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CONFUSED SERIAL LOVER


Dear Stella. Thanks for this medium but straight to it. Please hide my email ....

I am a guy in my 30's. My fiance is a virgin (confirmed) whereas me on the other hand have been with a number of women . We dated for four years. We both agreed to be celibate through out (by celibacy we mean no penetration because we play very deeply, almost broke her hymen with my fingers on one occasion). 

 The problem is this; Any girl I sleep with I tend to lose all respect for. I involuntarily start treating her like trash and before u know it I start feeling choked and want to end the relationship. Sometimes I feel the only reason me and my girl have been together this long is because she hasn't given me the cookie. 


I wont lie I haven't been totally faithful to the celibacy arrangement for the four years we've been together but I really really love her. She soaked garri with me when I had nothing encouraged me when I was down and has always been there. She makes me happy in a way no other woman can. I want to make her feel like a queen but I'm scared if I have sex with her my feelings will change.


 It has happened to me times without number. I meet a girl, I think I'm head over heels but immediately she gives it up, my feelings turn around. Are there other guys who have this experience? I think I need some kind of therapy. But where can I find one in this Naija?. 

What do I do?
How can I find help?


103 comments:

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    1. Erm in other news, Where can i get small chops in Asaba? Just for personal consumption? Cravings*

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    2. Poster you need to work on your mindset. Something is messing up with it.

      Sex is supposed to create bond not the other way.

      The only help I know comes from God Almighty and you can only access it by giving your life to Him. From now, quit all form of fornication and sin. Submit yourself to God to take over your affairs.

      You will come out strong.

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  2. Stop acting like a GIGOLO

    Grow Up!!!

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    1. Stop insulting people.you this fraustrated idiotu smellos!!.
      Evil fall on you.

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    2. No be small grow up. You are not yet a man. Just a boy with a weiner.

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    3. Hmmm,,so the person saying grow up is this how matured people behave? Unlce God is the ultimate, if he part the sea den ur case is 2 small 4 him

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    1. Is this Mathew? The Yoruba demon? Working with SA..? butyou're now broke now. As short as you are. Whenever I see any girl coming to visit you I always feel sorry for them. What's my own sef

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  4. Poster healing fall on u

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    1. Poster healing from GOD shall fall on u.
      And pls Tell ur bae DAT u HV a king fuck demon in u xo DAT she will gv u DAT virgin pray and fasting DAT works like no other
      Tnks.

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  5. Oga go for deliverance before you go give head to spirit.

    Spirit of fucky fucky dey ya body

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    1. Chai loveme jeje u no go kill person with laughter.

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    2. Lmaooo πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      Da fuc is fucky fucky!

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  6. You are stupid and useless.

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  7. The "therapy" you need is "repentance' and godly sorrow for your sins.
    Only submitting to God can change you. Sin is a curse and you are in it.

    This why I always tell girls that many men are this way; giving the vagina will not make you loved at all. It breeds hatred instead.

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  8. Poster,your marine wife tie wrapper untop your head!...
    You think it's only women that has marine husbands?...
    Some men's own are worse!!...
    Go and settle her so she can leave you alone!...
    If you don't,you will still break up with your virgin girlfriend..even if you marry her,the marriage go scatter!...

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    1. What is this one saying

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    2. This is so true about marine husband and wife,my problem is just like his when ever I sleep with any man I feel disgusted by that person at times I feel like breaking d person head no matter how rich dat person is Na until I leave dat person my eye dey clear o. I am married now with kids but still feel the same with my hubby, I just avoid dat one like person we get leper. I need help too o

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    3. IT might be hard to believe but I agree with Linda. You have a terrible spirit wife and might never be happily married until you get rid of her.
      Give your life to Christ
      Read your bible
      Stop committing fornication or it will come back.
      Lastly get baptised in the Holy Spirit,so that you can nullify that marriage through the Holy Spirit.
      Separate totally from the world.

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    4. I agree with you on this one, like Mr B. L in gtb. Man has reached 48 never been married, don't follow plenty women and has plenty money

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  9. Fam!! Uve got deep rooted issues. Go for deliverance, ure not normal and stay the fuck alone if u can't wife up any girl. ASSHOLE
    ChikkyπŸ’ž

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  10. You are the therapy that you need,cast away such thought away from ur mind.you are no longer a baby nau,only baby boys does that,after having sex with a woman they lost interest,such goes with play boys or are you one? So if not be ur own therapy and talk to urself

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  11. Hope the sharers of pussies can see what happens in the hearts of men. You want to get married to the one you love, close legs. You save yourself a lot of pains by doing so.

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    1. Excuse me?? Close your legs so dt when u open it after marriage he starts treating u like trash, if I like a man, I fuck him early enough so I can know his stand, no need keeping cookie and wasting time, a man dt will stay will stay, imagine after 4 years what d man up thr is saying. I gave hubby d cookie the first night we spent together, we both loved it and decided to do it forever. The earlier Naija women stop hoarding sex, the earlier men ll stop seeing it as an achievement.

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    2. lol πŸ˜‚ anon 17:23 please tell her o feeling like miss proper

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    3. You have spoken well @Anonymous 17:23.
      I gave hubby the cookie on our first date, and decided we wanted to spend our life enjoying the cookie.

      I tell ladies to stop seeing sex as a big deal. It doesn't define a relationship. I enjoy the sex too, so why should I be worried that he has tasted something I enjoyed.

      Btw, my ex was keeping the cookie till marriage. It was very easy to dump him after 4 years cos I though he was boring, and besides no cookies involved. Who cookies epp

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    4. Isn't it proper to open it after marriage? Please do not try to justify fornication in whatever guise. Even when you gave your husband vagina, you know that it was wrong. If you were asked at that altar where you were exchanging vows if you had given him vagina, you would have told a big fat lie.

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    5. Fornication can never be justified.
      Do the right thing...
      That a lot of people are doing it doesn't mean it's the right thing.

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  12. A woman's worth is not in their vagina that's why you feel the way you do after sex with women.
    You think they are unworthy and not pure meanwhile you're just as guilty as they are fornicating all over the place.
    Work on your mind set because it you Continue to believe that only virgins are pure and worthy, the minute you sleep with your girl of 4years. Your affections for her would wither like your numerous flings and sexual partners.
    Honestly, she deserves someone better because you haven't been faithful and only with her because you haven't jabale e (open her house). No woman is measuring your worth based on the number of times your penis has penetrated a lady, so why should you value women based on that? Work on yourself or you'd continue to search for what isn't lost.

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    1. Ur brain ehnnn....keep it up

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    2. πŸ‘πŸ‘

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  13. Go and wash yourself 7times in river Jordan.
    It shall be well with you.

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  14. Poster look up Madonna-Whore
    Complex. You'll be needing therapy.

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  15. So girls give boys access to their vaginas to play with and still claim virgins because the terribly browsed hole is sealed by leather? How deceitful! How many men has she offered her hole to play with who "nearly pierced the hymen"?

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  16. That is not a virgin pussy anymore.
    Whereas a girl whose only sexual experience was a rape is a virgin, the one who has been stripping for men to play with her body is not. That's the reality.

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  17. Yes you need therapy but before you get help just know it begins with the Mind!!!

    You had a thought before you started treating "girls like trash after sex".

    You need a reorientation brother..First of all if you have the highest level of respect for bea now I don't see why it should change after marriage.

    You had no stake in the other chicks but now we are talking about the one, the one who will be the mother of your kids, the one you will enter the marital covenant with.

    Start by being faithful to her now, make her your only option and be ready to teach her everything you know sexually.You have a lot to do as a husband and father so better start manning up and put away childish talk/behavior.

    Marriage is not a game and if you don't find help soon biko don't wife her before you start abusing her emotionally.

    All the best bro.

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  18. Then u don't love your fiancee yet.

    Pls, don't go into marriage with his mindset coz u will just punish the poor girl

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  19. Just as Mrs Korkus said, you're confused. if you'll treat her like trash, let her go! you can't eat your cake & still have it!

    I pity ladies who have parted Jericho for a confused & unstable person like you. I hope you enjoy your marriage

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    1. where did Mrs korkus say that?

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  20. When you put all your mind into thinking that the only reason a girl was created was solely for the purpose of satisfying your sexual urges, that's what you will keep getting. Rearrange your mind set. A lady suppose to be your partner, buddy, teammate,etc, not a sex toy, when you establish that. You will have a long lasting relationship. Thank me later.

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  21. Hmmm Poster You are just like me..I am trying to get a name to it..It can be likened to a female praying mantis eating up the male mantis after intercourse..I have mad hatred for all the people I slept with as in I cant stand them..Just continue being celibate, try to be away from places or habits that may initiate sex..And Please dont just love a woman because you didnt have sex with her, let it be a conscious effort to love beyond your expectations..Love is a decision, not a feeling..

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    1. Love is more of a feeling than a decision, maybe just a decision to peeps like u, we're all not wired same just like the prints on our palm, if love was just a decision i doubt there'd be stories of heartbreaks... Given the stages of love, the 1st stage u xperience butterflies and sparks in ur tummy is packed with dopamine & others, but it drops to a minimal level, thats when u xperience the "see finish syndrome".. from this point u can consciously make efforts in loving ur partner genuinely or completely fall out... i believe its natures way of bonding us to a partner to promote life on earth b4 ur eyes clear, lol...

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  22. Don't have sex with her before marrying her. Simple!

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    1. And after marriage, then what?

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    2. Marriage is not everything, happiness is! So u want him to marry her, fuck her and start treating her like trash. It's better u leave her o, let her marry someone that is normal

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  23. Another adult baby, continue sleeping with all the women in the world nah.

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  24. Imagine a guy that soaks garri asking for where to do therapy.. Instead of you to hussle like a man, you carry pussy matter for head.. Nonsence 😯

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    1. he used to....

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    2. Am sure he is still soaking his garri broke ass guy looking for free advice if he had money he wouldn't have issues issues is for broke asses

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    3. It is important he seeks help. He needs therapy. Poster I commend you for recognizing you have a problem and trying to do something about it before it is too late. Don't give up, get help from a psychotherapist or counsellor. If you have a good pastor, go for prayers. The closer you are to God, the more you will experience freedom.

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  25. You don't just need therapy, you need spiritual deliverance. You have a "Spiritual Wife" that is making you physically repulsed by women. I'm sure you masturbate too? You need to deal with that too before getting married cos marriage is not child's play.

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    1. I was going to say that. Oga me I know u masturbate

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  26. come make i castrate you

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  27. i dey fear that word virgin these days .
    Cos nowadays virgin no be the same with olden days virgin. Dem don already do every

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    1. hahahaahaha

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    2. Hahahaha I dey tell you.

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    3. Lmao fam stopeeet

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  28. She is NOT a virgin.

    My friend, do you carry a microscope to see how close you are to the hymen? Abeg shotapuuu

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    1. Hahahahahahaha...lmao πŸ‘„

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  29. Okwu gi a amaka

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  30. Such lame shit dsnt happen to me dude, the bond tends to be elevated & stronger after coitus, i cnt say if ive been lucky enough to cross paths with bomb pussies, or ive developed the art of turning trash to treasure by one looong thrust, lol...
    Seriously now, if u ask me when im in a good mood id say the chemicals in ur brain & oxytocin level is all messed up, cus after a man ejaculates, these chemicals are realised & u feel ur konji drop to zero, at that point shes not so sexually atttacted to u even if shes givin u the best position or BJ, till after a while then it builds up again..... but in ur case, after that chemical is released, it dsnt build up anymore, so shes more like a sextoy that shld be discarded quickly, a dirty sexttoy u cnt wash n reuse oh.... so u need serious therapy time my friend. i hope that poor girl knows how ur mind works.

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    1. new found respect athest, i raise beyonce hand for u, ur intelligence no be here.

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    2. Kikikikikikiki...what are you feeling like atheist? Hmmmm, mwah 😘!

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  31. This is the answer to yesterday's chronicle.i hope we get a lot of response to this seeing that there are more women on this blog.personally I think a man that treats you like trash cos he had sex with you before marriage will still treat you like trash even after sex in marriage.such men see women as a sex tool.in my opinion marriage doesn't change a thing,its just a phase in life we all attain.people don't change after marriage,whatever character they exhibit in marriage have always been there.what matters most is a really good heart with honest intentions,that has made up his mind to be a good husband.i can't wrap my head around how sex will make a man not to wife or continue to love or value a woman.i think it has more to do with bad attitude or hygiene or the girl monetizing the whole thing as his deal breaker may be(everyone has one btw).except the man came to play games,which is why I think you should define the relationship or with hold sex till you're sure of the kind of person he is or what his intentions are(asin chop n clean mouth).i don't do sex in a relationship because I have a relationship with God not cause I want the man in question to wife me,its strictly cos I live by the word of God.

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  32. Thank God you can see the truth, you so not love her. You better release her now.

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  33. You're just mean. I can't help you.

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  34. At poster, you go dey alright. This might be a psychological problem and should work on yourself btw you are something else cos how will you see a lady you have sex with as a whore? Your girlfriend may soon turn to a whore after marriage.

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  35. Is this one a problem?
    Just marry her already & have a happy life,except a course have been placed on your head then you might not want her anymore even after marrying her as a virgin.
    You have to curb your philandering business.
    If you are so scared of the future pray about it,get counselling from a trusted man of God.

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  36. I bind and cast you this spirit of bachelorhood in this man. Come and out now and be gone forever. Brethren it is well, it is over. If you believe, say a resounding Γ€men!

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    1. Come out and enter where? Let it remain with him biko. There are already more spirits roaming this earth than human beings. Abeg abeg make we see road.

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  37. You are not alone in this. It happens to many men including me.

    However, it is a sign you have not seen your wife.

    It simply means you can't stand their bad moments or go far with them especially in their messy conditions.

    The moment you see your wife, even if you have sex 100 times, you will still love her. She might be the only one that you will have such feeling for among ladies, it is a clear indicator that she is your wife.

    This was my experience.

    Another sign is ' you will always find it easy to forgive her if you have any disagreement' unlike other ladies that you can do away with easily without having a blink of eyelid.

    It simply means you have a soft spot for her.

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    1. You are being self deceitful here. So you keep having sex with uncountable women before you see your wife?
      And "your wife" too will keep having sex with countless men until she sees you; how about that?
      And your sister or daughter (if you have one), should open her thighs to a thousand men who will dump her afterwards before she finds "her husband?"
      As I am typing this, your wife is probably opening her thighs to a "python" since she is looking for you; sure?
      Why not simply tell yourself the truth; "I can't help myself . . .Lord help me, forgive me . . .!" And see how he brings help.

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  38. 1. You are not celibate.
    2. Your perception of sex is wrong. You are not mentally prepared for it.
    3. Leave that girl alone. She deserves someone who will honour her as a woman.

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  39. You go fear celibacy.

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  40. Wait till marriage to take d cookie den.

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  41. If you truly love her stick to her.. You wont stop loving her after making love to her. I am in your situation and it is like till marriage. Infact she controls my actions alot of times.

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  42. Nawa o, u need to stop seeing sex as a big deal, am sure that ll help you.

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  43. You need to break the yoke of lust, also, go for deliverance.
    If you truly you love your girl as you claimed, you will not be cheating on her, you will stay celibate until you make a better of her.

    You can't claim to love someone and at the same time be hurting that same person. What if you contract any STD during one of your sinful activities? You will now go and infect the girl you claimed to love!

    Since you both wanted to be celibate, be celibate 100%, not indulging in oral sex and be claiming celibacy.

    Go for deliverance, you've got to fight some spiritual battles. J

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  44. Maybe if you keep yourself and reconcile with God. That evil spirit you have acquired would flee from you.

    Maybe one of those girls have used your sperm for something else. Hence you are suffering the effect. This way you might not even stay with a woman to have kids.

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  45. well, my advise to u is to marry your GF and never have sex with her. Let her become a married virgin in your home so as to retain the respect you have for her. Oga, do u know what your problem is? guilt... The fact that u cheat on your GF and fornicate as well, makes u develop a feeling of disgust and guilt (which should ordinarily be directed at yourself). you loathe yourself for cheating and then instead of taking the blame, you transfer it to your sexual partners. You are cheap, man. Repent for the Kingdom of God is at hand. There is something inside of you each time you fornicate telling you that the act is wrong....

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  46. well, my advise to u is to marry your GF and never have sex with her. Let her become a married virgin in your home so as to retain the respect you have for her. Oga, do u know what your problem is? guilt... The fact that u cheat on your GF and fornicate as well, makes u develop a feeling of disgust and guilt (which should ordinarily be directed at yourself). you loathe yourself for cheating and then instead of taking the blame, you transfer it to your sexual partners. You are cheap, man. Repent for the Kingdom of God is at hand. There is something inside of you each time you fornicate telling you that the act is wrong....

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  47. Don't worry, you are yet to meet your match.

    There is a women out there who will arrest you - body, spirit, and soul, after ghenshin.

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    1. Rotflmao! Yeh! Una nor go kee person πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  48. Oga there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. When God made us He did not intend for us to have sex before marriage, so in our subconscious (if your conscience is not dead), you will feel guilty when you engage in premarital sex. It is perfectly normal for you to lose respect for ladies you sleep with, know this for sure; you are not the only one who feels this way. Sex cheapens a relationship. It is even in the Bible that when a man sleeps with a woman (not his wife) he has humbled her.
    I will advise you to please not have sex with your girl; if you truly love her. Let the sexual urge ginger your marriage plans.
    Lastly, please stop engaging in foreplay. People think no penetration still means they are virgins but foreplay before marriage defiles you and make you impure.
    Please ask God for the grace to keep to your promise of celibacy because anyone who can commit fornication will commit adultery.

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  49. It's all up in your head...... The only therapy you need is cleansing your mind and growing up......

    Hope you've told your 'finance' this issue you have so as not to enter marriage with it!!!

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  50. I agree to what someone say about not meet in your wife yet.
    I also think you haven't fallen in love yet. Reasons? I dunno. Spiritual, psychological or even physical
    First, WHY are you in a relationship with the girl? Because she's a virgin, because she's beautiful, because she's been with you through thick and thin, she's a good friend or because you genuinely have feelings for her? If you genuinely love her you wont ask such questions. I think the questions are an indication of something your heart is missing.
    Now, This is what I think you should do: TAKE A BREAK FROM WOMEN INCLUDING YOUR BABE. I heard somewhere (a sermon) that if you can't marry yourself then you shouldn't be marrying anyone else. By marrying yourself i mean being able to recommend the female version of yourself as a wife to your current male self (and vice versa). If you heard of a girl who loses interest once she has sex with a guy, would you wife her before finding out if she will change? No.
    So, do some soul searching. Because the worst thing that can happen is you marrying that girl and then start treating her like trash, once you pop the cookie. I promise you that it will be disaster for you both. If you don't love her let her go and stay SINGLE and CELIBATE until you actually truly genuinely fall in love. As for the garri drinking compensation, you can always be there for her as a friend even financially. Thankfully, you haven't popped her cherry so she can still pretend to be a primary virgin to the next guy.
    However, if after your soul-search you realise you truly love her then go ahead. Now, how are you gonna ask her for that break? Hehehe. Don't ask me oh πŸ‘ Did i tell you to be sticking your jomo inside different pots? #oshisco

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  51. Just don't touch her till you marry her and change your mindset

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  52. You not ready to settle down at all.
    When you ready, i mean really ready your prick will reset back to factory default and behave.
    The love you having for her is not real but punani motivated.
    When the real love comes in and you fully ready then those your super ted thought will varnish.
    Aides that guy you dont no love her abeg!!

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  53. Poster you both have dated for four years and you still cannot wife her, what are you both waiting for? Why don't you wife her and break the cookie jar? If you wife her and break the cookie jar you will not feel bad anymore. Your girl really try, why will she keep on being faithful to a guy like you that is not ready to wife her, four years of playing ludo with your fingers on her something. Excuse me please.

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  54. Poster....you really need to change your mindset. See the problem you have is your mindset that any girl that allow you have her without a marriage commitment is useless, therefore after they give you sex you start to see them as very cheap
    Believe me this happens with some ladies too. When they meet men, they are head over heels in love with them but immediately after giving in to sex, they just begin to detest everything about that person. They begin to see silly mistakes from the person. The only way to change this is easier in a marriage situation, you have to consciously make efforts to tell yourself that you love this person and say it to the person. Have good communication with your girl, plan outing that will help you feel relax around her.
    As time goes on you will see an improvement in the way you relate with people you've had sexual encounters with especially with your girlfriend after you marry her...........
    Stay happy dear, this is not peculiar to you alone......work on your mindset

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  55. Okay, my male version tide. Difference is, I noticed it with my second bf, so, I stopped having sex. Until marriage.

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