STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
A HEARTFELT CHRONICLE WITH AN UNUSUAL PLEA
Good day ma'am, your blog has been a source of laughter in my life, remember the cry of help I sent you? We followed your advise that it won't "fly" and left it all to God.I've been contemplating sending this mail long before now but I kept stopping myself because I didn't want any decoders but now I just don't care anymore.
it's a lengthy read, just want to bare my heart so please bear with me..
I met my husband in 2006, I just gained admission into the university and he just fresh out of the university, we started dating and were so compatible in every aspect, our sex life was so alive and vibrant, in fact he was the first person to make me experience "orgasm", he's well built down there and knows how to use it with his other body parts (tongue and fingers please excuse my explicitly).
We couldn't spend much time apart from each other, even when we quarrel, he'll come running to my place in the middle of the night and we'll make up with hot sex, there was even one time that we spent all day indoors, exploring our body and ended up doing it 7 times(i kid you not) I'm writing all these for the ones who encourage "testing" before purchase.
Moving forward... After 8 years, he proposed to me and I was the happiest girl on earth, I was finally going to be with my soul mate!! The engagement night was 🔥 in the process I took in and we had to hasten everything and became man and wife before the arrival of the baby.
While I was pregnant, our intimacy level drastically reduced, at a point we even quarrelled about it because he said I wasn't acting like a pregnant person that I wanted to harm the baby and all round I let him be...
I put to birth and was happy that I will finally have my sex life back but boy was I wrong!! It's so bad that sometimes we have sex just twice a month, yet we sleep on the same bed together.
I have tried all I can, I have sat him down to talk to him, he said he's hustling to make things better for us, that we have all the rest of our lives to have sex, I also try to tell him that because we are not rich yet doesn't mean our intimacy has to suffer, we should enjoy each other in little, money should not determine our happiness sexually because if we continue like this, by then we would be used to it and just living like house mates but my husband is not hearing any of that.
Bear in mind that we are both graduates and he has his Msc in gas engineering from University of Aberdeen but no good job yet while I'm a corps member.
I stay from Monday to Friday, longing for my husband's touch, sometimes it's on Saturday (early morning) that he realises I exist then he'll want to "touch" me and once he "cums" that's the end until the next weekend or 2 weeks later. I also do not like early morning s3x but I have to manage it like that.
I have nagged, talked, quarrelled, starved him when he finally wants it, slept naked, bought new sexy night wears but this is still going on. My baby is 2 yrs now yet I haven't taken in because the days I feel I'm ovulating and make the move, I get turned down. We are cool and everything, but the moment I stretch out my hands to touch my husband, what I hear is "baby stop now" or "I'm tired pls tomorrow" and by tomorrow nothing will happen. most times when i'm horny I just watch porn and play with myself to 'cum'.
Sometimes he isn't even patient enough to make me wet, hoe just struggles to insert his kini inside of me and once he cums, that is the end until when next he makes the move again. Other times I actually cry while having s3x because of how good it feels and how bad I've missed it. I really don't know how we got to this place and I have asked him what went wrong but to him everything is fine. I almost committed adultery a ago but it was my then 1yr old whose cry brought me back to my senses and I ran away.
I don't want to continue living like this, some days I'm just so moody and he'll be asking me what is wrong and I won't say anything because the last time I talked about it he said I was nagging and it was irritating, I felt so so bad that day, how can I keep quiet and pretend to be fine when I know something is wrong?? That word is still hurting me till today. Also when I remind him of the last time we had s3x, he'll say I'm keeping tabs or I'm counting, how can something so obvious be hidden???
I've decided that this will end this year, I love my husband and I want our s3x life to improve, I want him to want me more. For those who will say s3x is not food, please put yourself in my shoes and feel my pain. I get to gist, eat, laugh and sleep on the same bed with my husband everyday(naked most of the time) but we have s3x no more than 4times in a month.
Please I need advice from blog visitors on how to go about this. A good job sef will be appreciated as that is the major problem according to him. finally, I heard of something called a tantric intimacy chair, please can someone bless us with it this Christmas?? if that will liven things up in the 'other room'. I'm truly and honestly at my wits end and I want things to change, I want to be happy again. You can request for my email if you want to reach me.
Thank you and God bless you.
Madam sorry but i will not give anybody your email....I find it really absurd that you would be asking for a s3x toy inside a narrative.....Nobody should try this with me again.
Please people give her advice free of charge!