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Thursday, 2 February 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

I went into a selah moment after I read....This is so horrible!




STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIED TO A FAMILY OF ABUSERS:


Stella please hide my ID.My story is similar to that of The person who sent in divorce story-6 but I think mine is worse. 


I am married to a man who is physically and emotionally abusive. Has no regard for me and shouts at me even in public.He also tells his family every issue we have and they always call to blame me whether or not it's my fault. On one of those times that he beat me up, I was pregnant so I dashed into the kitchen and carried knife and dared him to touch me again.


He called his family immediately and told them.they all called me and said they will report me to their kinsmen that I committed sacrilege,i told them their brother tried to kill me they said there's no excuse for me to carry knife that was how I started apologising to him. I went down on my knees apologising to my husband everyday. 2 Years later I was still apologising because he started using as excuse to beat me the more.


Now to my main topic: we travelled to the village during the festive season.My hubby and his brothers as a routine give our feeding money to two of their unmarried sisters. I and the other wife we are like house maids. The sisters relax and share work for us, today I am to cook and wash the dishes while she sweeps and mop the house and tomorrow we rotate.


After cooking we call our sister inlaw to dish the food and take the meat we have fried to her room. Our husbands are aware and said nothing. We the wives decided to endure after all Christmas is a few days and we go back to where we are based.

On this particular day I was to sweep and mop but was having running stomach I was so weak but I forced myself to sweep but stopped halfway to use the restroom after which I went to lie down. My sister inlaw started shouting at me to come sweep I told her I wasn't feeling well and she said" who do I expect to sweep it then?


She started saying I want to cause problems for myself etc.My hubby told me manage and sweep.I used my last strength to do what they wanted yet this my sister inlaw started following me while I was sweeping raining insults "is that how u sweep?look at how she's holding the broom? 


I couldn't bear it anymore I decided to leave the scene. she started following me and said she's been targeting me. I told her I said I'm not feeling fine and before I know what was happening she has landed me a very dirty slap in the presence of my husband.My husband pushed me violently and said I was pointing at his elder sister.i went to stay alone and cried my heart out. This lady started raining insults on me on how I am lucky her brother married me. I am short and not a befitting wife for him. Insulted my family,my state for over 4 hours,told me unprintable things.


 I didn't reply cos my hubby was supporting her and they could kill me.she even said my hubby told her what I said about them. While she was shouting some neighbors in the village gathered she told them I tried to kill their brother.I said she's lying and she started pursuing me with weapon while my hubby's elder brother slapped me too. 2 slaps in one day. They told me my sister inlaw has right more than me. She can do whatever she wants to me. She even said she will call umuada to strip me naked and flog me.


 Hubby just stood and watched.she told me they will come and remove my corpse from there if the other sister was around. I ran leaving my kids behind.few days later I went back to our base cos of my children and my credentials that was when my husband started apologising.He only condemned his brother slapping me but still supported the sister.

Im planning my exit this coming weekend and want to take one of my kids and leave one for him. Please Stella and fellow bvs what do you advise?

*Why do you want to leave one Child behind?Your situation sounds very bad,very very bad....I dont understand all this sometimes..How does it get so bad?why do people put their nose this deep into their family members private lives?
You should have gotten out of there before the second child but i guess you stayed trying to salvage a dead end situation.
If it true as you have recounted and you did not paint the story to suit you,then please I encourage you to find peace of mind somewhere else.







216 comments:

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ukwu dimond said...

Chronicles

Miss Ess said...

Please run and don't look back. Not only is your husband wicked and deadly, he is also two faced. Haba!

Anonymous said...

Take all ur children

Anonymous said...

Why do you want to leave one child behind, they don't like you and possibly might not like your children too don't let them make that child's like miserable. If you are truly leaving please for the love of God leave no child behind.

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

I'm sorry o but did you force him to marry you? Why did it take you so long to decide to leave. Asking sef shows you haven't made up your mind 100% to leave.
You had 1 and then 2 kids for a monster? Are your parents dead or what or don't you have friends.
Woman, you don't have a husband and it's sad that you've allowed two beautiful kids endure all this agony with you when you could have avoided it.
Trust me kids see these things unless they are below 3years old.
It's unfair to you and them to stay in this hell hole you refer to as marriage.
I do hope you work and anything at all that can provide for you.
No one deserves to be treated like this, please do not go back and do not bring up crap of staying because of your children.
They'd grow up to resent you for staying through it all.
Live for yourself now so you can be alive to see your kids appreciate you.

Anonymous said...

Another one sided story.
We women will always tell the evils our husbands did to us but never the good.
Also, we won't tell about the things our mouth said . . .
The mediums/babalawos/dibias/spiritualists visited to "ties him like goat"
Or the number of kids killed in "those days of happening babes" etc.
It is only when the things backfire that we begin to 'chronicle"
Or how we contributed to destroy our homes.
Ekwuchakwam!

Highness Gwen said...

Dont leave your marriage dear. I suggest u avoid them.Dont go to their village again abeg

Genny le boo said...

Brb

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Can you imagine??...
Poster,is this for real?..
You need to deal with those your inlaw's!...imagine them beating you up!...as wetin nah?..
You need to eat them up spiritually!...i
Nonsense!...
Infact poster,you are a Mugu!...Ezigbote ete!!...
Imaro ife ana aru!...

Kay Bee said...

If u must leave poster, do not leave ur kid behind. I repeat, do not leave any of them behind pls!

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Poster,don't leave your home oh!...
That your husband need to be chained!...
Cook for them spiritually and watch them dance to your tune!...

Becky Divine said...

Dear poster i don't understand
Why would you want to leave your child behind? Is it that you don't love them equally? Do you want that child to suffer? Or is it help you need?

Please leaving your child behind is really not the best option. If it's help you need... please come out and ask for it. Hopefully you might get help so you and your kids can quietly leave that hell hole

But before anything, Make sure that deep within yourself, you are ready to leave and move on. Cos if you're not ready... you'll eventually go back once he comes begging
So be very sure of this decision you are about to take

Anonymous said...

Mothers train ur kids well.these in laws of yours are evil,ur husband is a weak man.biko leave with all that's yours they aint worth it @ all.

violet ani said...

Please just leave this family of abusers,im so angry i could cry.take ur two kids and leave,those people have no regards for u whatsover,that family is a write off

Queen Eldaberry said...

Poster take both kids and run. May God help you...


I'll say it and will keep saying it, no man can ever try this shit with me.. Never

BLUNT CHIC said...

Where are your family members?
Is there any police station close to you?

I perceive in my spirit that before this week ends, he will hit you again. If this happens, faint. Yes! Fall and Dont ever get up until you get to the hospital. Take pictures, put it on SM and let the police do their work.

If you want to leave your marriage, make sure you take your children along.

Single Mom said...

Please leave with your kids before they kill you, and I know after much apologising by your husband you and I know you will still go back but please make sure he signs an undertaking before you return .



Long live SDK

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Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Madam you are not serious ooo. With all these people are still sharing about chronicles you are still there.

I hate when women dont empower themselves... imagine what you passed through na wa.

I am Mrs. by force. Dont leave ooo, continue staying there. Abeg i no dey talk for marraige matter, make i go do my work jare.

Genny le boo said...

Poster pls πŸ’ƒrun with your 2 kids o. The hatred might be transferred to the innocent child behind. That is why your SIL is not yet married wickedness. Say no to DV

lolah said...

Ur husband family are wicked.
Pls leave, leave b4 it get worst n pls dont leave any of ur children behind.

Prettypepis said...

This is tough, cases like this makes me scared of marriage

ukwu dimond said...

That was too bad, your husband sold you out to his family for all the insults. Do whatever will make you happy

Anonymous said...

Wow! Speechless

Madame koinkoin a.k.a 'peace lover" said...

Oh hh my God, please this story is annoying indeed similar to that divorce story, wetin you dey wait for pack your kids no even try leave one which kind house maid you be because you born for one man wey no even know your worth . Madame if your story is real abeg plan your exit seriously n leave without a trace.

Anonymous said...

Domestic violence again? Madam run for your life before it gets too late. Make sure u go with ur 2 children. God is your strength

Candid! said...

Infact,this is beyond shocking. This is beyond having a selah moment, at some point my eyes were bulging out like a crocodile. By the time I got to the part where u said ur sis-in-law slapped you, I developed goose bumps. Then your brother-in -law slapped you, I just transcended to a state of unbelief. Please what certificate are u going back for nne? First school leaving certificate? Because u can't tell me, after passing through the four walls of a university, u allow those frustrated,animalistic, and evil set of people u call husband and inlaws, treat u like trash. Even a school cert holder,wouldn't put up with such a demoralising ,inhumane,and derogatory situation.
Come o, where are ur people?when u ran away, who did you stay with? I would like to help you , so pls, can u post ur contact details. I don't have anything else to add. I'm flabbergasted.

Anonymous said...

Pls take ur 2 kids along with u when leaving pls I beg of u

mama wonder said...

Single girls worried about ur singleness,mourning ur singleness,feeling horrible,pls read this ok... This marriage is hell...this one is No longer 'I must marry' what r u waiting for madam??I cnt even take up to half of what u have taken.

DonMayor �� said...

You be Igbo woman right ? You married for money. Let your senior prefects come and advice you.

DonMayor.

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

What did I just read?

Dear poster, honestly, you are lucky to still be alive. Don't you have family members who can help you out of this predicament? I feel so sorry for you, but it is your husband I blame for this. Haba!!! What kind of man is he? Mschewwww. In fact, I am angry.... Take your kids and walk away... I am certain God will send helpers your way.

Atheist ™ said...

What an animal circus!
That's why I've not contributed to "Who be" and Lilian wahala, no one knows wat goes on behind closed doors, we only see IG glooming faces & bright sides, perhaps she made a mistake in choosing the wrong man, probably blinded by wealth, & jst a souvenir slap was enough to xpose one eye to reality, & she wouldn't wait till shit hits the fan like this poster, & lots xpect tolerance to play in her marriage 4gtn we'r all not wired to xceed 100degrees boilin point b4 taking a walk. You women should know your value, know your worth, you don't need Folorunsho Alakijas bank account to be respected by ur husband, imagine if lilin should hv a rethink & 4gv him for his proclivities, just imagine how mch he'd lick her ass.

SANDY NEKY said...

If you didnt paint this story in anyway, then permit me to say your horseband and his people are big and old fools. Them never born the sister in law that will treat me in such a manner. Pls theres nothing like patching in this case. Pack your things and kids and leave at once. Go seek for a better life. You will definitely survive pls*huh*

I am king EZE said...

What do you mean by ' take one kid', it's not going to be easy but you don't know how strong you are until being strong is the only option you have. Take your children and leave that mad house!,the one you want to leave behind is going to be damaged psychologically. find a job no matter how small, anything to survive.

Kay said...

Dear Poster, please do not leave your other child there. Please. Imagine what s/he will go through. Imagine the slaps and the awful things s/he will deal with. I do not know how hard it will be but food wey go feed 2 go feed 3.

Anonymous said...

A swear I'll kill that sister. Whaaaat. You too ur not ok you want to leave one of ur kids for him like slippers abi . Ur a goat.

Rowland Dominic said...

I wonder if some men are really men. I bless God for the parents that he gave me most especially the Mother that birthed me. For the values and respect for women has been some endearing fact that makes me the man I am today. Poster please take your children along with you. And please if you are a man in this present generation and you feel hitting a lady brings you comfort then your death is far worse than those of hit and run. How dare you hit a lady? Let alone your wife. My God!!! That's just too bad. I pity this generation of men that have no value for their Wives.

Chike TEFLON said...

Each time a woman says that her husband beats here and she still stay in that marriage the thing annoys me to my bone marrow.

Poster, You better take all your children and leave that marriage.
Most of Nigerian women and low self esteem are like 5&6 because of I must marry syndrome.

MamaZ O said...

How did your get to this?

Run as fast as you can with all your children and don't let him know of your plans.

I always tell people this. What you won't take as a Mr Somebody don't start to take it as a Mr Nobody.

Am sure you where tolerating alot of bullshit from your in laws and hubby hence what they have subjected you too.

Anonymous said...

I hope you leave and never look back again. Your husband sees no value in you, don't use your kids as an excuse to stay, you must move on immediately and never look back. NEVER!

Bekee-Bekee said...

@ Poster, please do not leave your Kid/s behind.

You need to leave the marriage ASAP, a divorced wife is better than a dead one.

Your In-laws are from Hell, what are your own parents and siblings saying about this.

Just plan your exit strategy without your husbands knowledge.

Move your certificates and other important documents first to a safe place, start to save money and act like everything is cool so that your MUMU husband does not suspect a thing, then leave his devilish ass and family.

Tufiakwa!!!!!1 what a wicked world.

They give their unmarried sisters family money to hold? Hian. They should remain unmarried ohhh. Village champions

Lillian French said...

Women NEVER leave your children, not even half.That child will be sent to your sis in law in the village and suffer there.You stayed in an abusive marriage, you endured why not take the children and endure with them? is it fair to take one sibling from the other? The worse is you wont be able to provide for them but you will live and be fine.You are responsible for them, you brought them into this sick situation, so bear them like that.I repeat don't leave any of them behind, posterity will never forgive you, nor that child.It will be wicked, cruel and selfish of you if you do.

Anonymous said...

WTF did I just read? My goodness! Don't you have family members? Do they know you go through this in that marriage? Mehn this is fucking crazy? Now I'm looking @ bae like πŸ˜’ because he is so close to his sisters.

SON OF SOLOMON said...

Eleyi gidi gan ooo, with due respect your horseband is useless and coward, where on earth sister in-law would slapped you and he was there cheering her up, even my father dare not try such, I'd get him arrested straight..NB run and forget your shoe behind but please never leave any child with him, your horseband family na iya osoronga...can I even make common sense..?

Wendixx said...

Hmmm.. what do I say?

@Poster, Do what it is you want to do, but don't leave your child behind please. That child will so suffer and might end up hating you for taking one and leaving the other.

But, do you have a job? what about your family? church? friends? colleagues?

I'm asking this because these are the people that will support you morally and financially this period. They are the ones that can put fear in the man when he comes fighting.. because he will.

How prepared are you for the hell that'll break lose from him then? who will shield you and your children?
Have you thought about a change of school for your children? because he might kidnap them from school to blackmail you. Please plan very well and look at all options before leaving Don't be caught unawares.

Above all, Never stop calling our Heavenly Father, He hears and delivers.. I've seen what wonders he can do in such situation.

God will not forsake you dear, God bless you

Cheer...

Madam Thomas the talk talk Aka the big mouth said...

Abomination of the highest. No man born of a woman can do this me and still stay alive to witness the next day

Mybliss said...

Hmm, this is beyond words. If you are leaving, please take all your kids.

ganglion said...

As Stella said "if this story is true as you recounted...", Leave with your kids. You just have to be emotionally and psychologically aware of what lies ahead. Wish you well.

Anonymous said...

Please take your 2children with you.

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

😱 Speechless

Chike TEFLON said...

This was how one lady her husband broke her head with rod and she was taken to hospital. She said she can't leave because of her children. Well I said inside my heart that she will soon die because of her children.

Ladies, marriage has no award but if you doubt me go to World Bank and collect money because you are a married woman

Joy Okanje said...

Some women sabi marry sha

Beloved said...

People are really in deep shit. Marriage !

iyke david said...

Is this real?!

Ibukunoluwa said...

Weekend seff is too far for u to run
Run!!!!!!!
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Anonymous said...

Hmm.madam first thing first if you did court wedding mbok get a lawyer and divorce him, but if not ,still get a lawyer and get a court order for restraints. Thirdly we have not heard from your hubbys'side of the story But Run for your life first,if not you will die.its sad women still dnt knw their rights .

Anonymous said...

all of u come Instagram o.... stella dey show nyash ooo

Beloved said...

That reminds me ...poster what of your relatives. What are they saying about the whole mess ?

Anonymous said...

Without finishing this chronicles I know what part of the country they are from.
Why are eeboh inlaws so wicked like this, the mother in-laws, the sister in-laws especially the unmarried frustrated one's. My edo friend married to one that is how the sister in-laws are wicked.
I don't blame them, they see their men as mini-gods and those one's in turn feels they own the woman because of the huge list and bride-price they collected and some that also train their wives in school. Job that their parents should have done. Once they marry them they most bring their whole family responsibility to the man.
Poster me I cant deal with this kind of shit. Please where is the enjoyment in this your marriage, because everything about it seems sorrowful.
Did that man ever love you at all? pls get out before either that man kills you or you kill him. Once a couple start bringing out knife for each other please that marriage is dead and buried.
I hope you have a job. I personally cannot live such a life.

Anonymous said...

Wow. My dear please take your two kids. End leave one there. I am begging you please take the two. If its for financial reasons we will help you. Please take your two kids and don't look back.

The man is a coward. When you left for a few days he got a scared he begged even though he was still being a proud bastard.

Please I am begging you once more. Run with your kids and don't look back. Don't ever look back. His family will always want to win the war so if you Ho back its times a hundred. They will hurt you harder. Please I a crying to beg you run with all of your children. Please I am begging you run and don't leave your kids behind.

When you are going back Ho with at least two strong men even if you pay two police officers 10k to accompany you because that devil you married May try to hurt you.

Anonymous said...

Nawa o, pple de try sha! Poster it is well with your soul.

MMM Guider said...

Don't you have men in your family, that can beat the living day light out of your hubby and sister in-law, I can't take that oh, I would have arranged area boys to mend them since. What rubbish.

Anonymous said...

A very long hiaaaaan!

Kels... said...
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Anonymous said...

sorry to say too na ebonyi people dey behave like DAT, I will rather marry a yaraba man Dan ebonyi man. tufiakwa for those sets of cannibals

Anonymous said...

I ask myself, these women who face such nonsense dont they have brothers and family?
am a guy and I dont have sisters o, but I can not afford to treat somebody's child this way.
Over the years i have come to notice that its even the guys with sisters that are always heartless towards women.
maybe because those of us without sisters are always trying to overcompensate by loving our women in order to fill that gap.

Jay said...

Abeg poster what is the name of the village so that I don't marry from there

Esther Mgbolu said...

Wth did did i just read*mouth open*i'm boiling with anger.let me go and cool meself,then come back later to comment because if i write what's on my mind now,you won't like it,it will only add to your pains and i don't want that.Bvs please advice with love don't be harsh

Cinnamon Apple said...

Things people go through in the name of marriage tho! Pls don't leave any child behind,move out with them

SWAG LAFRESH said...

The story annoyed me.

Madam, if you must leave, leave with both kids.

Tetrina said...

These days marriage is becoming something else. How were our parents, grandparents, great grandparents able to stay in marriages spanning over 40 years? Where are we going wrong? I'm so sorry for what you're going through poster but please don't take one child and leave the other.

Scarlett said...

Pls take both your kids and walk away. Marriage isn't by force and you still have a say.

His sisters are unmarried because of their attitude. Who wants a bad woman as a wife.

Your husband is going to kill you one day. Madam, walk away while you still have the chance.

Anonymous said...

This is my first time commenting, though I have been a BV for about a year now. Poster, please whatever you do-do not leave any of the kids behind. I do not know your financial situation but please God will provide a way. Dont leave any of those innocent kids behind-with that kind of family? Mba

sexy Daddy said...

Na wa!na real waa!in Gifty's voice

Kels... said...

please poster don't leave any kid behind. what about your family members? brothers? please take your credentials out of that house as soon as possible, and also meet people that can fight for you so you don't get subdued by your inlaws and hubby because they'll definitely fight back. be strong nwanne...

Tade Adeola said...

somtyms i wonder.. Marriage na by force??? U beta take both ur kids before dem send d dead body to you

Anonymous said...

Carry both your children and run!! Don't leave any of them behind. Those his sisters watch too many nollywood movies. Later they'll be wondering why they are not married. Their karma is on it's way. Kmt.

code009 said...

This is bad. Take your children, go get a job. They can stay out of school till September. Get your foot back up. You can do it

Anonymous said...

Ezigbo ada, chief, biko how do I do it, I just want my sanity back, I'm not s poster pls bur in a similar situation. Biko nnem help me

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

Oh dear!
Please poster, take your precious life out of that den, and don't leave your child behind.
Make sure you take them both; but all them access to their father.

If all you wrote there is the truth, then your husband and his family are abusive and they need to be taught a lesson.

He's evil, he allowed his sisters and brother to molest you. He's wicked.
Those your sisters in-law are not married, or did they killed their husbands too. Evil women, tormenting their brothers wives.

May the Lord guide you. Be careful, don't exchange words with your husband, don't leave any of your child behind. Leave him and get a good lawyer to serve him divorce papers.
You have to live for yourself and your kids, don't allow them cut your life short.

Florence Dibs said...

Evil family...
Pls pack whatever u have and run away even ur children don't leave any beside
I whether if people don't study their partner again before marriage

Anonymous said...

Them never born that idiot.

Olivia Silk said...

Don't be silly!

Olivia Silk said...

πŸ‘Œ

Tessbaby said...

Hmmmmmmmmmm. Short of words. Re situations like this real? So much going on in marriages today that i just cant comprehend. Poster ur safety 1st please. Talk to ur family asap. Pls.

Green Field said...

Pls do what Blunt chic suggested, that way u get support faster from him for ur kids, pls go with both of them.

The unmarried sisters will turn ur child to slave. They're too wicked. Hmmmmmm: Marriage SMH

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Please take ur two kids n run as far as u can.
Marriage is not a do or die affair... There is no law that states that one must endure until he or she dies in that marriage.
Your happiness n sanity should be your top priority.
You need to leave,dont bring up ur children in such a toxic environment so that another woman won't suffer in nearest future in the name of abuse.


I pray that ur two sisters in-laws will remain unmarried.
And if someone managed to marry them,i wish them more of what they dished out to u.
May they suffer in their husband's house.

Anonymous said...

Kolo mental

Dope PH BaBe said...

Seconded don't leave any child behind.

Jasmine said...

Gerrout hia

Just Glamour said...

Your brother in law slap u,your sister in law too,God punish devil,that day I will burn down the whole village,useless family,I have so much to say, but I'm so angry right now,and you still want to live one child for him. Msheew

Munchies Diner said...

No one should stay in an abusive relationship...

Fellow BV's I am a University graduate but presently unemployed. I need a small loan or grant to be able to grow my small diner to a big fast food restaurant... Any amount will be appreciated. I believe empowering me will also help take lots of people off the street and feed families.

Dope PH BaBe said...

You sure you're a woman? Sound more like a man. SHM

Jasmine said...

I'm not sure the sister-in-laws r married o. And they r older than her husband meaning age has gone past them.

Anonymous said...

Please madam why are you going tobleave one of your children with these crazy people? That child will never forgive you. Please I beg you take your children with you. Be strong. You will laugh last. God bless you.

Anonymous said...

Imagine make sister in-law and brother in-law dey slap me. I will arrest them. That's why I no like to marry IBO people at all

beautiful godly said...

Poster how did it get to this stage
I tell people don't let any man ride on you,bcos they are not god talkless of your Inlaw, I won't take this even as I nor dey work I go don pack and run away,life is more important than bearing the title "Mrs"
Pls don't leave any of your child behind ,leave for sometime ,let him know u can do without him,even if u are not working ,do u know if u die your children will live and may forget you if there are still very young and the hegoat will marry some other woman that will make life miserable for your kids
Go meet your family,church or friends for support,make them laugh u than mourn you
Pls flee for your life with your kids

Tiwa

Dope PH BaBe said...

Hmmm dz your advice ga araputa di woman if it backfires. Madam chronicle just Jejely leave.

Lizzy said...

Some weeks ago I told one of my church member whom the horseband beats with her child strapped to her back to allow me get her like 10tab of Diazepam wey she go crush inside him soup and after him sleep, she go tie him leg then flog am with koboko and leave him tied for 3 days.. Then after all said and done, both family will have a meeting and she should tell him to his face that next time he beats her, she's gonna kill him, she just dey fear.. Even people that heard said am wicked, but dem no gree advice the idiot husband say him wicked to dey beat the wife o..
Although I pray not to marry someone who will beat me o, but if any man tries nonsense with me, chai, i will show him PEPPER!!!
Sorry dear, abeg don't leave any of ur kid o, go with both of them and am sure God will send u help from where you least expected.

SONYES SIGNATURE said...

Ha what did I read? Omg...


Poster pls take all ur kids and run pls

Iphie dearie said...

LMAO!
Atheist why do i have a feeling you wont drop this 'Who Be' in a hurry.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

BEDS AND ROSES said...

I really pity your kids in all this. See the kind of environment you and your husband are bringing up kids in. Poster this kind of environment is not healthy for me a grown woman, not to talk of innocent kids.
You people are bringing out knives and acting Chuck Norris movie in the house. Then your in-laws are acting Patience ozokwor movie for you. Then you just sit down there and you are crying.
Did you people actually love each other before getting married? Because I am lost for words. How does a marriage based on love become this sour.

Rosemary Chidi said...

Husband/in-laws from the pit of hell. Take your two kids with you biko, don't leave anyone behind... They might start maltreating him/her.
The Lord is your muscle

Roseflower said...

Hahahaha linda you're such a character my goodness!
As for the poster, may the Lord see you through whatever decision you make.

Mao Akuh said...

I hope you're gainfully employed or has a business before trying to leave if not its gonna be on some BVs' to help sort you out later, which I don't pray for you. Most of us are the "cusser" of this kinda thing when travelled for any festive period. One needs to be prepared as a wife before going to the village no matter what, atimes not by force to travel.

-I hate men that support their sisters' stupid behaviours.

I travelled to the village, immediately we arrived, called my bros to get me a camp gas and my brother-in law (the last born of the house though married) was like - so you wanna have your own kitchen? I no send'am when I came with one BIG ghana must go bag? My hubby told me that he would eat from his mum's pot, I said no problem. The day hunger tear him eyes eh, he told me to better get his food o that he doesn't wanna hear anything, the laugh wey I laugh that day eh, no be person tell'am to have a re-think anytime I cook... What am I trying to say...

We need to have something doing no matter how small it is before marriage so that your in-laws will give you some respect(s) but when you depend solely on your hubby, disgrace, insult, beatings, etc will become your friends. I pray God leads you aright, pls do not leave your kids behind.

mom007 said...

If you had the guts to comment with an ID and not go anon, i msy have taken you serious. Black hearted monster!

Gbogbo bigz girlz said...

You are funny. Eat them up spiritually.

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

Ha na waoooo

Anonymous said...

to avoid this type of marriage, marry for love. Don't marry because of pressure or money. A normal man will not beat a woman that he loves or watch her suffer and he will defend you when the need arises

Lip stains said...

WTF!!!this is some horse shits I can, would,never,in a million years tolerate from in-laws (Abuse) ladies plsss while you are in a relatiosnhip or still courting,engaged to your spouse plsss try as much as possible to try and know more about the family of the man you're with,make your findings,investigate.Ask questions-is your man able to make decisions on his own,can hr defend you,his he violent??? These are questions you need to ask your self before venturing into marriage,anyhoo poster do what you have to do to save your self, life is too short.

Candy said...

Boss, boss, u don vex oooo. I'll suggest poster leaves with her kids ooo. B4 sumtin will happen to the kid she decides 2 leave behind.

Anonymous said...

PLEASE RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!

mom007 said...

She can't take them both now, especially as she is walking into uncertainty. She obviously has no job, how will she feed and send them to school? Madam, take the younger child. Have a heart to heart with the older one. He/she may understand why you need to leave but give a phone number where you can be reached in case of incasity. God be with you.

Anonymous said...

Imagine what culture is doig to Some women, let that sister inlaw now! What is she still doing in her father's house? madam dont live any child behind wicked people every were.

Anonymous said...

Stella I love your red pen especially where U wrote if it's true as she has recounted and the other lines are well addressed sis. One thing U should never do is talk about your in-laws in a bad manner to your husband 2: why will U leave one child behind, is it that U don't love the other child or thats the only child that belongs to him? 3: you shouldn't have allowed it got to such stage before U exit 3: is any of your family not aware, please reach out to them, they will handle the situation perfectly. 4: what happen to the other wife in that family? How is she handling her home, did she ran out too? When U know the kind of inlaws U have, don't toy with Ur life. It's good you are out of that home but please get your family involved. Stay good

Anonymous said...

When you have your own child.let her husbands family kill her and advice her to stay.tsheew

Someone said even her husband is beating her
She should die there so we can bury her
Oniranu
You think marriage is the ticket to heaven

Anonymous said...

Anything done outside God backfires

Mybliss said...

Hahaha @ spiritual cooking.
Don't cook the one that will undo you.

nina chocomile said...

Jesus is Lord! When I read chronicles like this, it just me. Who the hell are these monsters? And to worsen the case it's even the whole family. Poster pls get out of that house, and do it fast. And go with you 2kids, don't leave anyone behind. You will survive, trust me you will. God have Mercy.

Anonymous said...

Exactly as I thought, when things were rosy and sweet, did you reach out to his families, send things to them? Did you showed them love? Women should learn how to love their husband's family as well because they will stand by you when you av problems with Ur husband. The reason why I'm not in support is because U left behind a child and took the other, why? If U were not safe in that home, why should that poor boy/girl be left behind. Is it that the one with him is his rightful child?

Great charming said...

Aunty well done ooooo u try Sha I pray I have such enduring spirit ooooo abeg don't leave your kids behind pls

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

How well do you pray,chanel everything to God and do the best you can. Aanother thing is that you may need to separate from him for the meantime.

nina chocomile said...

Talking from experience?

Anonymous said...

foolish woman. be there still asking stupid questions...what are you waiting for? why should you leave the other child for those animals?...stupid women like you are why men still continue abusing women...is marriage by force? is it a ticket they put in your grave after death to enter heaven? anybody who tells you not to leave that marriage is a complete bastard....leave that marriage with your kids and live....stop existing just to bear the title MRS...

Nobi's Mum said...

I am going to type this in capital letters for emphasis. DO NOT LEAVE ANY OF YOUR CHILDREN BEHIND. I know you may be thinking about how to cope but it will get better. Trust God.

Anonymous said...

Madam, you sound like a trouble maker, just within the Christmas holiday, na him you display like this as if you live with them like forever. I sure say your mouth go dey run like tap with insult. Change your way, just like your co.wife.

GOONs Mi said...

Gosh!
I must enjoy my marriage o, whether the devil. Brothers, sisters, aunties, uncles, mother, father, cousins, villagers like it or yes!

What da fuck did I just read??? Are you a leper? Why endure such a long suffering? Biko, take your 2 kids and don't leave anyone and leave.

Do you work? Do you have your own money? If no, Can you steal ur Hubby's money and run far away? If yes please FLYyYYYyyyyYyyYyyYy!!!!!

Bob_risky said...

Dont go to their village again??? And remain with the said monster? You are even worse than the said husband. My God!!! Your stupidity just got me upset. And no, am not going anonymous.

Bob_risky said...

My love for you will never die, never die #singing. Queen and bossπŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

marriedchick said...

Na wa ooo... See as i dey vex dey read this ur chronicle... Did u beg him to marry you? Were u sold to him and his family? His elder brother and sister slapped you the same day and the stupid hubby kept quiet? In fact i dey vex... Ejoor, make i face front oo .. God punish Satan...mtcheee!!!

Anonymous said...

Guy, U must av slept with lots of women in marital situations with your regular comments on issues like this. Repent o

Anonymous said...

What part of Nigeria is all this rubbish happening? How do people end up with this type of family? As in who are these illiterate SIL who hasn't stepped out of their village mindset humiliating another woman? Wonders!! Poster I am short of words but I empathize with you. You are doing the right thing moving on, don't reconsider hoping he's changed. Supposedly he changed, how about his folks? Please move on and I wish you the very best out there

MrsBee

Anonymous said...

I'm very very confused o. Why do people keep their certificate around? I've been married for 5years now and even before i got married i bought a car and the documents were handed over to my parents, same as all my certificates. i've 5siblings and all our credentials are with our parents we only have copies with us, stock portfolio mails gets sent to their house. My land documents are with my parents also. infact all the tinest bits of original certification and properties are kept with my parents who in turn keeps them at the bank. Even if they die tomorrow my older brother has all the details. why keep your certs at home with your hubby for that matter? There could be a fire! Don't you girls think of that? What if your hubby turns into a monster? Every woman should be able to move on the spot! Anything can happen. Buy a land, house or build a house the documents must never be in your immediate possession. Someone can point a gun to your head and make you sign over deeds of properties now! THINK WOMEN! THINK!!!

Anonymous said...

OMG! Poster's SIL is also on this blog?

Bob_risky said...

Poster, dump his sorry ass. Take your kids, dont leave any of them oo so they dont start copying the abusive nature of their dad. Then before you leave rub boar oil on his dick, this will make him never to function again as a man, the prick will forever lay low.
All will be well. I hate abusers.

Anonymous said...

Alasia bus stop is opposite dominion city headquarters after Ajah. I don't know where you are coming from. When you get to Ajah, enter keke going to lakwe or that route and tell them to stop you at alasia. Its 100naira keke from Ajah or 150naira bike

Anonymous said...

Don't be silly. Igbo men don't treat their women like that. In fact this has to be a Yoruba demon, its their lifestyle

DonMayor �� said...

Stay there o, because if you leave, you are still gonna come back. We know your type.

Your family can't even help you in anyway, because you have been sold to the highest bidder, like a bazaar goat.

Stay and be crying inside Hummer o, stay there because of your kids. Your inlaw's know you have been bought like a slave.

Anonymous said...

Who saved the video oooo

Monkeynofine said...

Ooooh God see as my blood dey bore chai, my in-laws won't even try dis rubbish with me sha..... Shoe get size naw ....... Dem don confirm u as a certified mugu that's y they're playing oludo on your head. What nonsense.

MOTHER NATURE........ said...

After reading your story I wished I was the one honestly. Them for see Oba; see the grandfather join. Some people think they have monopoly of wickedness. Chai! Please make me your friend then I will teach you how to teach such people a bitter lesson they will never forget in their life.

What sort of marriage is this for Christ sake? I'm super angry right now ehn! You see why I hate SIL and MIL drama. Thank God such people have not crossed my way. What kind of man are you married to? Did you force him to marry you? Babe, the day you know your worth, that is the day you will stand up to them and deal with them mercilessly. I remembered when my sister's hubby was beating her and threatened to ruin her life. I arranged guys for am him fear go SSS that I want to kill him lol. I keep saying this; I can't be married to a man who prefers his family to me. No preaching can change my mind on that.

Madam, please take your two kids and start running...... Keep running and stay far away from their reach.And while at it, make sure you've thought of what you can do to earn a living.

I can only pray your plans are successful bec anger wouldn't let me advise you properly.

MhizVee said...

What are you saying? A man who cannot defend his wife is not fit to be called a husband.

Tphany Gracia said...

Poster take ur two children along and leave that scum u called a man

Sparkles said...

WHATEVER a woman does CAN NEVER, WILL NEVER justify physical abuse!!
This is not feminism it's just what it is. They are in no way a match physically. Pick your own size, for what it's worth get a punching bag.
Horseband own no reach, sister come join.... God forbid bad thing!

Bob_risky said...

And james decided to go anonymousπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Anonymous said...

Everyone will tell a one sided story. I find it difficult to believe that a husband that married you will do all these u mentioned without any provocation from you. Just like someone I know who started abusing the wife all of a sudden and the wife was painting him bad to everyone. Not until the day the husband opened up on what really made him a monster.this woman lies to the husband about everything. She chests on him of which the man has evidence to prove it and she is unapologetic about it. Even all these provocations, her mouth can cut down a giant tree. Now tell me, in this situation, it take a very kind man to absolve and not react.so poster, send a link to this ur story to your hubby so that we can read his own reply. I'm tired of all these near impossible stories. Note:Am not supporting DV. But sometimes it's good to know the actual reason why someone behaves abnormally. That's my own say on this.

Anonymous said...

Hmm. These stories scare me o. Before I got married my mother said to me: when u go to visit ur in-laws, don't pretend. What u don't like, reject it before it becomes a norm. Small small, they were coming like snakes but I crushed their heads before hey got too close enough to strike. They wanted to force me to do respect things,I did my bit, do chores, cook, and other small stuff. But when any one tried to take advantage I just call out the person sharply. I love my peace o. Hardly go there except festive seasons. Once I overheard mother in law gusting with her friend and the friend asked her to tell me to come and mop ground where her drink poured when my small in law's were there. I was in d next room. I waited to hear my name but my mother in law sharply told her that I am not that kind of daughter in law, that she should send the children there. I just smiled. I respect everyone and stay on my Lane. I don't do anything that ll make anyone tell me nonsense. I am married to their brother not them. Women stop making ur in law's feel like they r d rock or pillar of ur marriage. U have given them too much room and now expect ur husband to defend u? Take ur children and leave him. If u can't stay is it ur child that ll stay and be cared for? I love and value my peace of mind and sanity above every other thing including marriage. So u know what to do.

Igbins said...

Pls If dis story is true 100 percent true send ur no to Stella with proof will like to assist u to leave dis country with d kids n accommodation to start a new life in Canada pls ..

Iyke Desmond said...

Lolss ....funny buh very sensitive comment...

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Candid What hit me from your comment was 'after passing through the four walls.....' As in really, that was the thought that crossed my mind. are the husbands people even educated? Because I don't understand what I just read here.
Poster please me I will like to help too for the sake of the innocent kids. They need a fresh start or even a break from that toxic home/family. If u have an account that can be credited let us know. But please this would be after all proof has been tendered oohhh because there are too many liars appearing on this blog nowadays to ask for help with unfounded stories

Anonymous said...

I still wonder what will give my sister in law d guts to touch me. It can't happen. I m so pissed at this story. Slap u as what? I make my money as well as hubby. I don't live off him and don't kiss their asses. Women know where to draw the line. Even to my children's name,I did to suit myself. Stop worshipping inlaws and giving them room to abuse u. I don't harrass my brothers wives . there is mutual respect. Stop this in law worship.I protect myself from abuse before expecting my husband to protect me. Cos men naturally support their families against wives. Don't give room for d rubbish! M really angry! Wtf!

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Side note to BVNs: As a very very consistent liar that suffers from delusion grandiose due to the 'madness' that runs in my family, I am thankful I don't beg (pride,maybe??). But I've never and won't promote begging without a need. Please ABEG can some of us allow those in need to actually ask and be heard/seen? Stop littering the comment section with requests everyday from the same ID even when you have received. Let the giveaways from givers go round as many as possible before you come back begging and asking. Let's have some shame. #ToWhomItMayConcern

Anonymous said...

@ mom007 that is Rubbish. There is nothing you would tell that child that she would understand, let her take the 2 kids and walk into uncertainty with them. If she leaves one child behind she would forever regret it.

LIGHT said...

Please and please,dear poster learn from the very first divorce story,never ever leave your kids behind. Even if you dont have plans for them yet,take them with you. Even if you have to sleep under the bridge,take them with you please im begging. Prepare your mind that you might not find it easy but nothing, not even marriage is worth loosing your life for.

Loyalwify said...

Some sisters in law are devil especially those that ve reached the age of marriage and are not yet married.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes u talk rubbish and sense at the same time. I think u have bi polar disorder!!

Iyke Desmond said...

Which man will marry dat kinda of elder sister with such attitude ....dats why she's still single and bitter.... stupid set of people

She-who-must-not-be-named said...

Why would a woman leave her kids behind while trying to leave her abusive husband? I don't get it! Poster better leave that man and his family before they kill you

queen hadassah said...

Poster please leave with your kids so that your inlaws won't turn them to house helps.

Anonymous said...

Women, always playing and acting like the victim. Mrs. Poster, I am sure your mouth runs like a tap. I am sure you mocked those single SIL or being single and called them names behind them - walls have ears. I am sure you complain to your husband to stop sending money to their sis. My SIL does almost all chores at our house when she visits. She does them happily even when I'm around. Ma'am, for your husband an his family to abuse just YOU, and not the other wife inclusive, then, check yourself Ma. Check your character. Your in law have a problem I agree, but I think you too have a problem. Can men please tell us their DV stories? Tired of women painting men and in-laws all bad. I am a lady for your information

Emeka Chukwurah said...

Jeeez!! For whatever reason, no woman deserves such heartlessness. What is it? Pls run o. It's better to be single for now than be dead.

missylynn said...

Haba poster, don't leave any of your child ooo
Hurry and leave before it turns more sour
God help you dear

oluwatoyosi said...

Poster you have left or did I see you write planning to leave. Why do we as children run from our parents when flogged but stayed as adult to be beaten? I'm not yet married but when I am, I won't sit to be better d. God forbid, that is if it even happens.

oluwatoyosi said...

Are u saying a woman should be beaten and battered than to be ignore or at most left alone. ? Your are terrible oooo

The Lifted said...

na wa o! whick kain story be dis na? God forbid bad tin o, pls leave asap

straight shooter(allergic to bullshit*) said...

Lol , your comment tho# as for the poster i cannot understand how you stayed in your horse bands house for years even afterall the abuse, i must join chief to call you a mumu, please leave that house , dont you have family members?? Gosh its bad enough that you were abused by your husband but by your in laws too?? Thats just too much, please leave wiith your two children so that youll have nothing i repeat nothing and no reason to ever contact that monster again..
Abuse to women is a no no for me, i cant even take a slap from a man , talk more of beating,RIP in advance to any SOB that tries it..

Anonymous said...

Chei! I almost married into a crazy family like this. Good thing their wicked family head insisted we will not get married. Maybe dem for done put my enemy for jail by now. You mess with me, I kill you str8!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Stella I think we should have an account where people will donate money, clothes etc to support women of domestic violence ! This will help them leave their marriage and start afresh ( just a suggestion ) . Please poster take your kids , imagine leaving one behind , he will turn out to be ... who knows . Take them both , God will sort you out.

Anonymous said...

My friend, you are a horrible human being or maybe you are just stupid. DV cannot be excused. If you catch your wife cheating, divorce her shikena! Instead of turning into an animal and spreading your poison. No be she get her punani? If her mouth sharp, I sef sharpen your mouth. If u no for stick am, carry her bag for her head, drive am commot. Joor!

ukwu dimond said...

That your sil has an ugly attitude, that is why she is still single. Don't worry just keep praying for her that one day she will get married, someone will treat her worse than the way she and her family are treating you. Is frustration that is disturbing her, you will be fine.

Anonymous said...

My dear i'm short of words seriously this inlaws their wahala is too much. Her husband is just the cause ooo. My man his family members dare not come close to me. He has always defended me from them ooo. They say things @ my back and they have never said anything in my front. Na only gossip I dey here lol dey are just dying cos they know their brother na craze lol so they are scared of him. Madam do fasting for your sister inlaws to marry oooo so u can have peace in your home. But I think u need some break from both your husband and his family. Stay away from them so u'll get your sanity. But u sure say u no shape mouth for them cos someone like me if u like talk from now till tomorrow I no go answer you ooo na that one pain pass.

ifeoma lan said...

When some women beg their husbands for pad money....why won't it get to this....most women focus on give birth....u should have started taking birth control after d 1st child...it's not a crime to be divorced....I hate to see jobless married women....they equal rags to their husbands....no matter how rich ur man is...get something doing...he can change into a monster over night...then u start licking his ass for money....God forbid!...most naija women just focus on fucking and borning...

B said...

That means you know nothing about Nigeria. I am an Igbo babe that lives in Lagos and some of my friends that are not from my tribe will strongly disagree with you. Infact I have heard of women (not igbo women) that state that they feel that their husbands show love by beating them. So chil', abuse has no tribe. That being said, I advise that you stop with the discrimination and face your books. I mean educate yourself better instead of being ignorant.

Miss Kay said...

Some people don't have sense at all, smh for you poster, recieve sense, flee i say unto you, marriage my ass!

Anonymous said...

These useless in laws are not illiterate o.I blame our poor educational system. A lot of so called educated people may have education but are certainly not educated. And certainly some psychological problems involved because abusing other human beings while you claim righteousness is not normal at all. How many women especially have good relationships with their in laws? People don't understand that we all can't be friends but at least we must learn to be civil towards one another but for many, it's war.

Men should be more responsible, stop putting your lives in the hands of your relatives. You have to be a man who can handle his own home enough that your family can respect and give you enough space to build your life. Women stop being bitter towards other women. It's not going to change your situation or make your life any better. Help raise better men and support other women to be able to live in peace and harmony.

Anonymous said...

When will our fellow Africans leave this babaric act of enslaving their wives? They can afford help but no, when they get together, they get the chance to ride the women, turn them into maids and find one fault or the other. Petty nonsense she did not kneel down well, she didn't call somebody she is way older than buoda, didn't serve one uncle food, didn't give Aunty lagbaja big coke, didnt collect the chair from her husband when he carried it, sleeping cos she is pregnant. People please. Grow up already. This is 21st century madness. This is one reason this society is a mess. Too much evil going around. And why is it that most times, it's women who perpetrate this evil? Sis in law and mothers in law need Jesus fast.

Godhelpus! said...

Nonsense excuse and fyi you are supporting DV. So because it is the woman lying in this case? Men that can lie for Africa nko? Can'they he talk to her family members about his grievances or is it because she does not have as much physical strength as the man? Isn't it better for him to leave her than to beat her? Doesn't he know that he could kill her and if she dies what happens then? Will he say it was the devil? Seriously Nigerian men need to be tamed as most have all resolved to be animals

Anonymous said...

My dear i'm short of words seriously this inlaws their wahala is too much. Her husband is just the cause ooo. My man his family members dare not come close to me. He has always defended me from them ooo. They say things @ my back and they have never said anything in my front. Na only gossip I dey here lol dey are just dying cos they know their brother na craze lol so they are scared of him. Madam do fasting for your sister inlaws to marry oooo so u can have peace in your home. But I think u need some break from both your husband and his family. Stay away from them so u'll get your sanity. But u sure say u no shape mouth for them cos someone like me if u like talk from now till tomorrow I no go answer you ooo na that one pain pass.

Godhelpus! said...

Nonsense excuse and fyi you are supporting DV. So because it is the woman lying in this case? Men that can lie for Africa nko? Can't he talk to her family members about his grievances or is it because she does not have as much physical strength as him? Isn't it better for him to leave her than to beat her? Doesn't he know that he could kill her and if she dies what happens then? Will he say it was the devil? Seriously Nigerian men need to be tamed as most have resolved to be animals in the name of exercising their authority. Mtscheeew!

Anonymous said...

Yes oooo. Very true. One day at a time, before eyu know it, you are doing it and you will doniy.

Great lady said...

Madam, Abeg park your things and leave and never go back, I mean never even if he brings heavens to beg you, I mean, never never go back.

Why will you leave one of your kids behind. You can't bear the pain, do you think a child will bear the pain, what future so you think she will have living amongst abusers?she will come to take those traits from them and she/he will never forgive you when he/she grows up. Better carry the both of them even if you are unsure of what next to do, carry ur kids Biko.

Tomorrow is Saturday, carry the things you can and run as far as ur legs can carry you.

Great lady said...

Yea.thats a great suggestion. I support

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Better get an ID before they call you chikito. Kikikiki. *kiss

Anonymous said...

I support this course 100%. There will just be some sort of body to confirm genuine cases and also to promote women liberation by educating singles especially on the importance of financial independence before and after marriage. Being financially dependent on men can be a lifelong trap. He is not your daddy but your husband. If you rely solely on him, he will treat you like his bad child when he gets irritated by you or anything else.

Anonymous said...

Take both kids or leave them both. What are you trying to do? Better take both kids.

DonMayor �� said...

Ask poster, na Igbo she be. Abi I lie @ poster ? It's only Igbo man family that can behave like that.

DonMayor �� said...

Yoruba demon and his family are too exposed to be slapping their daughter in-law.

Anonymous said...

E fit don see say you no be wife material. Wife material as in mumu, glorified house girl. Una trrrrrry. I shake my head for this country sha. People will be complaining this person is bad, that one is wicked for embezzling or being corrupt. Don't you all know by now? The law of Cycles states that what goes around comes around. Everything and everyone is linked like one big garment. A small hole in one part diminishes the quality of the whole. Things will never get better unless everyone denounces evil whether it's towards your gardener you always shortchange or towards members of your constituency. Karma is there for a purpose and it's not called a bitch just for the fun of it. It tidies up to the last pin. Be kind. Sometimes it's hard to be kind but try harder each time you fail.

Poster and women in general, be strong! You are stronger than society pegs you. Stand up for yourself, dare to be different, we are all fools trying to figure it all out, just be very strong and firm. Look the devil in the eye if it comes your way, let him know you will not be walked over without a hard fight. Let him know you fight back and you could be a one man army let alone having many more your type to support you. People please let's condemn this evil behaviour that's becoming very rampant. We need to train and retrain our men to be more responsible adults. Women are not your slaves. They are human beings like you and should be treated as human beings as well. If you want respect from a woman, show her respect as well. Women, respect yourselves too very well especially before marriage.

DonMayor �� said...

God bless you. How can you be beating someone you claimed to love ?
The guy aquired the girl like a furniture, that's the reason for the unending beating..

DonMayor �� said...

Dumbest idea.

Anonymous said...

Fantastic woman! Thank you for this comment. Don't mind these women who come to social media to spill their misery. It's their fault mostly that their husbands beat them o and they call it abuse. You really tried. Don't worry, BVS are very forgiving. When tables turn and you find yourself at the receiving end, they will be here to encourage you too. Hopefully, there won't be too many miserable bullies like you trying to bring down other women who are already at their lowest.

Let's say you have it good in marriage or in life, why not just be thankful and enjoy your good fortune in peace. You need to learn to shut up if you have nothing nice to say. By all means, go and find men who want to cry about DV in a system that is already overly patriarchal. Be very careful what you dish out. This was not necessary at all.

Anonymous said...

PLEASE IF THIS STORY IS REALLY REALLY TRUE. I WILL VOLUNTEER WITH MY FRIENDS TO COME TEACH THAT ANIMAL OF A HUSBAND OF YOURS A LESSON HE WILL NEVER FORGET. JUST DESCRIBE HOW WE CAN FIND YOUR HUSBAND AND HE WILL NEVER KNOW WE WERE FROM YOU.

Anonymous said...

Please my dear go and watch the move war room.please

Zoe said...

Ur husband is the Genesis and revelation of ur problem, I don't understand y a married man ll not stand up for his wife and support her as well as protect her like he vowed in God's presence. Is it that he doesn't love u enough or he married u just for him to have his own kids I really don't get. Please take ur kids away and I hope u are financially secured so u won't have the thoughts of 'how will I survive' restraining ur plans.

Anonymous said...

Another one sided story indeed. Why are people always in a haste to condemn men/husband as regards anything that happens in a marriage/relationship. Madam poster, are you sure you are 100% free of blames of what is happening in your marriage?

Anonymous said...

LOL! For a minute i tot i wrote this..as a newly married bride i suffer no be small.I Swept ,cleaned cooked with firewood sef, yet den nor allow me drink water drop cup.time to sleep she say na me n her go dey same room the stupid hubby sef nor fit talk..infact story for another day.

Nkylorah said...

Poster, take your children and flee from that man and his family. Your sister in law is going to experience worst things than you whenever she is married. Please leave now that you are still alive. Please and take your children

Anonymous said...

More like they endured a lot back then cos of the stigma associated with divorce

Beautiful Eagle said...

The poster's inlaws are Ibo. She mentioned her SIL threatening to call umuada to strip her naked and flog her

Darey said...

subuhanalahi......some peeps can be heartless sha,please receive brain my sister

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