband has gone diabolical n how to deal with it. Meditate on God's word n pray in tongues regularly, u will become stronger spiritually. Your battles may be strongest at this point but that's because you're winning. Then Begin to take steps to sell n involve d relevant authorities n be pragmatic about d whole thing. God will help you

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