STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN AGE STANDS BETWEEN
I am a 26-year-old woman in a long-distance relationship with a man I thought I would never date.
Its been 7 months now. He has been pursuing me since my first year in university when we met but I kept turning him down. However, I was already in another relationship then and we remained friends.
After the breakup with my ex-narcissist /sociopath fiance, I suffered depression for a year. This current man was always been there for me. He is caring, loving, very attentive, constant communication and has the good qualities of a would-be husband. He now wants us to get married but the last time I saw him was 5 years ago. It's not everything you believe on the phone. He keeps telling me he is the same person I met those 5 years ago and that we are destined to be.
These are my issues:
1. From day one, my reason for turning him down was our 14 years age difference and i never felt anything for him. He is now 40 never been married , no child. life has not been easy for him. I understand his need to settle down. But just thinking about it, if we have children before they reach college he would be retired by then.
2. He is only starting his career now as a newly admitted lawyer in Nigeria where he currently resides after studying abroad where we initially met. He is still job hunting. I'm already a fully established lawyer myself and have a good job. He has even partially agreed to relocate where I am just to be with me.
I thought I could overlook his age but it's disturbing me but at the same time I feel he is the kind of man I need. My past relationships were bad experiences. He seems different in a good way.
I know I must choose my battles but sometimes I feel like I dont want the relationship anymore and I know how much this man loves me.
Im so confused on what to do ..please advise. Apart of me says I'm pushing a good man away. I am meeting up with him in Nigeria this Christmas hopefully my perception will change.
*Age is nothing but a number my dear....