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Friday, 17 March 2017

End Time Marriage.

Just one month?...WOW!!!




I read in the Spontaneous post this Morning where an anonymous commented that his girlfriend landed him a DIRTY SLAP last night when they were arguing but that he kept his col and that if he had retaliated she would have screamed DV.........

With the current trend of Domestic Violence,there have been insinuations that women strike first....

Helloooo?That is no excuse at all,if she strikes first,walk away and break up the Relationship if that is the only way to stay sane but do not beat her up or break her head....

One month after taking the vow to cherish and love each other forever?Just wow!!!










146 comments:

Miss Ess said...

Na wa o. God help matrimony

Anonymous said...

Stella majority of dis kind of marriage is jazzed up, karma @ work!b

white Berry said...

The long and short of this all, the devil is trying so hard to frustrate the union of marriages this days. Prayer my people

Highness Gwen said...

Talk to women Stella
Walking away during argument should nt be for men alone,women should learn to do same.


Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

The current situation in Nigeria is not helping matters at all. Buhari recession causing problems at homes.

It is well with all DV people.

Anonymous said...

Stella, say what? if she slaps me first I should walk away. This thing you just said may it be the portion of your children. A woman will strike them first and they will walk away.

Anu Funke said...

Wawuu!! Na the work wey e dey do.#inbisolasvoice

Isolde Fontaine said...

No honeymoon? straight to battery? nine stitches? smh. Wawuu!

Yvonne said...

Sick men roaming everywhere!

AKINYOOLA ODUNAYO said...

Lord have mercy on marriages, i've witnessed a marriage that packed up after a week.

dear Lord, give me a man that won't use me as a punching bag even as I strive to be miss right

Monkeynofine said...

Hian God what's happening? This generation sha

Classic Chic! said...

Hmmm.. Na wa!

becky naka said...

He didn't just start beating her, she did what every blindly inlove woman would do,'praying God will change him'.

DON™ said...

That's his fucking headache. He must be an idiot to be arguing with a woman to point of her slapping him.

How could you allowed that and you call yourself a man ?
Fucking sissy.

Anonymous said...

Stella sometimes I don't understand you. After a slap from a woman the man should walk away. Gentle man of the world. I will beat her to stupor. If she was not trained well at home i will train her for her parents, pointing your hand to a man is not even good not to talk of hitting a man, which man will accept that except a dundy that they have knacked pigeon on his head. In a nutshell whatever she does to me negatively is good but me retaliating is bad, God punish anybody with such mentality

ola wealth said...

This DV makes me sick.!! πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”

Aya Williams said...

If them say make he come fight man like am na run the idiot go run ooh,imagine 9 stitches Useless somebody.

Cherry topaz said...

What kind of caveman mentality do we have ehn. Just a month?! Did she say the guy abi did he hide his abusive tendencies? So many lacuna in this story abeg. The thing taya me I swear down.

Xristybabes said...

Just Negodu

HARLEXANDRA said...

Unbelievable, jeeezzz wah really happened just a month and violence is already taking a toll in their marriage, God see them through plzz.

Justyswt said...

Huh? People will be afraid to get married now o.

code009 said...

Self control is a virtue. Just be the fool and walk away, it saves you alot

Anonymous said...

There is something very unfair and manipulative about how women view this so called DV. You hit a guy and turn around and say there is no excuse to hit a woman. You insult a mans ego and turn around and say you have no excuse to hit a woman.

You stay up late screaming insults at him to the hearing of the neighbors and you turn around and quote "there is no excuse to hit a woman".

Hmmmm! Oma se o'''''

If I didn't like sex I would actually hate women...

Lady Bug said...

INDOMIE MARRIAGES!!!

Anonymous said...

Guys,.if she strikes first, beat her up properly! If she runs her mouth too much, correct her verbally and otherwise, bu, if she keeps being disrespectful, please teach her a lesson! Beat her blue and black until she learns that a man MUST be respected. What nonsense! However, guys, ensure u play ur part by respecting her too and caring for your home. And, I am a lady, please.

Dhorix said...

I'm not surprise at the time frame...people never learn!! I'm can bet you with my life that the RED flag was there...but babe must change marital status in 2017

So that's how R came from the blues after asking me out for 5 years and started asking me to marry him... REALLY? Just like that ??
But that strategy is old now...lol... that same day dude fixed wedding date,choose hall,talked about everything and at the same time wants us to make outπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚...chai...I have old in the game now...so finally the courtship lasted for six days with a lot of laughable story...I just pity the girl that will put up with that one...you know those beard gang instragram guysπŸ˜†...I really piry the girl that will fall for that...

Next one they will do pre weeding shoot and be oppressing people who open themselves up for SM operessors (ndi pepper them gang)...and few months later you will hear Domestic violence...cos I'm sure R can hit a lady...I dread insecure men🎀

Bootylycious diva said...

Is alright, marriage isnt a must is just a neccessity ,and not everyone is wired to be married ,Nigeria women carry award for patience and tolerance in marriage suffering and smilling .

Say no #dv

Lady C said...

Stories on twitter are so fake.

calabar chick said...

Just one month old marriage???
Uwa Mmebi!
God pls intervene in our marriages.

CHI EXOTIC said...

I'm almost sure the beating did not just start
He has been on it while they were still dating, but some women with the school of thought that he would change after marriage are the ones that still marry men like this.

Hear me people
Woman beaters never change
Cheats never change.

Comrade Chioke said...

It obviously didn't just start...he must have done it while they were still courting.women shall have wahala but it isn't an excuse tho

Anonymous said...

Only cowards in men's skin beat up women; wife or otherwise.

Only cowards in men's skin and with "pendulum" dangling between their thighs express anger through violence.

And cowards worse than bitches in female skins kill babies; whether born or unborn . . .

Cowards with puss filled sacks on their chest execute or execute babies in the sacs they call wombs

Even bitches save some of what they throw away . . .

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND killing of babies disgusts God and humanity and . . . you know what?

Stop it!

Roseflower said...

Stella no one has the right to strike the other first or last stop taking sides. How hard is it for people to keep their hands to themselves no matter the degree of provocation?

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Only a weak man hits a woman

danny fisiye said...

domestic violence trending




#GODWIN™

Anonymous said...

Stella it may ve been 10years of violent dating. It may not be the first time he hit her, forget that they ve been officially married for 1 month. Meanwhile what do we say about pple that beat children, is it OK? My parents never hit me for one day and I love em for that.

Sharon Aminu said...

Hmmmm,na wow

Tayan Taylor said...

Most Women are very uncouth and rude they abuse nd insult their hubby,some women that are beaten deserve more that,they need their brain fried.

Shantelle said...

na wah ooo. That's too Early for any Issues at all Much Less Physical Violence, Now he will say, "Its the Devil, I am Sorry, It will not Happen again. God Have mercy and lead us all right.

Mr. Chopalone said...

Why get married in the first place?

Blackberry said...

If you can't stand your gf/wife, break up with her instead of hitting her, haba!!! what's so difficult in walking away from a toxic relationship? Na until u kill person pikin ya eye go open?

Tayan Taylor said...

Sometimes I wonder what comes to the mind of those women, when their husband pummelled them,i am sure they keep holding unto the man clothes shouting "you will kill me today "
The story above is not complete, I am sure the man was beating her before the marriage nd she still went ahead to marry him.
This remind me of a guy called Lawal,he will beat up his gf,nd injure her, he always beats her up either when she is having her bath of after making love to, because he want her to be naked, so the bruises will be visible. He engage her,she accepted until one day he smashed her head against the mirror in the bathroom nd threaten to design her face with the broken piece. She still did not leave him, the guy eventually left her, I don't know why. She is still cussing him out till now

keke driver said...

If you don't want anyone to strike you..then do not strike anyone.
I had a little argument with a lady(colleague) at the office the other day, before I could say jack robinson, she landed me a good slap....

Question is: Did I insult Her?...NO
Did I hit Her?...NO
Did I threaten to hit Her?...NO

So madam, why did you slap me???

Anywaiz She later found out that She was wrong in the argument, but till today no apologies...

So ladies and men, if you don't want to be slapped or beaten...DO NOT STRIKE ANYONE AND HOPE HE/SHE WALKS OUT!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Can you not state your point with cursing.

white Berry said...

My God how can better thing locate you in life, cursing another woman's kids because she made a post. Whoever you are you better asked God for forgiven.your statement is so wrong or I didn't read properly

Gbonju said...

God,uphold this institution called marriage this days.

Blessing Jackson said...

Na wa...o just one month!!

white Berry said...

Amen

white Berry said...

You see its only barbaric men that raise their hands on a woman.A gentle man simply walks away and what will be his next action its within him and I think that's the best way of dealing with a woman that raises her hands first on a man.don't you know silence kills faster than any other thing.just imagine your reply,too harsh.

Blesso said...

No matter the degree of her offence it doesn't warrant hitting. pls there other ways to purnish her.

white Berry said...

Yes nau

Oluwadarasimi™ said...

This is saddening! insecurities, impatience, emotional torture, unruly behavior, quick anger, controlling manipulating and domineering characters all breeds DV, it's best when one sees sign of it, take a long walk without a backward glance. Just that some hide it so well n unleash like a beast after marriage. May God help us

Blackberry said...

Oga, walk her out of your house instead of hitting her, she'll beg to come back.

Wendixx said...

Hmm...

The first one year of marriage is usually the most difficult.

If both can get through it without difficulty, then they can try to make the marriage work. This is why the need for Marriage counselling classes cannot be over emphasised especially before going to the altar.

Rush in and rush out. You must be ready physically, mentally, emotionally, intellectually etc. You must have the ability to take shit from your spouse, and give shit as well with a smile... **rolls eyes**

Be that as it may, so women get poisoned mouth oh! I am a woman, so I know. while speaking against DV, let us also sound the warning to women to keep their big mouth shut. In this economy with job loss every where and recession hitting hard, most men are short tempered and their wire fuse is just looking for someone to ignite them.
Remember a hungry man is an Angry man

God help us all jare.

Cheers..

white Berry said...

That's serious

BECKY DIVINE said...

Gerrout of her twerp!!!

BECKY DIVINE said...

I pity the babe wey go marry you

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

People getting married 4 the wrong reasons.πŸ‘ŽπŸ‘ŽπŸ‘Ž

Anonymous said...

Blindly desperate woman you mean.

white Berry said...

Tell them. Better said,they never change.

BLUNT said...

That is the disgusting feminist plot I've been talking about. Women don't want equality, it's all a ruse. What they really want is superiority over men! The new cliche is "I want a man that will cook for me and serve me in bed" "I want a man that will clean the house and do the dishes". Infact, some of them even make sure a man knows how to cook before dating him. Just see what some horrible men have reduced us to. May the angels of heaven help any girl that lays her hand on me. Just listen to what the owner of this blog is saying. Any man that takes a slap from a woman and walks away is not a gentleman. He's a coward. A correct Sisi.

Blackberry said...

No vex mr.man, If ur woman slaps you, pack her load n fling outside. women should learn to walk away too, from arguments, men ain't made of stone, they r humans.

Anonymous said...

You're a small boy. You think like a 6 year old, no wonder Linda is always bashing you.

Cherry topaz said...

You have a point but if you walk away, the next thing you'll hear is "my fren how dare you walk away when I'm talking to you. Will you get back here!" Then a very loud tawaaai!! Hot slap will follow. It happens. So the best is to keep shut. But when blows start flying, run for cover.

Cherry topaz said...

Did she date*

Toni Amy said...

Mumu. ..try using your brain

Anonymous said...

Both you and Stella are wrong. I wont expantiate.

Gbonju said...

God,uphold this institution called marriage this days.

Toni Amy said...

Na wa for you o. ..why so bitter?

danny fisiye said...

stella it is easier said than done

me being in his shoes I will slap back so she knows how it feels simple


won't lay hands on you so don't do THE same to me


#I AM DANNY

Super Lady said...

Amen

Omotola Brianna said...

Pele Mabinu....... U dey vex gan.

Anonymous said...

You are cursed!

THANDEKA said...

It takes a lot of strength to walk away when someone strikes you. Weakness is actually striking back. I believe in walking away. Furthermore you can hit the person and he/she falls down and dies-story has changed automatically. No one wants to hear/know what he/she did. All they know is you have killed somebody. My dear walk away from violence. That 'ego' you are trying top protect lasts for???

Anonymous said...

Seconded!!. And fyi,i'm Female

Omotola Brianna said...

Lol........ Oku obo.

Anonymous said...

A million likes.

Anonymous said...

True.

Anonymous said...

I knew there were still sensible peeps on this blog

Anonymous said...

I knew there were still sensible peeps on this blog

Tabby said...

I agree with u. The saying that, "a hungry man is an angry man" is true. A broke man/woman would be aggressive. Recession is not helping matters at all. God help Nigeria.

Bee10 said...

I remember during Nysc where I lived if you see the way my neighbour will beat his girlfriend to stupor we usually dont sleep when they start their madness. To my surprise they are married and the beating continue.Some women know their partner is a violent person but they will prefer to die there. Smh

Tayan Taylor said...

I am tired,how can a woman hit a man,expect the guy is really civilised nd not really a full blooded Nigerian

BEDS AND ROSES said...

Why would a woman even think of slapping her boyfriend or husband. I hate people that result to violence. Whether man or womsn,it isn't right.
Once you as a man notice aggressive behaviours from the girl in the relationship, she cursed you, destroys your clothes and properties and goes as far as hitting you etc please end it.
Women also when you notice aggressive behaviour in your bf.pls do not marry him. If he is quick to anger and always beating ppl around him. Please flee
I hate aggressive people in my life.

Tayan Taylor said...

You lie everybody must marry,that is God plan but I am sure that agents of the devil are trying to stop, it won't work

Cynthia Iyede said...

Hnmmm I feel some are so good at pretending and faking everything like their lives depends on it and that's why their true colour stays displaying when they finally lay their hands on the supposed 'trophy' marriage.

Women should also learn to walk away when there is an argument and the same thing goes for the men too. You only live ones abeg.

Tayan Taylor said...

Your last line you mean abortion right,because most girls who kill innocent babies are more heartless than a wife beater

Cinnamon Apple said...

What's her kids business in this? May God have mercy on you

Spanish Lantern said...

Anon take it easy. Do you know that some women are very weak that just one strike and she is dead. Walking away don't mean you're a coward, it means you don't want to be a murderer..

Tayan Taylor said...

Thank you y dear

Tayan Taylor said...

M sister frd dated for ten years but married for two months why

Anonymous said...

And if he strike first why can't she walk away and end the relationship? You see, the women want special treatment yet they say 'wife not cook' why trying to use equality as excuse. No too laws, we must all follow one rule. You don't want to be hit do not hit anybody.

Spanish Lantern said...

I'm sure it's your type that your male colleague will challenge to a fight and you will say "thank GOD today is Friday, if not I would have killed you"

Spanish Lantern said...

A real mam will never beat a woman. He would rather leave the house or end the relationship.

Anonymous said...

THIS IS A CALL OUT!!!..Stella things are happening ooooo!.Have got this childhood friend (a man) who is going through a nasty domestic abuse from the wife too.The man is the most quite,bookwarm and humble person have ever come across (because of this,the lady is taking the milk of it). He got a very good job (work in an oil campany and in a top position).
He tells me everything (am married with 4kids and leave abroad). They have got 2kids under the age of 5. We are like brother and sister.Any things the lady want,she should name! she will get it,even a trip to different countries for holiday without hubby most times. Families have talk and talk but, of no avail.
The lady slap the hubby at any given opportunity, shouts, control him, will not allow her hubby to have sex with her and many more( the hubby now result to mastabating). And will sleep in the office in other to avoid the wife trouble. She work too. Ok! I called her one day let's rub mind together as per woman to woman,she gave me no good explanation on why she behave this way to her hubby. I was really not happy,this is the lady that behave like a saint before marriage.
Now he regretting why he married her, and that his mother warn him not to marry her because she is from another tribe( the mum is late now).
Stella, this lady now took the kids away(abroad)since last year, and she is back in town without the kids making trouble with her hubby again.
The most troubling things now,is that he went for his general medical checkup, and they found out he got High B/P( at a young age).
My question now is,if the man has lift his hands to beat the hell out of the lady, she will cry out and say domestic abuse without saying she generated it. Also, if the man decided to look outside and start chasing women about, she will say her hubby is a woman chaser.
MADAM!i know you will be reading this, decideon on what you want (by staying in one place,either Canada,USA or Nigeria). Please change your ways, you know you married a brilliant man. Do not lose it to some else, because it will get to a stage when he will say enough is enough!!!!....
I GUESS YOU KNOW WHO WROTE THIS !
Stell post it please.

Anonymous said...

All these posts about DV is making me feel so terrible all over again.

Three months into our marriage, I discovered my hubby was chatting up his ex and some random babes. To say I was let down, was to say the least. I confronted him about it which led to an argument.

I got a resounding slap and he boasted about beating me black and blue not minding I was about two months pregnant. I couldn't tell no one. He begged and I eventually forgave him.

Three years down the line and it happened again on valentines day. I wrote about it in the last anonymous post. I'm loosing it. God knows. This man looks down on me. He's even said I'm nothing.

Only if I had something doing, I wouldn't feel so helpless.

Lord my trust is in you. I'm tired of suffering and smiling.


Fab Mum said...

Don't be surprised if she says he never laid a finger on her during courtship. Some of them pretend to the core. Some long distance relationship makes them not to know who they are really marrying very well. When thru finally get married, they unleash their selves

Anonymous said...

If he/she slaps You, return it to him/her in equal measure, No more no less.

#Equalityforall.


MISS Jacobs.

Fan Emmanuel said...

And you did not strike her back? Iwu iti!
No body has the right to hit each other.

Fab Mum said...

Exactly..

Women are always screaming no matter what, there is no excuse to hit a woman

So what should they men say? They should bear the beating.. I have seen some women that would be dragging and pushing and hitting their men and when they man want to walk away, they lock up the door and stop him from going out. If he wants to enter the room, thru block the way. He sits in the sitting room and they throw all manner of insult at the man. Pulling him up and down and what not..

Domestic violence is both ways. No matter what both women and men, don't hit your spouse or bring down their ego with your words

Words are powerful and have a way of disorganizing a man or woman to lead them to a path they never thought they will cross.

Wisdom is profitable to direct

soul child said...

Guys you'all don't know your strength that why we say you should walk away. It might start with retaliating her slap and next thing she's in a coma

Anonymous said...

I remember the day hubby slapped me! Because of 150k that I took from the account to pay back o. He was owing me 500k then. He slapped me more than 6xs! I didn't respond o, I kept turninformed my chic for him to slap, when he was done, my silent treatment started. He begged and begged and also called his brother the beg, I told him I was done and ready to take a walk. My bags were packed, he knelt down and promised heaven and earth. I forgave him after 2wks and till today, he walks away even if I pepper him to the end. I still shiver when I remember that awful incident.

Omotola Brianna said...

God bless you.

Fab Mum said...

Exactly. .

It's not just one side
It's both ways
That's the point I'm trying to make
Women don't hit your men and expect him to walk away
Men don't hit your women because you want to show superiority.

Violence and aggression leads to a very short live

Anonymous said...

SDK HELLO! Domestic violence isn't gender-based, it goes both ways! A woman has no right whatsoever to hit a man & neither does a man have a right to hit her BUT if you look my 6ft 3" height & 115kg body finish & fear no catch you and you slap me (even if you catch me on top of your mother), I will defend myself and there's no apologies for that! Same way a man is "expected" to walk away, women should learn to take the walk also! If you engage a man in a fist fight, it's your loss

Anonymous said...

Gbam!

BLOGLORD said...

Just 1 month?
Then it is very obvious that the relationship leading to this marriage was faulty.
There must have been signs...
but they still went ahead.
This is the resultant effect

Anonymous said...

I am a control freak with a terrific temper. Some years ago, there was an altercation between my boyfriend at the time and I, I became really incensed, threw both of my phones at him and slapped him. He did nothing.

I met someone else, there was an argument, I tried to slap him but he held my hand back, gave me a death-stare and whilst squeezing my hand really hard said "Girl, I love you and will never hit you or any woman but if you dare raise your hand at me again, I promise you...you'll never use that hand again"

I've never tried that shit again, I never will. Now, I've put my control issues and temper on a leash.

Than anonymous and blunt is right, my first sissy boyfriend let me get away with it so I thought it was okay until my current boyfriend put me in my place.

Dhorix said...

My dear ooo...to even say I meet this guy in church, infact he heads a department sef back then..

He is already claiming ownership of me, referring to me as his womanπŸ˜†,inukwa ... gets angry when other guys calls me...talks down on my dress sense(I don't wear designer but I dress pretty cool)...belittled my buisness saying it doesn't have any potential(haba the buisness that everyone gets excited about and always encourage me)..all of this is just to pull my self esteem...I laugh in Swahili πŸ˜‚..You reply him it becomes an insult Lol.hey young man I'm too grown for this!

Oga keep mentioning his imaginary millions..Odiewu, na today...abeg swerve ! I tried to be patient at least for a week situationship but I couldn't... just six days of drama...his friend ask that I take a picture of him at the gym...oga came downstairs and said I was flirting with his friend πŸ˜†πŸ˜†insecurity is bad! Story plenty oo...let me rest my case here
But my sister said another girl would have pulled her panties and be be screaming boo and hubby by now ....and you wonder why DV and Divorce will never end...infact the next generation will perceive marriage as a joke cos we have refuse to learn or even improve on ourselves individually! Ndewonu

Duchess Jaz said...

Very correct, run away and hide! Fear no dey catch these women sef? God abeg oh

iameveryoneandnoone said...

Its a lie, e don tey Wey you no well.

iameveryoneandnoone said...

No, the guy's father is white... Lol!!!

Madam B said...

Na wa o. What is happening? DV everywhere.

Madam B said...

My dear, I will advice you give him space. Stay away, go to your family.if you die today, another woman will come and take over your children and you know what that means and above all pray.

Anonymous said...

Stella it's really unfair for any partner to strike the other. Its terrible....
My last relationship ended November last year. At the point where tempers were up, I asked her to leave my house in peace since she wouldn't let me walk away.
She gave me a thunderous slap and told me she wants me to kill her, holding my shirt by the collars. It took the intervention of my neighbor to make her leave me as I was handicapped since I wouldn't beat her up. Sometimes these women would block you exit and pounce on you first..
Even after she agreed to leave she still throw another blow. I started looking for the keys to my Crosstour. It took another process to retrieve it as I was already involving the police.
So this is it... people would have labelled me a woman beater, people would have said I was oppressing her with the police. Sometimes lets be objective.
Even God in heaven when provoked gets angry with man his creation how much more a mere mortal.
All thesame I am still proud of myself not to have beaten her because i probably may have deformed her.
So yes, the women should always give the men the chance to walk away.

Ronalda. said...

My take on domestic violence is, it is unacceptable for either a man or a woman to hit his/her spouse. If you expect a man to walk away from his woman once she starts pushing the wrong buttons, a woman should also walk away when her man is pushing the wrong buttons, instead of aggravating an already volatile situation. We expect a gentleman not to raise his hands on a woman, even if she strikes the 1st blow but make no mistake, in such a situation, the woman is the one guilty of domestic violence and the man should think ‎twice about remaining married to such a lady.

This issue of domestic violence is very controversial because most people have unrealistic expectations. Do you really think it's easy to keep calm when some ladies start behaving like bats newly unleashed out of hell? It's almost like placing a plate of freshly ground pepper under your nose and criticise you for sneezing. If we expect restrain from men, it's only fair to expect certain form of decorum from ladies. True, a man hitting a woman is unacceptable but so should a woman hitting her man or any form of physical or verbal abuse.‎

I have seen too many ladies abuse "rape" and "domestic violence" allegations during my days of active practice. Stells, it's so bad that I have developed thick skin to cries of "rape" and "domestic violence". It's painfully unfortunate because those offences are some of the most grievous attacks on womanhood in general. But just like doctors aren't moved by corpses, in spite of the eerieness surrounding death, I'm rarely moved by such outcries unless I know the facts are true.

I have seen cases where some ladies lied about being raped by their exes, just because the men had moved on. I remember one heartrending case where a lady lied that she was raped by her ex who happened to be the son of a pastor. The scandal was humongous and nobody believed the guy. To cut a long story short, the young man committed suicide! It was only then the lady came clean and told people that she lied because she came over to the late guy's house to beg for a second chance only to see he had moved on. Her grouse was "how dare he move on so fast?" The rape case ended abruptly because of the death of the accused. I hear the lady is now a roaming lunatic.

I have seen too many ladies us "domestic violence" as the way out of a loveless marriage or a marriage they consider a "mistake". Stells, I have even handled a case where the lady's injuries were self-inflicted but she lied that her hubby abused her. Guess who blew the whistle on her? Her "bestie" whom she confided in. She saw it as a way out so she could be with her lover. Another lady accused her hubby of molesting their 3 year old. The poor man was almost lynched by an angry mob but he was rescued by some military personnel. He was hospitalised for over a month, he kept slipping in and out of coma. She became super scared because she had no idea things will escalate to the level they did. She ran to confess to her Priest and told him she lied because she found out her hubby was cheating on her with his secretary and she vowed to humiliate him the same way she felt humiliated. It's a crazy world out there, too many crazies yet to roam the streets. You will easily mistake them for normal everyday people. Things aren't always what they seem. Don't be too quick to take sides.‎

Madam B said...

The man should just file for divorce and start all over. Some women have cap to wear but no head why some have quality, reasonable and responsible head but no cap. God help us.

Anonymous said...

Chai, this woman, you get sense.

Amacastel said...

Most women abuse their men Verbally & men in return hit them though there violent men, dv is not just physical abuse, you can abuse some1 emotionally, verbally, men& Women let's learn how to Respect each other .

Anonymous said...

If you are well trained by your parents and you meet a good man and get married and want to take over the man's life by becoming a barracuda then you deserve whatever you get. Bring quiet sometimes as a wife does not make you a fool or weakling.

optimisticlady said...

Omni knowest.
Only you, all these info.
How come about the knowledge of his BP?
Better leave someone's hubby alone.

Anonymous said...

Agreed
There are some men and women with control issues. Everything sets them off.

As a woman, control yourself and avoid hitting a man. As a man, avoid hitting a woman no matter what.

Anonymous adviser,maybe you should face your marriage and stay away from peoples marriages. Is he your blood brother? No. Then you might be the one causing issues in their marriage. Obviously the man is a Sissy for him to call anybody to advise the wife. How dare he? Does the wife not have a pastor, parent or relation? That a female stranger who might be interested in dating the husband would be offering good but unsolicited advice. Mind your marriage.

KING XOXO MYSTERY

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

Gbam

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

You need home training

Oby O said...

This is how to identify them...animal! May thunder strike you for involving her kids...is it her fault you don't know your biological father??

Oby O said...

@Blackberry, it is a crime to throw a woman's things outside in Lagos now o! Any man that tries it and has a wife that knows the law Don enter hot soup!

Oby O said...

You are a Lady???? What a joke!!!

iameveryoneandnoone said...

You're a foolish girl. Or foolish shim, choose one.

The friend is abroad, mother of 4 living with her family. If he can report to pastor or relative why not close friend, a woman like his wife, likely a bit older & certainly more experienced so she can advise and counsel? You're thinking with your feet. Kindly comeback lets have a go at this.

NDVALERIE said...

That one na marriage? I want to believe they didn't date before getting married .

That man is not for u..Get well and back to ur parent..Am sure the so called husband is insane.

NDVALERIE said...

That one na marriage? I want to believe they didn't date before getting married .

That man is not for u..Get well and back to ur parent..Am sure the so called husband is insane.

Anonymous said...

You're a goddamn weakling Mr man. You're a silly sisi.

Anonymous said...

Just like some guy said up there, if not for sex and procreation, many of us wouldn't have anything to do with women. They strike you, begin to cry, and then the whole world will be against you.

Anonymous said...

You were making sense until you called "pastor". Pastor my ass. They're bring more chaos in a marriage. If you must involve anyone, it should be parents- reasonable parents that is

Anonymous said...

@ KING XOXO MYSTERY! Not a female stranger, sorry dear I will call her him my brother,because my parents raise him up like a son to them (right from 2years old to the man he is now). So you can see he is automatically my brother. So you call that a Sissy? Since he is trying to speak out and not taking matters into his hand.
Did you not read that relatives have interven but no avail!!
SO mind your Mystery self!!!

Anonymous said...

@Optimisticlady!...am in the medical field (so he let me know my take on it).
I can leave him ooooo(My parent took care of him(from 2yrs) to the man he now, so we are automatically siblings)..Family is everthing. That's how we were brought up (our parents instill that in us)
When one sibling is in trouble,we try hard to help him out OK!...

Chinny Baby said...

Noone you are badt mehn

Anonymous said...

"I can't leave him oooooo"
"He is now"
"everything "

Ehi Grace said...

Idiot

Anonymous said...

Wow! Your husband slapped you because of money! 😳😳😳

Anonymous said...

It's not about having something to do, then he'll heap responsibilities on you! You married the wrong man! I'm so sorry this is happening to you! A man who truly loves and respects his woman will never lift a finger to hit her, no matter what! How can a man who married you tell you you're nothing and you're still there sleeping with him and acting as a wife?? Only three years and you already feel like forever can't come soon enough??? Wow. I don't think you should stay with this man.

Anonymous said...

Exactly. A man only needs to threaten to hit me and I'm gone! I'll vanish from your life faster than a tornado!

Anonymous said...

I've noticed that you lack sympathy for women most times. All the examples you mentioned up there are the exception to the norm. I'm a lawyer too so I know what I'm talking about.

Anonymous said...

U talking of Henry

Anonymous said...

Anon 14:46 you are a good man. God blesd you.

Anonymous said...

I get scared when I hear DV but say we all wanna have our way I take mysef as an example I date myhubby for 13yrs he never for one day show sign that he will ever hit me one 6months into marriage that 14yrs of been together he gave me slap for minor issue I walked away 2ndly he removed is belt and started kicking me cause he started cheating I walked away another he offended me and I was angry imagine he started hitting me cause I was angry that's the last day I took it I retaliated fought back like a lion on its prey never knew were the power came from and I walkaway again he started calling me a husband beater make una c oooo since then we have been leaving peace but it's not easy

Anonymous said...

You think when I hear mother of four that automatically makes you what...a saint...huh. My friend, shut your horny vagina...international adviser. Better mind your marriage and respect your husband.

I am sure you are eyeing that man, for you to bring such a confidential delicate matter on a blog...basket mouth. I know you must have used your mouth to tell the world first before running it here. If she doesnt take your advice, then pray for her and keep quiet.

KING XOXO MYSTERY

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