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A MAN WHO DOES NOT GIVE BEFORE MARRIAGE:
I was dating a guy for more than 4 years now. He loves me although we have issues we ain't perfect. But we held on cause of the love we felt for each other and friendship. We have a bond and we've become more than boyfriend and girlfriend we are like siblings.
He promised we'll make it official this year but we ended it last year. I love him a lot. I can't deny that and he loves me too but he's an extrovert and I'm an introvert coupled with the issue of having many girls around him which I don't like. But he still maintained I was his one and only. (Men gist).
Plus we have a serious medical issue that will not allow the marriage work so we ended it last year.
On the other hand there's a cool headed guy seeking my hand in marriage based in the US. He's been on my case for years but I never gave him a chance.He's loving, respectful and into me as well. I was not into him because I was in a relationship although he has the potentials I need in a man even though I'm not sure if he's just pretending for now cause he's far away and we only talk on phone.
He's been begging me to let him come and do the basic things and let's get settled but I'm really scared of marrying a total stranger. He is also a stingy person from what I've observed cause he hardly cares about my upkeep or needs. I'm not a perfect person but sincerely I try to give people the little I have whether there's a relationship or not. He doesn't believe he can do little things for you without having a relationship. He expects me to call him with my airtime and data when he knows I'm not working I'm just doing little jobs to help myself.
He says he'll start when I marry him which I don't believe cause a man that can't give you 50naira now won't give you later. It's not about testing me or not cause I have never asked him for a dime since I met him and he made it clear to me that he won't give me a dime until we start marriage process proper. I'm not expecting him to foot my bills but at least if you can't send me airtime don't expect me to call you.
It's not like he's poor he can afford 500naira airtime weekly at least. He's well to do and money is not a problem for him he doesn't have so much ooo but he's ok. I've stopped calling him with my airtime because I use to before without minding the cost. Now he's complaining and I'm thinking of telling him off, or asking him for money just to know his reaction. I'm not a broke girl I can afford the things I need and by Gods grace my parents are well to do so its not like I'm looking for his money I just feel there are little things you do for people you claim to love.
No matter how little it doesn't even have to involve money and I don't need to sleep with a man for him to be nice to me and maybe cause my ex boyfriend started doing little things for me even before we started dating and I reciprocated as well.I don't know how to cope with a stingy man cause I like giving and I have a very open heart I see him as a kind of husband who won't even want to help people around me not necessarily my family cause my parents won't give my hands out in marriage with the hope of taxing their son-Inlaw.
Im confused sincerely because if I and boyfriend were compatible medically I won't even want to start a relationship with someone else cause I truly love him. It's just that fate has made it so for us and we need to move on with our lives. Thanks I'm grateful.