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Tuesday, 31 January 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

Ah ah-----Why would she do that?



STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
RICH FAMILY BROUHAHA


Good day Stella I am an ardent reader of your blog I especially love
the advise you give out to readers when they send in their chronicle
so please in need advice ASAP on the wahala I got myself into.
 (Madam Stella no vex I know I gave you wahala cos of this chronicle.)

I met this wonderful guy during my NYSC service we were on camp
together for a few weeks he was the sweetest guy very smart and he
could talk for Africa. (He's Fulani and I am Igbo).

We started dating and I eventually found out he's from one of those
rich northern families. I didn't really care I just liked him for him.
He is always so concerned about my well being and my future asking
about my plans and whatnot.

Recently his mother contacted me asking me to stay away from her son,
she said she'd get me arrested etc. This will sound weird but she was
actually kinda nice about the whole thing.

The problem now is that she asked me not to tell him about the
conversation we had its like she just wants me to disappear but its
not possible because if I stop speaking to him he will not stop
calling or coming to see me and it may make her more pissed. And if I
tell him he will go off on his family (she actually told me she knows
he will get into fight with them over the issue, he had problems with
his siblings over this same issue).

Please I need advice on how to handle this because as much as I love
him the last thing I want is to come between him and his family and I
no wan go prison too o!

Stella your red pen is highly needed.


*Hmmmm this is a tough one and if you succeed in Marrying him you will never be happy.
I dont know what anyone else would think but telling him would be good to help find closure if you are really bent on walking away.

Some mothers na wah..she had to warn you?


138 comments:

Miss Ess said...

You are not ready for this wahala poster. You can't deal with a mother inlaw that doesn't want you

STARRY LARRY said...

My friend, please stay off that guy, when did Igbos like dating or getting married to Fulani if not for the millions involved? stay clear off him joor





*Larry was here*

Atheist ™ said...

hmm... My dear, this is a war you've lost already, just retreat to ur tent, to prevent further domestic war, you can breakup with him for a diffrent reason entirely, you're both from diffrent background & religion, i don't see it working even if she didn't make that call, ur chances are very thin.

Anonymous said...

Please stay away from anywhere the family hates you. You'll never have peace. Forbidden love ends up causing so much psychological pain. Think of your children. Please leave that guy alone. Rich Hausa people marry each other only. Don't be a learner. I'm sure he's betrothed already. Leave him alone and look for another guy. It's not worth it.

Jennifer Lawrence said...

Hmmmmmmm

Anonymous said...

Nwa ada Igbo, Obu gini ka ichoro jee na'la ndi fulani?
Supposing he marries 3 more wives after you wed him?
Or is he a Christian? Wonder your faith inclination?
Or is all you see "love; as he professes it?"
think wholesomely!

Becky Divine said...

See you acting Nollywood with your life, i dey fear for you oooh

To be perfectly honest with you, since his family are against the relationship and you are not from the same class or tribe... my dear it won't work ooh

Better shine your eyes now and work on getting as much money as you possibly can from him before you guys finally break up, unless you arr ready for both physical and spiritual battle.
My 2cents oooh

peace maker said...

Madam. Look for another man.U don see money u want die there.These people hv no mercy. She can meet one Mallam and take care of u spiritually.

Anonymous said...


Tell him to go and "sort out his family and then come back . . . that you don't want to go to jail"
By the way, isn't he a muslem and you ??
Don't they marry four wives anymore?

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

Some parents are destroying their children happiness without knowing!
Is she the one to choose a wife for her son? I just hate when some parents (especially mothers) thinks they can control who their sons/daughters falls in-love with.

My dear poster, you better leave the guy alone for your own good! A better person will come around.
If you end up marrying the guy, they will not let you have peace in your home, they will persuade him to marry a second wife (which you're definitely not set out for).

I feel bad that the guy will probably end up with a girl from another influential family that will not love him or that he'll not love.

Single Mom said...

Let him know but make sure he doesn't query his mother, he should make her see reasons why he chose yoy, I will not advice you to continue in a relationship where the mother is already against you.




Long live SDK

Blackberry said...

Not worth it!
He'll marry 3 other women after you.
Forget love, kolewerk.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

See my Igbo sister going after a Fulani black goat!...
Jezzzz!,..
Can't you find a rich Igbo nigga with swag to date?...
These people are blood suckers abeg flee from him!...
Chop his money and run!!!,..
His mom will not think twice before wasting you!,,.
Killing is like cooking ofe akwu to them!,..
My sister run!'...

Istanbul said...

Please be open to him and tell him exactly what the mom told you but I don't think marriage should be considered with him because of the mom.the home will be so unbearable for you

Daenerys_targaryen said...

Are you dating for fun or for real. Food you know you won't eat please don't taste it. Aside from his mum being against your relationship i'm sure your parents won't approve because of his tribe. You can talk to him and know how best to deal with the hurdle.

I am king EZE said...

The guy has every right to know. Tell him!. Cos the woman sounding all nice about arresting you,Psycho alert!! .she could do worse. I would advice you guys to end things amicably cos as a guy I wouldn't want any woman to come between my mum and I. You will find someone who would respect and accept you for who you are, his family inclusive

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

Ha, I don't think she should tell the guy the truth cos at the end, her name will always come up as the woman who wants to break their family. As harsh as this sounds, you would have to device other means of breaking up with him, but do not break up with him in a way he may want to hurt you. Hausas\Fulani hardly marry outside their region and this one that you said he is from a rich home... Dear poster,leave that family alone and if thw man really loves you and wants to be with you, he will do everything possible to make it happen. All the best

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

Ha, I don't think she should tell the guy the truth cos at the end, her name will always come up as the woman who wants to break their family. As harsh as this sounds, you would have to device other means of breaking up with him, but do not break up with him in a way he may want to hurt you. Hausas\Fulani hardly marry outside their region and this one that you said he is from a rich home... Dear poster,leave that family alone and if thw man really loves you and wants to be with you, he will do everything possible to make it happen. All the best

Anonymous said...

My evil side says u should find a wsy to squeeze money from the mum b4 leaving her son...... Tell her ure pregnant and will require 2m to terminate it n go in peace... Or else u won't, kikiki, but be careful oh.

Becky Divine said...

Ehen listen too

As a correct Igbo babe that you IS ehn... if she happens to call again and tries to buy you off. Make sure you demand for a whole lot of cash and collect it oooh

Then you can go ahead and tell the boy all that happened! But the money is yours already

Better don't go there and turn to Ini Edo in 'Anything for Love'. Or is it 'Love Look What You Made Me Do'

IVORY said...

Please tell him and bounce. Whatever he does with his family is his business unless he has his own money And you're prepared not to have a happy marriage.

Anonymous said...

Fulani and Igbo....... Strongest combination ever.

Don't leave him and go your lane, stay here and asking for advice.. Yeye girl

pink lady said...

Tell him about the conversation his mum had with you and see how he reacts . If he is very serious about you and ready to fight for you,ignore his mum and enjoy him while it lasts.
Meanwhile Don't get ahead of yourself, he hasn't asked you to marry him yet.

Kels417 said...

Hmmm this is so true, while I ws serving in the north in 2007 I got invlOved wt d Govs faamily. Ibo girls mixing wt northerners, my dear one of the girls, my friend had something wt one of d the Firstladys Son. Na so warning here and there, say if them catch us wt the guy, they will do this and that. Her security men go dey trail us like them dey find bomb, Haba. Them no like Ibo girls oo.

Poster pls call ur lover boy tell him what's up and let him face reality. Pls note that if he marries u, dole, by force he will take another wife in future who will practice their religion. Just so u know

ZONED said...

Yes I fully support the mother. Do you have any idea of what it takes to raise a boy child. Do you know what she must have gone through while nursing him etc. Kindly move your lazy ass else where. Stop with the "you dont know how to".... Just stop it jor...Kindly make urslef disappear. If he wasn't from a rich home you sure would have known what to do... Stupid Girl.

Anonymous said...

Bill the mother. When she credits ur account with an handsome amount as payoff, then cut off the guy.

U can bring the money here n let's get married.

Slim

Blessing Jackson said...

Tell him what is mother said, and also tell him you don't want to come in between him and his family, dont marry into a family where nobody likes you, tell him to sort out stuffs with them first.

Blessing Jackson said...

Tell him what his mother said, and also tell him you don't want to come in between him and his family, dont marry into a family where nobody likes you, tell him to sort out stuffs with them first.

Anonymous said...

My dear please walk away but tell him the real reason for your action. Tell him that his mum called you and asked you to leave her son alone. Very selfish woman. She wants you to leave him yet she wants to look like a good person. Don't be her pawn.

Anonymous said...

U love him bc of his rich background? ? Better go ur way but tell the guy ur main reason of leaving

Ehi Grace said...

Poster please look for a way to leave that guy alone, those people can be dangerous when they are desperate. Look for someone else to date.

Busola said...

Tell the mother to pay you off...i'm talking millions. Then bounce

Tilly said...

If you could unlove him and move on, it might be fir the best. Those families can be like a cult...very closely knit. U might feel like an outsider forever. Besides prepare yourself to have co-wives if he is Muslim. Good luck

Anonymous said...

Seriously!!! Like seriously ... this is what you have to say... I think you should have just kept quiet

John Edet said...

Tell him and leave him afterwards except you have the heart to go through family issues. Don't listen to him if he says its not an issue, for a mother to be that outright hmmm. But also politely speak to the mum to find out why she wants you away from her son and she see if you can win her heart in the process

Tetrina said...

Eh???

pink lady said...

Oh please!!!!!
Do you know what it takes to raise a girl child?
Can't a middle class girl fall in love with a rich guy without being called a gold digger?
Mtchewwwwww!

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Abeg stay away. Hausa people no dey iyamiri people. Just forget the relationship ooo.

Make I go look for food to eat jare. Waka full legs

miiii said...

Just walk away. Give him a good reason and not about his mom calling you. With time he will get to know the details of your breakup. You don't want to date or marry a man who's not in good terms with his family cos of you ooooo. God will settle you and give you a better man.
Cheers!

Anonymous said...

The truth is the boy is already betrothed kindly keep off

BEDS AND ROSES said...

My own advice ehnnnn,leave that relationship or stay if you can handle d challenges.
The chances of you getting married to him are very slim. Rich hausa's hardly marry outside their tribe/religion. In the cases they do marry Igbo or Yoruba and Christian, most times the girls parents too are equally rich or in govt or something.
Iv seen just one case that a Yoruba girl I know married a rich hausa guy, but they were both moslems and the girls father is even rich. They met when schooling abroad together.
The choice is yours, but forget anything called marriage btw you. A lot of dos hausa guys rarely go against their parents wishes, bcos most are even dependent on their parents. Most times they are even the one's running their fathers business so how can they go against the hands that feed them.
Another second choice I will take if I were in ur shoes. Since you are still young pls enjoy the relationship and all the goodies that comes with it(abeg I like beta thing),have it at d back of ur mind he's not ur husband. No harm just dating if ur still in ur early 20s, infact its the best time. But pls have a plan B, a guy you know you can marry and have a future with. Don't close the door on other prospective suitors.
You also need to tell him what the mother told you. He will know how to handle d situation incase anything happens.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

I think u should calmly hint him about it.
You guys can actually be good friends without any emotional attachment.

But forget marriage if u are dreaming about it.
Is not going to work n even if it works out, u gonna have to put a whole lot of work n effort to sustain it.
Igbo Vs fulani......it doesn't go well dear n the mum is threatening you already.
Use your sense ooh.... Forget all this one naija talk oh.

Mao Akuh said...

Please leave that boy alone. Stella if you see the way some of my Igbo sisters behave when they see Hausa loaded guy(s) eh, they will even disown their mama/papa. If that boy isn't from a rich family, you and I know that you'd not even near him, so please pack well and do not divide that family with your longer-throat for money. That's not LOVE for lust/greed for money. He can help you set up a business but please stay away before they send you to an everlasting errand.

#my2cents

peace maker said...

U must hv a tight punani,u never fork fork too many men b4 u met him ie ur puxcy game is still tight.that s why he left his Fulani + Hausa Muslim sisters for u.
Are U willing to change to Islam? That's d only way d mama will accept u.

ProudlyDeltan15 said...

Poster..U did not say if he is a Christian or muslim.. What was her reason for asking you to leave her son alone? The truth is it is hard to win a war with families that do not approve of you even if he stays with it...really hard and I am sure that is not what you want. Sit him down, talk to him about it, give yourself brain. I am sure you know what is best for you...ProudlyDeltan

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Pained much!
🚾 shit it out boo

Excellent Pat said...

Correct

Excellent Pat said...

Chai this girl is too witty. Laughing so hard @Love look what you made me do hahahahahahaha

Anonymous said...

beta free him. you are even Ibo not even Hausa christian that they can manage. just pull out from the relationship. i can never go into a relationship with a Southern muslim not to talk of a Northern one. pls save urself the headache

Sabongida Ora cutest said...

Dear poster pls listen to me... walk away from this relationship. Love isn't all there is or enough to be with someone.
Walking away is also a painful way to love someone..


It's going to be very painful... but you'll eventually move on.

You are lucky she was open with you about it. Than being diabolical behind your back.

Gift [Mr] said...

Just tell him everything and walk away!... for your life and well being!..

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

Fulani and Igbo? What a combination. Choi

SDK Lastborn said...

Nne na Fulani man be that n you are igbo, not a fine blend atall, love is not that blind oo, use your tongue and count your teeth well.

Jasmine said...

Some of you girls go into things u know won't work out no matter how hard you try.

Ur cup of tea. Shey u love him? Marry him, convert to Islam, change ur name and do everything necessary. The family will never like you.

Anonymous said...

This is serious

Anonymous said...

I have to go anonymous with this advice because if I use my blog I.D, when my service year Boulevard comes in then everybody will know who I am. Like I stated in my Boulevard I walked with northerners all through my camping and I learnt a little about their culture.
Poster just enjoy the moment cause I don't think anything good will come out of it.
1) they are polygamous in nature, their girls are already use to this and are even prepared to be 2nd and third wives but you re igbo are you ready for that. When I asked about this,one of them said the northerners sees this as a way of displaying their wealth that even if the guy do not want to, he will be harassed by family members.
2) am sure you watch Zee channel, the way the Indians live in clan is the same way the northerners live don't b surprise if hi mother,brother,sisters are living with you people.
3) They are possessive and respectful of their mothers. All northerners has a very big tendency to be mummy's boy.
I can go on and on but just know that in this 21st century,love is not enough, I am not doubting both of you love, I'm just saying clash of culture will destroy it eventually. They will rather he marry a yoruba girl than Igbo cause the igbos hate Hausa and vice versa.

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

But wait oooh poster do you really see your sef marrying this guy? Asin a fulani Muslim for that matter? Why do Christain girls date muslims guys? I just cant comprehend. You hardly see a muslim girl date a Christian guy not like it doesnt happen oooh but they rarely publicise it. The reverse is the case with all this stupid Christian girls. I cant imagine you sleeping with him sef eeeeeeew. Just negodu? Abeg i just can't deal biko.
Borrow your sef some brain and leave the guy alone bfor you end up in kirikiri.

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

Its better than her marrying him, coz that marriage will never be blissful. She will always be seen as ahrniya, her kids will grow up to be call yaran ahrna or ahrnaye.
google the meaning of ahrniya.

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

You can walk away with or without telling him either way he will still get hurt. Walk away now before you see your head on a dish. I will advice you don't tell him the reason yet, he can hate you for now but when he eventually heals you can do that am sure he will understand why you left.

Zukk3i said...

I support anon15:23 200%! Tell him what his mother said and make sure he understands the real reason that you are walking away. And make sure you walk away, a family that can threaten you like that can do anything to you. You don't owe his mum anything. Why would you let her manipulate you to look like a bad person while she pretends to be the good one. Not only is she scattering your relationship, she's also threatening you too, as if you are trash. Why that kind of regard for some who sees you as trash?

Anonymous said...

Tell him and walk away, don't even think of marriage blcs it will not work out. His family doesn't want you. I had a similar experience, but I advised myself and left him alone, even though he wanted the relationship. I can't trade my religion, all his family wanted was for me to become a Muslim.

BeQuiet Instead said...

Dear poster,
For you to bring this here and with the tone of your words, show that you are not ready for what you're about facing in this relationship. Even your Fulani lover knows that there is NO HEADWAY for you guys as regards marriage, so why the fuss? You want to become a "sacrificial lamb" because of infatuation?

Young lady, pls do not deceive yourself with 'fighting for love' because there is NONE here. Do not let material things blind you.

Just tell the guy that you are no more interested bc you know that his family will NEVER support your relationship, as their custom is - Fulani's marry their own; and walk away with your dignity and body parts intact.

A word is enough for the wise.

Amacastel said...

Poster collect a pay off from that woman & leave the family including the bf alone cos the combination is terrible, if that guy is a Fulani herdsman will u fall in love with him girl Na wa for u oooo, without been told u should knw that the relationship is going no where @all.

Anonymous said...

Thats what you think..?be careful....she ends up telling her she is pregnant and her next line of action could be eliminating her...its very possible..so poster of chronicle please just ignore him...let thr love die a natural death...kill the relationship like the way you going to avoid a broke ass dude asking you out..

marriedchick said...

this reminds me of Face alone old tracks, the one he talked about falling in love with a girl, only to find out she is Hausa and he is igbo... my sister if the mother is not in support of the relationship, i suggest you walk away... please tell him whats on ground so he does not misunderstand your actions... goodluck dear

The Lifted said...

that woman won't waste time b4 taking you out,you can tell him what happened & make him understand you cannot stand any battle,my dear pls shine your eye,its a forbidden love...jejely chop any money available & move ahead

Anonymous said...

You guys are playing with fire o...poster be sincere..if not for the money you wouldnt look this guy twice....and to think he is a fulani guy...better be careful...it takes nothing for that woman to eliminate you....dont take any money from her...kil that relationship...and end all communication with the guy...you cant tell me he is the only guy..

Anonymous said...

I just wonder o..on a mormal day this girl.no go send this guy if the guy broke..lol

Anonymous said...

Poster go watch no state of origin

BLUNT CHIC said...

Is he a Muslim?
Will he marry other wives?

Maybe she is threatening you to see if you are weak and it could also be that she
wants to check if you are after the money.

Marry him IF you are sure his love for you outweighs the one you have for him.

Omotejowho said...

Please tell d guy what his mom did

Anonymous said...

Lol...its just like nmamdi kanu daughter marrying buhari son..poster leave the relationship...the boy's mum means business o...no be play o..as she don tell you so..just quietly go in peace...am sure before you met him..there was a dude asking you out

She-who-must-not-be-named said...

Why would an igbo chick even want to date a mallam in the 1st place talkless of being made to feel unwanted by his people. My only advise is for you to convert to Islam maybe the mother will accept you. Inukwa!

Anonymous said...

Hausa fulanis are always very sweet.. i have been there n done that but i knew we werent heading anywhere so i ended it..
My dear tell him n break up... its best for you

Ralu M said...

Tell him exactly what she said and dust your ass off him. Igbo & high class fulani?😁 nne the relationship was dead on arrival so don't bother to trouble yourself because his family will never allow you guys to be & if am wrong their mama words carry enough weight. This is not nollywood so receive sense.

lastborn said...

Stay away frm dat family,if u don't want to disappear from dis world without trace, cos d mother meant disappear not "arrest". But let him know ur reason for d break-up. So u both can find closure.

She-who-must-not-be-named said...

Ofe akwuπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. Linda!

Empress CHO said...

If you know what is good for you, jejely shift away from that fulani dude.
That relationship has no FUTURE, and it has fully run it's course. Recognise that now and do not complicate anything for yourself.
Yes, do not tell him what his mother said. To what end will it make to fight his mom for you, it will put her in a full attack mode.
Now, do you his mum personally, do you have a clue the arsenals at her disposal and what she could to you. Who is your father eh, what is his influence in the political sphere, have you serious spiritual back-ups?

See, love business until marriage is a battlefield. You get to lose some and win some, pick your lessons and change tactics. So quit this whole nollywood fantasy you are wrapped in. Allowing him in the first place tells you have no type. Just a free for all, come and love me kind of person.
Make yourself disappear if you want, he will hurt, be heartbroken for a while but he will survive and manage whoever is arranged for him even if there is no love. That is the reality of his society and that will win over whatever you guys share okay.

Do not belittle yourself and allow cheap greed in, do not fall into the temptation of asking for a pay off from his mum or milking him of some money. You will be a confirmed gold digging tramp to his mum and a plain, cold, manipulative bitch who will prove his family right. Remember, it's a small world, you have no idea how, what, where this might lead to in future, so handle with care and move with a good reputation.
Your own will come alright, it will flow smoothly and you wouldn't meet a brickwall in exploring that love. So wait for it, be alive for it, grow while you wait for it.
Goodluck!

Didy Alexander said...
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Anastacia Grey said...

This post reminds me of @Sandy Neky's Fulani Brown Goat...Lol
Poster, please walk away; you cant win just look for another reason to break up with him .

ES OH JAY said...

Madam poster, run for ur life, I repeat, run for ur life. A word is enoff for the wise. You are even lucky she called u and spoke to u nicely.

Arsenal Firstlady said...

You luv him, then tell him the truth of the matter and that you have to stay away from him for your safety and that you won't want him to have problems with his family.

Anonymous said...

Most igbo babe's that luckily catch rich hausa men dey always wan die there .

Anonymous said...

Very shallow commen from the slave and self acclamed queen.

Anonymous said...

Most of these girls are reslly hungry mofos. Imagine! She should collect money for the guy's mum. Wtf? Lost shilolos

Anonymous said...

The only reasonable comment so far.

Anonymous said...

The only reasonable comment so far.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmmm. All I can do is smile. Girl if u love ur life free DAT guy. U can tell him after u break up with him but my dear leave him. I know how you feel believe me. I was once in a similar situation but thank God. Fulani's are extremely fetish and tribalistic. Let us not forget the class thing . you see any rich northerner marrying in a middle class family? Pls dear gal before dem use I do contribution RUN. Love will find you again as it did me.

SON OF SOLOMON said...

You don't know how to break up with him right..? So simple..kindly send this post link to him and I'm happy to tell you, you're officially broke up with him..ma sallam, can I even make common sense..?

Fortune Fergus said...

True

DonMayor �� said...

Long throat girl, you don see money you wan die there. That woman will make you disappear if you continue with that guy.

My two kobo said...

My darling leave that relationship abeg...a relationship needs much more than love to survive and thrive...the pain you'd face in the future is not worth it. In order not to taint his relationship with his mum,just look for an excuse and breakup with him then tell him the real reason much later.

Good luck

MISS TRUTH said...

Did I hear fulani??? TUFIAKWA! This girl you don't like yourself at all, this people will wipe out both you and your entire family. Fulani...GOD FORBID!!!

DonMayor �� said...

Please mail me, I want to talk to you.

DonMayor �� said...

Longthroat. Your type disappear quick from the radar.

Quality Madam said...

Where is this relationship leading to? Do you think ur own family will accept him? To think of it i have never seen an Igbo Fulani marriage πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜† is either Igbo youruba, Igbo Hausa or Igbo other tribes . This will be very nice combo if you can fight the families through prayers and penetrate in. Good luck

DonMayor �� said...

Poster don't listen to people telling you to ask or squeeze out money from the woman.
If you try any stunt, you will disappear completely without traces. I hope you love yourself.

DonMayor �� said...

Poster don't listen to people telling you to ask or squeeze out money from the woman.
If you try any stunt, you will disappear completely without traces. I hope you love yourself.

Teddy said...

Honestly. Thank you

Anonymous said...

Why would u call another tribe goat?? Ibo and there mouth! Normally this post should be deleted if Stella is professional about her blogging business. Ethnocentrism at its peak!!!

Anonymous said...

Shut up you moron!

Anonymous said...

*a handsome

SANDY NEKY said...

Poster, can see the guy has twisted your head with moneyπŸ˜„πŸ˜›thats hausas/fulanis for you. They can show extreme TLC like that so enjoy the relationship(money) while it lasts and forget anything called marriage with him. I doubt if he will ever talk towards there anyways so open your mind cos he will leave you in the middle of the ocean someday. Mum or no mum.

Anonymous said...

Igbo + fulani? = wrong equation!
He is likely introduced to another rich family to pick a wife from and understands their culture.

And before someone will come here to tell you her own special love story with a northerner and advise you to take the challenge and ignore his mother, you are playing with fire and will get burnt!

You are not a Muslim or from a rich home, so what is the common denominator between you two? And how do you fuck uncircumcised prick?

SANDY NEKY said...

Exactly! In this case, its clear na the money dey shack her cos those peeps can spoil one for africa. Yes! Lets assume she eventually settles with the guy sef, as an igbo geh that you IS, will you be ready to accept other wives in the future?😁naah i guess. So just know the one you de oo and waka before you get stuck for nothing.

Atheist 2 said...

Shitty shittt! Love/lust. Christians/muslims, Catholics/ Islam, Igbos/hausas. Black/white. Only in a drunken stage can this happen.

Where Islam rules, men have to fear Allan and women their men. They stop half of their women from being productive (nor allowed to work or even drive a car) active or intelligent members. Quran contain verses that tell men to beat wife if she is rebellious... Lock her up, if she has been confirmed by withnesses to be promiscuous. Accept a woman's report of rape ( even say na girlfriend) only if she can provide four withnesses ( almost impossible if she fails to do this she'll be lashed 100times for promiscuity or be imprisoned)
Shariah law chains them up. Why is God so ruthless against his own creations, women?

Justyswt said...

Pls poster, tell the guy and end the relationship. It is dead on arrival.

Eminado Onimisi said...

If he wasn't rich, you would have spite him at every opportunity you get and refer to him as aboki. If you remove his cuteness and wealth, will you still be head over heels in love with a Fulani man? That family will never accept you, if you like, you and your entire family should convert to Islam. You and your children will always be seen as commoners. You are both like night and day, peaceful union between you is impossible. Religion should be a necessary factor before you fall in love with anyone.

Janelle said...

I concur.poster take this advice.inter-tribal marriages work when the two families love and support each other.I can't even enter a marriage that my mother-in-law doesn't like me.Marriage is not a walk in the park and in-laws hatred just makes it worse.

Amacastel said...

Poster Pls follow dis advice Pls.

Anonymous said...

If only dis poster understand the northerners and how they live their lives she will not come here and be asking for advice from bv's.it is also possible u have made up ur mind to become a Moslem.bcos if u marry him u will definately be converted. Let me not deceive u,u have no idea what u are trying to buy fr urself.

Icon to badt said...

Hmmmm.If only my people knew that marriage is only a big deal when u marry right, every comma in a relationship would be an exit signal.

Anonymous said...

Becky Divine, Smh at your last paragraph. See why his mother doesn't want them together? Elebi oshi!

Yemi7up said...

Larry has vex o, but in as much as you are right things do happen and this is one of the rare things. The poster might truly love him for her to send in the chronicles, poster let him know about the call but remember this is not Zeeworld or telemudo o.

Scarlett said...

If you don't want to come between his family, then tell him that your family disapprove the relationship. That may solve the issue.

Lady T/ am worth more than a thousand dollars said...

The plain truth is they can do jazz for you. You will go mental or whatever they decide should happen to you. Whether you truly love him or not is not the issue. Leave him. Run with your two left legs if you get my drift. And yes it is possible he truly loves you. But they will never let it be.
I served in the North and saw a lot of them married to wives that they didn't truly love but will look for south or south east babes as side chicks. And they took care of the babes.
Dear lady, it won't work cos its beyond you two. Don't worry you will mend and he too will.

ukwu dimond said...

Is best you open up and tell him the whole koko but be diplomatic about it, if his mum ask you to stay away from onye hausa nne run for your life, I hope you know that some northern can be mean, especially fulani.

It seems to me dat this sweet life that we all are enjoying you are not enjoying it, stay away from him biko. Who love epp? Money money matter for igbo gal

Anonymous said...

Lmfaoooooooooooooooooo

Anonymous said...

Na who igbos no hate? Hian!

Blossom said...

Please leave the relationship. Its not worth it if the family has already told you from the onset.

If you end up marrying him,you will constantly be fighting battles with them. Love is not blind.

Anonymous said...

Girl that love is dead on arrival. You are unequally yoked with an unbeliever. Is this what you call love? Better stop fooling yourself that you love him and vice versa. Stop wasting your time and go your way already

Anonymous said...

I would advice you to stay away! Tell him what his mum said, but end the relationship. The whole family doesn't want you, what if you are killed by physical or spiritual means. A word is enough for the wise

Yemi7up said...

Not all the northerners or Fulani's married more than one wife, our president is typical example.

Vivilicious said...

Madam continue hyping yourself under anon you hear
Poster ignore his mum at your own peril

Vivilicious said...

You must be a Fulani brown.....

Hadey Halaba said...

All you guys shouting marry him! Marry him!!
Na woman dey propose?

By the way, he is Fulani and u r igbo, he can't marry you. D mother respect you and she loves her son. Don't make her loose her son thru in house fight.

Walk away now as friends, find love somewhere else.... And you can tell him in the future when both of you are settled in marriage.

It will be fun then

Anonymous said...

Never marry a guy if his family members are not in support. Some families are wicked. My marriage ended after 5months. Reason: inlaws didn't want me, so while I was away on holiday they planted juju in the house with my name and ex hubby's name on it to make it look like I went to do the juju. Trust most foolish African, he believed! Since I can't stand juju matter, I carry my two left legs comot there. It's been 1year and no regrets. My divorce story loading.......

Anonymous said...

How come I never observed ur comments before now? You are good girl. This is another doppelganger. Poster pls take this advice

Wild Rose said...

Dear poster, run as fast as your legs can carry you and don't look back. Let me tell you a story abt a northern friend of mine.
She married the husband as a 2nd wife and the 1st wife got jealous because the guy practically forgot about her existence. So She had to attack my friend spiritually. How? Anything their hubby wants to make love to the 2nd wife, a terrible odour will feel the room and the guy will leave her and immediately he steps out the smell will cease. This happened for a while until she begged him to divorce her and when he did the smell stopped totally. She got remarried to a widower as she can't handle the drama of being a rival to wives... Their jazz is out of this world abi you want make them lock your enemy's womb or make one go mad. Have pity on ur parents pls.

Anonymous said...

Lol.my dear the guy doesn't love one inch.maybe he loves the sex part or the crazy part of you.muslims/fulani dnt marry outside their tribe and thus you convert better but chances are slim if you are not from a recognised home.sorry.

Becky Divine said...

Hehehe Anon must you agree with me?? Cool down jare
And I hope say no be cuss you cuss me so oooh

Becky Divine said...

Anon ntoor gi there
Is it your hungry? Comon gerrarahere o jare

Anonymous said...

Tell him

Anonymous said...

I grew up in the North, poster just walk away. if you are in the same state with the guy, move away from there and let him know why. you might not accept my advice now but pls think about it.

Anonymous said...

She can only have a marriage albeit happy if she is alive to plan the marriage. This is hausa from a prominent home we are talking about. They don't mix blood, his cousin is already being lined up for marriage so poster, scram and keep your life. No amount of money is worth your life.

ZOMY said...

This is starting for you on a very bad note already...and its very risky. the battle of inter tribal marriage and of rejection from inlaws is a tough one, so i would advice you let him know and actually stay off. if what you have is real and meant to be, things would work itself out eventually...so first step is let him know...

Anonymous said...

PLS IF THE GUY ISNT A CHRISTIAN AND YOU ARE ONE....PLEASEEEE STAY AWAY!

Anonymous said...

STAY AWAY FROM HER SON, PERIOD! I WILL NEVER ADVISE ANYONE TO MARRY INTO A FAMILY WHERE SHE'S NOT ACCEPTED. A MAN CAN GET AWAY WITH MARRYING INTO A FAMILY WHERE THE WOMAN'S SIDE DON'T LIKE HIM BUT NOT A WOMAN (U GO SUFFER AM). IT DOESN'T MATTER IF THE GUY LIKES YOU, IN AFRICA YOU MARRY THE WHOLE FAMILY AND NOT JUST YOUR SPOUSE (GET MY DRIFT). IN A MATTER OF TIME, YOU WILL GET SOMEONE ELSE. NO ONE IS INDISPENSABLE. BORROW USAIN BOLT LEGS AND RUN AWAY NOW.

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