STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DEPRESSING AND DIABOLICAL SPOUSE
I need advices from your readers on my depressing marriage.
We met as undergrad students and got married afterwards.To be candid,I pushed for the wedding after almost 6 years of courtship.
I have been working throughout the marriage, acquired a Masters Degree and 2 Professional Qualifications with another one underway.All these was in addition to raising 3 kids now aged 7 to 13.
He however,lost his job a month after our wedding and his business attempt resulted in debts that was about my 1 year annual salary. It took 2 years of financial anguish for me to clear his debts in order to prevent his debtors from dealing with him meanwhile he also sold my only car without my knowledge.Another business that I established for him some years later also met a dead end so I gave up on him.I decided to face my job and provide for my 3 kids.I still provide his basic needs an even bought cars for him.
My source of concern is that he does not want me to relate with men despite the nature of my job.Business Calls and visits are greeted with suspicions and being called a prostitute. Another source of strife in my home is that I purchased a property from my mum near her house cheaply where I now collect rent annually.I also allowed my sister to establish a Primary school on another property pending when she gets her own place.He is constantly quarelling that I have placed my properties in my family's hands which he said is as good as throwing away.
There is nothing as frustrating as coming home from a hard day's work to meet a man who quarrels over everything eg. the way I answered him,spoke to another man on phone or on issues that happened 10 years ago. He has never talked about providing for the kids or home except quarelling about what I did or didn't do.There were days I thought of sleeping in the car or in a hotel just to avoid him. I have asked him severally to leave my house but he has refused that I should move out.How can I pack out of a house I built with my money?
I don't even want to think of his constant financial demands,late nights or the girls calling his phones. I don't want to take his issue to church because we turned to a topic of gossip when I reported him to our former church.His family is out of it as they are also no good.I have even gotten tired of praying about him in order to reduce my anxiety.
Kindly advise a depressed sister as he is also very diabolical.