STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN A MARRIAGE IS BROKEN.
Compliments of the season to you.
Hmmm, so, I've been thinking of sending in my chronicles but not quite sure if to or not.
I just decided to.
It might be a long read so please bear with me.
I've been married for 7 years and it's been hell.I don't know what to do anymore. My husband abuses me emotionally and physically (2ce).
Hardly does a day go by without us fighting.He drinks and smokes heavily.We had a long distance relationship and nobody believes it's possible I didn't know he drinks and smokes.Honestly, I didn't know.I had known my husband for a while before we started dating.He used to drink and smoke but told me he had given his life to Christ and had stopped all those things. I believed.
During our wedding reception,my husband disappeared.Everyone was looking for him.Didn't know where he went.When he came back,he was smelling of cigarette.He said his friends said it's either they poured wine on him or he smokes 1 stick and he opted to smoke 1 stick cos he didn't want to be stained.Foolishly, I believed. That was only the beginning. From honeymoon till date, you find him drunk or high by 12 noon(most days).
Falling down from the bed,pooing on the floor, vomiting everywhere.(Good thing is he cleans up when he comes back to his senses).I just wonder if this is the man I married.
He comes home everyday and accuses me of having affairs with my neighbours,landlord.Nobody must pay me a compliment.Tells me I am stupid, daft, all kinds of insults.Called my mum and told her I am his wife and he can kill me if he wants,disrespects her at every instance(yet collects money from her).Threatens to kill me if he finds out i'm having an affair(did i forget he's an armed officer).
He goes through my phone,smashed my laptop on the floor.I'm always scared.When i got pregnant, this reduced. He said nobody will find me sexy anymore and that i'm now after one.I gained a ton of weight and he was happy. Once i start losing weight,he starts again.Who is looking at me?bla bla bla.Now,I'm just FAT.
Recently, he said the reason he has not been moving forward is because i've been having an affair.He is going to kill me,bla bla bla.This man goes months without dropping any money at home.I started working before him and I make more money than him. I pay house rent of N1.5m, pay children's school fees,buy their clothes,food,buy everything in the house, i do almost everything.Yet, this man still steals money from my wallet.
(There was a day I brought money home so i could give him to pay security since they had not paid his salary. He took 4k out of that money. I told him, it's just 2 of us at home and i brought this specific amount for this specific reason.He later apologised and returned it).
If I come home late from work, it's because i'm having an affair.
Let me add here, that I only slept with one man before my husband (we couldn't get married due to some issues) and he knows this.Yet, this man makes me feel like a prostitute.Me trying not to "gbensh" as sexy as I was, was because I wanted to keep my dignity.It was all in vain.
Another rent is due for me to pay, I'm tempted to move out.But i'm scared this man would find me and kill me.Most times, i stand up to him and hide my fear when he threatens me.If not that I know my self worth, I probably would have checked into a mental home by now. He feels he has the monopoly of insults.
I just tried not to bore you all with tales of woes.I don't know what to do anymore. I will comment anonymously if need be.
*What are you still doing with a man like this?GET THE HECK OUT OF THAT THING RIGHT NOW!
ah ah!.....I wanted to add that i dont see anything wrong with smoking once a while,then i read further and everything is damn wrong with that man IF IT IS AS YOU RECOUNT....
OUT YOU GO,Report him to.....Oops how do you report a thief to an armed robber? Big problem here...