STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.
TRIAL MARRIAGE WITH LE BOO.
Your blog is superb. Please I need your advice and that of bvs. I have a boyfriend, he lives and works in Enugu state .we have been dating for 4years now. I'll be going for youth service next year.
Now,the problem is that he wants me to serve in his state(Enugu) also live with him for the 1year youth service,I'll be going to work from his house
( he will be the one to work my service) although we both agreed to that long ago but recently I started thinking if it's cool to live with him since we gonna end up together.
Some of you might ask the reason he doesn't want to marry me yet,the reason is because he has some setbacks from his family which will be resolved by mid next year and towards ending next year we'll start preparing for our marriage. If I live with him I'll save a lot( my alawee will be untouched),it will save a lot of stress also Enugu state was the only east I choose during registration.
What if I tell him not to work the service anymore and I'm posted to north
( which I'll forever regret). If I tell him that I have changed my mind he will be heartbroken because he has only me,he is not a cheat trust me!.
The reason he wants me to live with him is to avoid temptation, serving in his state might lead to my greener pastures because he will start meeting people for my work( in case l finish service) also the main reason is that he wants to stop his Godfather from using his house as a hotel where he f**ks his mistresses( my bf doesn't know how to stop him) whenever I'm around such won't happen because the man knows me and respects me a lot.
Note: My boyfriend's siblings and friends are already aware that I 'm going to serve in his state(Enugu). Please what am I going to do because I am confused right now. Should I live with him for the 1year since we going to end up together? If no, what about his feelings because he'll be very heartbroken.
Thanks Stella and bvs for your advice.
*Hmmmmm this is a tough one but what if you move in with him and get pregnant and he ends up not marrying you?what if you live with him and his godfather still brings in his mistresses?what if he doesnt deliver on his promises?you are so concerned about how he feels but what do you really want?that is also very important.
If you thought you were doing the right thing,you wouldnt have brought a chronicle here
Abroad most couples are advised to try living together before Marriage to see if they can tolerate each other...ITS CALLED TRIAL MARRIAGE.
Is that also now allowed in Nigeria?
Do what makes you happy my dear.....I am in the school of thought that supports trial living together without benefits for like three months to see if it clicks cos some couples break up after one month.
I cannot say anymore than this.