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Wednesday, 19 April 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

WHEN CONFRONTATON IS NECESSARY AFTER A SHOCKING 
DISCOVERY

Hi Stella, you are loved beyond words. Thanks for this platform. I'll like to go straight to the point as I'm really distressed about this.

I've been in a relationship with this amazing guy for almost 2 years now. We rarely fight, and he's always there for me. In fact he's the definition of a good man, or so I thought.


 Last night, I was bored and couldn't sleep so I picked up him fone and decided to go through his messages (I have all his passwords). I've never done this because he has never given me reason to be suspicious. We are getting married early next year God willing.


So I came across this message with a 'friend' of his who is engaged and getting married soon. They were basically sexting. It was so explicit and he told her how strong the chemistry between them was, how he wished he could f**k her again and how he missed her terribly. She responded likewise.


Although, he told me in the past that they hooked up once and it was a mistake when I probed about why she acted weird when she saw me at an event. I'm so upset because I could vouch for this man of mine. I could swear he would never cheat on me. He's so open with me about everything and I trusted him. I feel betrayed and I don't know how to go about this.



Do I confront him? Then He'll know I went through his phone and I don't know the extent of the strain it'll put on our relationship. 

Do I just ignore and pretend like I didn't see anything? This will be really hard and will affect my trust for him. Please I need mature minds to help me out with this. 

Thanks for posting Stelz.


*Who send you go snoop?I know some of you will bash me for saying this but you shouldnt have..If you confront him now eh,things might not be the same...let me give you a crazy advice...send her a message from his phone or arrange a meeting with her via his phone acting like him and when you meet her talk to her woman to woman to leave your man for you.....



162 comments:

stunning slim shady said...


O chim o, wonderment!!!!

STARRY LARRY said...

I will read later please




*Larry was here*

ukwu dimond said...

Hello chronicles

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

All these anti-snooping ladies, you people will continue to get heartbreaks. You snoop and you no get liver. I am sure you dont have kidney self.

Anyway wetin concern me

Anonymous said...

Okokobioko😀

Ogo said...

He's a man so the likelihood to cheat is there. Talk to him gently about your discovery it's better he knows you're not a fool. If he wants out fine. If he wants to work on himself Kudos.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Poster,confront him abeg...
You are getting married to this man and if you don't correct some things now,you won't be able to do it when you finally married him...
Why are some women scared of men that they have gbenshed and seen his naked body?
I won't advise you leave him oh unless you want to end up a frustrated gwegz!...

charitybino said...

This one hard me o.

I am king EZE said...

Poster talk to him in a matured way,you don't even need to tell him you went through his phone ,just tell him know he hooked up with her again.if he denies and starts acting up,then you have a problem. ...

Blackberry said...

Vouch for a man!
Those vouching for their men, hope ur shock absorbers are brand new?
I can't vouch for myself, moreso someone else?
Babe, tell that girl that u will jeopardise her relationship if she doesn't respect herself. Just get her fiance number n keep it handy, just incase! Lol

Anonymous said...

Lady, with all due respect, you were the one that betrayed yourself and dignity. Foremost, why do you live in with a man that has not paid your bride price? You woke up at night and bored you couldn't sleep. . . that is the same way he is bored with you. He has caught the "fish" and is fishing for more; there is nothing he is looking forward to in a marriage with you and next year is still a long time, he can still change his mind. Men like adventures and looking forward to the "thing". You are neither an adventure or the "thing" anymore. You are just a conquered territory.

First thing to do is to right your wrong; move out of his house, stop sleeping over, stop sex and tell him that all will be when you get married. Read the New Testament daily to build good character and find solace for your bored soul. Let him miss that and let him try to figure out what it is . . . take it up from there.

BECKY DIVINE said...

Snooping is not for the faint hearted madam lol

I support you 101% for snooping, at least now you can stop living in fool's paradise that he is the best! Confront him with what you saw... if he is remorse, then he should block her, cut off all contacts with her. And you try and forgive him

But if he doesn't show remorse, tries to blame you for snooping or starts keeping malice with you. Then nne run for your life, he won't change and that is only the beginning of more heartbreaks to come!

In all things, don't stop snooping! It has saved lots of lives and relationships lol

Atheist ™ said...

If he can access ur panties & browse with network on full bars, why can't u access his phone? I don't know why ppl agree to set boundaries in a relationship? Transparency & Trust should Triumph other Traits.
#TeamSnoop till a technology is invented to detect lies on human forehead.

Anonymous said...

First of all, NEVER IN YOUR LIFE VOUCH FOR ANY MAN. Once you leave his presence, you see nothing, hear nothing, and therefore known nothing! At least your man isn't sleeping with other random girls. My own just told me he's seeing others and others are catching his attention. Told me. Yes. To my fucking face.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Everytime i say it. women saying oh he can never cheat,oh i can vouch for him. How r u so sure? You people keep getting shockers when you realise what he has been doing. Many men cheat and hide it. Almost all cheat. If you dont want a cheating hubby when you're about to get married, do as queen and boss says.i am entitled to my opinion.

Anonymous said...

That's what you get girl when you move in to be with a man that has not married you.
Move out of that house quick.

Cynthia Iyede said...

Show him what you saw and don't allow him use the defense talk about why you had to look through his phone (e no go work, else he will make you apologize for what you didn't do).

Be calm about it when you tell him but express how hurt you feel about this. I wish you well dear.

Doppelgänger said...

Why will telling him you snooped put a strain on your relationship when he gave you his passwords?
Anyway, if he hadn't given you a reason not to trust him you wouldn't be snooping in the first place.
Tell him what you saw and get it over with.
If you don't say anything and carry on like all is well, you'd continue to snoop because your mind wouldn't be at rest. On the other hand, telling him might make him keep you out. Probably change his passwords but then that is another issue. Why his he still seeing and sleeping with another woman when he has you?
Don't confront any woman because she'd go back to him crying about it and it will only make them closer. Deal with the issue with your man. He is the one who owes you explanations not the other woman. Before you would collect slap over a man.

ukwu dimond said...

Who send you? You got what you wanted, go ahead with your married plan, there is no cent when it comes to men, if you end it up with him how sure are you that the next guy will be faithful?

Talk to the girl in question and let her know you knows everything, do not fight your man, he pick you to be his wife over her, let her enjoy while it last, learn to hold and protect your man, all the best

Anonymous said...

The man is enjoying his hypocrisy.
Yes, until you move out of that house
He will keep treating you with levity
By next year, he will shift it to the next
Welcome to the world of sex before marriage
The world of the cart before the horse!

Anonymous said...

So you cannot even go through a man's phone;
And you call him "my man"
sorry, he is not yours
He belongs to his own dilapidated world
A world where he "fucks" and wish to "fuck again"
If you do not wait to call a man "my husband"
And you are having sex that is what you get!

Anonymous said...

I can snoop when ever I like.. My husband is a very faithful man but that doesn't mean he is perfect because he has anger issues..
As for cheating I know he can't ,, at least not for now.. 😂😂😂😂...
Let me read advice here

Ralu M said...

Tell him am watch him clean up his actions after the deeds or password his phones. If for nothing else you now know who you are dealing with exactly. If am you, I'll get her number send her an sms with my number telling her to back off or I'll pour sand in her own relationship and basically fuck it up for her.
Stella that will not work cos she might call or text him later to finesse the meeting arrangements.

Olori_1812 said...

Please follow stella's advise,i wouldnt have said it better

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Hmmm,I don't support the 'don't snoop' talk.my husbands phone is mine as well abeg,we share everything so why should the phone be different?madam can you cope with not confronting him and still act your normal self? If you leave things untouched they will still meet up and gbensh when u are married.talk to the guy and find out his true feelings,u want to hide what you saw at the expense of your happiness?you won't mind getting married to a guy sexting someone else?if he gets angry that you snooped instead of apologising Abi owning up to loving the woman then you better run!!!!

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

Thats the crazy chaotic feeling that comes with snooping. You have to brace yourself up for the after snooping effect. Dont think is a good idea to confront the girl,rather confront your boyfriend in a subtle manner.

Sabongida Ora cutest said...

Hi dear. I understand how you feel . But I read the content of your snooping discovery .. and it feels like what went own between your fiancé and the lady is just something borne out of a fleeting/ temporal feeling.
He said I wish I could f***k'
Meaning he knows he isn't supposed to and he is trying so hard to be disciplined.

Now on if you should confront him
My answer is yes... but how you go about it will be the deal breaker here.
Just say baby I'm sorry I did something I know I wasn't suppose to do.... I'm really sorry I invaded your privacy....

Hold it right there, watch what he says after that , his response should give you a sense of direction how to be diplomatic in revealing what exactly you saw.

Pls don't keep this inside ... it will subconsciously affect you in the long run
Liberate your self

Anonymous said...

Lol, this just made me realised I v nt snooped on my present bf. I was snooper lol, I could snoop for africa, I snooped on my ex plenty of times I always knw what he is up to. Now I cannot even snoop on uncle bcos I Love him.Lemme coman be going.

keke driver said...

Relationship is communication, if you don't communicate with him you'll never get to trust Him.

You don't have any business with the woman, it's your man you should "deal" with.... You need to move out ASAP tho, na see finish

The Lifted said...

snooping is not always a good idea! me I feel they r both just fooling around, & wen dey happen to be alone they will definitely gbensh bcos e dey their eyes...but on a more serious note even if they gbensh it won't mean anything ,its just going to be sex.except hes a serial cheat.so I suggest u act like nothing happened or ask him any one that will please u do it but don't make a big quarrel out of it. There r some people who just had great sex & can't get over it but move on.my opinion ooo..u see why its not good to snoop? lol. me I like to snoop, but if my bf/hubby doesn't like it I will just live as if he's phone doesn't exist .

Ibukunoluwa said...

Thank you👌

nnuku Sexy pant-like boxers. 08170506432 Order now said...

If you confront him he will still tell you lies my dear, save yourself d stress!
All men are cheats never ever vouch for any one of them!
A woman who thinks her man isn't cheating on her is living in a world of her own abeg.
Relationships are games Na who last enter the house Naim win. And d winning sef no mean say him no go still cheat if him put u for house. Me I wonder why women even put themselves up for all this unnecessary stress. If I am you and I see something like that, I go just lock up and begin get alternative Incase of rainy day.. Who have time to be doing question and answers session with a man I am so sure he will tell a lie to cover is tracks..

Jolly said...

Men are not to be trusted..let him know of what you saw in his phone ... tell him your mind! Do not break up with him or cause quarrel...let him be honest with you

Anonymous said...

Atheist ooooo! Hehehehehehe are u a lady or a guy?

Anonymous said...

Leave dat thn oga.dat doesn't stop a man 4rm cheatn.gud gal no dey work dis days abeg.

Ibukunoluwa said...

True about going to confront the other woman

xxxTrinityxxx said...

I dont think she ever said she was living eith the guy aunty mary

Miss Ess said...

You can't book an appointment with her with your man's phone because you would be busted. In the course of meeting up she would call and all the arrangements of seeing and all, then the guy would know you did it, and it would get more complicated than you thought. I would rather you tell him and watch his respnse. If apologises and becomes remorseful, all well and good, forgive and give him a second chance, but if he throws up a defence and gets angry then you need to think twice about the marriage thing.

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

Please do not confront the lady or your guy yet. Find a way to forward their messages (the bitch and your guy) to your phone for evidence, go to social media pages and get her fiancés contact. you get the drift?
Or better still, snatch her fiancé if he's rich and dash her your guy they deserve each other

Oh Lamee said...

I repeat....most...if not all men cheat...sis...even if u confront him...believe me...he ll cook up a convincing story 4 u...so jez make up ur mind 2 opt out or go all da way wiv him...

Scarlet Gruber said...

Stellaaaaa, this your advice is not the best o, hmmm, na yam pepper scatter scatter be that when the guy finds out she did that. its always better not to snoop jawe.

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Why didn't you comment when you have nothing reasonable to say

Hadey Halaba said...

After going thru so many comments, finally read one which made sense.

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Read later like say you get work

Anonymous said...

Poster take this anon. Advice and forget about confronting him but doing the right thing by getting back ur respect by respecting ur body and that means not sleeping over as often as u do now but q rare thing, that way he gets to miss you and gets to give u the respect u deserve.

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Ukwu go learn how to spell your name this child

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

I'm sure low self-esteem is raised to power zero
You need prayers to revive that
Mkpiri

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Ogo the name given to househelps

Mhzzbee int'l said...

Do not confront the other lady just find a way to make him know about it and stop vouching on top man matter abeg.

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Why e no go hard you with your name that sounds like itiboribo

Hadey Halaba said...

OKAFOR's law at work here.
Most times, "We" (men) (and some women) can't completely erase the thoughts of dat "1" person who had become an EX.

It takes determination and commitment to the new relationship to break off from that stronghold especially if sex was always involved.

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

You are such a mature man nwoke oma

Hadey Halaba said...

Same goes for women.
All are not to be trusted

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

See what men have reduced you ladies
Its high time you lots start rubbing kukere in men's dick to paralyse them

Anonymous said...

Poster DON'T do what Stella said..... About sending her a message with his phone. You are playing Russian roulette with your relationship. Am a happily married man of almost 2 decades and I know how men can be difficult if you bruise their ego. From what you just said it means they have not hooked up or intimate since he started dating you. And am a team snoop o ...Cause I feel people need to know and if a partner has something to hide on his/her phone then the entire relationship is a disaster waiting to happen cause the truth will come out someday. My advice is don't tell him you have snooped but bring up a topic as per EX when the two of you are in a good mood so he will just think you are trying to make a conversation. Then innocently ask if he can have a parting sex with an Ex. Like a last time goodbye thing. If he says what do you mean? You say you read or came across a story where the guy was heading for the altar and decided to have parting sex with an Ex that they parted ways not knowing that it was a trap by the girl to take in for him. And the Ex used jazz and some diabolical means to trap the guy. It will set him thinking. Whatever he says will help you to know how you handle things. This might jolt him to reality. You need to have access to his phone by making him believe you don't snoop. Women are our guardian angels especially our wives and mothers but most times they let little jealousy and hot temper take the best of them. Trust me he will personally start avoiding the Ex. The best form of attack is defence....shield your man and not attack the babes. How many will you fight off. But if you are patient enough and trust me I know you are a wise woman and he is good man like you said then things work in your way.

Atheist ™ said...

Yeah, she shld munch and save that chat, show it to the girl and tel her to keep a lion caged distance or her man will read it.

Pure Nigerian said...

If I were to be in team snoop, I'd not only be prepared to see anthing but also have laid out reactions to every scenario. I cannot advocate for either team - snoop or not - but please do not meet up with the lady as Stella has advised. If you have to confront anyone, confront your man.

CHI EXOTIC said...

*shouting at the top of my voice *
Atheist, Atheist.

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Don't you know most ladies are cheap and disgusting nowadays
No wonder men prefer to turn them to useless baby mamas

Anonymous said...

That's why you keep meeting those that break your heart. Gwegz

Anonymous said...

I just love ur comment. You said nothing but d truth

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Such a sensible child
May your people celebrate you nwa oma

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Would have pecked you if not for your aethesim

CHI EXOTIC said...

Almost all men cheat
They won't hear

Poster, let him know you saw it all
How do you bottle up something like that because you want peace to reign?
Why are y'all scared of your bfs? Smh
Give him fire for fire.

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

He is such a useless fool and am sure you are the one feeding him ngwere ohia like you

Atheist ™ said...

New BV, i'm a guy with testosterone, healthy libido, & moral compass pointing North.

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Trinity stop crying like a hopeless chicken
You are pretty and not worthless
A good man can still locate you

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Do you mind the foolish animals with swollen scratchy loosed forsaken vaginas

Anonymous said...

Stella this your advice no make sense rara

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Good child
It shall be well with you

Anonymous said...

Lol 😄😄😄

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Who did you this you
May it never be well with the person

Eminado Onimisi said...

Stella the man will still find out because his friend will tell him what poster did. Besides is she holding the man? Poster confront your man, if you can't deal afterwards, move on.

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

I'm sure the ugly man is even a church rat living in face me I slap you 10 people to one toilet apartment ezi ohia

Atheist ™ said...

Which one is not for now?? Till he makes millions of dollars filled in one Ikoyi apt??

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Good woman
I like you

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

I know you have nothing to say even if Stella didn't utter a word onye isi nkuka

Anonymous said...

Sharrap

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Good girl

Anonymous said...

Dundee like you. How does Stella's advice make sense?

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

Stop covering fufu with weat
You all low self-esteem women turned men to what they are today

Fake queen and boss of Sdk Based on logistics said...

One will think that the coconut shape of your head is only for decoration without knowing the content is actually made of real coconut

Anonymous said...

So Stella u think her meeting the lady behind him won't put strain on the relationship??? If u ask me I'll say confront him, and if it puts strain on your relationship....that's not your man!!!! Things like this will come up when u eventually get married,and it's your ability to settle it and go back to normal that would make u know you guys are suppose to be together.

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Keisha said...

I'd always be team snoop.. I can't just help snooping.. it has helped save a lot of stress..@poster..communication is key, speak up and quit bottling stuff up..uve come this far together.. And he already gave u a clue.. Okafor's law is in play.. I am sure he's gonna be remorseful and he sure will apologise.. Good luck!!!

Madam B said...

Chai. My sister don't confront him, just arrange for a meetinh with girl and tell her you saw the messages she exchanged with your fiance, tell her to stop if she don't want her own engagement to also break simple.

SUNSHINE said...

Snooping is ONLY for those who can put their control their emotions or unemotional people, not for fretting beings.
Don't do it if you know your heart would skip beats at the sight of the person involved.

Anonymous said...

I don't see myself confronting any woman because of my husband o! Pride no go gree me! If I can't tame him my way, so help me God.

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

ALL MEN CHEAT ONLY A STUPID WOMAN WILL LEAVE IN DENIAL. Men love to flirt, it trips them, me sef wey be woman like small attention from a new toaster hehehehehe, no mind me jare, how can you vouch for a man? You will vouch for a man and end up running mad one day. Dry you tears and move on jare. i have a feeling he is a good man, which sane Nigerian man will let you come 100m close to his phone? You have a good man who loves you but still wanna eat some cookie outside, its not his fault ooh thats how he is wired and yes he loves you and would wanna spend the rest of his life with you, but that doesnt gaurantee he wont lash anoda otele outside. The girl just has a bomb pussy he cant forget in a hurry. Tho you gatta tell him he broke ya heart, talk to him and dont forget to cash in on the opportunity. Dont let him twist the whole thing around by making you feel what you did is wrong, trust me he will try but dont let him succeed. keep telling him he cheated in the heat of the argument,hold your stand and he will come back to his senses. He cheated so his sorry ass should be the one to apologize with a very expensive gifts and plenty shopping, isssh i love shoes alot if i were you i will acquire seven pairs of zara woman shoes from him but oooooops i aint you. Dont forgive him easily tho that one sef no go make am no cheat again,but it will put him in his lane for a while. This aint a chronicle sef,
Hehehehheheehehhe i enjoy seeing people wey i advice and dem no gree hear come back running with tears in their eyes.
Be like steffy and your heart will never ever break for a cheating nigga.
Sorry ehn you will heal.













*hangs leg on the wall*

IJAY said...

Poster you don't need to vouch for him not cheating, but seems you have Snoop don't be too sad, just try and confront him

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

Nne i tire oooh, how can a sane lady vouch for a man? I cant even vouch for mysef sef how much more another man with a penis in between his legs? If hear.







*hangs leg on the wall*

Anonymous said...

i have been married 5 years now.in my marriage I have all d password to every. till one night I saw a chat of a gal really asking to be 2nd wife though he stood his ground but was still flirting.I don't know how to keep things.I believe so much in communication. he apologized cos I can vouch for him.my advice one thing marriage get married to someone u see as a friend. some one who can always speak how u both feel maturedly.don't follow Stella cos gal will tell him.never feel ur life is tied to a man
talk to him,and he should block all access to f gal if he does not then he is in love wit her and not u
let go. if he feels remorse and apologize
no perfect person.continue, make sure u see signs of letting the gal go

Ayoola said...

Gbam

Ayoola said...

Gbam

Chameleon said...

Babe u get patience o. Assuming i was the one that saw such message I will wake him up immediately infact as e dey hot. I will ask him to explain what I just saw on his phone since I'm not understanding. Who says it's wrong to snoop...Thai!! Wrong!! How!! Is he not snooping on my cunt too by having me give it to him whenever he wants. See, Confront him today today or if you are afraid of confrontations just pick his phone again and forward all the sexting messages to your phone. Next, go and photocopy the messages in a business centre and drop a copy in his house where u are sure he will see it asap. Drop a personal message next to the photocopied material asking him in one sentence "WHAT HAVE I DONE TO DESERVE THIS?".
N:B be sure he doesn't meet you in the house. Let's wait and see if he'll call to explain things or tender his apology. If he apologise you will have to forgive him cos nobody is above temptation

don't bother thanking me. Wa wa alright last last

BLESSED ONE said...

God bless you. In fact, if he is not comfortable with me going through his phone while he is there, we definitely have a problem. So, if he is a cheater, he better clean up his act well because I will snoop with boldness.

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

Hahahahahahh i hope your shock absorber is sound? You will be surprised who he is gbenshjng. Just dont pass out when you find out please, i love you alot and wont stand reading how you passed out.






*hangs leg on the wall*

Fuck you said...

Judgina nwankwo...she never said she was leaving with d man..and wetin concern u if dey re having sex..adult telling another adult how to live their life

Fuck you said...

U better not go n confront any woman but ur man..and u have every right to keep him on check and snoop very well before he distribute hiv to u like recharge card...and u better stop vouching for any man..

Anonymous said...

Sorry Stella, but that's a silly advice !

Lets assume she sends the text and she replies ok, won't they communicate before the meet up?she will obviously send a text again to give/get updates nah ( i.e cant wait to see you,i'm there already, where are u?), so will now happen ? or will Miss snoop keep his phone with her forever?

OP, my advice is tell him what u saw and u both should communicate , this will either break or make u guys and for the better, cos if its not meant to be , then a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.

Anonymous said...

All these ladies crying 'my boyfriend is not faithful to me' 'He is cheating on me' is for what?. Who are you? Are you his wife? So because you allow a man have access to your body anyhow, sleeps with you anytime he feels like claiming 'I love you', you feel you now owns him? How? When he has not paid your bride price. Nne you are simply his sin partner for now. Sharing sex, lust and what you have. He can even call off the so called friendship any time he has his fill and you won't take him to court cos he owes you nothing. He will simply tell to move on. Move out from his house, keep yourself and watch your chronicle turn to testimony.

oguike akudo said...

Follow what Stella said and reduce the rate at which you make your self available for him. Ask the girl what's up? Don't fight just ask her like you are done with the stupid man.

Daenerys_targaryen said...

😂😂😂😂this comment is too funny

Anonymous said...

Seems most ladies worship their men. This lady and wura of yesterday obviously have low self esteem and jobless or broke as the case may be. I see you both so dependent on ur boyfriends( na bf them be as long as u nva marry ) cos I see no reason you will be so afraid to talk to your men, in fact am so irritated with these write ups. You get treated by men the way you want to. Build up yourselves and find better things to do with your lives.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

*their...

Anonymous said...

You're a pathetic fool! So women don't cheat? Can't you advise without being gender biased? Simple...talk it over with you man and find a solution NOT focusing on the probability of cheating based on gender

Anonymous said...

Somebody please shoot me!
What kind of stupid advice is this? She should not confront her man, but she should confront the woman.

It's people like you that make it look like men a trophy.

I reject people like you in Jesus name!

Tufiakwa!

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Anonymous said...

She knows he hooked up again out of the blues abi as per witch? She's snooped, own it up & beg for his forgiveness before tabling her own issues.

Tphany Gracia said...

Reno said it all yesterday.... Ur guy has d right to cheat since he's not yet married to u

Anonymous said...

Your truthfulness is encouraging...no need warning anyone associating with you coz you're unpredictable. Even if she spoils the side chicks relationship and that of her parents, will it save or recup hers?

CrazyHornyWife said...

Don't dull poster,communication is key! You already snooped so talk to him about it and don't let it pile up in your heart before marriage.
Yell if you like,talk calm if you like,just make sure you let him know what you saw and give him room to explain!!!!

Pffft said...

Hmmmm.

Stories like this bend my bladder.

How many girls do you want to 'invite for discussion? '

This is how you will discuss your way to HBP as a 'panelist' that you are.

My dear, you have no business discussing with anyone except the person you intend to share your vows with.

I've honestly never heard of any man who 'cheated' (pardon me Reno) before he got married and became a saint after saying 'I do.'

Let me share this advice a beautiful lady of blessed memory gifted me. 'Babe, anything you can't bear before you get married, just know it won't change when you get married.'

May The Force be with you. 😇

Obianuju said...

Tell them oh! Don't vouch for anyone if it's not the baby in your womb. why do you snoop when you know you will be helpless afterwards? Infact eh, since you don't know what to do, pretend nothing happened and keep living your life better.

Awofisayo Mojisola said...

I stand with u dear, wen God is leading u tru u give it all to him,seeing dat from ur bf fone u have to let him know what u saw n read to have a smoother relationship n free mind toward him and urself.....pls apply more wtsdom biko

Anonymous said...

Babe you no way marry? Shou... You no way wear ring and wedding gowns? You no wan Bella naija weddings? Abeg which man no dey cheat? Which one? All of them. Dooooooooogs on heat. Open small chest you go see them dey breathe like dey get asthma. Mtsheew
Na so una go dey swear say your man na Saint. Other people dey outside dey laugh you. Abeg make nyash dey face back jare.

If you see some coded guys ehn. Haaaaha...... . My dear the dog in your hand is better than the dog in the Bush.
Just make sure you buy plenty dog food... For yourself. Kpele.

Awofisayo Mojisola said...

I stand with you anonymous, I dunno y ladies freaked out on a guy for u to protect ur relationship, u confront him politely... Let him know u, pour ur mind, make urself free n have a smother relationship.... Wen things like dis happen God want u not to make mistakes....pls apply wisdom

Adanne said...

But if she wasn't sleeping over she won't be bored not to talk of going through his phone.
Someone has to be a jojina, no human nature be that.
Bottom line, get busy, confront the guy if you have to(you are not married yet), save the chat if you have to also...above all respect your body.

Adanne said...

I don't understand the fear oo.
When bobo hasn't taken you to the alter. Abeg ladies stand up for yourselves when you need to and stop this yeye fear

Adanne said...

Make I no hear say you went to confront the lady, shuuuu, when your man dey there. CONFRONT your man and get it over with.

Adanne said...

Not all men cheat nnem...by the way when did you come to the conclusion about 'all men cheat'

Anonymous said...

You CANNOT VOUCH FOR ANY MAN!

Candid ! said...

Vouch for a man! In 2017? I can't even vouch for myself.

Mao Akuh said...

Get that chic's number first. Talk to your guy, tell him that you've given him sometimes to finish whatever he has with his "EX" because of "morrow." No be gara-gara o and always pray for him.

Anonymous said...

Uve said it all dear God bless u only in my case I am already married hw do i run

Anonymous said...

Correct girl

amanda favour said...

Hian!!!!!

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

Pls make sure your boo is not the fiancé o

Anonymous said...

Bad advice Stella

Fan Emmanuel said...

Hahaha.. Who is this fake queen and boss? Afugom ife!

Fan Emmanuel said...

Hahahaha
Decoders come and figure out this imposter

Anonymous said...

You know this your constant reiteration of "I'm sure" it's actually an indication that you don't know shit! Epitome of inferiority complex

Fan Emmanuel said...

Nna mehn you are simply the best. Your advice is top notch!! This is the same thing I want to tell her.
Poster don't even let him know that you snooped. You know why? Because he will device another means. Try to make him understand that you have feelings or you dreamt he's doing something that will affect your relationship negatively. Keep discomforting him with that until he quits.
You need to know what's up with your man, so don't even let him device a means of hiding stuffs from you. Cos men will always misbehave at some point so make sure he's always care free about it so that you will know how to put things in place.
My husband doesn't believe I snoops on him but thinks I'm a witch. Better for me!

Anonymous said...

They fucked once, he was making her to feel good. Don't fight him, just tell him that the conversation made him look irresponsible.

Anonymous said...

Who is that woman that says she can vouch for her man? Nigerian man for that matter? LMAO . You must be 50 shades of stupid. Poster. First thing tomorrow go and check for HIV /AIDS/STDS etc. Una no know when you marry community penis.

Anonymous said...

For those of you that are saying that they have their spouses password, iam sorry for you. the phone that you have the password is not the cheating phone, check his car very well and you would see the answer to your question. Thank me later

Anonymous said...

#word
Get out of that house and treat yourself with some respect
Stop sleeping with a man not married to if you don't wanna deal with stuff like this

ukwu dimond said...

Please come and teach me how to spell my name at fake queen and boss of sdk.

ukwu dimond said...

Why don't you allow people to express how they feel? Comment and allow others to also comment.

ukwu dimond said...

Is waste of my precious time responding to you both, I have said my own, come and beat me @ Fake and anonymous 16:47.

Anonymous said...

Yet the rate of divorce in the North is the highest in the country

Ifeoma1010 said...

Madam....youtwo viable options to deal with this.

(1) Bring this up with your man. Be calm but firm. Tell him to chose if he wants you or the oda lady. If he is not steady with you and he gives you flimsy answers, drop the guy fast. Move on.

(2) set up the babe and get it to her head why she needs to leave sexing your man or hell's wrath will drop on her head. But option 1 above is the best of these two options.

Are you suffering from severe menstrual pain? Learn how to gain control over menstrual pain here

Come to think of it, dear poster, its not really a bad idea O to give the babe sexing your man some seriouuusss menstrual paiiinnn!!!

Sarah Aluya said...

Be careful I think you have to give him a heart to heart talk,just talk and see if u will stay or runs away

Omolewa said...

Please don't follow Stella's advice

Omolewa said...

Please don't follow Stella's advice. It's terr

Patterson Erica said...

Thumbs-up 4 ya @ Atheist.... Correct!!!

Patterson Erica said...

Kikikiki....funny comment @ P. Daughter

Weed Chic said...

Since they didn't do anything, pretend you didn't see anything and use that snoop strategy to be monitoring his moves.

Anonymous said...

I somersault and clap for you...it doesn't get any more real than the way you put it

Absofuckinsweet said...

Oh boy see original comment, over mature they worry u I swear. Nnem this is the advice you need. Stella this is not obodo oyibo this is naija where there is no diplomacy.

Absofuckinsweet said...

Another sweet comment, Stella's disciples clap for yourselves. Nnem file this advice for reference tommorow, adighi ama ama

Absofuckinsweet said...

Anonymous 16.07 you just got a new client.

Anonymous said...

Poster i'd suggest you play a mind game on him..Tell him you dreamt of it or better still,a man of God whom you go to for counselling told you to confront him about it. Just make it very convincing.

Anonymous said...

I don't understand why you ladies don't believe there are men who don't cheat. So who do they cheat with? So it also means all ladies cheat. Any faithful guy will start cheating once he goes through this blog cause that's all the ladies preach. Think they enjoy having cheating boyfriends and husbands ...they seem to like the bad boy side. It's all you girls here that will chase and stalk good men whether married or single. It's hard staying faithful... Am a married man and I know how hard it is when a young girl keeps throwing herself at you. Girls these days are cheap and guys are fake. That's why they all live a lie. I know there are still faithful men and good girls out there. Seek and ye shall find....but to keep is the problem.

Fidelis said...

May be you didn't get the message well. They did slept with each other and wished they meet again.

Fidelis said...

"Why his he still seeing and sleeping with another woman when he has you?"

Really Doppelganger? As if they are already married!

Chyluv! said...

Poster follow this

Chyluv! said...

Fan fan its JAMES

Anonymous said...

I am tired of hearing all men cheat! Who do they cheat with? Ghosts? Spare me guys. Both men and women cheat period! There are still good men and women out there still.
Have some sense.

Anonymous said...

See how you're ranting like a rabied dog, na your type go snoop finish, relocate to 1 corner and cry for a week. This social media thing can cover people's inferiority complex...continue your social media gladiator display

Cassandra Carter said...

I am team snoop all the way abeg. Confront him. If he acts up, you have your answer.
Stella i lovr you, but i don't stand with you on this snoop issue.

Cassandra Carter said...

So if a man is not faithful to mr, i should arrange with d girl to beg her to leave him? See desperation!

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