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Monday, 19 December 2016

Church Cancels A Wedding Because The Bride Is Three Months Gone

Hmmmm,I dont know if this is real but the topic would make a good topic to ponder on here....








I heard that a Church in Mararaba today cancelled the wedding of a couple because the bride was found to be 3 months pregnant. Policemen were even invited to restore the peace... 

My questions: 

what if the bride had aborted the pregnancy before the Church did the pregnancy test? 

Is the Church aware that many women are killing their unborn babies to pass their pregnancy tests before wedding? 


What about those fornicating long before their wedding but smart enough to avoid pregnancy? Will the Church wed them? 

Can the Church show us a scriptural basis for taking this decision? Is Church wedding even a scriptural thing or a borrowed English tradition? Your comments please!

184 comments:

Vicwhytehart said...

Don't mind dis churches n der propaganda...mscheww

Favoured Chick said...

This is a truth that churches should consider

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

Yeye church, I pity people who patronize all these mushroom churches.

Loveme Jeje said...

The church has a rule which must not be broken, so why break that rule. Good for the bride.

I know Redeem, Assemblies also dont allow brides to get pregnant.

Chidinma Grace said...

If u know u can't stand a church doctrine, leave and don't embarrass yourself n family. Go to d church dt will accept u d way u want. It's as easy as that.

Anonymous said...

Many churches do ask for pregnancy test (the test must not be more than 2days oo) in Christ Embassy, Redeemed same thing though I dnt kno their time spec for the test.

Blossom said...

Churches and their doctrines.

Good questions raised and we hope to get answers. A senior friend of our aborted just to pass the church's pregnancy test.

We don things to please earthly men and then still fail God's standard.

Mrs I said...

Who are they to judge!

GALORE said...

Yes..i concur..in my church,once you are pregnant...forget about it

Go to the registry and do your wedding

Don't think the church will do church wedding πŸ’’ for you

And in my church,three days to your wedding,you must do pregnancy test..using the church registered hospital...So,no magomago





@Galore

Monkeynofine said...

Hummmmmmm

Anonymous said...

Hmmm thats how my sister aborted her pregnancy becauae of church wedding. Now ttc no show

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

Nawaooooo

But were they not aware of the policy of that church?

Rocky said...

White wedding isn't in the Bible, it's a borrowed English tradition because back then, most traditional weddings had rituals that were not biblical.

...but now, thanks to the 21st century mentality, most of these none biblical practices have been put away. To me, the traditional wedding is the most important, then, they can be considered as husband and wife.
...but for people can, they should go ahead with the white wedding.

I think the church has no right to call off the wedding. I heard winners church do 'virginity test'

Chysugar said...

In my own church too....dunno why sef....
The bride price is d most important in Ibo land...wedding na just ceremony.

Bla bla bla said...

It baffles me honestly. The couple decided that they are tired of living in sin, they decided to get married and the church refused them. This church is now encouraging the couple to continue living in sin. It has no biblical basis. It is simply churches in Nigeria taking religion too far!! It is terrible. I am strongly against churches that do not wed pregnant women, churches that because the bride is no longer a virgin refuse her wearing a veil and churches that only do marriage blessing because the couple have had sex b4. I am strongly against them. Hypocrites!! That's what they are.

Anonymous said...

Church wedding no be by force Na!
Each church has it's own rules
You abide by it

Do Anglican Church wed couples that have been living together?

LAS GidDY said...

This is NOT debatable.

It is highly acceptable in Catholic churches but it's forever a NO NO in the Pentecostal churches.

Feel free to go and seal your marriage at the registry or join a Catholic church where a man and woman with 5 children already will wake up one morning and walk down the isle in holy matrimony(?)

*yinmu for Catholic churches

STAY AT HOME DAUGHTER said...

Church Doctrines. They must adhere to it.. Church rules and laws plenty.

Villager said...

Whot is ear to tolk abaut??? Efri-chosh ass eat dogtrin, if you fill you cant abighed wit eat, fine your ware.

Stella maris Baby said...

Not buying this story😱😱😱

Bla bla bla said...

This thing don vex me seriously!! What nonsense!! They should go to another church nd get married jhor.

Anonymous said...

End time doctrine.


miss Aboki

Adanne said...

Bottom line is....
NIGERIA is backwards, I don't care what anybody says.

Asoge Atelier said...

Every living church does not encourage see before marriage. In short during your counselling they will ask and advise you biblically to try and stop fornication. They will warn you that you will not be joined if u are found two weeks gone. Truth is at the altar. The pastor will say and "the two shall become one" two not three or four or five depending on the numbers of babies. It's better I'd you are pregnant to be trutdyl, go for your court wedding, come to the church ask for forgiveness and ask for the church to join you. You will now be joined as two becoming one..

Stella maris Baby said...

So they support abortion..
Borrowed English tradition..

Justyswt said...

That church is just doing know know. What stops them from just giving them church blessing?

De Unbreakable said...

Question 4 Anwser=Heb 13:4.

Question 3,Anwser,=don't get caught.

Jasmine said...

Nah stella, don't go there.


A woman that can kill her unborn baby just for a church wedding is a big fool.

The problem is with us. U know the church rules, abide by dem or out.

My friend didn't get married in assemblies of God coz the Pt test done that morning shows that she's pregnant. She knew but wanted to play smart. They just jejely went to the husband's church to wed. Same with winners, deeper life, redeem, watchman, chosen and MFM.

They don't wed pregnant brides.

Anonymous said...

World people, u like to test boundaries. If a church takes a stand against fornication and wed a couple who are pregnant, would it not be hypocrisy? D only way to determine fornication is pregnancy as many women might have lost their virginity before becoming christians. Why will a christian disobey God's instruction about sleeping with a man/ woman who is jot ur spouse and expect or get angry if a church upholds her standards? If u want to carry belle and do wedding, please go to a church where you will not be opposed and stop trying to blame a church that has its principles laid down concerning issues like this. We want to always have our ways and decide what happens everywhere we are even in God's presence, what has become of God's standards and respect for the almighty? Abi is it because of Jesus grace that we are taking God's patience for granted? He is still a consuming fire who hates sin, as much as he is a loving father who cares for us.

redbotafly said...

Alot of churches these days are being very unfair to their converts.
Why give them what they cannot swallow?
They are indirectly suggesting abortion to persons who want to wed in their church.
Which is the greater sin? To do abortion and kill an innocent child, or to wed an expectant mother.
I would rather choose the latter.

peace maker said...

This decision by the Church is highly commendable. We hv to stem the moral decadence in the society bcoz it's getting out of hand.It's almost like the days of Sodom & Gomorrah.No fear of God. Unmarried young people living together like husband and wife .So much pre marital sex all over place with d consequent high prevalence of STDs.

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

Please how exactly does this ultimate cycler work? Because someone just registered me now and she's saying I have to pay someone i was matched with first before I will be confirmed in the website. Coincidentally, I was matched with her. So I cannot log in to my account until i send the money to her. Please is that how it works?

jay said...

Aahhhhh!i have seen this happen o "i'm a makeup artist" by the way. Sometime last year,i took the trip to my client's village (in the north) ,cos that's where the wedding was held. Friday ws the sent forth event and saturday,the church wedding. Friday after,the church members come with their own nurse to run a pregnancy test on the bride o,only to discover she ws weeks pregnant,na so event scatter.church members told the bride and her family to not even bother coming to the church the next day,as the wedding would not hold! Haaahhh,d girl papa wan craze. People traveled from all parts of the country to attend the wedding. I felt bad for the bride.she couldn't be consoled,the hubby on the other hand ws elated about the news. The next day, they had to look for another church that accepted to wed them for a fee ofcourse!

I-cee Rachel said...

Don't mind them Stella, its this sanctimonious self righteous attitudes of the Protestant churches that causes most of their members to lead a false life. In the bid to seem strict, that child will be born outside wedlock.

AGELESS T said...

White wedding is a borrowed tradition, but very significant in Christian faith.

Church wedding is NOT for everyone and it's NOT compulsory. There are other ways to wed, in fact the traditional engagement/wedding is the most important.

It then means if you must wed in a particular way. The rules and regulations MUST be strictly adhered to. If the church says no pregnancy, then so be it. Does the bride want to claim she's not aware of this rule? She must have been told during counselling.

So if the court says there must be a witness before they can join you, would you dare go to the court without witnesses?

Or the traditional engagement says you must bring bride price before they can traditionally join you, would you dare not bring it?

Let's not be sentimental here, the bride must have been aware, yet she thought sympathy could be evoked to bypass the existing rule. It doesn't mean she's a cast away or she when takes her child there for dedication, they will not oblige. It's just that rules must be followed.

Church existing rules have been diluted long enough. That will serve as a deterrent. I'm glad we still have churches who take a stand without wavering regardless of the circumstances.

My take

crouchingTigress said...

Stella na u sabi o.
Na only thief wey dem catch be barawo.

Imu Wiya said...

Can the pastor of the church himself vouch that he is without sin? Hypocrites everywhere

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Twitter story again?
Anyway which holier than thou church is that ..... It won't pass all this Pentecostal end time churches.

Candy YumYum (MIND SO MILITARY) said...

its not by force to wed in a church.

NORTH DAKOTA SIOBHAN said...

There is a saying, "what you don't know won't hurt you"

Whether the bride and groom fornicated or not, whether the bride has aborted or not, thing is, the church doesn't know about it.

Pregnancy however, is a glowing evidence to show that they have been very very bad..lol

What I don't get is this, you already know your church is against joining a pregnant bride and groom in holy matrimony,why go ahead and do that? Church doctrines are there for a reason..i say, if you are a member, you respect that.
Either that or you leave the church and look for a church that their doctrines are more Lax.

DonMayor said...

Im tired of church matter abeg.

Teemahs_hub said...

The church would rather pretend, close their eyes,minds and ears to the hard facts of reality.They know all the aforementioned happens,but no,image doctrine of the founder and their personal belief is everything.Maybe they should also make it mandatory that one must be a virgin before marriage and put in measures to check the virginity thing,this should apply to the husband and wife.I can't deal abeg,this topic has and will always be something that no amount of justifying their stands would convince me.

Anonymous said...

Oh shut up

Ed said...

Marriage is meant for two pipo n not three... If they find out you got pregnant,they won't do the normal one again inside d church, they will do blessing of marriage in the church hall n u won't wear a white gown again. So I have seen before. I think church wedding is scriptural cos it was there Jesus performed a miracle of turning water into wine at Canaan in Galilee.

Anonymous said...

Every church has it set rule, abeg let us face the fact, even in my parish as a catholic, they dont wed pregnant couple, it is started bodly in the bulletin, you can ask for transfer of marriage after your marriage class oh, but the new priest started it clearly when he was transfer that he is not going to wed any couple with pregnancy, that it helps before to feel is the right thing to carry 8months pregnancy for marriage.

Anu said...

Spot on

oluwatoyosi said...

Stella if churches start joining pregnant ladies, do u know what churches will turn into? Yes people fornicates, and good churches are trying to stop that with Bible studies and counseling. The Bible is clear, I don't know why we always add our own. Man and woman. It's a sin on their head for aborting. 3months? Were the couple hoping that they will be joined in holy matrimony with a child. It's not by force to Wed in a church, so why disgrace their selves and family members.

Anonymous said...

The bride just wanted the disgrace. She should have done traditional and registry. Church said you can't marry with pregnancy, then don't carry pregnancy there . It's like going to NYSC camp pregnant and begging that they should let you stay. Why should the church bend to suit her situation? Rules are rules jare.

Candy YumYum (MIND SO MILITARY) said...

that's the greatest height of hypocrisy. now she is suffering alone. you can only deceive hunans, not God.

BEDS AND ROSES said...

let them go to registry now.

Anonymous said...

Very big fool! Rules are rules, if you don't like them, go elsewhere.

Candy YumYum (MIND SO MILITARY) said...

you have no moral justification to type this. with all the rotten tohtoh you fuck and gist us about.

Fierce of SDK blog said...

Sex before marriage is wrong. Having said that,secondary virginity is encouraged for people who have 'eaten apple' before marriage. Getting pregnant before marriage shows the bed has been defiled. God's standard will never change come what may,as a Christian, even if what you want to do is traditional or registry wedding you shouldn't defile the bed before doing it.

Candy YumYum (MIND SO MILITARY) said...

them no get compound?

ITz_Gee said...

THE CHURCH HAS NO RIGHT WHAT SO EVER TO CANCEL A WEDDING ON PREGNANCY GROUNDS I MEAN WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A THOUSAND AND ONE WOMEN ARE OUT THERE SEEKING FOR THE FRUIT OF THE WOMB THAT IS AFTER THE WHOLE CHURCH WEDDING AND YET NOTHING Y BECAUSE ITS NOT GODS TIME YET AND HERE IS ONE MAN SAYIG HE WONT JOIN A COUPLE BECAUSE OF GODS GIFT SHAME UNTO SUCH A MAN. ANYWAYS AINT NO MAN DECIDING IF OR NOT I GET MARRIED TO MY HUBBY NONSENSE . PEOPLE BE TRANSLATING THE SCRIPTURES TO SUIT THERE SOUL.

Anonymous said...

In Anglican, if she is pregnant. Marriage blessing will be done. My friend was pregnant before her wedding. Though, the wedding pamphlet says holy matrimony, the church did blessing

Monkeynofine said...

Marriage should be strictly for virgins in that church. .... Wat are they expecting after sextet GOLD

Spidex said...

Shouldn't be cancelled doh

Spicy April said...

Lol. That's how they try to complicate things for people. A very close family friend of mine was due for marriage. Wedding date fixed. And the church insisted she must go for pregnancy test in the church clinic. Hmm she agreed knowing she was four months gone and not showing, rather getting bigger on jer hips. She told her friend to answer her name and go with thr form to the clinic. Afterall no one knows her in the clinic. So her friend answered her name, and the thing came out negative. The church wedded them. In less then four and half months, she put to bed. Everybody open mouth. She and her hubby simply change church.

Rocky said...

So, they should turn their backs on them?

NORTH DAKOTA SIOBHAN said...

Double yinmu for your own church too.

peace maker said...

A step in the right direction. It's high time true Christian Bible believing churches stand out from the pack.

queen hadassah said...

Gbam!! My church will never wed a pregnant lady, that doesn't make my church bad. I know members of my church who got pregnant and had to wed in another church, after their wedding they returned and everybody congratulated them. The couple should have just respected themselves and looked for a church that weds pregnant couples.

But I know of one couple that was pregnant b4 the wedding date, so a day b4 the wedding when the lady was to submit her urine sample, her fiance gave her his own urine sample to submit and that was how they deceived the pastor....very sad!. But they later asked God for forgiveness.

Anonymous said...

Dunno why they can't be truthful. The money is to be paid to her. There's no matching anywhere. When you get you ur own downlines, they will pay directly to you too. Fl

SANDY NEKY said...

As simple as Abc and short!

Bla bla bla said...

U are mad!!! So which is better? Allowing them to continue living in sin or helping them to live in holy matrimony. I pray sense onto u. Receive it!!!

NORTH DAKOTA SIOBHAN said...

They are not suggesting abortion. I think they are simply saying, 'we can not Wed you cos it's against our doctrines' now, what the couple chooses to do afterwards is entirely up to them.

peace maker said...

Yes they can go to the registry or their village and do traditional marriage and continue from where they stopped. After all they hv been living or sleeping together like husband and wife.

Jasmine said...

That ur senior friend is a stupid fellow. Sorry to say. She should av just done marriage blessing instead.

Jasmine said...

Ur sister na mumu.

She committed fornication (1st sin) got pregnant and aborted (2nd sin).

Not judging her o, just being truthful.


She'll carry her own kids soon

queen hadassah said...

U should have told the person to explain it very well to you but as a good Samaritan that I am let me explain. When u are registered with a referral link, the system will tell u who to pay to. Once you pay, the person who receives the money will confirm u then u get your own referral link. Then u register 2 people with your referral link, this 2 people will get their own 2 people each (i.e 4 people) to register with their own referral link and that's how you make your 50k cos those 4 people will pay to you.

But I'm surprised that you are paying to the person that registered u. U can login but u won't be able to do anything cos u haven't been confirmed and u don't have a referral link.

Ed said...

She shouldn't have aborted d baby,she would have done blessing of marriage. God no go gree make I abort ma baby when I'm about marrying d father

Jasmine said...

Simple

Jasmine said...

They r not being unfair. Since they can't tell if u've been committing fornication, the best way to know is thru pregnancy.

Even Jesus condemns fornication.

Jasmine said...

They knew the law. Abeg leave trash for lawma jor

Ed said...

They don't support abortion,when one is about going for marriage class,you would b told on d dos and don't of a church,since you found out bout ur pregnancy,why won't you do blessing of marriage? If you really wanted wedding,why not do withrawal method until after marriage?

Jasmine said...

God bless u

Ed said...

Good talk@Ageless

Jasmine said...

Pentecostal and end time churches? So u'll encourage fornication ni?

We r all sinners but let's stop justifying our sins abeg.

Jasmine said...

Oh, sorry. I attended a catholic church wedding at Olodi Apapa. The priest refused to wed them coz the bride was pregnant. He said they should come for marriage blessing when she puts to bed. So pls, some people still av morals abeg

BLUNT said...

That serves all of you that do "church weddings" right. What the heck is church wedding? There's nothing like that. It's WHITE wedding. Oyibo wedding. There's no where you find "church wedding" in the bible. Even the wedding Jesus Christ attended was a traditional wedding. The Whiteman integrated his culture into Christianity and the black man as usual, foolishly bought it hook, line and sinker. Some even regard the so-called church wedding more than our own traditional wedding. The main wedding as far as I'm concerned is the payment of dowry. Once your dowry is paid and accepted, Heaven regards you as husband and wife. The Blackman has refused to be proud of his culture. He will have a traditional wedding, church wedding and Court Registry!! Only one person dey marry the same girl 3 times!!! No wonder they call us monkeys.

THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

Every church have got rules and regulations guiding them and if the intending couple defaults, automatically, they'd not be Wed.......that a thing is right in the eyes of men does not make it acceptable in God's eyes, we should not be conformed to the world....... assemblies church /redeem/MFM/chosen/deeper life/cac etc will never marry a preggers bride no matter what,......

*Faithful bv*

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm that's not true oh, Winners don't do virginity test they do pregnancy test 3days to your wedding....

Anonymous said...

It’s really funny to see most of these churches taken advantage of the spirituality of desperate African worshippers. Well i feel it’s high time we as citizens question the rules and the fundamentals of these churches. I remember my elder brother had his wedding in a Catholic church in oversea country, officiated by my immediate Uncle the (Rev Father) after having had his 1st child before marriage. We have to stand up against all these decimation in Africa. Above all, I can’t imagine having my wedding in Africa.

Anonymous said...

It’s really funny to see most of these churches taken advantage of the spirituality of desperate African worshippers. Well i feel it’s high time we as citizens question the rules and the fundamentals of these churches. I remember my elder brother had his wedding in a Catholic church in oversea country, officiated by my immediate Uncle the (Rev Father) after having had his 1st child before marriage. We have to stand up against all these decimation in Africa. Above all, I can’t imagine having my wedding in Africa.

Ed said...

We aren't talking bout sin here,even d pastors know that there's premarital sex before wedding but so far you aren't pregnant,there's no problem. Must everybody even wed in church? If you notice you are pregnant,why not arrange for an outdoor wedding on a garden?

Ronalda. said...

Stellz, every church is governed by rules known as doctrines. Not all doctrines have Biblical citations backing them up but they are considered sacred and being a member of that church implies that you've accepted to be bound by said doctrines. A good example is the ban of smoking cigarettes by most churches. There's no express provision in the Bible literally forbidding cigarettes, but that doesn't make it acceptable.

As christians, we know God frowns at premarital sex but a lot of us took/ still take God's mercy for granted and had sex before we got married/ still having sex while unmarried. If a church's doctrines stipulate that the church will not wed a pregnant bride, why get pregnant and expect considerations? Why try to justify breaking the rules? Why not leave and become a member of a church with more liberal doctrines? I still can't understand why some people go against the rules of a particular church, then cry blue murder when they get slammed with sanctions.

Asking these questions and trying to be logical still fails to justify going against a church's doctrines. Is like commending a rapist for using a condom. Logically, that would be preferable but that doesn't make rape acceptable.

Aborting a baby in order to pass a pregnancy test is despicable and callous! The bride may fool the church and getaway with it but she can't fool God. No Bible believing church will wed couples who have been having premarital sex, the problem is, a lot of people will lie that they have been chaste. So don't think the church will ignore the premarital sex rule and wed the couple because the bride to be isn't pregnant. The church will ask couples intending to get married if they've been having premarital sex, a lot of couples will lie. The thing is, pregnancy is the evidence that premarital sex has been going on, so the church can't go against its doctrines just because the bride didn't commit a more grievous sin. I know of a church were couples whom have been having premarital sex will not be wedded unless they abstain, at least 6months before the wedding. Some other churches will wed pregnant brides, just to discourage abortion. Some others will rather conduct the blessing of the marriage instead of joining the couple in Holy matrimony. 

We can have logical arguments  and criticise this particular doctrine but the fact remains that "if you can't stand the heat...". To avoid embarrassment, be a member of the church whose doctrines fit your lifestyle if you can't adjust your lifestyle to fit the church's. 

Ronalda. said...

Stellz, every church is governed by rules known as doctrines. Not all doctrines have Biblical citations backing them up but they are considered sacred and being a member of that church implies that you've accepted to be bound by said doctrines. A good example is the ban of smoking cigarettes by most churches. There's no express provision in the Bible literally forbidding cigarettes, but that doesn't make it acceptable.

As christians, we know God frowns at premarital sex but a lot of us took/ still take God's mercy for granted and had sex before we got married/ still having sex while unmarried. If a church's doctrines stipulate that the church will not wed a pregnant bride, why get pregnant and expect considerations? Why try to justify breaking the rules? Why not leave and become a member of a church with more liberal doctrines? I still can't understand why some people go against the rules of a particular church, then cry blue murder when they get slammed with sanctions.

Asking these questions and trying to be logical still fails to justify going against a church's doctrines. Is like commending a rapist for using a condom. Logically, that would be preferable but that doesn't make rape acceptable.

Aborting a baby in order to pass a pregnancy test is despicable and callous! The bride may fool the church and getaway with it but she can't fool God. No Bible believing church will wed couples who have been having premarital sex, the problem is, a lot of people will lie that they have been chaste. So don't think the church will ignore the premarital sex rule and wed the couple because the bride to be isn't pregnant. The church will ask couples intending to get married if they've been having premarital sex, a lot of couples will lie. The thing is, pregnancy is the evidence that premarital sex has been going on, so the church can't go against its doctrines just because the bride didn't commit a more grievous sin. I know of a church were couples whom have been having premarital sex will not be wedded unless they abstain, at least 6months before the wedding. Some other churches will wed pregnant brides, just to discourage abortion. Some others will rather conduct the blessing of the marriage instead of joining the couple in Holy matrimony. 

We can have logical arguments  and criticise this particular doctrine but the fact remains that "if you can't stand the heat...". To avoid embarrassment, be a member of the church whose doctrines fit your lifestyle if you can't adjust your lifestyle to fit the church's. 

Anonymous said...

all these actions is just to reduce immorality.in the olden days as a yoruba woman when you are married their is a way they confirm on your wedding night that u are a virgin or not, buh because of civilisation everything is being scrapped out. personally sex before marriage is not right because there are so many bad effects to it which includes clouding ur sex of judgment , stds to mention a few, you might av always dreamt of ur wedding to be done in a particular buh jst because u are pregnant everything will be speed up so u wont be put to shame. it is because of this immoral activities that we have a lot of baby mamas. to those people saying she is better off than those who aborted well to me they are the same its jst dat ppl wont see her to criticise her buh they are both sinners in the eyes of God. my advice if u are pregnant go to registry or do traditional marriage then u can go to church afterwards for child dedication party. my opinion.God bless us all.

Dumky Best said...

Every church has its doctrine. If you know you can't love up to its doctrine then go to a church where there is no such doctrine. Wasn't she aware before?

Anonymous said...

all these actions is just to reduce immorality.in the olden days as a yoruba woman when you are married their is a way they confirm on your wedding night that u are a virgin or not, buh because of civilisation everything is being scrapped out. personally sex before marriage is not right because there are so many bad effects to it which includes clouding ur sex of judgment , stds to mention a few, you might av always dreamt of ur wedding to be done in a particular buh jst because u are pregnant everything will be speed up so u wont be put to shame. it is because of this immoral activities that we have a lot of baby mamas. to those people saying she is better off than those who aborted well to me they are the same its jst dat ppl wont see her to criticise her buh they are both sinners in the eyes of God. my advice if u are pregnant go to registry or do traditional marriage then u can go to church afterwards for child dedication party. my opinion.God bless us all.

Anonymous said...

all these actions is just to reduce immorality.in the olden days as a yoruba woman when you are married their is a way they confirm on your wedding night that u are a virgin or not, buh because of civilisation everything is being scrapped out. personally sex before marriage is not right because there are so many bad effects to it which includes clouding ur sex of judgment , stds to mention a few, you might av always dreamt of ur wedding to be done in a particular buh jst because u are pregnant everything will be speed up so u wont be put to shame. it is because of this immoral activities that we have a lot of baby mamas. to those people saying she is better off than those who aborted well to me they are the same its jst dat ppl wont see her to criticise her buh they are both sinners in the eyes of God. my advice if u are pregnant go to registry or do traditional marriage then u can go to church afterwards for child dedication party. my opinion.God bless us all.

Peppi said...

Jus reading comments

preciousp gal said...

Which church?

Anonymous said...

But Joseph married mary with her pregnancy . I know it was ordained by God to happen that way but to the ordinary man out there they would believe that they were already forniicating . If a bride is already pregnant before the wedding(which is just a ceremony) let the church wed them and maybe put them on suspension thereafter to serve as a warning to others . Just my thought .

Anonymous said...

Stella you raised some valid points. However, it's in the church's interest to uphold biblical standards as best as is possible. Nothing stops pregnant folks from calling a pastor or minister to wed them outside the church.

Anonymous said...

Please please and please don't send her any money it's not logical you will have to start looking for people that will send money to your account and then you register them. How many people will listen to you if you tell them how it works they rob Peter to pay Paul it doesn't make any sense to me. Sekena

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

No one can deceive God!
I know a top pastor (he's late now) whose son impregnated one of their female member, they went ahead and aborted the baby thinking no one knew about it. They committed the sin they preached against on the altar.
In this same church, they refused to wed someone else who was few weeks pregnant (who is fooling who!?)
The same man is now a big pastor in the States.

Back to the story, if you know you're not ready to abide by the rules and regulations of the denomination you belong; better for you to leave or perhaps, go to the one that suites your lifestyle.

There was a post about a woman who refused to swore an oath, she refused because she is afraid of the traditional gods. But is she afraid of the Almighty God? The problem with us Christians today, is that we are no longer afraid of God's wrath, because God is full of grace and merciful, doesn't mean we should take Him for granted.
The bible preached against fornication, God is highly against fornication, but Christian brothers and sisters still indulged in it, with the mind that they'll beg God for forgiveness.
Why not abstain.

These same people will not break the law because they are afraid of the law enforcement, but they will be quick to break the law of God and that of the Church.

The pastor should have pardon them and Wed them just to show the merciful side of the Church.

Flakkie Chris said...

One question I always ask........ what are the parameters for testing the men? That a woman is not pregnant before her wedding doesn't mean the man's hand was clean. He could have as well been poking other ladies outside.

RICHBEE said...

How can she be 3 months pregnant and want to do a church wedding? What happened to court and traditional.. she can't tell me she not aware of the rules and regulations of the church

RICHBEE said...

Gbam!

Ani Innocent said...

The only recognised way of marriage in d Bible is payment of dowry which is d traditional form of marriage. Abraham did it even Isaac n Jacob not to talk of Joseph d father of Jesus etc. White wedding is not seen anywhere in d Bible. Finally would our pastors rather d couples live in sin? Dey should also learn to ask themselves wat dey think Jesus will do if he was in a position to wed pregnant couples, would he have casted dem away or shown mercy n compassion just like d case of d prostitute ( he without sin should cast d first Stone).

RICHBEE said...

Must they do church wedding?

Bunmi said...

Honestly i dnt want to believe this but wait sef,is it by force to do do wedfing in d church? Haba dis is wickedness. Most of these pastors if u check der backgroung very well is either dey wer born outside wedlock...dem go con dey form spiritkoko after gettng saved. I so pity d bride dey shld hv js done either there traditional/court wedding. Say u wed 4church no mean say yr marriage will b smooth or rough biko. Shebi her fowry and evry other marriage rites have bn done by her hubby? So wat else? I wish der were in Kaduna,i wld hv invited them to come wed in my church. Is it not better to carry d pregnancy than to live in the giult of abortion? Churches and der yeye yeye human doctrine. Im not supporting fornication o but the deed has been done why d need 4 correction with the wrong?

RICHBEE said...

They always teach you not to fornicate and that is what leads to pregnancy and abortion

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Na Godwin said...

Thank you @Chidinma you've said it all.

Favour A said...

Asin eh...wasn't she aware of the rules of the church??

PenHill said...

I guess your thought is that this decision will solve all the problems in our society. Have you considered that many people who would have been encouraged to wed in church( and have opportunity to hear the gospel )will migrate to the registry and stay back in their houses? Please tell me one wedding in the bible that was done in church? We should learn to copy right or stick to our tradition.

#AUSTINE was here

Anonymous said...

Truth be told, she shouldn't even have pre marital sex talkless of getting pregnant, that's just fornication no need to justify the wrong. Assuming it was a mistake (because we are all humans and can make mistakes) she should have gone to a church that doesn't mind wedding pregnant ladies or better still just go to a registry

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Hi Everyone,

I joined the blog early this year (April 2016) and sometimes I comment through the anonymous mode. I later stated using the "Meadow - The Beautiful Field (TBF)" ID as a name/url.

I have now officially registered as "Meadow - TBF". I hope I did this registration correctly. (testing it).

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EESAH (Christ Lover) said...

It is permissible to marry a woman who is pregnant irrespective of whether the man she is marrying is the father of the child or not. The only difference is if the man is the father of the unborn child he would be able to have intercourse with her whereas in the situation where the man is not the father of the child, he would not be allowed to have intercourse with her until she gives birth to the child. (Hidayah p.312 v.2) and Surat Nisa V.24

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Esther Olufuwa said...

That's the doctrine of the church. I have friends that were pregnant before getting married and opted for traditional and court weddings. The Bible clearly states that a man will leave his father and mother and be joined with his wife and the two shall become one. Not the man being joined to his wife and unborn kid(s)....so that means you're not joining only two people probably three, four or five as the case may be.
The couple should stick to the rules of wherever they want to be joined. Even if its court marriage, there are certain conditions to be fulfilled.

Anonymous said...

The Yinmu is on u. So you would rather allow the couple that have 5 children to continue living in sin than bring salvation to their souls. Very funny. A church should be about salvation and not about doctrine. Am sure the same church that refused to wed them will gladly collect their tithes and offerings. Hypocrites!
Instead of refusing to wed them, why not mandate the bride not to wear a white wedding gown? Ndi ala!

Miss Ferragamo said...

LAS That's because we know mistakes are bound to happen and we aren't God to judge.
All I can say about this is some churches encourage lies and abortion by telling intending couples not to come pregnant. The law makes absolutely no sense,it should be blotted out.

Lady j said...

Haasaaaaa..which kind lie be dat @rocky..winners does pregnancy test 3 days before wedding..

Broomstick said...

You are wrong. Adultery is sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than their spouse. The bible passage u gave is for those already married. F9

Candy said...

@ Richbee, it doesn't follow o. I had a friend, who did her Church wedding wearing white, and she was heavy as in heavy. Y didn't d Church cancel na???

jasmine said...

Pple make a lot of mistakes all in d name of Christianity u dnt encourage sex b4 marriage and u wldn't wed som1 dats few weeks or months gone dey really need 2 look into dis matter cos most gals dat attempt abortion are born again.

Broomstick said...

"Church wedding is borrowed but significant in the Christian faith"- fallacy. It is only significant in Nigerian christian faith. Do the Christian in Israel practice it? The answer is no. I didn't bother to read your other postulations cos it began on a false premise

Hulda said...

Bunmi u sound like a fool

JACINTA MBACHU said...

Lol at mushroom churches

Broomstick said...

I don't support premarital sex #teamabstainance, but now that the deed has been done and evidence to prove it is available, you wed them and then punish them however you deem it fit. It is wrong for anybody to preach Matthew 7 vs 1 and go ahead to do same in the name of church doctrine. Yes, they've fornicated but by not wedding them, thereby encouraging them to live in sin, what are you encouraging? Any and every body can be tempted and fall, so let's not give room for more sin stemming from a single one

Eminado Onimisi said...

Premarital sex is not just a sin, it is also morally wrong. I am not judging but if a bride gets pregnant before her wedding, she should do marriage blessing, which she can do in her reception venue still wearing her wedding gown. I do not fault the church, they have their rules and doctrines, if a bride can't abide by it, she should wed else where. Why would she want to eat her cake and have it?
If the church weds someone who committed an abortion, they are very much unaware of it, so how do you accuse someone of what he has no knowledge? No church will ever encourage or support abortion, if a bride deceived the church that way, the shame is on her, the church has no blame, she has her maker to answer to.

Broomstick said...

My point exactly! Punish them after wedding them to serve as deterrent. Not wedding them does nothing cos devil might just use that to woe them out of the fold of God

Sensa Greene said...

Borrowed English tradition IMO. The wedding Jesus attended and other wedding ceremonies eg Isaac wife, Ruth etc were not held in a church

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Sensa Greene said...

Let me also add that in my culture Uhonmora if you are heavily pregnant (I don't know about early pregnancy), your bride price will be paid and accepted after the birth of the baby.

Cookie said...

I actually didn't want to comment on this but your comment shows how shallow your brain is, like really?? What rubbish did you just type?? And you even have the guts to be shouting?? Common GTFOH..... What nonsense, this comment just Dey vex me..... Next time if you don't know what to type, STHU, nobody will flog you!!

Most peeps here know the truth but because they think Stella wrote that 'write-up' up there, they are changing mouth, I pity Una!! Carry belle go wed naaaau....

Read Bible and understand, Una no go read,coming online to form baddo.......SMH

Cookie said...

And to what end??? God is really merciful!! Most people don't know the Genesis of the problems they are facing in life!!

Cookie said...

I just love you..... Spot on!!

Cookie said...

Keep your thoughts to yourself Biko!!

Cookie said...

Spot on jare..... Except your last paragraph though!!

Since she was 3 months gone, why going to the church to wed??was she trynna deceive the pastor or what?? God is really merciful!!

Cookie said...

You are not okay sha.... Na person wey them catch be thief!! So fornication is not enough, you still went ahead to get pregnant?? What did the Bible say about the bed being un-defiled??Na wa ooooo

Jasmine said...

Flakkie, the church won't wed the couple (man and wife) and not the wife alone coz they both engaged in the act that got her pregnant.

This isn't about testing the woman. It's about testing for pregnancy. Do u understand now?

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

Thanks guys

Mhzzbee int'l said...

That is why many are committing abortions and finding it difficult to conceive after wedding. We are all sinners either gbenshing and not aborting or gbenshing and aborting it.

zinny uwalaka said...

Stella if I comment further I go over vex. Churches and borrowed religion na we over do am. Over righteousness. I tire fr d matter. Its meaningless. Supporting abortion indirectly. Which wedding did Jesus attend at Canaan? White or traditional? What's essence of court wedding

Jasmine said...

Why r u shouting? Go carry ur belle and wed in any church that will allow u na. Ha!

Jasmine said...

Na person she deceive?

Mtchewww

Jasmine said...

Come and take this bear hug from me

Jasmine said...

How many will the church forgive? Dis is how baby mama started o...

Nikeh El' said...

Exactly. "To each, his own". Every church has its rules and regulations of which either of the couple must have known. She could have simply done traditional and gone gone to the registry. When she puts to bed, she can come do the white wedding

Jasmine said...

If u don't engage in fornication will u get pregnant? Even Jesus said we should flee from all evil including fornication.


Be truthful abeg

GERMAN JUICE said...

Rubbish, who church don EPP.

Monkeynofine said...

Virginity test is far better Dan pregnancy test. What do the pastors expect after sex?

Monkeynofine said...

Thank you ooooo

Monkeynofine said...

Y no advise them to remain a Virgin or else no wedding for them. As far as one didn't married as a virgin forget it it we are all sinners !

Mhzzbee int'l said...

On point BLUNT

Anonymous said...

Churches have their rules and regulations, every church has a rule that guilds them just like some churches don't wear trousers, others don't tie their hair, some don't wear ear rings. If you must attend the church you must abide by the rules! Shikena!! Seen a similar case too, you know u r pregnant quietly do court and traditional or look for a church that weds pregnant women

Anonymous said...

Madam mhzzbee that is not the reason people r doing abortion, pregnancy doesn't just happen it follows see, the church didn't send you to do that one, actually it's to curb pre marital sex. Who wan do abortion na e problem don't blame it on church rules, why didn't she do court/trad if she really wan marry, lame excuse for abortion

Ellville light said...

Thank you!!! Simple as ABC

Anonymous said...

Who asked you? Busy body. No one needs the Islamic perspective here.

MOA said...

Same in mine and same thing I did too, it's not by force it's by choice, you either choose to wed in the registry or the church, if u pick the church, follow the rules, simple as A BC

Cynthia Adeniran said...

Since you know your church rule and the deed has been done just jejely go 4 blessed marriage or go do trad and court..instead of facing d embarrasment on the D-day..

Olaide Davies said...

Lol

AppleofGodseyeoriginal said...

Amen,God bless u too,you are welcome

ukwu dimond said...

When you know d rules and regulations of your church a d you agreed to get married in that church be read to danceable to their music else just respect yourselves and do your court marriage.

Nne nwa said...

Loud it chysugar

Anonymous said...

Every organisation has rules otherwise there ll be lawlessness, if it's their rule it's simply just wise to go do registry if you cannot keep urself, I went for a wedding rehearsal on trousers and I was sent out of the church premises, as in they asked me to go and stand by the gate. This is just rehearsal ooo not the wedding proper. Didn't complain cox I later discovered it's their rules but was offended cox it was my first time and my friend didn't pre inform me.

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Mr D said...

Some of y'all be pretending to be Christ like.... Hummm. Atheist like me many for this blog shaa

Anonymous said...

I stand with the church!
Every organization has it's rules,values and norms that act as a guiding factor. And I'm positive the intending couple knew about this.

Why would you come to say your vows before God in a pregnant state?

God has his standards!

HE instituted marriage and HE initiated Sex,but HE made it clear it's strictly for Married couples!
So why would you flout his rules and have the temerity to come before him bearing the evidence of your disobedience to his words as a badge,to say a vow that you yet again might not keep?

Even some villages don't accept bride price on a pregnant woman.
And these same people that come before God bearing the 'fruit of their disobedience' brazenly wouldn't dare do such if same applies in their village.
Why? They fear the repercussions from the village deity; and these are the so called Christians!
Yet they have no regards for God and his word!

Were it in the old testament, the thunder that would fire anyone that dares it,I'm sure would still be in the parade ground warming up!

Thank God for Jesus.
Thank God for Grace.
Thank God for the blood of the covenant of the new testament;

for Sodom and Gomorrah has got nothing on this generation.


#Flygirl

Anonymous said...

Stella,you asked what if the bride had aborted the pregnancy before the church wedding?
I ask, what if the bride had closed her legs and pretended to be a mermaid before the church wedding?
And this is not me being sanctimonious; cos I'm far from being a saint,but the truth has to be told not minding whose ox is gored.

#Flygirl

Anonymous said...

That is your culture.
What the church did is their 'culture'.

#Flygirl

Anonymous said...

The sex your senior friend had that got her pregnant, was it to please God or earthly Men? Don't answer that!

#Flygirl

Jasmine said...

Miss Ferra, they r not encouraging abortion. They r trying to curb pre-marital sex.


Sex b4 marriage is a sin madam.

Stop justifying rubbish

Jasmine said...

Austine, where is it written in the bible that smoking is a sin?

Jasmine said...

Broomstick, read and learn.

Is smoking a sin? If yes, where is it in the bible? If no, why do we condemn it?

Over sense go kill una one day

Jasmine said...

Punish them after wedding? That was how baby mama started o.

Allow her, allow her. It's now a normal thing in the society

Jasmine said...

Use ur brain.

Borrowed culture but u use cup, spoon and plate to eat abi?


U go on vacation right? Those cultures r not borrowed abi? Use ur brain

MISS DIASPORA said...

For those of u saying it's fornication,how can it be fornication when u ve paid ur wife's bide price...d bible recognises dat, I wonder why ouchurches can't recognise dat too.

Anonymous said...

True talk. Monkeyfine

Broomstick said...

Jasmine, are you real? If your ancestors didn't use one form of cutlery or another, mine did. They fashion it out of wood. See example wey u use

Broomstick said...

It is fornication if the bride price wasn't paid four months earlier

Anonymous said...

Monkeyfine you are right the emphasis should be on virginity,if Christians know they will be disgraced if they are not virgin's their head go clear

Anonymous said...

Withdrawal method or abstain completely,imagine the hypocritical Christians that we have now

Anonymous said...

Even in some places you can't do traditional marriage with pregnancy

Anonymous said...

My dear many of these pregnancy before marriage is because of late marriages which is really plaguing our society now,a lot of people plan to wed as virgin's by by the time you get to 36yrs only a few will have their dreams of marrying as a virgin's come true,many of our grannies married at 17 or 18 but look around you today many of the ladies are 37 up until even 43 getting married for the first time with loads of ridicule they would have encountered,they would be at the mercy of the men who are even more ridiculed for marrying old layer who may not 've able to bear a child,etc

Anonymous said...

That is it

keke driver said...

The Bible recognises the traditional marriage...The white wedding is a borrowed culture.

Hadey Halaba said...

Can we abound in sin while asking God for more grace ?

(Not a must you wed in the church, the bible respects Traditional and the society recognises court wedding)

Hadey Halaba said...

To ansa all yur questions Mr Echela,
1) she has committed MURDER and also deciet .... (God forgives all manner of sin if u repent truly)

2) why would the church have data of aborted pregnancies? Its you, your conscience and GOD

3) the biblical standard is crystal clear. Formication is a sin. To be a Christian is "to be Christ like"

4) the Bible recognises Traditional wedding which clearly states parental consent must be sought before u marry.

So for me, Traditional wedding is d most important. Court wedding is for record purposes. While church wedding is for OWANBE purposes.

Hope u r satisfied will thses answers ?

Anonymous said...

@Jasmine, smoking is no sin just like drinking alcohol. It is the excesses that is sin.

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